The Mindset Mentor - Let Go of the Pain

Episode Date: April 11, 2018

Episode 413 -  We humans, for some reason, love to hold on to what holds us back. We love to hold on to the misery that should stay in the past. In this episode, I teach how to overcome the pain of what has happened in the past. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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as soon as it opens back up. But if you're interested in joining, or excuse me, if you're interested in getting onto the wait list to learn more about it, send me an email, rob at mwfmotivation.com. Okay. Today, what I'm going to be talking about is to stop holding on to the things that hold you back, your pain, your past, the things that you have been through. Lots of people like to view them as their badge of honor. I've been through some crap in my life. That's my badge of honor. That's how people like to think of it, right? You carry that with you, the things that have happened to you,

the things that you've overcome, all of those things. And I had a video on Facebook. The reason why I had to say this was because I had a video go face... Oh, goodness. If I could speak, I had to say this was because I had a video go face. Oh, goodness. If I could speak, it might be a lot easier. I had a video go viral on Facebook. Right. And one of the interesting things is when a video goes viral, you get to see all sides of the human condition. And I mean, all sides, people that are like, yes, I love your stuff. People are just like you effing suck. You POS like all of these things. Right. And I'll have to make a whole other video on haters or a whole other podcast episode on haters, which will be great because I got to tell you guys just how, how I'm able to view that and not let it hold me back. But I had a video that went viral the other

day. It got like five, 600,000 views, something like that on Facebook. And the video was called be happy for no reason. And the, the idea of the video was just like, Hey, you wake up, not you specifically, but people wake up and they're not happy, right? Why not wake up and just be happy? People wake up and they're sad and they're depressed and they're pissed off and all of these things. And this wasn't, when I say depressed, I don't mean clinically depressed. I just mean like they have negative thoughts that hold themselves back and they're not where they want to be in all of these things. Clinical depression was never mentioned once, right? And so I put up be happy for no reason and it got an amazing response and got more views and more shares than any other

video that I've ever done. But in that, that being said, that means more people saw it. And so some people, it literally just said be happy for no reason. Some people were so pissed off because I talked about being happy. And what they said was stuff like this, like, but yeah, it's easy for, and I heard this on a lot of them. It's easy for a white guy to, to do that, but you don't know the pain I've dealt with. And this was actually another white person saying this to me. I don't know, understand why, why when I say be happy, color has to be brought into it. Like you could be happy no matter what color you are. There's people all over the world that are different colors that are happy, but they said, you don't know what I have to deal with. You haven't gone through what I have to go through. It's easy for, for you to say that you don't know me. You don't know how tough my life

has been. If you went through the things that I went through and I'm currently going through, you would be crying like a little B I T. You know what? Like I'm, if the kids just get into the car, I'm not gonna spill the rest of it. You know what they said that I would be crying like that. Right. And it was interesting for me to look at because it's crazy to see how people hold on to things that hold them back. Right? Whatever happened to you, whatever has happened to you, whatever currently is happening to you, that is not you. That is just something that has happened to you, right? And you are in charge of the emotion that you attach to it, the feeling that you attach to it, the thoughts that you attach to it, the importance that you

attach to it. That event in your past is not you. It just happened to you, right? For people to look at me on the screen and they're like, oh, this guy, he's gone through nothing. But you know, like they don't know the fact that I grew up with an alcoholic father that ended up dying when I was 15 years old because of it. They don't know the things. And I don't, I don't like to hold that as my badge of honor. Like, oh, I have, I overcame all of this stuff, having an alcoholic father and all of these things, and you don't know what I've been through, right? It's just something that happened to me. It's the cards that I was dealt. You may have been dealt better cards.

You may have been dealt worse cards. It doesn't matter what cards you're dealt. It matters how you deal with them, right? If it started raining outside on me as I went outside, that's something that happened to me, but I'm not the rain. I am not that rain cloud. That is just something that's happened to me, right? And that's exactly how it is with an event that happens to you. If it rains on me, I'm not the rain. I'm not the clouds. If you had a terrible past, you are not your past. not the rain. I'm not the clouds. If you had a terrible past, you are not your past. It is just something that happened to you. You have to think of it that way. So to continue to hold on to your pain and to your past is allowing something that means absolutely nothing. Let me say that again. Absolutely nothing to keep you back from what you want in life. Your past does not mean anything,

no matter how good it was, how okay it was, how bad it was. It doesn't matter. Literally your past means absolutely nothing in this present moment to, to continue to, to walk around with this bag that weighs a million pounds on your back and to carry it for no reason makes no sense. Your past means nothing. It means absolutely nothing. And I know that some of you guys are listening to me and this is, this is legitimately, I understand pissing some people off because they're like, no, but I've, but I, because of the fact that you had to, you, you're proud of yourself for pushing through. I understand that you're proud of yourself for getting through the things that have happened to

you, but you don't have to wear it as a badge of honor. You don't have to be there and be like, this is me though. Your past has nothing to do with your current self. Your past is just your past. Well, you might be saying, well, I don't know about that because I am the way that I am because of my past. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. You are not the way that you are because of your past. You are the way that you are because of the way that you choose to look at your past. Let me say that again. You are not the way that you are because of your past. You are the way that you are because of the way you choose to look at your past, the emotion that you attach to it, the feeling that you attach to it, the feeling that

you attach to it, the thoughts that you attach to it. Your past has nothing to do with your present. If you have habits that you don't like, change them. Stop making excuses because they mean absolutely nothing, nothing at all. Your past has nothing to do with your present at all, nothing at all. And if you feel like you're not happy with your present, it might be because of the emotion or the importance or the thoughts or the feelings that you're attaching to your past. And so you have to think of it that way. If something happened to you in your past, don't hold onto it. If it's holding you back, stop holding onto it. Don't say, oh yeah, but I had to go through this, but I hold onto it. If it's holding you back, stop holding onto it. Don't say,

oh yeah, but I had to go through this, but I went through this. You don't understand the life that I've been through. You don't know me. You don't know how crazy my life has been. Your past means nothing. Take a deep breath. Let it out. That breath, it's in your past now. Yep. Are you going to attach the importance of your life to that breath that you just took? No. Why not? Because it's just something that happened in the past. So therefore your present should mean nothing compared. Let me reverse the way that I said that because I almost said that completely wrong. Your past should mean absolutely nothing in your present. Remember that you are in charge of the future that you create. And the future that you create can only be changed in this present moment. If you continue to hold on to the past and let that hold you back,

it will affect your future. The only way that the past will affect your future is if you allow it to. If you had a terrible childhood, if you were beaten as a kid, if you were emotionally abused, any of those things, it's hard. I get it, but it doesn't have to hold you back. There's been people in the world that have gone through the same stuff you've gone through and they've made happy, successful lives out of it. There's no reason why you can't do the same. So if you liked this episode, please do me a favor,

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