The Mindset Mentor - The Way You Do Everything

Episode Date: October 4, 2019

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Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. I'm proud to say you're listening to one of the top 100 podcasts in the world. So I appreciate you guys all for listening. I appreciate you guys for all subscribing. And I appreciate you all for giving a rating and review to this podcast as well. And last but not least, before we dive into today's episode, if you have not joined my Habit Mastery 30 Challenge and you're looking to make changes in your life, you feel like you're stuck, you feel like you need something to break the monotony of feeling like you're stuck inside of the mud and the tires are just spinning and not moving. And you have these habits that you have in your life that you know that you need to

break, but you don't know how to do it and you need some help. And you also know there's habits that you want to create, like waking up earlier, going to the gym every day, or eating healthy, or stopping drinking alcohol, whatever these habits might be. You have these habits that you know you need in your life or you need to get out of your life. Join us in the 30 day habit mastery challenge. We're starting October 8th. We're going to be diving into your habits and we're going to be breaking habits and creating habits and tracking them every single day. Myself in a group of hundreds of people, there's already over 250 people in this group. And every single day I'm going to be doing a Facebook Live inside of a private Facebook

group, teaching you how to break your habits, how to create your habits, how it works inside of your brain, and teaching you how to create the life that you want so that you can have a head start into 2020. So if you're interested, go to habits30.com and join us. That's once again, habits with an S at the end 30.com. And that's three zero in case you didn't know habits with an S at the end three zero.com. Okay. So today we're going to be talking about what you do on a daily basis. I had a call with one of my coaching clients earlier today. And, uh, you know, we were talking about his workouts and how he's, he's, you know, since

we've been working together, you know, we're working on it for about two years now and he lost about 35 pounds or so in the first, about six, seven, eight months probably. And now he's at the point where he wants to drop only four more pounds, but he's kind of plateaued. And I was like, all right, tell me about that. Let's dive into it. Let's talk it. Let's talk about this. Cause you know, we can talk about weight. We can talk about business. We can talk about mindset. We could talk about relationships, all of these things. But he said this today and he said, you know, well, what happened is most of, you know, sometimes I'll go into the gym and I'll have this plan to go really hard. And then what I do is I'm

like, you know what? I'm just going to take it easier today. Yeah. I'm going to, I'm going to do a lighter workout. You know what? I'm going to do some cardio. I'm going to do a lot of cardio today. I'm not going to lift heavy. I'm going to do a lot of cardio today. And then I'm going to go in the sauna for like 30 minutes. And what he was doing was he was changing his workout to make it easier on himself. And I said, okay, let me ask you a question. How often does this happen at other places in your life? Like where else in your life does this occur? He's other places in your life? Like where else in your life does this occur? He's like, what do you mean? Where else in your life does it occur that you happen to be taking the easy route? Because by doing some cardio and then hopping inside of the,

um, because, because what he was going for was an hour in the gym. And he originally had planned to work out really hard with weights. He decided to do cardio and then go and do the sauna. I was like, how often does that happen where you, you go in with a plan for something, but you come up short. And I want you to think about that as well, because I, I, I truly believe, you know, I've been coaching people. I've coached hundreds of people. I've, you know, if you consider the groups of people, I've coached hundreds of thousands of people over the past 14 years now. And. I've coached hundreds of people. If you consider the groups of people, I've coached hundreds of thousands of people over the past 14 years now. And what I found that's very common is the way you do one thing is the way you do everything in your life. So if you're coming

up short at the gym, for instance, you're not just coming up short at the gym. You're coming up short in other places of your life. You might be coming up short in work. Maybe you're coming up just a little bit short every single time that you have to turn in some work. Maybe you're coming up a little bit short in your relationship and the way that you're treating your spouse or your boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe you're coming up short in your family. Maybe you're not spending as much time with your kids as you should because you're spending too much time at work. You're coming up short in your family. Maybe you're coming up short in your personal growth. Maybe you're just out there and you're like, you know what? Uh, you know, I'm,

I listened to a podcast. That's good enough. I was planning on reading or I was planning on going to the seminar. I was planning on joining this challenge. I was planning on joining this course or whatever it is that you might be thinking about joining, but I'll just listen to a podcast instead. And you allow yourself to come up short, or maybe you are coming up short in the gym. And so I want to ask you this. I want you to think about one of the things that's really holding you back. Whatever it is, it's really holding you back right now. What is it? If you have a pen and paper, write it down. What is that thing that is holding you back? Okay. And now what I want you to do is I want you to figure out what

it is exactly that's holding you back. Like for instance, in this case with my client, he was coming up short at the gym. So what are you doing in what aspect of your life? And whatever it is that you're doing, ask yourself this question, where else am I doing this in my life? Where else is this happening in my life? So for instance, he was coming up short of the gym. Maybe you're not following through in your promises to your friends. Well, where else are you not following through in your life? Are you not following through at work? Are you not following through in your relationship? Are you not following through in your family? Maybe tell your kids you're going to take them out for ice cream and then you don't because you're too busy or because you're too tired. Maybe you're coming up short and all these different places. Maybe

you're doing this. You're not following through and going to the gym and doing what you say you're going to do. You know, do you do that as well? Do you not do what you say you're going to do in many aspects of your life? You know, do you pass on a challenge or something like that because you're scared of change? Okay. Well, where else are you scared of change? Where else are you trying to keep everything exactly the same because you're afraid of change? Where else is it your work? Are you trying to just stay in the same place and not get fired? Is it your relationship? You're trying not to go too far out of the box or you're afraid of losing that person? You know, are you trying not to push yourself too much in your personal growth? losing that person? You know, are you trying not to push yourself too much in your personal growth?

What is it? You know, if you go and you, you have a plan to, you know, stick specifically seven days in a row with a meal plan and you cheat on that meal plan, you have the idea of, ah, you know, maybe, maybe I'll just have a, maybe I'll just have an ice cream. No big deal. I'll just have an ice cream. Okay. So you have a cheat meal. You cheat on your meal plan. Where else are you cheating in your life? Hopefully not your relationship. Hopefully you're not cheating with your family of, you know, spending more time at work instead of spending enough time with your kids. Hopefully you're not cheating at work and coming up short in your work. Hopefully you're not cheating in your personal growth and saying you're going to read 10 pages, but instead you read five. Hopefully you're not cheating in other places of your life. So ask yourself that question,

where else am I doing this? Where else is this happening in my life? Because it doesn't just happen in one place. You're not perfect in all areas of your life. And then you decide to come up short and take the easy route at the gym. No, this is a pattern that you have in your life. And you need to figure out what that pattern is, number one, and all of the places that it occurs in your life. And then you need to do what you can do to stop this pattern from occurring over and over again. Because it's you that really hold yourself back the most with these. You are holding yourself back.

You are your own worst enemy. You need to figure out what else you're doing. Here's the thing. This is what I love about personal growth. When you're living your life and you're not looking at yourself from the outside, looking in, it's like the phrase, when you're in the jar, you can't read the label. When you're in your life all the time and you're not taking a step out of your own life and looking at it from 10,000 feet, you can't read the label. You can't figure out what you're doing wrong. You can't figure out what you need to improve.

You can't figure out what it is that you want in your life in the future. So sometimes you need to sit down with a pen and paper. You need to self-assess. You need to figure out what you're doing great, but then you also need to figure out what you're doing wrong. And what you do is you ask yourself this question, three questions actually.

What do I need to stop doing? So if you have a pen and paper, jot this down. What do I need to stop doing? What do I need to start doing? And what do I need to continue doing? Stop, start, continue. What do I need to stop doing in my life? What do I need to start doing in my life? And what do I need to continue doing in my life? I got this from, from puff daddy, from P Diddy when he used to have a show called making the band like 10 or 15 years ago on MTV, he would sit down with his band members. He'd say, okay, we need to stop, do stop, start and continue. Go to each person. And I want you to tell them what they should stop doing, what they should start doing and what they should continue doing. And you should do this for yourself because the way you do one thing is the way that you do everything. So that's what I got for you for today's episode.

If you want me to answer a question for you, send me a video of you holding your phone normally under 45 seconds and ask me a question. The more direct and the more clear your question, the better your question, the better my answer will be. And if you're lucky, I'm going to go ahead and I'm going to put you on a podcast episode. I'll answer your question directly and give you personal coaching and everyone else will be able to hear it. And then also, you know, if it's a good video, maybe I'll make a video with it as well. And you'll be featured on my Facebook and my Instagram as well.

So I appreciate you for listening. Send me an email with the video if you want to. RD, you know, that stands for Rob Dial, RD at robdial.com. And then last but not least, if you want to join us in the Habit Mastery 30 Challenge, as I said, go to habits30.com, habits with an S at the end, 30.com. Join us. The last date you can sign up is October 8th. If you try to sign up on October 9th, you will not be able to join. I will not read any emails that say, I'm sorry, I messed up. I didn't realize it was coming up so soon.

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