The Mindset Mentor - You Only Have One Life

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast, please do me a massive, massive favor right now. Take your phone out and give us a rating and review, however you listen to us. It allows us to spread more and more. So the more positive reviews that we get on Apple Podcasts, but Spotify and all those things, the more that those platforms actually show us to people who don't listen to us. So therefore, we can be found. So if you love this podcast, please do me a favor and do that. Just give us a rating review, however you listen to us. Today, I'm going to be talking about your life. I'm going to be talking

Starting point is 00:00:51 about the one life that you get. And I've got a question for you to kind of open it up and have you start to ponder and think about. Have you been living your life as if you get another shot? Think about that for a second. Have you been living your life as if you get another shot? Think about that for a second. Have you been living your life as if you're not in the actual batter's box, but you're over on deck just waiting for your real life to begin? I find that a lot of people live their lives as if maybe they'll get another shot sometime. And it's like a batting practice for a lot of people. And a lot of people, I don't know if it's because of the thought scares them that, hey, yeah, you're going to die. If that scares them, I think that it does. So I think a lot of people try to look away from it and act as if it's not

Starting point is 00:01:36 going to happen. And I don't want this to be a morbid episode or a morbid thought because that's the exact opposite of what I want. But I want to bring that in is that I notice a lot of people live their lives as if maybe they'll get another shot. Too many people live their lives as if this is just practice. It's just practice. Maybe my real day will come. So I want you to think about that for a second. Answer yes or no in your own head. I can't hear you. It's a rhetorical question, but just, you know, it's rhetorical for me saying it because obviously I'm never going to hear you answer it. But have you been living your life as if you get another shot? Answer out loud. Yes, no. What is it? And what I want you to realize is there's a really great, it really pops into my head. There was a great quote that I saw where Neil deGrasse Tyson is

Starting point is 00:02:24 being interviewed by Larry King when Larry King was still alive. And Larry King said to him, no, him and Larry King are talking. And he said to Larry King, hey, if you could live forever, would you want to? And Larry King said, yes. And he wasn't expecting that. So he starts laughing. But Neil deGrasse Tyson, he asked it back to him and he says, no, I wouldn't want to live forever. Because if you always have tomorrow, it puts no urgency on today. What gives you motivation to work, to get up, to create something, to become better is the fact that there is a pending death that's going to be creeping closer and closer to us every single day. And I don't know when mine's going to be. I don't know when yours is going to be creeping closer and closer to us every single day. And I

Starting point is 00:03:05 don't know when mine's going to be. I don't know when yours is going to be and neither do you. But are you living your life as if you get another shot? And are you looking at it going, you know what? This is going to end one day. Instead of being afraid of it, maybe I should use that pending death that's going to be coming closer and closer every single day. And actually have that motivate me to get my ass up and actually do something with my life. Because people live as if tomorrow's guaranteed. Tomorrow's never guaranteed. If you knew today was your absolute last day on earth, what would you have missed out on? Think about that for a second. If you went into the doctor's office for a routine checkup and they came back and they said, oh yeah, I'm sorry. There's something that we just found and you're not going to see tomorrow.

Starting point is 00:03:54 What would you think? What would you have missed out on? What chances didn't you take? What places didn't you travel to? What things did you not say to other people? What were you not able to give your loved ones that you wish you would have? Think about that for a second. What would you have missed out on if it was like, today's the last day, you've got nothing left? What would it be? What would your loved ones, what did you not give them? What did you not say to them? Where did you not travel to? What did you not say to them? Where did you not travel to? What did you not do? What chances did you not take? How did you not leave the world better? How could you have done something different? And I'm not talking about living

Starting point is 00:04:33 with regret. What I'm talking about is you're not dying today. Hopefully, I hope you're not dying today. I hope I'm not dying today either. But if you're not and you still have time, well, why don't we just do the things that we thought we wish that we would have done? Think about this for a second. On a scale of one to 10, one being the absolute worst, 10 being the absolute best, you know, like one being terrible, 10 being like the best life that anyone has ever lived out of all billions and billions and billions of people that have been on this planet. what would you rate your life up until this point right now and how much you've gotten out of it until this moment?

Starting point is 00:05:11 Think about that for a second. What would you rate it? Just say it out loud. Don't think about it. Just gut feeling, go for it. What is it? Throw it out there. Have you taken all of the risks?

Starting point is 00:05:22 Have you done all of the things? Have you said all of the things you needed to say? Have you traveled to all of the places? Have you taken all of the risks? Have you had all of the fun? Or have you lived your life in fear some way? Have you worried too much about what other people would think about you? have you worried too much about what other people would think about you? Have you thought too much about other people's opinions? If you decided to follow your dreams, have you worried too much about paying the bills? What is it that you would have done differently if you had nothing left? So on a scale of one to 10, so let's say you say, you know what, probably 6.5. So then grab your pen

Starting point is 00:06:06 and paper and you ask yourself this question. If I've been at a 6.5 for my life, you know, I'm 36 right now. And let's say I'm in this, I'm going through this routine, 6.5. Okay. What would get my life to a nine? It's 10. I don't know if I'm going to be able to ever get to 10. We can shoot for that if we want. But what would get myself, what's the delta between 6.5 and 10? What is it that I haven't done that I could have done? The risks that I could have taken, the places I could have traveled to, the things that I could have said, the people that I could have impacted. What's the difference between the 6.5 and the nine? And you take out your pen and paper, you start writing these things down. If I died today and it was only 6.5, what could I have done differently in the 36

Starting point is 00:06:51 years that I've been alive to make it instead of a 6.5, a 9? I could have done this. I could have done this, this, this, this, this. And I make this massive list of all of these things I could have done, but I didn't do. I wanted to do, but I was in fear. I wanted to say, but I was afraid. I wanted to create, but I was too in my limiting beliefs. What's that 2.5 difference? And you write it all down, you write it all down, you write it all down. And now you've got a plan of what it is that you need to start doing to live a better life. To live a life as if you're not on deck, but you are in the batter's box. You know, the way that I like to think about it is this. I like to think about it that

Starting point is 00:07:30 there is a perfect version of me out there that exists. And eventually, I'm going to meet that perfect version of me after I die. Let's say I die and I go to heaven and God's there and he's like, what's up, bro? And I'm like, what's up, dude? And then he shows me this perfect version of me. And it's the highest potential version of me. And I get to meet them. And it's if I would have done all the things I could do, if I would have traveled all the places I could have traveled to, if I would have taken all the risks, if I would have impacted all the people that I could have impacted, if I would have taken time to myself, if I would have read the books, if I would have taken all the risks, if I would have impacted all the people that I could have impacted, if I would have taken time to myself, if I would have read the books, if I would have done all the things, and I get to see this perfect version of myself in the afterlife after it's all

Starting point is 00:08:11 over. My goal in life is to be able to look at that perfect version of myself and we're fucking twins. I don't want to look at that perfect version of myself and think, oh, there's more that I could have done. Oh man, I could have done that. That looks amazing. I wish I would have done that thing. No, I want to look at that thing and we're twins. I want to get there and have, you know, God be holding a checklist of all of the things that I could do in my lifetime. And he's like, damn, well, it looks like you did it all, right? That's what I want to mark every single checklist, every single box that I possibly could.

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Starting point is 00:12:01 end, they're like, yeah, I'm ready to go. No big deal. I did it. Things were good. Great life. And it's easy for them to just let go because they don't feel like there's more they could have done. On the other hand of that, I've also met people who are towards the end and they have so many regrets, things they wish they would have done. You know, there's a book that's about this called The Five Regrets of the Dying. And the number one regret of people who are on their deathbeds is that I wish I lived a life that was true to myself and not the life that other people expected of me, right? So there's some people that get to end their life and they

Starting point is 00:12:38 wish that something would have been different. They wish they wouldn't have lived in fear. They wish that they would have done what they wanted to do versus what other people wanted them to do. And then there's other people, they get to the end of their lives and I'm like, they're like, hey, I'm good to go. I've done it. I would hope that you and me both get to the end of our lives and we're like, see you later. I'm good to go. Send me off on that golden ship out into the heavens, whatever it is. And that's what our goal should be because people do die with regret. And I don't want to be one of those people. And so there's a lot of fears that people have in this world. You have fears. I have fears. We all have fears. We'll never get rid of all of our fears, but we can rank our fears.

Starting point is 00:13:24 We can't have one fear that's stronger than another fear. And I talk with people all of our fears, but we can rank our fears. We can't have one fear that's stronger than another fear. And I talk with people all of the time and I get so many messages and I've done many webinars and masterclasses and had thousands of people in front of me and ask questions and had them answer back on Zoom calls and all of this. I said, what's your biggest fear? What's your thing that holds you back? And it's always the fear of rejection, the fear of failure, the fear of success, the fear of running out of money, the fear of being a bad parent, the fear of not being good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, fear of other people's opinions, fear of rejection. I get all of these fears and they're all pretty common. I've just named

Starting point is 00:13:55 probably 95% of people's biggest fears and limiting beliefs just in that little five seconds, right? But what happens is those are people's fears that they have that holds them back from actually doing what it is that they want to do in this world. And then on the other side of that, there's one fear that you can have. And you could steal it from me if you want. This is my fear. And this has become my biggest fear since I was 15 years old. And I walked into the room the day before my father's funeral and saw his body there. And it was the first person I ever saw that passed, first person I ever knew that passed away when I was 15 was my father. And I saw it and I got this feeling of, oh shit, this is done

Starting point is 00:14:38 for him. Like there's nothing else that can happen. He can't do anything else. And when you look back on what he did, I would assume that there's probably a lot of happen. He can't do anything else. And when you look back on what he did, I would assume that there's probably a lot of regrets in his life. You know, things that he wishes he would have done. He was 48, died as an alcoholic. That's what took him out. And I got this feeling of,

Starting point is 00:14:55 I'm not going to get to end of my life and not have done everything that I wanted to do. And so my biggest fear, do I still have the fears of other people's opinions and all that stuff every once in a while that pop up? do. And so my biggest fear, do I still have the fears of other people's opinions and all that stuff every once in a while that pop up? Sure. Fear of rejection, failure, all of those are natural. There are fears that are there, but my biggest fear is getting to the end of my life and wishing that I would have done something else. I would have done something more, that I didn't get everything that I could have out of it, that I didn't squeeze

Starting point is 00:15:20 this orange for all of the juice that I possibly could. And so I want you to think about that. We can keep all of our fears, but some fears can be stronger than other ones. And my biggest fear is I'm going to get to the end of my life and wish that I would have done more. I wish that I would have taken the risks, had the funds, loved more, said the things I want to say. That's my biggest fear. And it trumps all of the other little stupid fears and limiting beliefs that I have of, I'm not good enough, smart enough. What if I get rejected? What if people say that they don't like my videos? They don't like my podcast. Don't care about those. They're there, but I don't pay attention to them because there's one that's way bigger off to the side. And it doesn't scare me so much. I'm like, oh my God, I got to do more. I got to do more. I'm going to do more. Like

Starting point is 00:16:01 terrified of it. It motivates me to do more. And some of the most successful people that, and some of the greatest people I've ever met, funny enough, have that same fear of like, I just want to make sure that when I leave, I'm like, peace, I'm good to go. So think about that for a second. Now, realize that you're not dying today and you do have more time. Let's say that you have, you know, years and years and years. Well, what if you were to focus the next 365 days on whatever it is that you want to improve it? The next 365 days to go from 6.5 to nine, that extra 2.5, that delta, what is the difference that's in there? And you start focusing on doing those things. You know what? I'm going to freaking crush it. I'm going to work on my mindset. I'm going to work on my

Starting point is 00:16:46 relationships. I'm going to work on my body. I'm going to work on my bank account. I'm going to freaking kill the next 365 days. They're going to be the best 365 days I ever have. Think of where you could be in 365 days if you focus on your relationships, your mindset, your love life, days if you focus on your relationships, your mindset, your love life, bank account, body, and going from that 6.5 to a nine. You could be a nine in 365 days if you're really focused on it. What do you need to do to get there? Start writing it down. Start making a plan. What do I need to do to take my life from a 6.5 to a nine, from a five to a nine, from whatever it is that you want to do? Because we're not striving for perfection. We're not going to be perfect. We're not going to get to a 10. That's okay. You can just let your foot off the gas and realize that you're not going to get to a 10.

Starting point is 00:17:32 It might not be perfect. That's okay. Because it will be perfect as a nine. It will have worked out as perfectly as it possibly can. And don't worry about the rest of your life. Just worry about the next 365 days, the actions that you can take to go from 6.5 to 9. What are the actions you could take? What could you do? How could you make it better? How could you leave this world better? And then you look at the 365 days and you go, okay, what can I do today? What can I do today to make my life, what can I do today to make it a 9? What can I do? What actions can I take? And you wake up every single morning, you look and say, what can I do to make today a nine? How can I have so much fun? How can I be so happy? I can be so filled with love.

Starting point is 00:18:14 How can I be so filled with gratitude and try to make other people feel the same way as well? And then what happens is you just focus on making today a nine, and today a nine, and today a nine, and today a nine, and today a nine. Every single day, you just wake up and you focus on that. And eventually your day will come. And if you are good enough to be able to look back, guess what you're probably going to have? A life that was a nine instead of the 6.5. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. Once again, if you could do me a massive favor,

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The Mindset Mentor - You Only Have One Life

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