The Mindset Mentor - Think in Black and White

Episode Date: August 30, 2017

Episode 317 - Most of the time life is either yes or no, go or stop. If you think in black and white and not give yourself a ton of options, it allows you to make decisions quicker and execute. Check ...out this episode to learn how to be more decisive. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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Starting point is 00:00:01 Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, one of the top-rated motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, I come out with a short, to-the-point, no-BS podcast designed to transform you from who you are today into who you want to be. There's no fluff here, just life-changing content. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode. If you have not yet done so, please subscribe to us, however you listen to us.
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Starting point is 00:01:23 coaching so you can see if it's right for you. So send me an email, rob at mwfmotivation.com. Okay. And so with that, we're going to dive in and we're going to talk about black and white. No, I'm not talking about racial tension or any of those things that are going on in the world right now that are scary, but crazy, all of those things. I'm going to talk about how you should see your life in black and white. Everything in life is either black or it's white. It is all binary. If you know what binary is, it's either a one or a zero. It's either a yes or a no. It's either a go or a stop. That's it. Either you do something or you don't do something. And this is something that I've learned from mentors and people that I've been hanging out with that are much, much more successful than I am.
Starting point is 00:02:17 They're happier than I am. They have traveled the world more than I have, but they're just successful people and they think in binary. It's either a one or it's a zero. It's either a black or a white. It's either a yes or a no. It's either a go or a stop. And it's either you do something or you don't do something.
Starting point is 00:02:35 There is nothing, nothing, nothing in between. Successful people will tell you that it is black and white and that's it. There's nothing in between. There's no emotional thoughts. Either you do something or you don't. And I know some of you out there might be saying, well, that's not quite true because there's times when you need to think about it to consider all of your options and think about how everyone will react and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Sure. You can sit around and think about it. Think about all of the options or get worried about it or constantly question everything that you do and all of the things that you're doing.
Starting point is 00:03:14 But if you're, think about it this way, if you sit around and think about it and you weigh out all the options or you get worried or you constantly question everything, you are essentially still not doing it. Correct? So it's either you do it or you don't. And by sitting around and thinking about it or worrying about it or considering all the options, you are actually not doing it. So it's either a black or it's a white. It's a one or a zero. It's a yes or a no. It's a go or stop. It's either you do it or you don't do it. You have to learn that all of it is either black and white. If it's a yes, a go, a do it, then, you know, let's say that's black. If it's a no, a stop, don't do it, any of those things, that's a white. It's either black or white. That's it. There's no other options. There's no thinking about it because thinking about it is a no.
Starting point is 00:04:10 Then if you think about this, all of your thinking, all of your worrying, all of your fears, all of your weighing the options or waiting for the perfect moment makes it a no. It's all black or white. It's yes or no. Either you do it or you don't do it. Stop clogging your mind with all of the crap that you can clog it with, all of the worrying, all of the fears, all of the stuff that really doesn't matter. Now, I understand this is not something that's done overnight because we're so used to overthinking stuff. We're so used to delaying stuff, but it needs to be something that you put into everyday practice. Do you know that within one second of something happening, of you asking yourself a question, anything within one second of your entire life, just driving down the road,
Starting point is 00:05:00 walking in your kitchen, your brain is asking yourself, is this safe? Everything you do or every decision that you make, it's asking itself subconsciously, is this safe? Five times per second. Five times per second. So I understand you can't just stop this way of thinking right away. But what you can do is you can bring awareness to it, to realize that it exists and to think deeply about it, about what your brain is actually doing and the processes that it's actually going through. Because your brain is always trying to keep you safe, to talk you out of things. Even if you feel that it's right in your gut, your brain is always trying to talk you out of it. That's you feel that it's right in your gut, your brain is always trying to
Starting point is 00:05:45 talk you out of it. That's why whenever I'm talking to my coaching clients, I always say, what's your first thought? When I say this, what's your first thought? And they always go, my first thought is this, but there's this, this, this. And I always say, go with your first thought. Your first thought is your gut thought. That's what you should be doing. Your second, third, fourth thought, those things are usually your brain trying to talk you out of it, trying to keep you safe. So next time that you're stressing out about doing something or not doing something and you're thinking too much or you're feeling your fears creep in, ask yourself this real quick. Is it a yes or is it a no? That's it. Is it a yes or is it a no?
Starting point is 00:06:21 That's it. Is it a yes or no? And it can't be. There's no gray areas. It can't be, well, you know, I'm not sure if it's a yes or no at this point because there's people in all of these things. No, it's either a yes or no. It's either you do it or you don't do it. And if you are constantly questioning and thinking about all of this stuff, you are
Starting point is 00:06:42 still not doing it. So it defaults to no. It's either a yes or it's a no. Which one is it? If you can make your decisions like this, it starts getting quicker. I always hear this phrase and I never really understood it until I got super busy. And I mean super busy since the podcast blew up. But when you don't have a whole lot of, when you have a bunch of extra time, it's not really a big deal. But when you start getting to the point where there's a lot of people reaching out to you, you have all of these things, all of these commitments, you have to kind of prioritize your time. And you have to think,
Starting point is 00:07:14 well, what am I going to do? And the phrase is this, if it's not a hell yes, it's a hell no. So if something comes to my table and someone says, hey, this, this, and this, if it's not a hell yes, it's a no. I just can't do it. It's either black or white. That's it. If your brain wants to ask you another question after you ask yourself, is it a yes or no? If you're stressing out about doing something and you're not doing something or you're trying to worry about all of this stuff or you feel your fears creeping in and you ask yourself,
Starting point is 00:07:42 is it a yes or no? And your brain wants to ask another question, then bring your focus back to the yourself, is it a yes or no? And your brain wants to ask another question, then bring your focus back to the question. Is it a yes or no? So if you're listening along, that's the one thing at least I would write down is, is it a yes or is it a no? And that's what you should guide yourself with. And go with your gut feeling. Do what your gut says and don't allow your brain to bring in all of your fears and all of your extra thoughts and all of the essentially unneeded stuff that's just wasting your time. Because if you spend all of your time doing it, the worrying, you're just defaulting to no anyways. It's wasting your time. So nothing else, write that down. Is it a yes or
Starting point is 00:08:22 is it a no? Start thinking in black and white. Either you do it or you don't do it. You do it or you don't do it. And that's it. Don't waste your time with all of the worrying. Don't waste your time with all of that stuff. So if you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know so we can continue to grow. We're trying to impact a million lives and can't get there unless all of my great listeners keep sharing it with their friends and their family and their loved ones. If you're interested in any sort of coaching group or one-on-one coaching, send me an email, rob at MWF motivation. I would love to get a conversation with you. And last but not least, I'm going to leave you the same way
Starting point is 00:08:58 I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing, an amazing, an amazing day. Well, that's it for today's podcast. If you want the show notes for this episode, they can be found at mwfmotivation.com. Also, if you liked this episode, please spread the love and share it with a friend because it's our mission to help as many people as we can. And to keep in touch, you can follow us on Instagram and Facebook. Both handles are at MWFMotivation with no spaces. Now you know what time it is. So go out and make your dreams a reality. Outro Music

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