The Mindset Mentor - You Are Poisoning Yourself

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Starting point is 00:00:40 Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, one of the top-rated motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, I come out with a short, to-the-point, no-BS podcast designed to transform you from who you are today into who you want to be. There's no fluff here, just life-changing content. My name is Rob Dial and the podcast starts now. episode. And I wanted to see if I could have you guys help me out with this is if you listen to this and you've never actually gone into iTunes, if you listen through iTunes and you've never given this show a rating and review, would you do me a quick favor? Go into iTunes right now, go into ratings and reviews, give this the rating and review that you would want to. So you can rate it between one star and five star, and you can make a quick little note. And the reason why you want to do this is because based on iTunes algorithm, if there's a big spike, I've never asked for this

Starting point is 00:01:48 before. So if there's a big spike in ratings and reviews, then automatically what it will do is it will start to say, oh man, this podcast must be really popular. We need to make sure more people see it. And it'll actually put it on the front page of iTunes if we get enough. So if I could ask you one quick favor, please, please, please go to iTunes right now. Give this a rating and review, and I would greatly, greatly, greatly appreciate it. So today what I'm going to be talking about is holding on to anger. And this is kind of, you know, this is not exactly the same as last episode where I talk about you are holding suffering. Suffering is not holding you. I'm also going to talk about anger

Starting point is 00:02:29 because suffering can also manifest in other ways, such as anger, right? And like I said, this one's similar to the last one, but I'm going to take it one step further. And some people have had something done to them that they don't like, where they screwed up or they screwed someone over or something happened to them and they are angry about it, right? Somebody at some point in your life has screwed you over. There's a pretty good chance, right? What is it going to do for you? What is it going to do for you to hold on to that anger, right? Some people are angry because of, you know, what somebody did, what they didn't do, what they should have done. Anger does nothing for you,

Starting point is 00:03:12 right? If something doesn't do anything for you, there's no reason for it to exist in your life, right? If it doesn't serve you, get rid of it. Anger is only bad for you. Holding onto anger actually kills you quicker. Believe it or not, being angry, being a more angry person or holding onto anger actually kills you quicker. So some people who are more angry than others, just so you know chemically how it works, have higher cortisol levels in their brain. Cortisol is the stress hormone. Cortisol kills you quicker. So by holding onto anger for someone else, what they might have done or what they might have not even known that they had done or they forgot about, to hold onto that anger is actually doing nothing to them, but it's killing you. So that's why they say that holding

Starting point is 00:04:07 onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die, right? By holding onto this anger, you are actually legitimately killing yourself. You are poisoning your own brain because you are angry, you are mad, you are pissed off, and you have higher cortisol levels in your brain because of it, which means that you are going to die sooner because of that anger, because of that frustration, because of that sadness or whatever it is that you're holding onto, right? This is not something that's natural in the brain, just so you know. This is a learned pattern and behavior. I had this conversation with my friend the other day where we were talking about, you know, is it all nature

Starting point is 00:04:50 nurture or is it in our DNA? Anger is not in our DNA. Sadness is not in our DNA. That is a learned pattern, something that you've learned. If you are a very angry person, did you learn it from somewhere? Let me take a guess. One of your parents might happen to be a very angry person, did you learn it from somewhere? Let me take a guess. One of your parents might happen to be a very angry person. Let me take a guess. One of their parents might be a very angry person. Anger or any of those types of things are a learned pattern. Are you going to hold onto that pattern? It's not natural for you to be angry, right? If you do something to your dog, like accidentally kick your dog, let's hope that doesn't happen because that'd be terrible. Don't go kicking dogs because I love dogs. But if you accidentally kick your dog,

Starting point is 00:05:33 right? Your dog isn't pissed off at you 30 minutes later. Why do we love dogs so much? Because it's unconditional love. They forgive, they forget, and they still love you more than anything else. We want to be, the reason why we love dogs so much is because we hope to be like that one day, right? So if you look at animals, animals do not hold onto anger. Therefore, the natural state of us as humans, anger is not a natural state. That is a learned behavior. You don't look at your dog and your dog's like, man, you kicked me 30 minutes ago. Nope, not going to do it. No, it's unconditional. They forgive, they forget, they go on about it and they just continue loving you no matter what. That's why we love dogs so much is because of that fact, right? Now also what's another learned behavior? I'll just give you

Starting point is 00:06:20 another example. If a dog gets smacked over, I hate talking about this because I love dogs so much, but I have to bring it up. But if a dog is hit a lot as it's younger, then if you raise your hand, what's it going to do? It's going to coil away. It's going to move its head away because it's a learned behavior. It knows that when the hand raise, it's going to come down. That's a learned behavior, right? If you go to a dog that's never been hit before and you raise your hand, it's not going to do anything because that's not a learned behavior for it. It didn't learn that when it was younger. So if you're angry, if you're pissed off, if you're sad, if you have all of these, if you have certain traits that you don't like about yourself, step back and say, is that actually in my DNA or is that a learned behavior, a learned pattern? If I'm really pissed off and really angry

Starting point is 00:07:06 at this person, did I learn this behavior? Probably. And if you learned it, guess what? You can also unlearn it or you can learn the behavior that you would prefer it to be. So holding onto anger for something that somebody else did or didn't do or should have done is doing no good. It's killing you quicker. It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die because they're not suffering from it. There's a pretty good chance, but you are suffering from it. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. So with that, I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode.

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The Mindset Mentor - You Are Poisoning Yourself

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