The Nikki Glaser Podcast - #390 Nikki Needs An Enemy, Renting a Theater, Mindful Moment & Burnt Pants

Episode Date: November 9, 2023

Nikki is joined by her boyfriend, Chris, after a long weekend of East Coast shows. Together, they peruse the kind notes received from Besties in Boston and Baltimore. Nikki recaps the experience of renting a movie theater and inviting Besties and fans to watch Taylor Swift's "ERAS." Chris and Nikki have been keeping up with "The Golden Bachelor," but Nikki encountered unsettling news about "FBOY Island." She contemplates whether she needs more enemies, possibly gaining a new one after being cut off in the TSA line. This dilemma raises the question: does Nikki need to channel more anger or slay with kindness? Subscribe to Big Money Players Diamond on Apple Podcasts to get this episode ad-free, and get exclusive bonus content: https://apple.co/nikkiglaserpodcast  . Watch this episode on our Youtube Channel: The Nikki Glaser Podcast Follow the pod on Instagram for bonus content: @NikkiGlaserPod Leave us your voicemail: Click Here To Record Nikki's Tour Dates: nikkiglaser.com/tour Brian’s Animations: youtube.com/@BrianFrange More Nikki: IG More Brian: IG More producer Noa: IG  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh. The Nikki Glaser Podcast. Here's Nikki. podcast here's nikki hello here i am welcome to the podcast this is nikki glazer podcast it's uh wednesday but here it's sunday i just want to be honest with you guys it's been a long weekend and this is how we're rounding it out you kept thinking that it was monday that's the boy it was the voice of my boyfriend chris convey yeah because i had a show on thursday this weekend and i usually start my shows on friday that i thought last night's show was sunday i almost said what's up baltimore thank you for coming out on a sunday night um but i had two shows in Boston. And then I was in Boston for two nights, which I'm only usually in a city for one night.

So it was like, it almost felt like that was just one. And then, yeah. So Boston, I did Thursday, Friday. And then I was in Baltimore. It was a great weekend of shows. Chris was there for Boston night two and Baltimore.

It was fun. He's on the road with me now because he's producing my stand-up special yeah we're prepping for the special that we're getting ready to do yeah what'd you think of those shows this weekend i thought about them i thought about them a lot i liked them a lot honestly the crowds were awesome yeah the crowds i thought were great it feels like the material's popping off i've been getting more notes about about just like DMs saying stuff about my material that is really heartening of like, just you're saying things I needed to hear or you really made

me think or I got this really nice message I want to read actually, because I think I read it to you last night, Chris, but it just like really warmed my heart because sometimes you see, sometimes I will look over my DMs and I'll see like a certain word and I'll be like, oh no it's going to be someone who's mad at me. Like I've offended someone or something. Especially when it's a huge tower

of text. I'm just like, this could be them being like, hey, I like you, but I want to let you know something that really like fucked with me and hurt my feelings because that's happened before and it's like, it's pretty devastating when i hurt someone's feelings it's one of the worst feelings yeah you don't like it no no no i don't so but this i saw a couple keywords in here and at first i freaked out because a lot of times they lead with nice and then they go but you know so i can't even trust the first part infamous person yeah the infamous

but by the way brian and Noah are here, by the way. Hi, guys. But everybody knew that already. They know. They're standard. Yes, they're standard. They come with the packaging. What is it called?

Batteries not included? Yeah, you're the battery. But they are included. Sometimes they are included. Yeah, they are. Batteries included. Yeah, you're my battery today. You're a double... Wait, what? what you're a what's your favorite battery i think my favorite is a triple a because

they're small and they're like they don't weigh down the device and they're oh you always have triple a's double a's you always are like oh are they going to be working but triple a's we always have excess of so when something requires a triple a I'm always kind of excited. Do you guys agree? As you get older, C's and D's become much less appropriate because those mostly go in toys and stuff. What's a C? A C battery. You don't remember the C? The Volt. I don't. I mean, I'm sure I recognize it.

Is it the square? No, no. It's a square top that like little two little nozzles? It's a tube, but it's just a little bit smaller than a D. And those D's are huge. The Ds, I remember the Ds. Those are crazy. Those are horrible for the environment. Ds are what, like, Philadelphians use as weapons at sporting events.

They call Ds the Philadelphia grenade. I just remember, I've seen memes a lot for the kids of the 90s like no one will understand ruining your fingers and like you're getting like almost bone spurs from trying to do the battery check the battery and see how much power was left in the dura cells where you press on one and then press on the other end and you have to like press it down so much to see if it has life in it those were awesome those were awesome but it was like so hard to press on those things and you didn't know if you were pressing hard enough because it would fill up so if anyone's listening that doesn't know what i'm talking about they used to have a little

thing on the side of the battery that you could press on and you could see how much life was in the battery you'd press the side of the battery in the top of the battery yes and then like this like it was i think it was some sort of magnetic something that would like start filling up and you'd be like oh we got some power here baby it's not easy to press the side of something and the end of something that's not a good way to get pressure do you know what i mean like the side is slipping so i just dig my nail into it like it was a bug bite and it would it wouldn't work my parents had a battery tester from like the early 70s i use it all the time you still use it why no not for a while. You still use it?

No, not for a while, but we still have it. Oh, wow. That's cool. Okay. I don't think I've ever pressed on one of those batteries and had it be any charge at all. The only time I press on it, it's empty. Well, you think it would be empty because you weren't putting enough pressure on it, but you're right.

They mostly were empty. You wouldn't be testing it unless it was like, oh, my thing's not working. Let me check if I have charge. Then you check it. It's like- That's a good point. Oh, yeah. It's just confirming that it sucks. What like, oh, my thing's not working. Let me check if I have charged. Then you check it. It's like, oh yeah, it's just confirming that. What else is a battery tester? The on button. Of the remote. Okay.

So my husband and I went to the Thursday night Boston show. Nikki, you frigging killed it. In capital marks. All caps. All caps, yeah. Hell yeah. I am a big fan and a bestie for a few years now, but I've never seen you live. I have to say that. No, I'm just kidding. This iss. All caps. Hell yeah. I am a big fan and a bestie for a few years now, but I've never seen you live.

I have to say that. No, I'm just kidding. That's where, this is where it could turn, but it didn't. Mostly because she said, I am a,

I am a big fan and a bestie for a few years now, but I've never seen you live. Mostly because I am an overweight person who has a lot of anxiety about going to comedy shows for a variety of reasons. Will the, will the comedian call me out for being fat? Will the seats be ridiculously small? Lots of obese person person anxiety so when i saw the word fat obese overweight i was like uh-oh did i make this person uncomfortable because i do talk about

um being fat i talk about fat people in my act not making fun of them obviously but i do talk about fat people and i think someone who's not maybe someone who could be maybe overly sensitive or um is not understanding what i'm saying could misconstrue what i'm saying and think that i'm calling making fun of fat people no it's it's a part of it's a part of getting to jokes and it's defending it's it's it's defending people that aren't supermodels. You're defending the fat people. Well, I'm actually just

addressing the fact that our society discriminates against fat people and that it's fucked up. Let's not act like there's total fat acceptance in show business just because there's three fat people on TV. You're still incentivized in show business and in the's three fat people on TV. You're still incentivized in show business and in the real world

to be thin. Yes, it's true. One Dove campaign didn't fix everything. I love fat acceptance and I love the fat acceptance movement, but the work isn't done. Hollywood still is such fucking liars.

Most of the time they get involved in the fat acceptance movement just to be on the woke side of things. And then they let one fat person on TV and then that's the end of the story. And they go, well, we have one. Yeah, we've got her. We're fine.

And then there's no one else. And so it's really to prove a point about the fact that I hate the fact that I'm obsessed about my looks and all these things, but I'm actually smart in being so because you get less work if you aren't the way show business wants you to look.

So I'm not saying I'm smart. I'm just saying I'm justified in this insane mindset that I have sometimes because the world in which I'm living in does not reward fat people. You're not prejudiced. The world is prejudiced. Yeah, that's the point I keep making.

You gotta be hot and skinny you do well it's it definitely behooves you there's no question about it i don't know one fat ugly person that's successful i couldn't name one you do there's a i could name some but i'm not going to because it seems mean even though i would argue that being fat and ugly is not a crime and i should be able to say someone's fat and ugly but you can get in trouble that's my point is like you get in trouble if you say someone's fat and ugly but some people just are but you can't say it because they go that's mean and you're like well that's the truth i mean some people i want you to tell me who's fat and ugly and successful because i feel like all the fat people that i've seen successful are

attractive and all the ugly people are skinny what What about John Candy? And I could say it because he's no longer with us. Let's disparage the dick. It's also different because it's different for men as well. That's a good point. So fat, ugly women? A fat, ugly woman who's successful because I think there's a lot of fat

women who are attractive and there's a lot of ugly women who are skinny, but not both. What does ugly mean? Because I think what you're talking about is someone, if they were thin, women who are attractive and there's a lot of ugly women who are skinny but not both what does ugly mean or because i think what you're talking about is someone if they were thin they would have a hot face i think that's what we're saying right or they have like a pretty face but they're fat is that what you're saying yeah i mean ugly to me i would think would equal your face is not symmetrical if we're talking scientifically what ugly versus what like aesthetically beautiful people versus aesthetically unbeautiful people with i'm

saying no there's no moral judgment here if you're ugly it's not a crime it's not a bad thing but your face is not as symmetrical as people who are beautiful would we all agree on that or point well no i i think i think the science pointy the science aspect of it the symmetrical thing yeah i guess it has some merit and like denzel is has the most symmetrical face therefore he is the most handsome but i think a lot of this is so subjective yeah it's subjective i think it's kind of objective for i mean i make that point in my special but or i i will hopefully i think it gets to a place where it can be objective yeah there's also some space for like i've been attracted to people who would probably be ugly because i've gotten to

know them and i can't see the ugly anymore yeah you thought they were ugly at first yeah and thought there's no way and then they win you over and thank god for that yeah name name thank god everybody nicky dated not everyone no but a lot of them but most okay so she goes on to say um so this is just i read this because it's interesting that just thinking from the perspective of someone who's obese like these are anxieties they have if you're not obese you don't understand this struggle you don't understand like going to a comedy show i would be worried as an obese person will they make a fat joke not even about me in general will everyone be thinking oh my god this girl next to me is fat she's probably like uncomfortable you know there's just like lots

of worries will the seats be big enough that That's the big one, is the anxiety of taking up space. It's such a bummer. It must be so difficult. She said, after listening to the pod for these few years and losing a lot of weight, I saw you added a Thursday show just a couple of days after my birthday, and I asked my husband

if he would come with me to Boston to see you. He said yes, and we came to the show. I would never have had the courage to come to that show if it weren't for the way you put yourself out there on the pod. We had the best time. Your show killed. I think it's the most evolved set I've ever seen. And OMG, my husband sometimes, and then says the thing,

and I don't want to give it away because it's my closer, but her husband does a thing that in my closer I talk about I've never seen anyone do before. It was just a really nice note. And speaking of, I also met a fat fan of mine. Shout out to, oh my God, what's her name? I'm so embarrassed that I don't remember. Marilyn?

Marissa. Sorry, Marissa. Marissa came to the Taylor Swift day that I did on Friday in Boston. I want to hear more about that. I can't wait to hear about that. Oh my god, it was so awesome. But I'll just real quickly say that Marissa at the end of it, she was one of the MVPs of the whole thing. She was just so fun. She

wrote me personally and was like, I can't go to your Thursday show, but I'd really love to go. And I was like, girl, I'll save you a ticket. So she goes and she was so fun and just we were dancing the entire time singing dancing she was just like cool with everyone she was just went alone but she was like involving everyone and everyone just like loved her and was so fun to have her there and then on the way out she was like I just want to say as a uh I'm fat and like I really appreciate you talking

about fat like acceptance and fat people and um and i just like loved and she was like and i love that if i was on a plane you would like sit next to me and you wouldn't care she was like i can't wait to sit next to you on a plane someday because i always say that if you're a fat person on a plane if you're a skinny person on a plane and a fat person gets on if you ever scoff or make a face you're you're gonna go hell. You're a bad person. You deserve a coach seat in hell. A middle coach seat in hell between two fat demons. Well, that's not bad.

I'll clip their toenails the whole time. I hate you. If I have an empty seat next to me and people are boarding, I scoff no matter who is walking towards me. That's dumb because someone has to sit next to you, Brian. It's not their fault. Not necessarily.

That could just be an empty seat. Lucky day. Yeah, but eventually it has to be filled. Okay, I get it. But if you're scoffing because they're fat, you're a bad person. I'm not going to scoff at their fatness. I'm going to scoff at their humanity, their existence. I think if they're fat, you should just never scoff.

The problem with that is then they think that you're scoffing because of their weight. That's what I think if they're fat, you should just never scoff. The problem with that is then they think that you're scoffing because of their weight. Because they're fat. That's what I'm saying. I hope they're not fat because I'm going to scoff. Have you guys seen that video of a guy

while a Southwest flight is boarding and he just, he like stares straight ahead and then he's sitting in the middle seat and he just pats the seat next to him like with maintaining eye contact yeah yeah it's the greatest way to get someone to not sit there it's so brilliant great video um it's um yeah so i just well the i'll just say friday in boston at 12 30 at the amc in methuen outside of Boston was so freaking fun.

It was everything I wanted it to be. It was me and I think 35 besties and one or two people that snuck in. It was so good. What an amazing thing to do for your fans too. I know.

And for yourself. I mean, you get surrounded by people that because even when you bring your best friends to taylor swift they don't like her as much they don't like her as much as you do or as much as some of your besties do like when you meet somebody who's not necessarily your friend who's a taylor person you guys have some weird thing that is different than your friendships with other people it's i my i had my friend nor hadidi open for me this weekend and nor if you're listening like 30 of the reason i invited her this

weekend was because of the the swifty thing and 70s because she's funny yeah and 70 because she's funny she if she wasn't funny she would not be there no no question and nice and just a fun hang but man we were able she's as much of a swifty as I am. And we were able to geek out so hard backstage. It was like kind of annoying to be around. I'm sure. But it was just so fun. Yes. You talk about nuances of songs and like,

she wore this and what, what this video means and like all of the fun things. But I will say that I was inspired by Taylor Swift to do this because Taylor Swift famously has done listening parties where she invites Swifties. She doesn't do it anymore. She hasn't done it, I think, since like maybe Reputation or maybe I think maybe she didn't do it for a lover. So it might have been Reputation. She would invite Swifties to her house for a listening party and party and just hang out with them all night. Well, didn't we see video footage of Swift watching her own movie and like singing and

having like the time of her life? Somebody was telling me, I think maybe it was Anya. Somebody was like, maybe it was Nort, was like, Nikki didn't stop dancing for three and a half hours. Yeah, I did. People were like, oh, surely, you know, people will take a break or it'll be like a thing. But it was like three and a half hours all dancing, all singing

and you let your voice go, like you sang. I sang, that was the nice thing about it is because I think that if I would have gone to see it in a regular theater, I wouldn't have sang

at the top of my lungs because I wouldn't want to ruin anyone else's time. But because I paid $900 for this theater and everyone got in for free, I'm like, if they have a problem

with me singing, that's up, they can leave. You know for free. I'm like, if they have a problem with me singing, that's up, they can leave. You know, they didn't, they all, they, they did give up their afternoons

for me and drive out there. And I, that I appreciate, but I was like, it's the way I feel on my birthday when I do karaoke. I'm like, I can just do one song

after the other because it's my birthday and I'll sing if I want to. And this was kind of, so I got to sing the whole time and it is exhausting to sing that much. Taylor Swift puts in the work, man man like when i usually go to air and dancing and uh and just be outfit changes

everything singing though was really hard i was like wow vocally she is just i mean we already know she's so strong but um it was so fun. What was one of your favorite things about it? Was when, so we all ended up going to like, I would say half of us, more than half of us, all ended up going to the very front section, where it was like the handicap section, where it was kind of flat, and there was

like three rows, a section of like three rows with no chairs, and we're just dancing in the front, and we stayed there for, I think, three-fourths of the movie once we went down there it was like non-stop being down there and just looking at the screen and then looking and just singing with them everyone knew all the words i mean these were like solid swifties that like got it and um and just like yeah just and also knowing that like the people were so excited to be hanging out with me.

Yeah. It's kind of a combination. If they like you and Taylor, what a dream come true. Yeah. It felt like it felt, there were times where I was like, I want to make sure I hang out with everyone. Like I want to give everyone an equal opportunity to sing with me and have fun with me. But then I kind of let that go and was like, listen'm if I'm open like they can come up to me they

know that I'm like nice at this point I've met all of them like I don't need to worry about I don't want to this to be like my wedding I always feel like sorry for what brides on their wedding because they have to like say hello to everyone and dance with everyone and like and I'm like it's your day so at some point I let it go and was like this is my day too and like I can let this go and I can just have fun with the people that want to come up. But I felt like everyone got a good chance to hang out with me. And I felt like I got to know everyone on like, at least I spend one song kind of singing

with everyone. And it was just nice. Like now, and then later that night, some of them were, one of them, Zach was at the show on Friday night and I saw him and it was like, I was friends with him because we spend all day together. So I was like, I have my friend here. I watched you at the meet and greet and a few people came up to you and I was like, oh, I must know some of these people.

But I didn't. They were just new friends. They were just besties that were there that day. It was so fun. And just singing Taylor Swift energizes me so much. It's just, I'm so lucky to be a Swifty. I cannot believe how lucky I am to like something that is so popular that other people like just as much as me that has a concert in the movie theaters that is this phenomenon.

Like, I just, I'm so glad I get it. It's a perfect shortcut for Swifties to be friends with other Swifties. Yes. it it's a perfect shortcut for swifties to be friends with other swifties yes you know if you show up and like if you i've noticed like if when girls see or when people see people with like the bracelets on they immediately feel like they should they're gonna go talk to that person yeah or like a shirt or all of that stuff it's like why i wear shirts all the time i just shortcut to friendship because i don't really love talking to strangers about nothing i think everyone knows that about me but if they want to talk about nothing. I think everyone knows that about me.

But if they want to talk about Taylor Swift, I will talk to anyone, anytime. I don't care if you're homeless and have poop on your face. I want to get into it and find out what you think about Travis Kelsey and who you think Now That We Don't Talk is about. Anyway, let's take a break and talk more about this weekend and more about just adventures in general and see what Brian was up to this weekend.

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Listen to CRIMS as part of the michael dura podcast network available on the iheart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcasts all right we're back can i read a like a um a post somebody did about this weekend yeah there's two there was so i had a great time because did i ask did i fucking all right well i'm not now we're not getting the compliments no no compliments you blew it what you blew it no come on big time let's hear it okay so there was a few guys that came to the show that... Bros. You know, what's that? Bros.

Yeah, bros. Well, and some gals too. Some bros and gals that were really, really nice to me. And then those people and I would talk about you, kind of like how sometimes you talk about Taylor Swift. But Ben was one of my favorites. And he... Oh, yeah, he was the one that was at the very last

of the meet and greet last night, right? Yeah, he was in Baltimore. So nice. I talked to him for a while. I think Baltimore might be the city of besties. It was a great looking crowd. There are so many cities with lots of besties but this was the city of the most diehard besties. Yeah, people really brought it.

Boston was really good too. I mean, Boston's unreal. There's something in the air up in the northeast it was a beautiful weekend there's some cities out there or clamor I know I don't mean to threaten anyone

but they really came out in Baltimore last night like die hard one girl named her wifi Kuh that's awesome that's big

that's a big deal to me that is a big deal by the way I did get a bestie bracelet that someone made me for the Taylor Swift day that said, Kuh Summer. I posted it on our socials. Yeah, that's awesome.

But that was so funny. I was so mad that I hadn't thought of that yet. That is brilliant. I really, that touched me. That could almost be the name of your tour next summer. Just saying. Next summer. That's a good idea.

This is something, Ben, because it's what you talk about going to shows alone. He said, you put good things in the universe, they come back. I would say Nikki Glaser is just as generous as she is talented, and that is amazing. Wait, did you write this down after you talked to him? Write this down. He posted this. Oh, really? Oh, my God.

He posted this. I thought you were taking notes like a little reporter. A picture of you. Like everyone's typing. He's got a little notepad. Yeah. You're on the record. If you go see here and you're by yourself, you can meet her after the show. She doesn't have to do this.

She wants to. People like me who battle depression and anxiety don't like doing things by ourselves. This opportunity is incredible and lets you feel comfortable going out alone. This is the second time I've seen her and her standup is world-class. If you're by yourself

or with 20 friends, go see her. You will not be disappointed. Thank you, Nikki, for your generosity. That's so sweet. And for chatting with me. We need more good humans

like this in the world. That's so nice. He was so sweet and he brought a picture of us that we took last time he came to my meet and greet and I think it was the first show that he went alone to.

And since then, he's gone to so many things alone alone and he was giving me a list of his week plans he's going to see esther alone he's going to see he saw some singer the night before alone he went to new york and saw some actress that sing in a bar that it was like he had this he does more stuff than anyone i know now and he's doing it all alone because he's overcome that fear and he's invited us to go? You should become an agent. Yeah, we're going to go to an agent. You should become an agent. That's what they do.

You just go to shows alone. You watch. That's really what I've always told people. If you are worried about going alone to a show and you think people are going to judge you, bring a little notepad and look like a journalist that's reviewing it. But agent's really good too. So what would you hold if you were an agent a business card um money roofie 20 of the artist's income

one of those a flip phone oh a headset a headset like a bluetooth old school bluetooth headset so go in there with a bluetooth headset a flip flip phone, and a roofie, and then it'll be okay. Think of how many things, though, people miss out on because they just can't find a friend to go with them. Or they just don't have friends. Friends are really hard to make. And as you get older. Yeah. Yes.

As you get older, it's harder to find people to do the things that... Like, I don't know anybody, basically, to go do... I know a few people. Okay, I know a few people to go do things that, like, I don't know anybody basically to go do. I know a few people. Okay. I know a few people to go do F1 stuff with, but it's hard. What do you guys call yourselves? No, I got a guy who listens to the radio show called Jake. He likes the exact same music as me and F1.

Where does he live? He lives in St. Louis. What the fuck, Chris? Why aren't you hanging out with him? He's my best friend. No, he's not. I've never heard of this person. He's the only friend I've ever had.

His name's Jake. Do you like the same drivers? Yes, we do. Yeah. Same music, same everything. We're definitely best friends. I know about F1. Yeah, you know a little bit.

I do. This morning, he was watching it in bed, and I was just like, how are Vroom Vroom? And he was just like, they're good. I was like, they're Vrooming. Besides Taylor Swift, what is something

that you've gotten into like later in life that your friends don't share? I guess Taylor Swift is the best. It's the only one. It's the only one. It's the only thing

that you're into. I think maybe some TV shows, Succession, and I think you should leave. Like things like that. There are sometimes comedy things where I go, you have to see this. I will say my favorite movie of all time that I can't wait to share with you is The Worst Person in the World. And that for a while was like-

Is it autobiographical? Burn. Gotcha. That's payback. That's classic payback. No, for when you said, did I ask you? Got me. Yeah, for when you said, did I ask you? Got me. Yeah, it's really good.

So there's sometimes like things that I, well, we're watching The Golden Bachelor together and that's become really fun. I could never watch that show on my own. Although it is a cultural phenomenon enough that people are talking about it online a lot so I could find communities of people. But The Golden Bachelor is fun to watch with you. Last night, in fact, we were watching an episode of it and it's really getting down to it. There's three women left

and there's one who's like very soft-spoken and her lipstick always kind of bothers me because it's... I shouldn't make fun of her because I would literally

slice my face off right now to be guaranteed to have her face when i am 65 or whatever hers is she's yeah no there's so stunning for 65 but her way she talks bothers me and she was the one that was like bragging to the other girls in the house a lot about she didn didn't mean to be bragging, but she would just be like, Gary and I had the most amazing conversation. He came up to my room and was so nice.

And they're like, he was in your room? And so, she would just, like, make the other girls jealous. But that's classic Bachelor. I mean, like, you only have

the other women in the house to talk about your relationship with this guy. And they are dating him too so it's just kind of the way it goes like when when vince came in after his date with katie on f boy island he's like game over game over oh no that was such a dramatic thing but he he meant what people thought that we're talking about f boy on when vince said uh game over i know what vince meant vince was saying

game over for me like my it's over i'm i'm sprung on this woman game over i'm done and everyone took it as like yeah like vince is gonna threaten people vince is like i mean stay tuned because who he could be an f-boy you don't know but like that, that was just not Vince's style. And so, but they, you know, everyone's just so on edge being like, they all twisted it because they're like, Oh, to this,

like, this is a game to Vince. That's what he meant. God, it's, it's so annoying on that show. Like, did you hear me say to Mercedes?

He was, I was like, he was like, this isn't a game to me. And I go, this is literally a game. It's, um, cause it is a game. And they was like, this isn't a game to me. And I go, this is literally a game to me. It's because it is a game. And they're like, this is a game

to you? And it's like, yes, it is. There's money on the line. This is a TV show where people are falling in love. This isn't a TV show to me. If anyone thinks anyone goes on TV to fall in love, you're insane. Yes, they could go on TV to fall in love, but they're mainly there to be on

TV. But I do believe on The Golden Bachelor, we are finding, and I believe on FBoy, I mean, keep watching FBoy Island because the season. It's real. Because we need you to. Well, we desperately need you to. I don't know if you know the ratings, Brian, but it's

not our fault. The show is good. I've seen articles. I've seen some articles out there that were not glowing about the ratings, Brian, but it's not our fault. The show is good. I've seen articles. I've seen some articles out there that were not glowing about the ratings. Well, yeah. I don't give a fuck. Can I just say this? I don't give a fuck about ratings. There's too much TV. The fact that no

one knows where to find the CW ain't my fault. It's not because we did a bad job on the show. It's not because the show isn't good. Do you know how much good shit never gets seen because of just where it is? Oh, hell yeah. It's about marketing. It's not because we did a bad job on the show. It's not because the show isn't good. Do you know how much good shit never gets seen because of just where it is? It's about marketing. It's about what audience, it's about who has cable. It's about people don't even know where to find the

CW on their dial. It's about, oh, an ad for it didn't show up in my feed. It's about, it's been too long since it's been on air and so people kind of forgot about it and there wasn't the momentum of carrying into the third season. There's a million reasons why show isn't doing the as well as it did last time and it has nothing to do with the quality of it so i don't give a fuck about ratings i really don't they don't affect me at all you you were there when i got the email about the ratings yeah i was

sad for like five minutes yeah and i wasn't even sad i was just like ah well fuck it we're still doing f girl they to air that. People are going to freak out. Oh, they're going to air it. And it's going to be amazing. People might not watch it, but I've had two shows canceled already in my life. Three. Sorry, my reality show as well.

I've had three television shows not do well and eventually go off air because of ratings. Has it affected my career? No. I mean, could it have been good for my career if they succeeded? Yes. But maybe mean could it have been good for my career if they succeeded yes was it but maybe it wouldn't have been as good because you wouldn't be focusing on stand-up and yeah everything happens for a reason so i really recommend people i was just talking to someone

this weekend we're talking to alex edelman who came and did a set oh yeah if you guys don't know who alex edelman is get on board he's yeah he's just on kimmel yeah he was on kimmel uh the night before we saw him he was in boston he texted me when i was at the taylor show show and i was like he was like do you want to hang out i was like i'm here but like come do a set tonight and so he stopped by and then we hung out and then he went and did another set after mine and then he came back to our hotel room and we had him over to hang out and watched him eat candy. He ate four boxes of movie candy that someone had given,

a bestie had given me and Alex Edelman ate it all. But I was happy because I don't eat candy so I was happy it got done. I love that guy. I love him so much too and he was talking about, he's having a surge of success right now. He had a run on Broadway that was extremely successful. He is probably going to win a tony he is now doing a

run of his show in la coming up um they they shot it as well it'll be it'll be a special special it's an hbo special it's a one-man show it'll be out i don't know when it's going to come out but they shot it yeah somewhat recent like a four months ago yeah edelman e-d-e-l-m-a-m he's he's going to be a huge deal if you don't even know about him yet, but he's kind of having this surge of success and it was so funny to listen to him say like, you know, he's already, he's

just now having this success. It hasn't even, there's things ahead of him that are so big. He's doing, he performed for Biden the other night. There's not even like what's come for him hasn't even started even though it's like it's it's definitely coming like he could see it on the horizon and he's already worried about losing the things that he has that he's getting he's about to

get that he's guaranteed to get he's already worried that once they're done he's just gonna be a one-hit wonder and i'm like if you're not enjoying this now what the fuck is the point yeah and also i know this is easy for me to say, but I went through that. I went through feeling like after my MTV show got canceled, this is so embarrassing. Everyone knows that I have a canceled show. Meanwhile, no one gives a fuck. No one even knew you had a show, Nikki. All that really matters in this business, and everyone has heard me say this before,

is the deadline announcement. Yes. And it's the announcement that you got a show. Yeah. The fact, the announcement that I have a special coming out when I announce it finally and have the deadline thing is going to be, unfortunately, probably more valuable than the special itself,

and more people will see it, and that will make a bigger impact on the industry thinking I'm something than the special itself. But people will see it and that will make a bigger impact on the industry thinking i'm something than the special itself but like what a percentage brian what percentage do you think of shows that get made and go on tv don't ever make it into like the zeitgeist i mean the zeitgeist oh my god 90 99 yeah 95 something like that The last two shows that I worked on didn't even get a deadline article. We didn't even get deadline. And I'm right in saying you were waiting for that, right? That's a big fucking deal.

Oh my God, I would have loved to have posted a deadline article. I didn't get a deadline article when I sold the show, even though other shows that were in development at the same time did. And I didn't get a deadline article for the show that I was show running. We couldn't get anybody to even review that show. When that show came out, What is the show, do you want to say? Adventure Beast on Netflix.

It's like a cartoon supposed to be for tweens, but reasons, things happen. And it wasn't for tweens. But I tried to give a- Who was it for? It was for adults for some reason. It's not supposed to be. It was not supposed to be competing with Inside Job it for it was for adults for some reason it's not supposed to be it was not supposed to be competing with inside job but it was even though it was for supposed to be for kids

it was competing with inside job inside job which was pretty good movie no it was a it was a cartoon uh oh illuminati cartoon that also okay upset me but the the before we the show came out, I was charged with trying to email just like YouTubers who had like less than 100 views per video just to interview me and the star of the show just to get somebody to say something. I emailed

like 20 different just YouTubers. This isn't like Entertainment Weekly. One person responded rama's screen shout out to rama's screen you guys all know rama right in the screen yeah go get him rama he really he's a tastemaker yeah so we got on rama's screen we did an interview there and that was the only one who even responded to my email and i'm like this is a show of premiering on netflix it's not like i was premier we're was premiering it on some

shit place. The Reels channel. Yeah, it wasn't on the Reels channel. Or the CW. It wasn't on the CW. Just kidding. I'm so grateful

to be on the CW. I love the CW. Chris is looking at me like, why are you torching your career right now? I'm a comedian. I'm making jokes. I love the CW.

A lot of good things going on that are great at the CW. Yeah, I mean, there are. I'm just saying. They actually do have a show right now that people are talking about. I forget what it's called. Really?

I just saw an article being like, you guys should check out this show on the CW. It wasn't FBoy Island. I met an executive for the CW. He came to my show last night, and he seemed very proud of me and was very excited to meet me. FBoy Island is a good show. And you're great on it. And the feedback I get is we need more Glazer. That's my feedback too.

Oh, that's really nice, guys. Thank you. More Glazer. I don't really watch myself, so I haven't watched it. This is my fatal flaw is I can't watch tape. Can't watch tape. What was the Johnny Manziel thing that you liked? He didn't watch tape.

Watched zero tape. Zero tape. How much tape did you watch the Johnny Manziel thing that you liked? He didn't watch tape. Watched zero tape. Zero tape. How much tape did you watch, Johnny? Zero. And he, yeah. Oh, yeah. Johnny Manziel, 30 for 30, watched zero tape. But he was just like kind of just got by.

Did it work for him? No. In the end? No. Did he need to be watching tape? 100% yes. Yes. Have we talked about how Nikki only likes sports but 10 years

from now so she loves sports documentaries but she doesn't like current sports as they're happening yes I love but it's great because now I so good now when I'm like encouraging her like something you know something's not going her way or if we if we want to do something ambitious

I always bust out like Michael Jordan stuff or johnny manziel stuff i do relate to athletes in that way when i look back because athletes i've found are a lot like me in that they um they nothing's ever good enough um they some of them are super cocky, but a lot of them have low self-esteem. I think a lot of them feel, um, like they're only alive when they like completely shift from like when they're on stage or off state or off the court or on court. And they're just complicated, like kind of, um, uh, depressed people. A lot of times they seem really, it's's a mental, a lot of it, like they've got the talent,

the skill, and then the mental game comes into it. You need the mental game, the quest for perfection. Nothing's ever good enough. It's always got to be better because there's someone next to you who's going to be doing it twice as hard

and they're going to beat you. I do think David Beckham would be better off if his dad wasn't so mean. I think he wouldn't have been as successful and all that stuff, but I think he'd be a happier person if his dad wasn't such a dick. Who do you think is

the biggest, when you think of mental giant with a winning mentality, who do you think of first? Michael Jordan. David Goggins. David Goggins? Yeah, I don't know anything about him, but I just know that he seems like if I could have anyone's brain, he seems like

someone who just just like loves himself Goggins is great and Jordan yeah Jordan is is probably the like the number one guy Kobe's up there for sure sure

but Kobe's I'm not saying but wasn't wasn't his belief in himself kind of the reason that he was like go through the fog right right right

like doesn't that become detrimental I think everybody like no anybody with it was the guy driving the helicopters belief in himself that was like i should go through this i mean i don't really know anything about it yeah i don't know anything about it either but someone was cocky in that situation there was a cocky person involved it was foggy right um i think that yeah i i guess that's a really good question like whose mental fortitude would you want to have i honestly want to have taylor swift's because she seems to have a healthy

balance of she seems humble and she seems like she still is like really excited about everything that's happening to her she seems um and she she obviously has a ton of confidence to do what she has but she also doesn't seem delusional and i think michael jordan seems delusional even though he is great it's like he is like wanting to get back in his coach i mean taylor swift has some of that too yeah i mean that's a lot of taylor is is like the revenge stuff right like yeah sticking it to so much vengeance and that's a lot of Taylor is the revenge stuff, right? Yeah. Vengeance. Sticking it to

so much vengeance and that's what Jordan has in his heart. Jordan, I don't think he's delusional. Okay. Well, not delusional because he is the best.

But they do fabricate, not fabricate, but they create some sort of an enemy to fight against. You gotta have an enemy.

I mean, I guess if that's I don't know, I don't have one. You need to have an enemy. You gotta have at mean i guess if that's no i don't have one you need to have an enemy yeah at any given time you need three well you're my producer chris get me an enemy oh i can think of a few really yeah i can think of a few oh i have a couple too that you can have yeah i know i know one specifically people that i'm in competition with i've got a baker's dozen you can literally literally have some of mine. Yeah, I'll take some of your enemies. I can't think of any that I have. I have all the people that I

used to hate, I've already eclipsed. Yeah, well, you've achieved so much success, your enemies have less power. For someone like me, enemies are just like jet fuel. I have too many. I have too much disappointment. It's almost not helping anymore.

Just be my friend now. I don't want my life to be... I don't want to... I really think that manifestation and all the things that lead to a really healthy great life are being positive and thinking good thoughts and really any kind of

motivation being like I want this person to do badly or because I want to do good is just a poison in my system. And I'm selfishly like, I still feel that way about these people. I have it in my heart to like want. It's almost like the way I feel about eating, not eating meat. I still have the taste for it. I still crave cheese.

I still crave meat. I don't do it for it. I still crave cheese. I still crave meat. I don't do it because I'm trying to do the right, well, no, I'm not doing that selfishly. I'm actually, that's the opposite of this. I'm only not wanting to hate on my haters because I know that it's bad for me.

Right. Yeah. So it's selfish. Cause I really think that I've been doing these manifestations recently and just listening to, um, like I just say to myself when I'm going to sleep what I'm feeling. Let's say recently I've been feeling, oh, I'm really sick of my act. I'm bored with it. I feel like I'm just like brain dead.

I can't come up with new things. My one yesterday, what I just said to myself as I was going to sleep in my head was, you're sharp, funny, smart, and important to the world. You're sharp,'re sharp funny smart and important to the world you're sharp funny smart and important to the world you're sharp funny smart important i just kept saying it over and over and um and then i sometimes feel you know the other day i almost downvoted something on reddit that was just me being jealous well that's one good thing that you didn't do it i didn't downvote it even though no one would have ever known it was me. No one knows who downvotes things. It would have just been putting negativity into the world. And I don't want to do that anymore.

Yeah. That's one thing I do like. Except on our intrusive thoughts episode, which I'm going to release. I'm going to get some anger out of there. Once a year you get, it's like the purge. Once a month.

I let out my anger on intrusive thoughts that episode. You got to be a big money player's golden member or whatever. You want to absorb that hate. I'm sorry. Yeah,

if you want to, if you want to, some of my hate, you'll see it there. But I like how you, when you're jealous of something, you go the opposite way.

I post it. Sometimes it bothers me that you do it because I'm like, ah, that person doesn't deserve that. Yeah,

that's the worst. But you know, I only do it if i actually think the thing is funny yeah you know like there are people i'm jealous of that get a bunch of stuff and i don't think their stuff is funny or good and i won't post it just because i'm like i'm i can be jealous of someone that sucks and i won't post it but if i truly think the clip is funny and i and there's a little voice of me going, don't do it. I can't fight that voice. You just have to do it. I gotta post it. If it's funny, that's a different story.

You gotta fight against it if it's funny. But what's personally offensive is when someone succeeds with shit. Dude. That bothers me too. I can't take it. I really think I could succeed with shit. But I have a question real quick. If I wanted to.

Because you were saying you're not excited about your act sometimes. sometimes but why don't you ever give your you're hard on yourself why don't you ever give yourself credit like when i because i went to those two shows and i've seen i've seen your comedy probably more than anybody at this point yeah and almost every time i go even though i see the the show evolve quite a bit there's always something like new that you thought of like that day or an hour before why don't you give yourself credit for any of that stuff because some of that comes easy to you why don't you ever i think it's because it's easy because like things that are easy i shouldn't get credit for you should only get credit for things that make you go like oh at the end of it

why are you like that who like because i think don't you think a win is a win like don't you think um yeah because you know it's my example when someone was like nick your legs are amazing what do you do for them and i'm like they're my dad's legs i did nothing for them i literally just got genetically good looking legs i will not ever take credit for my legs because i didn't work for them now if if someone was like you have like my abs are going to be pretty good after Pilates. If someone goes like, wow, your abs are amazing,

I will go, I worked for these motherfuckers. You know, all my dad did was come into my mom in 1983 for my legs. I didn't do anything for that. That's how you accept a compliment. Yeah. You're telling them that they're smart,

because like you noticed that I had been working on my abs, and they are good, because I've been working on them. Yes, the compliment. Brian's compliment. Yes, that's such a good point. Yeah, I guess I hear your point and I think you're absolutely right. I need to give myself more credit for being

the things I was saying. I'm quick. I'm smart. I'm sharp. I'm funny. And those things do come naturally to me and they actually don't come naturally to me. Those are, you know. Things that you worked on. The work is already done so it doesn't feel like it's just there now. And so when I come up with a new line on stage, I don't give myself credit for it.

Cause it was like, I didn't like sit down with a pen and paper and write that. So it doesn't feel like work. But the work has already happened. The work has already happened. So you got to give yourself credit. I'll give it. Okay. I'm really good.

I'm quick. I'm sharp. I'm smart. And my voice is important. You're just not thinking far back enough. The reason you're able to come up with those lines is because you did comedy 10 years ago, 15 years ago that trained your brain to

be able to do that. So you should be really happy that your brain is functioning in that way because it took you 15 years to make that brain that way. Okay, I'll take credit for it. Yeah. I really will. Yeah. Because you're smart and funny and sharp and important to the world now. Important to the world.

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Listen to CRIMS as part of the Michael Lura Podcast Network. Available on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Okay, so today we were boarding a plane to come to St. Louis. Our flight was in the morning. 6.25 a.m. was our flight, Brian. And also daylight savings time?

Yeah, so we got an extra hour. So it's not as bad. We didn't lose an hour. But last night we got in after the show and like it was a like i had a three show night or three show weekend which is a long weekend and did the taylor swift show it's like a pretty exhausting weekend with meet and greets and chris's flew out to be with me and then we traveled to boston then we traveled to or we traveled to baltimore and we did the show last night we get back to our hotel and we're like excited just like our show was at seven we were done Baltimore. And we did the show last night. We get back to our hotel and we're excited. Our show was at 7. We were done by 10.30. We're back at the hotel. And we got back and we're like, yes, we're back at a nice hotel. And Chris is like, when's our flight tomorrow?

I was like, let me look. It's probably like 11 or something. And I'm like, in four hours. I was like, oh my God. It was so devastating. my God. Like it was so devastating. But we had a good attitude about it. Did you sleep? Did you decide to not sleep? Well, I, Brian, my calculus, which I think actually might help you, is that when I'm going to get less than four hours,

I just think of it as a dope ass nap. And then all of a sudden, it's not a bad night's sleep. It's a really good nap okay because if you're able to get through a three and a half hour nap that is fucking amazing so you just have to like think of what it is and what it what don't not think of what it isn't so anyway we get to the we get to the yeah it was like a triple negative so you get we get to the yeah yeah that's true it's got to be your ball we got to the airport in the morning and I was just feeling saucy.

I even told Chris, I was like, it's as if it's like 9am. I'm feeling like awake kind of. It was like 5am or whatever. And we're going through the TSA and you know, when you're going through TSA, there's like some people that are slower loading their things on the thing well there's a woman in front of me there's a guy in front of me and there's a woman in front of me in front of the woman um had a seat like a seeing eye dog with her so she was kind of struggling and taking her time this guy not the guy in front of me there was a guy in front of me but a guy

from behind me comes flying out of nowhere and just shoves like has ample room to do it because the woman's kind of like slow and we're all kind of like waiting and being patient for her to load her stuff because she's got the dog and she might be blind i don't really remember it might have just been a dog for her anxiety or something but this guy runs and puts his bag up and like shoves it down takes a bin and dodges in front of her cuts the line there's three people in line and he cuts in front and i go what's with this asshole i said asshole i go and then the guy in front of me was like um he kind of looked at me and i go not you sir i go what did you see that guy what an asshole like i said it pretty loudly because i wanted the guy to

hear me but like also not hear me and maybe think i'm the blind woman no um i i was ready to get into a thing with it because there's it was so egregious but he didn't hear he he he definitely heard but he acted like he did it right so then the guy in front of me is going well maybe he's in a hurry i was like then he should have told us that I have no problem. As people know on this podcast, if you are missing your flight, butt me in line. Just tell me you're running late and I will get other people on board. I will say like, we got to let this girl go ahead.

I will work for you to get you ahead because I know what it's like to be late for a plane. It's so miserable because you're scared to ask people. You got to ask and we'll always let you ahead. Always. I will always give you that benefit. But you got to ask. you can't just butt and assume or just say i'm sorry i'm running late i have to do this that's it that's all you gotta do but he didn't have to do it he didn't he got away with it he probably gets away with it all the time that's the way the world

works i think he does get away with i think he does get away with it all the time he does so very few people would have done what you did even and say look at this asshole like he might i mean what a hero i have a new plan though okay so the guy so the guy in front of me was like maybe he's in a hurry and i go and then i'm almost mad at that guy i'm like don't make excuses for him i was like well then he should have told us so i'm getting an attitude with this guy now because he seems to be freaked out by me calling this guy an asshole but i'm like be on my He cut you too. I'm standing up for us. No. And Chris is in the other lane.

And Chris already, I have clear. And Chris just has TSA pre just. Oh, God. I have pre too. But I have clear. And Chris beats me through just doing pre because the TSA clear was so slow. Not to slow down your story, but you got to eye the lines. You take an inventory of both lines.

And you say, which line is going to be faster? It's not always about how many people it is it's how irresponsible some of the people might look i told brian what are their ages i told brian one time because he asked about like what do you what line do you choose at a grocery store like when you're looking at them and i go whatever line i choose i don't ever think about it anymore because when i put effort into it it will inevitably be the longer line. And because I've put effort, it will matter to me more and it will irk me more.

So I just, I don't care anymore and I just get in a line. But you're right. I should have paid attention. You gotta, in the grocery store, you gotta play the cashier.

Oh, yeah. Oh, do you know the cashier at the Whole Foods that makes you put it closer to him? Yes. I do it for, I do it for every guy now because I'm just scared he might shapeshift into another guy. He always yells at you to put all your groceries as close to him. I do it for every guy now because I'm just scared he might shapeshift

into another guy. He always yells at you to put all your groceries as close to him as possible so they're all lined up at the far right side of the... He won't reach for him. He won't reach. You gotta move them. He doesn't want Scanner's elbow. I think it's something that he's

been afflicted with. He probably has some tendonitis. So anyway, this guy cuts in front. I say asshole. Then I'm getting a little attuned with the guy in front of me. Then, and I'm just like, oh, this guy sucks so much. And then I already come up with a plan because I was like, this isn't a good look to be like saying just asshole to people. No.

It's just not a good look, even if he is an asshole. So I think my new thing when someone does this and i i stole it from taylor swift it's a thing she's or no i'm sorry i stole it from olivia rodrigo how dare i confuse it too in vampire olivia song she goes look at you cool guy got it and she's like it's she's saying it sarcastically calling people cool guy i think that's my new thing instead of asshole is to go, look at this cool guy. Because you can't be mad at someone calling you a cool guy.

But it's 100% sarcastic. Cool guy. Oh, what a cool guy. I feel like that's my new thing. If you would have said it to that guy, he probably would have turned around and winked at you or something. Well, here's the deal. Well, here's the deal.

Oh, no no so we get we get through and i'm ready to give this guy an evil eye on the other side you know once we get through the scanner because we're all collecting our things at the same time because it's kind of backed up and he was the one interviewing you for the job and well kind of oh no puts on his jacket and he's a pilot which by the way i know the rules that pilots and flight attendants and people who work at the hudson news they always get to go in front of you well yes i did not look like a pilot at all i would have never ever he wasn't drunk he had a sloppy haircut no he um he just didn't look like a pilot he didn't have any kind of pilot outfit on. But then his jacket was like,

Southwest gives them like these sloppy jacket. It wasn't like a good pilot jacket. So I felt horrible. And thank God the guy didn't start anything with me because I would have had it. Can you imagine? I called a pilot an asshole. I'm so sorry.

I thought he was your pilot. And when we were walking, she was like, yeah, what if that was our pilot? And then Chris goes, what'd you say? I don't remember. You were like, yeah, can yeah what if that was my our pilot chris goes what'd you say i don't remember you were like yeah can you imagine if he was so mad at you he crashed the plane on purpose like what's he gonna do like really so it was just funny i felt really bad so shout out to all pilots who butt in line you're allowed to i know the rules i know you're probably screaming at your podcast device being like what what if it was a pilot? I know the rules. I always make sure if it's a pilot.

I've done this a million times. He did not read pilot. He was not giving pilot. No, he did not indicate he was a pilot. Asshole. He was giving cool guy. He was in a hurry. Like he was giving I'm in a hurry vibe.

Yes. I'll never do it again. I really learned my lesson because it is not cool to be a woman or to be any kind of person that shouts that that just has like a toad about stuff. And like it was just I was I told this before when I get angry. I feel amazing. I feel powerful. I like it. I feel right.

It's the only time in my life. I feel good is when I'm really angry. I feel amazing. I like tapping into it. I felt good, but I'm really angry. I feel amazing. I like tapping into it. I felt good, but I'm not going to say asshole. I'm not going to cuss the next time I get angry.

Cool guy is my new thing and I will be getting an attitude with the word cool guy. It will be uncomfortable for people around me, but it won't be as uncomfortable as asshole because that is inappropriate

and I do regret that. I think it's a good idea to say cool guy, but it just doesn't get that same punch. It doesn't anger like if you said look at this cocksucker like that like really gets it out of you so good motherfucker like to say cool guy that's gonna tamper it a little bit well cool guy to me it has a nonchalance to it that could get under their skin yes yes there's a thing i'm saving for the intrusive thoughts episode we're doing right after this that is another thing that i'm doing to get back at my haters yeah wait i think hold on i just want to share this with you

because i i'm just don't want to burst your bubble but oh no part of me thinks that the whole like anger and getting satisfaction calling them a cool guy or asshole, it's kind of like the antithesis of having empathy. Absolutely. Yes. It's fucking with my mojo. Who gives a shit? Who cares? Crying in somebody is fun.

No. It makes you feel good and strong. I'm trying to keep my temple clean and calm. It's not good. Have a dirty temple. You'll be fine. No, it'm trying to keep my temple clean and calm. It's not good. Have a dirty temple. You'll be fine. No, it's not good. You got to sweep the steps.

You got to keep it clean. You got to keep your side of the street. Yes, it's true. And I've said this a million times. I know better than this. It's just when you are underslept and you are not being mindful and you're just on autopilot your anger can get the best of you and it's not good it's not it is not good for my health to be mouthing off at anyone even if they really harm me in some way i should always be nice and that's why no i think i

sent you a thing final thought no i i think think I sent you a thing that I wanted to share a long time ago, but it was someone who had... It was a text. Yeah. Will you... Do you have it? I do. Will you read it?

Because it made me so happy. It was about people on Instagram who get DMs that are so hateful and mean. And this one girl had the idea to just write nights things back. Okay. And it instantly changes everything. Oh. Because then they go back. They're like, hey, I'm sorry. and this one girl had the idea to just write nights things back okay and it instantly changes everything oh because then they go back

they're like hey I'm sorry I you know I was having a rough day and like this sort of thing is hard on me and my kids are this yes so what she writes is

my favorite thing in the world is responding to my hateful messages and seeing how fast I can change their mood okay no will you read that because it's too small for me oh wait

he goes shut the fuck up and go back the fuck wherever you came from then pussy and she goes you look really nice in your icon what do you use because it's too small for me. Oh, wait. He goes, shut the fuck up and go back the fuck wherever you came from then, pussy. And she goes, you look really nice in your icon. What do you use to whiten your teeth like that?

And they go, I'm pretty nice usually, just a little sick right now. My girlfriend does it. I don't really prefer it, but I like the pic. I like your facial hair. Wish I had.

Okay, so I guess this is a guy. So immediately, everything is fine again the person is back it's amazing there's another one that goes where does one oh then uh the the the guy wrote back where does one get those and she says any drugstore like i guess this is her writing him writing this one doesn't seem like an example this one seems like it's just a random conversation or yeah like a continued conversation oh Oh, it was still, yeah. They became friends?

Yeah, she goes, any drugstore, like CVS, I guess they're talking about facial hair at this point. The hater came back and said, appreciate it. Well, sorry to have been rude, man. Have a good night. Sleep well, homie. Love you. It made me so happy. That's awesome

isn't that cute the thing is every time you lose control everybody around you knows this woman's not doing well it's you know when you I know

but you know what sometimes I need people to know I'm not doing well yeah that's why you do it it's sometimes a cry for help yes I think it is

it's sometimes like it's my castles are crumbling and I can't keep it up anymore and I need people to know. I want people to feel sorry for me. Somebody help me. It's asking for help, but it's honestly pushing people away

because they're like, I don't want to get involved in this at all. I caught myself. I think that's a really good point. The other day, yesterday, I put blueberries in those green crates. You know those green crates that you can get? Yes. They fall out all the time. I put blueberries in those green crates. You know, those green crates that you can get. Oh, yeah. Yes, yes.

But they fall out of the blue. They fall out all the time. I opened up the refrigerator, and the blueberries fell out. And it fell out in the back, and all the blueberries fell out. And I almost exploded. I was almost like, these fucking blueberries. Of course, the blueberries go everywhere. And today of all days.

Like, yesterday was any worse than any other everywhere. Today of all days. Yesterday was any worse than any other day. Today of all days. I caught myself and I was like, Brian, it's fine. Just let the blueberries bounce around. It's fine. And I didn't explode, which I was very happy about. I did the same thing. Okay, so this weekend, I did have a good mindful moment.

I have these amazing pants by Ripley Raider. If you're a girl, you know what i'm talking about they're advertised to you all the time and the tagline is my clients always are people who buy these always tell me ripley raider is the girl that makes them i guess or whoever the woman is that created the brand is like people tell me they wear these to get laid or get hired and it like it sold me so much they're such cute pants i'm obsessed with them they fit perfectly and this weekend i wanted to wear them to the perfectly and this weekend i wanted to wear them to the swifty show so i went to iron them and it burnt them oh because they're like they have

some nylon or something and they're 200 pants i mean these aren't cheap pants and they're my favorite pants and i was like you're such an idiot that was such a quick thing to do you said it on the highest setting you didn't test it before you didn't look at i looked for a tag that said don't iron and they didn't have it so there's a part of me that was like i'm entitled to a new pair of pants but i didn't do that you know what i did i just quickly bought a new pair of pants and said you're not allowed to like be a victim today about this this is such a dumb thing to be upset about that there's a little orange stripe on your pants now from it being burnt it's okay you can have nice things you just messed up you're a good person it's okay mistakes happen buy have nice things. You just messed up. You're a good person.

It's okay. Mistakes happen. Buy a new pair of pants. Just fix this right now and go have fun at Taylor Swift. That's sort of the key to everything and that's why resilience is so important is like you are going to get over those pants eventually. Everything I've ever done,

I've gotten over it. You're going to get over it eventually. You with the chair and the cock. Oh God. I almost picked a chair up that's this size over my head and threw it out my door because I got paint on it. And I've been babying this chair for years because it's all white.

And I don't let things get near it. And I got a little bit of paint on it. And you can't get it out. It's actually stain. It's like wood stain. And when I did it I saw it I was filled with rage

filled and I was gonna pick the chair up and throw it out my front door and I even thought to myself this could be a

turning point in my entire life like if I pick this chair up and I throw it out the door that's that's just me baby

yeah yeah then that's you if someone sees that well even for myself like you i just don't want to cross that line where you i remember one time my dad almost hit me i was a kid and he was like he really wanted to and i could tell like just i almost wanted him to because i just didn't you threaten him yeah i did or the you go you go to him i go oh i was i was the greatest of all time i'm goading sorry it's the other word i was goading him so hard i remember it was like i told he had said something to me

he complained about my mom to me because there's not good boundaries in my family so he had complained about my mom about something and i had told her about what he had complained about because I was tired of being this go-between, which is inappropriate. Not fair. Not even a triangle of communication. Exactly, triangulating. So I didn't realize at the time,

like, dad, don't tell, like, take it up with mom. Don't take it up with me. Go see a therapist. And by the way, my dad sent me a note today because I posted on my story. There's this like beautiful picture that apparently was from propaganda

for Jehovah's Witnesses. But it just shows this like kind of paradise. And it says, this is the world if parents went to therapy. And it's just like this, all humans and animals all living blissfully together. And it says,

this is the world if parents went to therapy. And my dad wrote back, ha ha to that. So this is an example of like, maybe he wouldn't have, you know, it didn't fuck me up too much. But it was just, if you're a parent out there, don't complain to your kids about your spouse. Go to therapy and talk to someone.

Even if you have no one else to talk to, it's inappropriate. Character assassination. Yes. It's not good. Even though I know that like at the time, it was just, I was probably complaining about my mom. And my dad was like, I agree with you. You know, like it was probably just a way for us to bond in that moment and my mom has done the same for me with my dad you know like it's hard not to do that especially when your daughter is super smart and intelligent what kind of stuff does she say and so off air

that'll be in the intrusive thoughts episode dad won't pay for that i was really just trying to get you to do a julie impression you know what He's tracking in mud all the goddamn time. I just got this goddamn table. EJ, you put a scratch on this table already. This is bullshit. You know what? I'm not even going to have nice things anymore. You know what?

The house is going to go to shit. Fine. I'm not cleaning anymore. I'm done. I'm done. So my dad, I told my mom and he was like you told her and i just remember him like like he wanted to slap me so badly and i kind of deserved it i was really a cunt at this point in my adolescence like this was probably 17 18 19 years old around there and

i just remember saying i go dad hit dad, hit me. I go, everything's going to change though. Everything will change. It will never be the same between you and me if you do it, but you should do it. And he didn't do it. But I remember being like, this is the moment, dad. I feel like that's too old of an age to be hitting a kid. It's just basically like brawling with your kid, like a straight fight. I think that's the right age because you're an adult. You want to hit your kid between the ages of three and seven.

Yeah. Yes. Only if you want them to be a professional athlete or musician. Yes. No kidding. What if he did this? What if he did that thing in movies where he goes to punch you, but he really just punches the wall right next to your head and misses you?

I think that's still violent. No, I i don't like that i think that is crazy i think that even if you witness that as a child that is like really traumatic he punches next to your head he misses you it makes a hole in the wall and you go look at this asshole i have a friend who's constantly injured and every time i see him he has some new like bandage or like he's has like a, like a new ACE bandage on his arm or his leg. And I'm not joking you. I go, what,

what, what did you kick? And every single time he's hit or kick something because of his anger. Yeah. I'll tell you who afterwards. Is it Johnny Manziel? But it's really a thing that people do. And I talk about anger. I i mean i could talk about it all

day yeah you can it's so fun yeah you can it's a great it really horns me up oh boy yeah it gets me charged up i feel good i like it because i think it's something i just never addressed for so long so when i get angry oh boy i get you become somebody different oh you've seen it I've seen it yeah you've been like I've been like what is going on who is this lady

why is this happening and why does she only come out during her therapy sessions safe space safe space do you want to end on a you said something

the other day yeah because we're saying you know we're talking trash over here yeah okay I'll end on a good note yeah talk about your dad hitting you

great guy oh that was good thanks alright be sure that was a Nikki Flaser podcast And, you know, we're talking trash over here. Yeah, okay. I'll end on a good note. Yeah, talk about your dad hitting you. Great guy. Oh, that was good. Thanks. All right. That was a Nikki Fleischer podcast. Really? Wait, what's a good note?

You said something really nice about the meet and greets after the meet and greets that I thought was great. I think you should share with people. Do you remember what it was? No. Will you share it? You talked about how it's fun because you haven't been doing them for too long but now people will come back and it's fun to have the moments when people come back and and like there are people are telling you really nice things at them so they they've become like kind of like a source of joy for you yeah yeah it feels really good well i will have to say to people to listen to the podcast it really means a lot to me that you listen to the podcast i'm so touched every single time and it's always like

this really awkward moment of like it's as if someone's like i read your diary kind of thing where i'm like it is for you to read but like oh like you read my biography or something where i'm like oh i put a lot of weird i don't even know what was in there so it's always a moment where i get a little bit awkward but I love you so much for listening and it means so much to me. That gives me more self-esteem than anything that people just like to listen to this. This thing that is just so

100% me and there's nothing being put on here. There's no performance. 12% Brian and 40% Noah. Yeah, it's really, really nice and i appreciate it so much but if you really want the real me you got to do intrusive thoughts you got a big be a big money player or go to therapy with her or cut her in line at the airport and not be a pilot or go see her this weekend where are you gonna be or you can yeah come see me this weekend. Where are you going to be? Or you can, yeah, come see me this weekend because I get buck wild on stage,

man. It's all coming out recently. This weekend is going to be Rehoboth, Delaware. I've never been there, but I cannot wait to perform in Rehoboth, Delaware. And then Atlantic City on Saturday night. And then next week I will be in Tempe.

Noah will be at the shows backstage with me. I'm so excited. And then I will be in Tempe. Noah will be at the shows backstage with me. I'm so excited. And then I will be in Portland on Saturday. So Thursday, Friday in Tempe, Arizona. And then Saturday in Portland next week. And I would love to meet besties. There's meet and greets. You can just find Anya at the merch booth.

Tempe, I don't know how we're going to do the meet and greet. We'll figure something out. But yeah, or DM me and we'll figure it out as well. I love you guys. Thank you so much for listening to the show. We'll see you tomorrow. And don't be cut. And...

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