193: You Are Entitled to Nothing
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01:50Today's episode is inspired by a Nick Saban quote.I came across a few days ago.Maybe not quote, but a speech.Now, if you're unfamiliar with Nick Saban,he is a famous, notorious college football coach.And while he delivered the speech that I'm out to share with you,he has led teams to multiple championships.He is an aspirational leader, mentor, coach.
02:36And when he delivered this speech, he was at the University of Alabama, Crimson Tide.It was 2003 after practice leading into an upcoming game against Arkansas.And he had a media interview and he delivered this speech, which I believe is so powerful.And the title is the importance of nothing.And it goes, y'all ready for a lecture?We talk about the importance of nothing.You get up every day.You're entitled to nothing.
03:16Nobody owes you.Nothing.You could have talent,but if you don't have discipline and you don't execute,you don't focus, you get nothing.if you're complacent and not paying attention to detail, what does that get you?Nothing.So nothing is acceptable but your best.
03:38Everything is determined by what you do and you trying to be your best.So you can build on positive performance.That's the only thing.There should be nothing else but that for everybody.That's what we have to stay focused on.That's what we need to do.we need to not accept anything but our best in terms of what we're preparing to do.The importance of nothing.
04:11As I heard that speech, it really resonated with me.Because the importance of nothing is all about entitlement.We are entitled to nothing.Grateful for everything we have, but entitled to nothing.I believe we have been uniquely and individually gifted with a set of talents.Each one of us.No talents better than the other.And I share that with you from a Christian lens, a faith-based lens.
04:54For myself, someone who believes in God and a follower of Jesus Christ,I believe that God has gifted each one of us.with a set of unique talents, skills, abilities.And it is our responsibility to put forth the effort,the work, and the processes to put those talents into action,to see what those talents have the potential to become.We have been given the ability.we haven't been given the action.
05:38We have to make the decision.We have the free will to take action on the talents we have been given.We can either put our talents to work or allow them to waste.I've heard someone say once before.I can't remember where I heard it.But they said that the fear they have in life is that someday they die.and they are met by this individual.That individual is who they could have become.
06:19And they meet this person who has accomplished more,who was a better friend, who was a better husband,who was a better father,who built these things, who put their talents to work,the talents they had been gifted.And when they die, they meet the person they could have been,the person they could have become,but they didn't because they allowed their talents to go to waste.
06:49Nick Saban says there are two pains in life.There is the pain of discipline and the pain of disappointment.If you can handle the pain of discipline,then you'll never have to deal with a pain of disappointment.Let that sit in for a second.Life's hard.Regardless.We are not guaranteed and easy.
07:16life and I can promise you no matter what you do you will not have an easy life.We're going to go through challenge.We're going to go through turmoil, hardship, death, disease, destruction, all of thosethings.We're going to experience that at some point in our life, probably not just once but multipletimes. So we get to make the decision, what hard do we want to embrace and invite? What paindo we want to accept? The pain of discipline, where we put in the work, or the pain of disappointment,where we let it all go to waste. But we've all been uniquely and individually gifted with a set
08:12of talents. It is our responsibility, though, to take action on those talents. The importance ofnothing. We are entitled to nothing. Alex Ramosey. If you're not familiar with Alex Ramose,he is an entrepreneur, a very successful entrepreneur. He's very well spoken. I listen to hispodcast and his interviews. And I always take away a lot of really solid inspiration.advice, and when he speaks, he's very intentional and deliberate with what he says.To quote Alex Formosie, hard work is a requirement for success, but not a guarantee of it.People who achieve all worked hard, but not all who work hard achieve.You have to get better.
09:24You see, what separates the best from everyone else is their commitment to continuous learningand treating progress as a permanent lifelong loop rather than a finite destination.Effort does not guarantee success and it never will.That's the harsh reality that we have to accept.Just because you commit to the thing and you put in the work and you show up day,day in and day out, day in and day out. And you work your butt off and you're exhausted.And then at the end of it, if you have nothing to show for, it didn't work, you didn't win,you didn't succeed, you didn't achieve or accomplish the thing that you set out to do and earn.
10:19If it didn't work out, that's just part of the process. That's part of life.It's hard to accept for a lot of people, but effort, hard work.does not equate to success.It increases and improves your probability of success 100%,but it doesn't guarantee it.We have to accept that as we pursue anything.You know, an example for me,early learnings entitled to nothing,
10:58grateful for everything.When I launched my business,when I started BPN in 2012,And I took out the loan and I purchased the inventory and I build a website and I designedt-shirts with a friend.I dieted down and lost 25 pounds to do a photo shoot to promote the launch of our supplements,our products.I put in all the work for weeks and months leading up to the day where I made the website
11:34live, pressed go.And when that moment cameAnd we went liveProduct was on the websiteAvailable for purchaseYou know how many people showed up and bought things?No oneNot one person
11:56And that wasThat was a moment of truth for meWhere I realizedAnd I was humbledOh just because you put in the worldwork. Just because you make the decision to build something, to start something, to pursue a mission,doesn't mean it's going to work out. Nothing is guaranteed. Entrepreneurship, building a businessover these last 14 plus years at this point, I've been humbled every single year, multiple
12:39times a year. It's the harsh for reality. There have been moments of truth that have proved to methat no matter how hard I work, no matter how much effort and intention I have, success is notguaranteed. Like I said, it improves and increases your chances and probability of success,absolutely. But it's not guaranteed. There's this theory. There's this theory.which I believe isit's a death trapit's called the just world theoryand it refers to our belief
13:25that the world is fairand consequentlythat the moral standings of our actionswill determine our outcomesthis viewpointcauses us to believe that those who do goodwill be rewardedand those who exhibit dishonest behaviors
13:42will be punishedthe just world theory.It is built off this foundation that if you are,if you're a good person,the world will take care of you.If you're a bad person,karma will take care of you.If you're dishonest,
14:03if you're mean, you're angry,you're greedy,you're violent,that your life,your success,it will fall apart.It will self-destruct.And if you're nice, you're kind, you hold doors for people, you are well-mannered and
14:27intention that the world will reward you.And it just doesn't work that way.The just world theory is wrong.Something else that Hermosie talks about is that we as people, and this plays off ofthe just world theory, that we as people want to be rewarded for our intention.and not our outputs.This is a behavior,a perspective of entitlement.
15:08If we have good intentionsthat we should be rewarded,we should achieve,we should get the thing.Well, I meant well.I meant well, so I should win.I should accomplish.I should achieve the thing.
15:27There's a difference between,intentions as Hermosy talks about and outputs.I heard him breaking this down on an interview with Chris Williamson.Chris Williamson hosts the Modern Wisdom podcast.It was one of his most recent interviews with Hermosie.And I've listened to this episode twice so far because it was really good.And Alex talks about fostering and building relationships with people, especially in business.and evaluating those relationships
16:05based off of outputs as opposed to intentions.Someone can mean well.Someone can have honest intentions.But the outputs are the determining factorof what they end up doing with the work.We are evaluated on our outputs, what we produce.not our intentions.One of the examples I used in the episode that I was listening to
16:42was someone who isdriving irresponsiblyand they're on their cell phone drivingand they end up hitting somebody and killing them.If we were to evaluateand judge that person based off their intentions,they didn't mean to hit someone and kill them.They was looking down at their phone for a second
17:10to respond to a text message.They were well-intentioned.During that drive they were on,maybe heading home from work.But what ended up happening,the output is how we have to judgeand evaluate their actions.We are evaluated based off of our outputs,
17:30what happens, not our intentions.As I've been listening to more of Nick Saban's content lately,I find that there's a lot of similarities betweenNick Sabins, what he calls the process.The process is a framework, a leadership framework he hascreated and coined and learned based off buildingchampionship teams and excellent players.There's a similarity between Nick Sabin's process
18:10and James Clear, who I've recently talked about,James Clear, he's an author, the author of Atomic Habits,which both books you should read,Atomic Habits and The Process.But they're similar,where they both don't focus on long-term goals.They focus on the day-to-day systems, routines, habits,processes that we put in place that get us to where we want to go.
18:41James Clear says,a goal first mentality continually delays joy.A goal first mentality.This might flip what a lot of you guys focus on on its head.We're told and we're preached over and over and over again.Set goals.Set goals. Set goals.Set these big, hairy, audacious goals, be hags.
19:13Goals are important.But a goal first mentality continually delay.Lays Joy as Clear says.It operates on the assumption that once I reach my goal,then I'll be happy.So we rush the finish line in hope of achieving happiness.But the daily process and habits should be the focus.Joy should be found in the practice,
19:35not just the result.If we have a goal-first mentality,we assume that just by putting in the work,we will get to that goal.It is an entitlement.Clear says that goals are good for setting the direction,but systems are best for making progress.Goals are about the results you want to achieve.
20:10Systems are about the processes that lead to those results.Both James Clear and Nick Sabin,both amazing in what they do.Two different areas and focuses of work.James Clear, entrepreneur, speaker, author, highly influential.Nick Saban, coach, highly influential.They're trying to inspire in different ways, but also similar at the same time.Sabin talks about how he doesn't focus on winning the game.
21:00He doesn't focus on championships.he focuses on the individual play, and that's it.Win the play, and then win the next play, and then win the next play,and before you know, you win the game.And you do that over and over and over again,and you win enough games, you win a championship.Clearst is the same thing.Don't just focus on the goal.
21:30Focus on the daily habits, systems, and routines that get you towardsthat goal.You might be hearing and listening to this thinking it's the same thing.Like, what do we talk about?It's not the same thing.It's not when we break it down to these microscopic actions of execution from playto play, from system and habit to routine on a daily basis over and over and over againand being originally consistent with that.
22:03that gets you to where you want to be.One of the things I heard Saban talking aboutwas how whether you win or lose,you succeed or fail,you wake up that next morning,alarm clock goes off,same time as it normally does,and you get back to work.
22:30He talked about winning championships,and you win the championship,they hand you a trophy,you look at that trophy,you admire it,you hand it back and you get back to work to win another championship.You get back to the process.The most successful people, they are continuously successful.
23:01They don't just win once.They win over and over and over again.You can look at entrepreneurs.You can look at world leaders.You can look at athletes.The reason these people keep winning is not luck.It's not by chance.is because they have a system in a process
23:18that shows up every single day.They know that their inputswill determine the outputsand the outputs aren't guaranteed.They are not guaranteed any type of success.Just because you win oncedoesn't mean you are guaranteed another win,another achievement.
23:40You have to work just as hard,if not harder, to achieve the second win.another championship, another big business transaction in sale. Look at the most highly successfulpeople. They've built multiple businesses. They've played on multiple different teams and won multipledifferent championships. Their success is not by chance because they've accepted the responsibilitythat they aren't entitled to anything. Their inputs determine the outputs. Why are you notwhere you want to be.Why are we not where we want to be?
24:27We often think it's because of what we are not doing.What do I have to add to my life?That's going to help me get to where I want to be.What am I not doing?That's holding me back.But I believe the reality is it's likely not what we are not doing,but it's because of what we are doing.That's holding us back.
24:53from getting to where we want to be.We want to say we want to achieve Xor we want to be this type of personthat does this type of thing.And you sit there and you audit your life,it's like, what do I have to do?What do I have to add to get there?I don't think it's an equation of addition.
25:16It's an equation of subtraction.What do we have to stop doing?What do we have to take awaythat's going to allow meto get to where I want to be,to achieve the things I say,I want to achieve.There's an equation that I've recently heard that I love.
25:33It's at performance.And you can exchange performance as achievement or outputs equals potential minus interferences.What are the interferences that we have in our life?The addictions, the vices, the bad habits that are holding us back.Those are the things that we have to identify.this is what I'm doing that I have to remove, subtract to get to where I want to be.We all have interferences, everyone.We all have vices.
26:15It might be a routine and a habit you're doing on a daily basis that isn't inherently bad,but it's not serving you ending longer.But you keep doing it because you've been doing it for so long that it's,It's like second nature.But if that routine and habit isn't serving you anymore,it might have diminishing returns that you have to stop doing and eliminate.And interference might be an addiction that you have to food,to alcohol, to smoking, to video games.
26:56What is that thing?What is that interference that is holding your potential back from performing,from achieving?Steph recently was gifted this book.I haven't read through the entire thing yet, but I've skimmed it.And she speaks very highly of it.It's called Change Your Words, Change Your Life by Dustin Barker.And the front of the book has a piece of scripture on it.
27:27Proverbs chapter 18, verse 21.The power of life and death is in the tongue.and that reminds me of something Chad Wright once told me.He said, your tongue is your rudder.The power of life and death is in the tongue,and your tongue is your rudder.Change your words, change your life, says,many of the problems we face in life
28:01are caused by the words that come out of our own mouth.Our words are the steering wheel of lifethat contain the power of life and death.what's potentially holding you back from achieving the things you say you want to achieveare your words.When you say things internally or you speak them into existence,your tongue is your rudder.The things that we say about our ability,
28:35the things we say about our environment,the things we say about our family,the things we say about our work,the things that we say about ourselves are the rudder.They guide.They are the steering wheel of our life.If we tell ourselves we can't, we won't, we shouldn't, we never could,that will steer our life in that direction.
29:01We have to limit negative self-talk.Self-talk limits self-belief.I hear so many people, and I do it myself sometimes,speak words into existence that shape a lot.our environment. They shape our ability. They shape our perspective of ourselves and what we can do,but it also shapes the perspective of other people about what we think, what we believe,about ourselves, our ability, our lives as a whole. I think a lot of people fear failure,but at the same time they fear success and achievement. This goes back to
29:57to entitlement. The fear of failure and the fear of success and achievement, it's a personalresponsibility. I think people fear failure because they think what people think if I fail.I'm afraid to fail because of what people will say about me or what I'll say about myself.It paints a narrative. But even more importantly, I think a lot of people are fearful of successin achievement, and I've talked about this in a recent episode,but the more I've allowed it to marinate and sit on it,I believe it even more.I think people are afraid to do the thing, take the action,
30:49take responsibility.And when you lack responsibility, you own entitlement.People are afraid of success and achievement because it sets a new expectationand standard of yourself.And they ask themselves a question,how can I sustain this new expectation,and standard if I succeed.If I succeed, if I achieve, if I accomplish, if I win,
31:16now people expect me to keep succeeding in winning and achieving.Think of professional athletes.You know, someone becomes the MVP, most valuable player,or wins a championship, especially a quarterback who has led a team to a championship.That next season, there's a lot of pressure to do just as well.not better to win another championship.Because everything after that, if you don't achieve the same thing or greater, there's a fearthat you look like a failure.
32:00People were afraid to set a new standard for themselves, a new expectation, because if youdon't continuously meet that standard and expectation, the perspective from yourselfand others is that you are a failure.I would encourage you.don't be afraid to succeed and achieve.And that sounds ridiculous.And I'm sure a lot of people are listening to this thinking,dude,
32:29why would I be afraid to succeed and achieve?But if you really take inventory of your lifeand some of the decisions you've made,I bet you it has had some type of influence over your choices.I've met people before and I've had people who have worked for me before,who I've presented aan opportunity for a new job within the business.That was a promotion that came with a higher pay raise.
33:06It came with a greater title,more responsibility,but greater expectations.And they've turned down,I've had people turn down those opportunitiesbecause there's a fear of what if I don't meetthose new standards and expectations.In my current rule,
33:26I'm comfortable.and I look like an A player because I am an A player,but what if I fail in this next rule that comes with greater expectations andresponsibility? I don't want that.That's something that people experience and do on a daily basis all around the world.They turn down opportunities because they are afraid there's a fear to be held to a greater,higher standard and expectation.So they turn it down.
33:56And oftentimes they become resentful of the person who,takes that position because they had the courage to step up and to own it, to take on moreresponsibility. As I was doing research for this episode, I came across this concept called theLocus of Control. It talks about how entitlement is a lack of personal responsibility.And this concept, Locus of Control, was first introduced in 1954.by psychologist Julian Rodder.The locus of control describes how much you believe you control the events in your life.People with an internal locus of control believe their own actions drive their outcomes.
34:55But those with an external locus of control attribute outcomes to luck, fate, and or other people instead.So if you have an internal locus of control, attribute outcomes of luck,control. You take personal responsibility for the things that you achieve or fail to achieve.But if you have an external locus of control, you don't take personal responsibility.You put the blame on someone else, luck, and or fate. Having a characteristic of entitlement,being an entitled individual is driven by a lack of personal responsibility.a lack of internal locus of control.Sigmund Freud says,
35:52most people do not really want freedombecause freedom involves responsibilityand most people are frightened of responsibility.That's a truth.Entitled people are frightenedof personal responsibility,an internal locus of control.ownership, owning the outputs, the outcomes of what they achieve or fail to achieve, the win or the
36:30loss. So here's some tactical takeaways. This is the entitlement detox. Three parts. Audit,shift, respond. I think what we have to do is audit our actions, our lives, our choices,our perspectives, our mindset. What do we expect? What do we expect?from our life right now.Our work, our relationships,when we show up on a daily basis,what do we just expect that's going to happen on its own?What am I entitled to?
37:13What do we feel like we are owed?This audit is tough becausemany people,most people, lack this level of self-awarenessto sit with yourself, maybe a friend, and audit your life.And be very honest with yourself.What do I feel like I'm owed?Like, where do I feel in my life that I deserve?
37:44I'm entitled to an outcome or an output without my inputs being considered for those outputs.What do I feel like I'm owed in life?We're not owed anything.We earn everything.But in order to detox your entitlement, you have to be able to audit and have real honest, humbleconversations with yourself or have a peer that you trust to sit down with you and help you audit your life.Part two is shift from outcome-based thinking to process-based thinking.Just like James Clear and Nick Saban talk about.
38:40It's not the outcome.It's not the championship game.It's not the goal that is the main focus.It is the systems, the processes, the routines, the habits that we put into practice that get us to where we want to be.And it's shifting our locus of control from external to internal.And then we respond.just like Saban talks aboutwe have to handle success
39:14and failure the same waywhether you experiencea big win or a big lossyou go back to the processthe next dayif you had a really bad dayso whatit happens
39:30you got really bad newsI'm sorryit's toughbut we have tocontinue on the processthe next dayit's going to make it strongerit's going to improve our resilience,
39:48it's going to get us to where we want to be.Whether you had a big win or a big loss,you go back to the process the next day,the next morning.If you were going to wake up at 5 a.m.,wake up at 5 a.m.If you were going to run 10 miles, run 10 miles.Stick to the process.
40:10Handle success and failure the same way.Take responsibility.You must take 100% responsibility.for whatever you're experiencing.I heard Tony Robbins say,you don't have to take 100% responsibilityof what happens to you,but you have to take responsibility
40:31of how you experience it.Bad things happen to us.Bad things happen to a lot of people.They get hurt.They get sick.And it's not necessarily your responsibilityto own that.There are some very unfortunate circumstances that happen that aren't your fault, but you have to take 100% responsibility of how you experience it, your perspective, the way that you respond.
41:16And the last part of responding is embracing uncertainty.Going back to that podcast, I was referencing between Chris Williamson and Alex Formosie.Chris asked AlexWhat's something thatHe wants his sonTo learn from himAs he gets olderAnd Alex said courage
41:45And Chris askedHow would you describeAnd defying courageAnd I remember what Alex said exactlyWord for wordBut I'll boil it down toIt was all about being able tomanage
42:06and handle high levels of uncertainty.Tony Robbins also talks about this,and what he calls the hero's call.We have to embrace uncertainty.If you live a life of wanting and expecting certainty,those expectations come from a lack of personal responsibility,ultimately entitlement.Embracing uncertainty,
42:39it's taking what you are used toand getting out of your comfort zone and entering a world of uncertainty.There is no growth, none, in certainty.There is only growth in uncertainty.The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertaintyyou can comfortably live with.You see, certainty is a basic human survival need.Uncertainty unlocks growth.
43:09uncertainty is courage.And courage is one of the most powerful traitsyou can learn to embrace and harness.Courage requires really hard decisions.It requires personal responsibility.And it spits in the face of entitlement.Expecting.So those are some thoughts on my mind lately.
43:44All about entitlement.and inspired by Nick Sabin's speech,The Importance of Nothing.Hope you guys enjoyed this one.Love you guys.And as always, go on one.
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