The Mindset Mentor - The Only Way To Change the World

Episode Date: January 22, 2020

In this episode, I am going to teach you how to change the world. The only problem, though, is it is not the strategy that you want to hear...Follow me on Instagram @RobDialJr https://www.instagram.com/robdialjr/Check out Skillshare https://www.skillshare.com/mindset Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host Rob Dial. And before we dive into today's episode, once again, if you are interested in joining my team as a salesperson, I am interested in having you apply and having a conversation with you possibly. So what we're looking for is a minimum of two years of sales experience, proven success in sales. Please don't apply if you don't have any experience in sales at all. If you happen to live in Austin, Texas, that is a plus, but it's not required, but you just must live somewhere in the US.

But you got to be motivated, driven. You got to have the hustle mentality. You got to be extremely, extremely coachable because I'm going to teach you my system personally. You got to be outgoing, great communication skills, and obsessed with personal development. And you'll listen to this podcast. So obviously you are listening to this podcast. You are pretty motivated and you probably do want the best life you possibly can. So if you want a better position in sales and you have sales experience, go to mindsetjobs.com. That's mindsetjobs.com. You can apply there.

And I would love to have a conversation with you about being a salesperson for me. So let's go ahead and dive in. We're going to talk about how to change the world today. Yeah, you know, just a little tiny thing, how to change the world. And I had a call with a client that made me think of this. And he's going to hear it and be like, oh, damn it, this is me. But I had a call with a client, made me think of this. And basically what we were talking about is he asked the question, how do I help my mom be less stressed? And we can all relate to that, most of us. My mom is stressed out sometimes. She doesn't stress as much as she used to. But there's a lot of times where we want to help the people around us. We want to help them improve. We've gotten into personal development. We're learning. We're growing. We want to help the people around us learn and grow

and be happier because we found, you know, this little bit of peace in this growth and learning that we can grow. But you have to realize that the way that you get other people to grow is not by trying to force them to grow, is not by trying to tell them about how much growth you have had and not by getting them all of the books that they're supposed to be. You can't see my air quotes supposed to be reading or getting them tickets to the Tony Robbins or all of those things and forcing it on them. Right. And so when he's asking the question to me of how to help his mother be less stressed, my answer was this, he needs to be less stressed. It's interesting because the things that we want

most for ourselves, we also want to teach to other people or we want those around us to have as well, thinking that maybe they'll do the hard work for me, right? Here's the thing though, no one will ever take advice from somebody who doesn't seem to be qualified. So if he is stressing out throughout the day, why would his mom take his advice? If she can visually see him stressing out or she can energetically feel him stressing out, why would she take his advice on how to stop stressing out? You know, you wouldn't take advice from a homeless person on how to become a billionaire, right?

You wouldn't take advice from a single person on how to have a successful marriage. And you wouldn't, you know, take advice from someone who's overweight on how to work out. Now, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being homeless or being single or being overweight. There's nothing wrong. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with those. So if you happen to be any of those or all of them, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being homeless or being single or being overweight. There's nothing wrong. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with those. So if you happen to

be any of those or all of them, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you. But what I'm saying is you're not going to take advice from somebody who is not already that, right? And you're also usually not going to take advice that you haven't asked for. That's another thing is that we so often find something that we love. And I've done this. I'm saying this because I've done it myself. Find something we love. And I try to tell everyone about it. I try to get everyone to do it in the best way to get somebody to the surefire way to

get somebody to not do something is to try to force it on them. Right? Here's the interesting thing, though. I've put a lot of work into myself the past 14, 15 years now. And guess what a lot of friends of mine have been coming up to me for advice for on how to grow, how to be less stressed, how to grow their business, how to grow a following, all of these things that I about going to conferences or reading books. I don't even talk about any of the stuff that I talk about on the podcast. And so I'm just a normal person to them. But when they see they've known me for five, six, seven, eight years, and they've seen the trajectory of where I've gone as a person, where my business has gone, where my family's gone, where my impact has gone, all of those things, naturally, they come to me for a

little bit of advice. Now, if I were to just sit on top of my soapbox and preach to them and say, hey, this is what you should do, this is what you should do, this is what you should do, nobody would do it. And it goes perfectly with the Gandhi quote. Gandhi says, be the change that you want to see in the world. Be the change that you want to see in the world. I got another one for you. How about be the change that you want to see in the ones around you? So if you're wanting somebody to be less stressed out around you, how stressed out are you? Are you wanting somebody to be more into personal development around you? Well, how into personal development are you? And how much have they been able to see it change? Not just you reading, not just you going to the conferences, but how much have they seen you

as a person change over the past year, two years, three years? Think about that for a second. Don't preach or push your agenda. Change yourself. And if you change yourself, others around you will start to change. If you want to change the other one, other people around you, you must change. You must work on yourself. So if you're trying to impact somebody around you, you know, let's just use this example. Let's say that someone else around you is always stressed out or they always worry about something. What type of example are you setting for them? Because nobody will take advice from someone who doesn't seem qualified. But if you will go, you know what, the next six months, the next year, I'm going to focus on growing myself as much as possible. I'm going to grow myself as much as possible this year.

And you just do it in silence. You don't tell anybody about it. You don't preach and put on Facebook and Instagram stories about all of the stuff that you're doing. You just do it. Do it in silence. And then you can succeed. And people start seeing, man, I've noticed a big change in John. I've noticed a big change in Ryan and Sarah, whatever your name is. I've noticed a big change in him or her. What the hell are they doing?

That's how you inspire people. You become the lighthouse. You may have heard me talk about the lighthouse versus the towboat before. If you look at the lighthouse and the towboat, both of them do the same thing. Their job is to get ships into the harbor. That's it. They just have a very different way of doing it. How does a towboat do it? A towboat goes out and it gets all of the ships that it needs to, and it puts all of its force and its energy and everything that it can into getting a ship into a harbor. It still gets it into the harbor, but it does it, you know, by putting a lot of force, using a lot of energy to do so. How does a lighthouse do it? A lighthouse does one thing.

It stands in its place and it does its job. It shines, but it still gets all of the ships that it needs to into the harbor. So then ask yourself this question. When you're around people, are you more of the lighthouse where you just show up as the best version of yourself? Not the perfect version because you'll never be perfect, but a more and improved version. You know, if your friends were to see you in two months at a party or at a get together or a wedding, would they be like, what the hell happened to her? What the hell happened to him? They're so much different than they were two months ago. I want to be like that.

And what happens is when you let your light shine, as Marianne Williamson says in her quote, when you let yourself shine, you unconsciously give others the permission to do the same as well. So instead of forcing them to try to shine their light, why don't you shine as bright as you possibly can and be an example versus sitting on top of a soapbox? Gandhi says, be the change that you want to see the world, but you should also be the change that you want to see in others around you and others that are in the world. Don't try to change the world. Okay. Don't try to change the world. You will not do it. There's 7.5 billion people on this earth. You're not going to change the world, but what you can do

is you can, the one thing that you can control is you, yourself, and that is it. And you can work at yourself every single day and improve yourself every single day. Improve your mind, improve your body, improve your health, improve your mentality, your fitness, your love, your joy, your inner peace, your meditation, improve yourself. And naturally people are going to go, what the hell is he or she doing? And that, that's where you get them. Because what's happening is there's proof. If you want to become a millionaire, ask a millionaire how to become a millionaire. If you want to have a very successful marriage, ask somebody who's been married for 40 years. If you want to get in really good shape, you're going to ask somebody who has the perfect body, the body that you want. What do you do? What do you eat? How often do you

sleep? What supplements do you take? Because success leaves clues. People want to look at someone who's already achieved something and follow them. But people don't want to take advice from somebody on how to be less stressed when they know that the person who's giving the advice is stressed. That doesn't make any sense. And so what I want you to think about today is how do you want to change the world around you? What aspects of the world do you see? Maybe it's that people don't accept others as much as you feel like they should. Okay. Well then how are you showing up in the world and how are you showing up in how much you're accepting people or not accepting people? Maybe you want to see people be more loving. Okay. Well, how loving are you? Can you be more loving? Maybe you want to see people be more loving. Okay. Well, how loving are you? Can you be more loving? Maybe you want to see happier people. Okay. Well, what about your

happiness? Are you showing your happiness? Are you out there being happy and people can visually see it? Whatever it is that you're fed up with in this world, the way to change the world is to change yourself and be an example of what people need to do in order to get to where they want to be. If you look at people like Gandhi, Gandhi wasn't the type of guy that would go out and say, you need to change this, you need to change this, you need to change this. He worked on himself the best that he possibly could. If you look at Martin Luther King Jr., what did he do? He did what he felt was right. And did he inspire people? Hell yeah, he inspired people. Why?

Because he was working on doing what he felt was right and becoming the best version of Martin Luther King that he possibly could. And it's countless examples. I could give you an example of every single person that you've probably ever looked up to in the world, no matter how influential they were, or maybe they were just someone

that was in your close proximity. That's the way to change the world is to, to start to pay attention to those people and go, what is it that I, what is it that I love and admire about them? And I bet it's, I bet they don't get on top of their soapbox and preach about the things that they need to do. The person that I respect probably the most, and I want to be most like hopefully by the day that I die, it's my grandfather, right? My grandfather was the kindest person I've ever met. Literally when someone says, oh, this person would give you the shirt off their back. Literally he would have given me the shirt off of his back. His very last meal was his favorite. I remember I literally wrote this in my journal the night

that he died. I was in the room and it was before he had passed away. And, you know, I actually was in the room when he passed away that night. And, um, and we were eating his favorite lobster bisque from my cousin's place. And, uh, we were eating it and it was, you know, everybody had gone home. He had the entire family, like 40 people came back into town for it and everything. He was in hospice and he knew he was going to die. And, um, he didn't know it was going to be his last meal. And it was my, myself, my mom, my cousin, and my grandfather. And he was going to die and he didn't know it was going to be his last meal. And it was myself, my mom, my cousin,

and my grandfather. And he was eating this lobster bisque and all of us had the lobster bisque. We're all eating there and we're all just talking and having fun and the thought came into my head, if I finished my lobster bisque

and then I literally went up to my grandfather and said, hey grandpa, I finished my lobster bisque. Can I have yours? He would have said yes. And I said, hey, grandpa, I finished my lobster bisque. Can I have yours? He would have said yes. He would have actually said yes to giving somebody who just finished the entire bowl of lobster bisque his lobster bisque. Why? Because he took more joy in someone else's happiness

over his own. His source of happiness came from other people being happy. Right now, he was the change that he wanted to see in the world. He inspired the hell out of me for me to want to be that way. Well, just think about how many people I come in contact with. This podcast, the Facebook, the Instagram, all that stuff. And even if you don't have a podcast or Facebook or Instagram and, you know, a Instagram, all that stuff. And even if you don't have a podcast or Facebook or Instagram and, you know, a big massive following that you're trying to impact, you're still coming in contact with 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 people every single day. What do you need to do to change yourself? What do you want to change in the world?

Look at that. And that is a mirror for what you need to change in yourself. So as Gandhi said, be the change that you want to see in the world. Whatever it is that you want the world to change into, you need to become that first. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share with someone that you know and love. And once again, I love you guys for sharing this on your Instagram as much as you have been. It's been amazing. I've gotten so many people that have reached out to me and there's so many cool videos and I get to see your guys' faces and see you talking. So if you love this, please take

a screenshot of you listening to it, put it up on Instagram, tag me in it, Rob Dial Jr. R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And not only will you be sharing it, I'll be able to see you. You can see me. We can connect and send messages back and forth, but also you'll be spreading the message of these podcasts so more people can listen to them. So that's all I got for you for today.

And I'm gonna leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you, the person listening to this. I appreciate you. And I hope that you have an amazing day.