The Mindset Mentor - The 7 Step Process To Hit Your Goals

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. If you're out there and you want to learn and grow and improve yourself so that you can improve your life, I put out episodes four times a week to help you do exactly that. So if you don't want to miss another episode, hit that subscribe button so you can hear everything that we put out here. Today, I'm going to be diving into the seven steps to accomplish any goal that you set for yourself. A lot of episodes we've been doing recently have been a

Starting point is 00:00:39 lot of mindset, have been a lot of self-reflection, understanding yourself. This one's going to be more strategy. And we're about halfway through the year at this point right now. And so my question to you is how are those New Year's resolutions doing? Do you remember those things that you said a few months ago? You know, how are they going? Good? Bad? Did you forget about them? Are you exactly in the same place that you were a few months ago? Or are you a completely different person? Are you halfway to accomplishing your New Year's Resolutions goals? And so no matter where you are, I love to go through this.

Starting point is 00:01:15 I've done a version of this episode a few times over the past nine, ten years at this point. But I think it's really important for us to go, okay, let's self-assess. Let's see how we are with our goals right now. Let's see where we're sitting with those New Year's resolutions and realize we have about six months until the end of this year. How do I make sure that no matter how the first half of this year is gone, I'm still going to accomplish the goals that I want. I'm still going to get the body that I want. I'm still going to make the money that I want. I'm going to have the happiness that I want. I'm going to be able to take the trips that I want. Okay. And so we're going to go through the six steps or seven steps. The first six steps are actually not mine. They're from my favorite book,

Starting point is 00:01:54 Think and Grow Rich. But it is Think and Grow Rich is specifically around money. We're going to be around anything that you want. And then the seventh tip in order to get there and hit your goals is mine that I just threw in there for you. Cool? So let's go ahead and let's dive in, right? Step number one, and the way that he says it inside of Think and Grow Rich is to fixate your mind on exactly what it is that you want. It is not sufficient to merely say, I want to make a lot of money, but define the amount that you want. So if we take this and kind of switch it over to anything in life, not just money, you need to get very clear on exactly what your goal is. Like, I mean, be very, very crystal clear. If you explained it to

Starting point is 00:02:38 a five-year-old, your five-year-old would get it. Because one of the things that I find with people when they set goals is they set very, very vague goals, not because they're doing it on purpose, but because they've never actually been shown exactly how to set their goals. And so a lot of people are like, my New Year's resolution, my back half of the year resolution is to lose weight. Okay, well, if you lose one pound, you accomplish your goal. That's probably not what you wanted though. If you're like, ah, it's to make more money. Okay. Well, if you make one more dollar, then you accomplished your goal, but I'm sure your goal is not to make $1. And so instead of saying it's to lose weight, it would be in the back half of this year, I want to lose 10 pounds. I want to weigh 185 pounds and I want to be at 7% body fat. And here is a printout of

Starting point is 00:03:27 the picture of the body that I want. This is the man or the woman that has the body that I want by the end of this year. And that's what I'm shooting for. And I actually printed out a picture of my face and I taped it on this person's face so I can visualize it every single day. And so you get very, very crystal clear on exactly what is it you're trying to hit. Instead of saying, hey, I want to make more money, you're going to say, hey, I want to make in the back half of this year $65,000. And you know the exact thing that you want. Instead of saying, I want to be happier, the hell does that mean? What does happiness mean to you? How would you know that you're happier? And what would that look like if it was expressed in your life? Right? So you want to figure out and get very, very clear. The better

Starting point is 00:04:09 that you can see the target, the more likely that you are to hit that target. And so that's the thing is you got to get very, very clear on exactly what it is that you want. The second thing, which is probably my favorite out of all of these, is to decide what you intend to give up in return for hitting that goal. If you're saying yes to something, you're saying no to something else. If you're saying yes to losing 10 pounds, you're saying no to a lot of things. You're probably saying no to drinking alcohol on the weekends. Maybe you have a 12-pack every single weekend. You're probably going to have to say no to a few 12-packs. If you're saying yes to losing weight, you're probably going to have to say no to sleeping in some nights or some mornings because you need to wake up and go to the gym.

Starting point is 00:04:54 You're probably going to have to say no to being lazy. You're probably going to have to say no to a lot of different things. In order to get something that you've never had, you're going to have to do things you've never done, and you're going to have to do things you've never done. And you're going to need to give up certain things in your life. You might have to give up potato chips and not buy them for the rest of this year. You might have to give up the carbs that you're eating. You might have to give up ice cream. And just figure out if you're going to get X, you're going to have to give up Y. What is the

Starting point is 00:05:26 Y that you're going to have to give up? And so if you're going to get something, you're going to have to give something up in return. What is it? You know, if you want to make more money, you know, you need to make that $65,000 by the end of this year, extra $65,000 from now until the end of this year, but you've only made $30,000 so far this year, well, then you're going to have to give something up. Maybe you're going to have to give up very specific excuses. Maybe you're going to have to give up allowing yourself to come up short. Maybe you're going to have to give up your fears of being hung up on when you make your cold calls, whatever it might be. So you have to, number two, number one,

Starting point is 00:06:09 get very clear on exactly what it is that you want. And number two, you have to determine what you intend to give up in order to achieve that goal. Number three is to establish a definite date of when you will hit that goal. So for some of you, it might be December 31st at the end of this year. For some of you, it might be three months from now. You need to give yourself an exact date, right? Because a goal without a deadline is just a dream. So, okay, I know what it is that I want. I know what I'm going for and I need to hit it by this date. You know, there's always the phrase, I can't remember what it is, but if you give yourself three months to do something, it'll take three months.

Starting point is 00:06:48 If you give yourself three days to do something, it'll take three days. If you give yourself three hours, it'll take three hours. So establish a definite date of when you have to hit this by and put it somewhere so that you see it every single day. Every single day, you're gonna hit that goal. You know, I remember in 2017

Starting point is 00:07:04 when my goal was to move to Italy with my girlfriend at the time, now my wife, we wanted to be in Italy for six months. I wrote on everywhere. I put it literally everywhere that I possibly could. I put on the background of my phone. I put it on my mirror. So when I was brushing my teeth, after I went to the bathroom, every single time I would see it. And it was by, and this was, I put up on January 1st, 2017, and it was by July 1st, 2017, I will be living in Italy. And so it was everywhere. So I couldn't forget about it. Okay. So that's number three is to figure out the definite date. And then number four, now that we know what we want, now that we know when we want to get it and we know what we're going to give up in order to get there, now we need to make a plan for exactly how we're going

Starting point is 00:07:49 to get there. And we need to follow that plan. But we can't follow a plan if we don't have one. And so what is your exact plan in order to achieve what it is that you want? And then what you need to do is begin, as he says inside the book, begin at once. If you put the plan together, don't say, I'm going to do it next week. Don't say, I'm going to do it in a couple days. Do it today. Take the first step today because all too often we make a plan and then we push it off and we push it. Oh, I'll get back. Oh, it's when I come back from vacation. Oh, it's when the children get done with school. No, you create a plan and you begin at once. And the key to this is to make your plan as detailed as possible and understand that your plan will move and shift over time. You know, if you're saying, okay, this is, you know, I want to lose

Starting point is 00:08:35 those 10 pounds by the end of this year. I'm going to work out, you know, three days a week. I'm going to do meal prep every single Sunday. I'm going to get this amount of, I'll go over my macros. I'm going to get this amount of carbs. I'm going to get this amount of protein. Well, it's going to need to move and shift over the next few months as you get closer to, or maybe further away from your goal. And, you know, maybe you get, you lose five pounds in the next month and then maybe you gain a pound the one month after that. But it's to create a definite plan, a plan that you can execute immediately, and then know that over the next six months, seven months, whatever it might be for you, until you hit that goal, there's going to need to be a little bit of movement. But the key here is

Starting point is 00:09:15 to have a plan on a piece of paper. It's to start to develop the roadmap of exactly how you're going to get there. So that's number four is to create a definite plan. And then number five, what you need to do is you need to write a clear and concise statement that summarizes one, two, three, and four. And so for instance, if you're going to, it's going to, when I say clear and concise, people always ask this question, like, what do you mean by clear and concise? It could be three sentences. It could be 10 sentences. I don't really care.

Starting point is 00:09:48 It's basically like, it ends up being like your mission statement. And you create this mission statement. You're going to say, I am going to lose 10 pounds by December 31st. In order to do so, I am going to give up sleeping in till 9 a.m. every single morning. I'm going to get up earlier. I'm going to do X, Y, Z. I'm going to give up ice cream. I'm going to give up alcohol maybe for the next six months. I'm going to give up my excuses. I'm going to give up going out to eat at this restaurant and this restaurant. And I am going to work out Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday. And I'm going to do chest and back on this day. I'm going to do cardio

Starting point is 00:10:34 three days a week. I'm going to do legs on this day. And you come up with an exact plan and you make it clear and concise, clear and concise. It's got to be very clear to you of exactly what it is you got to do. It's got to be very concise. Not like you're not making this entire manifesto that's 12 pages long, right? Three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, 10 sentences, 10 at most. And it is the exact plan where if somebody came over and said like, hey, what's your goal for the end of this year? You could hand them a piece of paper. They could read it and they could go, got it. No questions. Can you write that out clear and concise? And it's important to have this because what you're going to do, that's number five, is number six, right? So number six goes directly with it. Number six is to read your statement out

Starting point is 00:11:21 loud twice daily, every single morning, as soon as you wake up in the morning and every single evening, right before you go to bed. And so that's why it's so important to have this very clear and concise statement because you're basically going to brainwash yourself through repetition to know exactly what it is that you want, when you want to get it by, what you're going to give up and how you're going to get it, the exact plan of how you're going to get there. Because all too often what happens is I've spoken to people before and it's like June, July, August. And I'm like, hey, what was your New Year's resolution? They're like, well, what was my New Year's resolution? And they forgot this thing that was supposed to be so important to them this year. And so when you read it to yourself over and over and over and over and over and over and over again, you're basically brainwashing

Starting point is 00:12:03 into yourself like this is what I'm working for. This is my manifesto. This is what I'm, and once again, I said, you don't need a 12 page manifesto, but this is like my mission statement. This is what I am working for for the next six months. And as you start to read it more and more and more, it starts to feel more solid. It starts to get you more excited and you start to feel driven more towards that thing. So that is number six, is to, after you have number five, clear and concise statement, number six is you're going to read it to yourself every single morning and every single evening. Why every single morning and every single evening? I mean, I would recommend you read it 10, 20, 30 times a day if you want to, but at least twice

Starting point is 00:12:37 a day, every single morning, every single evening. Well, when you wake up in the morning, your brain is still kind of in something that they call theta state, which is dream state, which is when you are the most susceptible to being able to access your subconscious, which is under the conscious mind. And so what you're doing is you're basically speaking it into your subconscious every single morning. Then before you go to bed, have you ever like been scrolling on your phone 10 minutes before you go to bed and like you see whatever, a house on a beach, 10 minutes before you go to bed, and then you dream about a house on the beach and you're like, oh my God, it's so

Starting point is 00:13:09 crazy because I was just looking at houses last night. It's really not that crazy because the last hour of you going to bed, especially the last 15 minutes, your brain is the most susceptible when it is going back into theta state. So what if you read it every single morning, into theta state. So what if you read it every single morning, infected, I guess you could say infected your subconscious, you infect your subconscious with this mission statement. And then before you go to bed, what if you actually dreamed about this thing that you wanted to accomplish? How much more excited would you get? How much more color could it give it? And so that's really the reason why you want to do it at least twice a day, every single morning, every single evening. What I would recommend, just do it right after you brush your teeth. It's called habit stacking. You take a habit that you do and you

Starting point is 00:13:52 just add another one on top of it. So you brush your teeth in the morning and then you read your statement out loud to yourself because then you're reading it, you're seeing it, you're holding the piece of paper and you're hearing it. So you're getting all of these senses at once. Not just read it, you know, in your head, read it out loud to yourself so that you're also saying it and you're hearing it. And so that's what you're going to do for number six. And then number seven, which is something that I always do, and I've mentioned this many times, is when I used to work with one-on-one clients, I would always help them come up with their goals. We'd figure out exactly what it was. And then I would ask a really important question, which is how can I make this easier on myself? Because a lot of times

Starting point is 00:14:32 we think that our success, whatever that thing means, whether it's losing weight, whether it's having a better relationship, whether that's making money, building a successful business, whatever it is, we think that it needs to be hard. Like we have to struggle our way to success. And that's, it could not be further from the truth, but we kind of have that ingrained into us. And so the question I always ask myself is how can I make this easier on myself? You know, knowing that I tend to, you know, the people who have the, I wrote this in my book, Level Up, the people who have the highest willpower are not the people who are the most driven, the most committed. It's people who have designed an environment around them that does not test their willpower. And so, you know, how can you

Starting point is 00:15:16 make it easier on yourself if you're trying to lose those 10 pounds, since that's the example that we're rolling with? Well, I got an idea. How about you don't have any food in the house, which is the type of food you're wanting to stay away from? You know, I know that for me, if I have something sugary, I want more of that sugary thing. So if it's not in the house, I don't think about it. And so if I do like sugary stuff, well, how can I replace ice cream with fruit? Like I would go for watermelon. So how could I do that to help me? Because I'm getting the fiber as well. So it helps me digest and it's not as bad as having the ice cream. And so how can you make it easier on yourself?

Starting point is 00:15:51 You know, if part of your goal is you need to wake up early every single morning, how can I make it easier on myself to wake up early every single morning? Well, I can make sure that I go to bed earlier. I can make sure I have a routine that's a wind down routine so that I can fall asleep easier. I can, what else can I do to wake up easier? I can take my alarm clock. I could put it on the other side of the room so I have to physically get up. There's an alarm clock that you can get that it's got wheels on it.

Starting point is 00:16:16 And when it goes off, it literally falls onto the ground and rolls all around. So you have to physically get up and catch this damn thing that's running all over. Maybe that makes it easier for you to wake up. Get creative with it. How can you make this easier on yourself so it doesn't have to feel like it's so hard for you to lose the weight or make the money or be happier or develop better relationships? And so really that's what it comes down to.

Starting point is 00:16:40 It's not difficult. It just takes your time. It takes your attention. And it takes you sitting down and planning these things. So number one is you have to figure out exactly what it is that you want. Number two, you have to figure out what you intend to give up. Number three, you have to figure out what date you're going to hit it by. Number four, you've got to create the plan. Number five, you've got to write a clear and concise statement that summarizes one, two, three, and four. Number six, you need to read it out to yourself every single morning and every single

Starting point is 00:17:04 evening at least. And number seven, you got to ask yourself the question, how can I make it easier on myself to hit this goal? So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories. Tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram and tag me in it, RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Also, if you love this podcast, you're also going to love something I just launched called Mindset Mentor Plus. Mindset Mentor Plus is a way for you to fully integrate every single podcast episode in your life. Each episode of this podcast inside of Mindset Mentor Plus will come with detailed worksheets with journal prompts and

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The Mindset Mentor - The 7 Step Process To Hit Your Goals

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