The Mindset Mentor - The Universe Wants to Make Your Dreams Come True

Episode Date: June 30, 2021

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dylance. You have not yet done so. Hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. Today, we're going to be talking about why the world is conspiring to make your dreams come true. Now, some of you might be listening to me and be like, oh, that's a bunch of bullshit. I've had so many struggles in my life and my dad was this way. My mom was this way. My spouse is this way. My children are this way. I was given this set of circumstances, but just roll with me for a minute. Let's see what we can stir up. Okay. We've all heard the phrase paranoia before, right? Like you've heard someone is paranoid. What does that mean? That means that somebody

thinks that the world is out to get them. They think that, you know, I had someone in my family who has a paranoia disorder. And this person, since they were a child, has thought that the world was out to get them. They thought, you know, that they were being, when they went out and got candy for Halloween, they thought that maybe somebody might've put poison inside of it. So it's continued to persist their entire life. And now they're in their sixties and they still have issues with this simply because they have paranoia disorder, right? So paranoia is the world is out to get me and I have to always be on guard and make sure that I don't get screwed over. Something along those lines, right? That's paranoia. Did you know that there's another phrase that is the opposite of that? It's called pronoia. Pronoia is the exact opposite of

instead of the world is out to get me, it is everything that is happening around me is conspiring to make my life better. What do you think your life would be like, your viewpoint on the world, if you thought that everything in your life was conspiring to make your dreams come true? What if you wrote something down on a piece of paper and you set your intention? You said, you know what? This piece of paper is going to happen. This goal is going to happen. And every single thing that happens to me, no matter what it is, no matter good or bad, every single person that I meet,

every single action that I take, all of it is conspiring to make my dreams come true. How would your viewpoint on your life change? If you had pro-noia, what if you just woke up and you just thought that everything was conspiring to make your dreams come true? How much better would you feel? Just think about that for a second. Instead of waking up and being like, oh shit, I don't want to wake up right now.

I'd rather go back to sleep. If you woke up and you're like, hell yes, I can't wait to leave my house so that I can see what gifts the universe has for me. Now you might be listening, I'd be like, that would be an amazing mindset. I wish that I could have that mindset. I wish that I felt that way and I didn't have these negative feelings or judgments or this blame that I put externally and other things that are outside of my circumstances. But every single person listening or watching right now has the opportunity to have pro

noia, to switch their mindset into seeing every single thing that happens to them, good or bad, as the universe conspiring to make your dreams come true, to make your life better, to make more good happen in your life. Going through challenges is never easy. Ever. Ever. It's never easy. Like when I look back of all of the challenges that I've had in my lifetime, I was never like, hell yeah, this is amazing. I'm so stoked to go through this shit right now. There was never a point in my life where I was stoked to go through challenges. But if you were to ask me right now, if I would go back and change any of them,

the answer is no. I actually had somebody ask me last week. They said, hey, listen, if you could bring your dad back from dying, would you do it? And I thought about it for a while and I said, I wouldn't. Not because I don't miss my dad.

Miss my dad, I wish he would have been here. It would be amazing to have conversation with him. It'd be cool to just chat now as a man and him being a man and just see what it would be like. But if he were to be here, all of the stuff that I've learned, the path that I've taken in life would have been different. So I don't wish that he were here. I don't want to change it. And so when you look at that and you think, okay, when I look back personally, I'll just tell you my personal experience. When I look back at my father's death, it was the worst day of my life. It was also the best day of my life. It wasn't the best day of my life for a long time. It was the worst day of my life for a long time. He was the first person I knew that passed away. Never

met anybody else that passed away before then. other people have passed away since then, obviously. But it was the very first time that a lot of things happened. The very first time that I had somebody close to me die. The very first time that I saw a dead body. It was also the very first time that I ever spoke publicly, right? I gave a eulogy, unplanned eulogy at my dad's funeral when I was 15. The funeral ended and I just felt the feeling that I needed to say something. So I said, hey, I turned to my mom and said, hey, can I say something? And she literally got the guy who was running the funeral, the pastor, whatever the hell he was. She's like, he wants to say something. I got up and I don't know what the fuck I was going to say,

but I just said something, right? But the first time I actually spoke in front of people, right? There was a lot of firsts that happened. And then I started noticing that a lot of things in my life changed because of that. It was the very first time I experienced death. So therefore, it brought a lot more urgency to everything that I did. It brought a lot more meaning to every single day. I would not be doing what I do now. 100% would not be doing what I do now, I don't believe. Had my father never passed away, which means lives would have never been impacted had my father never passed away, which means that people's lives would have been impacted, downloads wouldn't have happened, videos wouldn't have been made, employees wouldn't be had right now in my business.

All of this stuff would have never happened had he not passed away. So it was the worst day of my life, but it was also the best day of my life because it changed the trajectory of my life completely. And I love where my life is right now. So would I change it if I could? The answer is no. And so I want you to think back to the most challenging part of your life. Maybe you're going through it right now and it's kind of hard to go through. Maybe you went through it a year ago, two years ago, three years ago. Can you look back at that event and see all of the good that has come from it and see the resilience that it built up inside of you and see that in a way it was the universe throwing a challenge at you so that you could become stronger, so that you could learn a lesson,

so that you could grow from it, so that you could impact other people's lives from it, so that you could help other people once they go through the exact same situation? Is it possible for you to look at that hard event and find some sort of way to turn it into something positive? I bet it is. If you were to look long and hard enough, maybe not even long and hard enough, you could find some positivity in it. And that's the beautiful thing about it. That's the beautiful thing about pro noia is that when it happened, when my father passed away when I was 15, wasn't happy about it, wasn't stoked, was terrible. But if I were to look back 20 years ago this year, November 1st would be 20 years, I would not change anything that happened simply because so much good has come

from it because it changed me in so many ways. The events that have happened in your life, all of them have been given to you as a gift for you to learn, for you to extract lessons, and for you to become more resilient and become stronger. That's pretty awesome, isn't it? How amazing is the universe for giving you those gifts? How much does your life change when you see them as gifts and not challenges? Hey, when running a business, HR issues can kill you. Wrongful termination suits, minimum wage requirements, labor regulations, and HR manager salaries are not cheap. An average is $75,000 a year. Bambi, spelled B-A-M-B-E-E, was created specifically

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slash dial spelled B-A-M-B-E-E.com slash dial. Okay. What about life experiences, good and bad? What if all of them are just gifts given to you so that you can learn and grow and you can bring out your full potential the way that you need to? One of the things that happens with a lot of people is they have a bad life experience and they close off from it instead of figuring out what they need to learn from it and seeing, you know what, this isn't the way that I would have chosen for it to be, but the universe brought this to me or God brought this to me or whatever it is that you believe in, brought this to me because God, the universe, whatever you believe in would never give you something that you can't handle. So it is literally the maximum amount of weight that I can curl. I am struggling to get through

it. It hurts my muscles. Their fibers are tearing, but I'm given this because it is the maximum that I can carry. And it will make me stronger in the long run. Your life experiences. It's not easy to go through the things when you go through them. But you know something great is going to come from it. What else do we have? We have the people in your life. Think about all of the people in your life.

What if the universe gifted you every single person? Whether they're playing a tiny role in your life or whether they're playing a tiny role in your life or whether they're playing a huge role in your life. And it was a gift given to you so that you can learn whatever it is that you need to, to be able to grow into whoever it is you're supposed to be. I remember probably the fifth time I did ayahuasca, which is a psychedelic, the message that I got, one of the messages I got on that night was that every single person you've ever come in contact with was a teacher brought into your life to help you grow. And I saw my entire life flash before my eyes, every single person I've ever seen, even somebody who

just opened the door and I walked past them and never had a conversation, right? That is still somebody that came into my life as a teacher in some sort of way. And the thing that it said to me is the people who are the biggest struggle for you to deal with are your biggest teachers. And I was like, oh shit, because immediately a couple of people popped into my head. And this was three years ago and I still have some struggles with them. It's better than it used to be, but they test me. And that is just another weight to put on for me to try to curl, to get this muscle, my mindset muscle stronger. Thank you universe for bringing me this person who triggers me every freaking time that I talk to them so that I can learn where I'm not free. Because where I'm

triggered, I'm not free. And the one thing that I know about humans is that we want to be free. And this person's triggering me and I can feel the emotion and maybe the rage or the anger build up inside of me when this person triggers me. They are a gift from the universe showing me where I need to improve myself. Thank you so much for bringing me this. How does that change your mind? Thank you. Thank you for bringing me this. The people that you love, they're also gifts in your life to teach you what it is that you need to do, how you need to show up. You can extract the good lessons from people, the lessons from the people that are good. You can extract the lessons from the people that are bad or that are the ones that trigger you or ends up being a lot harder with them. You can extract lessons from everything that you do. Thank you, universe. Thank you. Thank you. One of the things I've been telling myself a lot harder with them. You can extract lessons from everything that you do. Ah, thank you, universe. Thank you, thank you.

One of the things I've been telling myself a lot, I'll just walk around the house and I say, thank you. Thank you. And I've been training myself to say this, just to feel more gratitude for every single thing. Because all too often we just get something amazing. You have a card that you've been wanting to get for so long and you get it and you're excited about the first day

and the next day you're pretty excited about it. And then the next day you're decently excited about it. And then the next day you're not as excited about it. And then two months down the road, you're like, oh, it's just my car, right? It just becomes normal at that point. Instead of being like, oh my God, look at how great my car is. Even if your car is not amazing, you still have a car. There's many people that don't.

There's so many things in your life to be grateful for. What if you just woke up and said, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. When you have that mindset of just saying thank you more often, you start noticing the things to be grateful for that you're missing. I have a million things to be grateful for. I could walk through my entire house and just find a million different little teeny tiny things that I'm grateful for. There's just so many things to be grateful for. And when I say thank you, thank you, thank you, I'm actually setting my mindset

to actually think about that. And you may have heard it in the podcast episode that I just did recently with Aubrey Marcus, where he talks about he dated a girl who said, you know, he said that she was addicted to gratitude in a good way. Like she was just grateful for everything. And that's a beautiful thing to be addicted to, right?

Because we're all addicted to something. We're all addicted to something in some way. Now, it might not be drugs or alcohol. It could be working out. It could be work. It could be stress. It could be sex. It could be video games.

We're all addicted to something. It could be coffee. We're all addicted to something in some way. Our body likes to have the same chemicals. So if I get really mad at something over, if I have rage, rage, rage every single day, my body's going to start to become addicted to that. We're creating our own pharmacy inside of us. So my body's going to be addicted to that. Same way if I drank alcohol every single day, my body's going to become addicted to that chemical inside

of my body, alcohol. If I have rage, rage, rage, rage, rage, rage brings out adrenaline. It brings out cortisol. And if I do it every single day, my body's going to start becoming addicted to those chemicals. And so I'm going to find things to enrage myself. I'm going to find things that make me mad. Or when someone cuts me off, I'm immediately go to rage versus, you know, maybe that person has to poop, right? Whatever it is, there's a big difference between those. But if we're addicted to rage, can we be addicted to gratitude? Can we find every single thing in our life to be grateful for at every single moment? Because when you go into gratitude and you start saying, thank you, thank you for this, thank you for this, thank you for this, thank you for this. And you start

thinking, thank you more often. What you're doing is you're still creating chemicals inside of your body. Dopamine, serotonin, that's actually more serotonin than anything else because serotonin is the feeling of being grateful for what you currently have. So serotonin tends to be the gratitude chemical. So I'm releasing serotonin inside of my brain. If I do this every single day, every single day, every single day, what happens? My body starts becoming addicted to serotonin. And then so I want to find things to be more grateful for every single day and find things to be more grateful for every single day so that my brain continues to start thinking this way. My brain and body continue to keep making

this chemical. And then what happens? I'm just magically happier, more grateful every single day for everything that I do. Man, how amazing would it be to be addicted to gratitude? It is something that you could be addicted to, but it comes down to paranoia, looking at things and saying, you know what? I am grateful for my house. I am grateful for my car. I am grateful for that person who pisses me off and triggers me because they're showing me where I still need to learn. The universe is conspiring to make your dreams come true. The universe is conspiring to make your dreams a reality. It's conspiring to make you better. It is giving you sometimes just the maximum of what you can handle, which can be hard, but it's not going to give you more than you can take. So the magic of it is to go,

how can I switch my mind to be grateful for every single thing in every single moment? And instead of having paranoia, I'm going to have pronoia. I'm going to find out ways that this current circumstance I'm going through is going to benefit me in the long run. And if you live your life that way, I guarantee you, fast forward in five years, fast forward in 10 years, you're going to be a completely different spot, completely different person, feeling completely different and grateful for every single thing that comes into your life. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share with someone that you know and love. Please tag us on your Instagram stories. Tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. I greatly appreciate

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