The Mindset Mentor - The Ghosts Around Your Bed

Episode Date: June 16, 2019

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That's I-R-O-N-M-I-N-D-6-0.com right now and join us. We'd love to have you in the group. We just had our first lesson today. I was supposed to speak for about 35 minutes. I ended up speaking for almost an hour. And man, people were saying that they were crying during it. They had massive breakthroughs. And this first lesson alone, and there's three more lessons that they get as well. This first lesson alone massively helped them. And they said that that alone was worth joining in on the challenge. And they know that it's going to help them break through to the other side by day 61. So if you're interested in changing your life, go to ironmind60.com. I would love to see you in the group. There's also people that are saying, you know, like, oh, well, you know, I know that sticking to a diet is part of it. And it doesn't

even have to be a diet. Some people are like, oh, I don't need to lose weight. Well, I don't need to lose weight either. I actually need to gain muscle. And so if you want to say it's a diet, sure, it's a diet. It could be also called a meal plan for those of you guys out there that, you know, maybe you want to eat healthier. Maybe you want to become a vegetarian or a vegan. Maybe you need to put on muscle mass. You need to actually eat more calories. Whatever it is, it's up to you to pick your diet, aka your food plan, your meal plan,

and then just stick to it. That's all you have to do. And, you know, people ask me, you know, isn't it dangerous to work out every single day? And the answer is no. Your body, you have to think about this. Excuse me. Your body was designed to be moving all day long. It was designed to do that. No, maybe not all day long, but it was designed to move every day. And you have to realize to move for 45 minutes a day is not going to hurt your body, right? Your body will adapt. That's the point of working out and creating the body that you want

as well. So people ask, you know, is it healthy to work out every single day? Yeah, your body should be moving every single day. We shouldn't be sitting behind a computer for eight hours every single day inside of boxes, you know? So that's just what I have to say about it. People are asking questions, you know, do I, I don't want to, I don't want to go on a diet because I don't need to lose weight. You don't have to stick to a diet. You just have to come up with a meal plan, something that you specifically will stick to for 60 days. So if you're interested, go to ironmind60.com. Okay, today we're going to be talking about the pain of hard work versus the pain of regret. And I think that it's because of the fact that for me, my father died when I was younger. You know, my father died when I was 15. So I think that it's because of the fact that for me, my father died when I was younger. My father died when I was 15. So I think that my father was the very first person that I ever knew

that passed away. So before you meet someone that's really close to you that passed away, death is just kind of like a thing that you hear about. But as you get older, as you start to know people who pass away, you start to change your mind on it. And for me, when my father passed away, I was like, holy crap, this is real. I'm never going to see him again. And it was from that moment on that I kind of changed my mindset on the entire world and the way I wanted to live my life. Because what I had thought to myself was my biggest fear from that moment on became, I don't want to get to the end of my life and have felt like there was more that I could have done. I don't want to get to the end of my life and feel like there was more impact that I

could have had on the world or more love that I could have given or more joy that I could have had, whatever it might be. And so when I think of the pain of hard work versus the pain of regret, right? The only thing that's harder than the pain of hard work is the pain of regret. The only thing more painful than the pain of hard work is the pain of regret. And so I want you to imagine this, and you may have heard me say this before. You probably haven't heard me say it before though. I want you to imagine that today's the last day of your life, right? You're on your deathbed and everyone that you know is, you know, left. They're leaving.

You know, you've got a couple of days left, but you wake up in the middle of the night and you're surrounded by a bunch of people. But the difference is these people all have these red eyes, right? They all have red eyes and they're staring at you and they're mad. They're super mad. And what you realize is that these are all ghosts. These are all ghosts standing in front of you. And you get terrified.

You're thinking, oh my gosh, there's ghosts surrounding my hospital bed. I'm the only one here. There's nobody else here. There's no doctor. And they're all standing there in the room with you. And you say, why are you here? Who are you? And they say, we're your dreams.

We're your dreams. You were the only one that could have brought us to life for your entire life, all 60, 70, 80 years of your life. We were hoping that you would bring us to life. We were there. You were the only one that could bring us to life. And they're mad because of the fact that number one, you didn't bring them to life. Number two, they have to die with you. Think about getting to the end of your life and realizing that you could have done more. You know, they say the five regrets of the dying, the number one regret of the dying is that I wish I lived a life that was true to myself and not the life that I was expected of me. So if you find it hard to work hard, part of the reason might be the fact that you aren't doing something that you're truly passionate about. You aren't doing something

that is connected to your purpose. That could be part of it. And here's the thing. Maybe you found that your purpose is something completely different. Maybe it's a charity, something that doesn't pay you. Well, then your job should be basically just a way to make money so that you can spend as much time as you possibly can on your passion, on your purpose, right? The only thing worse than a pain of hard work is a pain of regret. Think about how bad it would be to get to the end of your life and think to yourself, man, I wasted a lot of it. You know, by 25 years old, I got into a comfort zone. I found out what I like to do. And I just did the same thing over and over and over again. I know I could have done more. I know I could have achieved more. I know I could have loved more. I know I could have impacted more people's lives. more. I know I could have loved more. I know I could have impacted more people's lives.

But honestly, I just got scared. I found out a comfortable place and I stayed in that comfortable place forever. And you realize, like I told you, Ben Franklin's quote, you realize that you died by 25, but you're actually now 75. You're not going to be buried until you're 75. you're actually now 75. You're not going to be buried until you're 75. You wasted 50 years of your life. There's so many people, so many people that even in the challenge, you know, we talked about it and people said they've been in the same comfort zone for two years, five years, 10 years, 20 years. Man, God, that's painful to be stuck in a comfort zone for 10 years, for instance. That's painful to be stuck in a comfort zone for 10 years, for instance. But you know what's more painful? Staying in that comfort zone now that you realize that you were in that comfort zone.

You have so much potential inside of you. And all of the potential that you are not bringing out to the world is only because you're restricting it. You have so much creativity inside of you, but you're restricting it. You have so much love to give the people around you, but for some reason, because of something that happened in your past, you're restricting it, right? When are you going to open up the floodgates to your love, your creativity, your passion, your hard work into doing something that's your purpose, right? I know for me, I would love to get to the end of my life and think, you know what? I left it all on the table. It's like somebody, if you're playing in a basketball game,

you know, the NBA finals just happened, right? You're playing in the basketball game. You don't want to be at the end of the basketball game. The NBA finals go, man, you know what? I could have run a little harder. We just lost. I could have gone a little bit harder. I wish I would have gone harder. I wish, I wish, I wish. Because you can't go back and do it. But I want to be at the end of my life and think, you know what? I gave it everything that I had. I said what I needed to say. I loved who I needed to love. I brought out joy when I needed to bring out joy. I worked hard on the things that I was passionate about and I impacted as many lives as possible before I died. That's the way I want to go out. That I know that I did everything. I left everything on the court and there's nothing else

that I could have done differently. Right? But very few people get to that point. And I want you to think of right now, and I'm going to ask you this question. Where do you need to work harder in your life? Okay, where do you need to work harder in your life? And mind you, when I say hard work, I don't mean just like working at your job. I mean working harder in your relationship. I mean working harder on your physical fitness. I mean working harder on your mental capacity, your self-development? What is it that you need to work harder on? What are you ignoring at this point that you need to put more time into? This is what's super, super important for you guys. Think about that for a second. Do you want to get to the end of your life and feel regret? Just for a second, feel that inside of you.

Feel that inside of you, the pain of regret. Oh, just that pain. It's in your chest. Just think about how terrible it would be knowing that you were given a life. You were given an opportunity. You were given the most beautiful thing on this planet, the life as a human, and it was wasted. How terrible would that be? All right? Now think about this. Think about being on your deathbed. All of your grandchildren around you, they're like, Grandma, Grandpa, tell me a story. And because you put so much into your life, you have so many stories to tell. And you know what? When you pass away, they look at you and go, man, that was a life that was fully lived.

When I grow up, that's who I want to be like. When I was just talking in the pool with my, my uncles in town, I was talking with him. We were talking about my grandpa. And I say every day, all I try to do is be more like my grandpa was because he was the kindest, sweetest, nicest, loving, hardworking guy I've ever met in my entire life. When you pass away, are you going to, your grandchildren, your children are going to be thinking the same thing about you. That's what I want you to think of because the only thing worse than the pain of hard work into putting everything that you have into everything around you, the people, the work, the creativity, the life, the personal development, the health,

when you put everything that you possibly can into it, you won't have that pain of regret when you die. Would you rather have the pain of hard work or the pain of regret? That's what I want you to think about. So for today's episode, that's all I got for you. Please be one of the people that just executes, actualizes on your life. And if you're interested in, once again, breaking through your mental barriers, working hard at creating yourself into the person that you want to be, you're tired of where you are, you're tired of the wheels feeling like they're spinning, and you want to break through.

You actually want to challenge yourself to grow and become better. Go ahead and join my Iron Mind 60 challenge. Go to ironmind60.com, I-R-O-N-M-I-N-D 60.com. We're starting on June 24th and the second that we, you know, the second that June 24th is over and becomes June 25th, you cannot sign up. The first day, day one is the very first day that you can sign up. So if you're interested, go to ironmind60.com, join us. I would love for you to be a part of it. The group that we've created there is incredible. It's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. The way that they're talking, supporting each other, helping each other. The Facebook Live we were on today,

everybody was supporting each other and giving each other tips and lessons. And it was just crazy and incredible to see. So if you want to be a part of that, if you want to break through, if you want an accountability system, if you want a support system to help you along the way and people that love you, go ahead and join us and I would love to see you in there. But I'm gonna leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better.

I appreciate you. I love you all. And I hope that you have an amazing, amazing day.