The Mindset Mentor - Your Friend's Brain is Yours!

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to the MWF Motivation Podcast, one of the top-rated motivational podcasts in the world. Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, I come out with a short, to-the-point, no BS podcast designed to transform you from who you are today into who you want to be. There's no fluff here, just life-changing content. My name is Rob Dial, and the podcast starts now. Welcome to today's episode, if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another episode. And if you have not yet joined in on the free five-day challenge group that I have started, it will be launching, which means that the group

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Starting point is 00:02:17 up, go get a coffee, develop a great network, a great community, because community is what matters the most. And speaking of that, that's what I'm going to be talking about in today's episode. So let's dive into that. I want to talk about the people that you hang out the most, your top five, your community, your network, because we all know we've heard the phrase, well, hopefully you've heard the phrase, your net work equals your net worth. You will be worth as much as the people that around you are worth. That's the way that it works. If you hang out with five millionaires,

Starting point is 00:02:48 there's a pretty good chance that you will become the sixth. If you hang out with five alcoholics, there's a pretty good chance that you'll become the sixth. If you hang out with five obese people, there is a pretty good chance that you will become the sixth. The reason why is we used to think it was just because we develop habits. They hold us to a certain standard. All of those are true. But now what they have found, and this is crazy, science has found

Starting point is 00:03:09 that when two people spend time together over 15 minutes, just 15 minutes together, their brainwaves actually link up and mimic each other. That is science telling you that you become the people that you surround yourself with. So if you look around and you see the people around you and you're not satisfied with who they are, or you want people to push you more, or you want people to inspire you more, or make you think bigger, well then you need to change your top five. Because if you continue to surround yourself with those types of people, whatever they might be, good, bad, indifferent, whatever it is, you will be most like them. There's a pretty good chance that if you were to look at how much money you make compared to how much money your top five friends make, your friends that you spend the most

Starting point is 00:03:59 time with, it's probably pretty similar. You're probably pretty close to the same weight. You probably have the same habits. You probably go out the same amount of times a week. You probably work out the same amount of times. You become the people that you surround yourself with. Let that sink in. It's not just BS of, oh yeah, this is the way it works. Your brainwaves become their brainwaves. That's why when you see someone walk through the door, your body, if it's someone that you don't want to be around, your body kind of starts to tense up and it wants to reject it because your body knows that if you spend time with someone who's negative or brings you down or any of those things, that you will actually start to feel like them, start to feel depressed, start to feel terrible about yourself or life or your

Starting point is 00:04:45 goals or whatever it might be. You start to feel worse when you hang around more negative people. Why? Because your brain waves are linking up with their negativity. You are becoming them. So what I want you to think about through this episode is who are my top five people? Who are the five people that I spend the most time with? Should I spend time with other people? And here's the thing. I'm not saying kick out your family and get rid of your families and your friends that have been around for a long time. But if they are not where you want to be or they are not inspiring you to be better, spend

Starting point is 00:05:21 less time with them. It's okay to do that. You don't owe anybody anything. This is your life. You don't have to sit there and go, you know what? This person was here for me when I was a kid. Now I have to spend my entire life with them and hear all of their negativity. No, you don't. You don't. You don't. You don't. This is your life. This is your one life. You need to make the decision that you might look around and say, okay, these two people out of the five people, these two people, they're not pushing me to be better. They're actually pulling me down and making me worse. I love them. I love them as people. I will always be there for them, but I need to spend less time

Starting point is 00:06:04 with them. And what I need to do is I need to find two new people. So will always be there for them, but I need to spend less time with them. And what I need to do is I need to find two new people. So I have three people out of the top five that are good. They're pushing me. We're going in the same direction. I need to find two new people to take that top five spot. Where do you find them? You can go to meetup.com and you can find different events, you know, for hobbies that you have in your city. If you're in America, it might be out of America. I'm not sure. I just know that it is in America. Meetup.com. You can go to different networking events. Some of my best friends that I now have are from networking events. And what happened was I was at a point in my life about three years ago where I said, you know, I love my friends. They're great people,

Starting point is 00:06:37 but I'm done partying. I'm done doing that. I just, it's not serving me anymore. They love to party. Maybe I should hang out with them a little bit less. They're still going to be my friends. I'm still going to give them hugs and hang out with them whenever I see them, but maybe I should spend less time with them. And then what happened was I started saying, well, what are some good networking groups in Austin? Started going to new networking groups. I started hanging out with new people. Some of my really good friends that I have now are people who push me to be better. They are on the same journey that I am on. I'm not getting rid of my other friends.

Starting point is 00:07:12 I have just started to spend more time with people who inspire me and make me feel better about myself. And they're on the same journey that I am. Once again, we're not getting rid of anybody. If you love them, keep them around. But you can spend less time with them and spend more time with someone else, right? So that's very important. Have your top five, the top five people that you hang out with the most. And then think about this. Do you need to have people outside of that top five? This is what a lot of people don't talk about. If you've heard about top five, you've probably heard about it before in articles or

Starting point is 00:07:42 whatever it might be. But a lot of people don't talk about acquaintances, your extended network, people that you don't hang out with every single day, but to be around them or to have them in your corner when you need them or when they need you can be very beneficial. So I have a couple of people that I don't hang out with every single day, but they're older than me. They're about 10 years older than me. They're further ahead, and a few of them are extremely successful. And it's not

Starting point is 00:08:08 just a money thing. I'm talking about extremely successful, but also extremely humble and extremely amazing individuals. Some of them making a 15 to $20 million a year, right? It's good to have that person. If you need some advice that has love for you and you have love for them, but you don't hang out with them all the time. So you have your top five and you say, well, who should I have in my corner in case I need them? Maybe I don't need them all the time. Maybe they're not my coach that's in my corner that's with me every single day, but maybe they're there to give me a little bit of advice when I need it. Here's the thing. You don't owe anybody anything. This is your life. You don't owe anybody anything. This is your life. You can make it whatever you want to make it.

Starting point is 00:08:53 You don't have to be around the people that you don't want to be around. It's okay. I'm going to tell you right now, I'm going to put my hand on your shoulder and say, it's okay. You can do it. You can go find new friends and new people to hang out with and new people that, that not just, it's not just you're taking. It sounds like, I feel like I'm saying you're taking, like you're, they're inspiring you, they're doing this, they're doing, they're doing this for you. You also being there brings them value as well. If they're on the same level as you, you're pushing them as well as them pushing you. You're inspiring them as well as them inspiring you. If they're further ahead than you, like for instance, people that are 10 years older than me, right? I bring value to them still because some of them are trying to build social channels. Some of them

Starting point is 00:09:27 are trying to learn how to do a podcast. Some of them are trying to do these other things. I just happen to have a little bit of knowledge and all of those things. Well, I guess a lot of knowledge and all of those things. And so I can give them value. We can give each other value. It's a value exchange. I make them better. They make me better. These are going to be the exact same for you. You make other people better. They make make you better so I want you to take a good hard look at the people that you spend the most time with the top five and figure out do I need to get rid of some of them or spend less time with them and do I need to have new people in my top five where will I find them and then you go on a mission to find those people and then you say well is there people outside like

Starting point is 00:10:03 is there some do I need somebody that really, really good at marketing or really successful? They built a massive business and they've learned how to do it. And maybe they'd be able to help me out if that's what I'm trying to do. And so you actually plan this out, right? You get a pen and paper. It sounds weird to plan out your friends, but successful people do this. The average millionaire has had seven mentors over their lifetime, right? How many have you had? One, maybe two. Well, then let's get you some more. Let's get you some more mentors and some more people in your corner. So if you're listening to this and you're like, man, I need some new people. I need some people that, that want to inspire me and they want to make me better.

Starting point is 00:10:40 And they want to challenge me and they want to drive me and inspire me to be better. And you're trying to find more people. This is part of the reason why I created this whole community that I've been telling you guys about the past couple episodes. I want you to join the community because it costs absolutely nothing. You'll be able to interact with other people who are inspiring, who are pushing each other, that are holding each other accountable. You'll be able to get some of this into your life. It's an easy way to do it. And at the same time, that Monday through Friday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, I'll be live every single day to push you, to help you to get you where you want to go. So if you want to join, I would love, love, love,

Starting point is 00:11:13 love right now for every single one of you listening to this, go to coachwithrob.com, join in, and I will see you on the Facebook live group every time that I go live. So if you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know and someone that you love. I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode, making sure your mission to make somebody else stay better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day. Well, that's it for today's podcast.

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The Mindset Mentor - Your Friend's Brain is Yours!

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