The Mindset Mentor - You're Not a "Victim"

Episode Date: March 22, 2017

Episode 248 -  If something bad happened in your past and you are still help back from it then your are a "volunteer" not a "victim." Pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice. For more clarification on this topic listen to today's episode! Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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I've thoroughly enjoyed this group and the group coaching format because it has helped me to gain insight and much needed clarity on goals that I want to achieve for my life. And I've also been pushed out of my comfort zone on many occasions to help myself to reach or get close to reaching level 10 in many aspects. I highly recommend this group for anybody who wants to do the same. Is your past holding you back from your true potential? When you think about your past, are you a victim or are you a victor? And let me explain what I mean by that. Most people, when they think about their past, sometimes they've had good past, sometimes they've had bad past. If you've had a bad past, are you still a victim of that past? Are you still a victim of that past

or have you overcome that past and become the victor of it? Here's the thing. Most people like to play the victim card. They like to have a past. They don't like to, it just happens and they stay with it forever. They stay with the victim mindset all their life. I'm going to tell you something though. If you have had a bad past, you're not a victim. You are a volunteer. And I understand some people that's really going to piss off, but let me explain what I mean by that. Your past happened to you. If it was painful, pain is inevitable. You're going to have, some people are going to have painful past. You're going to have pain happen to you. You might be going through pain now, and you're probably going to go through pain in the future. Pain is inevitable. Suffering is not. You have to be a volunteer in order to suffer. Pain will happen

to you. Suffering is not something that has to happen. So when I say you're a victim, that means that something could have happened to you in your past. But when I say that you are a volunteer, that means that you allow it to still hold you back. You allow it to still be painful today. Did it happen? Whatever it was? Yeah, it did. But you don't have to allow that to hold you back anymore. You don't have to allow that to still take up time and space, mental capacity in your brain every single day.

You are allowing it to happen. And I get it. I've been through painful stuff. You've been through painful stuff, but it doesn't have to hold you back anymore. It doesn't have to hold us back anymore. We're in this together, right? We're in this together. You don't have to suffer from what happened to you in your past anymore. I'm going to let a secret out to you though. If you don't get rid of this suffering, it will hold you back forever. You get one, one life to live. Do you want something that happened to you in your past that you cannot change to hold

you back for the rest of your life? You get one chance. Do you want this event that cannot be changed to hold you back? You can't change the event, can you? No. But what you can do is change the way that you view the event. Change the way that you think about what happened to you, right? That's how you become a victor. For me personally, if you know my story, my father was an alcoholic and he passed away when I was 15 years old. Yeah, that could hold me back.

I could allow that to hold me back. I could allow the pain that I went through to still exist and to make me suffer for the rest of my life. But instead, what I decided to do, and please don't take this as me bragging. This is not me trying to act like I'm better than you or anybody else.

I'm just giving you my example of what happened with my life. Is I took that, what was a terrible thing and allowed it to be a great thing for me. One thing that's weird for people to hear is I always say this. The worst day of my life was when my father passed away. The best day of my life was when my father passed away. The best day of my life was when my father passed away. And it wasn't because he was out of my life anymore.

It was because of the fact that I came to the realization that I get one chance to live on this planet. I'm going to do everything that I possibly can. And I wake up with a hunger to do everything that I possibly can because I know that day is approaching and it might be approaching quicker than I realize. So what did I do? I can't change the past, but I can change the story that I'm telling myself about that painful moment in the past. It happened. I can't change it. It happened for you, whatever it is. You can't change it. But what you can change is the story that you're telling yourself. If it happened in the past, you're not a victim of it. If you're still allowing

it to hold you back, you're a volunteer. Because pain is inevitable, suffering is not. The way that you change from a volunteer slash victim to a victor is you change the story that you're telling yourself about the event. Instead of that being something that holds you back, it can be something that pushes you forward. And so ask yourself, what's holding me back? What painful event is holding me back? What's the story that I'm telling myself about that painful event? And how can I change that event that's holding me back, the story that I'm telling myself about that painful event? And how can I change that event that's holding me back, the story that I'm telling myself about this event? How can I change that story into something that's going to empower me and something that's going to

propel me forward? And that is how you switch from a volunteer slash victim into a victor. So if you like this episode, please share it with someone that you know. If you know someone that would get something from it, please share it with them. Also hit the subscribe button. And I appreciate you. And I hope that you have an amazing day.

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