The Nikki Glaser Podcast - #218 An Odd Duck (Fanthrax)

Episode Date: May 13, 2022

Nikki and Andrew love a routine. Nikki loves that she is running again and realized that she needs her life managed in quadrants. Andrew loves his new workouts and the prospect of getting back down on the floor. Nikki has a message of recovery before they get into some Fanthrax. Besties share messages about keeping a friend in check during Germany's America's Next Top Model, a pussy finger, a friendship break up and notes filled with love from the road.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I'm Nikki Glaser, it is Thursday I am in St. Louis with Andrew And I have both dogs on my lap. Andrew has both our little stuffed animals on his lap so that he doesn't feel alone. And it's funny that the hedgehog and the llama are Luigi and Marion. Okay, well, Marion is going over underneath the table now. Well, I would say that I look— Isn't that what animals do to go die?

Why are you underneath the table? She's getting shade in our room. She's so hot. I just took her for a walk And she just lays Like we went into Starbucks She just lays flat on the ground To get that cool ground

Yeah She's so overheated It's so goddamn hot outside Think about how many fucking times She has to step too Just to get there I know she has so many more steps She's like a centipede

Yeah but you're right You're a little centipede aren't you And I pick her up Cause she gets so lazy on steps She's like a centipede Yeah but you're right You're the centipede aren't you And I pick her up Cause she gets so lazy on walks She's so fat right now What is she doing Look at She's going even deeper

Underneath the table What's under there She doesn't want to be on camera I don't know There's something about When dogs want to die They like go away Yeah come here Mary

And they go Oh her tail is wagging She's not dying No no no She doesn't jump up She has Don't You always gotta pick her up. Sorry. I saw

some video of this dog was too old to die. Or not too old to die. That sounds like a James Bond. Yeah, that actually is a pretty cool line. James Bond, too old to die. Is Sean Connery dead? Yes. Yeah.

Welcome to the rock. Is Sean Connery dead? Yes. Yeah. Is he? Welcome to the rock. I think he is. I think he died, I'm going to say, four years ago, five years ago. I found out Don McLean was still alive today. Really? Oh, yeah. He sent Taylor some flowers.

He's still alive. Sean Connery? Oh, no. No, no. I'm sorry. He died at age 90, October 20th. False alarm. October 20th what?

What year? 2020. Oh. So he wasn't too old to die. So four years ago in what it's felt like. So the dog just walked off into the woods and goes, I'm too old. I'm going to die. I know I'm going to die.

That's what animals do. That's crazy. That's crazy. Luigi thought, Luigi was really, really sick when I first got him once. i'm too old i'm gonna die i know i'm gonna die that's what they do that's crazy luigi thought luigi was really really sick when i first got him once and he just disappeared they don't want to like burden you and they want to be alone and that's when your animals go off and do something weird and they're like hiding under tables something they're hiding so that i don't know there's probably like they don't want to be bothered when they die they want their like i

don't know what it is but he went he would't want to be bothered when they die. They want their like, I don't know what it is, but he went up, he would not come out from under the stairs. Cause he's just going down there to die. And it was so sad when we looked up like what's going on with that. And they're like, no, that's what they do before they die.

And I was like, Oh, Luigi was dying. Oh my God. Yeah. You were a baby boy. He was so sick. It's,

he was so cute when he was sick. I wanted to like make him sick. I'm a little embarrassed that I'm dying. I'm just kidding. Yeah. They're like ashamed. I always felt that way about a subway if i die on the subway i would feel terrible can you say that too why just i don't know i think my last like would be embarrassing we're talking about like getting cremated and stuff and

oh yeah it's like i would literally donate my body to necrophiliacs because I don't care. Yeah. Or lay it out in the... I'm sure you have some listeners right now that are like, please die tomorrow. I mean, those people just want me dead. They don't want to fuck my dead body.

I mean, that's just YouTube commenters. What I wanted to say, though, I read on Reddit that... Reddit. A lot of of people this woman goes it was the saddest story gear up trigger warning for sad dog thing she was like my dog recently died and you know not

like they weren't even that old or anything but they were just having issues where they were like peeing in the house shitting in the house and like she was like I didn't know that that was a sign of like ill like yeah severe illness that my dog was like shutting body shut was shutting down i just thought the dog was being bad and so like i feel so bad reflecting on how i was like yelling at my dog the weeks leading up to his like diagnosis because i just thought he was being like a bad dog and i was like yelling at him because he, but he couldn't control it. And it's like, so if your pet is doing things that is like abnormal,

don't yell at them. Last night I got up to go to the bathroom. I walked, I always walk Mary and Luigi right before I go to bed. So like sometimes 1130 at night just for their last pee, because the idea of them holding and pee throughout the night, like makes me so sad. So they both went pee. And then in the middle of this morning at 5

a.m i went to my bathroom and i'm like god chris's shower last night is still you got water everywhere marion p everywhere a lot too and i was like marion just did that that's what i do when she pees even though how much piss a little dog like this god well they were playing so hard last night that they were drinking a lot they were playing so it was so freaking cute they were alive they really do lift each other's spirits yeah they do you know what lists their spirits is i don't know what this is if there's any vets listening why is luigi such a bummer when i'm home alone with him like he's always looks sad he always is looking at me disappointed he's never wanting to play with me he gets excited when i first come home after a while but then it's just like as soon as that is over he just goes to the couch and he looks at me like like he's almost like ashamed or sad and like

i go what's going on and he and he gets he like leans away from me because he's just so sad and the second chris or you or any friend comes over that he knows, he starts playing again. Like, not with us, but just, like, he gets active and starts, like, going to chew on a bone in the corner. Like, what is it? Maybe he gets more attention from you when he acts sad. No, there's no attention.

Like, there's no – he's not getting attention when a friend comes over. It's, like, it's not because he's getting attention from both of us. Like, I will just have a friend over. We will be sitting on the couch talking, and Luigi suddenly will be happy across the room chewing on a bone like, la, la, la. Like, why can't he be like that when we're alone? Think about yourself.

When you're with your mom, you're not like, yeah, whoa, just alone with her. You just sit in silence, and then cool uncle shows up. You're going to get more excited. That's the same kind of concept. i don't get what you're saying i i i would have just been happy like hanging with my mom i didn't like when uncle showed up or i don't want my mom's friend to show up i want more attention because now my mom's giving attention to this person yeah maybe so it it doesn't make sense to me maybe he just like he just likes having all the people he loves together in one place it's

almost like when chris isn't here or you're not here, he's worrying about you. But then when he's got you both here, two people who he knows he loves, he's just happy to have you. And so every time Chris is over, he's like, they are so cute. And I'm like, they are never like this when I'm alone. Luigi is a different animal when I'm with him. And then when someone else is around, he is just so, he's just happy,

he's chewing on bones. He won't touch a goddamn toy to save his life when I'm alone with him. He has bones everywhere. Fresh treats. I will give him treats. I'll give him pieces of like a fucking pigeon I just killed.

Maybe you're trying too hard. No, but the second someone comes over and I'm like, hey, and we're just talking on the couch not even paying attention to him, he goes and he picks up that bone and then he's like and he just chews in the corner by himself it's so weird here here's my theory my theory is when you're home alone with him he feels like okay i just have my mom here i'm doing my job to hold my post and then when someone else comes

he feels free especially if it's someone that he trusts okay well this person is taking care of my mom i'm gonna go do my little thing in the corner i like that my only thing that because i do think that in some ways that's true he is so not aware of me when i'm home it's not it's not like he's like worried about me he's he's mad it looks like he's mad at me constantly i'll look at him and then I look over at him and he'll just look back away. And I'll go, do you want some kisses and hugs? And he'll move away from me. Like, get away. He, like, hates it.

When we do the podcast, he fucking loves it. He loves. This is his comfort zone is two people he knows talking to another person on Zoom. No. Two people he knows having fun. He just feels secure when when there's family together i think i relate to that of like when everyone's taken care of you're maybe you're right noah like i know that these people are taken care of so i don't have to try anymore

well i mean when he gets to your parents house he perks up like a motherfucker gets real excited it's that's that i'm not confused about because that equals a new environment. Oh, I get to see people I haven't seen in a while. The initial, like Chris comes over, he's like,

all over Chris. I get all that. It's after Chris and I are just established. Hours later, he's chewing on bones. He's so happy. It has nothing to do with us.

It's not like he's playing with us. It's so weird. Mango does something similar. Like we'll hang out in the house, you know, and then when Brennana comes it's like a different cat yeah it's like who the fuck is this guy this guy's a good time have you been um how's how's it been being home from the road we have the weekend off you're going to a wedding coming up

um yeah i'm excited what's been the scoop this week we don't talk outside of the podcast how's life been oh we save it all for the pod listen if you're if that makes anyone sad out there don't how often do you talk to your best friend we talk to each other for an hour a day also we're together all weekend like we talk plenty yes we we probably talk more than any two people on earth almost you know so anyhow um it's good like things are good like i don't know i mean i'm i'm happy freaking i i like being home i like having a schedule now for some reason i'm getting older i like i could see myself as a morning person oh yeah this morning i worked out at 7 a.m i went to a class 7 a.m yeah and i loved it then i had all morning, I was just doing little things

that I necessarily wouldn't do. They don't fucking, I don't overthink it. I just get shit done. I love when I wake up early in the morning and you get something done and then you've accomplished so much by 11. You're just like,

my day is done and now there's no burden of like, I gotta get that thing done. It takes me a while though to get back into that. I'm supposed to be writing my book proposal against this week and I'm like I can't I I did I did a show on Sunday night Monday I have to do a podcast and I have to do all this I didn't have a day off I know I don't have days off and so I said it last week but I mean I I can't get I was

supposed to start my book proposal this week again and start working on it I cannot do it I've been sleeping I've been pushing the podcast till 11 30 because i'm like i i need to stay in bed like i just can't get up and it's um but when i'm when i am home long enough where i can get in that routine god it feels good it takes me like three or four days to get back in that kind of routine i've been running again and it's awesome i really feel like feel like if we didn't go on the road, I'd be like a 6 a.m. person. For me, it's not the road on the weekend.

It's the weekdays being filled with bullshit. Like the press stuff has been killing me. Like I feel like Monday to Thursday, Friday, Sunday to Thursday or Monday to Friday,

that's a good enough chunk where I'm like, okay, I can always count on that to do the same thing. Weekends, I can be traveling and it's like a weekend. If I have Monday to Friday where I'm just doing one podcast a day or working on my book proposal,

that leaves me enough space to create to do stuff. It's just like I just can't get a break. It's just constant. I have to have a phone call with a woman after this about I signed up to do this thing that I thought would be really fun because I thought I would have time to do it and it's like I don't have any time I have to learn a tiktok dance this NBC show that I have to film myself doing I thought I could film myself on the phone they just sent an entire camera case that I have to set up and learn this tiktok dance

i haven't learned the dance yet i invited my sister over because i was like oh it'd be fun for us both we're both bad at dancing but we like to learn dances to learn it and i love i don't care about being a bad dancer on tv anymore so i gladly was like i'll do this they're not paying me that much but i'm like i got now i gotta learn this dance i thought it was gonna be like three weeks from now and they're like no we need it by Friday, 8am. So it's Wednesday right now, by the way, we're filming this.

I have to learn a dance in two days. That is not that easy. And you got to learn how to set up a camera. Yeah. I love that. They're making you the director. They're like, hold the boom.

Can you hold the boom? And can you get yourself better than flying to LA? As soon as they go, you can do this remotely. I was like, yeah. And they said, shoot it in high def. And I'm like, Oh, oh that means on your phone I think they changed their mind after the

initial pitch and now they're like but I did get I'm not giving back the suitcase they just sent me they sent me a suitcase and it's a gorgeous suitcase so I'm like I'm keeping that it's probably like a target one but still fucking nice three months you're gonna be like yeah we're gonna need that back man but I've loved getting back in um a routine. Yeah. I've been running again. And you know what? Where do you run? In the park? Yeah.

I just do the same route every day. I probably got to switch it up because I'm going to get murdered. But I've been bringing my tiger lady with me. It's my self-defense tool. So come at me. You're going to get scratched pretty hard. Just warning you. It's going to be pretty annoying.

You can still rape me, but your back's going to get scratched up. You're going to look like you were. Fucking me first. Yeah. You're going to look like you were. Fucking me first. Yeah. You're going to look like I liked it at first. Yeah, but it's been fucking hot here. I mean, we left on Friday, last Friday. It was 40 degrees.

It was 40 degrees. We came back on Sunday. Forecast for Monday, 94 degrees. So I've been running, and I love running in extreme heat I love it there's something about it's like because I don't run for like burning calories anymore I run for like the cleanse of it like my soul and like just sweating a lot and like feeling like oh like I love the feeling that I get on a run. Four miles is perfect for me because the first mile I'm like, okay, this is easy. One mile. And then the second mile I'm like, it's a little bit harder. Third mile, I want to fucking die and I want to give up,

but I keep going because I like the feeling of, Louis CK used to say he'd run five miles a day because there's always a part in five miles where he wanted to give up and you have to persevere past everything in your body saying, please stop. Which there's a point where if you're having an injury, please stop.

It's like writing a movie in those middle pages that are like, you just got to get through them to get to. Writing a movie? Yeah. Middle pages? If you write a movie, it's like 120 pages.

Oh, right. I thought you said watching a movie. I'm like, wait. Yeah, the middle. Reading a movie, it's like 120 pages. I thought you said watching a movie. I'm like, wait. Yeah, the middle. Reading a movie. Yeah. Subtitles. You call them pages.

Yeah. Anyhow, but yeah. The middle is the hard part. But man, when that voice on my app goes one mile left, it's perfect. There's something about things in quadrants for me. Four pieces. First piece is easy. Second piece, a little hard. hard third piece i want to die if there was two more pieces as it was fifths it would be a little bit

more insurmountable there's something about the last fourth that is so easy because it's almost done and i just it feels like a it's i it takes me 50 40 36 to 50 minutes to do this, depending on how fast I'm going. And lately, because I just don't care about the time, I'm not trying to beat a time, and I'm just trying to kind of just listen to a podcast, go through my thoughts, I've been running like 10, 50 miles.

I mean, I used to be up to 7.30, and now I'm like no this is just about shuffling along and it's just so it's so nice and you instantly feel better my mind is so much clearer I feel healthy like I don't there's no part of me anymore that goes oh no I can eat a lot tonight or like oh good I'm not gonna be there's no it used to always be motivated by i don't want to be fat or like now i can eat or now i deserve something on the other side of this and instead now it's just like a treat that i get to go run i'm like excited that's how i feel about that class you know it's interesting like it's it's f45 it's called and i've talked about how

it's like a little culty like Like today was David Beckham day. Like it's his workout. He comes up on the screen. Oh, so he's getting paid millions of dollars. Yeah, it's so funny too. He like stands on his good side the whole time. He's not stupid. He's like, hey, what's up, guys?

It's like it's just his left side of his – it's very Mariah Carey. Ariana Grande too. And I worked with her. But the F stands for functional and obviously i joke that i can't get on the floor and stuff like that and i've only been doing this two weeks but a lot of its movement that you just don't do when you get older you just you just work out you either run or you you lift like this this is like shit you would do like if you were training for soccer back in the i mean hence

david but like like today there were like uh box jumps and this box was like four feet i'm like i'm not getting like i don't know in my mind as a 42 year old man i go if you asked me literally two weeks ago could you get up on the i go no i can. And literally in two weeks. You're D42, dysfunctional 42. Yeah, yeah, D42. Diabetes 42. I'm fucking jumping on this box and shit. And I'm like, it's like blowing my mind how quick you can change your brain. It's so mental. And your body to fucking to be like, no, age is, I know it's just enough.

You can literally still move your body like really well if you could just get over the hump in two weeks yeah the hump is a stack of boxes david beck that are sponsored by david beck his left side no it's that's a good point and i always reference this so i'm sorry i've said this a million times on the podcast but it just boggles my fucking mind the story that i heard on radio lab that podcast about a woman who was an ultra marathon runner yes that used to run marathons and half marathons. She was just casually a marathon runner, not good at all. She had a brain injury where a part of her brain, short-term memories, she has no short-term memory anymore. Her brain is constantly restarting. She can remember things long-term, like where she went to high school friends from but like anything short term it's not it's constantly restarting and she

could suddenly overnight do these 150 mile races when she was really just a you know a 5k or it was like a 10k like she wasn't doing anything like any anywhere close to this all that changed for her was that she was looking at these races. She was constantly starting over on these races. So if you constantly look at your life as instead of going, this bike ride I have to do is 20 miles. If you just take it one mile at a time

and start over, you can do more than you've ever thought you could do. And I think that that's something that I, even for this book, as soon as the woman helping me was like let's not look at this as like a 40 page proposal let's take it one page at a time one little thing there's always tiny steps you can do and i think that that's that's just it's so mental because the way we look at these things we go i can't like i was talking about two days ago about the whatever you're dealing with binge

eating uh smoking cigarettes drinking this idea of like it's hard this is gonna be this recovery is so hard quitting drinking so hard if you keep telling yourself that it's you're not gonna you're giving yourself excuses not to give to to give up along the way. If you treat it like, well, actually, I just have to be sober this next minute, then this next minute. I always tell people that are in my eating disorder recovery that are like,

I'm never going to get to binge again. That's the only thing I ever want to do. I'm not saying that. You just don't binge for the next five minutes and then start over and say, you can binge in five minutes. See how it feels after five minutes, not doing it. Let's go to break and see if you can make it through this commercial break without binging.

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Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. We're back. I know this is turning into like an eating disorder health podcast, but I feel like as I've been listening to podcasts that have helped me overcome stuff if i have a message of recovery that can get through with a comedy like self-care kind of the the conversational podcast we have why not put that in there because you know we can have it you can have it all you i don't, I'm doing this recovery talk tonight, which was last night. It happened on Facebook. It's,

if you want to check it out, it's the Addiction Center. Oh, fuck. It's American Addiction Center's Facebook page. I did it at Facebook Live about my recovery journey, in quotations, because to me,

I just, I, you know, once I got sober from alcohol, I went to pot, and then once the pot was taken away, I went to bulimia, and then I went from got sober from alcohol I went to pot and then once the pot was taken away I went to bulimia and then I went from bulimia I went to been starving myself like I'm always and then once I was starving my couldn't starve myself anymore I went back to pot like I'm always replacing it and even now I'm like micro dosing a little bit and like there's always a way I'm

I'm replacing so I'm a little bit reluctant to be like i'm recovered and i can't wait to share my steps with you but i i do feel um i'm very uh grateful that i get to like talk about it and i know it does help people because first of all it's not fucking perfect and i and i posted about it and rachel feinstein wrote to me i was like so good that you're doing this and i'm like i feel like a fraud because i'm like i just took like a microdose of mushrooms which i don't feel but i do like it i know it helps me there's something it's not like i'm like getting fucked up or i'm like whoa the sun it's like so subtle i don't feel it but i'm still reaching to something that is not me to like help me and i'm on antidepressants actually i'm not anymore but i'm on like I I take things to make me feel better sometimes I do a kombucha because I'm like I just

want to feel something different caffeine I'm fucking addicted to but I feel like as I always tell people that are dealing with addiction stuff is like there's always going to be something you supplement it with whether it's crying whether it's like feeling your feelings like all these uncomfortable things but if it's the less of the if it's lesser bad to yourself for me smoking pot is less evil than drinking for me some people might be the other way around uh to me bulimia for a while was less bad than drinking then that got too bad because i was getting mouth sores and like my sore throat was sore and i was tired of cleaning toilets okay so then now i'm going to switch to this other thing like i'm always and that's that's okay well

the addiction is switching like that's an addiction in itself of i don't think that you don't think no i think that what do you think that is well i i know that i'm dealing with feel feelings of discomfort when i want to reach for the food when i want to reach for the pot i just having an uncomfortable feeling and i want to feel something else. Even if I reach for music to go like, I just don't want to think right now. I want to put on music. Like it's something to kill the thoughts

that I'm having because I'm uncomfortable with them. And that's okay. Like it's okay to have, it's okay to have addictions. You're not a bad, there's nothing wrong with you. It's like we're constantly seeking

other things to distract us. It's, you know, I always say though wrong with you it's like we're constantly seeking other things to distract us it's you know i always say though if you're being like i can't believe a smoke pot i can't believe i drank so much i got wasted last night let's just say if you didn't get wasted you might have beat your children you might have kicked your dog you might have cut yourself these things are might be worse than what you did so maybe you were doing the best thing you could do. And that's okay. Yeah, I mean, it's hard. Does any of this resonate with you?

Yeah, for sure. I mean, I think the idea of having, I guess you could call them healthy addictions. Although, you know, any healthy addiction can become unhealthy depending on how you When your life becomes unmanageable yeah but you know um this class helps me tremendously in the sense of it gives me structure which then i could apply to my life and like i just feel like it's the first time i took a workout class because i've done crossfit i've done like other kind of things where it starts out like, oh, I'm into this. And then they go, you could do a little bit more weight than that.

You could do more. And then it becomes like man-upping kind of shit again. And it's like, come on, motherfucker. Or orange theory when your stats are on the board. Yes. Does this feel like that? No, it doesn't. But they do have stat stuff, but it's like for your own heart rate, like what you are

percentage-wise. And there's a little bit of like, on you could do you could do more in regards but it's not like meatheaded like i've been around like a lot of me remember when you fell off the treadmill because you were trying to run fast in front of brenna does it feel like was that feeling that you got before you started sprinting that time where you got injured do you feel that ever now no i don't that's good i don't even though i did jump as high as i could but like the idea like no it doesn't feel like there was whatever it was about getting past a fear in that way instead of trying to prove something to someone like now i'm overcoming

a fear of like i can't jump this as opposed to like if i jump this then everyone will like me yeah yeah it was honestly it was it's just like a way to like push yourself without that like fucking like you could do you could do more weight and then that's how you get hurt number one that's how like like the i like you don't do good form then you're not doing it correctly like there's so many reasons so like this is good because it pushes you without that like extra like just there's just something about like it sounds like what i'm trying that it's it's motivated of like no you can do this this isn't about like prove it you fucking pussy it's like what's stopping you from thinking that looks like a crazy amount but we know you can do it and it's not gonna hurt you

like yes trust that this is okay and that you are capable of this. It's conquering a fear as opposed to trying to be better than trying to prove yourself. When we conquer fears, I feel like even me signing up for this dance thing, when they asked me to do it, I'm having flashbacks of dancing with the stars. I'm having flashbacks of getting trashed on that fucking podcast about my Bob Saget song. Like I'm having all these fears of like if people see me do this dance,

which once I saw the dance, I'm like, well, this is not as cool as the Lizzo. Like in a minute, I'm gonna need a sentimental man or woman.

That's a really cool dance where she's like, this one is like, I feel the earth and the moon and the stars in the sky and I'm doing things like this and it's jazzy and i try and it's

like a little bit embarrassing but i was like honestly if i learn this dance i will feel so good about myself and i am scared of this so i'm saying yes to it because everything in me is going don't do this but i learned the hard way when i did the first pitch that that also scared me and again like dancing with the Stars I did it it did not go the way I wanted to I was humiliated no matter how much people say it wasn't that bad I personally was deeply humiliated by it and I was talking about it in therapy with Chris yesterday because that was a day that oh my god I was so fucked up that day so that day I was you know I did two days of press in New York,

or three days in a row that just broke me. I mean, I told you guys both like, if I do the podcast today, I'll start crying because I'm just so tired. I can't even, I can't do it. And I've only been that much exhausted from work in the past one time when I went to the Comedy Cellar in 2013 and I was trying to do standup and Nikki and Sarah Live and Ride All Day.

And one day I showed up at the cellar to do a set. And I was just like, I can't. Like, I didn't even know what was happening to me. It was truly like Lindsay Lohan hospitalized for exhaustion. So on the heels of that New York trip, I fly right home on Friday. After Thursday night, I'm on Watch What Happens Live. I go out with Kiernan Shipka and those friends. have like a good night but it's still like a late night I packed my flight is at fucking five in the I get up picked up at five in the morning from the hotel

I land I have a you know have to do the podcast have an hour sleep and then go to this Cardinals day game which I'm embarrassed by aka like the way noah is when she has a party thrown for any kind of attention that she didn't feel like she earned like is that right noah like having your birthday party bar mitzvah that kind of thing like yeah a wedding you're just like what i didn't like get a degree i just got someone to love me like i don't need all the attention yeah i just don't like the spotlight yeah i related I related to you on that Nikki Glaser day, but I couldn't say that because it was such a gift that was being given to me and people worked so hard. It was for me to be anything like,

I don't want to do this. Like, this is embarrassing, would be really hurtful to the people that put so much effort into this. And prior to, I'm trying to make this quick, prior to me doing the Cardinals game and this whole Nikki Glaser day came to be, I sent the email to Chris, my boyfriend, because he loves the Cardinals and was like, hey,

what do you think of the schedule, all the press interviews, all the things I'm doing at the Cardinals game? And he was like, you know what would be cool? Maybe to throw out t-shirts with Fred Bird or whatever. And I think I've talked about this before, but I really examined what happened that day. And I was like, oh my God, I would love that. The girls are hot. You get to wear short little shorts. You get to like be on the dugout and like throw t. And I was like, oh my God, I would love that. The girls are hot. You get to wear short little shorts.

You get to like be on the dugout and like throw t-shirts and be like, wow. And like, it's kind of like being a Hooters girl, but like in a tasteful way with Fred Bird. I was like, oh my God, that would be so fun. When I, and I really was gung ho about it. And then Chris was like, okay. And that was his suggestion.

And I said yes to it. And I was meaningful of it. I followed up with him being like, oh yeah, make sure he's talking to people he's like I'm getting involved I was like make sure you do the t-shirt thing so again I'm like do the t-shirt thing again I'm thinking in my head that was his idea but I'm into it and then the day I throw the pitch it doesn't go well I can't I can't cry about it because I that I seem like an ingrate I don't want to be I don't want people to feel sorry for me I I just want to get through it. And then I have to go do this,

slingshot these t-shirts with these hot girls. I'm feeling fucking big. It was on a big screen too. And I saw myself in my outfit. I did not look small. I looked old compared to these girls. All the shame of that pitch started going to my looks and my athletic prowess.

And who do you think you are? People at this game think you're a joke. No one cares about Nikki Gl and like who do you think you are people at this game think you're a joke no one cares about Nikki Glaser everyone's like embarrassed that you're even doing this they're probably like ew what is Nikki Glaser day like stop and so I'm waiting in the wings before going out to do the t-shirt and I am in no mood to do this and I'm trying to keep it together but I'm kind of projecting I'm so mad that I can't accept that I have done this to myself I agreed to this I was the one that was like yes Chris I want to do that idea you

had I can't accept that because if I do then I start going like I have to I'm so embarrassed about the pitch I have to blame someone for it it cannot be my fault it has to be they didn't let me practice they wanted me to do this and I was coerced into it I don't even want to do this this fucking like because then

they're going the slingshot thing is a lot harder than it looks. And I'm like, oh, great. A fucking other thing that I'm like, I don't even want you to tell me how to do it so I have an excuse for when I do it poorly. I can blame you for not telling it to me. And so I start kind of getting an attitude towards Chris, who's with me, because he's, you know,

the people you love the most, you like take it out on them because you know they're going to be there for you regardless and they love the most, you like take it out on them. Because you know they're going to be there for you regardless and they love you. So you start being a brat to them. And so I'm just like, I don't even want to do this. Like, you know, when I get, I'm kind of alone with Chris and one other guy that I'm like, he won't tell anyone. I'm being a little ingrate. And I'm just like, yeah, I guess I'm ready.

Yeah, it's raining outside. Cool. Yeah. I look old. Like I was just being a brat. Like I'm going to fuck it up and just look stupid again. I'm letting yeah it's raining outside cool yeah I look look old like I was just being a brat like I'm gonna fuck it up and just look stupid again I'm trying I'm like letting out and he's kind of like are you mad at me because you're doing this like and in my head I'm like yeah it was your fucking idea you added this to my day and and you don't know how tired I am and you're not looking out for me and I'm like and later on that came up as like I felt really weird that day it felt like you were like making it like i forced

you to do this thing and like and i go yeah i did make it that way like when i re-examined it i go my god you got me in the i was being the biggest brat you got me in my i was being a baby because i was tired so i had no way to be like strong emotionally i was embarrassed which makes me like you you know you trip over something on the sidewalk and you go who the fuck because you're so embarrassed when you get embarrassed who put that crack there yeah you get you you either get angry or you get like i meant to do that you get cut or you get angry or you play a victim like this wasn't my decision at all yes and so that's what i did i was like and so i explained him last night i was like

i you're so right. I was blaming you for that because I couldn't blame myself because I was already so embarrassed. I had to give the blame to someone. And he goes, but I just suggested it. You, you were the one that was like,

I want to do it. And you were enthusiastic. And I was like, yeah, you're right. It's fucking, I was like, cause he goes,

it was interesting. Cause he said, I was like, because he goes, it was interesting because he said, I, like, sometimes we say things to each other that we just go, that felt really good to hear. Like, I needed to hear that. I didn't know I needed to hear that. I told him once that, you know, because I meet a lot of hot guys and guys that on paper seem, like, really, like, amazing and maybe from afar. Like, they're, like, celebrities that I've maybe, like, like amazing and maybe from afar like they're like celebrities that I've maybe like drooled over or like I like their character and then I meet them and I'm just like I give them a lot more than they deserve because I don't know them I projected a

lot onto them they're hot whatever and there was something about Chris and going to therapy with me and like really working on himself and being emotionally vulnerable that I was like I told him one day I was like every time I see a hot guy now that i might project a lot of like perfection onto of like or i start getting in those what ifs i dated him if i'm having a bad day with chris or whatever it is i always see a little meter above their head now that is on zero for like emotional intelligence because i just haven't met someone to me that's willing to be as nimble and like doing uncomfortable things emotionally that chris has and i was like for me your meter is on like nine like you've got but you you challenge yourself and like i just i i don't i don't let guys start out on like nines

anymore they have to prove a nine to me they're all on zero and he was like there's something about that that really made me feel safe. Like, because I'm sure there is a part of him that's like, you're famous now. You're going to meet guys that are very shiny. And like, if we're having a bad day and you go on set with someone who's like fun and like flirtatious and like,

you've seen him before on paparazzi shots and he looks so cool. And like, maybe he played an emotionally evolved character. Like you might give him a lot more than he deserves. And I'm like, no, I don't do that anymore. Like I,

I have everyone starting at zero. You have to earn that to me. And he was like, that made me feel really good. And then the other night he had told me that like, no matter what, I just know you're a good person. I always,

and if anyone were to ever say you're a bitch, I would really, I think I've mentioned this before. It just, he goes, I would never let someone call you a bitch say you're a bitch, I would really, I think I've mentioned this before. It just, he goes, I would never let someone call you a bitch. I think a lot of times like people can say that women are bitches or like maybe in the past, I don't think he said this, but he could maybe think I was, or like maybe I was up to no good or like was out for myself.

He was like, I know that you're a good person. And there was just something about that that made me feel the same way that dumb meter thing i said i was just like okay if we're on that base level wherever you can even though i make you mad and some days i can seem like a bitch if you can get to the place of like her bitchiness is coming not because she's inherently a bad person it's something's something's up that's making that happen i can always be okay being myself or like that i have i have the freedom to be a bitch sometimes because you know i'm not one and that that day i'm it's halloween you know and i'm dressing up as a

bitch and there's just something very nice about having that do you really is there anything that you've been given like that where you go oh i didn't know i needed to hear that compliment or i needed to hear brunna say that is there anything that strikes've been given like that where you go, oh, I didn't know I needed to hear that compliment or I needed to hear Brenna say that? Is there anything that strikes you? Well, what strikes me is the suggestion thing. The idea that like I've done things where like someone will suggest something and I don't want to do it, but I do it. And then I take it out on they don't deserve the anger or whatever, but because I agreed to it. Yes yes so i've done that many times in my life where someone's like hey let's go do this and i'm like yeah instead of having like a not an

argument or a disagreement about wanting to do it or like maybe i'll feel guilty because they'll be like well i thought it would be a good idea yeah and so then you just do it and then you're there at the thing and you're like what what the fuck am I doing here? And I never wanted to use that anyway. You forced me to do it because I was trying to be nice and I'm scared that you're gonna get mad at me if I'm not nice.

All of that is still you. It's still you. No matter what, if that person would get mad at you, like, okay, well then deal with that. Like, stop trying to people please. Where I've gotten to, or I'm trying to,

is like, even if I do put myself in that predicament that I don't wanna be in, I go, it's not there. Stop pointing. Just stop pointing. Maybe learn a lesson of not saying yes too quickly to things. Or being okay with when you get to something going like, it's okay for me to not like this,

even if I thought I once was going to like it. It's okay. It doesn't mean that I'm like. Here's the other crazy thing. You might really love it. It's okay. It doesn't mean that I'm like, here's the other crazy thing. You might really love it. Oh yeah, I know.

I mean, that's why Chris was talking about pickleball yesterday. And I just don't want to play pickleball because I've, I'm nervous about being unathletic around his family. Who's athletic and like holds like that in high esteem. Like I, I, I have this fear that they're going to reject me as one of them. If they see how unathletically inclined I am.

So I'd rather just not be there and, and have them not even think of me as opposed to going and being like oh I don't need to play then they go well maybe she is bad maybe we need like a montage where we go and play pickleball and and you get really good and you just show up you're like it would be so funny to train that's what I'm saying I'm not kidding you I think I might start taking the pickleball lessons and then show up one day. He doesn't watch my podcast. I know. This would be amazing. Please do not tell him. That is a good idea and I think I'm going to do it as a

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Let's get to it. We were supposed to do an all-Fanthrax show, but you guys know, we get off on tangents. So the rest of the show will be all-Fanthrax, but it's, you know, it's a regular-sized segment. Let's do it. You guys seriously need to look at the YouTube of this because I'm covering myself in all the things I got just in fucking New Jersey this weekend.

So many letters. This beautiful painting that a bestie made of her parrot. She is a cockatoo that has a shirt on that. She made it a little like, you know, vest that says bestie on it. So her parrot. I forget the name. It says don't be cut on the frame it says the nikki laser podcast she did the logo that from the t-shirt which besties have been wearing that t-shirt the nikki laser podcast t-shirts they are so fucking cute i love them i love our merch it says mascot because this this uh i forget oh it's

miss marilyn monroe is the name of the parrot and And I want to thank that bestie. I forget her name, but she was lovely. And we're going to hang this up. You know, I got so many cards. Let me just pick one at random. Noah, can I read a letter that one of our besties wrote to you? I suppose. To Noah. There's a bracelet in it, a moonstone bracelet.

It says, Dear Noah, and she got your name right. N-O-A is just in case besties want to know. Noah, you are one of the most genuinely kindest people I have ever met. You are so soft-spoken and sometimes I wish I could be, but that's not for me. You have so many unique things about you that makes you one of the greatest

and most interesting people I know. You've taught me to look at situations differently and to take different perspectives into account. I see this when you chime in when Nikki and Andrew have a disagreement. You have such great ideas for the pod

and are so creative and make the pod such a fun experience. Love your whiteboard, by the way. You do things and ask so politely and just show how great of,

it just shows how great of a person you are. Reminds me to be more patient. Love Avi's voice in the Fanthrax segment, which is my favorite because hearing other besties stories and connections makes me so happy for them that they also have a space in this

podcast i can't wait to meet you someday but keep killing it jazzy love edith and she was at the madison 9 p.m show so shout out to edith she wrote us all letters andrew got his um mine i haven't read yet i'll read it on another one but yes i feel that way about noah and i love that noah you know sometimes gets zero air time on episodes because we are just chatterboxes but people still like that letter i almost like i cannot believe how how they get they get her so much that is the that is no Noah to a fucking T of being patient, thoughtful, flawed, open about her flaws, understanding, working on herself. Like Noah is-

Dividing balls with her nose. Dividing balls with her nose, admitting adorable things, her adorable voice, someone who is just such a good friend, was such a good friend to me the other night when I reached out to her about something that we we were going to talk about offline she shared this thing that she's going through with me and

we were talking about it and sharing and it was just so so nice to catch up in that way and then you know it's so like Noah does like she shares this thing that like should take up hours of our conversation and dissecting going through and then I share a little something like just a little like yeah i've actually been feeling that way about this and she's like wait what's going on with that and then it turned then we talked for so much longer about my dumb little thing and it was just like but it wasn't dumb no one never makes me feel dumb about my problems she never makes me feel like i'm not being a good friend to her even though there are times where i go like man i haven't checked in in a while. All I do is work with her. You're just a really, just a gem of a person

and so damn good at your job, girl. Thank you. You know I love to hear that. You don't want to hear adorable. Yes. But I love that Edith saw you so completely in that. Let's get to some of our messages, voice memos. All right.

I'm going to start off with Nick from Germany. You guys are going to love this. Hi, Andrew, Nikki, and Noah. I'm Nick, and I'm a bestie from Germany. And I wanted to tell you a mispronunciation and curse story today. A few weeks ago, a friend came back home from the US where she lived the past year. And somehow it's very common that Germans who lived abroad sometimes pretend they don't know German words anymore. So a few days ago, we watched Germany's Next Top Model. It's the German version of Next Top Model by Tyra Banks, if you know that show.

It's very huge here in Germany. And they are all about diversity this year. So there are some petite, plus size or best agers, you know. And my friend said, as we watch. Oh, I love that there is so much. I don't know the German word. Variety this year. I told her, first bitch,

you are so for pretending to not know your native language anymore. And second, you don't know the English word either. It's variety. So that's my little story.

I hope you guys have all the swells. Love you guys. Love the pod. Love you. Just kidding. Oh my God. What the hell? That is...

That guy's a mad scientist. That guy went and recorded a just kidding from the podcast to reuse it on... I mean that... Nick, standing ovation for that thank you so much first of all i want to watch germany's next top model because that show is not big in the u.s anymore like it used to be but man when that show was like popular it was so fun to watch so it'd be

kind of cool to watch a country that really is obsessed with that show still and like puts that much effort into it and cares that much it might be a good watch um that reminds me so much of the hilaria baldwin thing of when she's on the today show and she goes how you say a cucumber like during the segment because she speaks spanish so much i will say that there who told me that when you do speak maybe i sometimes the way that you besties say that sometimes you say my friend Nikki and people are like who's your friend Nikki and you're like oh I'm not really friends which is podcast it's how I feel about reddit sometimes where I'm like did a friend tell me this or just these people being so open um someone said in a reddit defending her I think it was that that when you speak

another language sometimes so much you do forget the English word I think your friend was trying to be good but I want to give the benefit of the doubt that sometimes you just you can't make that translation and i almost gave hilaria that benefit of the doubt maybe she did forget how you say cucumber um i also i but also how do you say is probably how you would say if you're a native english speaker you wouldn't say how you say you know like i also think that's suspicious to do the english like a foreigner i'm thinking about how many times i've said variety and it's really only with like cereal or potato chips or a show in the 1970s yeah like it's not a word i say a lot so i give her to benefit a doubt because that is not a word that i right but i don't know if i forget it but

necessarily even diversity like he's saying, she could have picked any German word that has a lot of different cultures or has a lot of different ethnicity, whatever it was. I have a feeling Nick knows this friend better than we do. And this friend is capable of ke, which does not make them a bad person. I'm wondering, Nick, if you actually did say ke, and if she goes goes what does that mean

and you try to explain it because a lot of times when you call out it's such an insult once you really explain it to someone like I think you're trying to be cool right now that it's hard to like actually curse someone who you have to then explain what means it's easy to

a revving engine because you just go and the person's kind of like that sounded shitty but I don't know what it means um maybe you just thought it but i want to know if you really did your friend and what the i also want to have in germany or german in germany in germany jesus um variety okay let's go to the next one okay here's one from da. Hey, besties. Hope you're having a good day. Having all the swells, everybody else as well. I was just listening to the mullet house episode and the conversation of the fact that the word pussy and the word pussy sound the same or similar, I should say, is kind of funny. So I actually have a story. I was working at a hotel and I had a very bad, I think it was like a cut on my finger, something like that.

And my manager was standing next to me. And I'm a little bit of an odd duck. I'll kind of just randomly shout things out loud. Wait, what? But I saw that my finger was pussy. And I say out loud, my finger is so pussy. And my manager just looked at me, laughed, and walked away. So that was pretty funny. Hope you guys are having a good day love you all bye it's all it's so funny ida because almost if you were to say my cut looks like a pussy it would

be less disgusting than saying pussy because pus is such a gross word on its own it's almost worse than pussy i love you that you call yourself an odd duck i think that's a very gentle sweet way to describe like what you know sometimes i go I go, I'm a weirdo. Sorry, I'm just weird. And it's like really derogatory. And like, I always feel like an odd duck too with some of the things, anxieties I have, some of the weird things. I'm just like, I just don't like that. And I'm just weird.

Sorry, I'm just stupid. I just don't like it. And it's a gentler way to be like, I'm just an odd duck because ducks are so cute. I love that. And I want to know what other things you scream out loud sometimes um but i do and i also want to know if you followed if your manager if you ever went back to your manager to be like i was talking about this cut on my hand and it looks like like i wonder if it looked like a pussy too because a lot of times pussies do look like wounds i mean i think yeah i'm trying to think of other like words that we could use maybe

for when you feel you know different autistic no like a nice no no autistic is actually makes me feel nice because it's like it's not my fault an odd duck uh what's another example there was a great reddit i was reading um maybe i can just pull it up real quick sorry no you are spending a lot of time on reddit i'd go every single night this is like this is the eighth reddit reference it's where i get everything i don't understand what people do if they're not on reddit it's it's the cutest most fun stuff oh there was okay let me just pull this up because this was oh what's your favorite euphemism this is different but it says what's your favorite euphemism for a dumb person?

And this is another way of like, you know, just like funny phrases. I could give them a penny for their thoughts and I'd ask and I'd get, I could give them a penny for their thoughts and I'd get change back. Someone said a beautiful lamp, but it sure isn't shining much.

My great grandmother used to say that. He's got two brain cells left and they're fighting for third place. The wheel is spinning, but the hamster's dead. That made me, I love that. They sound like Dr. Phil-isms. You're the reason we, now listen. You're the reason we have warning labels.

They have, they must have put your swing too close to a wall as a kid. Oh, this one's good. Honey, you're less useful than a chocolate teapot. Oh, because it will melt? Yeah. Yeah, it's good oh honey you're less useful than a chocolate teapot oh because it will melt yeah yeah it's so good um all right let me just read this one really quickly i just opened this randomly this is from a bestie i think in montclair new jersey from a bestie it says she printed this up it looks like a newsletter there's pictures of us on it that reminds that looks like That looks like my synagogue's newsletter. Yes, it does look like that.

It's from Bestie Kristen. On Instagram, she's fly underscore yellow underscore bird underscore fly. Fly yellow bird fly. Hi, Nikki. Congratulations on your well-deserved success. And it is so jackpot that someone like you with such a great grand platform

chooses to be a voice for all animals. Your message for kindness and respect to animals is reaching so many of this i remember meeting her she gave me vegan shirts too and your enlightenment is undoubtedly helping animals in some way across the world god bless folks like you ricky gervais and alicia silverstone hell fucking yes i didn't realize this was going to be like such a um like i'm not choosing this because i'm like guys look how sweet i. It is pure enjoyment to throw on my AirPods and spend an hour with no drookie and other busties while I am going through my day. Thank you for this.

Podcast listeners benefit from your encouragement to dare, share, and bear our feelings. I love dare, share, bear. What a- Oh. That's gotta be a segment name. That is good. Which fosters healthy relationships of our own and in between

sweet belly laughs you instill beliefs in those still striving to reach a goal and confidence in those contemplating a change what's more you often suggest tools to deal with guilt and temptation and resources for those wanting to incorporate better health and wellness into everyday life you all absolutely rock thanks again for all you do also just to share sorry andrew nikki please please careful with that cute baby talk voice sometimes it seems like you're going to send andrew into outer space like the sound is a feather to his taint or something what does that mean when i talk like this yeah apparently i'm turned on by it oh um oh and then she signs off oh she said she saw us at the wellmont theater in new jersey which was the most bestie attended event i've ever done and uh she signed off just don't eat animals uh thank you very much uh bestie

kristin um and she put little pictures of us it was so nice i don't even know where you get pink paper that's like i don't remember doing um baby voices or you responding weird that must have been one episode that i just can't remember and i came a lot i do remember that episode it was a lot of cum yeah it was like a shakespearean musical that was more what was going on with me it wasn't yeah it wasn't about me but it was daring the baby voice daring um but it still wasn't you it's more more. I don't even like, oh, you know what? It's probably on the day where I was doing this, like the talking about Elizabeth Holmes.

If I was pitching like this or I have an idea for a blood machine, it's that episode. Let's do another fan thrugs. Okay. You want to give some advice? I'd love to give advice. All right. Here's a voicemail from Michelle.

Hey, Nikki, Andrew, and Noah, this is Michelle. I was listening to the podcast where you were talking about narcissists and alcoholics and how you have to stop being friends with them. And I have a situation where my childhood friend really only talks about herself anytime we get together. But I was wondering how, how would you recommend ending that relationship? Is it something that you just kind of slowly let fizzle out and stop reaching out to that person? Or is it something where you would have a conversation with them or what has been your experience with ending those types of relationships and any advice you have would be great.

Thanks. Bye. I'll let you take this one first. I mean, for me, I think it depends if she changes what you want to have a friendship. I think you have to have a conversation with her first. If you want to possibly keep it going explain like how she makes you feel how she doesn't ask you questions how she just talks about herself and then if she just goes well you know what that's who i am or she goes no i don't and does and dismisses your feelings or cuts you off um i think you're right but i also part of me goes she i i hear the tone of her voice that she's done

she's done and and you know these people it's almost like maybe you haven't been forthright with them about what you're feeling but you've given them the tests of like let's just see if they ever ask about me in this entire hangout and you've given and you you can see you can be friends with them long enough that you know that there's something that is unfixable about this or that they don't or maybe they don't take accountability for other things in their life every breakup they've ever had is the guy's fault whatever it is and you just know it's not this is not negotiable or it probably is and maybe you just don't even want to be friends with this person anymore which by the way you're allowed to not want to be friends with this person anymore. Which, by the way, you're allowed to not want to be friends with someone.

You are allowed to not want to know a cousin anymore just because they're your cousin or cut things off with a brother or something. You are allowed to do those things if they aren't serving you anymore. And I think people feel so bad because they're like, well, I've known her since child. Our parents are friends. She doesn't have anyone else.

She needs to learn that if she continues this she's not gonna have anyone else you don't need to be the one thing that's getting her to go well at least I have her I don't have to change that's actually enabling I said this before possibly but the best way a friend has cut it off with me is to say babe I'm going you can you can because this person probably is not going to ever accept any blame for themselves and they're just going to spin it anyway. And it is a you thing ultimately because you are being friends with someone. You've been friends with someone that for a long time has not been giving you what you need,

which is a you problem as much as you could probably understand that. What's the girl's name that wrote us, Megan? Michelle. Michelle. Michelle, I feel like just say the next person, the time this person writes you, hey babe, I'm just going through a lot right now in my life and I just need some space.

It has nothing to do with you because honestly, it probably, it doesn't. What it has to do with is that you have boundaries now and this person isn't living up to them. So, and if you make it about them, they're gonna get defensive. They're gonna come at you and try to change. They're gonna like keep going.

You set a boundary of, babe, I need some space. And I just don't think I'm gonna be able to hang out for a really long, for a bit. And I'll let you know when I'm ready to again. That way, if they keep reaching out to you it's done now maybe this person and you share friends and you're like now i gotta cut out all those people no you don't you're allowed to cut out people in your life you're allowed to and it might be awkward it is a hard thing to do saying the word babe or whatever

kind of loving thing you can say doing it in a loving way taking accountability for that this is your decision there's nothing they could have done or do but if you want to repair this i think writing an email preparing like writing a letter and getting it getting it all out where you won't get interrupted like i did to andrew when i tell him to answer this for me um and he didn't do a good enough job in my mind so i started no that wasn't why at all maybe um no i think you had a good point but i just saw like no but i think i don't want her to have to work it out sometimes i'm just like don't try to work this out that just happened to me by the way but i just feel like that's that's i feel like that happens all the time where then the person

doesn't learn they just go oh well all right they just didn't want to hang out with me i guess nothing's really wrong with me but you have to hear it sometimes it's not it's not your job but i'm just saying that it happens a lot here's the thing if the person people don't learn is it something i did then you can say yes and you can be honest but wait for them to be curious if it's something they can change because someone who is like that's what you know what intervention, all those shows about people are saying, we are not gonna have you in our life anymore

if you keep using this drug, if you keep hurting yourself. I'm out. You need to pull your love for people to change because once that tent pole comes out, they are a tarp on the ground and they have to figure out there's some, I don't have that support anymore. My point though is that with an intervention right there's something concrete like

you're taking this drug we know it's the drug this is it right but if it's someone that just talks about themselves and doesn't ask about they they probably don't really even they might not even be aware that's a good that's all so maybe a letter just so you can say it all without getting sidetracked by them responding and saying everything you want to say in a very loving way of like, you know, sometimes I go, I need a lot more in friendships than maybe most people do. And I require people to be interested in my life, which I have not felt for some reason I haven't felt for me. Maybe you are interested in my life and I'm not interpreting it it that way but there's something wrong here and it doesn't

feel good to hang out with you and i don't want to fake it with you and maybe it's all me maybe i have to work on myself maybe we aren't just meant to be friends right now always lead with like love and not a lot of blame but stating the facts of like i feel like you don't care about my life and i don't want to be friends with people who don't care about my life because for me my friendships i care about my friends lives so when you don't care about mine it's totally fine that you don't but it means it i interpret that as you don't you're not a good friend to me and so just you know speaking from you as opposed to speaking from i and not so much you would be helpful, Michelle. And I hope it works out.

And I know that's so tough, especially if you have friends in common or places of hanging out in common. You might see them around. I've done that, dude. I've ghosted friends just over the things that could have been rectified through a conversation. I just said this to Chris. It's so hard, though. But I've seen people change after a conversation where you're like, oh.

Well, I just said to Chris the other day, when I say something that kind of makes you go, I didn't like that. Instead of, like what I do a lot of times, instead of just going, okay. That's how I do it. I don't say okay. But he was like i don't say okay and i'm like well whatever that is for you where you hear something you're just like i'm just

gonna ignore that she said that because it's so upsetting will you try your best to just clear up whatever's going through in your head and he's like well sometimes that's i'm just not even aware of it and i go well you know what i can do when i when i feel you may be shutting down because i can feel it immediately if i bring up something and I'm like, wait, what did I say wrong? He just dropped the subject. I can then go. I'm feeling like you didn't like what I just said. Can I ask you if that rubbed you the wrong way and what so we and they're so insensitive and all this stuff when really it was just like a misunderstanding and honestly

trying to avoid a fight when really when you try to avoid fights you make such a bigger one down the road final thought i'm sure this for us oh good good good no you said that this just recently happened to you i had yeah very quickly because you have an interview a friend broke up with me over email I didn't like it and it wasn't because I did anything wrong except um that I remained friends wait so it was over email it was yeah what was her reasoning so the reason was um she is going through a divorce with another friend that i'm friends with her husband her ex-husband i guess and uh i'm still friends with him and i was still friends with her but in her message she said right now in my life i can't be friends with anyone who

supports this person and you know i i respect her decision i'm not mad at her. I understand this is a life-turning event for her. And whatever her brain is telling her is not anything against me. It's just what she has to do. So I think you're right about just being honest in an email. And it was not emotional. It was just kind of sterile and just very direct. And I think it was actually very big of her to confirm with it and and to just be honest instead of just kind of ghosting and like not inviting

you which is what i was not getting back yeah yeah interesting and you know what that actually leaves space for the future of being like hey this thing that i before is no longer the case like when you get really honest even though it might hurt to hear like you can't help your feelings she can't help that she is just I can't help that I did not want to be friends after I found out one of my friends voted for Trump in the 2016 election I I was so hurt by it and she had claimed that she she voted for him because a really longtime friend that I had you know wasn't close with anymore but a high school friend I was so deeply disturbed that my friend who I like who's a woman who has daughters voted for Trump I just couldn't I couldn't do it and I said I can't I cannot be

friends with you and all of my other friends were like really you're pulling out of this front like our group chat because of this and I'm'm like, I'm too angry about it. It honestly does nothing to do with her. It has to do with me and figuring out why I can't get over how someone has a different opinion about something to me. But to me, that was like being friends with my ex-husband and picking the side that I think is nothing but pure evil based on how emotionally invested I am in this thing going on.

If you choose his side, I can't. And I am just now reconnecting. I mean, we always stayed friends. I would always write her on her birthday. We'd write each other like little inside jokes, but the day to day stuff that we used to be doing,

it, it disappeared. And I, I, there's a, I was like, I was just in a bad place. And in some ways, I stand by it.

In some ways, I'm still fucking angry about it because I just don't understand how her logic would be. Every man in my life voted for Trump. How am I not going to do that? To me, that was like, because you have a brain of your own. And when you get in the voting booth, your husband's not monitoring you. Just tell him you voted for Trump.

And then don't do it. Do what's right for your daughter inside the booth bitch but maybe what's right for her daughter is having lower taxes or whatever her husband had convinced her was better than you know protecting your right to an abortion a safe abortion whatever in you know for me were the issues in 2016 that were on the line in voting for him. And I don't know the whole story and I don't know her experience, but we've just started talking again and I don't talk about politics, obviously. That's just, we don't talk about Bruno.

And it's still hard for me though. It's still, there's a part of me that really is like so angry and feels betrayed. And yeah, it's like,'s a part of me that really is like so angry and feels betrayed and um yeah it's like but you know I've had friends take breaks from me too for whatever reason and I feel like so angry because I'm like she doesn't understand like I wasn't doing that because just like my friend was like I didn't do it because I I don't care about abortion rights I did it because I just want to get along with the men in my family, which I don't understand. I don't, my, the men in my family, their love isn't contingent on me voting the way they vote.

But I don't know what it's like to be in a family like that. So it was a struggle, but I like people asking for advice. Yeah, I hope that it helped her. And that, I don't know, I hope that people get stuff out of it. It'd be funny if she was just like five years later. They're like, no, I'm still going through it. I'm still best friends with this girl who hasn't asked me one question yet.

I got to say, Michelle, every fucking person I know has one person. One or two people like this in their life that they are just friends with out of just being nice and going with what they did before following doing what your family does oh they're friends with my family oh they're my they are my family i gotta just put up with it like you don't and people only get better if you set boundaries for yourself they learn how to have boundaries for themselves and they learn they learn that their actions have consequences as opposed like you're not doing anyone any favors by faking, like, putting up with them unless they're your boss

and, like, you know, you're just trying to fucking get a paycheck. Right, Andrew? It pays rent, baby. Gets that new watch. You better agree with me. All right. Okay, here we go.

Oh, yeah, rap. Yo, sometimes I fucking feel like a hedgehog. I'm running through the smog. All I want to do is jump like a frog. But I get held down by this fucking girl over here who shits like a log. But, dude, I'm just fucking around. It's just a song. And sometimes I feel like a llama.

You know, I get mad at your mama. And sometimes I want to vote for Obama, but he's not on the ticket. So you got to just hit it. And then a friend votes for Trump, and you might have to quit it. But the point of this all is that quidditch is a game that was in harry potter and i know that sounds lame but i gotta go because i gotta get on a call i'm talking about a dance that i don't want to do at all am i gonna vomit probably but let's just see on nbc 2023 all right guys don't be cut have a great weekend We'll see you on the pod on Monday. And yeah,

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