The Mindset Mentor - What the Hell Do You Want???

Episode Date: September 28, 2019

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The very last day you can join is October 8th. Do not send me an email on October 9th and say, oh my God, I didn't realize I forgot about it because I will not be accepting people past October 8th. October 8th is the very last day you could join is the day that we start. And after that, I'm putting 100% of my energy into these people and their growth. So if you're interested, go to habits30.com and join us. Today, you know, I kind of went with my intuition today. I was thinking about it in the shower, if I'm being honest with you. I was like, man, I've talked about it before, but I just don't know if people understand the importance of clarity. Like what the hell do you want in your life? And have you written it

down on a piece of paper what you want in your life? What do you want in your family? What do you want in your relationship with your children? What do you want in your relationship with your spouse? What do you want in your career? What do you want in your bank account? What do you want in your friendships? What do you want in your relationships? What kind of house do you want in your bank account? What do you want in your friendships? What do you want in your relationships? What kind of house do you want? What cars do you want? What clothes do you want? What spirituality do you want?

How much peace do you want? Have you ever sat down with a fricking pen and paper and written it down? Because I know most of you out there haven't done it. And you've heard me say it. And there's so much power in taking a pen and paper, not your computer, not your phone, not your iPad, not your tablet, whatever it is. There's so much power in taking a pen and paper and saying, what the hell do I want in my life? I want this. I want this. I want this. I want this. And you get, you don't just write it down and say, I want to lose weight. You get very, very, very clear. What exactly do you want?

Not I want to lose weight, but I want to lose 12 pounds and weigh 185 pounds. Not I want to be healthier, but this is what I want to eat. I want to eat this. I want to give up this. I want to stop drinking alcohol. I want to do this, this, this, this, like just, it's just like, if you could see my face about how I probably look like I'm about to explode. It drives me crazy of how freaking close you are to greatness. It drives me crazy of how freaking close everybody is to greatness. And the simplest way to start is to sit down with a freaking pen and paper and ask yourself, what the hell do I want in my life? And how do I make a plan? You'll make spreadsheets for your job. You'll do

all of these spreadsheets that you hate doing. You'll send these stupid emails that you hate sending, but you won't sit down with a pen and paper and plan your life. Like there's got to be a time where you do it because it's either you plan your life and you start to ask yourself what you want. You go on that path or you just stay in the exact same place. When you get into your car and you put in the GPS where your destination is, your GPS will get you there. But have you put in the destination of your life? Have you? Really? Like if you're listening to me and you're at home, you're not driving your car, just turn me off and just get a pen and paper. I don't even care anymore. Just turn me off and start planning your life. Plan the person that you need to be. So you figure out what you want, right? You ask yourself,

what do I want? And you figure that out. And then you say, who do I need to be in order to get what I want? Because if you were the person that could attain all of those things, you would already have all those things. So what that means is that in order to, because I've said it before, people are always focused on what they need to do to get the life that they want. And that's the wrong way of looking at it. It's who you need to be in order to get what you want. Who do you need to be? Which means, who do I need to become in order to get that life that I want. You have to plan out the life that you want. And then after you do that, you look at it and you say, I need to plan out the person that I need to be to get that life that I want. Now here's the secret sauce. When you're planning out what you

want, can you honestly sit down with that pen and paper and sit there with no restrictions, Sit down with that pen and paper and sit there with no restrictions. Sit there as if you're four years old again and everything is possible. Not the restrictions that the universe has given you, you know, because the universe doesn't put restrictions on you. It's the restrictions that your parents have given you, that society has given you, that your spouse has given you, that all of the breakups and the people that have said negative things to you and advertisements on TV and the bullies, those are the, you're taking other people's ceilings for you and making it your own ceiling. So can you sit down with that pen and paper and not only get clearer, but be completely honest

and your mind's open, your heart's open, and you're sitting down and you're saying, what do I want as if anything is possible? Because anything is possible. Whoever told you it's not is full of it. And I bet you if they told you that anything's not possible, look at where they are now. Are they in the position you want to be? Probably not. And what you have to think about is you need to figure out who you want to listen to. Do you want to listen to their advice?

Do you want to listen to someone else's advice? And here's what you do. You close the gap. And here's what you do when you close the gap. You say, okay, what do I want? Number one, question number two, who do I need to become in order to get there? And number three, and this is why I'm so hardcore on habits because habits are 45% of your life. According to Harvard, what habits do I need to break? And what habits do I need to create in order to become the person that I need to become to then create the life that I need to create? So number one, what do I want?

And you plan it all out. Number two, who do I need to become in order to do that? And in order to create that life. And number three, what habits do I need to create? And what habits do I need to break in order to become that person that gets that life? So you go one, two, three. And then what happens is you go three, two, one. What do I want? Who do I need to become? And then number three is what habits do I need to create? Number three, to become the person I need to become. Number two, to get the life that I want. Number one, so simple, but it's the most

incredible experience that you'll ever have in your life. If you sit down with a pen and paper, remove all restrictions and act like you're four years old again. And then what the deal is, and this is why I'm so hardcore on the Habits 30 Challenge, you know, the Habit Mastery Challenge is then you learn to visualize it and actually make it real in your brain because your brain doesn't know what's real, like actually physical in this world

or what you're visualizing. And that's what I'm gonna be teaching in the Habit Mastery 30 Challenge is how to figure out what you want, how to figure out who you need to become, how to figure out the habits that you need to create, and then visualize that every single day so that you're not working towards that thing. Like I said, you don't need to focus on what you need to do in your outside physical world. You need to focus on the eight inches between your ears and you need to visualize that and you know how to visualize it and you know how to journal it. You need to figure out

how to create the why behind it. That is how you figure out the life that you want and then create it. So that's what I got for you guys today. If you're interested in learning more about the habit mastery challenge, go to habits30.com. You can see all of the details. There's a long video up there. I think it's about a 20 minute video. So if you're like on the edge of joining, go to that website, go to habits30.com, watch the video. And if you're, if you, if you're like, no, this isn't for me. Cool. I don't, I don't, that's perfectly fine. I don't hate you for it, but if you watch it, you might go, Oh, Holy crap. This is exactly what I needed to change my life to create the 2020 that I needed to be. I need it to be. So once again,

if you're interested in joining, go to habits30.com. I love you all for listening. I want the best for you. And I can only teach you as much as I can teach you, but you have to start putting the action in. So turn me off. Don't listen to me for the rest of the day and just have a fricking planning session with yourself pen and paper If you're driving your car pull that freaking thing over Be late to work. I don't take care tell your boss that you know, something happened Whatever it was and take time and put it into yourself

You put so much time in everyone else so much time in everyone else and what needs to be done with your children What needs to be done with your spouse and what needs to be done with your children? What needs to be done with your spouse? And what needs to be done with your family? And what needs to be done at work? You put so much time into everyone else. Put some freaking time into yourself, please. If I could do one thing to give everybody, you know, if I could, if I had a superpower, people always ask me what my superpower be. My superpower would literally be giving every human self-awareness because if every person had self-awareness, there will be an incredible place, but you have to sit down with pen and paper and meditate on it and journal it and visualize it.

And that's the way that the world will change. If you become the change that you want to see in the world, hashtag Gandhi quote. So once again, if you're interested in joining, go to habitus30.com. I love you all. I appreciate you all. I'm going to leave you the same way. I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. You know, I'll tell you what we did last night. I don't like, I hate telling people about doing good stuff because I feel like it takes the good out of it. And like, I'm trying to brag about it, but I don't, I'm only saying this because of the fact that I want you guys to know, and I would love for you to do this. And I'd love for you to send an email

after you do it or do something for someone else. Um, yesterday was Friday. My best friend Dean's in town. My girlfriend was here and we had nothing to do on Friday because we don't go, we don't go out and party anymore. We don't really drink. And I was like, you know, I saw a video of a guy that was buying food for homeless people. We have't really drink. And I was like, you know, I saw a video of a guy that was buying food for homeless people. We have a lot of homeless people here in Austin. And, um, you know, and we were like, you know what, we should do that. So we went down to, to HEB, you know, the grocery store here. I spent like 60 bucks. That was it. Got a ton of bread, got a ton of peanut butter, got a ton of jelly, got a bunch of toothbrushes, got a bunch of, uh,

small toothpaste, got waters, got bananas, got apples. And we make care packages for homeless people. We spent our Friday night by just giving out care packages to people who are homeless. And it was amazing to see their faces. And they're like, God bless you, man. Thank you so much. Because people just, they judge them and they don't care about them. But those people need love. And all I want you to do, and I'm not telling you this because I don't want it to be bragging at all. I'm telling you because I want you to do this for somebody else. Make it your mission day to make somebody else stay better. It doesn't have to be the exact same thing, but it could be something by coffees for the person in line behind you. And then after you do it, send me an email, rob at rob dial.com. Let me know. I would love, I would love to start

reading your emails of how you have been doing this and changing people's lives. And I would love for that to be my ending because we're talking about getting a new intro, new outro and all that stuff because obviously the name of the podcast changed. I would love for the outro from now on to be me reading your emails of how you, oh my God, this is, I literally just had this idea. I would love for that to be the outro for me to read your emails for this too. We have tens of thousands of people that are listening to my voice right idea. I would love for that to be the outro for me to read your emails for this. We have tens of thousands of people that are listening to my voice right now. I would love for you to do something for someone else, no matter how small it seems. And then send me an

email, rob at rob dial.com. And I would love to start reading. This is the outro. And if I get enough of them, which means that you guys have to go do something. If I get enough of them, I'm going to start reading them out. And I love for that to be the outro every single episode. God, that would be amazing. That would be so amazing if we do that. So go, go make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. Send me an email. It could be an anonymous email if you want, like, or you could just say, don't say my name and I'm completely cool. I won't say your name. I'll just say, I got an email from an anonymous person who doesn't want to be mentioned, but they did this because I want to inspire other people to continue to help other people for no reason at all, but just because they want to inspire other people to continue to help other people for no reason

at all, but just because they want to give out love. That makes me feel really good inside actually to think about that. So I would love for you guys to do that. So go make it your mission, make someone else's day better. Send me an email, rob at robdial.com. And I would love for you to consider joining the Habits 30 Challenge. Go to habitswithanestoftheend30.com. Check it out. See if it's right for you and make sure to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day. When you go on holiday,

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