The Moth - The Moth Radio Hour: Keep Calm and Carry On

Episode Date: March 29, 2022

In this hour, challenges that reveal one's truest self. The insatiable needs of an electronic pet, being forced to face one's fears, and the dogged pursuit of one's dreams. This episode is hosted by Moth Senior Director Meg Bowles. The Moth Radio Hour is produced by The Moth and Jay Allison of Atlantic Public Media. Hosted by: Meg Bowles Storytellers: 8-year-old Sara Jonsson realizes her new toy is more responsibility than she bargained for. Mike Maloch has to face his fears on the job. Samira Sahebi has an unexpected visit to the ER. Beth Bradley inches toward a breaking point near the end a 14k hike up a mountain in Colorado. Shaun Leonardo pursues his dream of becoming a luchador.

Attention Houston! You have listened to our podcast and our radio hour, but did you know the Moth has live storytelling events at Wearhouse Live? The Moth has opened Mike's storytelling competitions called Story Slams that are open to anyone with a five-minute story to share on the night's theme. Upcoming themes include love hurts, stakes, clean, and pride. GoodLamoth.org forward slash Houston to experience a live show near you. That's theMoth.org forward slash Houston. From PRX, this is the Moth Radio Hour. I'm Meg Bulls and in this show, stories of persevering, persisting, and going the distance. The challenges we face from perilous mountains to epic battles

and crushing fears. Sometimes we make it through with grace and other times, well, not so much. Our first story comes from Sarah Johnson, who took the stage at one of our open-mike story slams where WNYC is a media partner of the mosque. From the bellhouse in Brooklyn, here's Sarah. When I was eight years old, I had a nanopuppie. You guys know what that is? It's like a Tomagotchis, a little plastic egg toy with a screen and three buttons.

And you have to, it's like an electronic pet. It's like a dog or an alien or whatever. And you have to feed it and bathe it and play with it and put it to sleep and basically keep alive this little pixelated dog shaped blob. You know, and it was super fun, man. I gotta tell you. this little pixelated dog shaped blob, you know. And it was super fun, man, I gotta tell you. And I was eight years old, and me and the Anno Puppier

are just having a blast, okay. And I take, we go everywhere together, he's my best friend. I hook him on to my little belt loop on my jeans and I walk around and he like bounces, I love him. I'm sorry to notice after like two weeks, every time I need to do something like human eight-year-old related, like sleep or go to school, nanopopy dies of neglect.

And like the guilt and the devastation and the humiliation that I feel as an eight-year-old is frankly inappropriate. Like, it's anxiety through the roof, right? So I make it my life's mission to keep this generation of nanopuppie alive. And it turns out that is a 24-hour day job because every time it gets hungry or sleepy it beeps so it's like all night, all whatever, it's just beeping at me and my parents are starting to notice that I am not sleeping well. I am like telling

my friends that I'm sick so I don't't have to go outside and play with them. So I'm like take care of Nanopuppie. And I'm lying to my teacher. I'm basically telling my teacher I gotta go pee every 30 minutes because I can hear Nanopuppie in my locker beeping and I go out to take care of him. But God I love him, right? It's just like hard strings. And so like, time passes, and you know, nanopubbies getting stronger and healthier and happier, and I'm just getting like weaker and sicker and sadder. And just like, we're just like one thing, like you sucking my soul out, my energy becomes his energy, and we're just like, we're getting really close,

and I'm realizing that, I'm realizing that if Nano Puppy lives, I die. I die. So, along with all the life lessons that nanopuppie teaches your children, like it's a good toy teaches them, you know, time management, responsibility, like motherhood basically. I am now, I am now first-hand experiencing the concept of infanticide, which is another thing I should not have to know about forever. Even as an eight-year-old, it's just like not a thing. But the seed has been planted.

And I can't tell anybody about this. Most of all, I need to hide this from Nano Puppy. And because I've started to like distance myself from Nano Puppy, I'm just like, maybe leave it for a little bit longer. Oh no, he notices. He gets hungry or he gets sick. He gets loud. Everybody's noticing. So I'm like having to hide the fact. I obviously cannot let him starve to death. Everybody notices.

Because all my friends have them too, but they seem fine. I don't know what it was about this, whatever. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this. everybody notices. Because all my friends have them too but they seem fine. I don't know what it was about this, whatever. So one day I hook nano puppy to the belt loop of my jeans like I do and I put those jeans in a laundry basket. And I take that laundry basket to my mother who is loading the washing machine. And she doesn't say a word.

And I don't say a word. And 28 minutes later, when we pulled stopping wet nanopuppey out of the washing machine, he was still alive. So we're like, pretending we're like, oh, it's fine. That's funny. Oh, god. And my mom goes, my mom goes, like, she lowers her voice because I don't know,

man, nanopuppey can hear. She goes, why don't you try it off by putting it in the freezer? And... What are you doing? So the next morning I go to check on Nanopapi status, and he is still alive. Except now he is super angry. And so now the guilt is just crushing like I can't function. I now copy. I now have to take care of my brain dead angry spawn of Satan because of the karma.

Anyway, so I just continue to take care of it. We went camping a couple days later. He woke up in the middle of the night, and was like, I'm kind of angry. And my dad just took it, ripped open the tent through that thing as far as he could. And it landed in our campfire from when it came. So I left it there. It's okay with me.

I don't know. I guess the moral, the thing that I learned from this is don't lie about when you don't want something in your life anymore. Don't keep it going if it's not healthy and it's not good. And don't try and pretend it is and just throw that thing off a damn bridge. Thank you. Thank you.

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That was Sarah Johnson. Sarah grew up in Montana and lived in Brooklyn for 13 years, where she hosted an all-female variety show called Camp Sunshine, and frequently put her name in the hat at our open mic story slams. During the pandemic, she moved to Atlanta to be closer to family and is now working on becoming an historical preservationist.

Oh, my God. She says that after the demise of Nano Puppies, she felt major relief and a lot of guilt. But that was quickly replaced by her new obsession, the Spice Girls. You can see a picture of Sarah and her that come with their own set of challenges. Mike Malik took the stage at a story slam we produced in Pittsburgh, where we're supported by Public Radio Station, W-E-S-A. Here's Mike, live at the mall. Hey y'all

So six years ago my company asked me to spend a month on the road performing tall bridge inspections and so these are bridges that are too tall for us to inspect with a ladder and So it used an under bridge truck and you may have seen this before it's a truck that sits on top of the bridge It has a bucket lift on the back, but instead of this bucket lift going straight in the air, it can go out, down, and beneath the bridge. And the bridges that we were going to inspect were anywhere from 50 to 150 feet in the air. So as a scary comparison, this is like being a window washer. I'm only going to eight-story building. This was a big problem for me because not only am I afraid of heights, but I'm like an eight-story building. This was a big problem for me, because not only am I afraid of heights, but I'm afraid of most, like,

marginally extreme activities someone can do. And I've been this way my whole life. And so growing up, little kid birthday parties were a problem for me. Like, I wouldn't ride roller coasters, so when my friends were riding roller coasters, I would be on the ground at a bench just watching their bags. I, you know those little kid obstacle courses

where you climb up a rope net and then crawl through a plastic tube and then climb up on that rope net. At some point, I'd be high enough off the ground where I'd become paralyzed and my mom would have to crawl in and come carry me out. Which is hysterical because this being afraid of everything, things are redditary and she was probably more afraid of that rope course than I was. But the worst party by far were the laser tag parties.

And because there's no, you can't skip them. And there's no moms to carry me out. And I will get locked in a dark room with confined spaces and tripping hazards. And the lasers flying past my head. And I hope you all can appreciate that by me agreeing to go on this inspection trip, it was a big deal. And my first day, I showed up and there are three people who make this trip go. There's me, the Britain Spector, who's afraid of everything.

There's my coworker Bernie who's a guizzled Britain inspection veteran who fears nothing. And then there's the guy in the truck. And I free his name, but I'll call him Gary. And his job is just to stay in the truck. And if something goes wrong, he's got our back. He's there for us. On my first day, Gary told me that it was his first day on the job. And so I had a little panic attack before I could even conquer any fear of heights. But the first week went pretty well.

I got better with the heights. I also got better with the rocking motion on the bucket. And I never was quite able to take both hands off the railing while I was inspecting, but I could get one hand off. And usually I have like one panic attack a day, something small, be it the wind, or if the truck was making the noises, but Bernie would calm me down and things were going well. But there was one day, and we were at the best part of the day. This is the part of the day where we're done inspecting the bridge, and we are able to now maneuver the bucket out

from underneath the bridge, back on top of the bridge, from where I'm hanging off the side of a bridge to where I'm safe on top of the bridge. And I look forward to this every day, because it means I've survived the day I'm alive. And Bernie's, you know, he's operating the bucket. We are getting closer and closer to that point

where I know I've made it. We're maybe one to two feet from the bridge, and the bucket stops. I look at Bernie, because he's my pillar of strength during these times. I implore him to keep on going because we're almost there. And Bernie is pressing the lever that makes the bucket move and is not going anywhere. So y'all, this is where Gary comes in the picture.

He's got our back. And I can see him. And Gary yells to us, I don't know what's wrong. So, and besides falling out of this bucket to my death, like this is my biggest fear, we are stuck on the bucket, I go in full meltdown mode and I'm just holding on to this side of the bucket. I don't hear anything. I'm just staring off on the horizon. And we are about 90 feet in the air mind you. I can look down. I can see like a picturesque stream. I can see trees. But they're really far down. And during this time where I was not with it, I guess Bernie and Gary decided that the best course of action now, mind you, we are one and two feet away from the bridge.

So we're just going to open up the door and the bucket and we're going to step from the bucket to the bridge. It's a small step, really small, but it is so far down. And it took a while to convince me that this was a good idea. And I made Bernie go first because he would reach out and hand me. I grabbed his hand. I didn't look down, it was far. And I looked at Bernie, took a deep breath, and I took my pretty small step, but still a big step. On to the bridge, I was safe.

And as soon as I stepped off that bucket, I thought I would never go back in there again. Next morning at 8 a.m., I got right back into that bucket. And this story continued for the rest of that month, and I survived. And when I look back on this experience, I try and think of what lessons I could learn about either the experience or myself. And the answer is, I learned absolutely nothing. I already knew that I belonged at one place,

and that's with my feet on the ground. Thank you. Mike Malik spent that entire month inspecting high-level bridges in state parks across western Pennsylvania and he hated every minute of it. He said he would end every day just grateful to be alive. The job solidified his fear of heights and also instilled in him a healthy fear of bugs, poison ivy, and livestock. Apparently, he once inspected a bridge right next

to a very angry bull. These days, Mike is the city of Pittsburgh's lead traffic signal engineer. He's passionate about making urban infrastructure accessible and friendly to all, but especially pedestrians and cyclists. His feet stay firmly on the ground, and the only wildlife he encounters now is the occasional mouse living in a signal pole.

He says he hopes to never inspect a bridge again, ever. To see pictures of Mike on the job, then and now you can visit our website, themoth.org. Coming up, an evening out inz and broken bones damaged friendships and moral judgments, when the Moth Radio Hour continues. 1 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 個 The Moth Radio Hour is produced by Atlantic Public Media and Woods Hole Massachusetts, and presented by PRX. Sometimes we take on challenges, and other times we end up creating them for ourselves.

Samira Sahebye shared this story at one of our open-mic story slams in Portland, Oregon, where we partner with Oregon Public Broadcasting. Here's Samira, live at the Moth. So when I was 14, I was sent away to the West by myself, and my family gave me a party and gift. It was a very fancy gold ring. So five years later, when I lived in Los Angeles as a pretty well-assimulated westerner, I lived with two roommates, and at that time, the only thing Persian about me was my accent and the ring.

So one night, the roommates wanted to go party, and I declined. And Laura decided to entice me by holding out her acid washed brown leather jacket. And she said, if you come, you get to wear this. And I had this super skimpy tube top that I could never wear on its own. And this just became my motivation to go.

I was like, OK, I'll go. And so I went to get the jacket and she pulled it back. She's like, wait, you need to really take care of this. I'm like, oh, sure, of course. And she's like, no, no, I mean it. No stains, no forgetting it. And I said, I give you my word. And so we all got very 80s chic and went to 40 miles south to

Hermosa Beach to some guys house and we got really drunk and then we headed to the strip where we would go from bar to bar and while we were dancing the ring had come off. So as the group got smaller and smaller people would go back to the house to sleep there were three people left and I was desperately looking for the ring and these three people are like, yeah, we'll wait for you. And so I came out the last bar and they could just tell that I had not found the ring. I was like, on the verge of tears. And this guy would like an Eddie Van Halen haircut.

He's like, don't be sad. It's going to be okay. Oh, jump up. I'm going to give you a piggyback ride and I was like oh no And he's like come on come on any kind of back into me and lean you know He just assumed a posture for me to mount him and it was So forward that I just felt bad declining so I jumped up and He had been drinking so this as soon as I, maybe I was heavier than I looked,

he just kind of lost his balance. And I had been drinking also. And so I just watched the whole thing unfold as the asphalt got closer to my face and then further and closer and I was like fascinating. And so what did happen is that he flipped me over his shoulder onto the cold asphalt. This was winter.

I know it was L.A., but it was still winter for us. And so then he lost his own balance and fell and shattered my collarbone. There was this exploding glass sound, and I passed out. And I woke up in the ER and Edie van Halen had driven following the ambulance, which I was grateful for because I didn't know anybody. And so the very first thing they want to do in the ER, like the whole staff has gathered behind me and they're like, go get the shears, the extra large ones from upstairs, we're gonna cut the jacket.

And I was like, no, not the jacket. And she's like, trust me, sweetie, you want me to cut the jacket. And I was like, no, please don't cut the jacket. So then Eddie is standing next to me, holding my hand, putting it on his chest, like this devoted husband, who's coaching his wife through childbirth.

He's like, you can do this, you can do this. He's almost crying, he feels so guilty, I'm sobbing, there's makeup everywhere, so they take this thing off. I felt this cold, that was to the bone, I could not stop shaking, so they're piling warm blanket after me, and there's this hierarchy in ER. First of all, I didn't get any drugs and I didn't know why. So I'm in pain and they're like, yeah, you're kind of low priority. People with heart attack get to cut in front of you and then we all sat gunshot wounds tonight so you just need to be patient. So finally at 4 in the morning, I see this shadow of a man emerging from the hallway and he's got a limp. He's got an accent

He's like I'm gonna take your X-ray and he's walking way too fast for that time of day He's just gonna boom down the hallway gets me to X-ray closes the door and he's like are you pageant? I'm pageant and I was like yes, and he's like I know someone with your last name and then he recited the name of my father and I am mortified. And so I tell him, because I was too honest. And then the mood shifted. He just got very, very quiet. He just went from interested to whole shit.

And then he looked at me up and down. And I could see myself through his eyes, through these Muslim eyes. I wreaked a vodka, I looked so trashy and he just said, what happened, child? And that cut like a knife and then I started shivering again. And so he took the X-ray without looking at me, he pushed me down the hallway. And this time he was not so prepared. He was just pushing me very slowly, waited down by the tragedy that was me.

And the hallway seemed eternal. And in that eternity, I got to feel the weight of the expectation of what a good girl should do, especially a good Muslim girl. And he dropped me in the room, he said goodbye without looking at me, and he left, and I never saw the X-ray man ever again. But that night, my two fragmented, intentionally separated world collapsed, they just collided. And although I lost a physical representation of my origin,

I tapped into a journey of integration where my two polarities started to come together, which has been a journey ever since. And a part of me wants to find that man. I want to kind of thank him for actually genuinely caring. And a part of me wants to kind of look at him and be like, I turned out okay. Thank you.

Samira Saheb is a writer and performer based in Portland, Oregon and she's a Moth Grand Slam champion. Samira was so determined to say for friends' jacket that she insisted they not cut it off her. She said removing it was incredibly painful, as the nurse assured her it would be, but the jacket made it out unscathed. She managed to successfully return it and vowed never to borrow another piece

of expensive clothing. As it turns out, her father did indeed know the radiology technician, but with her father living in Iran and the technician in the U.S., their paths never crossed. And she managed to keep the embarrassing details of her injury, a secret from her family for many years. You can find out more about Samira and share any of the stories featured in this hour by visiting our website, themoth.org. Our next story comes from Beth Bradley, who takes us to the mountains of Colorado. She shared this at a grand slam we produced in Denver, with support from Public Radio Station KUNC.

Here's Beth. I really wanted to cry, and I really wanted to give up, but I really didn't want to do both and I was running out of time to make up my mind. It was 11.45 am and I was sitting on a huge pile of rocks located about 13,700 feet above sea level and I was trying to get to the 14,000 foot summit of the mountain that these rocks belong to, but I only had about 15 minutes left. And that's because when you're at that type of elevation,

it gets really dangerous to be on the summit anytime after 12 p.m. in Colorado, because there's lightning that rolls in pretty much every afternoon in the mountains in the summer. So, I've been climbing straight up, up this mountain for the past five or six hours with two of my best friends, Katie and Don. And I only had about a quarter mile left to go, but it might as well have been 500 miles. Katie and Don have both done a climb like this before, but not me. Basically my whole life, the world's been telling me, I'm too fat to try stuff like this, so I pretty much believe that too. And even though Katie and Don and I have been friends for 20 years, I was still nervous to be climbing with them because I knew they'd be able to do it no problem and I'd be the slow one. So I had been training and doing

research for months. I remember one article that I came across Suggested that you bring Kleenex with you because when you're up at that elevation the wind blows like crazy So your nose is probably going to be running so I had not only heated that advice I'd actually bought the name brand Kleenex's for an extra dollar because they happen to have motivational messages printed on them like Believe in yourself and seize this moment. But nothing, not even the Kleenex's, had prepared me for how I was feeling at 11.45, which was just completely depleted and essentially

catatonic. So Don and Katie had kind of gone up ahead to sort of scope out the rest of the trail. And I was just alone with my thoughts, which had been pretty positive up till then, like I felt like all that preparation was paying off. But now the disappointment was just seeping in. And the worst part about that was how familiar it tasted. Three years before that, I had moved all the way out to Seattle and even though I had approached that move with the same kind of exhaustive

preparation as this climb I felt like I just couldn't get my life to work out there like it was just one failure after another like the job I got turned out to be a bad fit I couldn't get acclimated and then the relationship that I was in fell apart in a really excruciating and heartbreaking way. So I had managed to get myself home. I had managed to move back to Colorado, but I felt like I had gone on this like 2,000 mile detour

just to end up exactly where I started. So I wanted it to mean something. I wanted being home to mean something, and I wanted all that time to count. The mountains have been there all along, but for the first time, I found myself wanting to know what it would feel like to be on top of one. But the higher I got, the heavier all of that felt,

and the later it got, the more the pressure was bearing down. At this point, I noticed that everyone else I could see was very thin and live, and they were just scampering up the rocks like the world's most annoying pack of gazelles. No one else was struggling like I was, so I was scared and I was overwhelmed, and I was hating my body for being too fat and my mind for being too weak. And I just get thinking to myself, who do I think I am to even attempt this? Like who do I think I am to even try? So at this point I could see that Katie was headed back down to where I was.

And I could tell from her eyes that she was going to say that it was too late and we needed to turn around and that I'd be too dangerous to keep going at the pace that I was going to say that it was too late and we needed to turn around and that I'd be too dangerous to keep going at the pace that I was going we were too slow. So she came and sat down on the rock next door and I was just letting that defeat like settle in. But then totally calm, Katie said, we should keep going. I know you can do it so A then weird thing happened which is that I realized I believed her Even though Katie and I have been friends forever and she said stuff like that to me before

This time I finally heard it and So when I had been asking myself, who do I think I am? The answer had been this person who's too fat to keep trying, who kept failing over and over. But Katie was seeing someone else. She was seeing someone she loved, who'd been through all of that, and kept going. So she was seeing someone strong.

So when Katie said that I could do it, it sounded different than the Kleenex. It sounded like the truth. So I decided not to give up and wanting to cry became my only motivation. And the next 10 minutes were just like a blur of pain and exhaustion, but basically right at noon, I heaved myself over the last stupid rock and I was surprised if I myself on the flat-fog ground of the summit. All of those gazelle people were hanging out and smiling and taking pictures. I was the only person who was smiling and openly weeping. I was also hugging Katie and Don like crazy. I was petting dogs.

And I was looking out at the view which was as incredible as anything I've ever seen. I realized I would also advise being Kleenex if you do a climb like this because crying on top of a mountain is a wonderful feeling and I'd recommend it to anyone, so it's good to be prepared. I keep chasing that feeling, I keep trying to climb more mountains, sometimes I get to the top and sometimes I don't, but what I've noticed is that that one question isn't coming into my head anymore. That question of, who do I think I am? Now, I know who I am.

Beth Bradley is a two-time,oth Story slam winner and also tells stories professionally as a content marketer. Growing up, Beth says she never saw anyone of her size represented in the outdoors and spent most of her life never even considering that she would one day carry herself to the top of a mountain, let alone a mountain over 14,000 feet. She says it was one of the most profound feelings she's ever had, and it doesn't get old. Since that climb back in 2018, Beth has continued hiking nearly every week. She's up to somewhere around 175 hikes and counting. You can see pictures of Beth and find out more about her adventures in hiking on our website,

TheMoth.org. Coming up, Rudos, Technicos, and the magical world of Mexican wrestling, when the Moth Radio Hour is produced by Atlantic Public Media in Woods Hole, Massachusetts, and presented by the Public Radio Exchange, PRX.org. This is the Moth Radio Hour from PRX. I'm Meg Bulls. Our final story in this hour comes from Sean Leonardo, who we met after he called the Moth Pitchline. He shared his story at the first event we produced in front of a live audience after the reopening

of theaters that have been shuttered due to the pandemic. Live from the Wilbur Theater in Boston and partnership with WGBH, here's Sean Leonardo. APPLAUSE In 2010, I'm standing in this grimy little gym in Wahaka, Mexico, finally watching La Lucha Libre. And now for those of you that don't know what that is, La Lucha is the arts of Mexican wrestling. The pageantry and acrobatics are second to none. And while the storylines and narratives of good versus evil would feel familiar to you, there's

a special magic to La Lucha because in Mexican culture it is sacred. Now, I've always had a fascination with La Lucha, ever since watching it on the TV with my dad. And it's always been so spectacular, but those warriors were so foreign to me in their mask and regard that flipping every which way. But I would learn later that those same warriors were your everyday teachers, taxi drivers, office workers. But in the ring, when that mask came on, they were gods.

When that mask came on, they were gods. And as a scrawny kid from some insignificant neighborhood in Queens, New York City, I wanted to feel that. I wanted to know what it meant to be a hero. And so now standing there, I was in complete awe. So much so that I wait for hours after the event just to approach a promoter and ask, if I might start training with the local luchadores. Now two important things to know. I'm not Mexican.

Yes, I'm Latino, but I'm from Queens. Maybe more importantly, at the time I had zero wrestling experience. But I may have fibbed just a little bit and told the promoter that I was a wrestler back home in the United States. Whatever it was, he goes backstage, comes back with a little piece of paper with an address script all over and says, show up here Friday. He didn't say, went, just show up here Friday. So I did, but five hours too early. But I waited, and I waited. Then after a while, incomes the trainer.

And it is the legendary Rigo Cisneros from Natural Libre fame. I lose it. And he comes up to me silently, sizes me up, and in the quietest voice goes, hop in the ring. And the ring. The ring is an iron frame with plywood on top,

some sprinklings of rubber and an old vinyl billboard securing it down. Not the bouncy thing y'all are imagining. The wrestlers were amateurs twice my size. And everything I did was clumsy and tense. And so they saw that and decided to deliver the punishment just to see if I would come back the next day. And so the slaps to the chest started stinging that much more, the body slams a little more vicious and the blows, the falls or bumps as we call it

in wrestling, that much more aggressive for me than anyone else in the ring. But I came back and I kept coming back because where I'm from giving up this nine in the cards. And after three months of training, I'm finally granted my first match. And because of my hard work and likely the novelty of an American Luchador, I am slated in as the sub-main event. Now to be clear, that is not the main event. I'm still the warmer bat.

And the night comes, and it's the same rickety ring and some makeshift arena with folding chairs, but the lights and the mariachi music is blaring and it feels glorious. And they call out my name and all the blood rushes right out of my body. It all becomes a blur. But I pull myself together, I get pumped, and I step out in all white and gold. The night in shining armor with a 14 foot velvet cake. I hit that ring and I'm looking good. And then I get my ass kicked. I lose that match back.

And so I go backstage, beat and battered, but at least it's all over. And Rico Cisnetto's trainer comes over and says, go back in the ring, get the crowd pumping and go save the good guys. I said, what the hell are you talking about? But I'm panic, I run out there, I do what I'm told, only to get annihilated again. By the end of the event, there are three bad guys, Rudos, as we call them. One pinning my shoulders down onto the mat,

the other kicking me repeatedly, and the third unmasks me. The ultimate embarrassment in Mexican wrestling. And so, I leave with a mixture of emotions. I'm embarrassed, I'm defeated. But despite the beating, I feel like I achieved something amazing. I had become a Mexican wrestler for Christ's sake. I had lived out a childhood fantasy, but I decided enough fun, the adventure was over, time to go home.

So I'm back in my little ass apartment in Queens, when I get a phone call a month later. From a promoter asking me if I would consider wrestling the welterweight champion of the world. So it seems this American Lujer Lord had caused quite a stir in the audience, we're still talking about this guy. So it was meant to be set as a special event for the 75th anniversary of the largest Mexican wrestling promotion in the world. and staged at the National Museum of Mexico City, which is literally a palace.

How could I say no? I'm terrified, but I had to see how far I could take this thing, so I accept. My opponent, the Watteway Champion of the World, his name was Sangre Asteka, as Tekken Blood. I failed to mention that my wrestling name was El Conquista Doge, the conqueror. Now, for anyone here that recalls their colonial history, the conquerors didn't

do such nice things in Mexico. It was a match made in heaven. The storyline was set. But upon touching ground in Mexico, I'm explicitly told there is no way I'm winning this match. And then I'm told that Sangria Stecca refuses to choreograph the match. Now if you know anything about wrestling, you know that the outcomes yes are predetermined, but that also the matches are more or less scripted. So, now, not only am I being forced to lose the match, I could get really hurt. This has gone too far. Ironically, I'm built as the good guy,

or technical, as we call it in Mexican wrestling. Ironically, I'm built as the good guy, or technical as we call it in Mexican wrestling. But when the announcer finally calls out, El conquistador, then when my york could be entire audience turns on me. Why? Now Mexican wrestling is a familial affair, so they are well as the grandmothers,

everyone down, down to the kids, start cursing at me. I feel like the entire arena wants to see me massacred. And in front of over 1,000 audience members, Sanres deca y anago go, Manoamano, one on one, two out of three falls for more than 45 minutes. And we go at it. We're going blow for below, putting each other's submission moves. We're fighting outside of the ring.

We're kicking. We're going hard. At one point in the match, revved up by the insults of the ring, we're kicking, we're going hard. At one point in the match, wrapped up by the insults of the audience, I looked down on my opponent, who I just body slammed, and I smacked him. This was a terrible mistake. All of a sudden, the chop, started singing that much more, the punches and kicks a little heavier,

and things are going a little too far. But we go at it, and I stay in there. And for the climax of the match, I climb up to the top rope to finish him off with a high flying maneuver, and it's just like I Imagine as a kid. It's magical. And I'm soaring through the air. Only to get caught off Midair with a dropkick to the chest. And he pins me for the one, two, three. I lose again. And I'm leaving the ring confused, beaten, and a swarm of kids surround me, asking me for autographs, embracing me, taking photos, and it's bizarre.

And I bend down to greet a few kids, and I feel this little pat on my shoulder, and a little boy says in my ear, see-step with it. Yes, you can. And I'm beaten. And this kid wants to believe, wants to believe that this character should keep fighting. And so I do. I take that childhood fantasy and turn it into an eight-year career as El Conquisador. Now it's been almost ten years since the last time I stepped in the ring, but of course I think about my adventures as a lucha door all the time. But more than anything, I think about that little boy's words, because when times get

most difficult for me, and these last two years have been some of the most challenging, tragic years of my life, of so many of our lives. El conquista, though, it reminds me that it's not always about winning. It's not about being the hero all the time. It's about moving through the failures and getting up after the losses. Because as that little kid said, that kid that just wanted to believe, see-sip with it. Yes, you can. Yes, we can. Thank you. Sean Leonardo is a Brooklyn-based artist and his work has been profiled in the New York

Times and CNN and featured in museums like the Guggenheim, MassMocca and the Bronx Museum to name a few. His first major public art commission is now on view at FDR for Freedom State Park. Sean entered into the world of wrestling as research for his art, which explores the hyper-masculine figures he was fascinated with as a child. It had never been his intention to actually pursue a pro career. These days, he says he misses the catharsis of the fight and the thrill of the crowd or pop, as they call it in the industry. To see pictures of Sean and his wrestling regalia, including that 14-foot velvet cape and some amazing action shots from the ring,

visit our website, themoth.org. And while you're there, maybe consider pitching us your story like Sean did. You don't have to go toe-to-toe with a Mexican wrestler to have a good one. Stories come in all shapes and sizes. So if you have a story or itch and to tell, just look for tell a story on our website and you'll find all the info for how to pitch us. The man goes through his middle of crisis when he experiences the mortality of his father. That ring true to me, and it also helped me explain why in a sudden burst of inspiration I bought a 20-year-old motorcycle while my father was dying of cancer.

I bought this beautiful machine without even knowing how to ride a motorcycle, not even having my license. I didn't tell anyone, especially not in my family about my purchase, because I'm from a traditional Jewish family, and I would have killed my mother to know I was out there on the open road. My father's prolonged battle with cancer would come to a head in May 2017 when he was taken to the emergency room because he had trouble breathing. While he was in the ER, his oncologist came down and gave us all the bad news that the experimental treatment that was supposed to save his life hadn't been

working and this was the end of the road. My sister and I rushed to be by his side and the three of us cried and cried. But for just a moment, we came up for air and I turned to them and I said, well now that you've got your bad news, I may as well tell you I bought a motorcycle. The tears of sadness started to mix with laughter and love and we started to play in our road trips together because that's what you do and we started to play in our roadtrips together because that's what you do with dying people you play in for your future. He made me promise right then and there to always wear boots when I ride and I still do every time.

You can pitch us your story at the moth.org or you can call us at 877-799-Moth that's 877-799-Maw. That's 877-799-6684. That's it for this show. We hope you'll join us next time for the Mawth Radio Hour. This episode of the Mawth Radio Hour was produced by me, Jay Allison, Catherine Burns, and Meg Bulls, who also hosted and directed the stories in the show. Co-producer is Vicki Merrick, associate producer and Emily Couch, additional grand slam coaching by Larry Rosen.

The rest of the Maw's leadership team includes Sarah Haberman, Sarah Austin, Genese, Jennifer Hickson, Kate Teller, Jennifer Birmingham, Marina Klucce, Suzanne Rust, Brandon Grant, Inga Gladovsky, Sarah Jane Johnson, and Aldi Kaza. Our pitch came from Zach Lipton in London, England. Most stories are true, is remembered and affirmed by the storytellers. Our theme music is by the Drift. Other music in this hour from Stephen Jacobs, Lou Dodd's sessions, Tommy Gowero, The true is remembered and affirmed by the storytellers. Our theme music is by the Drift. Other music in this hour from Stephen Jacobs, Luddot Sessions, Tommy Goerro, Jason Beales, and the El Mariachi Band.

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