The Mindset Mentor - Want to Know My Birthday Wish?

Episode Date: March 30, 2020

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host Rob Dial and if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And the day that I am recording this, I am recording this on my birthday, bringing you guys a lesson of what I think I want myself and hopefully you to get out of this next year that's coming up. And for those of you guys that are curious, I am 34 years old now. People always ask how old I am and then they see me on Instagram and they're like, oh my God, I never thought you were going to look like you look. And I don't know what they're expecting me to look like.

But it's always a surprise when people find out how old I am. And it's also always a surprise when people see me for some reason as well. But I am 34, and so I'm going into 34 years on this planet. And, you know, we went for a hike today, my girlfriend and I and our dog Toby. And we're sitting there and we did a meditation and we're sitting there and we're, we're, we did, you know, a meditation and we're sitting there and, and we're looking out at this beautiful Sedona of where we are right now. And she goes, so what's your, what's your goals for, for 2000? And well, I guess not even the year. She goes, what's the goal for this, this year with your birthday for the next year? year. And I sat there and I thought about it and I was like, man, what are my goals for the next year of my life? And I thought about it and like, I don't want to make, I don't, I mean, I can make more money. It's not a big deal, but it's not like one of my goals anymore. I think you just get to a point where you're like, all right, yeah, that's cool. And I don't really need to buy anything.

Like, I don't really want to buy more stuff. I've already bought tons of stuff in my life and you know, I don't really want to travel any more places. We've done a lot of traveling. I've been blessed to be able to, you know, make good money and to travel all over the world. And, you know, it doesn't really seem like the right time to travel right now anyways. And, uh, and I sat there and I thought about, and I was like, like, I've done a lot of things on my time, my time on this planet. A lot of things have been done for other people, but most things have been done for me. You know, uh, there have been some very selfish times. There've been some very giving times and, but there's been some very selfish times in my life as well. And, uh, I said, my number one

goal for this year is just to give more. And she's like, what does that look like? And I was like, I don't know just yet, but at that time I didn't, but now I do have a pretty good idea. And, uh, I've come up with the goal for this year to do something for somebody else every single day for 365 days. And, you know, if I'm thinking about all of the world's problems, I think that all of the world's problems can be solved with giving more, you know, and the way I got this idea that kind of popped into my head was I had a friend who put up a picture on his Instagram stories of his son and his son for 365 days. I think he was like 12 or 13 years old for 365 days, took a journal and wrote down one

good deed that he did for somebody else every single day. And I was like, oh my God, that would be the best thing to have children do. So first off, if you have children, you know, think about having them do something like that. But then before you have them do something like that, think about you doing that instead of saying to them, Hey, this would be really good for you to do. What have you said? Hey, this would be really good for us to do. And then maybe every single morning or every single night you get together and you say, Hey, what was your good deed that you did for somebody today? And you write it down inside

of a journal. Think about what that teaches your child first off. And, uh, that's where I got the idea from. And I thought to myself, you know what? Yeah, I'm going to do it. I want to have a year that's not about me at all. You know, I'm looking at all the things that are happening with the coronavirus. And I keep thinking to myself, like, what more can, what can I do? What more can I do? How can I help more? How can I just be out there more and help? And it's, you can't really be out there helping people. That's the thing that sucks. And so I'm thinking to myself, how can I do more? How can I, you know, be more in this? How can I assist more in this? And there's not really a whole lot of ways. There's definitely ways to, and I've, I've been finding them, but, uh, it's made me realize

that I want to give more. I want to, to assist more. I want to help more, whatever that looks like. And I want to have a year that's all about other people, not about me. And I think if you look at the entire world, the cure for almost everything is to, no matter what it is, is to give to someone else. You know, the cure for depression, if you're depressed, go out there and do something for somebody else. And I bet you'll start to see that depression diminish. And I'm not talking about clinical depression where you have actual chemical imbalance in your brains. I'm talking about what, you know, medical doctors will call depression, which is, you know, a lot of times just what I like to call chronic sadness, where, you know,

there's clinical depression, which is like little chemical imbalances in your brain. But most people don't realize that 61% of people are misdiagnosed as depressed when they're actually not chemically imbalanced. It's just chronic sadness. And so if you're chronically sad, go out and do something for somebody else and see how it makes you feel. And don't even tell anybody. This is the best part about it. Don't tell anybody about the good deeds that you're doing. If you're anxious, anxiety usually comes from thinking in the future and what might happen in the future. If you're anxious, go out and do something for somebody else. Whatever you can do. I know that a lot of us are in lockdown right now with the coronavirus, but what can you do for somebody else right now?

If you're sad, if you're sad, if you have a feeling of lack, if you feel like you're not enough, if you just got broken up with, if you feel like you don't have enough money, go out and do something for someone else. If you have the feeling of scarcity, this is one of the big things I always tell people. If you feel like there's not enough money in the world, if you feel like there's not enough, whatever it is, opportunities, or you live in a place of lack, go out and do something for somebody else. You know, if you feel like you don't have enough money, go out and give a homeless person a dollar, buy them a sandwich. Why? Because inherently in doing something for somebody else, it comes from a place of abundance.

Because if you've got $20 in your bank account and you give a homeless person one, your brain goes, we have more than enough because we're able to give to somebody else. How do you smash selfishness? Give to other people, do something for other people. And you don't even have to give them money, give them time, give them space, give them love, listen to them, whatever it is that you Listen to them. Whatever it is that you need to do. It doesn't have to be money that you give. It can be a lot of other things, energy, time, the space for other people. We can all agree that there's a lot of selfishness in the world. And I think all of the problems, the pollution, the climate change, the war,

the pollution, the climate change, the war, the crimes, all of those things, all are rooted in selfishness. All of them are rooted in selfishness. And one of my favorite quotes is to be the change that you want to see in the world. Gandhi says, be the change that you want to see in the world. Too often, we look at the government and we're like, oh yeah, I wish they would do something different. We look at Trump and we say, oh, I wish he would be better. We look at, you know, the people around us. We're like, oh, I wish they would do this better. But then not often enough do we actually turn the mirror onto ourselves and look and go, hmm, where do I actually need to change in order to get those around me to change? Because you can't change other people. The only thing that you could do, because I didn't really understand the phrase, be the change for the longest time, but you can't make other people

change. The only way that other people can possibly change if they want to, because people have to decide that they want to change is if they see you changing and then they come up to you and ask you, because when you tell someone, oh, you should read this self-development book because you'd really like it because I think that it would help you with all of the issues that you have, they're probably going to resent you more and they're less likely to read it. But if you go out and you start reading books and you work on yourself and you start working on your fitness, you work on your mind, maybe you stop drinking alcohol, maybe you wake up earlier, whatever it is. And people are like, man, you've been doing really well. Like you look a lot better. Your skin's clear. You know,

I haven't seen you going out. It seems like you're more successful in your business, whatever it is. What are you doing? And you're like, oh, now I can tell you. So instead of forcing upon somebody else, what you do is you become the lighthouse. You'd be the best version of yourself personally. And so you change so much that people go, I want to be like him. I want to be like her. That's what be the change that you want to see in the world means. And what I would love for us to do, because there's a massive amount of people that are going to listen to tens and tens of thousands of people that are going to be listening to this episode. What if we, you and I decided to be the change? What would the world look like

if you and I decided to be the change? It's my birthday. The only wish that I have, the only gift that I want you to give me is to give somebody else a gift, to do something for someone else, to be kinder this year, to think of how you can be less selfish, how you can be more giving. Let us be the change that we want to see in the world. us be the change that we want to see in the world. And here, if I'm going to make a challenge, if you want to join in, if you're down to try this one year of giving, that's what we could call it. The one year of giving. I want you to tag me on Instagram and say that you're in. So put this on your Instagram stories and say that you're in tag me in it. My Instagram handle is at R O B D I A L J R Rob dial jr, R O B D I A L J R tag me in it. Let's do it. Let's be different. Let's, let's help other people. Let's, let's try to be the change we see in the world with, you know, all of the things that are happening and all the things that always continue to happen. We can all agree that more selfless people would help this world become a better place. And I can't change other people

and you can't change other people. I can't even change you listening to this. The only thing that I can do is I can become the best version of myself and maybe inspire you to be better and be the best version of yourself. And maybe that will inspire other people around you to be the best version of their selves, because ultimately that's what we're here for. And I think that the main thing that would really change the world is if we just start giving more. And I think that if you start giving more and you start talking about giving more, don't go out and show off on the things that you're doing, but maybe talk on your Instagram about

how you're going to take this challenge that, you know, for the next couple of days, you're going to do something for someone else. Or when you're in the, you know, the, the line of Starbucks, you buy some coffee for the person behind you. You do whatever it is that you can do. You don't have to, to go outside of your means, but do whatever it is that you can do to do something for someone else. Because I don't know how God or the universe or whatever it is that you want to call it, spirit, all of those things work. All I know is that when you give more, you get more. You know, when you give more, you get more. I've got so much proof in my life

when that has happened. And so what if we just decided to be the change, you and I? That's it. How can you and I be the change that we want to see in the world? So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know and love. Tag me on Instagram as I was talking about at RobDialJR. And also, if you do want to give me a birthday present, the only thing that I say besides being the change that you want to see in the world and doing something for someone else is follow me on Instagram if you're not following me on Instagram. All of these episodes

that I'm continuing to shoot are actually going to be exclusive videos on my Instagram. So if you're not following me on Instagram and you want to start watching these, follow me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode, making sure mission makes someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.