The Mindset Mentor - Stop Dating Your Goals and Marry One of Them

Episode Date: September 13, 2019

Episode 646 - Let's talk about how to focus on one goal and accomplish that goal because as the Chinese Proverb says "if you chase two rabbits you will catch neither one" Chinese Proverb.  Follow me on Instagram at @RobDialJr https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/ Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to the Mindset and Motivation Podcast, one of the top motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, we come out with a short, to the point, no BS episode to help make massive changes in your mind and transform you from who you are now to who you want to be. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And last but not least, as you can see,

the logo has changed, the name has changed. And soon enough, yes, I am telling you the truth, the intro will change as well. But make sure that you know it's called the Mindset Mentor Podcast from now on. And let's go ahead and dive into today's episode. All right. So today we're gonna be talking about chasing rabbits. And that might seem a little bit

odd to you, but it'll make sense once I dive into it. And lately I've had the question asked to me a few times. Someone says, you know, I have this really good idea for something. And I have five really good ideas. I have these things that I want to go this path and I want to do this and I want to do this. And I could also, you know, I could see myself doing really well at this. How do I succeed at all of them? And they ask questions like, how do I succeed at all of them? Or how do I know what to do? Like, how do I just take the right steps so I can succeed at all of them? And the answer that I keep giving everybody is the answer that I've heard a lot of different times in a bunch of different ways. And the problem is nowadays with technology, as amazing as it is, uh, where we can learn pretty much anything that we want to by just looking at our computers

and just researching it. Uh, we can, we have people that are pretty much dabblers is what I feel like. Most people are dabblers. They don't find one thing and sink their claws into that one thing and stay there for a couple of years and just really try to master whatever that one thing is, whether it's a couple of years, whether it's more than that. They don't try to master. What they do is they try to get pretty good at a lot of different things. And then what happens is because they're pretty good at a lot of different things, they take their time and say, well, what if I were to do all of these things? And what you have to realize is the problem is nobody wants to buy from somebody or get coached from somebody or get products from somebody who's pretty good at something or pretty good at a lot

of different things. Somebody wants to be coached or they want to buy products from or they want you to design their products from someone who they wanted to get those products and buy from somebody who is as close to an expert as possible in whatever field that may be. People don't want to learn or buy from somebody who doesn't know their ish, if you know what I'm trying to say.

You can't dip your feet in like everybody else. Everybody else just likes to dip their feet in. They like to get a little bit of knowledge in this area. They like to dip their feet and get a little knowledge in this area and then a little bit of knowledge in this area. And then they get confused because they never know exactly which area to go for because of the fact that they're pretty good at a lot of different things or they have a little bit of knowledge in a lot of different areas. And one of the main problems, like I said, is because people like to dabble too much. So people ask me, what should I do if I have these five different things? What should I do? I have these three or four different things, these two different avenues that I could go.

And you've heard me say it before and I'll say it again. There's no reason to have a plan B because it distracts from plan A. So what does that mean? That means that you need to have one thing. If you haven't read the book, the one thing I would recommend buying it. It was, I read 40 books last year. It was my favorite book that I read for sure. One of my favorite books I've ever read. The one thing, if you haven't listened to the episode that I do with Jay Papasan, who is one of the authors of The One Thing, go back and listen to that. If you want to buy the book, The One Thing, or get it for free, you can get it for free at audible.com from Audible. If you go to mwfbook.com, they'll give you a free 30-day trial. And with that free trial comes a book. So you have no excuse of why not to

either read or listen to this book at this point. Go with the one thing. Figure out what your one thing is. It's like when I had the billionaire Jeff Hoffman, the founder of Priceline.com on, he said that a lot of people will come up to him and they say, Jeff, I have these five really good ideas, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. What do you think I should do? And his very first thing that he says is, I think you should get rid of four of your ideas. And the problem is, he says, you need to stop focusing on all of the things and you need to get a gold medal in one thing. And what that means by getting a gold medal in one thing means that if you were to go to the Olympics and try to get a gold medal, you can't be in a bunch of different events. You have to specifically go for one event. You know, if you're a runner, maybe you do a couple different track

events, something like that. But you can't be a basketball player in the Olympics and then also happen to be a baseball player in the Olympics. People that are in the Olympics that are the absolute best at their craft in the entire world spend all of their time going into that one thing. So when he says you need to get a gold medal in one thing means that you need to focus on just one thing. So if you have three or four or five ideas of ways you can make a bunch of money and ways you could be successful, find out the one that really strikes you the most, the one that really hits you to the core and says, this is something that I think I should go for and go for just that one thing. That's the problem most days with people is everyone likes to dabble.

Nobody likes to commit. Everybody seems to have commitment issues nowadays. And the way it works is this is kind of what happens. So you have an idea. If you're watching on YouTube, you could see this. But when you start to learn something, your knowledge and your improvement is like a huge growth in the very beginning. It goes from absolutely nothing to this huge spike. And then what happens is two weeks or two months or two years down the road, you get there after this huge spike, it's usually a couple of months, you start to plateau. And what happens is most people plateau and they say, man, I thought this was for me. I guess this isn't for me. I'm going to go try

something else. And what happens is that plateau happens to every single person, no matter who you are, no matter what you're in, you're trying to learn guitar. You're trying to sing. You're trying to become an athlete. You're trying to be a professional basketball player or a writer. You're going to go up. You're going to get a huge, huge spike in improvement. And then it's going to completely plateau and go straight. And that is where most people give up. And you have to be able to fight through that plateau in order to go through the plateau and then go back up again. So most people get through these plateaus and they think, well, maybe this wasn't for me. Maybe this isn't the thing I need to concentrate on. No, if you're at that plateau, that's where you're supposed to be. You have to

fight through it. And the old Chinese proverb that I'm going to share with you deals with this perfectly. And it says, if you try to chase two rabbits, you will catch neither. So think of it this way. There's two rabbits running around your backyard. You're going to catch neither one if you try to catch both of them at the exact same time. What you have to do is you have to focus on that one rabbit, that one thing that you have to focus on and you have to go after it. And after you catch that one rabbit, well, at that point in time, you can then switch your efforts and try to go for the other rabbit as well. And a perfect example of this is the lion example. When somebody's taming a lion, when there's a lion

tamer trying to tame a lion, you ever notice they always put something in between themselves and the actual lion itself? Anybody have any idea what that is? It's a four-legged stool. Why would somebody get into this cage with a massive cat that's about to kill them with only a four-legged stool? What happens is they take the stool, they face it upside down, and they put the four legs facing the tiger or the lion. And what happens is the lion or tiger sees these four legs and it gets a mini paralysis. And the reason why is because it doesn't know which one to attack first. So what happens is it gets, it literally gets a small paralysis and doesn't move and doesn't

try to attack and gets docile because it doesn't know which one to attack. The same thing is going to happen for you. If you have four different goals that you're going after, you're not going to know which one to go for. So most people have paralysis by analysis where they have so many different routes that they could go that they don't know what to do. They just have to sit there and they can't figure out which way to go. The reason why is because they have too many routes. They have too many things they're focusing on. If you find yourself in this category, you need to literally take as many things you can off of the list and go, what is my one thing? And this should work with you every single day as well. Like I said, most people wake up and

they have a huge to-do list. You've heard me talk about this before. They have this huge to-do list and then they feel like they never get anything accomplished. And the reason why is because they go for the stuff that doesn't matter. What you need to do is you need to make your to-do list and then go, what's my one thing today that I have to get done? If nothing else gets done, what's the one thing that I have to get done? And what happens if you do that one thing, at least that one thing every single day, you will get seven absolutely important things done in a week, which is probably seven times more than most people do in the world anyways.

So you have to focus on that one thing. You have to realize that you can't chase two rabbits. You've got to find the one, you've got to focus on that one, and you've got to put all your time, money, effort, blood, sweat, tears into that one thing. got to put all your time, money, effort, blood, sweat, tears into that one thing. And when you do, if you do and you don't give up, there's almost absolutely no way that you can't become successful from it. There's almost no way that you cannot become successful. There's no way that you just can't put thousands and thousands of hours into something and then somehow not become successful. So what I want you to take from this is if you're one of the people who

sees all of the shiny objects, we like to call them, all of the things that you could do and all of these different ways that you could become rich or could become successful or these different ways that you could get into these great relationships. I don't know what it might be, but if you see all of these quote unquote shiny objects, you need to pick one of them and focus on that one in every single morning. Focus on how you can get closer and closer to that one thing more than anything else. So that's what I want you to think about. And that's what I want to challenge you is how can you find what that one thing is and

cross everything else off of the list? Because plan B only distracts from plan A. With that, I want to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. If you have not yet done so, please share this with somebody. If you know somebody that could get some type of benefit from this, please share with them. We're trying to grow organically as quick as we possibly can,

but I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.