The Mindset Mentor - What Does It Mean to be Impeccable?

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Starting point is 00:00:30 Sorry, it is only available to people in the United States or Canada at this point. Today, we're gonna be talking about what it means to be impeccable. We're gonna be diving into this topic. But before I talk about being impeccable, I wanna talk about perfect. Because being impeccable and talk about being impeccable, I want to talk about perfect. Because being impeccable and striving to be impeccable with everything that you do

Starting point is 00:00:51 does not mean that you have to be perfect. Because too many people come up to me whenever I see them in person. They send me messages on Instagram. And they say, Rob, I'm dealing with perfectionism. I try my best. And then I realize that I'm a with perfectionism. I can't do, I try my best. And then I realize that I'm a perfectionist. So I don't do this and I don't do this and I don't do this. If you think that you're a perfectionist, as we all do, I'm just going to tell you this. Your perfectionism, quote unquote perfectionism,

Starting point is 00:01:19 is a mask that you're wearing to cover up some sort of fear. Okay, perfectionism does not exist. There will never be a human that you're wearing to cover up some sort of fear. Perfectionism does not exist. There will never be a human that is perfect. And how boring would that be to be perfect in the first place? But that perfectionism is a mask that you're wearing for something. The feeling of not being good enough or not being smart enough, maybe the fear of rejection, the fear of other people's opinions, the fear of letting your family down, maybe the fear of rejection, the fear of other people's opinions, the fear of letting your family down, maybe the fear of dying alone or whatever it might be, your perfectionism is a mask for some sort of fear.

Starting point is 00:01:54 And so when I'm talking about being impeccable, do not think that I'm talking about being perfect because I don't expect anybody to be perfect. And if you expect yourself to be perfect, you're going to let yourself down your entire life because there is no way that you'll ever be perfect. And your perfection is in your imperfection. You know, and Ram Dass always talks about this. He says, if you were to walk into a forest,

Starting point is 00:02:19 you don't look at a tree and be like, oh my God, that tree's so fat. Ew, look at that branch on that tree. It's so ugly. No, the tree is perfect in its imperfection, just as every human. So when I'm talking about impeccability today, I'm not talking about being perfect, okay? Impeccability is to strive to be the best that you can be in everything that you do, okay? In every single thing that you do. And here's the most important part of it. It's not just the big things. A lot of times what we focus on as people, and I notice a lot of people I've

Starting point is 00:02:50 coached over the years focus on, is the biggest things in their life. Oh, you know, as long as I show up for this thing, or as long as I show up for this thing. And the big things happen in your life like what? Once every few months, a couple times a year, maybe there's something big. But what about every single action that you do throughout the day? Because I'm more worried about and what I care more about is how you show up to all of the small things in your life. And if you are trying to be impeccable with everything, and I'm talking about the little teeny tiny things, big things matter. Sure, big things matter. But I care more about the small things because you've heard me say it over and over and over

Starting point is 00:03:29 again. How you do one thing is how you do everything. And so how you show up to the small things, if you can show up with impeccability in all of the small things in your life or as many of the small things as you possibly can, you will definitely show up with your being impeccable to the big things in your life as well. So it's just like going, okay, well, I want to be able to go and bench 350 pounds. Well, if you haven't been benching the past six months, and then you go and try to bench 350 pounds, you're probably not going to be able to do it. And so it's about showing up in those little reps that you get every single day with all of the little things that you do. I personally, showing up in those little reps that you get every single day with all of the little things that you do. I personally, just really what I care about is how you show up to the most mundane things in

Starting point is 00:04:09 your life more than anything else. Okay? The mundane little teeny tiny things. And this is something that I've been sharing with my team for the past probably six months, right? Is the standards that we have and the way that we show up to the smallest things in our lives. You know, we have about right around 20 employees at this point right now. And the results in the business, their paychecks, all of that stuff

Starting point is 00:04:33 will be equal to everything else that they do. And so if they're not waking up on time and doing their morning routines and going through their goals and going through their journaling, they're probably not going to show up to the business or even their entire life the way that they could if they were to go through and be impeccable with

Starting point is 00:04:49 what time they wake up, be impeccable with thinking about their goals, be impeccable about their meditation, be impeccable about their workouts, right? The results in this business, in my business, will be equal to the way that they show up in the little teeny tiny things in their life. And so we've been really diving into with them what it means to be impeccable. So this is important for you. But if you've got, you know, if you're a manager and you've got employees under you, or if you own a business and you have employees, this is important for you to talk about with people who are around you as well. Because the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So a good example, and I always talk about these are like the little teeny mundane things. If you end up,

Starting point is 00:05:23 you know, having lunch and you're at your house and it's a Saturday and you don't have a whole lot going on, but you eat some lunch and you have your dishes, do you go ahead and just throw those dishes inside of the sink and say, oh, I'll get to it later? Or do you say, you know what? I understand the way to do one thing is the way to do everything. And I'm going to finish the task of eating my lunch. And not finishing means that I'm going to need to take this dish. I'm going to need to wash it and either put it away or I'm going to have to put it inside of the dishwasher. So there's a difference in the way that you show up between just, I'm going to put this inside of the sink

Starting point is 00:05:58 to I'm going to wash it and put it away. Same thing where I always say, if you're trying on clothes in the morning and you're trying on your clothes, you're trying to figure out what you're going to wear to work. And then you just decide, okay, well, I've tried this thing on this thing on, oh no, I finally found the thing that I'm going to be wearing today. The clothes that you tried on earlier, do you take those clothes and just leave them on the bed and head off to work or whatever is you're going to do for the day? Or do you look at those clothes and say, okay, it'll take me 30 seconds, literally 30 seconds to go ahead and clean these or to take these clean clothes and to put them on the hanger and put them back to where they were. It's 30 seconds. Are you trying to cut the corners for literally something that's going to take you

Starting point is 00:06:37 30 seconds? Because if you're going to cut the corners on someone's going to take you 30 seconds, you're definitely going to be cutting corners on something that is a really big task or really big event in your life. Same thing. If you wake up in the morning, finish the task of waking up and sleeping and just make your bed. How long does it take to make the bed? 45 seconds? Are you sitting there going, ah, yeah, I'll get to it later? And you just let it be? How many other things in your life are you saying, oh, I'll get to it later? Oh, I'll get to it. I'll do it another time. Oh, you look at your to-do list and you just let it be? How many other things in your life are you saying, oh, I'll get to it later. Oh, I'll get to it. I'll do it another time. Oh, you look at your to-do list and you look at the most important things. You're like, oh, I'll get to it later. You know, I'll do these other things, but I'll get to those later. Do you do what you say you're going to do? Right? Do you do what you

Starting point is 00:07:18 say you're going to do with your friends, with your family, with your children, with your spouse, with your employees, with other people that you work with? Do you do what you say you're going to do? Now, more importantly, not just talking about you, do you do what you say you're going to do for yourself? This is an important one. How often do you tell yourself you're going to do something and then you don't do it? You know, oh yeah, you know what? I'm going to lose weight this year. And then you don't, you know, you go to the gym for a little while and then you just fall off. Why? Because you're not impeccable with the acts that need to happen in order for you to lose weight. You know what? I'm going to start that business this year. That business, the idea

Starting point is 00:07:59 that I've had for three years, I'm going to start that business. And then you maybe do a little bit of research and then you don't start the business. Oh, you know what? I'm going to keep this business going. And maybe a business, you start a business and it gets going. You get excited about it for six months. You're not bringing in a ton of revenue. You're like, maybe it's not just working out. You just give up. You give up on the business. You give up on yourself. This year, what I'm going to focus on, I'm going to focus on my personal development. I'm going to read. I'm going to meditate. I'm going to journal.

Starting point is 00:08:26 That's my morning routine. Read, meditate, journal. And then you do it for a week. You do it for two weeks. Six months later, you fall and back off and you do the exact same thing that you always have. And you're like, oh, I gave up on my morning routine again. You know what?

Starting point is 00:08:38 This year, I'm going to wake up early. I'm going to wake up early. I'm going to do my meditation. I'm going to go to the gym. Well, you know what? You do it for a little while and then you just give up on yourself. Oh, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to read every single morning, 10 pages before I go to work. And you read for a little while and it's cool. And then you go back to your routines and

Starting point is 00:08:57 you sleep in a little bit longer. You stop doing it. You know what? This year I'm going to invest in myself. And then you decide that, oh, I don't have any time. Maybe next year I'll invest in myself. How often do you tell yourself you're going to do something and you just don't do it? And you give up on yourself. Hey, today's program is brought to you by Athletic Greens, the health and wellness company that makes comprehensive daily nutrition really, really simple. AG1 by Athletic Greens is the category-leading superfood product that brings comprehensive and convenient daily nutrition to everybody. Keeping up with the research, knowing what to do, and taking a bunch of pills and capsules is hard on the stomach,

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Starting point is 00:10:16 dial today. Again, athleticgreens.com slash dial to take control of your health and give AG1 a try. What is that going to do if you give up on yourself? Is that going to help build your confidence if you're giving up on yourself over and over and over and over again? No, of course it's not going to. It's the same as if you have a friend, and we had this happen with a friend of ours, where she was like, you know what, let's go do dinner. And then we would plan for a dinner like a week, two weeks in advance. And then she would cancel the day of the dinner. Oh guys, I can't because XYZ came up.

Starting point is 00:10:52 Sorry, let's reschedule. Then we'd reschedule for a couple of weeks down the road. We'd get the time and then she would cancel. Something would come up again. And then we did it. There was a third time we rescheduled. We had in the date and then we're just like, you know what? We're not going to go get dinner with her anymore because clearly she doesn't

Starting point is 00:11:09 give a fuck. That's the truth of it. That's clearly the truth of it. So would you eventually stop trusting your friend if they said they were going to do something and they didn't do it? And they said they were going to do something they didn't do. And they said they're going to do something they didn't do it. Eventually you get to the point where you're like, all right, maybe this person just doesn't care anymore. Maybe this isn't a true friend. And you actually look at them and you stop trusting them because they're not showing up, right? We've all had this happen before.

Starting point is 00:11:33 We've all had friends like this. We know people like this where they say they're going to do something and they just don't do it. Would you eventually stop trusting that friend? Of course you would. You would stop trusting them or you would trust them a whole lot less, right? It's the same thing with you trusting yourself. So if you say that you're going to get up and start losing weight this year and you don't, you're losing trust in yourself. If you say you're going to start that business and keep that

Starting point is 00:12:01 business going and you start it and then you give up in a few months, you're losing trust in yourself. If you say that you're going to work you start it, and then you give up in a few months, you're losing trust in yourself. If you say that you're going to work on your personal development, and then you give up, you're losing trust in yourself. If you say you're going to wake up early and you sleep in, you're losing trust in yourself. If you say you're going to meditate and you stop meditating, you give up on yourself. Well, then you're going to lose trust in yourself. If you say you're going to go to the gym and you stop going to the gym, and you make an excuse because you're too tired, you're going to start losing trust in yourself. If you say you're going to read and you're not reading, you're losing trust in yourself. You say you're going to go to the gym and you stop going to the gym and you make an excuse because you're too tired, you're going to start losing trust in yourself. If you say you're going to read and you're not reading, you're losing trust in yourself. You say you're going to invest in yourself and you don't, you're losing trust in yourself. You're constantly, literally this

Starting point is 00:12:33 friend that is canceling over and over and over and over again. No reason, no wonder why it's so hard to gain confidence. Confidence is not something that you're born with. Confidence is something that you get by showing up for yourself when you said you were going to show up for yourself and putting yourself number one, realizing that when you put yourself as number one, naturally you get better. And when you get better,

Starting point is 00:12:55 you affect every single person's life around you. So you don't have to be perfect. I don't want you to give that, I don't want to give that impression. But what it comes down to is, are you doing your best in every single thing that you do? Are you trying to show up for yourself to the highest level more than you show up for anybody else?

Starting point is 00:13:13 Because that is what it comes down to as far as building your confidence. And that is what it takes to be in like complete impeccability. And you don't have to be perfect once again, but I've got a question for you. I want you to just be 100% honest with yourself, okay? I'm going to ask you a question. If you're driving, if you're in your house, if you're in a run, whatever it is, I want you to answer this question out loud. All of the things that I just said about being impeccable, okay? On a scale of

Starting point is 00:13:37 one to 10, one being like you've never shown up for yourself, you don't do anything for yourself. 10 being like you've never given up on yourself. You're perfect. You're the most perfect human being that's ever existed. On a scale of one to 10, how are you showing up for yourself and your impeccability? Say it out loud. What is it? What is it? What's the number?

Starting point is 00:13:54 Is it a four? Is it a five? Is it a six? Is it a seven? Find what that number is and think about that number for a second. Realize that that number could be higher. And I want you to think about this.

Starting point is 00:14:06 What is it costing you in your life by that number not being higher? Right? So like, let's say that you're showing up for yourself at a six, right? What is it costing you in your life? What do you not have that you could have where if you were an eight? If you were an eight instead of a six, what else could you have in your life? What else could you have? Where else could your life be? Because life is either hard now and it's easy later, or it's easy now and it's hard later. The real question is, are you choosing the easy route now? Because if you are, life will be harder later. What is your future self missing out on? Because you're coming up short right now with yourself. What is your future self missing out on? Because you're coming up short right now with yourself. What is your future self missing out on?

Starting point is 00:14:48 What is your future, you know, what is your family missing out on the future? Because you're not being impeccable with your word. You're not showing up for yourself. You're only showing up for yourself at a six when you could be showing up at an eight. You could be showing up at a nine. What would your life look like if you're at a six?

Starting point is 00:15:02 If you went to a nine, that's 50% better. What would your life look like if you were at a nine? What would your life look like if you're at a six? If you went to a nine, that's 50% better. What would your life look like if you were at a nine? What are you missing out on because you're not showing up for yourself at a nine? What is your family missing out on? Your children, what are they missing out on? Your children that you have or your future children, what are they missing out on? Because simply you're not being impeccable with what you say you're going to do. What are they missing out on because Because simply you're not being impeccable with what you say you're going to do. What are they missing out on? Because you're not showing up for yourself. You're not showing up for yourself mentally or physically or emotionally or spiritually

Starting point is 00:15:31 or in your business or in your friendships, all of those things, okay? What are your friends missing out on? Because you're showing up at only a six and not a nine. What is your community missing out on? Because you're showing up at only a six and not a nine? The world is missing out because you simply have decided to cut corners. What would your life look like if you decided to never cut corners again? Because when I'm talking about

Starting point is 00:15:54 cutting corners, I'm not talking about something big. I'm talking about the 30 seconds that it would take to wash a dish and put it away. I'm talking about the 45 seconds that it would take to make your bed. I'm talking about the 30 seconds that it would take to take all of your clothes that you just tried on, put them on the hangers and put them back where they were. Once again, I don't give a damn about the big things because the big things will work themselves out if you're constantly working on the small things over and over and over again. Because the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. And if you're giving up and you're giving up and you're giving up and you're giving up, you don't trust yourself as much as you could. When you don't trust yourself as much as you could, you don't set your goals as

Starting point is 00:16:27 high as you could. We don't set your goals as high as you could. You don't work towards them and you don't get them. And so what I really care about is how can you be impeccable with every single thing that you do? Not striving for perfection, but striving to be better today than you were yesterday. Because when you show up at trying to be impeccable at every single thing that you do, your confidence grows, you grow, your family grows, everything that you do grows, everything gets better, and you impact every single person that is in contact with you at a much higher, higher level. The best thing that you can do is show up for yourself on a daily basis at the highest level. It's the best thing you can do for yourself. And it's the best thing that you can do for every single person that is in your life as well. So that is what it means to be

Starting point is 00:17:09 impeccable. Are you going to start being impeccable with yourself? So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Once again, we don't have any big company that pushes this out to all of their followers and all of their TV shows and all that stuff. This isn't sponsored or we don't have NPR, ESPN, or any of those things pushing it out. The only way that we grow is from you guys sharing it. So if you would share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in it so more people could see it, more people could be interested in it, and then we continue to grow, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it. Once again, Instagram is RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R.

Starting point is 00:17:46 And I'm going to leave it the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you, and I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - What Does It Mean to be Impeccable?

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