The Mindset Mentor - Self Discipline - The Key Self Love

Episode Date: October 4, 2021

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial, and if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And if you're out there and you live in the United States or Canada and you want to receive motivational text messages from me directly to your cell phone, text me right now, 1-512-580-9305. Once again, 1-512-580-9305. Today, we're going to be diving in deep and we're going to be talking about how to actually get shit done. And there's one thing that we're going to dive into very deep and it's the idea of self-discipline. And when I look at people who are successful versus people who are unsuccessful, and this could be in anything in

life. This could be in finances. This could be in a relationship. This could be in the most successful parents that I can see. Everything that I see, there's some level of self-discipline. And when I look at self-discipline, I really look at it and see two different things. Number one is doing what you say you're going to do, which I feel is kind of like a lost art in the year that we live in now of people doing what they say they're going to do. Not for the fact of like, you know, doing it because I'm, you know, saying I'm going to do something because I'm a people pleaser, but like saying something and really meaning that, yes, I am going to do this thing. There's one thing that I'm very

big on just personally. I don't like to commit to anything until I'm a hundred percent sure, because the one thing I don't want to do is back out on someone. We all have had this happen for where you invite your friends to go somewhere or you're like, Hey, you know what we should do? We should all go to this place. We should all go to take a trip somewhere. And everyone's like, yeah, let's take a trip somewhere. And everyone's all excited about it. And everyone agrees that they're in. And then slowly, but surely once the plans start coming through and people start have to booking it, what happens? People start dropping off. And that's the way that you get trust between somebody and you to be a little bit broken. And I don't know about you guys, but I

don't really want to have my trust broken with somebody else. I don't want someone to look at me and be like, you know what? Yeah. Rob said that he's done this so many times that he was going to do something so many times and he just doesn't follow through. I don't know about you. I don't want to be somebody that's known as a person who doesn't follow through. So the first part of self-discipline comes down to the point of doing what you say you're going to do. And not only for other people, but for yourself more than anything else. Like if you say to yourself, I'm going to work out four times this week and you don't fucking work out four times this week, you're breaking trust with yourself. And what happens when you do what you don't do what you

say you're going to do for yourself and you break trust with yourself, your confidence goes down, right? Every action that you take, your confidence goes down, right? Every action that you take, your confidence can go up or it can go down. And so do you say what you're going to do for other people, but do you also do what you say you're going to do for yourself? That is more important than anything else. So that's the first aspect of it. And then the second aspect of what I see self-discipline is doing what you need to do, even when you don't want to do it. So think about that for a second, doing what you say you're going to do and also doing what you need to do, even when you don't want to do it. And this comes down

if you have a business. How many times have you seen people who have businesses that are your friends and they run it for a little while and then it gets run to the ground and it ends up being what it could be. A lot of times it's because people can't make themselves do what they need to do even when they don't want to do it. Because here's the thing that I know for sure. You're not always going to feel 100% every single day. You're not always going to feel at your best every single day. But if you're running a business or even doing what you need to do when you don't want to do it, it could be something in a relationship. This is why I think a lot of relationships fail. This is why a lot of businesses fail is because people don't hold their standards to the highest

possible standards that they can. And then their self-discipline sucks because of it. And, you know, people see the word discipline as a bad word. And the reason why is because, you know, you discipline your dog. If he poops on the floor, you discipline your child. If they get bad grades or if they do something wrong, but discipline, self-discipline is never a bad thing. The core, and this is what a lot of people don't say. I've said this before in my podcast, but the core of self-discipline is self-love. And why do people lack so much self-love? Because I think they actually lack a lot of self-discipline. Because they know behind the scenes, they said that they wanted to

work out four times this week and they didn't work out once. So of course their self-love drops because they can't even trust themselves. And so I want to ask you a question. If you feel like your self-love is down, how's your self-discipline? Have you been showing up for yourself at the highest level the way that you should? Because self-discipline is never a bad thing. The core of self-discipline is self-love. We don't use enough self-discipline to do the things that we need to. We need to come together for ourselves more than anything else and realize that we need to have self-discipline to do what needs to be done. And the reason why I say this is because we don't need any

self-discipline to do things that are bad for us. Like I don't need any self-discipline to do something that's bad for me. I need self-discipline to do something that is good for me. So, you know, to wake up early in the morning, to work out, to eat healthier, to meditate, to read, to journal. I need self-discipline for that. I don't need self-discipline to sleep in. I don't need self-discipline to not work out. I don't need self-discipline to eat a big greasy fat pizza that tastes amazing. I don't need self-discipline to not read. I don't need self-discipline to not journal. I need self-discipline to do the things that are best for me and my body and my future. Self-love and self-discipline is not eating that delicious pizza.

And guys, I'm not saying don't just only eat grass and salad for the rest of your life. You can still enjoy things, but you have to realize you have to do it at a certain cadence. You can't just have it every single day. But self-love is not eating pizza when you told yourself that you were creating a new lifestyle of eating healthier and that you were going to eat healthy for 30 days. And today's only day four. Self-love and self-discipline makes the healthy choice. That's what self-love and self-discipline do. Self-love is not hitting the snooze and staying in your warm bed where you're comfortable. You don't need self-discipline to stay in the bed. That's easy. You need self-discipline to get out of the bed because you love yourself so much

that it's important for you to wake up and work out and meditate and journal and read and to start the day so that you can create the life that you want to. Self-discipline is needed to create the life that you want to. So many people nowadays lack the self-discipline to create the life that they want. I hope to God that you're one of the people that has the self-discipline to create the life that they want. I hope to God that you're one of the people that has the self-discipline, that has the self-love that says, you know what? I'm not going to get to the end of my life in regret and wish that I would have done more. And I am going to be the person that loves myself so much that I'm going to get up at the time I'm supposed to, then I'm going to work out because I love myself. And it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks of

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or I hope that you will become. Self-love is not hitting the snooze and staying in our warm bed where you're comfortable. Self-love is getting up because you said you were going to get up, because you want to create the life that you want, because you want to read, because you want to meditate, because you want to make yourself better. That is self-love. That's self-discipline. Self-love is not, you know, taking it easy because you've had a long day. It can be sometimes, and I don't want. Self-love is not, you know, taking it easy because you've had a long day. It can be sometimes. And I don't want to say like, oh yeah, you know, self-discipline is just always pushing yourself past what you should be doing. Sometimes, yeah, you do need some self-love

and that's okay. But if you've made a contract with yourself of I'm going to go to the gym tonight and you have a long day, you have to have the self-discipline to go, you know what? It's important for me. It's important for me to do this. It's important for me to create the life that I want to. It's important for me to create the body that I want to. I love my body so much that even though I had a long day, I'm going to go to the gym because my body needs it. My body needs to move. I've been sitting at a freaking desk all day long. Of course, I've got to get up and move my body. I have that self-love that's so deep. I'm going to have the self-discipline to do what needs to be done. It's the discipline

to hit the gym after a long day of work. It's also the discipline to follow through on your promises to yourself. How many people listening out there right now is you will do things for other people before you'll do them for yourself. You'll follow through for other people before you follow through for yourself. You'll follow through on promises that you made to other people before you'll follow through for yourself. I think that following through for everybody is important, but you can't put yourself in the back of the line. There's no way. And so self-love is showing up for yourself because that's what you need to do. Self-love is showing up for yourself because that's what you need to do. Self-love is showing up for yourself because that's what you said you were going to do. You love yourself so

much that you're going to show up at the absolute highest level in everything that you do. Then it doesn't have to be just taking action. It doesn't have to be just hard things, guys. It could be things like meditating. There's self-love and self-discipline that's needed to sit down and meditate, to take time for yourself, to appreciate every aspect of who you are. That needs self-love. That needs self-discipline. You know, sitting down and meditating and going, you know what, I'm going to meditate because it will make me better. It will make me calmer. It will make me a more loving person. It will make me a better spouse. You know, I've been kind of agitated a lot lately. I don't like how I've been showing up around my spouse.

I've been kind of agitated a lot lately. I don't like how I've been showing up around my, my children. It will make you a better parent. It'll make you better in every single aspect, but you have to be the person that's going to have enough self-love to have the discipline to be like, I'm not going to listen to the bullshit excuses in my head. And I'm going to do it because that's what I'm supposed to do. That's what I need to do. And that's the type of life that I'm going to create. So what is self-discipline? Self-love is self-discipline. Self-discipline is self-love. They are the same thing. One is needed for the other. And I'm not saying that you have to be so hardcore that you don't enjoy your life. So I hope you're not getting that from me. I want you to enjoy your life.

I want you to do something amazing. I want you to create the life that you want to. I'm not saying being so hardcore that you don't enjoy your life. Enjoy your pizza sometimes. Enjoy sleeping in sometimes. Enjoy the comfortable bed. But what I'm saying is you have to be disciplined to do what needs to be done to create the life that you want because you're going to look back one day and hope that you did or wish that you had done more if you don't start doing it now. If you love yourself enough, you will show up for yourself saying, you know what? I want to create amazing life for myself. I love myself so much, but I'll go through some temporary discomfort so that I can create the life that I truly feel that it's some temporary discomfort so that I can create the life that I

truly feel that it's possible for myself so that I can create the business that's truly possible for myself. I love myself so much that I'm going to push myself more than what I actually want to because I know that on the other side of this temporary discomfort is a life that I can only dream of and I've wanted for so long. And you know what that gonna do that's gonna make me feel better about myself that's gonna make me have some confidence that's going to create an amazing life for my family for my spouse for my children I know that if I work harder the opportunities that will come for my children are light years vastly different than the opportunities that will come for my children if I don't I know that the

harder that I work on myself on my selflove, on my self-discipline, showing up for myself, working out when I'm supposed to, waking up when I'm supposed to, putting in the work, doing the meditation, doing the reading, doing the journaling, doing the hard things that is going to create a better life for myself. I love myself so much that there's no fucking way that I'm not going to show up for myself at the highest level possible. That's what self-discipline looks like. So I'm not saying you don't have to not enjoy your life. Of course, I want you to enjoy life, but I guarantee you this. If you go through a little bit of temporary discomfort and push yourself a little bit further than what you have been, you're going to love your life a whole lot more in the future than if you don't push yourself.

So think about that for a second. I want you to enjoy your life. I want you to enjoy your life so much that five years from now, you're like, you know what? I'm so glad that I put in so much hard work. I'm so glad that I had the self-discipline to show up for myself because look at what I've created. Look at everything that I have, the relationship that I have with my spouse, the relationship that I have with my kids, the opportunities that I've been able to give them because I freaking locked it down and did what needed to be done. I love myself so much that I want to create the opportunity for myself, for my family, for my children, for my mother, father, brother, sister, aunts, uncles, everyone around me. That's how much I love myself. I want to be

able to give them that life. But if I don't get my ass up and do what needs to be done and have the self-discipline and the self-love to get up and do it, I'm not going to create that future. So I want you to think about that. What I'm saying is at the core of all of the self-discipline that you need is the self-love, showing up for yourself because you love yourself that much. When you love someone, you take care of them. When you love yourself, you have the discipline to take care of yourself. And here's the thing. We all know what we need to do to grow into the person that we can be. We all know what we need to do to become the person that we need to be. We all know what we need to do to become the business person or we have the money that we want or the relationships that we want or the happiness. We know what we need to do. But the question is, are we actually doing it? The person that we see in our dreams,

a person that we know that we can. If you're sitting out there and you have this feeling in the gut of your stomach of like, I'm not living up to my potential. Well, then what's it going to take for you? What self-discipline do you need to hold yourself accountable to do the things that need to be done? And when we're progressing, when we are progressing in every aspect of our life, we feel better about ourselves. We hold ourselves higher. We have more self-confidence. It's like Tony Robbins says, happiness is progress. Progress is happiness. When you start to progress and look at yourself and go, damn, man, I'm so much further than I used to be. I'm so much better than I used to be. You start to get happier. You start to be more in love with the journey that you're on.

Ultimate fulfillment is not from getting the money from the cars, from the clothes, from the house, from the external things. It literally comes from becoming the highest version of ourselves that we can be. Ultimate fulfillment doesn't come from things externally. Ultimate fulfillment comes from our self growing internally, becoming who we know we can be. Because it's not about getting all of the things. I did an event in Mexico a couple weeks ago and it was on abundance. And I said, getting all of the things is fun, but it's not about getting the things. I did an event in Mexico a couple of weeks ago and it was on abundance. And I said,

getting all of the things is fun, but it's not about getting the things. It's who you need to become in order to get those things. That's the journey of life. You know, if you look at, all right, you know, let's say that becoming a millionaire is your goal just because it's an easy thing that we can put out there and we could talk about numbers. Okay, cool. It's not about getting the million dollars in your bank account. It's who you need to become. It's how you need to grow. It's how you need to push yourself in order to achieve those things. Your happiness doesn't come from the numbers in your bank account. Your happiness comes from the way that you feel about yourself going, you know what? I wasn't the type of person that could have this life and I created

this. It's being the type of person where you're type of person where five years ago, you never traveled before in your entire life. And now you're sitting on a balcony overlooking Rome in the most beautiful night, drinking a glass of wine with your spouse going, I fucking created this. That's what ultimate fulfillment is. It's not about the things. It's about going, you know what? I created myself into the person that deserved this level of success. When we're better, we serve at a higher level as well. And so one of the things that I always tell people is like, if one of the most selfish things that you can do, and not saying anything bad about people who don't have money,

but one of the most selfish things that you can do is not achieve at a high level. Because when you can achieve at a high level, you can give at a high level. So are you achieving at the level that you possibly could? Because the world is needing you to do so. There's too many people that aren't achieving at the level that they could. And they're just kind of going to work and coming home and watching Netflix. The world needs people like you to step up. And we think that we're going to love ourselves when we get to X, whatever that X is. Now we have to realize that we have to love ourselves enough to motivate ourselves to get to X. So you think that you're going to love yourself and you're going to be happy when you get to a

million dollars. That's not going to happen. Nothing's going to change. I promise you that. You're not going to love yourself once you get to a million dollars. Now you realize that you have to love yourself enough to motivate yourself to get to a million dollars. You going to love yourself once you get to a million dollars. Now you realize that you have to love yourself enough to motivate yourself to get to a million dollars. You have to love yourself first to have so much self-discipline that then you'll have the discipline to create whatever needs to be created for your life. At that point in time, I promise you this, you'll get to a point where you're overlooking whatever beautiful scenery, your beach house might be like I where you're overlooking whatever beautiful scenery.

It might be your beach house. It might be, like I just said, overlooking Rome with a beautiful glass of wine, sun setting. It could be the mountain house that you've always wanted. Whatever it is, you're going to get to that point at one point in time, you're going to go, you know what? I'm glad that I showed up for myself because I was able to create this life for myself and for the people that I love. Because myself because I was able to create this life for myself and for the people that I love because you need it and you deserve it and the people around you need it and they deserve it. But you're going to have to have enough self-love to kick yourself in the ass

to have the discipline that's needed to create the life that you want. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please do me a massive favor. Share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in it, Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R, so more people can get this message. And if you also love this podcast, please do me another big favor. Go ahead and go to iTunes or Apple Podcasts and give us a rating and review. The more people that give us great ratings and reviews, the more this podcast gets out to more people and the more the message spreads. And we only grow when you guys do that. So I would greatly, greatly appreciate it from the bottom of my heart if you could do that. And I'm going to leave it the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission,

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