The Mindset Mentor - The Moment My Life Changed

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you don't follow me on Instagram yet and you want some extra motivation inside of your newsfeed, follow me on Instagram, Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Today, we're going to be talking about how not long ago, I went back in time in a time machine. Now, let me explain what I mean by this, and I'm going to start off by telling you the story. So, a few weeks ago was my 35th birthday party, and we had a bunch of people come over to my house, this house that we just newly moved into not too long ago. And we probably had 25 people come over to my house, this house that we just newly moved into not too long ago.

Starting point is 00:00:48 And we probably had 25 people come over to the house and it was a bunch of friends that lived around town. And one of my friends who came over is a friend who just recently moved to Austin. And he was actually my roommate in college from my last year of college, right before I dropped out to go start my business. And I kind of went into, we're all sitting outside, we're all hanging out, we're all talking. And I was looking over at him and I had this flashback to when we used to be roommates and how different my life is now compared to the way my life was then. Now we were roommates 2008 going into 2009. So we're talking at this point in time, about 12 years ago, right?

Starting point is 00:01:27 11, 12 years ago or so. And at that point in time, my life was only about a couple of things. My life was how can I get drunk as quick as I possibly can? And how can I do a whole lot of drugs? Right? And I'm telling you this because I want you to understand I'm not this perfect person who's just been this master of mastermind, like of my mind or anything like that for my entire life. The way I get into doing what I do now, and the way I get into teaching people about mindset is because I had to try to master my own mindset to get to where I am. And so people think that I wake up and I'm just highly motivated. I'm just driven all this stuff. No, I have to work on myself sometimes harder than anybody else that I know, but that in turn has given me tools to be

Starting point is 00:02:16 able to teach people. And so when I had this little flashback thinking about him, I was like, man, my life is, is way different than when we were roommates. I'm, I'm literally a different person. The things that I enjoy now, I would not have enjoyed then. And if, if I would have met myself in 2009, then 2008, 2009 met myself now, I would have gone, wow, I can't believe all of this stuff that you've accomplished. I can't believe all of the things that you've done. And I say that because I know there's people out there that are listening to me right now. And they're thinking to themselves, I don't know if I can get out of where I am. I don't know if I can get out of this spot. I don't know if I have enough energy, enough motivation to get out. I don't like what my circumstances look like,

Starting point is 00:03:05 but I also don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. And there's been many times in my life where I didn't think that I saw a light at the end of the tunnel, right? So when we were roommates, everything was okay. I was in college and I was partying and getting drunk as quick as I could and smoking weed and doing whippets and doing all of that stuff that crazy college kids do, right? smoking weed and doing whippets and doing all of that stuff that crazy college kids do, right? Then after that, I moved out. He moved out. I went and started my own company and it went well for a while. And then it didn't go well. And I was working so much. I started actually resenting the place that the company that I was building because I was literally working 110 hours a week for years. And I was working and I was working. I was working myself to bone. I had a quarter life crisis and I was just over it. Didn't want to do anymore. And I

Starting point is 00:03:48 ran to the ground and I had a moment of, I don't know how I'm going to get out of this. And if you've been listening to the podcast long enough, you know, this moment is when I was sitting there and I was living off of pasta for two months. I was five, five months behind in my car payment and my car is about to get repossessed. And I was sitting there and I was like, I don't know how I got here. I don't know what I'm supposed to do to get myself out of here. There's no one that I know to ask for help. And I don't want to be doing this anymore. All of the money that I did have, I had saved about $40,000 about eight months before then I used into my business. I lost all of it. The marketing money didn't come back. So I was at a point where I didn't have anything. I was negative. I was

Starting point is 00:04:30 overdrafting non-sufficient funds in my bank account. So they're charging me 40 bucks for every charge, even though I didn't have the money inside of my bank account. And so I thought it's so crazy to think about how different my life is now compared to how my life was then. And then I thought to myself, man, the thing that has allowed me to get to where I am is this absolute obsession with always wanting to be better, always wanting to improve, never thinking to myself that where I was was going to be my final destination. Like just the thought of myself of, I know that if I work on myself, I can make this better. And I want to tell you that I was right. I won't often say that I was right, but there was

Starting point is 00:05:19 something inside of me. There was a gut feeling of, if you just keep working on yourself, Rob, it's going to work out. If you just keep working on yourself, it's going to work out. And it did. And I can say that I love where I am. I love, I'm proud of myself for all the stuff that I've done. I'm proud of myself for the business and the achievements and all of those things. And I don't say it to brag. I just say it because I know that no matter where you are, you can feel the same. You can do the same. Now you're not going to get it right away. Might take you some time, but I promise you it'll be worth it. And then what popped up to my, into my head was with all of that personal development, all this knowledge that's inside of my head, that's something that can never be taken away from me ever, right? Like my house can be taken away, you know, my computer, my car, my everything, my camera that I'm shooting

Starting point is 00:06:12 this on, the microphone I'm speaking into, the computer that's recording it, all that stuff, it can all be taken away. The one thing that can never be taken from me is the knowledge that I've built up over years and years and years of working on myself. And that's the most important thing. And the reason why is because that means I can always get it back. None of that knowledge can be taken away from me. So people want to buy things and they want to do all of this stuff. But I think what's really important is trying to improve yourself at every single moment. So then I had another quick little flashback and I thought to myself, man, when did this personal personal development journey start when did this personal development journey start when was it and I thought to myself I remember hiring my very first mentor I paid

Starting point is 00:06:56 him 500 bucks a month when I was 19 turning 20 years old I've only paid 350 dollars in rent at that time and I thought to myself while I was still outside so my birth it's my own damn own damn birthday. And I'm thinking this deep, right? There's all my friends all around pool party, all of this stuff. Everyone's hanging out outside. I'm going into these deep thoughts like I always do. Cause I'm so freaking philosophical. Right. And then, so I'm thinking to myself, Oh man, I know when it really kicked off and it really kicked off when my mentor told me to read a book. And hopefully this book sales just spike up like crazy today. But the book is called The Five Major Pieces to the Life Puzzle. And it's a super, super short book. For those of you guys that are looking, you know, on video, it's this book right here. It's a short little tiny book. For those of you

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Starting point is 00:09:22 if the universe is ever going to give me messages. It's going to be now. And I believe that if I go pick up a book and I open up to a page, that's a message I need to have. So I went in and my freaking birthday party is still going on at this point, guys. My birthday is still happening. And I'm walking inside of my freaking house to go see if the universe wants to give me any messages for my 35th birthday. I walk into the house and lo and behold, the universe decided to give me a message. I'm flipping through the pages and I'm like, you know what? I'm just going to pick one. And I just open up to a page. The page that I opened up to, I don't remember, I was looking for it. I didn't get enough time to look for it to find the actual quote, but it said something along the lines of don't underestimate where you can be in 10 years by dedicating work into yourself every single day and trying to improve every single day.

Starting point is 00:10:15 And for me, it was like this message of you did pretty good. You're still doing great. Like you might not be where your final destination is, but you're doing pretty pretty good. You're still doing great. Like you might not be where your final destination is, but you're doing pretty damn good. And it was an, it was eyeopening for me. Cause I remember where I was when I wrote, like when I highlighted that, cause I highlighted the hell out of this book. Very first book I ever had, I highlighted it. I took notes, all of that stuff. And that's what really started me into reading. It's also really started me into highlighting and making notes. And I thought to myself, I remember where I was when I highlighted that. This is the time machine I'm telling you

Starting point is 00:10:50 about. I had this flashback to, I remember when I was selling Cutco, selling knives in people's houses, and I was waiting for someone to show up to her appointment and she was late. And so I went back into my car and I was inside of my 2000, I think it was actually, no, what was it? It was a, it was a 1999 Nissan Sentra. It was all beat up, looked like crap. And I remember I was highlighting this part of never underestimate what 10 years of work in yourself every single day will get you.

Starting point is 00:11:20 It's like the compound effect. It's just little tiny improvements over years and years and years put you in a completely different place. And that was 15 years ago that I was reading that. And I thought to myself, what if I never read this book? What if I never hired my very first mentor? What if I decided to quit my job early instead of opening a franchise with a business? What if I decided to go the easy route? What if I decided to not follow my heart? What if I decided to finish college instead of dropping out? What if I decided to go the route that I was supposed to go, the things I was supposed to do? What if I would have listened to society instead of listening to my gut? And I thought to myself, my life could have been in a completely different circumstance than it is right now if I would have gone the easier routes. But

Starting point is 00:12:12 one thing that I've done consistently is I've always followed my heart on what I felt was the right thing to do. Most of the time, I'll be honest with you, it didn't logically make sense. Majority of the time, it didn't logically make sense. But for some reason, in my gut, in my heart, it felt like it was the right thing to do. And so what did I do? I just decided to follow it because I thought, this feels right. Let me at least see what happens. Dropping out of college to start a business, that didn't logically make a whole lot of

Starting point is 00:12:44 sense. There weren't a whole lot of people at my age, you know, that, that time I was 23, they were dropping out of college. Yeah, I was 23. I still wasn't done with college for all of you guys that are judging me, right? I was, I was, I was going the long route in college, 23, dropping out of college so that they could go and open their own business. Right. Normally at that time, people are trying to graduate college so that they can get into some company, right? It didn't logically make sense for me to start a podcast. It didn't logically make sense for me to start posting stuff on Instagram that was

Starting point is 00:13:13 inspirational. Didn't logically make sense for me to try to start making viral videos, right? But all of those things added up to where I am now. Once again, I'm not telling you any of this stuff to brag. I'm telling you this just to give you my own personal experience of what I've noticed works really well in my life. And what it is, is sometimes, you know, looking at the way that you're quote unquote supposed to go and saying, you know what, that's not what I want to do. I know there's some people out here that are listening to me right now that are in college and they're thinking about dropping out and nobody's supporting them, but something feels right about it. I know there's some of you that are listening and you're thinking about leaving a relationship because it feels like that's what's supposed to happen. It feels

Starting point is 00:13:53 like you're being restricted, but it doesn't logically make sense. I know there's some people that are out there that are, you have the feeling that you want to quit your job and start your own business and it doesn't logically make sense, but inside of your gut, inside of your heart, it makes sense. I know there's some people out there that are, you know, you had a little bit of money saved up and the only thing you truly want to do right now is travel. So you want to quit so that you can do it. It doesn't logically make sense, but in your heart, it makes sense. And I want you to realize that following your heart is always the right choice. I've been in all of those situations, right? The dropping out of college, been in that situation. I've been in the situation

Starting point is 00:14:30 of needing to break up with somebody. I've been in the situation of quitting my job to start my own business. I've been in the situation of quitting a job to go travel for three months and backpack around Europe by myself. Even though none of those things logically seem to make sense at that point in time in my life. They all felt right. And I think that one thing we all need to get better at is listening to our gut, thinking about what feels right versus what doesn't, what logically makes sense. Because ultimately, as I always say, your gut is your, their gut feeling is your emotional compass, right? Your brain tries to keep you out of danger. It tries to keep you out into your comfort zone.

Starting point is 00:15:04 So it doesn't try, it tries to change as little as possible. Your gut though, your gut knows what's supposed to happen. And when you stay in places that you're not supposed to stay in, you can feel yourself getting more depressed or slowly slipping away. Or in, you know, what I always say is the way that I felt in certain aspects when I was working for somebody, when I knew I shouldn't be, I want to start my business was felt like I was, my soul was just slowly dying inside of me. And so I want you to realize that a couple of things that I've realized from this time machine, from this flashback, from this 35th birthday, when I went on this really deep thought process, deep thought process. Was that number one? Working on yourself is always going to pay off.

Starting point is 00:15:55 There's never a downside to working on yourself, right? Invest the time, the money, the energy into yourself because there is no better ROI than working on yourself. I absolutely promise you that. I've invested into a lot of different things. I've invested a lot of different things for myself, into companies, into real estate. I still, to this day, have not found anything that gives me a better return than putting money into my own development, business development, personal development, mindset, whatever it is that I'm doing. That's the first thing I'll say to you. And it compounds over years and years and years and years and years. So that when you look back, like I am at 35 and see yourself at 20 years old, 15 years later, you go, holy shit, Rob, yes. Thank you for having this little gut feeling that you followed. Thank you for reading the books when you didn't need to read the books.

Starting point is 00:16:42 Thank you for paying $500 a month for your very first mentor when you didn't really even have the money to do it. None of it logically makes sense, but thank you for being wise enough to do that. Thank you. The second thing that I'll say is this, stop thinking so much of your head and start thinking more with your heart because it's going to tell you where you need to go. It will. And if you stop listening to your gut, if you stop listening to your heart, eventually it's going to stop communicating with you. It's going to stop

Starting point is 00:17:13 telling you because there's pointless at that point. So if you have an urging, if you have a feeling, something feels right, it always is right. So work on yourself. Dedicate your life to working on yourself. Don't give up on yourself. And when things get hard, ask yourself what your gut feeling is and try to think of that and follow that path. And I promise you, it will never lead you down the wrong path. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it with someone that you know and love. And please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. The only way that we grow is from you guys sharing it. So I greatly appreciate you guys whenever you do share it. And we're almost at

Starting point is 00:17:58 300,000 followers on Instagram. And when I do hit 300,000 followers on Instagram, I'm going to be giving out some pretty amazing prizes on my Instagram. So you're going to want to make sure that you're following me as well, but I'm going to leave it the same way. Leave you every single episode, make it your mission, make someone else's day better. I appreciate you. And I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - The Moment My Life Changed

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