The Mindset Mentor - This is How to Change the World

Episode Date: November 11, 2021

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you've ever gotten any value from anything that I've ever said, please give us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or iTunes. It helps more people find us because when we get positive reviews, iTunes and Apple goes, hey, we should show this to more people and that's how we grow organically. So if you've ever gotten value, please do me a favor, take 30 seconds, give us a rating review, and I would greatly appreciate it from the bottom

of my heart. Today, we're going to be talking about how to solve all of the world's problems. Yes, you and I together are going to tackle the biggest issue in the entire world, and we're going to fix all of the world's problems together. It is a very, very simple solution, but it is not easy. It's simple, but it is not easy. And if you guys listen to the podcast, you probably don't see me as people who follow me on YouTube or people who follow me on Instagram do, where you can see the videos of me actually, you know, all of these are actually video podcasts as well, which you can see on YouTube and you can also see them on Instagram as well.

All of them are uploaded. But you guys listening to the podcast can't see that almost every single day I wear a very similar shirt and it says the same thing. It's just a little bit different colors. And the shirt says, be the change. And be the change comes from a Gandhi quote, which is be the change that you want to see in the world. If I'm being honest with you for the longest time, I had no clue what the hell that quote meant. Be the change that you want to see in the world. Cool, Gandhi. whatever, bro. Don't know what that means. And I remember seeing a picture and it was a cartoon.

And in the cartoon, there was a guy that was up on stage. It was like a politician is what it looked like. And there's a bunch of people in the crowd. And he says, who wants change? And everybody's hands raise. Everybody wants change. And then in the next photo that was under it, exact same photo, exact same it, exact same photo,

exact same crowd, exact same politician. He says, who wants to change? And nobody's hands are up. So here's the thing. That's the problem with the world right now. Everybody wants change, which is good. There's a lot of things in this world that definitely need to change. There's a lot of things. There's a lot of people who haven't been taken care of. There's a lot of things in this world that need, God, there's so many things in this world. I could just spend 17 podcast episodes talking about all the things that need to change, right? We all want change, but very few people want to change themselves. Think about that one for a second. Let that one sink in. Have you been wanting everyone else around you to change,

but not looking into yourself and figuring out what you need to change? Because here's the thing, it's so much easier to tell people where they need to change than it is to actually change ourselves. It's so much easier to be like, hey, you know what? You need to wake up at 7 a.m. in the morning and meditate. It's easier to say that to somebody else than actually get yourself up at 7 a.m. and meditate. Hey, you know what you should do if you want to lose weight? You should work out and then you don't work out. It's easier to tell people where they need to change than to look into ourselves and actually change ourselves. It's easier to see where people are wrong. It's easier to see where people are messing up than to look at ourselves and say, where am I wrong? Where am I messing up? Where do I need to make changes in

myself? Why? Well, it's easier to tell other people to do it because changing ourselves, change is not easy. It's not. I put up tons of posts on Instagram. I put up thousands of posts over the years on Instagram. Almost every single one of those posts, there's someone out there that says, easier said than done. And I'm like, no shit. Everything is easier said than done. It's easier said than done no matter what it is because saying it literally requires you to just move your lips. Doing it takes a lot more effort no matter what it is. Everything is harder to do than it is to say. And you have to realize that change doesn't happen at a worldwide level very easily. It doesn't happen at a worldwide level very easily. It doesn't happen at a nationwide level very

easily. It doesn't happen at a government level very easily. It doesn't happen at a statewide level very easily. It doesn't happen at a local level very easily. And it's not easy to change ourselves, but it's easier than changing locally. It's easier than changing the state. It's easier than changing the government. It's easier than changing the nation. It's easier than changing locally. It's easier than changing the state. It's easier than changing the government. It's easier than changing the nation. It's easier than changing the world. But it starts with ourselves in order to change everything else around us.

The easiest way to change the world, although it's hard, once again, I said it's simple, it's not easy, but the easiest way to change the world is to change yourself. It's to change yourself. Don't get caught up in telling people what they should do and thinking that the government should do this and people should do this and the state should do this and nationwide should do this and the world should do this. Oh, you should do this. You should do this. You should do this.

And then you're not doing that at all. Too many people don't eat their own dog food. You have to eat your own dog food. How can you tell someone to do something and not do it yourself? There's too many people in this world right now that are doing that. How could you expect other people to change when you're not willing to change? It's kind of crazy, isn't it? To be like, yeah, they should change. No, I'm not going to change, but all of them, they should definitely change. How can we expect others to do what we're not willing to do ourselves? You have to eat your own dog food. You have to be the first. You have to be the leader. You have to. One of the things that I do and part of my business is that I teach coaches

how to grow coaching businesses. And a lot of times they're like, well, how do I become the best coach? The way to become the best coach is to become the best you. You have to be the person that's willing to change. You can't just wake up. You're a fraud if you're telling people to do something and you're not willing to do it yourself. The speed of the leader, the speed of the team. What if every person, instead of looking out at the world and looking out at what everyone else should do and judging other people, what if before everybody else decided to look at everybody else,

they looked at themselves in the mirror and they said, you know what? Before I tell other people what they should change, what do I need to change? What do I need to do? And instead of focusing on the world around them, they only focus on making themselves better. You realize that if

every single person just looked at themselves and said, what do I need to do to make myself better? And every person did that, eventually every single one of the world's problems would be fixed. Not by fixing each other, but by fixing ourselves. Ah, it's interesting, isn't it? It's not hard. It's not something that's this super complex, hard to understand thing to do. It's not that hard, but actually putting it into action and doing it, that's where it becomes a little bit more challenging. It's easy to say something. It's easy to post about that other side that you don't agree with. The side that, you know, if you're on the left side, it's easy to post about how the right side is wrong. If you're on the right side, it's easy to post about how the left side is wrong. It's easy to talk about how people should

do this when we're not willing to do it ourselves. It's easy to say something. It's easy to post something, but changing yourself at the core level, looking deep into yourself and saying, you know what? Where am I fucking up? Where am I not doing it? Where am I not showing up for my family, for the people around me, for myself, the way that I should be showing up? Changing yourself is the way that the world will change.

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year when the winter was here, I jumped into my pool pretty much every single day. And I showed everybody that I was doing cold plunges every single day. Not to be like, hey, everybody, look at me. I'm the cool guy that jumps into his freezing cold pool. I'm not the person that wants to do that. I'm doing it because I want to inspire other people to do it as well. I don't want to tell people to jump into a cold pool. I don't want to tell people to jump into a cold pool. I don't want to tell people to take a cold shower. I want to show people that I'm willing to do it because the speed of the leader, the speed of the team, I hope to inspire other people around me as well. So if you want other people around you to change, what actions do you need to take in

yourself in your own life to actually change? I want to inspire you. I want to inspire other people by documenting my actions, not by telling you what to do. I'm willing to eat my own dog food. I get so many messages about cold showers. Oh, should I do it? Should I not do it? I don't want to show off. I just want to show you, hey, listen, I'm on this road. I'm not perfect. I'm trying to improve myself. And one of the things that really helps me with getting out of my own way, with getting out of my own head, with that little voice inside of my head that says, you're not good enough, you're not smart enough, you're never going to be able to do it, is to conquer that little voice first thing in the morning, as soon as I wake up, and to jump into a cold pool because it doesn't want me to jump into

that cold pool. And I'm going to say, you know what? I'm going to do it anyways. I'm going to find this thing that I don't want to do, and I'm going to do it anyways. I want to show people through my actions. I don't want to show off. I just want to show people what's possible. So what does it mean for you to be the change? When you look out at the world and you say, you know what? This is what I want the world to change. What is it? How do you want the world to change? Do you want them to stop judging more or as much as they are? Do you want them to start loving more? Do you want them to stop judging more or as much as they are? Do you want them to start loving more? Do you want them to accept more, be more peaceful, to work on themselves more? What do you want the world to do? And then look at yourself and ask yourself,

how can I start doing that more? How can I inspire not the world, but just the people around me by my own actions? I'm not going to tell them that this is what they should do. I'm not going to force them and say, this is what you have to do. I'm going to do it. I'm going to inspire people through my actions. And through that, hopefully one other person will want to change. And hopefully maybe another person want to change. So what does it mean to you when you become the change, when you start to be the change? Because it shows other people what's possible.

You can try to force someone to change, but that's to be the change, because it shows other people what's possible. You can try to force someone to change, but that's never going to work. One of my favorite things that I hear from people as they start getting into personal development is they're like, hey, Rob, I'm really into personal development. I'm listening to your podcast. I'm reading books. I'm going to conferences. How can I get my spouse to do the same thing as well? And they start to, hey, honey, you should, and they buy him a book. Honey, you should read this book. Honey, you should read this book. Honey, you should read this book. And they try to force them. Hey, you should go to this conference with me. Hey, you should listen to the podcast. Hey, you should do this. You should, you should, should, should, should,

should, should. And they're shooting all over them. You should do this. And they're trying to force them. The way to get someone to change is not to force them to change. The way to get someone to change is to change yourself and for them to see in you how much better you are based off of the actions that you take. And hopefully that will inspire them to go, hey, what are you doing? You look happier. You look healthier. Your skin looks better. You have a bigger smile. What are you doing? And at that point in time, they have seen in you the results that they want to themselves. So they're willing to reach out and find out what you've been doing. Forcing people never works. A good example is this. Let me give you a good example.

Let's say that your friend is overweight and your friend, you're looking at yourself and you're a little bit overweight and you're looking at your friend, your friend's overweight as well. And then they start going through this transformation. You haven't seen them in six months and you see them six months later and they look good. Like they look damn good, like way better than they did last time that you saw them. And you're like, man, they don't look like they have any of that extra weight that they used to. And then you look down at yourself and you're like, I, um, I still have this extra weight. What are you going to do? You're going to walk out to me like, Hey, you look amazing. What are you doing? Why? Because you've seen in them that

they know the actions to take to get the results that you want. And so if it's happiness, if it's joy, if it's peace, if it's losing weight, if it's being more kind, if it's being more loving, if it's not being judgmental, how can you start to be those things to hopefully inspire the people around you? Be like, hey, what are you doing? Because whatever you're doing, it's freaking working. And I need some of that in my life. And will every single person around you reach out? No, absolutely not. Because some people are just not willing to change. They want to stay where they are and they will stay the way that they are until the day that they die. But there are a few people around you that you can inspire to be better

through your own actions. Not through telling them what to do, but through your own actions. People are always wanting to change themselves and become better. But they have to see somebody who's doing that. And so if you're one of those people that's wanting to change your spouse, forcing them to read a book, not going to help. Trying to force them to go to a conference, not going to be a help. What do you do? You change yourself. And through changing yourself, what happens? Eventually they come up to you. And I can't tell you how many times I've seen

people do this with their spouse. They just work on themselves really hard, becoming the best they possibly can be. And they become happier. They stop being triggered as much. They start to be more joyful, more peaceful, more loving. They smile more. And their spouse is like six months down the road, they're like, hey, what are you doing? And their spouse then wants to change because they have seen the change in them. And that's what they're looking for. If your spouse is anxious, and that's what they're looking for. If your spouse is anxious, you can't just be like, hey, meditate, meditate, meditate. That doesn't work. But what can you do? You can start meditating more. They can see you meditate. They can see how it's helping you become more calm, less triggered, helping you become happier, helping you become more peaceful. And they start to see

in you the results that they want in their own lives. And what do they do? They ask you for advice. Hey, what are you doing? You look happier. You look better. And you're like, hey, you know how you've been noticing me meditate

every single day for the past three months? I'm just noticing that meditation's helping me get so much better. Do you want to try meditating with me tomorrow? You can if you like. And they're like, yeah, you know what? I guess I could. And it's simple.

Just meditate with me for five minutes tomorrow. I'll show you what's been helping me. And that's the thing that's easy, is becoming the change. Nobody wants to be told what to do. The people around you don't want to be told what to do. Nobody, take a child. Have you ever tried to tell a two-year-old what to do? Children hate being told what to do. The people around you don't want to be told what to do. Take a child. Have you ever tried to tell a two-year-old what to do? Children hate being told what to do. What makes you think that an adult is going to like to be told what to do? Nobody likes to be told what to do. What do

we want? We want to be able to do what we want to do. But if we see somebody who has the life that we want, the results that we want, it's easier for us to reach out to them and be like, hey, the results that we want, it's easier for us to reach out to them and be like, hey, what are you doing? So how can you look at the world around you and start to think about that? And I've got a couple of questions for you that I want you to write down or I want you to think about. I want you to ponder, okay? The first question is this, how do you want the world to change? When you look at the world around you, when you look at all of the stuff that's happening to the world, you look at all the craziness that this world has become, how do you want the world to change?

Write it down. How do you want the world to change? What is it? Do you want more peace, more loving, less judgment? Do you want more happy people? Do you want more people that work on their fitness? Do you want people that work on their mind? Do you want less anxious people?

What do you want? How do you want the world to change? And then what I'm going to ask you is this. What are the changes that you'd like to see in each person around you? What are the changes you'd like to see in your spouse? What are the changes you'd like to see in your children? What are the changes that you'd like to see in your parents? What are the changes that you would like to see in some of your best friends, in your brother, sister, cousins, whatever? What are the biggest changes that you'd like to see in them?

And then my question for you is this, how can you embody that change and inspire others to be that way as well? How can you embody that change that you want to see in them become that change and inspire others around you to start to follow that path that you're on as well? Because you're not going to be able to change people by forcing them to. Because you're not going to be able to change people by forcing them to change. You're not going to be able to change people by telling them what to do. The way that you change people, the way that you change the world is to change yourself. To look inside of yourself and say, what do I need to do to change myself to be a part of the change that I want to see in the world? And that is the simple solution, but not easy, to solve all of the change that I want to see in the world. And that is the simple solution,

but not easy to solve all of the world's problems. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in it, robdialjr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Once again, if you're out there and you want some more motivation, inspiration, I fill up your newsfeed on Instagram.

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