The Mindset Mentor - One Way to Have Massive Growth in 2022

Episode Date: December 27, 2021

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button since you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you have not yet given us a rating and review, however you listen to us, please go to iTunes, go to Apple Podcasts and give us a rating and review. It helps more people be able to find this because the more positive reviews that we get, the more that they show this organically so that more people can find it. So if you would do that, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it. Today, I'm going to be giving you my number one way to have massive growth for next year in 2022. And I got all of this from a conversation that I had with a friend. I was talking with a friend of mine and he's done a ton of growth.

He's really gotten into personal growth over the past few years. And he's looking for the next level. He's done some courses. He's hired coaches before. He has read books, watched movies, done a lot of different growth. He's done some psychedelics. And we were having this conversation a few days ago about like, hey, I feel like I don't know

what my next level of growth is. I don't know what it is that I need to work on to get even better. And so he was bringing this up to me and we were talking about it. And I'm going to tell him, I'm going to tell you what I told him. And hopefully it'll help a lot of you guys out there that are listening and going, you know what? I really need to find my next level. So in 2022, how do you find your next level? Here's what you got to do. I know him. I know him very well, very, very well. And I know his growth has been good, but it hasn't been that hard. His growth hasn't been that hard in his life. It's been very, I'll put it this way, it's been very knowledge-based, right? Courses, reading books, talking with people going to conferences

that is very knowledge based growth which is great there's nothing wrong with it it is an aspect of growth but there isn't any applied suffering that he has put himself through and what I mean by applied suffering if you've heard me talk about this before is pushing yourself for the sake of nothing else but pushing yourself just to get yourself out of your comfort zone. Just applied suffering means when we hear suffering, we think, oh my God, it sounds terrible. You think of Chinese waterboarding, I think it's called, like torturing. That's what we think of when we think of suffering. But suffer is really something that

you put yourself through in order to force growth on the outside of it. When you want to go and get bigger muscles, you got to go through the gym and you've got to have your muscles suffer a little bit. And through that suffering and the healing through it, they then end up becoming bigger muscles. So you've got to think for my expansion into 2022, for me to become better for next year, is there something that I can do to push myself, have applied suffering just for the sake of pushing myself to get myself out of my comfort zone? And this is the interesting thing about him. We've had many conversations around this

is he doesn't like restriction. He doesn't like to feel restricted in any sort of way. He likes freedom. And so anything that feels restrictive for him, he avoids completely. He shuts it down. He doesn't go for it. And it feels like the restriction is taking away his completely. He shuts it down. He doesn't go for it. And it feels like the

restriction is taking away his freedom. But check this out. What I told him is that staying away from the restriction is actually keeping him from being free because he has something he's avoiding. And when you're avoiding something, that thing has you. It's like, I remember Ram Dass, listen to Ram Dass say this a long time ago. And he was saying, if you're an alcoholic or if you're someone who is just completely against alcohol, either way, alcohol still has you. And what he means by that is if you're an alcoholic, then obviously alcohol has you.

But if you're so against alcohol that you think about how against it you are, it has you as well. And I kind of brought that up for my friend of like, if you so hate the actual restriction, that means that the restriction has you. And in that, you're not free. So for someone who hates restriction, who wants freedom,

you are restricted in the feeling of being restricted, which means you're not fully free. And so I told him that staying away from that restriction is actually a thing that's keeping him from being free. And he thinks he's free, but when you hate something and when you avoid it, you are not free from it. So the next level of freedom for him that I was saying is applied suffering, which is restriction. So I said, what is it that you could do for 30 days straight? If you have 30 days or 60 days straight where you had to do something every single day

and having that applied suffering, but having that little bit level of restriction of like, you're not going to be able to get around it. You have to do it every single day so that therefore you can be free on the other end and going, you know what? It's not that bad to feel restriction because there's going to be restriction in life

at some point in time. And it's the idea is to do what you don't want to do. Your growth is on the other side of doing what it is that you don't want to do. And so I'm going to ask you, and I want everyone out there to think about this. What is it that you feel like you're supposed to be doing, but you mentally are not wanting to do it? What is it? What are you holding yourself back from? Mentally, you don't want to do it, but in your gut, you know you should do it. And this is what I was telling him,

and this is super important, is your gut has a feeling, your brain has a thinking. And so there's always the feeling of I should do this, but the brain is always like, I don't want you to do it. And at the intersection of the gut feeling like you need to do something and the brain not wanting you to do this, but the brain is always like, I don't want you to do it. And at the intersection of the gut feeling like you need to do something and the brain not wanting you to do it is your freedom is your next level of growth. Your next level of growth is your gut feels like you should be doing something. Your brain doesn't want you to do it.

Now let me explain why that is because your brain is a safety mechanism. Your brain wants you to stay safe. And so anything that pushes you out of your comfort zone, your brain is going to want you to stay away from because it automatically thinks danger, danger, danger, danger outside of our comfort zone is danger is what it thinks. So an example would be, you know, maybe you know that you need to work out every single day for the next 30 days, and you've never done that before. And you know, that's outside of your comfort zone. And there's a feeling inside of you of like, you know what? I really need to put myself through some applied suffering through working out every single day for the next 30 days.

But your brain in there is going, well, you can't really do that. You've got this. You're going out of town on the 27th of January, and you're not going to have enough time to do it. So maybe this isn't the right time to do it. And you've also got this other thing coming up. You've got that wedding. You know, you're going to be drinking during the wedding. So you probably are going to want to take that day off as well. And the day after the wedding, after you're done drinking. And so your brain's trying to talk you out of everything. And when your brain's trying to talk you out of something and your gut has the feeling of what you should be doing, that thing is the intersection of what you should be doing that thing is the intersection of what you should be doing. Maybe because of the fact that your brain is trying to talk you out of it, what your brain

is doing, it's the ego trying to keep you in the exact same place. And so when you feel the feelings of thinking too much, being in your own head, I don't want to get out of my comfort zone, that is the thing that you need to do. Your growth is on the other side of what it is that you don't want to do. I always talk about in the Iron Mind 30 challenge that's starting on January 1st, part of it is cold showers. And people are always like, I would so do the Iron Mind 30 if there weren't cold showers. And I'm like, that's the freaking point. Is the cold showers is what you don't want to do is the thing because the cold showers aren't going to kill you. The brain that tells you that you shouldn't take the cold showers is killing

your fucking dreams. That's what it is. We had our trainer over at our house and she was like, oh, I've seen this Iron Mind thing that you're doing. I'm cool with all of it except for the cold showers. I've had many people say this to us. We're like, I'm cool with the working out. I'm cool with the diet. I'm cool with the meditating and journaling. And I'm cool with all that stuff and not drinking. I'm cool with all of that. I'm not cool with the cold showers. And I'm like, that's the freaking point

is that you have to put some applied suffering in there. Because I said, will the showers physically kill you? No, they won't. So what's the issue? It's not a physical thing that's holding you back from the cold showers. It not a physical thing that's holding you back from the cold showers. It's a mental thing that's holding you back from the cold showers. And that little part of your brain that says, nah, man, don't take the cold showers. No, don't do the challenge.

You don't have to take a cold shower today. Nobody will ever know. That little part of your brain is a part of your brain that's holding you back from everything that you want in life. Literally everything that you want in life. It's the same little voice that pops in when your alarm goes off in the morning and says, hey, just sleep in for another 10 minutes. It's the same one that when you're supposed to be making 100 phone calls and you're at 87, it says, hey, just go ahead and take the time. You've already done enough today. It's the same one that when you want to go to the gym, it says, hey, you've had a long day today. Just go ahead and go home and rest, have a beer.

It's the same one that when you think to yourself, oh, I should probably make something healthy. It says, hey, you've already lost five pounds over the past couple of months. Just go ahead and eat something that you enjoy. It's the little voice inside of your head that is the issue. It's not the physical act of stepping your naked butt inside of cold water. What it issue. It's not the physical act of stepping your naked butt inside

of cold water. What it is, is it's the mental aspect of you talking yourself out of it. And it's the same freaking voice that pops up whenever you're trying to do something important and is trying to talk you out of it. And so that's what I mean by your brain talking you out of everything that you need to do. Hey, they say you can't have it all, but that's not totally true. With Blinkist, you can have all of the most important ideas and takeaways from the world's top nonfiction bestsellers all in just 15-minute reads or listens. Use these Blinks to get inspiration, learn more about the books you'd like to read next, and broaden your knowledge and get new perspectives. Blinkist takes the top nonfiction books like Atomic Habits, The Power of

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extended trial. Once again, that's canva.me slash dial, canva.me slash dial. And so you do, you figure out what is it you need to do, and then you do it for either 30 days or 60 days straight, whether that's working out. You know,. If you know, hey, I need to go ahead and I need to start getting in better shape, force yourself. If you've never worked out before and you're trying to create a new routine and a new habit, you have to force yourself to do something consistently over and over and over again. So you go, all right, well, my workout routine is screwed. I'm going to work out for 30 days straight. Guess what? You're building

a new routine. You're building a new habit to create a better life in 2022. Cold showers is the example because you notice that you're too in your head and you talk yourself out of things and you're too anxious. You're like, you know what? There's this little monkey mind that's just destroying my day every single day. Well, then guess what? You need to destroy that monkey mind by taking control of it through cold showers. If you go, you know what? I need to lose some weight. I'm going to go on a new diet for 30 days straight. Maybe I'll do whole 30 for the first 30 days of the year. It's a new diet. And don't see it as like, oh, I'm just going to do this as a diet. It's like, hey, this is a new lifestyle. I'm changing my life right now. This is something I'm just going

to go back on. This is something I'm going to actually change. If you notice yourself being anxious and worrying too much throughout the day, well, maybe it's 30 days straight or 60 days straight of 10 minutes or five minutes of meditation. If you think too much and you feel like you're too much in your head, maybe along with the cold showers, maybe it's journaling and you journal down your thoughts. What's going on in my head today? And you start to actually work through your brain. It's not hard. None of these things are hard. We make life way more difficult than it needs to be

through that little voice inside of our head that's holding us back from everything that we want. So what is it that you feel like you need, but mentally you're scared a little bit and you have a lot of resistance towards. What is that? Think about that right now. If there was one thing that you know that you feel like you should, because when I say feel, I mean your gut coming in there, you feel like you should be doing it, but mentally you're scared or you have resistance towards it. What is that thing?

Figure it out. And that how different would you feel and how different would you be if by February 1st, let's say February 1st, you've gone 30 or 31 days in a row of conquering that thing, chipping away and chipping away and chipping away every single day. Is it working out? Is it the cold showers? Is it taking time to read two pages every single day, the cold showers? Is it taking time to read two pages every single day, five pages every single day? Is it meditating for five minutes? Is it sitting down and journaling your anxious thoughts or maybe journaling what you're grateful for so that you can get better at actually finding things to be grateful for in your life? Whatever it may be, what is it? Figure it out right now, write it down with pen and paper, and then commit to doing that thing for 30 days straight starting January 1st.

It's not hard. Just freaking do it. What does the other side of you look like when you commit for 30 days? Let's say you just do January. Let's say you commit for 30 days. 30 days is all you commit to. What does the other side of that 30 days look like? What do you look like?

How different could your life be if you decided to start this habit and continue to keep it going? It doesn't take a long time to make significant changes in your life. The problem is we just haven't been committing. And it's never too late to change. It's never too late to be somebody else. It's never too late to take another step.

It's never too late to turn your life around. The only problem is that you're trying to talk yourself out of your brain, that part of your brain that tries to talk you out Of everything the one that I told you about pops up in cold showers is also the one that says oh, it's too late Oh, you're too old. Oh, you're too young. Maybe later on. Oh, it's too late in your life You've been down this road for 17 years There's no way to change you you might as well just go back to what you've always done It's never too late to change. It's never too late to turn it around

It just takes pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone consistently showing up every single day day in day out day in day out Day in day out until a new you is made Until a new routine has been made until a new habit has been made you can turn your life around any point in time You just have to do it consistently. I always say that your comfort zone is like a rubber band. You know, if you look at a rubber band and it's just like a loose rubber band, that's, you know, let's say it's just hanging on your finger, that's your comfort zone.

And what most people do is they pull, if you pull the rubber band a little bit, you pull it, you pull it, pull it, pull it, just a little bit. That's what people will do. They'll work out for a week. They'll work out for two weeks. And it's like expanding your comfort zone a little bit,

expanding your comfort zone. And then they kind of let their foot off the gas. January 15th, they kind of don't go to the gym as much or maybe they end up giving up a little bit on some of their goals or maybe they end up eating some ice cream or eating some candy or maybe they eat some of the things that were greasy

that they weren't supposed to have in their diet. It's like taking that rubber band that you've been pulling apart and just loosening it just a little bit, just loosening a little bit, just loosening a little bit. And if you mentally, physically, emotionally are the same as you were at the beginning of this year, then you need to push yourself into the next year. You need to push yourself and figure out what is it you need to do. Otherwise, it's going to be 2023, January, and everything's going to be the same. Your life is going to be no fucking different if you don't change. And so to go, oh yeah, you know, I guess

I'll just kind of go back to what I was doing. Nothing's going to be different. Your life isn't going to change. I'm sorry, but your life is not going to change unless you change. And so if you look at that rubber band, if you pull it and you pull it and you pull it, you pull it. And then you start to go back to normal. And it's kind of like your hands going back closer and a little bit closer and a little bit closer. And eventually a month down the road, two months down the road, because you let up your, the pressure you're putting in your comfort zone. It's basically the exact way that it was. But when you do it consistently day in, day out, day in, day out, day in, day out, it's

like taking that rubber band and pulling it and pulling it and pulling it and pulling it and pulling it and not letting your foot off the ass and pulling it and pulling it and pulling it and pulling it and pulling it and not letting your foot off the gas and pulling it and pulling it and pulling it and pulling it, then it snaps. And that's like you creating a new version of yourself, a new comfort zone. But you've got to realize this is what's interesting about it too. You ready for this? When you take a rubber band, you pull a band pretty far. Guess what? The farther that you pull it before it breaks, the more that it actually tries to pull itself back. The stronger that it tries to pull itself back, there's more resistance when you pull it further away. So the farther that you get from your comfort zone,

you will mentally be pulling yourself back. That's where self-sabotage comes from. People start to pull themselves back and pull themselves back and pull themselves back. The further that you get away from your comfort zone, the more likely you are to self-sabotage because your brain wants to throw you off course to then go back to where you were. But if you keep pulling and keep pulling and you're like, I don't care how I feel. I don't care if I get sick. I don't

care if I have a terrible day. I'm going to work out every single day for January, whatever it is. And you make the commitment that you're going to show up for yourself every single day. That's when you break through to the other side. That's really what it is that you break through to. So if you're out there and you want to change yourself, ask yourself, what is it that you feel like you need to change? And then what is it that actually scares you? And when those two meet, that is the thing that you need to work on for the first 30 days of January. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you're out there and you're like, hey, I want to figure out how to push myself, go ahead and check out my Iron Mind 30 challenge where literally every single day for the month of January, for 30 days straight, we're going to

work out every single day. We're going to journal every single day. We're going to meditate and visualize every single day. We're going to take cold showers. We're going to have a very specific diet that you stick to and no alcohol for the entire 30 days Those are the six pillars to the iron mind 30 And at the same time i'm going to be going live inside of a private facebook group with all of the other people There's gonna be over a thousand people that have joined and they're going to be inside of this group I'm going to go live every single day teaching you mindset techniques to break your comfort zone to destroy that little voice inside of your head To work out better to journal better to meditate visualize better, to take cold showers and actually not

listen to that little voice inside of your head, to make sure that you stick to the diet, to make sure that you do everything that you need to, to break out into the new version of yourself. So if you're tired of where you have been and you're ready to make a new version of yourself, join us. We've already had over 4,000 people do this with us over the past three years now. And when you go on to ironmind30.com, I-R-O-N-M-I-N-D-3-0.com, you can actually see all of the testimonies, all the people have done it. We've had people lose 40 pounds, 50 pounds, 27 pounds. It's not just a physical thing. It's more of a mental thing of what we're trying to do is break our comfort zone. Your body will change though. When you're working out every day, when you're not having alcohol, when you're sticking

to a very specific diet, you will physically change as well as mentally the change. So if you're out there and you want to be a part of it, you want to check it out, go to ironmind30.com right now. We start on January 1st. Once January 1st is over, you cannot join. That will be the absolute last day that you can join in. And then myself and everyone in the group, over a thousand people will be focusing on growing ourselves as much as we possibly can. So once again, if you're interested in learning more about it, go to ironmind30.com, I-R-O-N-M-I-N-D-3-0.com. And I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you,

and I hope that you have an amazing day.