The Mindset Mentor - The Curse of Always Wanting to Improve

Episode Date: May 29, 2019

Episode 491 - "I don't want to be happy with where I am because then I will lose motivation to become more" I always hear something like that from people. They think that if they allow themselves to be happy or content then they will lose all motivation. In this episode, I will teach you my strategy of positive dissatisfaction so that you can be content but always striving to achieve more! If you are ready to break out of your comfort zones, join my Iron Mind 60 challenge at www.IronMind60.com Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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information when all the information comes out. So let's go ahead and dive into today's episode then. Okay. So today what I'm going to be talking about is positive dissatisfaction. This is something that's pretty much changed my life. And the reason why is because personal growth and success are tricky things, especially for someone like me and someone who might be like you, where you're always trying to grow. You're always trying to get better. You're always trying to constantly make yourself better because you know where you want to be and you're trying to get there, but then you're kind of pissed off or unhappy that

you're not there. And I don't know if you felt this way. I've felt this way for a long, long time and going on vacation was hard for me in the past. Now it's easy for me because of this, this positive dissatisfaction. Because you know where you want to be, you know where you're trying to get, but part of you is pissed off because you're not there. And there's actually a portion of this that you're missing in the equation. I want you to understand this. For me, like I said, I'm super competitive. And while I was living a happy life, everything was good. Part of me was unhappy because I was growing and trying to get

better and trying to get where I wanted to be. But I was still pissed off knowing how far I had to go, how far I had to get, like how far into the future I was thinking and how far away I still was from there. And if I still live by that mindset, I would still be pretty pissed off because my vision for myself, my vision for my life, this is just the stepping stone. This is something that's going to be huge. MWF motivation is probably just a little tiny portion of what's, not probably, it is a little tiny portion of what my life is going to be in all of the lives I'm going to impact. So part of me used to get pissed off because I was like, I'm not there yet. And some of you guys probably feel, actually, I'm pretty sure probably

everybody feels the same. We're just like, I know where I want to be. I know what I want for my life, but I'm not there. What the heck is going on? So if you're listening to this and you felt this same way, you're mad or you're sad or you're pissed off and you know where you want to be, but you still have a lot to go. And once again, I still get there sometimes where I catch myself getting mad that I'm not where I want to be. Here's what you need to do if you're in that situation. What you need to do is you need to be happy with where you are and you need to practice gratitude. You need to do is you need to be happy with where you are and you need to practice gratitude. You need to look around you and be happy where you are. Be grateful for all of the amazing things

that you have. Practice gratitude. I wake up every morning and practice gratitude for the people that are in my life, for owning a house, for the fact that I at least woke up today, fact that it's great weather, the fact that my body works, and all of these different things. There's a lot to be grateful for. You can find the tiniest things in the world to be grateful for. The fact that your children smile, the children are healthy, all of these things. There's tons of stuff to be grateful for, especially when you realize how bad it is in other parts of the world. So you are grateful, you're happy with where you are, but you're not 100% satisfied. That's the key. You need to not look into the future and wish you were there. You need to look at where you are, be happy with where you are, but know that there's still more for you.

Know that you're on the journey to becoming more. And for me, it was hard until I read the book, The One Thing, to take time off. When I was building my businesses, it was hard to take a day off. But they say you have to take time off. You have to schedule time off, the weekends, whatever it is. And you have to take time off. Otherwise, you'll burn yourself out. You won't enjoy it anymore. And you'll be more productive if you take time off. Your brain getting rest will allow you to be more productive. So this positive dissatisfaction, this being grateful but still unsatisfied and wanting more allows you to be happy in the current moment, to show gratitude, but also still want more. And that, so you know, is a creative state. That's a creative state, to show gratitude and to be happy with where you are,

but still want more. That's a creative state. It makes you think because you're not thinking about what you don't have. What you're doing is you're thinking about what you have, but then you're also focusing on what you want in your future. Because at that point, the creative state, you won't be focusing on what you don't have or what you've not accomplished, or you won't be unhappy with all these things. You'll be happy and grateful, but still working for more. Working and thinking of ways to go further, to push past your limits, to get out of your comfort zone, to get you where you want to go. And this has been huge for me in my overall happiness because I was so mad or semi-depressed that I was not where I wanted to be.

And I was not focusing on the amazing life that I had. I was focusing on what I did not have yet. So that's the key. Focus on what you do have and then still want more. I was comparing myself to people who I look up to. The number one way to be miserable in this world is to compare yourself to others. Let me say that again. The number one way to be miserable in this life is to compare yourself with others because you don't know their past. They have not walked the same route that you've gone. So to compare yourself with somebody else is absolutely ridiculous. You will never be them and they will never be you. You have had different paths and there's no reason to compare yourself to them. Here's the deal though. I know

personally that I'll never be where I want to be because I'm constantly going to push myself. Whenever I hit my goal, I always look towards the next goal. That's just my personality. It's just the way that I am. My goals and some of your goals, this might be good for you guys to know. My goals are like the horizon. The closer I get to them, the further they and I'll never I'll never be able to grab the horizon you'll never be able to grab the horizon it's just going to keep going a little bit further a little bit further but what I can do is work towards the horizon but at the same time I can sit back every once in a while I can smile and I can watch the sunset as I continue to keep

trying to get towards that horizon and so that's the tip that I continue to keep trying to get towards that horizon. And so that's the tip that I will give you. Continue to work towards the horizon. But also sit back and smile and look at how beautiful the horizon is and where you are at this current moment is as well. So with that, please do me a favor. Share this with someone that you love. If you've listened to a bunch of episodes, but you've never shared it with somebody, hey, pay it forward.

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