The Mindset Mentor - Life Is A Classroom

Episode Date: April 8, 2022

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you want to receive emails from me every single Monday morning with my intentions going into the week. I will send you some mindset emails every single Monday. Go ahead and go to mondayemail.com right now. Once again, mondayemail.com right now. And I will start sending you emails with my intention for the week, absolutely free. Today, we're going to be talking about how life is a classroom. We're going to talk about how you should always be learning and that every single thing that happens to you, good, bad, or neutral, is an opportunity for you to learn. Now, the

problem is that most people don't tend to see it that way. Most people, if I'm being honest with you, don't even know that they can learn from every single opportunity that happens. Every single event, everything that happens to you is always an opportunity to learn. And one of the misconceptions that I find with a lot of people in personal development is that people think that personal development is reading a book. People think that personal development is meditating. People think that personal development is going to a conference. People think that personal development is journaling. People think that personal development is listening to a podcast. Now, I don't want to get this wrong. I want you to understand personal development is all of those

things. All of those things are a piece of personal development. But just going out and actually actively looking for something to learn is not all of personal development. Those are great, but they are not the only things. You know, I always hear people be like, well, you know what? I have to make sure I get my 30 minutes of personal development every single day. Whether it's the morning, whether it's the evening,

the afternoon, I've got to get my 30 minutes of personal development in. I love that. Great. It is good, but your life is personal development. Everything that happens to you in your life is personal development. Everything that happens to you in your life is personal development. Every single thing that happens to you, good, bad, or neutral is a form of personal development. And some people will go, you know, read a book and they'll be like, I got my personal

development done for the day. And then 45 minutes later, they get into an argument with their spouse and they yell at each other and not realize that the argument with their spouse was their greatest opportunity of personal development for the day. Huh. Let that one sink in for a second, everybody. podcast. I'm going to listen to Rob's podcast. And you're like, yeah, I got my personal development in for today. And I'm not saying don't listen to podcasts. What I'm saying to you is the argument that you got into with your spouse today or yesterday is much more of an area of personal development than listening to this podcast. The way that you grow is not just by listening and learning. All of those things are necessary. The way that you grow is from the application of the things that you learn. It's like they say, knowledge is in power. It's the actual application of that knowledge that is the power. And so if you just learn things, what's the point of just

learning things? You've got to actually be able to use the knowledge that you've learned, right? So let's go back to the argument with your spouse, right? You read a book in the morning and you're like, yeah, I got my purse stuff. I'm in town. I'm so excited for myself I did so well. I did I read 15 pages of a book Right and then you go and you get into an argument with your spouse over something that he did or something that she did And it triggered you And then you don't realize you get pissed off It goes the exact same way that every single argument happens with you. And you don't realize that that was the universe or God's gift to you today

for your personal development. You know, why was there an argument in the first place? They said something to you. Okay. They said something to you. And what happened? You got triggered. Okay. What was it that triggered you? Oh, it was the way that they said something to you. And what happened? You got triggered. Okay. What was it that triggered you? Oh, it was the way that they said this. It was so condescending. And when people speak down to me and they're condescending, it drives me crazy. Okay. So it was something that happened inside of you that made the argument happen. Now, I'm not saying this person doesn't need to take responsibility for what they said. So I want to say that first. Every person needs to take responsibility for what they did. But if they need to take responsibility, if your spouse needs to

take responsibility for what they did and what they said, you need to take responsibility for how you reacted. Oh, shit. I'm going there. Okay. So what is it that triggered you? Let's find out what that is. Why is it that that thing triggered you? Because triggering, even though it's not fun, triggering is usually your biggest, most massive piece of opportunity to learn. It's one of your biggest, most massive opportunities to grow. Triggering is a place where you are not free.

Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. When you are triggered, that is a place where you are not free. It is your job to find out why you were triggered and then figure out how to work through that triggering. Because somebody else could have had the, their spouse could have said the exact same thing that you had said to you in the exact same manner, which seemed quote unquote condescending, but it might not have triggered them, which shows you it's not the trigger. What is it? It's you. It's how you're reacting to whatever it is that is triggering you, that would actually, whatever it is that's being said. So was your spouse triggered? Okay. Well, do they need to take some responsibility for what they did? Did you say something that

maybe you shouldn't have said and you triggered them? Okay. Why were they triggered? Where did that come from? Can we find a way to help them work through things that they're triggered by? Can we learn that we need to be adults and not be children and just throw temper tantrums anymore? And we should actually learn how to grow and work with that person. We should learn what their triggers are and how to help them through them and help them pass their triggers. But we should also learn what our triggers are, let them know, and actually start to work through those as well. Because the reading in the morning was great, but the argument, yeah, that's where the real perseverance comes in. You know, you can be excited about listening to this podcast,

and then 30 minutes from now, you're in, you know, maybe you're on the way to Target with your kids right now, and you're listening to this podcast, and you listen to it, and you get to, you know, the podcast ends, and you go into Target, and you're like, man, I feel so amazing. And then your child has a fucking meltdown in the middle of Target, right? And it just angers you. It just pisses you off because this is the 10th time they've done this this week, right? Now, of course, it'd be a lot easier if your little child didn't throw a temper tantrum, but that's a much better place to learn and to work through your personal development than the podcast is, than the drive where everything's peachy and the children are asleep in the backyard.

To be able to sit there and to keep calm in the middle of any storm is your opportunity for personal development. So when you feel those feelings of rage, oh my God, they're doing this again. And maybe you start reacting in the way that your parents used to react when you were a child, whenever you threw a temper tantrum and you learned how to react from them. Maybe what you do is you take a step back and you're like, okay, I'm just going to let them have their meltdown. I'm just going to sit here and I'm going to be as calm as possible. Instead of yelling at them and telling them they shouldn't do this,

I'm going to try to keep that calm in the middle of the storm. That right there is a massive place for opportunity to grow and to learn and to get better. That is your personal development. This is your personal development too. Listening to this is your personal development. But the application of that personal development is where it becomes important. It's like, you know, if you were wanting to get good at basketball, you can't get good at basketball by just watching basketball games. I've watched so many basketball games in my life. It doesn't make me a great basketball player.

What makes me a great basketball player is getting on the court and the application of, oh, that move that I just saw, that way that I'm supposed to shoot, and my wrist does that little flick of the wrist. That's what actually makes me better. That thing that I just learned and actually using it and trying it. Well, if you hear something in this podcast, you read something this morning, or you're in a meditation, you become aware of something. Well, it is the application of that in the real world, which is where the actual change starts to happen. Hey, today's program is brought to you by Athletic Greens, the health and wellness company that makes comprehensive daily nutrition really, really simple. AG1 by Athletic Greens is

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to be perfect. Don't even try to be perfect. But it's about becoming aware of these things. It's about noticing them. And it's about starting to work for them as they come up. Maybe you have a boyfriend or girlfriend and your boyfriend or your girlfriend forgets to call you and it triggers your fear of abandonment, the issue that you have from your childhood because maybe you were abandoned, maybe you were emotionally neglected or something like that from your childhood. Those are things that happened and they're not perfect. They worked out the way that they were supposed to, but instead of just reacting to them and freaking out next time you talk to them because they triggered your, you know, their lack of calling triggered your fear of abandonment, it's your trigger. You're the adult. Sure, you can

blame it all on them if you want to, but if you blame somebody else for what you're feeling, you're not taking ownership of it and you're not actually using this gift that the universe is giving you to actually start to learn and grow. Okay, so then you feel, you know, so how do you work through it? You feel this feeling and you're not even sure what you're feeling. You just feel this fear inside of you and you're like, okay, let me take a step back. When I'm in the jar, I can't read the label. So let me just go ahead and do a couple of deep breaths. What am I feeling? How's this working inside of my body? Why do I feel this way inside of my body right now? Well, it's because, you know, Stacy didn't call me. She said she was supposed to text me. She said she was calling me. She hasn't. Okay. Is that the end of the world? No, it's not. Okay. So I've identified that the world's not

ending. So what's going on? What's going on is I am triggered. Why am I triggered? I'm triggered because I have this fear of abandonment because of X, Y, Z that happened to me when I was a child. Okay. Cool. Let's start to work through this. Maybe I can grab a journal. I could grab a pen and paper and I can actually start to write these things down. And I could say, is this really a huge deal? Or maybe, you know, she's just busy right now. Maybe her meeting ran over at work and she can't call me right now. See, because what happens is

when you start to really become aware of this, you start to see like really when you, I'm saying when you really see this, and not just like, I'm sure everyone out there that's listening, you understand this. But when you really get this, and not just like, I'm sure everyone out there that's listening, you understand this, but when you really get this into yourselves, you literally see that every single thing in life is a lesson. Life is a perfectly crafted curriculum for you to

evolve into the highest version of yourself. Your life and every single thing that happens to you, this is my belief. If you want to take this belief, you definitely can. Your life is a perfectly crafted curriculum for you to evolve into the highest version of yourself. All of the love that you feel, that is a perfectly crafted curriculum for you to evolve into the highest version of yourself. All of the loss that you feel and will feel in your life,

that is a perfectly crafted curriculum for you to evolve into the highest version of yourself. All of the sadness that you feel and will feel in your life that is a perfectly crafted curriculum for you to evolve into the highest version of yourself all of the sadness that you felt in life all the sadness that you feel now all the sadness that you will feel in your life all of that is a perfectly crafted curriculum for you to evolve into the highest version of yourself all of the happiness all of the anger all of the frustration all of the anger, all of the frustration, all of the bitterness, all of the things that you feel good, bad, and neutral are perfectly crafted for you to evolve into the highest version of yourself. Every single thing is an opportunity to learn and grow. But the question is, are you using this as an opportunity to learn and grow? Are you actually taking a step back and saying, hey,

if life is just a school room and this is just a classroom and I'm always supposed to be getting lessons, with what is happening right now, what am I supposed to be learning in this moment? Because most of the time we miss those lessons. And when we miss a lesson, we miss an opportunity to grow. The highest version of you, I'm sorry, it's not found in a book. The highest version of you is found on the other side of a breakdown. The highest version of you is not found by just going to a conference. The highest version of you is by having a trigger and working through that trigger and noticing the feeling going, all right, I'm feeling a lot of anger right now.

Okay. And you, instead of trying to push away and not feel those feelings as we do, we're like, fuck, I don't want to feel this right now. Instead of thinking that, you're like, okay, I'm noticing a feeling. I'm noticing that right now I am triggered. I'm going to breathe into the feeling. I'm not going to resist the feeling. I'm just going to breathe into it. And then when I get, you know, six breaths in and I've calmed down a little bit, I'm going to ask myself, what am I feeling? What is it that I'm feeling right now? I'm feeling a whole lot of anger. Okay. Why am I feeling this? And instead of pushing it away, I'm going to use it. I'm going to say, why am I feeling this? What can I do to make sure

the next time a trigger comes up or next time a lesson comes up or next time this event happens that I can start to work through it and learn from it in some way. Why am I feeling this way? And stop pushing it away. Because a lot of times what happens is we're resisting the way that we feel. And your resistance doesn't help you. Your resistance doesn't help your loved ones. Your resistance doesn't help the world. The amount of anxiety, sadness, fear, guilt, worry, all of those things you feel will be in direct proportion to how much you're resisting the way that the world is. How can we have less resistance?

How can we go, okay, I'm feeling something right now. What is this thing that I'm feeling? Instead of saying, I am mad, it's I'm feeling mad. Instead of saying I am furious, I am feeling furious. I'm not going to identify with a fleeting emotion because me, Rob Dial, is not a fleeting emotion. I just happen to be feeling a fleeting emotion. And you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to breathe into it. I'm not going to resist and I'm going to see what I can learn from this fleeting emotion. Okay? What am I feeling? I am not furious, but I am feeling furious in this moment. Okay? Let me breathe into it. Why

am I feeling this? I'm not going to resist it. What am I feeling? Am I feeling this? Why am I feeling this? And if I get out a pen and paper, is there a possible way that I can start to work through this feeling? Because once again, every single thing that happens to you is a gift. It is a perfectly crafted curriculum. I wish you could understand the perfectness of every single thing that happens to you. And so when you notice that it's perfect and you know that it's perfectly crafted for you and no one else, you see the gift that's there and you don't resist it. And you go, okay, school's in session. Time for me to learn. What is it that God or the universe

is giving to me to learn, to grow, to become the most evolved version of myself? Because once again, as we said, the feelings that you're feeling, every single one of them, is the trigger that's given to you so that you can evolve into the best version of yourself no matter what it is. Every single one of them is given to you for you to learn, to grow, to evolve, to become better. You have to be the person that steps into the classroom and learns from every single one of them. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Once again, the only way that this podcast grows

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I would greatly, greatly appreciate it. And I'm going to leave it the same way I leave you every single episode, making sure mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.