The Mindset Mentor - Outgive Everyone
Episode Date: November 22, 2017Episode 353 - A lot of people think that in order to be successful you need to take, take, take. That is completely false and in this episode I tell you how giving is a quicker way to be successful. W...ant to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube
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is how to get ahead in business, but also how to get ahead in relationships. And the thing that I'm
going to say about this is probably the exact opposite of what you think
I'm going to say. In order to get ahead in relationships or in order to get ahead in
business, you need to out give everyone. You need to make it your mission to give more than anybody
else does. And any relationship that you're in, business, professional, any relationship,
personal, all of those things, friendships, significant others,
all of those, give 51% or more to every single relationship. Now, if you want to be successful,
you need to give. And most people will think that that probably sounds crazy,
but that's the way the world works. That's the way the most successful people actually are,
believe it or not. The most successful people in the world
are some of the ones that give the most. And some of you are probably out there thinking that's a
ton of crap because those people take, take, take, take. And if you think that way, guess what?
What you're doing is you're pushing success away from you because you're saying, I don't want to
be that because being successful is bad because taking is bad. Some of the most successful people in the world are also some of the biggest givers.
If you look at Bill Gates's fund and all of the billionaires that he's gotten to sign up for his fund, when they die, 99% of what they have and what they're worth goes to charity.
Billions upon billions upon billions of dollars.
You're telling me that those people are selfish?
I don't think so.
upon billions of dollars, you're telling me that those people are selfish? I don't think so. But modern society, everyone wants to make it look like because someone's super successful,
they must be this person that just takes and takes. Most people who are very successful are
givers. And if there are people that you know that are takers and they're successful, I'm just
telling you right now, they're not going to stay successful. The people who stay successful are
the ones who give.
Most people don't really understand that. Most people have the wrong idea that in order to be successful, they must take that the most successful people are selfish and that is complete BS. It
cannot be further from the truth. So you need to go into every single interaction, every single
conversation, every single relationship, everything that you
have thinking, how can I out give this person? How can I give more into this than this person does?
And for most people actually make them level up and become even better in the relationship as well.
How can I add more value or bring more value to this relationship than this person ever will?
That is the real key to being successful because some of the best people in the world are the most successful people in the world are some of the people that
are the best networkers. And if you want to be a really good networker, if you ask every single
person that you come in contact with, how can I help you? What can I do for you? And you make it
your mission to do what they need or make the connections that they need. You will in turn be
successful because they will want to make connections. They will want to help you out in turn. It's the law of reciprocity.
So here's the problem. Most people think of each and every relationship. They think of like,
oh, in this relationship with Bob, I'm giving 70% and Bob's only giving 30%. This relationship
is not worth it to me. No, you can't think of it that way. You can't think of each individual relationship. You have to think of all your relationships as a collective in this
sense. You want to give more than that one person. And as a collective, you want to try to give more
in all of your relationships that you can. You might want to give a lot to one relationship
and you might give a lot to one relationship and that person
might give very, very little, but you might have another relationship. You know, if that
relationship where Bob gives very little, you might also have a relationship with Sally.
A business relationship is she just gives a lot and it's hard to out give her.
And she is in some ways making up for Bob because it's a collective. It's not just that one.
It's taking hard work from you just to keep up with Sally because how much value she brings and how much she gives. Here's the deal.
You go into every relationship with complete selflessness and realize that you should never
expect anything from them in return. And if you go into every relationship with that, you will
have some of the best business, personal, financial relationships, everything that you could possibly think of.
So think of them all as a collective.
You go into every single relationship with complete selflessness.
How can I give no less than 51% of the value in this relationship? in, most unsuccessful people think that successful people take and take and they stay unsuccessful
because like I said before, they think I never want to be like that. I don't want to be successful
because all of that is bad. They think that they take and that they don't give any value to
relationships back. Could not be further from the truth. Some of the most successful people are some
of the biggest givers. Some of the best networkers, the best networkers are always the biggest givers as well.
If you want to be a great networker,
figure out how you can bring value, tons and tons of value to every
certain relationship.
Ninety nine percent of the successful people that I know give more,
way more than all of the unsuccessful people.
And the reason why is because successful people have an abundance mindset.
They don't go into relationships with scarcity mindsets,
the poor people mindsets.
They go in saying, how much can I give?
Because the more that I give,
the more that everybody else will give
and the more that I'll be able to receive as well.
The most successful person that I personally know
is also the most giving person.
He wants to give and give and give and get nothing back.
And it is hard as hell to out give this guy because he just wants to give and give and he
wants to help everybody out. He just wants to give. Do you think that he got that way? He got
to be the most successful person that I know on accident? No, of course not. It's because he works
his way up from the very, very bottom of a company to the CEO and turned it into a billion dollar company 30 years ago. So imagine what that money
that he made has done over the past 30 years. People want to help people who help them.
They want to promote someone who gives the most. If you work for a company and they see you giving
more than anybody else and giving more time and giving more energy and giving more value, they're going to want to promote you. That's the way that it works.
So you need to go into every relationship and everything that you do thinking, how can I out
give everybody? How can I work harder than everybody else? How can I give more than 51%
of the value in this relationship? And that's the way that you truly become successful.
Now, that being said, if there's anything that I could do for you, please let me know.
And with that, I will tell you that make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better.
I appreciate you.
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