The Nateland Podcast - #22 The Wife

Episode Date: November 25, 2020

This episode, we get to know Nate's wife, Laura. We talk to Laura about how she and Nate met, how he proposed, moving with him to New York and LA, what it's like being married to a comedian, and so much more. Plus, a special guest joins us at the end of the episode.    Co-hosts: Brian Bates ( https://www.instagram.com/brianbatescomic) & Aaron Weber ( https://www.instagram.com/realaaronweber)   Podcast produced by Nate & Laura Bargatze Recording & Editing by Genovations Media https://www.natebargatze.com https://www.allthingscomedy.com https://www.genovationsmedia.com Email - [e-mail]

what's up everybody this is Nate Bargetti welcome to the Nate land podcast I'm here with Brian Bates Aaron Weber as usual we are starts the week of Thanksgiving. It's a pretty fun week. Everybody's trips are canceled. Are y'all going somewhere? No. Nah, staying here. Yeah. Everybody, like no family or anything?

Mm-mm. Are you doing family and you're just not, you're lying? You're not telling it because the government is listening to the podcast? I would say I don't care. Are you, you're not meeting with them no i'm just having thanksgiving here are y'all not seeing your family well we haven't decided exactly what my niece has covid oh so we won't be seeing her yeah that's a big one yeah uh we is she fine yeah she's fine yeah does she know she have it or yeah she got it uh she tested about a

week ago positive she feels sick she was a she's some a little sick not too bad but but how old is she 20 oh she's in college um i was gonna say eight yeah yeah uh she's 45 years yeah she she's 73 you're like gosh she needs to be careful then. Like, that's just the opposite of what you think is. Yeah, dude, keep an eye on her, man. Good night. 20. Yeah, it doesn't matter, you know.

20s seems to be fine. We're doing, I think we are going to Birmingham. I think we're rolling. Yeah. I think that's what either people, I know a lot of people's trips are getting canceled, though. Yeah. And a lot of people are just staying home and doing whatever. But it'll be interesting to see.

I believe we're trying to do something, but it could also... I understand any moment could be like, no, we're not doing it. Yeah. But yeah, I know a couple guys' trips. But what are you going to do? COVID, it's a good time you know it's making everything fun i got two shows still next week uh right now still next week in california san diego's uh and anaheim the one night only tour uh it's still still on as of

right now but i mean they just keep closing stuff down. I feel like California does. They're like, all right, you can't eat past 10, and then people are, like, pushing that. And he goes, you know what? No more indoor dining. Like, he just keeps throwing more stuff out. No more outdoor dining. Outdoor dining.

That just happened, yeah. Do you feel fortunate that you got your taping in when you did? I mean, yeah. You know, they said they're still doing hollywood stuff like as far as that kind of of course they let those guys do whatever they want yeah uh that's why we're having somebody moved to nashville from california uh but they're so yes i but i am happy because that could have definitely been just pulled but i mean these shows i haven't i'm trying to find out if they're going to happen you know i, I know people ask, but

no one's telling us no yet. But that could easily change. So, we'll see. It's all crazy. It's all, when is it going to start? When is it going to be back to normal? You know? I don't know. I mean, unbelievable. It's unbelievable. When do we

get it back to regular? It's pretty crazy. What point? When will get to get back to regular like it's pretty crazy what point when were you consider it back to normal is there i think back on the road yeah i guess would be for me going back to do theaters are open again yeah theaters are back open at full capacity yeah oh man yeah that might be a year from now i know know. That's crazy, though. I know. At what point? I'm telling you. We'll all start something. At what point do we just go, we're just going back out?

And if you can't, then go home. Do whatever you want. I don't know. You know, it doesn't matter. I hope with the vaccine that by the spring, things will be improving. Yeah. Summer, at least. Yeah.

You got to prove that you took it. That's a good time. It's a good time.'s a good time that makes it real fun uh you got to have uh i don't know if anybody's familiar with the mark of the beast but this seems like you know everybody who always watched those movies this is like a mark of the beast movie and you see that it is funny like sometimes you always think about that stuff like oh without you know because you're like no that's never going to happen and then you start seeing some stuff you're like all right all right like you're like you have to i saw somewhere some it's it's like the government won't make you take the vaccine but like businesses could be like you

have to have proof that you took the vaccine before they allow you in maybe you fly on an airline airline's gonna be like we have to have do you have you have to have the thing that said you took it so then they forced so now you're you well you can't travel so stuff will just get taken from you unless you have proof that you took the vaccine which is i'm i'd probably take i'd take the vaccine i don't i don't think i care that much i would take it but i don't like getting told i have to prove it i definitely don't like that it's like almost like how you're being told but anyway that's a whole different podcast uh we'll get into that in conspiracy stuff uh when we do one of conspiracies uh all right uh we're gonna read some comments these are from youtube instagram twitter apple podcast reviews and always you can email nateland at

natebargetzi.com first up matt organ Matt Organ. I feel like I know this guy. He's commented before. Yeah. There's so much gold in here to comment on. I don't even know where to start. Love the podcast and love you guys. It's been said a ton in the comments, but it really does feel like I'm just hanging out with my buddies

while listening to you guys. Keep up the great work. Thank you, Matt. That's what it is. That's cool. A couple guys just hanging out, being funny or something. Not funny. Wade Cleaver.

Aaron is 1,000% too smart for this show. Wow. Wow. When Nate or Breakfast take a stance on almost anything, I can feel Aaron's seething resentment while he's trying to figure out how to dumb down his response. Also, good night, Nate. Listening to you read is like hearing someone start a new sentence every two words.

All jokes aside, love the show and keep up the good work. I could argue that he doesn't love the show. I mean, that's... He seems like a good guy to me, man. Is that true, Aaron? I don't know about 1,000%. Wade Cleaver seems like a made-up name that you would have made up and wrote a comment.

Wade Cleaver. Ward Cleaver. Oh, Wade Cleaver. Wade Cleaver, the Cleaver family. 1,000% is a lot. But it's up there. That's what you're saying. But it's up there.

You went to Notre Dame. You're a big time... You know, you're super smart. I'm not. I mean, that's what they say. Do But it's up there. You went to Notre Dame. You're big time. You know, you're super smart. I'm not. I mean, that's what they say. You have seething resentment? No, it's like, you know. Normal resentment?

It's just kind of, yes. I'm just used to it. Just a normal amount of resentment. Just a regular amount of resentment. Because I wouldn't say seething. You know, that's what you, if you and Wade were hanging out, and I imagine y'all hung out when y'all wrote this together, how to word this properly and you go

i'm gonna put seething it's not seething i go i know but they won't know it's you if you say seething you got to go higher and you go oh that makes sense way and then y'all went and um caught catfish with your fist and you noodled is that what y'all did after this yeah you go you were fishing where's your poles. Y'all went noodling? Mm-hmm. You go, we're fishing. Where's your poles? I would love to go noodling. Have you been?

No. You got to let a... Would you do it? I mean, maybe I would try it. If I'm there, I don't think I'm going to search it out. If anybody doesn't know noodling, it's you put your fist in the water, and a catfish bites your fist, and then you pull it out with your bare hands with your bare hands. So I would do it if if the if it all was there and it was happening, I would definitely try it.

But I don't think I'm going to go. Well, next time Wade and I go, I'll bring y'all should do it. I don't know. You know, Wade's going to just trashed by Wade the whole time. I mean, I don't have to be here man you know natalie walter aaron please don't punish us with camel color jackets now after what we all went through visually last week we've acclimated and it's truly sick to take that away from us they like the colors yeah they like the nascar jacket yeah that surprised me i'm surprised the amount of hate

i got for that camel jacket brown it's not a good one it looks but it's i think people will think maybe it's trench coat length it's not you know it just stops at the waist it's not creepy it's just a nice feels like a young your age that's being cool is what it feels like you know that's like look at my cool brown jacket that my dad wore. And everybody's like, wow, your hipster parties that you go to. Does everybody have that jacket on when you go to one of your hipster parties? I don't see many people with that jacket, dude. When you and Wade are out partying?

We go noodling and then we go to a hipster party afterwards? Well, your noodling is how you really are. You don't let everybody. They go, what did you guys do today? You're like, oh, not much, man. We didn't do anything. Yeah. And then you, you know. I won't wear the jacket anymore, dude.

I'll, you know. The brown one? Yeah. You wear it, do you, man. If you like the jacket, if it's comfortable, then you wear the jacket. I do like it. Was it a Brooks Brothers? Polo.

Polo, okay. Yeah, Brooks Brothers. Brooks Brothers ain't selling stuff like that anymore like that's too nice i bought a goodwill where'd you get a goodwill yeah the polo outlet store okay it's kind of goodwill uh it's basically the right step before it's the step before goodwill they're like everything's 85 off like yeah it's either buy it here or you can go buy it at Goodwill in a week. But either way, we're trying to get rid of this. That's what the Allen store is. Bob Hafner. Next Netflix documentary.

Nate goes 30 days without McDonald's. We starting now. I mean, I couldn't even start. I had Chick-fil-A before I got here. That's a good idea. Yeah. Going 30 days without mcdonald's withdrawals size me yeah the opposite of it would have to be all fast food if i'd go 30 days without fast food would be 30 days just eating home-cooked food would be that would be tough yeah that would be tough uh it would be i need to do it though uh i'm gonna have a heart attack that's what i've been thinking a lot lately i just eat ice cream every night i

go this is not good and so i just think about that and just do it again the next day just see if it happens i think sometimes maybe if it happens it'll it'll wake you up wake me up so i'm just kind of it's i'm waiting for it it stephanie crandall the part where nate talks about shamefully eating in your car in the back of a random parking lot then throwing away the evidence so your family doesn't find out was spot on accurate i was laughing so hard i was crying and gasping for air when my husband asked what was so funny i lied and said it was nothing so he didn't know my secret i do this every time'm able to get out of the house without my kids. I think it's a gigantic thing.

A lot of people said that. A lot of people do. A lot of people eat and get rid of it all, hide it all away. That's why trash cans out and about the wild, you always see trash cans in the wild. They're always full. It's all fast food. Yeah.

When you come on a trash can or come up on one where you can just reach out the car, like a drive-through trash can. Oh, those things. Dude. Might as well just throw it on the ground because they're going to be full. They are going to be full. You're going to bounce it off of it. They're huge.

I mean, yeah. That's, yeah. Everybody, I like that everybody does, you know. I think more people do it than not. I think it's a, I mean, that's what I was saying. Whenever it makes fun of fast food and you're like, people are there, man. People are going there. And I don't think it's just, you know,

just they think it's people are in like trailer parks or me. Like it's like, but it's, you know, McDonald's is good. They're doing good. Yep. Matthew Johnson. Hey guys, big fan of the show. Yep. Matthew Johnson. Hey, guys. Big fan of the show. The chemistry between Nate Aaron and Breathe Right.

Like the Breathe Right strip. Nate Aaron and Breathe Right makes every episode great. The reason McDonald's Coke tastes the best is actually because of the way they filter their water. because of the way they filter their water. Every McDonald's restaurant uses state-of-the-art reverse osmosis filtration to purify their water to ridiculously pure levels, giving it a distinct taste. Is that true? We got a few comments about the Coke, McDonald's Coke.

It's kind of like the buttered popcorn. Everyone gave a little bit different explanation, but they're all kind of similar. That's what I thought McDonald's wanted you to do. Everybody thinks they know why and they're like, maybe. McDonald's would say, he says that to McDonald's and they would go, maybe. Probably a little bit of that.

I think a big part of it is psychological. I think a McDonald's cup, seeing the logo do you associate all these things in your brain of like a good meal that you like i think a lot of it tastes i don't think so it tastes different the cup is it does taste different i'm saying that that's part of it it's in your head nate it's i know it's not all in your head it's not it comes from they're doing stuff there's something's different with the coke it's not and it's the cup

if you've heard coke you go to a restaurant you get a diet coke in a glass you know like a real glass it's not good and that's almost any soda but if you get it in those red pizza hut cups you know or those plastic cups it's way better yeah and so it's how you – the cup plays a big factor into it too. Everything plays it. It's all this – I don't think it's just psychological. I don't think you're in there going, this is only good because – I agree. Do you not think that's part of it?

No. Not even a little bit? I think it's – I think you could put their soda next to everybody and you know it's better. And you're not going to always just be like, I'm so happy with this beautiful cup. And then you're not tricked into your brain. I think you could put it in different cups, maybe, and you would probably taste the difference. Okay.

We'll do it with the Krispy Kreme. Whenever we eat Krispy Kreme donuts. Yeah. We'll have the... Can you tell? We're going to be doing a lot that day. That day's going to be a big day, man. Be prepared for that day.

Someone commented that their girlfriend or wife used to be a big day man uh be prepared for that day someone commented that their girlfriend or wife used to be a manager mcdonald's and they they clean the soda machine like four or five times a week like much more than most restaurants they said yeah that's their thing but yeah but psychologically they could do that only a couple times and then maybe clean the ice cream machine you know maybe then someone say it takes like four or five hours to clean the ice cream somebody did say that yep yeah so that's that's why they it's a it's a big deal so when it's when they clean it it's like yeah we're not doing this again because it's i get it if i work there i get it i get i get why i work there i'll never turn it

on yeah we're not doing this i why, but figure out a new way. Something's got to change. You go to Sonic, you're never worried. Sonic's like, yeah, what do you want? You want ice cream? We have it. 30 degrees outside? We have it, and I'll get it.

You're never scared of it. The only time I've ever had Sonic where they didn't, they were out of ice cream. That was the only reason it wasn't the machine. One machine wasn't out of it. They were just out of ice cream for a guy to have a website is not good for McDonald's, but they're so focused on the Coke that they're losing sight of the ice cream. But,

you know, McDonald's is doing good anyway. So Bryce Hockenberry sounds like one of baits his name yeah bryce hockenberry my girlfriend manages a mcdonald's that has multiple lanes i'm not sure if it's everywhere but i know as far as mcdonald's they have cameras in the speakers so they can see who is ordering what and know which order goes out the window for who all right that's pretty good yeah how to do that that's what i thought it was something with cameras but you know i went to chick-fil-a before here and uh which uh they gave me record coke instead of diet

and that's you know it's always annoying uh chick-fil-a does a good job they also when i was in i was in the big long line, and they were walking the food, you know, they like walk your food back. But I was that person where they walk, they almost started behind me. So I had to wait. It was like a long time. And I mean, people are just peeling off behind me,

like, oh, wow, that's super quick. Their experience was, they go, it's unbelievable. And my experience was I had to wait for all these, it was just me getting food, and it was all these gigantic bags going into vans, where you're like, oh, God. And I had to sit and wait the whole time. So normally they're good.

But I thought, that's like if you ever go ride a ride at a theme park and you're at one part and they go all right this new lane's open and then like the guy right behind one guy is really gets no benefit but 20 people get a huge benefit oh yeah and that's what i felt like that guy a couple of people commented that last week when i went to get us food and they said no breakfast yeah that guy was just a fan of the podcast and didn't want to serve me. Yeah. No breakfast. All right.

And then you just went with it. You might be right. That means they have a camera in the thing and they saw your red nose. They go, I'm going to take a shot. It's either breakfast or Rudolph. And then they didn't and he just went with it black daniels when i was 17 i got to discover student credit card with the intention of maxing it out and making payments to build my credit the day i got it i told a group

of friends to meet me at hooters and they could order whatever they wanted because i was buying we literally hung out for hours, each ordered multiple entrees and ran up a tab none of us could actually afford. Eventually, the waitress brings the bill and I confidently say, I'll take that and drop my newly received card. The waitress looks at it and looks at me and says, we don't accept Discover. Something back then I didn't even know was's a possibility we sit quietly for an hour waiting for mom to come bail us out who afterward made me pay her back immediately and coincidentally also did not accept discover oh for a little fun yeah yeah a little story there blag um well he left out that last part and then someone said

well what happened yeah and then he finished it up. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's a good little story. Yeah. We also had a Discover card. That was one that my wife got, and I would just be like, nobody takes it. Everywhere I did, we don't take Discover. And I kept, we had it for, and I was like, I can't have this credit card.

Are they easy to get or something? Easier than other? I don't know. They might charge more or something. Like everybody takes Amex. Amex is usually, but the Amex charges more, I think, or something. So a lot of people don't.

That'd be one that they don't want to take Amex. Yeah. But Discovery was just a problem, man. A Discovery. Like everywhere we went was just, we don't take, I mean, it's enough that you notice it. You know what I mean? It's not, oh, okay.

It was enough that you go, are you kidding me? No, we don't take discovery. And you're like, ah. And then you're just done. That's very funny. Ordered that much food. I wonder how much it was. Had to be, I mean, all them ordering probably a couple hundred bucks,

something like that. And Hooters. Yeah. I mean, yeah, just to go, we don't take Discover. I mean, golly. Just your whole plan. You had such a good night. What are we going to do?

And then you got to call your mom. Brock Lobster. These are all your names. You know, Brock Lobster. Nate spending 13 times the national average on fast food is like Michael Scott going bankrupt for attending multiple magic camps and buying premium bass fishing equipment. That is 13 times the national average. I should be. That's why I'm the greatest average American.

Which might be the title of the next special. Really? Yeah. that's why I'm the greatest average American which little might be the title of the next special really yeah naming a special is

it always it's a hard to do and and then so I don't know if I'm supposed to say that but you get it

there were some comments on YouTube that said that should be the next name yeah yeah it's uh well nateland listeners just don't say anything to anybody just everybody keep be cool about it don't post that in the comments because i don't think i'm supposed to say it but i think it's going to be the greatest average american yeah it worked out like i was trying to name it and i had all these other names you always want to name your special and then they always end up being

like no they just got a Tennessee kid wasn't my choice I think my manager chose it and they want it to be when people see it you know if you're Kevin Hart Bill Burt you're a name that you're so big everybody knows what they're getting they know the product and then if you're me yes a lot of people will know what they're getting but then people that might not know me which should be a lot of people they why why would i what is this and that's the greatest average american's pretty yeah it's pretty good i know i thought of it when we said it and we posted the clip on instagram i was like man i bet that could be the special and then they and i was going to tell them and then they reached out and said hey what about

this and i was like oh that's awesome can you give us any of the other names you threw out uh the lucky ones which is part of a joke that I do

uh I like the lucky ones yeah and but it's about a joke that I do in my act uh one fell swoop is a

it's my closing joke that could have been one um I just thought about like comedy just straight comedy like being the comedy pot

the comedy special you know just being like this special's about comedy it's not about anything else all this political stuff I like that I like the comedy special too

but the greatest average American is is pretty great yeah and so I I think it's gonna be that I can so i i think it's gonna be that i can't tell you where it's at either that's another thing that's against the rules but you can probably guess but don't also don't post uh lauren reed there's a sonic at the edge of our neighborhood

and my dad stops for a root 44 coke every morning and he's done this for all 21 years that i can remember we were regulars so much so that he was given a Sonic gift card by our car hop many years in a row. We did the math this summer and accounting for Sonic five days a week spending about $6 a day as sometimes one of us would get breakfast to.

50 weeks out of the year, my dad has single-handedly spent at least $31, 31 500 at sonic on coke this isn't including any dinner stops milkshakes or anything outside of his morning coke wow 31 000 how many years 50 uh for 21 years so for spent $31,000 on just that coat. That's amazing. You know, good for him, man. Yeah.

I love that. Just go do it. That's so much money. And if you break it down, you probably made your dad feel terrible. And I hope your dad just keeps going and now just goes, well, I wonder how high we can get. I mean, that's, you know, thirty one thousand dollars just on soda that's unbelievable you know but not even mcdonald's coke yeah he likes sonic sonic's got good ice

that's their thing get that pebble ice great ice uh and i don't think mcdonald's coke would go good with their ice i feel like mcdon McDonald's, their ice plays into it. Interesting. So Sonic does have good soda products and the ice is really good. My old job had a pebble ice machine in the kitchen. It's good.

I would never get paid on time, but we had a pebble ice machine. You stuck around? What was it? Where'd you work? A little company here in Nashville. The best part was they had great ice. Yeah, great ice. Don't get paid very often, but great ice.

What was it? What did you do? Company here in Nashville. Oh. On Music Row? Yeah, that same place. So you did marketing, and how do they not pay? It's like a real

business it was yeah it was just a lot went into it yeah it's a long story but i wasn't getting paid very often yeah and it was like were you like interns no man it's a real job it's a real job i'll get paid on pay PayPal sometimes or like Venmo. Yeah. So there are a lot of red flags. But the ice was unbelievable. So you stuck around. Yeah.

Great ice. You're homeless, but the ice is great. And now you're eating at McDonald's where we at McDonald's feed more homeless people than anybody in America. That's where you're... James Elam. I can relate to the Ronald McDonald story. In third grade, Ronald McDonald also came to my school. I have no idea why he was there.

I just remember midway through the assembly, he lost his voice, and my principal had to come in and read the rest of the presentation while Ron just set off to the side. Eventually, he had given up being a part of it all, and we watched him walk off the stage. And some kids said they saw him in the back of the room, full makeup, but took the red wig off. Oh, that's unbelievable.

I love it. That's unbelievable. James Elon. He should be a comedian. And love it. That's unbelievable. James Elon. He should be a comedian. And they tell that story. Yeah. That's a great story, man. I mean, that's got everything.

I love everything about it. I love that he's set there. The principal had to continue to read it. A, to lose your voice. Something else was in the play. I don't think he just lost his voice. Ronald McDonald can't be talking that much i you know i've had one time on stage where my voice was kind of gone and i still did the show but i was sick or i was just getting sick or coming over being sick

and uh so he shouldn't be losing his voice ronald ronald ronnie might have had a bit of a night the night before just what it seems like. That's like the idea when you see, you never think about it, but for kids, when they see their teachers out in public. Yeah. I mean, that's a big deal. Teachers have to be careful because you can't really see the parents either. The parents almost don't want to know you're that

you're a regular person if you're a teacher they don't want to be like oh i saw you at hooters trying to use the discover credit card they you know you don't want all this we've seen harper's teacher out and i mean it's it would be like if someone saw a celebrity yeah and they you know harper's like you know uh just can know, just can't believe that they're out. So, see, I mean, him just, I mean, him just eventually just walk off. Like, he's like, there's no reason for me to be here. And just in the middle of the guy, he's like, and so Ronald Mc… Okay.

Yeah, no, you're fine. Yeah. All right. Yeah. I wonder what… Why does he not just leave either ronald mcdonald's on the lecture circuit dude yeah he's making his way around to these schools why didn't why can he just leave it's like all right you want to just go he's like actually need those papers he's like uh okay all right well let me just read it and then i'll bring

him to you he's like there's a is there like a green room or something you're like do you call me like Ronald, come on. Do you call him? You're like, Jerry, come on. Do you call him by his real name at that point? Johnny, just go sit in the classroom. Take your wig off, cool down. He's like, this is embarrassing.

He's like, I know. It's embarrassing for all of us. Here at the Ronald McDonald Foundation, Tom Mor morse i comment every dang episode you read every commenter's name you finally read one of my comments and say some guy said my name is tom morse i need to brag to my friends please and thank you tom morse tommy morse was the Ronald McDonald. Did we just say, we didn't say his name? I didn't catch it at the time, but there was the extra comment there at the end about,

he asked about the golf tournament. Yeah. And you kind of went quick. Oh, yeah. Yeah, we were trying to do it kind of quickly, Tom. And so we just breezed through it. But Tom Morris had the comment about the, last week about the golf. Yeah.

So thanks for that. Thanks for this, Tom. All right. I think we're good week about the golf. Yeah. So thanks for that. Thanks for this, Tom. All right. I think we're good, right? Yeah. Yeah. That's it for today. That's all the podcast, everybody. So, yeah, we had, you know, this was a, you got Thanksgiving coming up.

We got, we had a sad week with, so my grandmother passed away and she was 87. She was, she's in Bowling Hall of Fame. And so lived a good long life. Yeah, we talked about her in the sports episode. Yeah, yeah.

And so lived a, you know, a good long life and we all went to the funeral and it was funny to the funeral. And what's funny with the funeral, this is the Bargettis. So this is the family, if everybody knows, Tuesday. Tuesday was there.

My uncle was there. Wears no shirt and tuxedo jacket. I mean, just such a fun family. The Bargettis are just kind of wild. We got my cousin, Little Bob. We call him Little Bob. He's 6' six eight but his dad's name is bob and he so we said it when he was in his dad was like a big guy and then little bob grew up to be six eight and we're like yeah we've already committed to the little bob name uh my cousin chris i mean every you know like gabe everybody was there and uh page and trying

to not miss anybody my brother my brother sister there it's funny so my brother teaches at a school and uh they do a lot of mission work uh god uh is the global outreach development uh two of these guys i'll work with uh so he uh God, yeah, Global Outreach is on. Yeah, they're G-O-D. But they say G-O-D because they're not being as, you know, they're not above God. You said it with disdain. Yeah.

God. I know. No, it just took me a second to spell it out in my head. Yeah. Do y'all ever say God? Y'all don't say God, you say G-O-D. Yeah, G-O-D International. But they know that spells God, right? Yeah, that's the point of it. But they don't want to go, they don't say God, you say G-O-D. Yeah, G-O-D International. But they know that spells God, right?

Yeah, that's the point of it, but they don't want to go, they don't go, hello, we are God calling. Like, that's not, that doesn't drum up business. I can't believe it took you that long to figure out that spelled God. Well, you know, I feel like. Hello, we are God, and let me tell you something, we don't need your business. My buddy, John Paul, who builds pools, Laura, I just just totally backyard living and he does he builds pool very funny his dad you've told the story oh i did yeah

so john paul we talk his whole thing but if he hasn't seen it his dad also has a pool company and he he's now his competitor uh and but he was his whole thing is he goes we're talking he's like look i don't need your business we always joke that john paul says that and i try to say that he tries to go anybody he goes his house to build a pool and they ask any question he just goes look i don't i don't need your business all right and his business cards just say i don't know how you got this number who gave you my number and i love the idea of that being your business motto is everywhere you go hey do you mind building a pool look i before we get started just a heads up i don't need your business all right i'll look at it and i'll see but just understand i don't need it you need us more than

we yeah yeah yeah yeah it's such a good depends on what you just run on that yeah on that like i'll just go look just head start i know you're my first client i good... Piers, why don't you just run on that? Yeah. On that, like how it just goes. Look, just head start. I know you're my first client. I don't need you, dude. I don't, you know... You're first customer. Hey, thank you guys for listening.

I don't need you to listen to this podcast at all, all right? That's how this podcast gets started. I don't care. These will be plugged in. I'll talk to myself, all right? But anyway, so my brother, he always ends up doing a lot of that. My dad was always doing it like any kind of pastor work, any kind of you go be a minister. We need a minister. My dad would always have to do it, read a scripture and all that kind of stuff.

So my brother gets there and Derek has to go read. My dad, he's going to just read a scripture. My dad, he was Derek's going to read a scripture at the gravesite, actually, not at the funeral. And so the person comes up to him and just goes, all right, so how do you want to do this? And Derek's like, I'm just reading a scripture. He goes, you know when someone just is not going to take that as an answer?

And they go, okay, so how do you want this service to go am i derek's like oh so i guess i'm in charge of this service now i'm giving the eulogy he had to go up there and my dad talked which was a very moving great he was very sweet uh so my dad did that bulk of it and derek just goes up and he goes, he just said what was happening. That's great. There's a woman there named Di. There's friends with my grandmother. And she always sang karaoke.

She wanted to sing. So we didn't, there was no hiring of a singer. There wasn't going to be a singer. There was, she just goes, I would like to be a singer this there was she just goes i would like to sing a few songs and we go okay and so she's saying she's saying two songs and uh derrick just goes up and goes so uh made a little joke because i guess i'm the minister for our family and so i'm going to read some scripture and then die is going to come up and sing a song and then my dad's going to talk then die will sing again and then we will go and bury our

grandmother like he just told him that's basically right yeah just going here's the plan here's what we're going to do so derrick read the scripture and then he said die please come die sings uh you know amazing grace something My Uncle Mike starts clapping Which no one really does at a funeral She gets done singing There's maybe 20 of us in this room And he's just like And then we all start

Everybody starts clapping My grandmother's right there And then she sings again And then Di comes back up at the end and then we then we start clapping my dad looked at my uncle mike is like what are you doing you don't clap at a funeral like it's not not a concert and then my and he starts my uh then everybody clapped after the second time because we're like i guess we're clapping you know we can't not clap i mean poor die is going to be like well well, what happened the second time?

You don't think I brought it? And then, so we, she clapped again. And then, uh, yeah. And,

and then, and then we went and, uh, we buried her. Uh, so that's a, it's a Bargetti. And that's the Bargetti's man.

It's a fun. I love it. Yeah. Yeah. There's always something. It's always, I mean, you know, my funeral, I hope it's the bargettis man it's a fun i love it yeah we're yeah there's always something and it's always i mean you know my funeral i hope it's something something just doesn't work i love it was just a free-for-all like you you doing it put together yeah put together real quick derrick just had no idea we all drove up me derrick and my sister abigail and then just we're doing i guess

we're doing this and didn't you guys go bowling in honor of your grandmother? They went last night. I didn't go, but everybody else went. Harper went and all the nieces and nephews and Derek and them. They all went bowling. That's great. That was good. They did bowl good.

This week, I believe we have a ton of questions we're bringing the producer of this podcast that doesn't know how to separate being a wife and producer sometimes no i don't know uh we have a very inappropriate relationship as a producer on the podcast. And it's not good for business. And so we got Laura Bargetzi. Laura Bargetzi or Blair. Laura Blair. It's Laura instead of Laura. People get mad about that. And then people people i mean her

uh when we did when we shot this special or when we did the pilot it was uh it was laura i changed it to laura yes that was for my benefit yeah did do is there any pilot questions there was okay so we're waiting i'll get to that all right we can fire so me and uh laura do we need to talk about how we we met at uh at applebee's we worked at applebee's together i was 21 she was at my 21st birthday and uh we met at applebee's and we uh and then we've been together since then i live in chicago and then then I was in New York for two years. And then we got married in 2006, right? And then you moved to New York with me.

October. October. 31st, 2006. Yeah. So you guys dated that whole time? Yeah. Dated the whole time. We had a break.

We had a break. And then just like every relationship on earth on earth yeah but when you moved to chicago were you guys dating yes and then so my before i ever started comedy when i told her i wanted to go do comedy yeah he said um i have to tell you something and i was like okay what is it and i thought gosh here's this guy gonna me. It could be any number of things. I was like, what could it be? And my mind is racing like he's got, I don't know, something wrong with him.

Something's weird in his family. Well, that's true. Just like, what could it be? My dad's a magician. Yeah. He was like, I want to be a stand-up comedian. I was like, oh, okay. All right.

Okay, good. Do that. Okay. good. Do that. Okay. Because I just never heard anyone say anything to me like, I want to be a singer. I want to be a whatever. Even living in Nashville. Yeah. I was like, okay.

Sure. Go ahead. Just to vocalize it like that. Yeah. I want to be it. That shows that you were very dedicated out of the gate. Out of the gate because out of the gate a lot of people are like i'm gonna go try this and see what happens yeah i think when i started

i knew i wanted to be a comedian but i didn't yeah i didn't tell anybody for a while because i didn't want to it sounded like a secret you had to chivago i don't had you told anyone up to that point uh i mean maybe you or my parents would have been, you know, but my parents were great with it. Was it a plan though before? I don't know. I think it's always, you know,

I say in my, when I wrote where I would be in 10 years. Oh yeah. In my. You should show that. Yeah,

we have it like for my senior year in high school. It's like, where are you going to be at 10 years? I think I said playing in the NBA.

Yeah. Because I always wanted to play basketball, which I technically did. Nashville Baptist Association did play for the NBA. Oh, that's fine. Truthfully, yeah. NBA.

And then I said I want to perform at Zany's. And so, but I don't ever, I guess there was, when I look back, there's a lot of stuff. My dad always brings up, he remembers the first time I told a joke. I forget what the joke was. The spider? One was the spider. look back there's a lot of stuff my dad always brings up he remembers the first time uh i told a joke i forget what the joke was and i was like five one was the spider that was the first joke i remember was i remember hey there's a fly uh he said waiter there's a fly in your soup and the waiter says don't worry the spider on your bread will eat it and so i thought it was so funny and

then my dad always just says that i broke it down why it's funny like here's why it's funny and so I thought it was so funny, and then my dad always just says that I broke it down, why it's funny. Like, here's why it's funny, and so I guess I was fascinated with these jokes, but in my head, I don't remember. There was never, you know, I think people think, is there ever just a big declaration like, I'm going to do this. I've always wanted to do this.

I've dreamed of it, you know, my whole life, and I don't remember that. I was never, it was like I was never trying to do it. And then it just, I would, but I, there was so many things that were leaning to me wanting to do it. And so it was always there. And then one day me and Michael Clay, and then we were going to move to Chicago and he wanted to go to Chicago.

Cause I was like doing that. I was reading Watermakers and I was telling Trey, Trey Pearson, guy with his, and I told Trey, I was like, I think I want to do comedy. Like I knew I was doing a job that's like. That was after that. That was after you told me that you had that job. And that's when you were like. Then you, yeah, I started like.

You found a friend. I started figuring out. Yeah, like how to do it. I do, I am good at that. If I put, if I want to do something, I will figure whatever it is. If I want to figure something out, if I want to do something i will figure what whatever it is if i want to figure something out if i or if i want to get some if i want to buy something if i want to do anything i will figure a way to make sure i can end up doing that uh and so yeah it was like yes it

was like getting all my ducks in a row i wasn't doing comedy here i I didn't do that. But I moved. I was reading. I delivered pizzas at night. I read water meters of the day, and I went and delivered pizzas at night and just would put that money away so I would have a couple thousand dollars or something before I moved. I think I had a couple thousand. I feel like Michael had 10,000. I feel like Michael's a good saver. I don't know if he had $10,000, but he had way more than me.

I was like, got $500, dude, let's hit it. And I just had nothing. But I was like, this is good. And so I remember doing that, and then I started. But, yeah. But, Laura, when he moved, was there any talk about, well, maybe we should break up? Not right then, just because it was so new.

And I was like, you should go do that. I'm, you know, doing things here. I think I was in school. Yeah. So I was like, I can't like follow, you know, I can't follow your dream. We were just dating. Yeah.

And I was like, you should go do that. And let's see how it goes. Yeah. Committedly see how it goes, but see how it goes. And then, you know, Chicago's an easy flight. Yeah. I had money. You know, I had money enough to fly there.

I think we did it every three weeks or four weeks or six weeks. We had, like, an interim, and we would alternate, and it was easy because he was coming to see his family anyways. Right. So. So the relationship. It just kind of kept going and going. Yeah.

You know. I was like... Won't die. I'm pretty persistent. So, I don't know. It just... She gets what she wants. Yeah. I had a good feeling about it.

And then what about when he said he was moving to New York? Because then he must have been pretty serious. That was a big deal. I was like, well, you know, he kept making it and making it and making it. So I just have conversations with myself like, he's doing this. What am I going to do? Where's my place in this?

Chicago was like a proof of concept almost. It was just I needed someone that goes. If someone would have been like, I heard Denver's got a good comedy scene. I would have been like, okay. It was just, I don't know why i didn't start here i just i don't think i thought i remember he said michael or trey's was like hey michael trey pearson such a big part of this um he did so good with i feel like he was he's a guy he they have a ton of kids they had kids very early and he i feel you know and tre Trey lives a wonderful life and did our T-shirts for a little bit.

So, but Trey, I think, is a guy that's like very supportive of someone that if they go, hey, I wanted to go do something, he's like, you should go do that. He's a perfect person that was just put, you know, into my life at that time. So when I said that he goes you know Michael wants to do that he wants to move to Chicago and so Trey was like y'all need to talk and I knew Michael we were friends but we I don't know if that would have ever come up and so then he's like y'all talk and then me and Michael started talking Michael's like I want to go to Chicago and you know he knew Second City was there and so I go okay yeah I want to do it I'll go to

I'll do Second City with him and I took Second City was there. And so I go, okay, yeah, I want to do it. I'll go to, I'll do Second City with him. And I took Second City classes for eight weeks improv. I didn't love improv. Improv is, I didn't like that. It was too many people involved in the comedy. And I was new, I was going to be clean. And so, you know, improv, when people are bad at comedy, their first way to go is dirty.

And so every improv class, I feel like would be just somewhat dirty or whatever. And it was just like, I don't like this. I want to do my own thing. And then I took a class, comedy college. Jim Roth still does his class in Chicago and Milwaukee. And I took his class, and it was a great class. I'm not against classes. I think we've talked about classes.

But if someone wants to do comedy i think class is good because it's i think it just gives you something at least gives you a start you know i don't think you need them you definitely don't need them but if you don't know what to do it's a good to go start with other people that don't know what to do you know so yeah so i did that and chicago was going good i mean i was getting up right when i got i was in the chicago tribune right when it first uh because they did a story on his class and i mean that was a month into certain comedy and i was like in the chicago tribune my name was in it i'd like my parents still have it and it was because it was like god that's crazy like you know your name's in the news like the Chicago Tribune

when you did a show and Jeremy and I came up Jeremy Morrow yeah Morrow P came up and watched and I was like okay

yeah this is funny was that your first time seeing him yeah yes yeah did you think he was funny

before even comedy yes yeah just daily you know yeah banter. Yes.

Because I think you said once you liked her because she rode around on a broom like a witch. She was funnier. Yeah. That was my first. She was sweeping at Apple. I could walk you to the booth.

I know the booth in the corner. And she was. I thought that was good. Yeah. She was sweeping, like sweeping up. And then she rode it like a witch and goes, like clicked it, like starting it.

Yeah. Like a horse or something. Whoa. Motorcycle. Whoa. You know, Laura, do you know that cars? And so, yeah. And so then I always thought that was, it was very funny and cute.

And so then that's when I knew i really liked this chick thanks so he moves to new york it's getting more serious and then i was kind of like to come up here and let's see if you like new york city and so i went up there and i was like i had always i mean i remember being a kid and saying who would ever want to live in New York City? That's crazy. It's too big. It's dirty. It's expensive.

Who would ever live there? And then they're like, I'm looking at it to be my home. And I was like, this is ironic. And then he said, what happens if I was there? And he said, what happens if you don't like it? And I was like, I don't know. I guess. Do we break up? what's the I don't know and then we went around and you could tell that like the vibe was cool and it was exciting and I was like okay this would be exciting

so but that day actually you had the ring that day the first time you went to New York yeah well no not the first time no like the time where he was like, I had gone there once before. But the time where it was like, okay, you either have to move here, you know, we have to figure this out. We've been dating for a long time. And what were you doing for a job? I was in corporate. I was

at the corporate office here at Applebee's. I was a marketing coordinator. So I had just gotten hired. I graduated college and that was my first job out of coordinator. So I had just gotten hired. I graduated college and that was my first job out of college. So the president of the franchise group here in middle Tennessee thought I was hilarious and crazy because I would argue with him about politics and he would be like, who is this girl? And then he hired me right away. So that was my first job. And then they sold the franchise group.

So my job basically dissolved the minute i would have been moving to new york city yeah and then we went to yeah and then i asked you to marry me on the the uh that's what questions on here yeah oh yeah uh cassie b wants to know how did nate propose to you so that morning that I said, well, I don't know. I guess we just ended. If this doesn't work out, he had the ring. I didn't know that. And so I said, what are we doing today?

Should I shower? And this is critical for women. This I'll never forgive you for. He said, no, we're not doing anything important. So just wear whatever. know do whatever so i'm super casual so i put on like jeans and a sweater it was snowing sleeting snowing and i just like barely did my hair and then he proposed on a beautiful carriage ride and had a beautiful lunch planned at the central park boathouse with like champagne and like a whole thing didn't they

forget the champagne or something i feel like they didn't they were mad yeah because you had it all set up yeah it was like a whole thing it was we're gonna ask on the horse and the horse carriage ride and then go over to that and they were supposed to have the champagne yeah i feel like it was a package of something you paid for like i'm sure my parents paid for it at the time i had no money yeah but he was like oh just wear whatever so i mean i looked but you know you're not trying to give off yeah you think everything that you're doing is giving off i'm about to do this right and so you're trying to i called your dad that day did you ever know that uh you may have told me that yeah i called your dad and yes you did tell me that

and then I called your dad and asked and then which I someone just talk about that I would want someone to call me

like a 100% yeah I bet that's going away because I don't think kids are respecting parents it really just a matter

of the respect that she Harper would have for you know as long as she takes us serious then she'll show us the respect i think it's like yeah if you raise them like that but they're uh yeah but you don't want to give anything away so i've wanted but i remember so and we were on a horse and buggy ride it's not like you were bundled up so it's not that crazy it was crazy and then uh and then we asked and then yeah we went to you have like a like a

terrible photo with it like it just a regular click camera well you didn't have anything yeah that's all we had yeah what year was this 2005 yeah i guess yeah yeah that's all you have is that you don't you know we didn't have see on cell phones with cameras yeah i think we just had a camera and that got super far away luckily for me so yeah but it was a great i mean i was completely shocked oh you were you didn't know it was coming no i thought it was like a like a second try you know like okay like this is and then i thought it would come after somehow yeah completely shocked i feel like i as soon as you get on a horse and carriage, aren't you thinking maybe? I mean, how often do you guys travel on horse and carriage?

Well, we're there on vacation. She's there on vacation kind of. So you're like, let's do some touristy. Yeah. Okay. That makes sense. So I just thought, yeah. Yeah.

No, completely shocked. And what did her dad say? No. That's been the hardest part. No, he said yes. He's like uh he said i know you know what to do and you know and just i know what you know too and very nice for dad's great very soft-spoken and uh it was good with it so a couple questions along those lines scott h how did your parents react when you told them nate wanted to be a comedian and his dad was

a magician clown. And Odalgo6, how great was the day? You got to tell your parents, see, I told you. Comedy made it. It paid off. I would say my dad was, like, measured. But he's a retired military person, a lieutenant colonel from the army, and he's

a preacher. So I think he thinks money is not the end-all be-all for him. So it didn't really matter about money for him. Because that's a calling to do that. And comedy, you're not going to necessarily

get rich, but it's... And my dad is also super funny. He loves comedy. He loves humor. I don't know. He loves my dad. When he saw my dad, he went crazy. But your parents came to that show, the first college you ever did, Belmont.

Oh, yes. Your dad and Beth came, and they were there. And my dad, I remember being like, my dad's going to be there. Because your dad saw my dad somewhere else and then was like, I mean, loved my dad. He still loves him because he loves that dry humor. He's a David Letterman kind of fan. Yeah.

What about your mom? She is kind of an old school comedy, so it has to be super jokey. She's not a fan. Not a fan. What about your mom? She is kind of old school comedy so it has to be super jokey. She's not a fan. Not a fan. She thinks Dave is funny but she's just physical. Kind of jokey.

I don't think she likes any of us. Actually she does love Brian. Yeah. She does love him. She put it back on me yeah she does she's always like is brian gonna be there i don't know well we're about the same age group yeah yeah she loves these old i love old easy comics dean martin comics that don't you know you don't gotta take shots no you don't it's not so many i think she was the most skeptical of the bunch though yeah and so i think my cousin gives it to her to answer the next question like that i told you

you know like read the next one oh the other one that you just read yeah oh about putting in your face yeah so my i think my cousin has told me and scott has told me a couple times like oh i called your mom and said like oh laura's doing okay right she's got it going on how's she doing and and what point was that in your career well that's been you know where after we moved back to new uh to nashville is when he told me that yeah but uh joey yeah uh stepbrother-in-law he's the one that really kind of called he went on his own to Zany's and saw you at some point later

and he said he called my dad on the phone and said don't you worry about her it's going to be fine and I don't know if my dad was at all

but you know he was just saying that's great he's really good like she's going to be okay yeah that's great that was very nice for him to do.

Yeah. Just to get. Yeah, because there's always behind the scene. It's like, I don't know. No one's going to say anything to my face. Glad you didn't phone that set in, dude. Yeah, I brought the heat that day. Yeah, he came in and just watched from the back.

And then, yeah. Yeah, I mean, everybody, we had, because we never had, you know, people always ask, which I don't know if it's going to be a question, but people always ask, was there ever a time where she was like, hey, how long are you going to do this? Because that's a question I get from most comedians.

They say, what about my girlfriend? Whatever. I think I've said multiple times. A, if you have a girlfriend or boyfriend that is going to be in the way then it just you know then you got to choose so either you're not going to make it or that's not going to work out and you got to choose and that's the you know this is a thing that's commitment something i talk about all the time i think we're lucky for every single person that listened to

this podcast i'm extremely lucky that they choose to listen to what I have to say. And I have to go perform with that gratitude every time to them. And it's never lost on me. They could easily walk away. And rightfully so, I don't deserve them. I haven't earned it. I work for them, basically. And so if anybody doesn't have that mentality, and you're just going to be like well Sundays and Mondays my girl just wants me to watch a movie it's like then enjoy not making it because you're not giving it you're not you know sacrifice

you got to make sacrifices to hopefully live a life that no one gets to live you know so that's what you get to do and so you got to do that and I feel like one time I thought it was you said well how's what you get to do and so you got to do that and we only i feel like one time i thought it was you said well how long would you do it if i think it was about being in new york and i saw like a lot of new york comedians just performing in new york and kind of like getting

in a little bit of a comfortable spot and i thought how many years would you just perform in new york and not actually start kind of to branch out and tour because i just didn't want to be in new york that long because i was like oh god this way you know it kind of starts to wear on you a little bit and we were broke at that point and it you know new york's not that fun if you don't have some spending cash we probably have lots of stories about being broke in New York. What were you doing for a living? So I was in marketing. So I did a bunch of kind of small marketing jobs.

And then someone gave me a – I saw an ad in a paper. And it was for an event planner. So that's really what – I just saw this job, and I was like, that's what I want to do, and I got hired. And past that, I was golden because it was a travel job, and I had my own fun, and it was late, you know, late nights. And so I didn't ever have to, like, wait on him to get home or anything because I had my own thing going on.

Laura's independent. She can kind of be alone. Yeah. She's fine being alone, which I think is another great quality if you have a job like this, is find a partner that can be by themselves. Yes. Because they're going to be by themselves a lot. I see that a lot.

A lot of people, their girls or their boyfriend, it's like they want to be around all the time, and you're like, it really can't be be that but just because everybody's going to be a little different if you're like hey my girl's here and then you're like okay and even go start talking about comedy and you know they don't care about it like we care about it and so it's just going to interrupts the flow like there's just times you need to do work talk or whatever. Right. And so that's a huge quality. Something very underrated.

Yeah. Someone did ask about Nate's no plan B approach to comedy and said you had to be just as committed as he did. Sounds like you were. Yeah, any concern that I had, I kept to myself. Just because I knew it wasn't helpful yeah i never knew you had a concern well just any like day-to-day like where's this guy you know just any concern any personal thought i just knew wasn't helpful so why say it yeah you know why bring that up and kind of discuss like details that either may or may not come true. Right. So just drop it and see where it goes.

I don't get credit for that either, I don't think. Yeah, for not saying anything. For just like... He just found out. Letting it happen, you know. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, you know, Laura also is someone that doesn't change much.

So wherever we were at, she could kind of be just, she's never going to go, I don't want to do this anymore. She just kind of does it. And then when I'm like, we're changing, we moved to California, it's like she just went with that. And then after two years there, I mean, even moving back here, I feel like I had to convince her.

And she wanted to move back here. And I'm like, we're moving home. Like that should be the most exciting thing ever. I don't think so. I think I was like was like yes what time are we packing yeah i'll take it because we also had enough money to like put a down payment on a house finally here versus california we were saving saving saving yeah she's a big saver i was saving for a house yeah but then when you said nashville i like, oh, done. Cool. Yeah.

She and Michael Clay, big savers. Big savers. Big savers. Yeah. You're welcome during COVID. Yes. She did save and she's, I mean, we, she always had money. She's the one that had money.

If we had, I mean, because I was making nothing at the. Yeah. I worked at a hedge fund actually in New York City. And so when they offered me the bonus, a hedge fund bonus, I was like, what? That's more money than I've ever made. Just the bonus. She got let go because of the 2008 financial. Oh, wow.

Yeah. It was in the job that she had was just over. Yeah. How long have you been in New York when that happened? I was there four years. She was there two. And then I remember comedy did really good during that time. how long you been in New York when that happened? I was there four years. She was there too. And, uh,

and then I remember comedy did really good during that time. I did a lot of shows. We did a ton of shows. People wanted to go out and laugh. It was just a sad time. Comedy does really good during bad times. It's a pretty cheap. It's cheap.

Right. And people want to laugh. It's cheaper than a movie. Most. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And it's a good time.

People don't think about it enough. I've heard it time and time again that people go to Zany's and they're like, why don't I do this all the time?

Because they have fun with their friends or girlfriends or a first date. That's probably a really great first date because if your girlfriend or boyfriend

doesn't laugh or dependent on what they laugh at, you could be like, this person, not for me. How often were you going to shows in New York of Nate shows? Yeah. Once in a while. I didn't really, I think I wish you would have came more now when I think about it, but when you're there, you're just, I mean, I'm running around. Yeah.

So I'm doing five shows a night. you're just i mean i'm running around yeah so i'm doing five shows a night and so it is you get off the train 7 p.m is my first show and i'm not going to be done till 1 a.m and i am you're going right when i get off stage you're like all right good night and you're like all right i'll be back for the second show and then i'm hopped in a cab or running to the next club. And then I walk in there and you're like, and then you go up and you do your 15 minutes and then you're like, all right, I got to go. And then,

so it's so if she did come, she'd sit at like the club I was going to be at last. I would come on the weekends. Cause obviously I had to work and then stay at one place and he could, yeah. And there would be other wives. Yeah. There'll be other wives or

girlfriends there who were super fun and hang out with them and then she's the only consistent one yeah what oh the only consistent girl there carla carla was there carla was there for a while big jay's uh ex-wife and then uh but the carla the so car you would hang out with carla a lot a lot because she was our neighbor too too. They found our apartment. I'm sure you've told that story. I don't think we have, actually. I thought he did about. Yeah, they found.

Big Jay left a message for your mom. Yeah, a message from my mom. Hello, is this Nate? Yeah. Is this Nate Bargetti's mother? And we're in Mexico on our honeymoon with no phone. My mom's like, oh, no. And then he goes, oh, no, it's jay yeah he's like we found apartments right

and we they were great she's an awesome cook and he's a lot of fun obviously we're best friends yeah he's my best comedy friend yeah he's her laura's him and laura because we had dan soda and jay do a show bonfire and they called one day to see, they go, who's Laura closer to? And it's Jay. I mean, Jay was just there. Soder wasn't there yet. He was across the street.

I mean, literally. He was across the street, yeah. And Soder's very close to us, but Jay and Laura had just been forever. And Jay was married at the time. He had a child which I loved her. Yeah. So it just

clicked more. Yeah. You know, they were more my speed. I was not out being a crazy person drinking all the time. What does Jay call you?

Lar Bar. Lar Bar. Yeah. Yeah. Jay took her to the hospital. Yeah, we've had a lot of moments. She got,

when she, He takes care of me. Yeah, I was, had a lot of moments. He takes care of me. Yeah, I was... You were out of town. I was out of town. You were here in Nashville, and I was dying. Gas overdue. We had a gas leak in our apartment, and she slept there all night and then had to go to the hospital. I started throwing up.

Started throwing up. And my mom was like, get out of the house, get out of the house. And I was like, Jay, are you home? Can you take me to the hospital? And Carla said, don't take her anywhere but Long Island Jewish. And so he took me all the way out to Long Island, to that hospital, and I was okay. I'm still alive.

Yeah, I remember calling him, and he was like there. I thought I was in Cleveland for some reason. You were here. Yeah. All right. It was almost Christmas. I had to work and then come home after. Yeah, and then, yeah, he took her to the hospital.

Yeah, it's crazy. And then with that lady. So in apartments in New York, if people don't know, it would be three-family homes. It's basically a townhome, and it's broken up into three families. So your living room space would be. So our bedroom would be someone's living room, technically. And then we had a den area.

It was a nice apartment. And then the upstairs, so they just break them up. And so we would control the heat and air conditioning for the entire. The thing was in our apartment. So if someone got hot or cold, they would have to ask us to do it. So there's a gas leak, and the lady, how she handled the gas leak was to lock the box and then give the key to the neighbor. Almost like we were the one that messed the gas leak up.

Like I tried to kill myself. Like she tried to do it. And so they didn't trust her. And then that guy just gave us the key. He was like, this doesn't even make sense. And so, yeah.

And we had a guy that was a bit of a drinker that lived below us for a while. And he had a big problem. I don't remember him. Remember him? He would throw up. You would hear him every morning. I do remember him. He would, it was like a big problem. I don't remember him. Remember him? He would throw up. You would hear him every morning. I do remember him.

He was like a construction worker. He was like just a real union guy. And I mean, would come home loud, drunk, 2 a.m., and then every morning you'd hear him just throwing up, and then he'd go back to work. And you're like, golly, the life that guy lived. Because you could hear, because you could open our door, and there's these stairs that would go to his front door it's like a basement and so it's like you could just hear it and it was just every morning i mean every morning just like having

you know like six or seven in the morning he's got to get up early uh yeah yeah that's crazy all right someone asked if comedy hadn't worked out for Nate, what do you think he would have done for a career? I don't know. Something manual labor-ish? Yeah. You know, anything he can do. He doesn't think he can do anything, but he can do anything. So I never had any doubt that our

life would work out whether he chose not to do comedy or kept found a job or some other career path now i don't know if that would have made him ultimately happy maybe that would have been the downfall yeah but he's a worker his whole it's all His whole family is just dedicated to working, just like my family. You know, they're not late. They don't have a lazy bone in their body. Yeah. So driven, motivated workers. So we would have done something, you know, anything.

I would have probably started, like, my own moving delivery company. I would have done something like that. I would have started something. Yeah. I would have started something. I bet it would have been something like that. Work with John Paul. It wouldn't have been a normal. It wouldn't have been in a building. It wouldn't have been like I work for

this company. It would have been something outside. Something that's a little different. But you always wanted to do comedy while you were working on that movie company. Yeah. I mean, I always thought about it. I was like, you know, if I ever went back to...

Or maybe went back to the water company. That's the only other thing I would have done. I think you were bored. Yeah. You would be bored. Yeah. But yeah, you know, there was definitely parts where... I mean, I never had a crazy...

It's been a very long career. And it's still going and it still can be frustrating. It's been very drawn out. There was never these moments of just, this is not working. No. There was always, I was still getting stuff. I got that first CMT thing like four years in. CMT comedy stages right behind me.

And so it was like like I got a TV thing and so I did TV on it so right from that moment you're like all right I'm good enough to get on this show so I'm at least doing what I think I should be doing and then it just kept there's definitely been very long you know drawn out it's it's not easy in building this i've had to do it very slowly and build piece by piece but that's what that's what happened to bill burr told me i think i've said that it takes you longer it's gonna take longer but you're gonna gain fans you're gonna gain them for life because you have to go earn every fan you have to like do stuff over it so it's just been that there's been no just immediate jump

you know it wasn't like you went from you know it was like you made i was making a thousand dollars a year to then you're famous and rich the next you know i mean pc people's careers they they get they go from nothing to within a year they they are mega fakes. And that happens. So that never happened. The most common question we got was, are you okay with you being the subject of some of Nate's jokes? Yes. Have you ever had a problem with any of them?

It pays our bills. So I don't think I should be like, don't say that. No, I'm kind of a, what do you call that when someone picks at someone? A humor. What kind of humor is that? Self-deprecating? Yeah. So I pick at people and that's my love.

Like if I'm picking on you, I love you. So it's him picking on me or saying things about me is like, oh, he loves me. But I remember doing jokes where i had to at the beginning it would they they sound too mean and so then people think well why are you married and she's not taking on that way but i just realized oh i need to deliver these in a different way because that's not the point because the point is i'm we're talking about one fight it's not like you know if we fought every day, I would have much more material. But I wish we fought every day.

And then I would be able to just be getting all kinds of material. You should let me be whatever I want to be, because then you could just have me. I still also want to watch TV and be a nightmare. Yeah, it's always been fun. There was one time a friend of yours came. The Sons came. Ashley.

And she goes, oh, he just said he wanted to murder you. And I was like, he doesn't mean it. He's not really going to murder me. So it's fine. Like she was like, oh, gosh. Yeah. It's almost like it's not even you. Yeah.

In a sense. It's the jokes are, I mean, when everybody goes, you're either, I'm you, or my husband is him. Yes. Then we're not, it's not like you're going, can you, if I was like this person's a nightmare in my life, and I'm pointing out problems that you're like, nobody has those problems

except you. Then we have a problem. Yeah. But when things are so relatable. Everyone's laughing. Everybody's laughing. Right. Nobody,

it's not a thought that someone doesn't have. And so in a sense. It's a concept. It's a concept. And I just, these concepts have these names and I've had some of these experiences.

And so, but that's where we're, that's where it's at. But I don't ever do anything that would be, I don't think I've ever done a joke that would be, I would tell you all the jokes too.

Yeah. Before I would say, I'm doing this about this. Do you recognize that it's going to be a bit like in the moment sometimes? Or is it reflecting? Yeah.

The One Fell Swoop one, which is new. No one knows yet, so don't say it. But it's, that one is, I think, one that I knew. I think I even said it to you. In the middle of the fight. I can recognize it from other people, but not from us. Like if, you know, you guys are, his mom and him are, I'm like, oh, it's going to be a joke. But if it's me, I'm more in the moment.

You're wrapped up in it. Yeah. He's talked about this on stage kind of, but how fun is he in day-to-day life? Not that fun. She says the meanest thing ever. She says, if I do anything fun, she goes, oh, this is a 30 seconds of fun. She says the meanest thing ever. She says, if I do anything fun, she goes, oh, this is 30 seconds of fun. She's 30 seconds of fun, which is extremely insulting. So he is very analytical and very observant and breaks things down.

And he completely, you know, is in his own thoughts. So he can be very serious but alternatively like i said with his professional comedians it's a blast so i love to go out with him there but you know if he's if he's if you're being funny it's a lot of fun but day to day you know you're talking about a fence a house yeah who's paying this bill yeah you don't want them to be on all the time like that right that would be that would be i would like it i would be like yeah so i don't know i try to be i'll tell her if i come up with a joke i'll tell you yeah and sometimes i can make you laugh you can make me laugh anytime you want

yeah it's it's are you in the mood to like just be yeah no one's gonna be in the mood you can't and sometimes I can make you laugh. You can make me laugh anytime you want. Yeah. It's are you in the mood to like just be. Yeah, no one's going to be in the mood. You can't, as comedians, that's what someone always says there. If you are a comedian, they go, I can't believe you're the comedian. Those are going to be the comedians because there's a lot that goes into it.

There's definitely guys that are, like if I go golfing and someone thinks, and it's some golf course, and they're like, I'm not going to be as funny as your buddy that's a golfer that just does all these rapid jokes that's super fun that's a completely different thing than what we do it's a ours has to travel my joke has to travel it has to rely on different circumstances, different audiences. I mean, there's so much that goes into it. To make a joke work in 50 different states is a lot harder than I need you on this golf course and I need you to be in this moment.

It's very long. It's harder to do. Yeah, and I can go crazy. I tell people that if a comedian does voices, then they're probably a lot of fun in real life. Yeah. Because then they're kind of like goofy. Yeah, they can do.

Like Dan Soder does voices. That's the first person I thought of. Yeah. Yeah. So Soder's. He can be fun. I don't know. I mean, I don't live with him.

But when I see him, he's gre's he can be fun i don't know what i mean i don't live with him so but when i see him he's gregarious and fun but everybody's gonna be funnier that's not the i don't think anybody is in a relationship with a comic and goes oh it's just the greatest thing people ask your mom the same thing and she has the same answer like about my dad yeah he's very quiet unless you get him you know talking about comedy or magic or sports. Well, you start performing. It's like, I'm not going to come home and perform. I don't want to perform.

We have to do it so much that when you're home, you don't want to do that. But there's moments. There's definitely. And they're good professional moments. Yeah. They're a higher level. So when she does get it, she gets're a higher level. So when she does gets it,

she gets a much higher level concentrated funny than your average person. I'm funny all day. So that 30 seconds of fun is like

is remarkable. That's like hours for a normal person. It's special. It's HBO special worthy. It's legit. It comes out from a real,

you know, professional level. For sure. I was going to say, that's almost when it's if somebody comes home, a comedian, and they're just on, that's where it's almost like you'll get worried about them. If they're just never themselves. Yeah, well, you would be...

I could see that. Yeah, you would want realness. You would be like, I don't... That's someone you date. That's not someone you would want realness. You would be like, I don't, this doesn't feel, that's someone you date. That's not someone you would marry and live with. Well, so John Wolf asks, how do you deal with Nate when he goes off on one of his obscure rants? It happens a lot. I would say I just try to be calm through it,

try to jump in where I can. He has to get it out. So I try my best to just, yeah. Or she goes, I just want to watch this show and go to bed. No, barely. You do that.

Well, that's if it's very late. Well, that's when they usually are. Okay. What time are they? They're like 11. 11.30. Yeah. And she goes, I'm when they usually are. Okay. What time are they? They're like 11. 11.30. Yeah. And she goes, I'm just trying to watch a show.

And then I just, I got to go to bed. It's because I also have to do that with Harper. She'll go on rants about her own stuff. So I've already been like, uh-huh. Yes. Okay. Really? No.

Uh-huh. I just pictured them being a lot of the same. A lot of the same same rants yeah it could be the same his are angrier it's about sour skittles or something

going off yeah it's about nothing right some are about nothing Harper's are also about nothing yeah some are about

absolutely nothing but you have to like that's where comedy is yeah you're trying to be passionate yeah and you're trying to get a joke

a joke could come out of it. If I shut it down, I could be like, there goes that purse. She doesn't buy anything. That's one of my favorite comedies. Somebody being very passionate or defending something that's just absurd. I feel like that's what a lot of this podcast is.

It's just talking. It's nothing's just not worth it. I mean, I feel like that's what a lot of this podcast is. Yeah. It's just talking. It's nothing. Yeah. And you have to be passionate about nothing. And that's where it comes from. She does do money-wise, though. She doesn't spend any money. I've never told her no.

I've never had the joke of going, my wife's spending all my money. It's her trying to stop me from spending and i don't think i spend that much but if i want to yeah big things if i want to big ticket items yes but i know that i want to get you're good you you're not like you know i've heard people are like oh he's constantly buying this or that. We always, as we have business managers, I asked them, and I was like, I always ask to go, am I crazy? Do I look crazy? Because they would see every comedian,

or ones in New York, Russell. Russell would work with every comedian, and everybody always worked with him. Every comic worked with him. He had Larry David at a point, because everybody was in New York, and they've just been there forever so they would do every all the comics taxes so we all went to this guy and so i would always ask him hey what am i because really where you're spending is expenses for uh touring so it's like you're you're it's all your expenses

because you're your own business so every fight every everything well that also keeps you occupied when you're touring yeah so when you're not touring that's when i get a little antsy yeah because then you're like looking at things and shop like thinking about things yeah and that's you're touring you're just spending money on business yeah this house was that yes oh that was that was intermixed with touring yeah but that was it started with being at home and being bored and like starting to look at stuff and being like what if we move and then yeah that's where because if i get bored that's why there's covid i've gone golf that's why i do golf so much your sister is the exact same way you guys are part apart like she gets bored something's being added on a pool's

coming a deck is coming a new room yeah that's my new joke that i do or i can see she goes she bought a boat and she's someone that can't afford a boat so she bought a boat and a jet ski because that's how that's those people they only they they really should not be buying a boat and they go all right but what if I do a jet ski too? And you're like, yeah, might as well, I guess. Might as well go have a lot of fun if you're going to lose it all. Might as well lose two things. What things have changed about Nate since you guys first got together

that you either love or gets on your nerves? I mean, Nate is a completely different person. I feel like then I first met, I felt like when I first met him, he was kind of simple and like doe eyed and like, you know, kind of an old hickory boy, like really just calm and good old boy. Yeah. Just like, but not in the good old boy sense, like shooting and hunting, but just like like simple just like a wholesome yes and it just like moving to new york and getting a career and getting older and getting wiser and he's just kind of coming to his own so imagine kind of like i don't know he's become a man like you know everyone changes i feel like but his has come really full circle.

He's just so wise and intelligent, way more than I ever gave him credit for at first. He knows how to use words and he talks. He can talk things out. If I have a problem with Harper that really needs a long, reasonable explanation, i call him because his family abby your mom not really your dad derrick you guys are all like big talkers if you get a text message it's a half a you know it's the whole phone long i could never even two sentences tops for me i'm like yes no you know and they're just good with their words they're very wise and very heartfelt so i feel like simple to like extremely complex

but i don't think there's like a good or bad nope okay just very different yeah well you get a career you gotta yeah to want it to want it you gotta you just gotta change if you don't change you will not get it if you don't have the drive and the drive it's intense and yeah it's because i don't have that i'm pretty i'm very simple very calm very not complex just like this table yeah what was like what's one of the craziest things that we've done that you were like, I can't believe we're doing this? Because of comedy. The Paul Allen boat cruise.

That's one of the questions. Who asked it? I'll find it. That was crazy. And the New Year's Eve celebration I'll find it. Yeah. All right. That was crazy. And the New Year's Eve celebration with Mark Walter. Yeah. And Eric Stonestreet.

Yeah. Went to Fallon's Emmy after party. Oh, that was way crazy, too. Michael Bird. Actually, that was the first thing. Thank you. The Jimmy Fallon Grammy party. Was it a Grammy party? Yeah, Emmy party.

That was crazy. Emmy after party. Because we really, you, you didn't even feel kind of. I just met. You had just met. I just met Fal.

Yeah. And so I did, I did a show. And then we were going to, it was just when we first met, I did a show. And then we were going to try to create a sitcom. And then,

we went to the, we went to the Emmy after party. Because we got invited to his, you know, he was doing Late Night with Jimmy Fallon at the time. And so we got invited to his thing. And then. Everybody who's everybody was there. And so we just stood in the middle of the room. And we were kind of dancing and trying to. And, you know, he knew a couple of people.

You knew David Spade. Yeah, but barely. I don't know him like I know now, but I knew him. Yeah, I knew his opener. And so we kind of, he was like, oh yeah, all right, man. And then he kind of went on. So we just, but we sat in the center and just was like, you know, celebrity, celebrity, celebrity, everybody around us. And then we were dancing at the end and Eric Stonestreet was actually there.

And I high-fived him. I was like, oh my gosh, I high-fived Eric Stonestreet. It was just, that was pretty crazy. And then you guys went to the AFC Championship game in Kansas City with Eric Stonestreet, right? Yeah, that was crazy. Yeah, because I was excited. You knew the show, but you weren't as

into it at that point. At the beginning, Modern Family, we watched together. That's true, we did. I was on the show, so I was, yeah. But I high-fived him and I thought, oh God, that's so crazy. And who,

Bill Maher was dancing. Yeah, Bill Maher and then, I mean, Chris Martin and who's- Gwyneth Paltrow. Yeah, Gwyneth Paltrow were there.

Oh my gosh. Yeah, it was everybody. If I could name everybody that was there. Yeah, Joe Walsh's birthday party. Joe Walsh's birthday party, that was crazy. Yeah, so a lot birthday party. Joe Walsh's birthday party. That was crazy.

Yeah, so a lot. Yeah. A lot of stuff. Yeah. Dustin Clyde asks, it seems Nate golfs a lot, which is fantastic. How do I convince my wife

to let me golf more? They currently have three kids. What arrangement, if any, do you have around this time-consuming hobby? Probably got to get rid of two of those kids.

Get rid of two kids. Yeah, definitely not three kids. You need to get those kids into golf. Well, he says he takes them with him, but it's hard for him to improve, he said, with three kids out there. Yeah, you can't really golf. Not three.

I would find one. If you get one of them that really wants to do it, I would think that would do it. And to be fair, it's during COVID. And so generally, you golf during regular people's work hours. So, you know, nine to four or whatever, you know, actually not nine to four, but, you know, whatever time. So you're gone during the middle of the day, which is no problem, especially she's in school. I help you with this podcast and other stuff.

So I'm busy. So it's like you go to work and you come home so it's and we have one child I can easily pick up and drop off one child if we had two it might be a little more difficult with activities and stuff like that so people think she's crazy that for letting me golf as much people do think I'm crazy but their husbands go into an office and work all day so it's about the same thing his job is other hours of the day you know he doesn't start taking phone calls until four o'clock yeah so because la time yeah la time and then uh yeah so it's like you do that and then and then i do do it because the obsession especially during this time if I didn't have this, it would be.

It would be a problem. Yeah, I would be doing other. His mind just needs to be busy. Yeah. Yeah. So I'd be on to other things. Yeah. Like buying things or building things.

We'd be buying land. We would have an airplane. He would be taking flying lessons. So it would be something. Everyone would take flying lessons. Yeah. Another guy we met on the cruise. Who's that? The bass player for nirvana chris yeah he flies everywhere he flies got his own license himself flies himself he would start flying himself to every gigs i was like

so i was like well i could get my own pilot license and then just fly to these gigs my myself like why not do that he had him him full hook, line, and sinker. We were getting him playing. I was like, oh my gosh. Yeah. I was like, we're going to figure it out. Why not? I mean, I still would maybe do it.

Right now, I don't want to give up golf. My stepbrother flies, so I think we could lean on him to be a pilot. He's about to retire sometime. Yeah. That's a funny thing. Nate's running a little late. Hang on. There he is right there.

There he is right there. You start the show. Yeah. Let's go ahead and start it. He's coming. Yeah. That's a funny thing. Nate's running a little late. Hang on. There he is right there. There he is right there. You start the show. Yeah. Let's go ahead and start it. He's coming out on stage and you just land right in front of him. Yeah. Wind's just blowing.

People have a lot of questions about specific jokes and how real they were. When Nate said he peed in the bed, did you really say, I'm not sure if I married you or had you? No.

No. That I made up. Yeah. All right. That's the professional comedian. What's your version of the dog medicine story? I mean, the dog medicine story is probably the closest thing to reality.

That, I mean, that literally happened like that. Except the milk jug. That would be silly to to put all milk in a new one or if you do mix things you mix ketchup or mix i mean i worked in a restaurant for a long time yeah that's what laura doesn't use i don't use the bottoms of things. And I leave them because I know she's going to scrape out. I mean, to this day, I smear lotions, shampoos, if it's not all the way gone. I always have different lotions in my lotion bottle. I'll just have multiple lotions because if she can put other lotions in, shampoo, anything will just be mixing on top.

Nothing expires. Nothing can be wasted. No, I have, yeah, shampoo, anything. We'll just be mixing it on top. Nothing expires. Nothing can be wasted. No, I have, yeah, nothing expires. Definitely not dog medicine. And definitely not people medicine. They have a date for a reason. It's a suggestion. I know, but so it's got to expire at some point.

I don't think it does. So then what's the point of the suggestion? It's less effective. It's not expired. I don't think it does. So then what's the point of the suggestion? It's less effective. It's not expired. So it stops working. Less. But it's going to, if it can get less, how can it not get to zero? Got to wait.

Got to wait and see. It just keeps working for me. I know, but do you see what I mean? If it gets less. Well, we'll probably use it by the time it gets zero. No. But not like milk. No.

Food. I mean, eggs I could go over. Milk, no. Milk, definitely. I mean, if it has a smell, it's more like medicine and lotions and stuff like that. Milk's the one thing I'm skittish about.

If that, the date. I smell it. I don't know. Yeah, I don't know. I never smell milk unless it's... Side thought goes, did you smell it? Yeah, I smell it. What does milk smell like? Because I don't know. Milk smells like... Yeah, that's very true. I don't know. I never smell milk unless it's... Did you smell it? Yeah, I smelled it.

What does milk smell like? I don't know. Milk smells like... It's very true. You can't tell. Someone asked about Nate's pilot, his TV sitcom. Who would you pick as his TV wife or not as his wife? That one you had was really pretty.

That was... Was that weird, though, one, that one you had was really pretty. That was, was that weird though? Seeing someone playing you? It was so weird. Well, that was completely my fault. Well, my fault and your fault. So he said, why don't we just use our own names? Yeah. Yeah. Like, isn't that cute? Yeah. So the, the Katie Azleton was my wife. She was in the league and, uh, her husband came, Mark Duplus is her husband and her husband came. Mark Duplass is her husband. And her husband came to the show. And her husband was cool. Her husband's an actor. Yeah, they've been in acting their whole lives.

They're just, none of this is anything to them. And when we wrote this show, I did have everybody's name. We always talked about it. And Gerard Carmichael, who was producing on it, I think he used all their real names in his show. And he's like, it's fine. He thought it was very nice. My dad loved it. Oh, yeah was producing on it. I think he used all their real names in his show. And he's like, it's fine. And I thought it was very nice. And like a like a.

My dad loved it. Oh, yeah. He loved it. My dad loved it. He's a performer. I think my mom would go either way. And then Harper, I don't think I don't think Harper minded it. But she didn't.

She didn't put it together. And then it was weird. Yeah. Like, I didn't really realize it because he kind of talked me into it. This is where you have to really kind of be strong with Nate and trust your gut. I was like, I don't know. That doesn't sound good. Like you're going to look at a lady and call her me and it's going to be on TV. And then when I saw the pilot recorded, I had just like a lump in my throat. I was like,

this is not good. You know, it just kind of hit me like you're looking at a person as if they're your wife and you're an actor you have to really sell it so and he's a way good actor like i can't believe that television show never got me but it was really good and i was just like oh no like he's looking at a beautiful woman she's like this show's gonna go oh I was like this is gonna be a nightmare yeah so but I was saying we would say Laura

instead of Laura I was like trying to find little things to go I was like change her name change her name to something yeah you're like naturally seems to be

into this scene the last scene she should be divorced in the show yeah well so the last I just start scratching out words the last scene

that we shot we had to keep doing over, and me and her kissed, me and Katie, the actors. So we kissed, and we kept having to redo it. So Laura's just sitting over there with her husband. And I mean, it's funny. It's like you would have got used to it. You would have eventually been like, it's normal.

Not with my name. It would have been weird. It would have been weird you would have just it would have been fine i would have had yeah when we have a helicopter on top of the house uh when you have this you give all problems you'd be telling your personal shopper that you go i just don't love it that much as she's putting your jacket on you and you go i know it's so crazy right and she's got her house that's just her closet. And then she walks to the real house. But they, and there's a lion in the living room.

I bet it. And then, yeah. And Harper's on two horses because Harper's obsessed with horses. And then they, so, but the last scene was the kissing. It was just like a, it wasn't a kissing scene. It was just like a, like a, yeah, quick, you know, a married couple. Which is how we kiss. Yeah.

And then she, and so we had to keep doing it over, like, I mean, over and over and over. And Laura, she said she almost just yelled, cut. I have never, I mean, it was in my, I had to like stop it from coming out. And she's watching on a screen. It would almost have been better if you were watching where it's like farther away. You've got a big TV. Yeah, in Nashville. Nick is sitting, Nick was sitting with you.

He beside me. Yeah. And Nick's like, it's all right. Nick was there for the pee in the bed story and for this story. Oh, yeah? Yeah, Nick was there. Oh, yeah, he was there. Nick was there.

That's when she first met him was the pee in the bed. He spent the night with us that night. Oh. He's the best. Okay. He wasn't involved in the pee in the bed. No. No. I was Oh, yeah? Yeah, Nick was there. Oh, yeah, he was there. That's when she first met him was the pee in the bed. He spent the night with us that night. Oh. He's the best. Okay, he wasn't involved in the pee in the bed. No.

No. I was like, what? No, he was always on the couch. He was always on the couch. Yeah. And so he was, Nick was there for, that is funny that Nick

was there for that and the other thing. But yeah, it was definitely weird but that was crazy to go see that where you were portrayed on TV kind of. Yeah, kind of.

But there was not a person I would select or not select. I mean, I would prefer an ugly person to play me. The opposite. Because you feel like he's not. The opposite of what most people want. Who wants like a hot nanny. If you pick a hot nanny, you're dumb. Right?

Yeah, we don't have a nanny. Yeah, that's why. I'd rather have some dude nanny. Yeah. It's going to be miserable. It doesn't know. we don't have a nanny. Yeah, that's why. I've got some dude nanny. It's going to be miserable. It doesn't know. I don't know. Brian's her new nanny. I'm your butler.

We're involved in a car accident. And that's why he's there. He's the butler. The very... Yeah, that's it. Kat Rockwell. Laura, many women who are married to an artist or entrepreneur typically endure tough times. This might be my wife that wrote this.

Many either encourage their spouse to get a real job, definitely in my life, or end up leaving them. What advice would you give women who are in relationships similar to yours at the beginning of the career? of the career? I think you have to decide before you get fully committed that you're willing to see it both directions, bad or good, and just know that you could do both. I know you can't know that.

I know things will happen. But I just think you need to, like, just do your own thing. Just be your own person. If you want a bunch of money, go make it. You can make all the money you want. You don't have to depend on him to make the money for you. You may have to have less children or like less time with your family.

You know, you may have to sacrifice to get what you want, but it always doesn't have to be on the man, I don't think. You know, if you want your life to be this way go make it he's your husband you know right is that weird is that crazy oh yeah don't yeah well if you're yeah if it's like you're looking at like a meal ticket don't look at it as a meal ticket go be your own ticket and then you can be like you if he makes it he makes it and if he doesn't you support him you she supported the whole beginning was you supporting me. Yeah.

You made more money than me for a long time. I enjoyed that. That was the first goal was just I want to make more money than her. You did it pretty quick. And then it wasn't that quick. Well, not quick. It was 10 years or something. But you squashed me now with my earnings.

Well, now we make a point. That's why you started getting some stuff. Now we get some stuff done around here. Now he's Alabama on Kentucky or something. I'm like, okay, I get it. I get it. Now we get it. That's all as a guy.

I don't know. I always think you need to make more money than your wife. If you want to do anything, you've got to make more money than her. I know. You're in trouble. Oh, if you want to like hold the like you just balance of power well it's like i can't i mean i've always done a lot whatever i've always done a lot of my own stuff but uh it's because i was doing my own yeah but there and then my parents

would give me 200 in my bank account and then they but there but you always want to make once you make more money i realized like oh, oh, that changes a lot. It does change. It changes a lot. The power changes and you have to be. It's not power. It's just being, I think as a guy, you do want to be the provider and then you want to go, I want to go do these things.

And I'm in comedy, so I'm having to go do, I'm having to do a lot more than normal. I'm not just clocking out at 5 p.m. and I'm home. It's like, hey hey i'm going to be gone for a while and i want to you know do this thing and i want to do this so you have to have you've got to make more so you can then when you say i want to do these things they don't go hey you're not i i'm i'm having to pay for all this from our job and you know we've always had a bank account together i mean you can't i don't think you can be ridiculous i mean if the person is not making a lot and spending a lot like that's not cool i mean everything has to be reciprocal and like reasonable i'm not saying like oh yeah you're just

you know you're just shelling out money for the guy for him to go do i think there would be like you know i'm going to eat why did eat why are you going out to eat this much I'm pretty tight so I was which I felt like was good it was good but you know I think there would be a point where you could see the person's not going to succeed maybe

when I got her where she wasn't just like a hawk at the credit card there's little things if I was just like, there's little things. I was like, if I could just get her to not just be on every, you know,

why'd you go to, you had a Krispy Kreme donuts. I used to bounce the credit, you know, like go through everyone with a check and like ride it out. No. And I just hated it. Cause it's like,

what was this? You went to, and I was also doing our taxes. So I would meal, I would do every line. don't know and i mean i was like i just need to get to where she's overwhelmed with what she's looking at and she can't detect how much but i would also say you did work you know until you until i got a good job so you did work so if the person can work and, you know, work nights, if you want to do

this job that pays nothing. So go work at Pizza Hut or deliver whatever. I don't think you should make no money and no effort. Then that would be a deal breaker. But if the person's motivated, then you should be supportive. Yeah. Was it more stressful when he, with him? I mean, it's a dumb question. Of course it was. But when he was him i mean it's a dumb question of course it was but when he was gone and once you had a child not so much just because it was it was one one is one is okay yeah i would say a little bit but you know i got to her daycare was on the way to my job and back and but that's the reason why he did say okay let, let's move back to Nashville. So that was giving on his part to say, like, I can see you need this, so I'll make the sacrifice, you know, having to go back to L.A.

and interview or, you know, do auditions and stuff. So he made the sacrifice for us to have a more enjoyable life. So that was good. It's really hard on you, too. I mean, I've been with you where we're leaving to go on the road when Harper was little, and she would just be crying, begging you not to leave. And it broke my heart. I can't imagine how hard it was for you.

She packed her suitcase that one time. That was the worst one. The worst one was, she was two and she goes, oh, okay, I'll go with you. And she got her little Disney and just was throwing nothing, you know, toys. Yeah. And she's like, oh. And I mean, I was like, and this is, you know, now they can come with oh and i mean i was like and this is you know now they can come with me a little bit because it's i work out a bus or it's just easier

and back then you're like i mean you're making 1500 1200 for the week and i'm paying for my whole flight and sometimes hotel and so you're i mean you might be making 600 and that's your money you make for the maybe that month it's like you're not making a ton of money and but i remember her uh yeah when she packed her suitcase i mean i would have almost quit comedy at that point or i would have just brought her and said all right well she's coming and i'll figure it out and she does really good she does very good it gets hard when i'm home for this like but she did good when i left this time but there she she sees dads home, you know, and she gets a little teary-eyed about that. So-and-so has their dad home. Yeah.

But, you know, you try to bounce it out. She gets in a good rhythm. Someone said, Tara, which brought up, because I was, I did, I wish we would have had another kid. And we just had a kid late and we were busy and it just didn't happen. But having one kid, the great thing is with that,

with how crazy my life is in our lives is I have a relationship with her that I would have had a split up between two kids. And so how much I'm gone. And that was like always if someone, I don't know, maybe someone wants to hear that. When I heard it, it made me, it was like something I needed to hear. And it made sense that it was like, yes, I get to have a wonderful relationship with Harper that is not split up. And I get to give her when I get when I'm home and my time is to her and her mom's time is to her. And so she gets our complete focus. And I'm not frazzled.

So I'm not like at my wits end when he comes home and throw, you know, throwing kids at him saying like, I've had enough, you know, I can manage one. It's, you know, that's very manageable for one person. Do a, is there one or two more? Here's one that I've never heard. So I'm curious to hear it from Roots Attack. Please tell the story of how the Little Mermaid soundtrack helped bring you and Nate together.

Okay. I want to know how this person knows this. Did you talk about this on a podcast or something? So this person is very in tune with Nate Bargetze somehow. Because this is the most. Maybe it's Katie Azleton. Shut up. I don't think who that was.

But it's like, who knows that? That's the most. I might have talked about it somewhere. Okay. Okay. So we were friends at Applebee's, and everybody was going out, because it's Applebee's, you go out after work.

And so we had gone out after work, just friends. You know, maybe like, oh, this guy's cute, whatever. But he put in the Little Mermaid soundtrack and told his friends to like, shush, shush, I'm listening to this song and I was like if anyone could put in the Little Mermaid soundtrack and shush a bunch of 20 year olds you know 20 plus year olds to be quiet while he sings it I thought that was like totally confident yeah and like you're your own person these people don't you know tell you what to do

i thought that was cool i mean not cool like cute it was so uncool that it was yeah it was so uncool that it was cool can you still sing it uh can you do it for us now no under the sea under no look at this stuff look at this stuff isn't it neat it just was you know for someone to collection complete to hold their own I love that Disney has such good music yeah and that probably

his little sister listened to it a million times and that just said that he would listen to something she listens to was cute you want to do one more

yeah do one more how many Krispy Kreme donuts could you eat in an hour Travis White wants to know that. I can eat. Laura's always saying, I married a horse that just doesn't ever quit eating. Laura eats so much.

Laura's skinny, and her metabolism is through the roof. If she doesn't eat, she's going to die. She tells me that. This is true. I'm going to die. I have a heart headache. I can't. I've got to eat this second. I get nauseous. I'm going to throw true. I'm going to die of a headache. I can't. I'm going to eat this second. Get nauseous.

I'm going to throw up. I'm going to. And so, Laura is just, I mean, honestly, it's just like a teenager that I'm feeding that just, I mean, just like eats. Her and Harper. I would say I got two horses at the house that just eat out of a trough and just never stop eating. I feel like I could, I mean, I can eat three in a sitting, three to four. You wouldn't eat it. You would be like, it's gross.

That's good. It wouldn't be because I don't think you're necessarily full. It would be, it'd become gross to you. But you're saying. I would say eight. But you can eat a lot. That's what he's saying. Eight's impressive.

Just in general, you can eat a lot. If it's tasty. I mean, I have. So will you do it with us when we do it? You can do eight? Sure. You're locked down for eight. I could do eight. a bad appetite. So will you do it with us when we do it? You can do eight? Sure. You're locked down for eight. I could do eight.

Glazed or chocolate? Oh, glazed. My mom texted me this week and said, just catching up with the podcast. Please do not do it, Krispy Kreme. Yes. I said the same thing. She'll be on it.

I'm with your mom. I was like, don't. Well, you just agreed to do it now. So now you're doing it. But you're a part of the podcast, so everybody's got to do it. We're having everybody do it. We're flying Mick in. He's going you're doing it. But you're a part of the podcast, so everybody's got to do it. We're having everybody do it. We're flying Mick in.

He's going to be doing it. Yeah, the Bigfoot expert. All right, so to wrap this one up, we're going to bring Harper in. She wanted to tell a little story. Is she right there? She's coming. Harper's going to tell come over here

and then she's going to tell a little story. Harper, let me ask you. How do you people want to know if you hear a joke about you

that I tell? This is Harper Bargetzi. She's how old are you? Eight years old. Yeah. So what do you think about what do you think about a joke do you think about a joke? And I tell a joke about you.

Um, do you like it? Uh, sure. You like it sometimes. If it's funny. If it's funny. If it's funny,

yeah. If it's funny. Some jokes you like, some maybe you don't like. Yeah. But are you fine with making jokes? I always tell you that I'll never make a joke if you don't want me to, right? Mm-hmm.

Yeah? Right? Yeah. And you like hearing it? Your friends, you've been on Netflix now. But my favorite joke is the one where you steal your friend's hamburger. Yes, the McDonald's is your favorite. And your friends, they see you on Netflix?

Do they ever say anything? No. No one ever knows? Well, they know, but they just don't care. They're just like, oh, hey. Is it weird that your dad's a comedian? No. It feels normal.

My dad's a magician. It feels normal. She's going to end this one. We're going to tell a joke. dad's a magician. It feels normal. So she's going to end this one. We're going to tell a joke. Or not a joke. She'll tell a story about something she did with Nick. Or some people call him Mick. Yeah, some people call him Mick. Yeah, you're a fan of the show.

Okay. Hello, folks. Hello, everyone. I am Harper, and I made a joke I want to tell you one time i said on stage a joke i went off and maybe a month or two later nick told me hey i did your joke today at zany's and i told him better you bet better i told him back you better not have or i'll call 922 the joke police she said 922 is the joke police. We actually have this on camera.

She made up. She goes, I'm going to call the joke police. She said the number for the joke police is 922. That's funny. I was not calling 911. I was calling 922. By the way, my dad was laughing because he thought it was so funny. Anyways, I hope Nick was joking.

Well, bye, folks. Bye, folks. Bye, folks. And that's it for us, folks. Bye, folks. Bye, folks. Thank you guys for listening, as always, to the Nate Land Podcast. You get to meet my family on this one, so I hope you enjoy it.

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