The Mindset Mentor - The Truth is You're Lying to Yourself

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Starting point is 00:02:19 It's a result of the story that you tell yourself. Everything that you do and everything that you don't do is to stay in alignment with the story that you tell yourself. Let me repeat that because I think it's important. Everything that you do and everything that you don't do is to stay in alignment with the story that you tell yourself in your head. See, this story is developed through your entire childhood and it's stored in your subconscious. It might have been something that happened to you that caused a limiting belief in your head and now it's just a limiting belief that you carry with you.

Starting point is 00:02:54 It is everything that happened to you. It's everything that all of the nature, all of the nurture, everything. And everything that you do, once again, will be to stay consistent with that story, whether you do it consciously or whether you do it unconsciously, it will be to stay consistent with that story. So the question that we need to find out is what is the story that you've been telling yourself your whole life? What's the story you've been telling yourself your whole life? Because everything that you do will be to stay consistent with that story you tell yourself. It's just like the paradigm that I talk about in episode 85. When I talk about the law of attraction, the paradigm will kick out any

Starting point is 00:03:37 thought, anything that pops into your head that's not consistent with your current views. So what is the story? Is it that you are not smart enough? Is it that you're not good looking enough? Is it that you're not fit enough? Is it that success is hard? Is it that wanting a lot of money is selfish or that money is the root of all evil or that you have to live paycheck to paycheck because that's how it works? Or is it that you don't deserve success or that you don't deserve love? Is it that you're not enough? is it that you don't deserve success or that you don't deserve love? Is it that you're not enough? Is it that you'll never be enough? Is it that you're always going to be fat? You're always going to be overweight. You're always going to be stupid.

Starting point is 00:04:14 Is it that you don't deserve happiness? What is it? You need to find out what it is. And it's a very important question. It might be the most important question you ever ask yourself is, what is the story that I'm telling myself that's holding myself back? And unless we identify exactly what that story is and absolutely crush it and crush that limiting belief, nothing in our lives will change. So unless we say, damn, what is it that has been holding me back? What am I telling myself subconsciously or consciously that's holding me back? What am I telling myself subconsciously or consciously that's holding me back from what I really want? And unless we do that, unless we identify it and then absolutely crush that limiting belief in that story that we're telling ourselves,

Starting point is 00:04:55 then nothing in our lives will change. If you're not satisfied with where your life is right now, I'm going to be completely honest with you and I I'm sorry to say it. Nothing is going to change. Absolutely nothing is going to change unless you figure out what the story that you tell yourself is and figure out a way to overcome that. And what you see is this. The story is like a breaker switch. And a breaker switch will completely shut off anything. So if it's a surge, say a huge amount of surge of... The way a breaker switch works inside of a house, let's say you have a house and lightning strikes right next to us and a huge amount of electricity goes into your house,

Starting point is 00:05:35 that breaker switch will then turn everything off before that electricity can go into your house and make all of the electronics explode. So that's the exact same way that this story works inside of your head as well. It's like a breaker switch. It will shut off any good or any good change that might be coming in to knock you back to the story that you tell yourself. So for example, if you're overweight, if your family's overweight, if everyone you know is overweight, if you've always been overweight and you grew up overweight, the story you might be telling yourself is that obesity runs in your family. When in reality, hey, it might run in your family. In reality, it might not run in your family. It might just be that obesity doesn't run in your family. It could be that nobody runs in your family, if you've ever heard that joke before. So what is the story? It might be that

Starting point is 00:06:22 you say, well, obesity runs my family, so I'll always be this way. I'll never be able to get into better shape. And what you have to realize is if that's the story, then you will never change. Nothing will ever change. Your weight will never change unless you change that story. And this can be used for anything, but I'm just using weight as an example. So if your weight is normally 200 pounds and you were to weigh yourself one day and you are magically 190 pounds, you would be so freaking excited. I know that you would. You'd be happy, but subconsciously that story is going to creep

Starting point is 00:06:55 back into your head of, I have obesity though. Obesity runs in my family. That will creep back into your head and slowly but surely, you will start making the wrong decisions and taking the wrong actions with food or with not working out in order to get back to 200 pounds because that is your story. Your story is that's where you're supposed to be and everything that you do will make sure that you're consistent with that. Same thing with money. If your story is that money is hard to come by or that you have to live paycheck to paycheck or that money is the root of all evil or wanting a lot of money is selfish, any of those things, well, then you will do everything that you can subconsciously, consciously, whether you know

Starting point is 00:07:36 that you're doing it or not doing it, you will do everything that you can to detract money away from you. You will make the decisions to not make more money. You will be lazy to not make more money. You will tell yourself you're not good enough so you won't go to that job interview that you know that you can make more money. It's the same with money. It's the same with relationships. It's the same with happiness. It's the same with everything, whatever the story is that you're telling yourself. So the question is, what is the story that you're telling yourself? And I really want you, and I keep repeating this over and over again for a reason, I want you to really think about this because this is some really deep-ish right here. This is reaching deep down inside, finding

Starting point is 00:08:16 out exactly what it is that's holding you back from your true potential and being completely unstoppable because this is a story that's holding you back from being exactly who you want to be. You are limited by the story that you tell yourself. So if you can identify what that story is, then we can start making action steps to overcome that story. The best part about it is if you're telling yourself the story, well, then we can now figure out a way to change that story, to change your beliefs and to change change your fears to start working towards making a new story, the story that you want to actually tell yourself. And in the next episode, we'll talk about fear and how to identify them, how to overcome them from holding you back, because usually that's a big part of that story

Starting point is 00:09:01 as well. And if we can figure out a way to overcome fears and identify those fears with the story, then we can make the steps that we need to obviously to start changing your story to change your future as well. So the most important part is to identify your story. What is the story that you've been telling yourself? And I want you to think about it and I want you to figure it out before the next episode, before you listen to the next episode on fear, because you need to identify your story because that is the thing that's going to limit you. Your story is going to limit you and we can't overcome it unless we identify it first. So with that, I want to leave you guys the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - The Truth is You're Lying to Yourself

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