The Mindset Mentor - What We All Are Craving Right Now

Episode Date: May 6, 2021

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial, and if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And today is Thursday, which means it is the business edition of the Mindset Mentor, which also means I am joined by my best friend of 15 years and business partner, Dean DeVries. Dean, what's going on, buddy? It is another day in paradise, and it's a fantastic Thursday. Happy Thursday. It is for sure. Happy Thursday. Today, we're going to talk about the importance of community and connection. We're going to talk about for your business specifically, but we're also going to talk about for your lives. And, um, Dean and I have been really, you know, we've talked a lot about this lately of just the feeling of,

we didn't realize how much we were starving for connection except for in the past couple of weeks. And so I'll give you a quick example for me. And then Dean can tell you about him. So I'm a part of a mastermind and the mastermind has a hundred people in it. That's where it caps out it. And we had an event that was in Miami and, uh, there was necessary precautions that we had to go through. I had to do a, you know, a PCR test and that had to come in a negative a couple of days before. Then when we got to the event, we had to do another rapid test before we could go into a room with anybody else. And at one point in time, so everybody passes. I was all good. I went into the event. Everything was amazing. And on day one, I remember walking into the event and I was surrounded by, there was about

120 people with all the staff members and everything. And I thought to myself, it like hit me. I was like, oh my God, I haven't been in this situation with this many people in like a year and a half. And I feel so alive and I'm a, I'm an introvert and I felt so alive being around other people who felt good about, about being around other people. And it was literally, I felt this feeling of just, I was, I didn't realize how starved I was for connection until I was around other people. Yeah. Well, you're telling me I'm naturally an extrovert.

Yeah, well, you're telling me I'm naturally an extrovert. So I literally was starving. Like I was deprecated with how much lack of connection that I just craved, right? So yeah, I had a very similar experience, man. It was actually just reflecting on not being around people, which I normally am. Reflecting on not being around people, which I normally am. That's just where I come alive most. But not being around people on a consistent basis and connecting with people. I saw things within myself, and we can dive into this in a little bit.

I saw things within myself that I really got a chance to work on. I was starving for connection with others. But in doing that, I also created a connection with myself. And so going into the experience, and I was at an event about a month, a month and a half ago or so. And going into that experience, having done this work and kind of like being forced to connect with myself, it made the connection with others so much more rich. And it was the same, same sort of thing. We all took COVID tests. We had to furnish a negative test three days before there were precautions at the event. There's also like this level of sensitivity that everybody was really conscious of, which I really appreciated because we were really tuned into each other's needs. There was different levels of comfort. I personally wanted to give everyone a hug, but there's also people that weren't quite

comfortable with that, that wanted to keep their distance. And so being able to tune into other people's needs was actually a really great experience, despite that it was, you know, kind of weird if I was looking at it from like the perspective of a couple years ago, you know, seeing that experience would be like, what's going on there? But just the spiritual aspect of being able to connect with each other's needs, but having an intention of being together and having an experience together, That was really special. For sure.

And what you realize and you really do realize, like I've known it for a long time is we're tribal beings. Like we are meant to be around other people, you know, and I did an episode on this not too long ago, but there was a 75, it's still going on, but it was a 75 year study on what makes people happy in their lives. And it was done by Harvard. It's still going on. And they found that what makes people the happiest is connection with other people and a deep connection. And they said, loneliness is the new cancer. You know,

being lonely destroys your body. Like it's, it's not just like a thing of like, Oh, I don't want to be lonely. It's like, it actually destroys your body. And they's, it's not just like a thing of like, Oh, I don't want to be lonely. It's like, it actually destroys your body. And they said, it's the equivalent of smoking 15 cigarettes per day. You know, so people who are lonely actually have a higher death rate of, of dying earlier. And so the, the reason why we're bringing this up is because I don't know if it's talked about enough right now in the media and everything that's going on is, is with everyone who's listening, you know, how are you connecting with others? And how are you connecting with people that are around you? How are you connecting with your family? How are you connecting with, you know, maybe you are connected with your family,

but what about people outside of your family that you should connect with? How are you connecting with your employees? You know, and, and what are you doing to fill your cup? Right. And so one of the things that I find that especially business owners, but also so many other people is that we're real. And myself is a hundred percent included in this is, is I give, give, give, give, give a lot. I give a lot of content. I give a lot of myself. I'm constantly talking in front of a microphone or a camera and all kinds of stuff. And then I've realized that sometimes I'm not receiving and I'm almost like, uh, it's almost like my cup is getting low and I need to, to refill my cup. And so my question for you guys out there is, are you filling your cup with connection, with human beings, with being around people? Do you

have a place to go to fill your cup, to work on yourself, to work on human connection, to work on your mindset? And, and then also, you know, like, to work on human connection, to work on your mindset. And then also, you know, like think about this, like if you don't or you don't know, what is filling your cup even look like in the first place, you know? Yeah. And that's so important too, because, you know, just reflecting on what you just said, the reason why we have all had this experience of lack of connection is because we have a concern for our own safety. So it's kind of like this double-edged sword that we've been experiencing

where it's like, you know, damned if you do damned, if you don't, it's like, if, if, if, you know, if you're not responsible, there's a risk out there with connecting, connecting with people. But then there's also this risk of if you don't connect with people, it's the equivalent of cancer, 15 cigarettes a day, right? And so the, the, the calling here that I think is just really important is really being intentional about filling that cup with, and now we're kind of moving into a different era of this, you know, chapter of our journey as a, as a planet and as a society where things are starting to be on the, you know, starting to look more optimistic. People are starting to get more comfortable. There's many reasons for that.

And, you know, regardless of that, it's becoming more and more possible for people to feel safe in environments where there's other people and really foster that connection. So the filling of the cup is so important and not just like connecting on, you know, on a level of like going out with your friends, but also like really having those deep, meaningful conversations and also like receiving leadership, receiving mentorship, like using this time as not only a way to get back into connection with people, but using it as also an opportunity for growth and an opportunity for transformation, because we can all agree that we are in very transformative times right now as a society and as a human race. And so understanding that we're in a moment of transformation,

this is a perfect opportunity for us to bring about our own transformation in that. For sure. And obviously we are understanding that everybody's got situations. Some people are very cautious and completely understand that, and some people are not cautious at all. And so it's like everyone's got their own thing that they do. And we don't judge anybody depending on what it is that they want. But what we're really trying to say though, is that like, what does filling your cup look like? Like, do you feel, and not even just from a connection

standpoint, I've, I've felt this in many areas of my life where I'm like, I just don't feel like I've got anything in me or I'm, I'm running out and I don't even know what I'm running out of. Yeah. I'm just feeling drained. And sometimes it's, it's that you don't have, you know, the mentorship that you need. You're not reading enough for yourself. You're not being around people that, that make you feel alive. And, you know, 2020 was a really interesting year for a lot of people. And it created that space, as you're saying, to connect to ourselves, which is super important. But for some people, it's at the point where maybe you should start connecting with others. And if you don't feel safe connecting with someone physically, no big deal. Are there people you can connect with through FaceTime, through Zoom? Can you call up, you know, if you have old high school friends, you haven't connected with in a while, like what you have to realize that your business, your life, your mindset,

your relationships, your family, all of those things, the better that you are, the better that all of those things are going to operate. Have you taken a step back and thought, man, maybe I am lacking connection. And maybe that lack of connection is actually slowing me down. Maybe it's, it's demotivating for me knowing that I am a tribal being and that's what's built inside of me. Do I have the type of people around me that I need? Do I have, I've been having the connection or has this, you know, forced quarantine a little bit, um, been actually stripping away the connection that I feel like I need. And so I

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is 2020 was that time for us to connect with ourself and most importantly, connect with those needs. And so whatever those needs are, to make sure that the cup is being filled. And I know for us, what 2021 is all about is that it's really important for us to get back into connection with others, get back into connection with our tribe, get back into connection in person, you know, and having that experience over the last couple of months with, um, you know, just being in live connection, man, it was like, it was so, so gratifying. And I just think back to like this time last year, it literally felt impossible

to be able to bring people together. And there's, you know, obviously still people that have that fear about being in person, but man, we're, we're in such a better place than we are a year ago. And not just like looking at the data, but also just from the, from the standpoint of people are feeling better, people are feeling more inspired and feeling more safe to, to make that happen. And even just from a few months ago. Yeah. Yeah. And that's, that's what's super important about is to, is to what I do want people to think about is the fact that things are going in the right direction and you might watch the news and things are telling you that they're not, but you know,

I'm in Texas, you're in Florida. And you know, with, with us being in Texas and looking at what's going on, the numbers continue to go down. And so for me, I happen to be a very optimistic person. And when I see that happening, I'm not like, Hey, let's go crazy. And let's just, you know, make out with everybody like that. But it's more of like, Oh shit, this is going in the right direction. This is something to be looking forward to. Like I'm looking forward to being around more people. And it was, it was really eyeopening to be around, um, a large group of people, but realize that it could be done in a really safe way. And that made me feel really optimistic about the future of like, Hey, things are starting to go back to normal. And for me, if it's done in a, in the right way and it's done very safe

and it's done of the highest possible standards, getting around people is actually something that can be done. And for me, that just lights me up inside. Yeah. Not only can it be done, but it's actually good for the good, for the body, good for the soul. Right. But it's there there's also, you know, the other thing about this, and we did an episode on this, uh, about maybe two months ago or so that not only are we optimistic and not only do we look for, you know, the reasons why, but we're also searching for the possibility. Like, how can we make this possible? And we've actually been working on this for months, right? Where we're like, how can we

get people together? That's all we want. Right. And so we've been asking the question, how, you know, if, if, if it is possible, we will find a way. And we came across some really great ways to do it in a way that's of the highest standards and done in a really responsible way. And now we are at the point and just reflecting on our episode that we did a couple months ago, we kind of put things on hold. And so now we're bringing it back and we are fully prepared, ready to go to not only have an amazing experience where we're bringing people together, but we're also doing it in a way that is of the utmost, has the highest standards. And the major thing that we want, and everybody has different comfort levels and different

opinions and perspectives, but the one thing that was most important, that was the common denominator that if we were to put out on some sort of event or just bring people together, the one thing that was most important is that we wanted people to feel safe. Because when people feel safe, then they can have the experience that they want, really enjoy the experience. And if all, if what we're doing is craving connection, but at the same time fearing for our life, that's not a good, you know, that that's, that's not the situation that, that we want to create. So, you know, being able to enjoy the connection and really get the benefits of that connection, but also really honor their experience that they have. So I'm, I'm super pumped about what we're about to announce. Um, and so, yeah, go ahead and tell us about it. So in full transparency, just for everybody listening is we actually had an event that was planned. I put down deposit. This was over a month ago

and we did an episode on it. So we didn't tell you what it was about, but we had an event that was planned in person in Austin, Texas. And I had a, Dean and I had a really tough conversation and we were like, Hey, we really want to be around people, but it just doesn't feel right yet. And when something doesn't feel right, I'm not going to go for it. And so I called up the place that we had the reservations for. I was like, Hey, you know, we want to push this back like six weeks, eight weeks, if it's possible. And they said, yeah, of course, completely understand. So we did. And with both of us, you going to an event, me going to event, me talking with the meeting owners, seeing how everybody, 120 people got to this event, safety was of the utmost priority. There were definitely precautions that were taken.

Nobody caught COVID while they were at the event or after the event. You know, there's probably, there was 120, but then there was also some other people that were outside the venue and helping people get in the venue and all of this stuff. And so for us, I was like, that's amazing to see because it shows us that this is possible. And so I want to announce it with full excitement, but also I want to announce it understanding that everyone's got their own opinions. And, um, you know, I just hope that we can, we can put something on, uh, that will be transformational for people, um, be able to have people get together. They can meet new people. They can get excited about it. They can be excited about being there, but also, as you said, feel safe so that they know that they can just focus on their transformation and not have to worry about their safety. And, uh, and that's

super important for us. And, uh, And it's exciting because this is something that we've been wanting to do. This is actually something we were gonna do a year ago. I actually had the exact same venue in June of last year. So almost a year now. And I had to get my deposit back, everything shut down, like all of that stuff happened. And so for us, we're gonna be doing an event

and it's gonna be in Austin, Texas and it's gonna be May 21st and it will not be a big event, uh, because obviously safety precautions, all of that type of stuff. Um, it's going to be a small event and it's going to be the very first live event that I've ever thrown ever. And I've been having people tell me for years that they want me to do a live event, but it's going to be here in Austin, Texas. And, um, all of the money is going to go to charity. I'm going to be paying for the event out of my own pocket. I'm going to be here in Austin, Texas. And all of the money is going to go to charity. I'm going to be paying for the event out of my own pocket. I'm going to be paying for the venue. I'm going to be paying for the workers that are going to be there, that are helping, that are

going to set up, that are going to clean, that are going to do everything. Videographer, all of that stuff, all of it's going to come out of my own pocket and every single dollar that goes into it. So in order for someone to go, they have to buy a quote unquote ticket. They have to make a donation to a charity that's near and dear to my heart called Operation Underground Railroad, which saves children that are in slavery for work, that are safe children that are in sex slavery, and that saves children from something called organ harvesting, which is disgusting as the humans do stuff like this, but literally children are taken so that they can take their organs and sell it on the black market. So every single

dollar from this event goes to that. I'm not saying like, Hey, if I profit, if I don't profit, any of that stuff, every single dollar that goes from someone getting a ticket goes to the event. And so the event is going to be May 21st in Austin, Texas. When someone buys, I won't tell you where it is because I don't want a whole bunch of people to show up. I know we could probably have a thousand people there, but it's going to be a tiny, tiny event. It's called Paradigm Shift 2.0. And the reason why is because last year was an interesting year.

It threw a lot of stuff at us. It rocked our world of what we thought was normal. And with rocking of your world completely brings new opportunities. So it's opportunities to learn and grow and thrive and to step up. And that's what we're working on. We're going to work on creating the vision that everyone wants to have going into this new life, operating in this new normal. We're going to talk about who you need to be to operate in this new normal. And then also we're going to talk about what it's going to take for you to bring that vision into reality. And then another big part of this night will not

just be connecting to your vision, but also connecting to other people. So, you know, we'll have wristbands that are going to indicate if somebody wants to stay, you know, six feet apart, we'll have, you know, red wristbands for that. We'll have yellow wristbands. If people want to shake hands, we'll have green wristbands for people who are like, Hey, let's just hug it out. Um, we want to make sure that we do this at the highest possible standards for safety. I can't say that enough. That is the main thing that we want to make sure of. Um, but I want people who are there to be able to connect with other people, to be able to have somebody that might be a new friend that thinks the same as them, or maybe a new business partner starting a business because connection's

so needed right now. And, um, and like I said, it's really important for us to, to put on something of the highest standards that we possibly can, um, to make sure that there are lessons in, you know, obviously Dean and I, we're going to both, both be teaching from stage and, uh, we're going to be teaching as much as we can, but also we're going to be facilitating a connection between you and other people that are there. And once again, um, the venue, uh, will be small. Uh, you know, the venue's a decent size, but we're going to keep the event size small so that everyone feels there's space and all that stuff as well. And all of the money is going to go to charity. Cause I think that's important to me. So,

um, the, uh, the thing that's important though, is that we, we try to help people get back to normal and we try to help people do what's best, but also at the same time, make sure we keep people as safe as possible, you know? So Dean, anything I missed in there? Yeah, I think that was perfect. And I just want to echo one thing that is really important that, uh, if you're going to be there, great. Like we are so excited to just connect with new people, also people that we have already been connected with. And so we're just really looking forward to getting people together. So connection is really the main theme and the title of our event, what we're naming it is the Paradigm Shift 2.0. So it's not just about connecting to ourselves and connecting to our hearts and connecting to our deepest truth so that we can, you know, really step into the new normal in a powerful way. which is really what this event's going to be, is everybody there is going to be part of a blossoming community

of people that are on the same journey. And the other part of connection that's really important is connecting to your highest possibility and your highest potential. Because regardless of what perspective you hold or what lens you may have looked at, the world changing over the last year or so, you know, whatever lens you've been looking at that through, the invitation that we have is looking at it through the lens of opportunity and the lens of possibility. And so we're going to share that lens with you. going to share that lens with you. And throughout this experience that we have planned, which again, I'm just so looking forward to, uh, is really, it's, it's an experience to get you even more

connected to your highest possibility to give you clarity, give you energy, and also give you the confidence to really allow this to be the moment that everything comes together for you in a way that maybe you never thought possible. So you're really using this time as an excuse to create even bigger possibilities. Yeah. So for those of you guys, uh, that, that want to stay back and stay safe, completely understand, completely respect it. This probably isn't the right time at this point, but for those of you guys that are 100% in, I promise you it will sell out just because we do have to keep it really small,

just because we want to keep it as safe as we possibly can. And if you do want to join us and get a ticket, which means that you donate to this amazing charity, you can go to mindsetmentorevent.com. It will be in Austin, Texas, May 21st. I think the time is going to be from 6 to 10 p.m. The location, we already know, but it will not be announced. It will be only emailed to people once they join.

Also, all of the safety precautions will be emailed to you as we get closer to the event of exactly what you need to do. Obviously, it's going to be required that people come in with a negative test. You know, all of that stuff we're going to keep. If you know us, we like to keep stuff at the highest standards possible. We like to hold ourselves to the highest standards. We want to make sure that we keep ourselves, keep this to the highest, highest, highest possible standard.

And I know it's 100% going to sell out. There will not be any other tickets after it sells out because, you know, obviously the venue size is the venue size. And, um, with the restrictions, obviously there's actually less people allowed into the venue right now, uh, than normal. So for those of you guys that want to join and see us and be there in person, uh, for this live event, uh, to shift your paradigm, your paradigm going into these new opportunities, this new world that we're stepping into. Once again, just go to mindsetmentorevent.com. It will be in Austin, Texas, May 21st from 6 to 10 p.m. All of the information will be emailed to you as we get closer to the event. So besides that, for those of you guys that can't make it to

the event, we still love you and we still want you to find some form of connection, whether that's a Zoom connection or a FaceTime connection, whatever it is that's going to fill your cup. The main question I want you to get from today is what is it that will fill your cup? Because I promise you, if it's being in person, then be in person. It's not being in person, then don't be in person, but figure out a way to fill your cup because you might realize like Dean and I both did that you're starving for connection. It's just been so long since you feel like you've actually had true connection that you didn't even notice that it was gone. So that's what I got for you for today's episode.

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