The Mindset Mentor - Truth About Potential

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial, and if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you want to receive emails from me every single Monday with my intentions going into every single week and what my mindset is going to be every single week. So you can take those intentions, you can take those mindset techniques and use them into your week. Go to mondayemail.com right now. Once again, mondayemail.com right now. It is absolutely free. And I'll start emailing you with my intentions and secrets going into every single week. Today, I'm going to be talking to you about the truth with potential.

Starting point is 00:00:47 And I want to start off by giving you an analogy. I want you to think about this, okay? Have you ever sat and thought about how amazing a seed is? How amazing a seed is inside of it? Like, a seed is this little teeny tiny thing. And inside of it is the potential for a beautiful flower. Inside of it is the potential to make a massive tree. But if we just, let's take a flower as an example, right? If you think about a gardener and a flower and the relationship that the two of them have, right? Like we're Like right now we have wildflowers all over the place in Austin and they're beautiful. They're all over the place.

Starting point is 00:01:29 But if we just look at like a flower and a gardener and the relationship the two of them have, what is the gardener's job if he's trying to grow a flower? What is it? Answer it to yourself. What is a gardener's job if he is trying to make that flower grow? It's to allow the seed to become what it's supposed to become. Not to change it, not to

Starting point is 00:01:51 force it, not to make it do anything, but to allow it the space that it needs and everything that it needs to become what it can become, to give it space, to nurture it, and to create it space to nurture it and to create the space for it to bloom to its highest capacity. Right? That is to water it. That is to give it sun. That is to make sure that it has the air that it needs, that it has every single thing that it needs. Not to force it, not to tell it what to do, not to try to sit there and bend it so that it goes in the direction that he wants it to go. What he does is he gives it what it needs and then gives it space. Gives it what it needs and then gives it space. Now, what happens if the flower doesn't get all of that? It doesn't get the water that it needs. It doesn't get the right amount of sun. Maybe it gets too much sun. Well, what happens is it doesn't grow to its full potential.

Starting point is 00:02:47 It doesn't grow to its full potential. Now, what if, like I said, he's like, you know what? I don't want this flower to go straight up. I want this flower to kind of look like a little bit crooked. And he goes there and every single day he starts to twist the flower a little bit, twist the flower a little bit, twist a little bit. He might break it, right? What happens if he takes a mason jar and he flips a mason jar and he puts a mason jar on top of it and he restricts its growth? Well, the flower is probably going to become weaker. He might kill the leaves that are on the flower. He might even kill

Starting point is 00:03:14 the flower itself. The gardener's job is to nurture it and nothing else. Not to change it, not to restrict it, but to nurture it. Now, I want you to think about this for a second. I want you to think about this with your relationships. First, let's talk about other people that are in your life, and then I want to talk about you. I want to talk about other people first, and then we're going to come back and we're going to talk about you. In your relationships, if you are a gardener, how are you showing up in your relationships with the people that you love, the people that you're closest to? Are you nurturing? Are you watering? Are you giving

Starting point is 00:03:56 them light? Are you helping those around you bloom? Are you being a great gardener to those that are around you? Your job in any relationship with your spouse, with your boyfriend, with your girlfriend, with your children, with your mother, with your brother, your sister, father, every single person, your friends, your job in a relationship is to help that person grow, not into what you want them to be, but what they are here to become. You don't see a gardener go and put a strawberry seed in the ground and go, I'm going to force a strawberry to become a tomato. No, it doesn't make any sense. So once again, your job in a relationship is to help other people grow

Starting point is 00:04:38 into what they are here to become, not what you want them to be. So let me give you an example. Let's talk about your significant other. Are you trying to mold your significant other into what you want them to be? Or are you allowing them to become what they were put here to become? This is big for a lot of people because a lot of people try to force other people to grow. They try to force other people to be a certain way. A lot of times people send me emails and they ask me messages and they say, hey, I've recently gotten into personal development and I love it. And I started reading and I went to conferences and I've been listening to your podcast. I've been doing all this. I got a question. How do I get my husband to get into personal development? I bought him books and I'm trying to force him into growing,

Starting point is 00:05:19 but he doesn't want to grow. I'm like, well, that's because you're trying to force him. grow. I'm like, well, that's because you're trying to force them. That's not what a gardener does. A gardener doesn't force. A gardener nurtures. So are you trying to let them grow or are you trying to change them? What are you trying to do? How are you showing up for them? What about your children? If you've got children, are you allowing them to become what you want them to be or are you restricting their growth? If they show interest in something, are you allowing them to see interest in it and to start to deepen their interest in that thing? Are you helping them deepen that interest and deepen their knowledge and deepen their skills in that thing? Or are you like, no, that's stupid. I don't like that. Maybe you play guitar, right? And you play guitar and

Starting point is 00:06:08 you sing and you like rock music. And your son decides that he wants to play violin. Are you like, no, you can't play that violin. Or are you like, okay, I'm going to get you some lessons. I'm going to rent you a violin. Are you trying to make them be what you want them to be? Or are you allowing them to grow into what feels natural for them? Which one is it? Are you trying to let them be what they want to be and what they're here to be or what you want them to be? Believe me, it's a lot easier if you just allow this person to grow into whatever feels the most natural for them. You know, I remember a story of one of my friends.

Starting point is 00:06:49 They were talking about their grandpa. And their grandpa, when he was younger, he started getting into painting. He loved painting. And we're talking like this is in the 30s. This is in the 40s, all of this. And he sat down. He started making paintings. He started becoming really good.

Starting point is 00:07:04 And he loved painting. And he loved, you know, everything about it. And he would do all he started making paintings. He started becoming really good and he loved painting. And he loved everything about it. And he would do all of these different paintings. And his mom came in and his mom would see this stuff that he brought back from school. And he's like, man, these are amazing. His mom's like, man, these are amazing. These are beautiful. And then what happens? His dad sees it. And his dad's like, that's too feminine. A man doesn't paint. Men don't paint. That's a woman thing to do, right? dad's like, that's too feminine. A man doesn't paint. Men don't paint. That's a woman thing to do, right? That's like the thirties, forties. And he started like ridiculing him for wanting to paint. Who painted these? These are stupid. This is one of the boys that painted this. And his father ridiculed him, told him it was too feminine

Starting point is 00:07:41 and never let him paint again. And then so what happened was he never painted again until when my friend and his mom were looking through the attic and they started seeing all these beautiful paintings. And you know, his grandfather was like 80 years old at the time. They found all these beautiful paintings. They're like, who painted these? Like, oh, I painted these when I was younger. Like what? You painted? Yeah, I painted. He tells him the whole story. So then what do they do? They go in to buy him all of these painting supplies. And he starts painting again. You can see him light back up again. But what happened? His dad restricted him. His dad told him what he

Starting point is 00:08:17 wanted, not allow him to actually become what he wanted to become. He tried to force, he tried to change. Because of that, he missed out on, what, 60 years of painting? Who knows what he would have become if his grandfather's father hadn't tried to restrict him and tried to change him. Hey, this episode is brought to you by Ritual. Protein powders can be intimidating, but the fact is we all need protein. It's not just about muscles. Protein also helps support bone health. And as we go through life, protein needs change. So it's important to choose from a mix for different stages of life. Ritual's Essential Protein is a delicious plant-based protein powder with three distinct formulas designed to meet the body's changing protein

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Starting point is 00:10:23 tiny restrictions. It's like death by a thousand cuts. Maybe it's not like restricting them fully, but it's that little negative comment when they're doing something that you don't like. It's that little tiny negative comment when they're doing something else that you don't like versus allowing them to become what they're going to become, to grow into what feels right for them. Your job with those around you is to nurture them into becoming what it is that they're supposed to become. Now that we've talked about the people around you in your life, let's talk about you specifically. When you look around you and the people that you're

Starting point is 00:10:56 surrounding yourself with, who are they? Are they nurturing? Are they supportive? Are they gardeners? nurturing? Are they supportive? Are they gardeners? When you pick up a new hobby, what do they say? When you go for a really big goal, how do they react? When you say you want to start a business, are they like, hell yeah, that's going to be amazing. How can I help? Or are they like, oh yeah, but businesses fail. When you succeed, how do they respond? Are they wanting you to bloom into who you're supposed to be or are they wanting you to be who they want you to be? Think about that for a second. If a flower doesn't grow, you don't change the flower. You change the environment. And so you have to think about this for yourself. If you're not growing, if you're not becoming the person that you could become,

Starting point is 00:11:50 maybe it's not all you. There's probably parts of it that are you, but maybe it's not all you. Maybe it's also the people that are in your life. If a flower doesn't grow, you don't change a flower. You change the environment. If you're not growing, if you're not becoming what you could become, maybe you need to change your environment. Think about that one for a second. Maybe the problem with your growth or your lack of growth isn't fully you. Maybe it's your environment. Maybe it's your quote unquote gardeners. Think about that. Who are the gardeners? Who are people that's like those, who are your ride or dies? Who's on your side 100% and who is not?

Starting point is 00:12:32 Because you have to realize they're going to help you or hurt you in your life. Who's your gardeners and who's not your gardeners? If someone is restricting you, if someone's holding you back, maybe it's time to let them go so that you can grow. You can still love them from afar. You can still hang out with them every once in a while, but maybe not as much as you used to. How can you get more gardeners in your corner? People that love you, people that support you, people that want the best for you. When you tell them these big lofty goals and all these things you want to do, they're like,

Starting point is 00:13:03 hell yeah, what can I do to help you out? Not like, oh, that's, yeah, I don't like that business idea. That's stupid. Not, oh yeah, I don't think you should play that instrument. That's stupid. Maybe you should play this one instead. Because I believe we all have a purpose in this world. I don't know what your purpose is. You don't know what my purpose is, but I know it feels right for me and you know it feels right for you. So who am I to come in and try to tell you who you should become? You know, some of us are here just to be amazing parents and that's what your job is to do. Do it to the best of your ability. Some of us are healers. Some of us are teachers. Some of us are artists. Some of us are musicians. Some people are just like the light to lead the way,

Starting point is 00:13:45 and they're just great examples of who everybody should be. But you have to think about this. I want you to think about two things, okay? Number one, am I showing up for those that I love as a gardener? Am I showing up in the best possible way that I can? Am I loving? Am I supporting? Am I helping those people grow? Or am I just sitting around here fucking stomping on flowers? Because there's some people that are in this world that are just stomping on flowers. And they're stomping all the flowers that they love around them and they don't even realize that they are. So that's the first thing to think about, right? Am I showing up for those that I love as a gardener? And then number two, what does my environment look like? And then what do I need to change about my environment to make

Starting point is 00:14:25 sure that I grow to my full potential? Because just like a seed, we're all filled with massive amounts of potential. Our job here is to try to live up to that potential for ourself, but then to also be there and to allow others to grow into the flower that they want to be as well. And it comes down to all of that. It comes down to the environment that we have. It comes down to the people that we have. It comes down to not restricting anybody. It comes down to nourishing ourself, to nourishing other people around us as well, the children, our significant other, our friends, our family, the people that you just come across on the street. How can you look at every single interaction that you have with another person

Starting point is 00:15:06 as an opportunity for you to show up as the best possible version of yourself? Because when you show up as the best possible, most loving, nurturing version of yourself for another person, you give them the opportunity and the space to grow into who they can truly become. So when you show up in a relationship with every single person, especially the people that you love, can you show up as a gardener, fully supportive, fully trying to help them in every single step of the process? Because if you can do that, you're going to start to notice that every single person around you is going to start to flourish. Stop trying to change them. Stop trying to make them be what you want them to be. Allow them and support them to be who they want to

Starting point is 00:15:41 become. And then on the other side of that, with yourself, can you stop hanging out with people who are stomping on your flowers? Can you stop hanging out with people who are trying to tell you what to do? Can you stop hanging out with people who are restricting your growth? And can you give yourself some people around you that are like, hell yes, whatever you want, I'm your ride or die, let's go. If you do that, you will grow into who you can fully become as well. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you do that, you will grow into who you can fully become as well. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And I'm going to leave it the same way I leave you

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The Mindset Mentor - Truth About Potential

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