The Mindset Mentor - Your Life is Your Decisions

Episode Date: July 2, 2021

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. Today, we're going to be talking about how your life right now is a culmination of every single decision that you've ever made. And when you die, what you are left with is going to be a culmination of every single decision that you've made in your life. So there's a beautiful quote that says, you're born looking like your parents, but you'll die looking like your decisions. And the idea behind this is that too many people think because they were born into a certain family or they were born into a certain neighborhood or they were born into a certain

religion or belief system that they're going to stay that way forever and that's just the cards that they were dealt and they just have to deal with it that way they never actually think outside of the circumstances that they were given the family that they were given the religion that they were given the neighborhood that they were given the circumstances that they were given, the family that they were given, the religion that they were given, the neighborhood that they were given, the skin color they were given, the sexuality they were given, all of those things. They never think outside of it and saying, you know, maybe I am not what I've been given. Maybe I am whatever I build myself up to be. You know, there's that beautiful story of the two twin brothers, right? And their father's an alcoholic. And years down the road, one of the brothers is an alcoholic and the other one is a

successful businessman. And they go up to the one who's a successful business or the two who's an alcoholic. And they say, why are you an alcoholic? And he says, I'm an alcoholic because my father was an alcoholic. And they go up to the one that's a successful businessman. They said, why are you a successful businessman? And why are you not an alcoholic? He said, I'm not an alcoholic because my father was an alcoholic. And that gives you the perfect example of you were given the cards you were given. You were given the life you were given, the family, the neighborhood, the skin color, whatever it is that you're dealing with, you were given that. That is the cards that you were given. You can't choose your parents. You can't choose your family. You can't choose any of that, but you can choose whether or not you want to be similar to your parents,

whether you want to be different than your parents, whether you want to be similar to the people in your neighborhood or in your family, or whether you want to be different than them. And you can pick the good, and then you can leave behind the bad if you want to. You're not stuck in the same position. You're not a tree. You can change at any moment and move to any circumstance in any life that you want. But your life is a, and what your life will become, is just simply a result of the decisions that you make. The big decisions that you make in your life can be like the people that you marry, the person that you marry, if you decide to have children or not. Those are all big decisions. And of course, your life is going to change with those big decisions. But there's also these little

tiny decisions that most people don't usually think about. Those little teeny tiny decisions are sometimes more important than the big decisions because they create who you're going to be. And that's a beautiful thing to think about. And the moment that your life will change, if you haven't done this yet, the moment your life changes, when you decide to take accountability for everything in your life, you decide to take accountability for your current circumstances, for what you look like, for what you feel like, for your bank account, for your business, for your relationships, for your family, you decide to go, you know what? I'm going to take accountability for every single aspect of this. Even if nobody else decides to ever step up and take accountability for it,

I'm going to take accountability for it. I'm going to make the decision that I am the one that's in control here. And a lot of people will think, okay, if I just say that I'm going to take accountability for everything, that sounds like I'm putting myself into a box. It feels like I'm stuck in a box and I can't get out of this box because I'm literally stuck here. What am I supposed to do? I'm stuck in this box. All of this stuff is my decision. But in reality, that's when you really step into your power is when you realize that your decisions are what make you. And from now on, from this moment on, I'm going to make a decision right now

that from this moment, every decision that I make, I'm going to put in with more intention towards the desired outcome that I want in my life. That's simple. Just the desired outcome that I want in my life. And I do want to say this. A lot of people like to go through life and not make the decision to step up. They're like, you know what? I'm going to play small. I'm okay with playing small. I'm okay with dimming my flame. I'm okay with just staying where I am. I'm not going to make the decision to step up. To not make the decision to step up your life and to take control of it is still a decision. You realize that, right? It's still a decision. Whether you want it to be the decision

that you want it to be or not, or whether it is a decision that you want to be or not, it's still a decision. So either you make a decision to fully step into your full power, to your full light, to the amazingness that your life can be and that you can create it to be, or you decide to make a decision to leave shit the same that it's always been, to not make changes, to stay inside of your comfort zone, to not bring out your full potential, and to not change the world in the ways that you can, big or small. What's your decision? You've got to make the decision at some point in time. Are you going to create the life that you want or are you just going to stay the same? What's your decision? So if you're born into this world looking like your parents,

but you leave this world looking like your decisions, let's talk about some of the decisions that you consciously or unconsciously making at all points in time. Your body is an easy example. And the reason why it's easy is because it's a physical thing in the physical reality. You can see your body. If you're looking at your body right now and you're like, damn, this thing looks good. And when you put on your clothes and you're naked and you're like, damn, that body looks good. And when you put on your clothes and you're naked, you're like, damn, that body looks good. That's a result of your decisions that you've made. Big decisions and small decisions.

If you look at your body and you don't enjoy the way that it looks or you know that you could be treating it better, that it could look better, that is a result of your decisions. Nobody else's decisions. It's your decisions. So when we look at that, you're born with the same genes as your decisions. Nobody else's decisions. It's your decisions. So when we look at that,

you're born with the same genes as your parents. Sure. Some people are saying, oh yeah, but you know, my father had this disease or my mother had this issue. It runs in my family, right? It's like that phrase, not to be offensive, but truthful. And someone's like, well, you know, obesity runs in my family. It's like the phrase is, it's not obesity that runs in your family. It's that nobody runs in your family, right? It might be that your genes, it is harder for you to lose weight, but it doesn't mean that it's impossible. Whenever you say something, I have this, I am this, this is something that I'd be given in my genes. And obviously I understand there's stuff outside of our circumstances in rare cases. Somebody's born with something. They're born with the disease. They have, you know, something that's, that's there, but I'm talking to like 95% of people who don't have

something and they're just using their excuses as to why they're not going to step up and finally take control of your life. So if you look at your body, we're born with our parents' genes in some sort of way, but it doesn't mean that when I die, my body needs to look the same as my father's when he died. It doesn't mean that because I never saw my father work out once ever in my entire life, doesn't mean that I shouldn't work out. I also didn't see my dad eating healthy, right? Doesn't mean that I should treat my body the same way he did. I also saw my father being an alcoholic. Doesn't mean that I should step up and do the same thing, right? What I've decided, because my father was an alcoholic, his father was an alcoholic. It's a generational thing. It ends up happening this way. And if you look through many, many families,

it's very common that if somebody's family father was an alcoholic or mother was an alcoholic, it's usually that their father or mother is an alcoholic and so on and so forth. It's a generational thing. I made the decision that it stops with me. I'm just not going to be an alcoholic. My mom's been worried since I was a kid that, oh, you know, what if I've heard alcoholism is in the genes and it's in their brain and it's something that's like that. I don't have it. Not going to have it. Not going to allow myself to have it. I've made the decision, right? So if you're out there and you have alcoholic parents in some sort of way, or maybe the addicted drug is in some sort of way, you can make the decision. I will not allow that to be me. I saw the way my parents took care of the body. That won't be me. That's what you can say to yourself. I appreciate myself too much.

I'm going to pay attention to the food that I consume. I'm going to pay attention to working out. I'm going to pay attention to the sleep that I get, the amount of water that I drink, right? Taking care of your body or not taking care of your body. That is a decision. Whether you want to pretend that it is not your decision and you're just given these circumstances, there's nothing you can do about it is up to you. But ultimately, everything in your life is your decision. Hey, the sun's out, bums are out, and flip-flop season's upon us. And if you're out there with those post-pandemic toenails, you're not going to get some good looks. But don't worry, our friends at Manscaped have you covered. They just launched their fourth generation performance package with their Shears 2.0

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off in free shipping with the code D-I-A-L at manscaped.com. That's manscaped.com. Use the code DIAL. Next, let's talk about business. You know why I love business? I love business because if you're a business owner, your business is a part of you. Your business is a living, breathing thing that is externally outside of you. If your business is doing amazing,

that's usually a reflection of how you're doing in your own mind. If your business is plummeting or it's not taking off or you feel like you've been spinning your wheels for a while, well, you've got to look at yourself. Stop looking at the external, look at the internal and say, if it's a mirror of me, how can I improve and what do I need to do in order to take my life to the next level, in order to take my personal development to the next level? Because your business will never outgrow you. Your bank account will never outgrow you.

They will only lag, you know, they will lag behind your personal development, your spiritual development, your development of yourself, right? Your business will not outgrow the container that you are. And you can grow the container that you are with everything that you learn, everything that you get better at. So your business, it is a reflection of you. If it's doing amazing, you're probably doing pretty well. If it's not doing well, there's probably some things that you could pick up and change and make better than yourself. And your business will be a reflection of that. See what I'm saying here? That's a decision. When you look at your bank account, believe me, I've had overdraft fees many, many,

many, many times. And I'm like, damn, Bank of America keeps taking 30 bucks from me, even though I've only got five bucks in my bank account. And I overdraw and I go to like negative $1. And then I'm like negative $31. I'm like, how the hell am I negative 31? Oh, because Bank of America wanted to take 30 bucks from me. I've been in that situation before. I've been five months behind on my car payment. I've been in a situation where I've almost lost everything, like really close. But I took a step back and realized that that was just a reflection of where I was in my life. And as I grew, my bank account grew, my business grew, everything that I did grew. And so I'm only telling you this because I can tell you

just from experience, when I noticed that things weren't going the way I wanted them to in my life, I looked at myself and said, oh, I am the reason why. My life is the culmination of my decisions that I'm making, of everything that I've made. If you look at your family, how's your family life going? You know, it could be your relationship with your wife. How's that going? Well, it's probably a reflection of you, you know, and how you're showing up. It's a reflection of them and how they're showing up. Your relationship with your children. It's a reflection of the decisions that you make. And you can look at it and say, okay, you know, there were some great aspects of my parents. There were some not great aspects of my parents and the way that they raised me. And you can, everyone can look at that

and I can identify the things that they love about the parents, the things they didn't love about their parents. And they can make a decision that they're not going to follow the exact same path, or they can just make no decision and just blindly do the exact same thing that their parents did. And it's just rinse and repeat and rinse and repeat and rinse, repeat. Then your children do the same and their children do the same. you want that to be a generational thing or do you want to stop it right now that's fully up to you it's fully your decision so what is it that you want when you look at your relationships with everybody outside of your family maybe outside of your your you know your children and your spouse maybe you look at your relationship with your parents and

you say okay you know it isn't the best that it could be better. Okay. Well then I need to make the decision that I'm going to show up differently because they're probably not going to make a decision to show up differently. I'm going to make a decision that I'm going to show up differently next time I'm around them. It's like Ram Dass always says, if you think you're enlightened, spend a week with your family, right? Your family knows the triggers. They know what to do. They trigger you more than anybody else. They show us where we need to improve. They show us and teach us. There's so many lessons in every single thing that happens to us when we're around them.

So when you look at that, you go, okay, it could be better with my relationships with my mom, with my father, with my sister, with my brother, with my aunts, uncles. I'm going to make the decision. I don't care how they show up. I'm going to show up differently from now on. And they're going to probably eventually start to show up differently as well. That's a good thing to do. Okay, let's go to the next thing.

What about our relationship with our friends? We can stay and stay friends with somebody simply just because we've known them for a long time and we feel obligated to spend time with them simply because we've known each other since we were six years old. I'm not saying break any friendships and never see somebody ever again, but do you have relationships that are not serving you as much anymore?

It is your decision that you're staying in those relationships. It is also your decision if you decide that you want to get out of those relationships or spend less time in those relationships. Everything around you is your decision. Stop acting like you don't have power or control over your life. Because the

moment that you decide to step into the driver's seat and say, you know what? When I look at my body, I know I can change and make it better. When I look at my business, I know I can change. I can make it better. When I look at my bank account, I know I can change it. I can make it better. When I look at my relationship with my spouse, I can make it better. When I look at my children, I look at it and see that I can make my relationship with them better. When I look at my family, my relationship with my mom and my dad and my brother and my sister, my aunts, I can make all of those better. When I look at my relationship with my children, they can be better. I look at my relationship with my friends and the people that I surround myself with. All of those things can be better. So what do I have to do? I can either sit back and make a decision to not make the decision to change, which is still a decision,

and keep everything exactly the same. Or if something's going to change, I'm going to need to change. I'm going to need to step up and make the decision that I'm going to change every single aspect of my life of what I do. I'm going to make sure I do everything differently. If I'm not happy about where my life is right now, I'm just going to start doing everything differently. If I go to bed late, I'm going to start going to bed early. I'm going to start waking up early. If I normally talk negatively to myself, I'm going to start talking positive to myself. If I normally eat a cheeseburger for lunch, I'm going to start eating a salad. If I normally don't work out, I'm going to start working out. Just do something differently. Make the decision to do something different and do it for 30 days and see eating a salad. If I normally don't work out, I'm going to start working out. Just do something differently. Make the decision to do something different

and do it for 30 days and see how you feel. And if you don't like it, change it. Make something else. You're not a tree. You're not stuck in the exact same position forever. You can change at any moment. The only thing that you have to have the awareness of is that you have the power to change at any moment. Nobody's telling you that you have to stay the same. The only one that's telling you that you have to stay the same is you. Either you stay in the exact same circumstances and make that decision to stay, or you wake up, you change, and you decide that you're going to do something different with your life. Whatever you decide is your decision. You're born looking like your parents. You die looking like your decisions. What are the decisions that you're going to make

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