The Mindset Mentor - Use Empowering Words

Episode Date: August 17, 2016

Episode 155 - How do you talk to yourself? Most of us beat ourselves up for small mistakes. Would you speak to someone you love the way you speak to yourself? In this episode I talk about how using empowering words when speaking to yourself can actually rewire your brain. These are the most important conversations you will ever have so choose your words wisely. Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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super advanced stuff, way, way, way more advanced stuff than I'm able to teach here in the podcast because I don't have time to teach in only 10 minutes. And last but not least, if you guys are aware, I'm doing a lot of speaking engagements. I just flew in last night from a talk that I gave. So I'm all over giving talks. So if you want me to come out and give a talk at your conference, anything that's coming up with your company, if you want to get me in touch with somebody who's in charge of it there, we can do that. My name, once again, is rob at mwfmotivation.com is the email that you want to send everything to. So today, what we're going to be talking about has a little bit to do with that. What we're going to be talking about is something that I realized that I do,

which to most people would probably seem odd. It's just something that I've been doing for about 10 years where it's the way I speak to myself. And we're going to talk about, you know, going to talk about just how you talk to yourself. The most important conversation that you have is the one that you have with yourself, the one that's between your ears. And I used to beat myself up a ton all the time because I'm super competitive. I'm just a very competitive person. So I would talk down to myself, be like, man, you're so stupid. Why do you do those things? Why did you screw that up? You could have done better, blah, blah, blah. And it was just constantly like just barrage of just like insults all the time to myself. It was crazy how bad it was. And I know that most people are

that way. Most people are completely talking down to themselves all the time. And the question that I have for you is if you're one of the people who does that, if you think about that, if you do that, would you speak to somebody that you love the way that you speak to yourself? Would you speak to your mom or your girlfriend or boyfriend or whoever it might be the way that you speak to yourself in your own head? And if the answer is no, then you need to stop speaking to yourself the way that you speak to yourself. So you have to start using empowering words. You have to learn what is empowering. So the best way to think about it is this, what are you most afraid of? What are your biggest fears? Think about it. What are your biggest fears? Is it that you're not smart enough? Let's just use it. It's not smart enough, right? Let's just say that that's what it is. Well, then you have to use words and repeat them.

This is how you get it into your subconscious is repetition over and over and over again. You can't just say, you know, if your fear that your paradigm is that you're not smart enough, well, then you can't just say, I'm smart. I'm smart. I'm smart, right? Like just a couple times. It's got to be said over and over and over again. And it's got to be empowering. So you can think of a list. I would make a list if I were you of like three to five extremely empowering things to say to yourself all the time. And this is something that I do while I'm driving. This is something when I was in the airport yesterday, I was walking with every single step. I was using empowering words and there was no reason for me. I didn't need to build myself up in any sort of

way. I wasn't. I did this before I gave my talk the night before where I was pacing the back of the room and I was using empowering words and I was saying the same thing over and over and over again, just empowering words where I'm going to give the most amazing speech. I'm going to give the most amazing speech. I'm going to give the most amazing speech hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times for about 20 minutes. I was pacing the room with every step. I'm going to give the most amazing speech. I'm going to give the most amazing speech hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times. For about 20 minutes, I was pacing the room with every step. I repeated myself every step. I repeated myself over and over and over again. And usually, you know, if I'm at home or I'm by myself, any of those things, I'll talk out loud to myself with what they call incantations. I've spoken about incantations

before, but those are empowering words that you use your body and your physiology and your voice, and you can actually yell them out to yourself. You yell them because your subconscious will kick in and store it quicker. And so I'll yell stuff like, I'm going to give the most amazing speech, blah, blah, blah, whatever it is. But if I'm in a public place, I don't want to seem like I'm a crazy person, obviously. So I'll speak to myself in my head. And with every single step that I take, I make sure that I'm using empowering words. I'm going to give the most amazing speech. I'm about to give the most amazing speech, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, all the time. And I'll do it for 20 minutes

straight. And if you think about it, 20 minutes, I probably said it a thousand times. And so do you think that I'm nervous by the time I go on stage at that point in time? No, because I've already told myself over and over and over again, the subconscious has already stored it as, hey, you're about to go up there and kill it. And so what you have to do is you have to figure out what your biggest fear is. Is it that you're not smart enough or that you're not good enough or whatever it is? And you have to make a list of empowering things that you say to yourself that are the opposite of what your fear is. If your fear is that you're not smart enough, you need to tell yourself how smart you are and remember a time when you were really smart. If your fear is that you're not good enough, you need to tell yourself over and over again exactly how smart

you are, exactly how good you are at these types of things. And just say it over and over and over and over again. And what you'll realize is if you say it a couple hundred times, a couple thousand times, you'll start to believe in yourself and you'll start to carry yourself a different way. And your actions will start to be exactly the way they should be to line up with the way that you're talking to yourself. These are incantations. These are empowering words with every single step that you take. Because what happens is your subconscious does not know. Your conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time. My conscious mind right now is just, that's all I can do. So right now it's just thinking of what

I'm going to say to you. And then those words are coming out. That's all that's happening. It's half a tenth, a millisecond, the smallest little bit, it's just firing away as it's happening. It's not thinking about what I have to do later on today. Now, my subconscious mind is like your mind's filing cabinet. It doesn't know what is true or what is false. It just takes what's in your subconscious mind, all of the things that you sense, all of your five senses, and it stores it.

But here's the thing. The reason why self-talk and empowering words are so important is because if you're telling yourself you're stupid, you're stupid, you're stupid, all of those things all over the time, if you just keep saying it over and over again, it's going to store all of the negative things that you say in your head. So you're actually, by using words and by talking down to yourself, you're actually, in a sense, just knocking yourself in the feet and kicking the legs out of your success because your subconscious mind is going to think that you're stupid and then it's going to act in stupid ways without you

realizing it. Now, if you use empowering thoughts, your subconscious mind is not going to know, once again, what is true, what is false. So, if you use empowering things about giving a great speech, well, then you're going to get up and you're going to be more confident and you're going to give a better speech. That's just the way that it goes. So it stores what you say. So why you talk to the way you talk to yourself is one of the most important things that you'll learn. You've got to learn to talk to yourself the way that you talk to someone that you love. You've got to learn to be empowering and think empowering thoughts over and over and over again. And this takes time. It takes a lot of time because sometimes you'll notice you'll get a negative thought that's

going to pop into your head and you can't control your first thought, but you can always control your second one. So if your first thought is you messed something up and your first thought is, man, you're so stupid, immediately change it. You can change your second thought. And if you think, man, I'm so stupid once, then you need to talk about how smart you are over and over and over and over and over again, the exact same words a hundred times. how smart you are over and over and over and over and over again, the exact same words a hundred times. Just completely destroy what you had said before there. So that's why talking to yourself is so important and using empowering words is so important. So don't do it out loud when you're in public because people are going to think that you're crazy. But when you're alone, talk out

loud to yourself, do it, look yourself in the mirror, get yourself fired up, listen to empowering music. When you're out in public, say it with every single step in your head, every single step, how empowering you are. Whatever it is, how powerful you are, how amazing you are, how smart you are, how great you are, how much you deserve love, how much you deserve success,

how much you don't think that you're afraid of failure. All of those things. Use empowering words to build yourself up in your head versus just putting headphones in and listening to music. So that's what I want to say to you. If you like this episode, please share it with somebody. We're getting close to 1 million downloads in our first year and we have one more week left to go. So if you have listened to any episode that I've ever put out and you've enjoyed any episode, please do me a favor. If you are one of the thousands and thousands of people out there that have never shared this with somebody, these episodes have all been free. So pay it forward to

somebody. Let them listen to it. Tell them about it. Share it on Facebook. Share it in an email, whatever you can do. I would greatly appreciate it as we go into the last week to try to hit our goal of a million downloads in the first year. But with that, once again, if you're interested in coaching, one-on-one or group coaching, or me coming out and speaking at any of your events, send me an email, rob at mwfmotivation.com. And with that, I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you. Go out there and talk to yourselves the way you deserve to be talked to. And I hope you have an amazing day.

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