The Nikki Glaser Podcast - #86 Fish & Women Have Feelings

Episode Date: August 18, 2021

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It's honestly so much worse than I had anticipated. We're an army in comparison to him. From novel, listen to The Bunny Trap on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Here's Nikki. Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, And, boy, we were supposed to have an FBoy Island-centric show for you today. That's going to happen tomorrow. Andrew had some flight issues. Happens.

No worries. Listen, everything can wait. Everything's FBoy Island. Can you imagine if I was like, but we must. It's FBoy Island. I've booked Garrett. Like, listen, everyone, it's not boy island i've booked garrett like listen everyone it's not you know garrett is someone that i'm excited to have on the show from f boy island and i'm not saying that like he should be available whenever but like everything's movable this isn't life or death you know this isn't trying to get on

a fucking plane in kabul you know that's that's what we should all be stressed about. Andrew came in today from his horrid flight journey apologizing and he's just kind of in a mood because he's had a rough morning. And I just don't care. Not that I don't care about his mood. I know that he's been through a lot today. And he had to say goodbye to Brenna and he misses her so much. So do I, Brenna.

We miss you so much. like let's just let it go you know like who cares it's all it's all gonna be fine and um so grateful today to uh just be in a place where I don't um I'm not scrambling to get on a jet with a bunch of other people like I see those images and we all know what I'm talking about I'm not scrambling to get on a jet with a bunch of other people. I see those images, and we all know what I'm talking about. I'm not going to go into details about them because this isn't the place for it. But I was talking to a bestie yesterday who DMed me about hair loss, which I was going through last summer big time, just feeling like my hair was thinning.

It was kind of a psychological trip even though it definitely was but it just became I was obsessed with it oh my god every single strand I pulled out I'd be like I was like it would depress me so much and then over the weekend I told you I um saw a picture of myself from Edmonton and um I looked different than I thought I looked I'm going to go into detail about what I thought. But my mind was playing tricks on me and I was I was in such a bad mood. For no and I was on a private jet like I was with my friends on a private jet and I was in a sour mood because I didn't like the way I looked in one photo and I was zooming in on it and I kept like I just couldn't even keep up with conversation because I was focused on this picture and then I

was you know messaging with this bestie that she was asking me about what I did for my hair which the answer was like I got my hormones in check and I started feeding myself uh enough food not like less food not like slightly more food enough food you know for like a regular person I don't know about you but I always convince myself that like if I eat the recommended amount of food that I don't get to do that I have to give myself less because I don't that's for other people I'm someone who if I eat the normal amount I'm gonna be obese or whatever that will all it'll I don't get I always have to do less. So I just start feeding myself and that's what fixed my hair. And, you know, just not stressing about my hair.

Isn't that the ironic thing is that the stress about losing your hair makes you lose more hair. But at the same time, I was like, you know, I know it's easy for me to say because I'm comfortable with my hair right now. And I bet you anything it's the same as it was when I was freaking out. And guess what? That picture of myself, I'm the same today as I was on that picture when it was taken Friday and probably a little bit more puffy today because I started my period a couple of days ago and I love myself today. Like I, I would see a picture of myself today and I would freaking love it. So it's as much as I always think like, Oh, I don't have body dysmorphia.

I know what I'm seeing. That's for other people. I do. And, and I'm not saying that, I mean, this girl probably has hair loss. Like she's probably not in like,

uh, she probably knows what's happening. She's not into, you know, she's not imagining things. And, um, it's very real.

And even so like fucking just be grateful you have arms like you know like there's always something to be grateful for and yesterday I like kind of ran through a gratitude list in my head which is so dumb and I've told you guys this before but I've done that with friends before where every day we and Noah you and I did it for a while and it feels so stupid to like write a list to each other every day of things we're grateful for. But it's, it's wild how it works. Are you astonished by some of these like self-help kind of quick fixes that end up working? Do they, do you ever, was that helpful for you, Noah, when we both kind of needed it to just force ourselves to think of anything we're grateful for?

Literally anything. It definitely helped my mood, but I don't have the discipline to write and journal and all that. So the truth is I kind of dreaded having to lay it out only because of my lack of discipline to do it. But other self-help stuff yeah I really like I um and that's another thing that I think gets in the way of so much and what I've learned in like my recovery from an eating disorder and all the things um and I'm still working on everything I was thinking the other day about how I used to

like talk about meditation and every people write me all the time being like the waking up app changed me. I use it every day and I'm like, Oh, I feel like a hypocrite. Cause I haven't meditated since last year. I mean, it's been months and months, but I don't, I'm not drawn to it the way I was back then. And the thing is I don't beat myself up about not meditating. Like that's the great thing about meditation and gratitude and lists and journaling. They're not designed to make you feel bad when you're not doing them. Like that goes against the whole thing, you know, like, and I didn't realize that I thought so much of self-help was like, you've got to stick to a schedule. It's about making habits. And then, oh my gosh,

you're, you're trying to get out of your own anxiety and depression. And what's worse for that than to add this thing that you have to do that you're now going to fail and now feel even worse. So when I don't meditate and when I don't journal and I, you know, like for me, journaling has always been just something I've always beat myself up about because I just, I love girls who journal. I'm jealous of them. My friend Kirsten like kept a journal every single day, every night. She was very habitual about it. Taylor Swift journals all the time and helps her do like go through her feelings.

People read every night. People have like these, you know, I follow journaling on Reddit and it's just people writing and journaling and showing with, and I just compare myself and I go, God, why do I even own journals? I can't do this. I don't, I, the, the biggest streak I've ever been on for a journal is maybe five days and then I drop it. But you know what? Now when I'm having a rough day and I'm compelled to journal and I'm like, I just need to write down, I pick up any piece of paper, any book, and I just write. And I don't feel bad if I go put that away for six months. Like, wait till you want to do something, you know? There's something to be said

about doing something against your will because you know that it's the right thing to do. But if you're able to do that, even against your will, it's because you were able to do it. And if you're not, you weren't. And you don't need to beat yourself up about it same thing with exercising like people always go god i'm so fat and out of shape and it's like well it's not your fault you don't want to be out of shape and fat you know like if or maybe you do but like let's let's imagine this person doesn't want to be well you you would if you could snap your again it goes back to if you could snap your fingers and not be you would but you can't and well Nikki I could have it's not I could have exercised but you didn't want to it did if you would have if there was any part of you that

wanted to and it would have felt good you would have done it I used to go to the gym and get on the treadmill and just be so annoyed that I was even there put on the clothes drive over there check in smile at the girl at the counter walk through look at all the bodies that I wanted to look like and didn't feel good enough to be around. And then I get on the treadmill and I would press it and I would be doing the buttons. And there were a couple of times that I just go, nope, nope. It reminds me of the Larry David story of one time he went on stage doing, he hated standup. He would go on stage and he would look at the crowd. One time he went on there, like, I think it was standup New York, which could be really rough.

And he got up there. This was before he was, you know, the Larry David we all know. And he got up there and he just looked around and he just goes, nope. And he just walked off stage. And sometimes you just got to nope it, you know? You just got to go. So the hair loss thing, I just said to the girl, listen, get your hormones in check, go to the doctor, feed yourself. But if you can't do those things, forgive yourself. If you would, you could. If you

could, you would. But J-Lo every morning gets up at five and The Rock does this thing and I should do that and I should, I should, I should. These shoulds, self-help isn't designed to make you feel worse about yourself. It's, it's, and it's really about, I realized that I'm not someone who's good at habits. I'm just not. And that's who I am. And I'm not going to change. And there's no, I can't be Kirsten. I can't be Taylor Swift. I can't be JLo. I can't be Jennifer Aniston and enjoy yoga. I just am not that person. And it's fine. They're not a lot of things I am. And I'm never going to have luscious, thick locks of hair. It just ain't going to happen for me. But guess what? Someone who does have luscious carrot top is never

going to have my legs. You know, I'm trying to think of other people with luscious, luscious locks. You know, I really can't think of anyone because every actress I'm thinking of uses hair extensions, you know, and so and get her get hair extensions. Wear a fucking wig. Do you know what I was thinking about, Noah? We're doing video now on the podcast. And I was like, some days I just like don't want to deal with my hair. It's so there's so much hair care for women with long hair men do not have men have a lot of upkeep with hair they have to get it cut a lot to keep it short but women like having long hair throwing it in a ponytail sometimes that doesn't even look good and so I was thinking about getting a bunch

of cheap wigs and just putting on wigs someday like why not you know and this is not me wanting to shave my head and rebelling against being a woman it's just like why not so if you have thinning hair wear a fucking wig and people go oh you're wearing a wig because your hair is shitty yeah it is and that's fine I'm not I don't have good hair and I that's okay because I can't be everything I want to be and I and some things are off limits to me but I could have a good body if I worked out no you well you don't want to work out you're not a person who likes pilates and wants to transform their body you're not you're not someone who wants to go and get liposuction and have to wait for your body to stop bruising so you can

wear you know like sometimes you just aren't a person that likes this shit and that's okay and I'm talking to myself here by the way every day I am faced with a litany of things that I go god I wish I was like that yesterday I was cleaning my room and I'm like why do I hold on to all these shitty shirts like I'm never gonna wear them why can't I why can't my drawers ever stay neat I fold all my stuff and then within a day it's you know why because I'm not someone who has clean drawers and I never will be and if so if if that makes me unlovable well then what the fuck is wrong with a person that wouldn't love me because my drawers are messy I don't want that person in my life.

So if you have shitty hair and your hair is falling out, you know, I just remember this ex of mine complaining about losing his hair. And I laughed. I laughed because I said he didn't want to take this medication because it causes hair loss. And he goes, I just don't want to be like being bald. could be the worst thing ever and I just I laughed because I was like oh my god I get it when you love someone I wouldn't give a fuck if this dude were bald yeah I like his hair it's a part of his features that I like it wouldn't matter to me at all and I finally got it I was like when you love someone you don't care so anyone that's capable of loving you is not going to love you more because your little front tooth is a millimeter back.

And I've said this before, but that's why I got Invisalign because I just want to be loved. It's all so sad. Let's get Andrew in here to hear about his flight and his journey and maybe make him feel a little bit better because he's bumming around the house. And it's going to bum me out and I'm going to lash out. I know I am. So let's try to be very civil and I'm going to be very nurturing. You should hear how nice that was, Tim. He'll tell you.

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Hey, Andrew. Good morning. How'd you sleep last night? Are you okay? Are you okay? Yeah, I'm all right. Okay, good. I'm just a little out of it. I know. I mean, I had a hell of a morning. No, this is going to take a while to recover.

Yeah, I'll be fine in like 10 minutes. Okay, good. Oh, good. Yeah, no, it was just, yeah, no, it was good. I mean, it was the end of my long-distance relationship three days in, and then I had an 8.45 a.m. flight. Three days in? You were there longer than three days, and then we had i had a 8 45 a.m flight three days in you were there longer than three days no three nights oh wow okay it felt longer what do you mean the end of he just meant the end of his visit i know i caught that too when i go you know what

i'm not even gonna no no they're still together no we're still together. No, we're still together. We're going strong. And we went to the airport. It's pretty funny. She did directions to the security entrance of O'Hare. Where people go to check in for work. So they can clock in for a hot canoe. Oh, like the guys on the tarmac with the lightsabers. You ever pull in somewhere and you can't do a Yui? So you have to keep going straight into embarrassment and i i had to go in and go yeah um you know my old lady and so we had to get

a police escort oh my god back around because she typed it and then we're driving away she's like you really ratted me out pretty quick there why didn't you drive i did drive oh i drove she was doing the directions oh gotcha gotcha anyways so then i get to the airport and i learned that my flight uh is at 8 45 p.m right yeah common mistake i mean like i woke up to a barrage of texts um i don't know that i've done that but i I've done like, you know, the wrong day or the wrong month or the like that is. And I do that on my alarm clock literally every day. I know. So I looked at it like you.

But ADD is a fucking motherfucker. Yeah. You know, like I must have looked at this time 25 times. You know what I mean? Like, it's why that I didn't see it. And then, you know, because the pod is the f-boy special that we were gonna do I felt a lot of pressure to be back yeah not from you just internally and I just felt bad no I want to release you from that I've I've told you so

many times because he you know when he talks about going to Chicago or going to visit his family and he's like he I just feel this nervousness around you being like, hey, so I have a question. I'm like, if it has to do, I don't, you can always be remote in my mind. I mean, take it up with Noah. I don't care. I think we're great when we're remote. And I know that there, especially the FBoy special, like, listen, again, I was saying at the top of the show, it's F-Boy Island. I mean, like, who is going to – don't lose sleep of an F-Boy Island, like, recap show being postponed one day. It's just not –

But you've been at the airport where it's like – it was just a normal – I get to the airport early. I got there like an hour and a half early. You know me. I'm an early man there. And it turns into an episode of 24 of trying to get a new flight. I ran two terminals over. That was almost a mile to get on a 9 a.m. American.

And did you miss it? United. They wouldn't let me buy it because I was 55 minutes in and it wasn't an hour before. So you were trying to buy it at the ticket counter? Or buy it online? I tried to buy it online. I couldn't buy it online. So I ran there to try to buy it at the ticket counter. They're like, you can't buy it at the ticket counter. Why don't you call reservations? I know. This is in 1997. I tried to buy it online. I couldn't buy it online, so I ran there to try to buy it at the ticket counter.

They're like, you can't buy it at the ticket counter. Why don't you call reservations? I know. This is in 1997. I call reservations, and the guy doesn't speak English, and I know it's a trope, but I go, my name is- A trope. You're just picking words.

True. Yeah. Oh, sorry. It's a trope. Trope. So I go to the guy. I go, he goes, how do you spell your name i go what's your name i go andrew he goes a-n-d-r-u i'm like what is this what what is oh how many andrew listening to you with

customer service you can be so rude sometimes i feel like i go way nicer to the customer service and you will go more rude whereas i with like my friends will go more rude and you'll go nicer like i never mean to customer service but you can get a real tone and i i'm not this isn't me being like we need to talk about it but you you sound like the tone that i give them oh my god and it will start off right away like i sometimes think you're talking to the automated thing of like prescription uh yeah refill you know like you'll like because sometimes i just do that kind of tone with the the woman who's talking like this but you will do that tone with you know a guy in bangladesh well the guy in bangladesh the daniel dan the problem with Daniel and not Daniel personally, it's having to click 45 different buttons, be on hold for 15 minutes.

It's not Daniel's fault. It's not Daniel's fault. Daniel didn't choose the operating system. And I don't want to put it out there that I'm this monster to customer service. I'm going to record you when you're on the phone sometime with them because it's a side of you I just don't know. Oh, you'll see it one day. I have. And it's it's a side of you i just don't know oh you'll see it one day i have and it was it's just always alarming and i always just think you're talking

to the automated guy and being like a jerk in a funny way but it's like you just got on the phone with verizon like why are you having this tone like the other day when you called for the wi-fi password dude the guy didn't speak english but don't yell at him about it. I'm not yelling at him. It's just frustrating when you want to get... It could be such an easy conversation. But now we're going through 15 steps that aren't necessary. And I feel a time crunch from... It's always just like it's not there.

I always have to remind myself because it's hard. It's not their fault. I'm never rude to waiters. I'm very nice to waiters. No, you are. If you're a waiter in Bangladesh and I'm never rude to waiters. I'm very nice to waiters. No, you are. But if you're a waiter in Bangladesh and I'm talking to you online ordering, you know. Non.

Some non. You better non have a bad attitude. Yeah. How was your goodbye? It was good. It's sad. But I had to shit, which is really funny. You came in here shitting too.

Yeah. Because you walked in and then I went to go talk to you and you were long gone. And when I go, Andrew, and I don't know where you are, you're shitting. I'm shitting too because you walked in and then i went to go talk to you and i you were long gone and when i go andrew and i i don't know where you are you're shitting i'm shitting your boy um so you had to shit was it about a romantic goodbye where your stomach is just roiling with diarrhea we're both crying for different reasons oh my, my God. She's crying. She's so sad. You have like shit water pouring out of your eyes. That's so funny. And that sucks. Were you holding it in all weekend?

Dude, I had to go into this line. I told her. Oh, yeah. So we're getting an escort while I have to shit for like 20 minutes. Did you have to shit before you left the house? No, but just pretty much like right when I left. I think, you know what I think caused it was you get nervous shit.

And I think the nerves of being in the security, like going into the wrong thing. Yeah. And then on top of that, now I bought an 8.45 PM. Have you ever pooped your pants before? Yes. I mean, like you didn't even have to how many when was the last time like have you

told me about it you think um i've sharted since we've been friends but nothing like embarrassing never like i if i don't i'm gonna like uh because you weren't able to go like was this how how close were you to shitting your pants when you were hugging your girlfriend goodbye for the last time surprisingly it kind of you know sometimes when it goes away and then yes that's the weirdest thing because you just know it's in you you know there is like a shit log it you almost think they might see it when you go through security where does it go um it just i think your body just kind of realizes we can't do this right now and so it just goes into like your nervous system kind of accepts it and goes, okay, well, we know we're not going to be able to get rid of this.

And shitting ourselves right now is not going to really do us any favors. So, yeah. That's a mind control shit for your body for sure. Yeah. The worst I shit, I've told you this story. It was in high school when I was a sophomore at a cool sleepover party with the cool kids. And I took one hit of weed. I didn't even drink.

And I got like a 24-hour virus because my family had it too. They were shitting somewhere else. I don't know. They dropped me off. And we're all like hanging out. I'm like smoking like a token. The weed, you know? Yeah.

I'm the cool kid. And I went. 420. You know when you start to feel that sick, that 20, like, that comes on, like, and I was laying in bed shivering in my friend's, the cool kid's bed. And I went to shart in his bed and I. You went to fart. It's funny if you had planned to shart and you go but it was it was just shit i meant i was meaning to shart but i shit yeah yeah i went way bigger than what i did so you shit in

the bed did everyone know so wait how old were you so i was like a sophomore oh boy that is maybe the worst year of your life to shit the bed. Oh my god. Maybe just a actually freshman year would be the worst, but sophomore it's pretty bad. It's pretty close. So I end up sneaking off into the bathroom because I have shit all in my pants and I'm

trying to be cool about it and then I just hear through the door, I just hear a guy go, dude, you fucking smell that, dude? you fucking smell that, dude? I mean, it's so wild. Do you smell that, bro? How much shit smells when it's outside your body? Why does it smell so bad so fast?

I don't know, but the guy was, all I heard them playing was a game of hot or cold, but with my shit. They were getting closer, and I was like, oh my God. You're hiding in the bathroom. I was crying in the bathroom. Like one of the kids in the kitchen on Jurassic Park, and they're just getting closer, and I was like, oh, my God. You're hiding in the bathroom. I was crying in the bathroom. Like one of the kids in the kitchen on Jurassic Park, and they're just getting closer. Yeah, they're like raptors. Yeah, the raptors are like, it's in here.

Oh, and you're just cleaning it up, and I'm sure they ran out of toilet paper. It's just like a nightmare. I was in the shower. I was naked in the shower. Oh, no. And so they go, oh, my God. Dude, it smells like shit.

And then they finally found it, and they go, dude. Well, you're in the shower. Well, that's, oh my God, dude, it smells like shit. And then they finally found it. They go, well, you're in the shower. Well, that's kind of obvious. Yeah. Weren't you just going to like,

you pretended you were going to pee? Wait, was this in the morning? No. At night? At night. So the shower's the dead giveaway, right?

Yes, for sure. And they go, they go, I think Colin shit your bed. And then I heard them like, like putting all the pieces together really good friends yeah okay so they're good enough that you like could trust them not to

tell any no you can't i mean your friends are a different they're a different breed they are they're not good so they come to the door and they go colin did you shit my bed and i was like don't come in i'm naked that's what I remember saying. I was like, and then they made me just sleep. I slept on like the windowsill, like this, like not the sill, but like there was like. Yeah, a little nook. And it was freezing for some reason on the floor. And I was in a nook, no blanket.

And I didn't have other clothes. That's so mean. I know. It's very mean. Well, you shit a man's bed. Was Rusty there? I'm sure. I blame Rusty. So then, oh, but real quick, the next week, some kid a man's bed. Was Rusty there? I'm sure. I blame Rusty.

So then, oh, but real quick, the next week, some kid shit his pants worse. And then your story was buried. That's how great his story was. And I'll say it one day. It's so great when someone else just shits the best. Better than you. Yes. That's like the news cycle. Had that ever happened to you where you were like embarrassed?

Well, I know the p stuff but yeah um no i can't really recall of a time where it was like oh something worse happened so that covered it up but you know there's been no no and you know shitting my pants um it's just so amazing how uh now that is so much a part of my life, dealing with poop and being okay with it because of my sex life right now and with the occurrence of it. I will say yesterday I finally received my kit in the mail that is going to make my life so great.

I don't know what took me so long. I got to see this kit. Can you get the kit the next week? It's just like a, yeah, I'll get it. I'll get it when we do, I don't know what took me so long. I got to see this kit. Can you get the kit the next time? It's just like a, yeah, I'll get it. I'll get it when we do, I don't know, a final thought. Yeah, I got this thing that you- Where do you buy a kit like this? Amazon, baby.

Yeah, and I got another thing from Amazon, too. I should show you guys what I got on Amazon because I got some good stuff. I'm building my, like, you know, apparati that I use for my sex life, but also I just don't want to cum anymore because of this book, so now I'm, my like, you know, apparati that I use for my sex life. But also I just don't want to come anymore because of this book. So now I'm like conflicted because I read the book about not coming. Come, come, come.

No, Andrew, I think you're actually suffering because I come because I get in a bad mood after it. It affects you maybe more than you're thinking. Don't come then, I guess. Let's go to the news. Wait, what do you type in for this kit? I gotta know. You heard it here first. You heard it here first. Yeah, you do you type in for this kit? I gotta know. You heard it here first. Yeah, you heard it here first.

You just type in anal douche. Oh. Yeah. Pretty simple. Yeah. Straight forward. Amazon has a lot of sex toys. They have everything. They have everything. Is it next day delivery? I mean, yeah. You can get it prime.

You can get it shipped right into your asshole. You just type in a little code and a little locker pops up. A little robot man puts it in there? Yeah, yeah. With gloves on? Yeah, it's actually in there right now, so I got to take it out for the next segment. I thought I heard something. Yeah.

What's the first story? Oh, wait. I hope you're having all the swells. Oh, yeah. Holy shit. Jesus Christ. Holy shit. I hope you're having all the swells, having a great time out christ holy shit i hope you're having all the swells having a great time out there okay that was bad okay okay a stranger reached out to a woman on tiktok after overhearing a group of her

friends devising a plan to intentionally exclude her from a birthday party now she organizes giant picnics for lonely internet users who want to make real life pals so a random person heard a group of friends talking shit about how they weren't gonna invite a girl to a party and so he reached out to her how did he know her i bet he looked at their her phone it's our handle or something it was uh i'm trying to remember so he reached out to her via instagram or something on tiktok it was on tiktok oh so you can mess with people that was it yeah yeah yeah and was like hey is this your name maybe they were like looking at her like honestly i don't think i'd want to know sometimes people it's like i don't want to hear when my friends talk shit about me but i'm like

that this girl spun it into something good how old is this girl she's probably in her 20s or 23 years old does she look like someone you'd want at a party? Are you kind of like on her friend's side here? She has kind of that. You'd make her sleep on the windowsill? She should the bed, I'll tell you. Well, here's the thing. We all have that one friend that like you don't want to invite to the party.

She might suck. You know what I mean? Yeah. So don't be friends with her. But she did spin it into a way where a bunch of people that suck can get together, I guess. Oh, that's so sweet. How did she get all these lonely people together? Wait, that does not make sense.

Okay, so I'm looking at a selfie of her with all of these, like, 100 lonely people behind her. And they all look like party animals. I mean, those girls are all hot. No one's not inviting those girls anywhere i'd i i what how did she solicit for lonely people i guess she put out a tiktok herself yeah i'm sure yeah and it went viral and then everyone was like well come to boston she got a bunch of dms of people relating to it and just kind of like cheer her like cheer her on and stuff and she's like hey you know what why don't we all just meet up and it started in new york and now she has uh like the lonely

it's it's on the thing hold on i can't see it but she has a club now where like all across the yeah no more lonely friends yeah we're and they get together and have picnics and meet each other and she said the range like the ages range from like 20s. She had a 70-year-old person there who was looking for a friend. It was very sweet. Oh, my God. It actually is really cute. I really feel for those people.

And I look back on my group of friends in high school, which was really, you know, I didn't really have an identity outside of my friends. It was like all I had. I didn't have boyfriends or anything. So, like I was obsessed with my friends. might say in love with them and we each of our middle names we took the initial and made like we made it was called reek renee ingrid elizabeth uh kimball and we all made like shorts that said reek on the butt and like and and and there were other girls that wanted to be in our group that were in our group like would hang out with us. But, like, that was so excluding to them.

And they never – we made it so, honestly, they could never even get in. We didn't even offer, like, let's add your name. It was always, like – it just sucks to think back that, like, I could have made people feel that way. And I know that I did because some of these people sucked. And, like, we didn't want them around. But one of our friends was friends with them. So we, like, tolerated. And I never did anything to purposely make them feel feel I would honestly go out of my way to sometimes hang out with these people to make them feel better but it's you know what it sucks and I just actually met a girl over the weekend who I instantly loved and was like oh my god please be one be one of my best friends. It was Spade's assistant.

And I couldn't have loved her more instantly. She like got off this elevator. I was just like, oh my God. I was so nervous to meet her because I hear so much about her from David. And she was just amazing. And then we got to talking and she was saying that like, she never really felt,

she never had like really good girlfriends. I mean, I'm paraphrasing, but she just never, she went through life without like finding a good group of girlfriends. And I have a couple of girlfriends like that, that just never found the type of support I found so early on. And if you're one of those people, it's not because you weren't cool and,

and because cool people wouldn't want to be friends with you. It really is like luck, you know, like I got lucky in fourth grade that I was, I got to switch desks and sit next to Kirsten Floorman because I didn't have any friends until her and that was my first real friend and and I was thinking back on it because Kirsten heard me talk crying the other day about how I wanted to kill myself when I was in third grade and how sad that was and how if I didn't

meet her I I don't know what would have happened honestly I don't I because she no I couldn't talk to anyone the way I talked to Kirsten and like we shared things that I still don't share with people I couldn't tell my parents things I couldn't tell my sister so I just got lucky I truly got lucky meeting that person in it and it takes one I always thought it was like oh it's me I'm just so cool that I like naturally got all these friends no it was just luck that there were these three awesome women that I got to be close to and so many people go to high school if I went to a different high school it wouldn't

have been the same or different grade level there were no other girls at grade levels that I would have been that close with I knew them all and there was no one so it just it's all luck I mean I yeah you get if you could get just one great friend and then it could kind of you know dribble down like the other kids wanted to be cool with me because i was best friends with the starting quarterback who happened to be the coolest kid

in school for some reason took me in yeah and because of that because i was a jewish kid in an all-christian school and I was very small and this big like meathead Italian guy took me into this family and liked me because I was funny and then that kind of steamrolled into other people if there's a hundred people in a room and one of them is a big Italian man and likes you that one person could be your Bradley Cooper. No, it's like it's so true. And I just and that's why I like this podcast so much, because I know that when people write and say they listen every day and feel like they're our friends. I know that there are so many people out there that just like work with a bunch of losers or you went to high school and all your friends just like suck now. And maybe you didn't have good friends in high school.

You just haven't had a chance to meet cool people and if you feel like you could be friends with me I bet you would and I would be your friend you just happen to not be lucky enough to like meet those not lucky but like it's just chance you know and and you gotta expose yourself obviously to new groups of people and and force yourself to do things out of your comfort zone but some people have social anxiety and thank god for the internet and being able to develop friends that way. And this podcast, I hope people feel less alone because of this. Next story. All right.

During a video visitation with her jailed boyfriend, a woman exposed her breasts and masturbated. Cops later showed up at her home. Yeah. What else would you do on a video call with your boyfriend who's in jail? I know. Exactly. I mean.

And they arrested her, though, for exposure of a sexual organ in a public place. I mean, who are these cops? Are they watching the video? You can't fucking... The funny thing is, though, if you get into the details of it, Andrew. Yeah. So she was... Oh, okay, okay.

She was in the visitor's building. So she wasn't at home or anything. But there was something. Oh, so it was like a. Okay. Well, she did all this stuff. You want to read it, Andrew? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So the visitation occurred via internet feed. The woman was in the video visitation building. Okay. So she's in like the cell phone lot. When I read it, I thought she was at home too. Okay. So I didn't realize she was just... She was like on campus.

But the point where they canceled the visit, like everything that happened before is like it took that long. Okay, so during their visit, they were speaking of sexual activities. The woman frequently flaunted and rubbed her breasts. Oh, Billy. Showing and revealing her outfit that she was wearing, calling her outfit naughty.

After the boyfriend asked if he could come for her, she began to rock back and forth in her chair, appearing to have an orgasm. Appearing to have an orgasm. I like how they go, she could have been faking it. We don't know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We cannot confirm or deny that she actually had one, but she appeared to have one. But was it, I mean... Maybe they were reenacting that scene from When Harry Met Sally.

Back in the day, what was that thing? Conjugal visits or whatever? Yeah, but that happens in like a trailer alone. Yeah, but that was, they have to clean up and everything. This is on their own. I would think this isn't as bad. I wonder if she was like, there were other people with an earshot.

They were all in, there had to have been. Oh, that's a good point. Was she in a single room? If she had orgasms like I did, no one would have caught her. It would have been like. I thought you were loud. No, no. I'd make squealy noises and I'd cover my eyes.

And I'm just like. What are you, quagmire? People would think I'm having a. I go like. And then sometimes I laugh. That's all, folks. I go like. I make such weird noises.

You ever throw your face in the pillow? Oh, yeah. Because you gotta. Oh, yeah. Yeah, that's a fun one. But, I mean, do you think this girl should be a right i mean she got arrested i mean what what else are they gonna be doing in there having a conversation about north korea it's like i want to they canceled the visit not when she was

rocking back and forth like having the orgasm or whatever it's when she pulled up her shirt and exposed her boobs they're like okay this visit is over. Yeah, I mean, this woman, yes, she should be arrested. I mean, this is like a lewd, indecent behavior. It's just like, you know, like I don't really think anyone should be arrested. I mean, she should just be told to get the hell out. Just a slap on the wrist. And then he's gonna go visit her,

and then it's gonna just perpetuate the cycle. He's gonna take out his dick. I wonder if a man could show his nipples and take off his shirt during a visit and that it's going to just perpetuate the cycle. He's going to take out his dick. I wonder if a man could show his nipples and take off his shirt during a visit and that it would be okay. Or maybe it's like a 7-Eleven. No shirt, no shoes, no... Problem.

No Slurpees. What's your favorite Slurpee flavor? I mean, I always go with Coke. Mixed with cherry or no? I don't know, but I'm guessing that's your go-to. Yeah. And you dip a Snickers in it. I almost got you some Snickers yesterday at Schnucks.

Snickers at Schnucks? I was going to get you some Snickers at Schnucks, but then I was like, you know what? I'll just get him some Himalaya salt popcorn. Oh, that's to my heart. That's to your heart. I bought a bunch of Zevias right before I left. I know you did.

It'll remind me of it forever and ever. Let's get some more in here. New research shows a moral bias. You're going to love this. Favoring beautiful people and things. I did say bias incorrectly. I know. I thought you said buyers.

And I had a buyer's remorse on hiring you as my co-host. I had a moral buyer's remorse. It sounds like Len bias is what I. Wait, so there's a moral there's a a bias for people that are more attractive true okay um researchers found that external characteristics play a key role in how we judge morality they also found that an animal's beauty also with animals oh yeah beauty predicts if people will think it deserves compassion oh of course yeah i know it's that's

why i sent garrett a picture uh garrett and i were dming this morning or like texting about uh the time switch for f boy island garrett uh from f boy island and uh he was i was asking him about like if him and casey are living together yet and he was talking about how you know uh casey needs to like they need to like uh they might do a goFundMe to get Casey to move there and Garrett might match whatever GoFundMe is raised for Casey to make the move. He might match it and donate it to an animal charity. I was like, oh, that'd be funny if you did a parody video with Casey where it's like in the arms of an F

boy and it's like shows Casey like sad and like shaking and then and then you make a video and I was like because you guys are funny like capitalize on you guys are both have good comedic timing and uh and he was and I go that's cool that you would you know do it for the animals he's like yeah I love I'm like so obsessed with animals I love them so much and I go are you vegan he goes no I like fish and then I sent him an article that said fish have feelings. And he's like, I know, I know I'm cutting back.

Um, fish and women have feelings. Garrett. I sent him an article about that too. Um, no, but he doesn't eat women. Yeah,

that's true. Well, I don't know. He, last night I was, I'm like, I binged F boy last night. I didn't finish the episodes.

Thank God. Cause I woke up this morning and realized that we get to push it until tomorrow. But, oh my God, FBoy Island is so good. Can I just say? It's like, it's the best reality show. And I know that I know, like, you know, you know that if you're watching it.

It's so good. I enjoyed myself so much. What are you talking about the choke hold I posted that I saw that was so hot oh wait Noah and I have a question yes we do Andrew wait a second Noah do you want to ask it

cause okay let me just say that we're referencing a picture of Garrett that I took on my story where he is making out with Sarah and he grabs her neck yeah and it just was like so hot and Noah and I that I took on my story where he is making out with Sarah and he grabs her neck. Yeah. And it just was like so hot. And Noah and I and Andrew were all in this chat together and we were talking about FBoy. And Noah sent the picture and is like,

holy shit, this is hot. And I was like, it's the hottest thing I've ever seen in my life. We were going off about it. And then separately, I wrote to Noah and I said, I guarantee you, Andrew is going to try this on Brenna. Oh, I've done that move. No, but I bet you anything you intentionally did it this time around.

Can I be honest? Yes. A thousand percent honest. The picture did not download on my phone. I never saw the photo there, but I'm a big choker. I'm a big choker. Okay. I got little hands, so I need to use both of them.

Yeah, that was really hot. And, like, I don't know. Everyone's going, how could Sarah choose him? How could she? And I love Josh, too. But Josh, again, is nine years older than Sarah. And Garrett like is, he's fine.

He grabbed her fucking neck. And listen, don't do that unless a girl's consenting. And, and Sarah was very into it. And like, like I, at least from what I can tell, I don't speak for her,

but, um, it was so hot. And, uh, and I don't know, I feel, I did a call with the New York times that I feel like Garrett will never speak to me again

after the things I said. But I was just saying that like, I'm attracted to people like Garrett despite myself too. And I understand. I advise Sarah that I think she should choose Garrett and trust him and that he was gonna pick her. I really thought he would and you'll see what happens oh yeah

but it's you know it's already out there but it's like you got you gotta watch guys watch up Boy Island and if you want to catch up for our show tomorrow I really recommend just like zipping through on the app and you can do kind of you can jump through to get to the end because where we're really

gonna get spicy is 7 8 9 10 I wouldn't skip it if you don't have to get to the end because where we're really going to get spicy is seven, eight, nine, ten. I wouldn't skip it if you don't have to. But if you want to be able to like watch our show, listen to our show tomorrow with all the context. I think people should leave their jobs early, like turn off their phones and just watch the whole thing because it's so good. Do not skip. I mean, everyone I've been talking to is saying I've watched it all in 24 hours. Like I cannot stop. And I got so invested is saying I've watched it all in 24 hours. Like, I cannot stop. And I got so invested yesterday.

I was laughing at my own jokes. I was laughing at jokes from Sarah's really funny. She's been making me laugh a lot. Like, Chris gets eliminated. Like, Chris, I would have Chris on the show, too, and ask him why he was always sweating. And because he was the mole, you know. I have random people writing me, like, what's going on with Garrett? And it's like people that I did not think would be watching F.Y. Island.

People are obsessed. It's everyone's going, this is the best trash TV. It's like, no, it's not trash. It's really well done and it's hilarious and it's very self-aware. And it's, God, there were so many and it's hilarious and it's very self-aware and it's um god there were so many moments yesterday that i had a lot of fun i did a cover of the fy island theme song because once you watch 10 episodes you start to learn the theme song that's i like them boys i like them boys that's it that's all it is i love it it's so good i like them boys

i like them boys i i them boys I love when you you first hear a theme song and you go I don't really like this and then by the fifth listen you just go I do like them boys and Casey coming back after being in Limbro I did not know how that was going to look

on the show because I was worried when it was happening I was like is this going to be so lame it's so funny really it's really good now is it uh does it come off real or comes off like it's aware listen like we we didn't we didn't let casey just like hitch random rides but casey wanted to escape and we facilitated it on the show. I mean, everyone needs to watch this, especially things in Limbro. Limbro is a scenario that was built

to generate comedy. So I hope that you suspend your disbelief when you watch Limbro. There's no way I can sleep outside there. They're sleeping outside without shelter. They're working out with wood. You know what? Before we get to why do I care,

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Why do I care? Bridgerton star Phoebe. Oh, Phoebe and Pete broke up. Yep. There you go. Yep. I saw this. and Pete broke up. Yep. There you go. Yep. I saw this.

Yeah. Five months. Okay. Well, we only saw them one time, I think. They were spotted at like the US Open. A tennis game, yes. Yeah. Tennis game, tennis match.

Long distance relationship. We're going to a... It was... Oh, it was long distance. You know, someone was saying on Reddit last night that he loved bombs women, which is a thing that gets thrown around a lot. What kind of women? He loved bombs women.

Oh, he loved bombs. Loved bombs. I'm sorry. I thought like a bombs woman. Oh, he loves bombs women. Bombs women. Bias. Yeah, I mean, I care because, you know, we all remember him in ariana grande and how hot

and heavy that was and uh i i i love it you know i want that kind of passion i love it and i'm reading about it right now in this book i'm reading called the human magnet syndrome which is like narcissists and codependents get together and there's a thing called limerence, which is the thing I love more than anything. I've been very outspoken about how I want that kind of love that's so intense, obsessed with each other, blood in vials around each other's necks, fucking on the way to the Oscars in the car. I'm talking about Billy Bob Thornton and Angelina,

and also Angelina and her brother at one point did that on the way to the Oscars in the car. I'm talking about Billy Bob Thornton and Angelina and also Angelina and her brother at one point did that on the way to the red carpet. But like it's called limerence and it was I think it was coined in the 1970s by a scientist that was studying human behavior when people fall in love. And there is, you know, there's oxytocin gets shot off like crazy when two people meet especially two people

at opposite ends of like narcissism and codependent if you get a narcissist that's a five on a scale of one to five and you get a codependent that's a negative five on a scale of negative five to zero in terms of like doesn't like themselves you get the the perfect match for a limerence that will last and it lasts up to two years, but generally much shorter than that. And it can't, it will not sustain. And so when you see these people,

limerence is like, I don't even care that the, the, it doesn't last and that it can't last and that it will be devastating once it goes away. And I love, love that obsessive, like, want to fuck each other all the time and lick each other. With a love bomb. Love bombing is just like, I don't think Pete Davidson love bombs.

People like to toss that around. But that's when a guy knowingly has intent to seduce a woman and make him fall in love with her. Make her fall in love with him so that he can control her and use her and then has no intention of actually sticking it through. A lot of times it gets said to guys that are just suffering through limerence and having that oxytocin,

telling this girl all these things that they actually feel in the moment but then they can't actually live up to because their body chemistry changes. They have orgasms that make them want to run and fuck something new and they can't help it. So love bombing is a thing that is it's very rare that someone is sociopathic enough to go. I'm going to lie to this woman and tell her all the things she wants to hear so that I can get whatever. I mean, it literally could just be their long distance.

It's hard to travel right now. It doesn't make sense. Yeah. Let's revisit it literally could just be they're long distance. It's hard to travel right now. It doesn't make sense. Let's revisit it maybe another time. We put these huge things on these celebrities. We love to use these things that are in the DSM that people that there are not as many sociopaths

as girls would like to have you believe based on their ex-boyfriends. There just aren't. It's not a, you know, it's statistically not that frequent for someone. They could have sociopathic tendencies or like some of the same traits as a sociopath. But being a true sociopath, let's hope there aren't as many as women accused their boyfriends of being. And I guess like the result couldn't seem like a sociopath. Like the end result can be the same result

that a sociopath would get to if he was planning it. That can go unplanned of a guy that just like isn't interested in you anymore. But he doesn't, yeah, it's interesting. I've had so many times where that spark just falls away and I don't know what to do. And I feel so bad that I don't like this person anymore. And so I do have a lot of empathy for the guys in my past that have suddenly just,

their switch turned off. Where it's not premeditated. It's just like, you wake up one day. And I go, oh, you knew. You shouldn't have said things. And yet, to be honest, you shouldn't promise things that you really aren't, that it's too early to say that stuff. I hope those guys learn from that and don't maybe say that,

knowing that it could too early to say that stuff, I hope those guys learn from that and don't maybe say that knowing that it could go away. So now when I feel strongly about someone, I really do proceed with so much more caution because I know that that can go away really soon. Because are you telling them what they want? No, I'm just telling them what I feel. No, no, not you. I'm just saying like,

why are you doing it? Ask yourself, but are you love bombing to get them to love you back or do you actually really love them? Like why are you doing it? Ask yourself why are you – but are you love bombing to get them to love you back or do you actually really love them? Like why are you doing it? The problem with narcissists – and let me just say this. If you're dealing with a narcissist, narcissists cannot ever look at themselves and know that they need to change because they think they're perfect. That's the catch with narcissists.

It's an untreatable illness especially people with you know there's narcissistic people but being an actual narcissist like diagnosed narcissist it's almost uh and same with sociopaths they don't want to change because they think they're perfect donald trump will never want to do the work and not think you're perfect uh well it comes from deep down insecurity and feeling like not that you're not good enough but narcissists will never admit that or be able to look inside but that is where it comes from let's get to reddit dump man yeah i learned a lot in this book the the human magnet syndrome check it out um all right let's get to the reddit dump uh you guys know that i go on reddit every

single very night of my life i look forward to it i save it till the end of the day uh okay this was from too afraid to ask it's the subred the day. Okay. This was from Too Afraid to Ask. It's the subreddit Too Afraid to Ask. This person asked, what are the differences between sex and porn and in real life? My friends often talk about how the two things are very different. As someone who has only seen such things on screen, I wonder what the differences are. And I just wanted to read some of the top comments because I thought they were funny. Someone said, I can't confirm this is true for all women, but a lot of women aren't going

to suck your dick for 45 minutes. I thought that was a great one. And you know what? It made me so sad to read that a girl wrote in response to this. My ex would make me do that longer, actually. We'd make it through almost an entire two-hour movie. My neck would hurt for days after

that. I started hating oral. It wasn't fun anymore. Girls, if you're out there doing anything you don't want to do for even a minute, a millisecond, just try to, you know, if you're doing it because you're like, oh, I want to please this person. It's not my favorite, but I love him so much. Like, I want him to feel good, and it makes me feel good that he feels good. That's different. If you're really not enjoying it and you're like resenting it,

please try to get the self-esteem to stop it. It's so hard to do though. I've been in those shoes. Watch shorter movies. I've been on those knees. You know. Yeah, watch, yeah.

Don't do like Shawshank or like Schindler's List. Those are all, well, those are very sad. Yeah, just. To be sucking someone's dick too anyways, but. I like to suck dick to TikToks. I go, let's watch this TikTok together.

Spring back vine. In porn, the women tend to be okay with pretty much anything the guy wants to do. Stick it in wrong, go for it. Stick it in the back door, sure. Shove a fist up there, no problem. People have already said it, but communication is important.

Different women like different things and you have to figure out and refigure out each partner as the individual they are okay that that goes without saying i think um uh this one was i felt going back to that yeah please when do you talk about that though do you talk about it while in the moment or do you talk about it before that like over lunch or something you know i liked garrett's approach on f boy island of asking sarah what she's into and what she prefers what her favorite foreplay is i think those are important conversations to have before that stuff starts because you shouldn't be doing it if you know that's too uncomfortable to talk about before

we're doing it well you should be able to you shouldn't be sleeping with someone you can't talk honestly about sex with. How about that's the litmus for like, let's now get together and take your clothes off. But you know, let's be honest. Those things often happen. Clothes start coming off and making out happens and all that stuff sooner than

you think. The, the problem is, and I just, I want every woman out there to know that like, and every man to know that just because a woman's making out with you in a room alone does not mean that she's wants to do anything else and women that's okay if you don't want to do anything else if you just want to make out

that like they and they take out their dick i've had so many guys take out their dick while we're making out and i'm just like and a lot of times i've just sucked it because i'm like you know this was in my act, but I just didn't want to make him feel bad, you know, or embarrassed. And now I just go put, no, no, not yet. You don't deserve that yet.

Let's hang out a little bit more. I don't feel comfortable doing that. And that's okay. It's hard though. It's hard to do. The last one I'll read is, women don't really want their cervix smashed. And then that line reminded me that, you should fuck me then that's the problem sometimes is like i when you get i like getting

pounded sometimes but sometimes it starts to hurt and i go what is bad what's going on and this isn't someone with like a giant giant dick i mean it's like an average penis in my past and it just is like what is it hitting and it hurts and sometimes i'm like ah no and i guess it's my cervix i didn't know that i learned you learned something new well i feel like uh there's a difference when you're like doing like doggy style and like a you see it in a porn where it's just like yeah you're gonna take this bitch and it's like you know there's like actual tears or like and like, no, that's not romantic to just hammer. They might have to just shit like you did. Yeah,

that's true. With the tears. Or they just might be questioning their career choice. The one that I want to actually have. This is also in too afraid to ask. This said, I thought of you for this one. People who have sucked their own dick,

which by the way, there's a lot of people apparently. If I suck my own dick, will I feel the dick in my mouth more? Or will I feel my dick getting sucked more and let me just tell you everyone in this comment who said that they've sucked their own dick says it's it it's definitely you feel like you're sucking a dick more than you're getting your dick sucked because it's such a you've had your dick sucked before probably and touched in that way with like something wet. But you've never had a dick in your mouth. And that is a different feeling.

And then someone said something about 69ing. When you 69, like you can't really enjoy it as much because you're focused on what you're doing. So it's almost like you're 69ing yourself. But I think if you sucked your dick every day, once every three days. Or practice on those little. It would start changing. Practice on a dildo. Well, my point being is like you jerk off. You day, once every three days. Or practice on those little. It would start changing. Practice on a dildo. Well,

my point being is like, you jerk off, you don't feel your own dick. You eventually just feel the feeling that your hand gives your dick. You see what I'm saying? Yes. Yes.

So eventually, if you keep putting your dick in your mouth, you're not, you're going to just start feeling a blowjob. You're holding your dick. Yeah. Okay, that makes sense.

And then this one was really fun. It's from Ask Reddit. And I thought, and this actually takes us back to your story a little bit. What's the weirdest thing you've seen happen at a friend's house that they thought was normal? And this is like, this was a wild thread to read.

There was a story of, and this kind of happened to me there was one person that said that they ate dinner with a family and everyone was quiet the entire dinner and didn't talk and that happened to me once i remember my family my mom always made like five different like she would always get all the food groups for every dinner which i just assumed everyone got no and i went to go to a girl's house that had a lovely family and all they had was spaghetti. They didn't have a salad with it or bread.

It was just spaghetti. And I remember just being like, Mom, they only ate spaghetti. It was just so weird. Someone said, not really weird, I guess, but the first time in my husband's parents' house, I got to see what a hoarder house looked like. It wasn't even a well-known term back then.

So it really just shocked me seeing the giant mounds of stuff everywhere. I think that's a very common one that people will see, hoarder stuff. Yeah, another hoarder. Have you ever seen anything, Andrew? I mean, like the dinner thing, I would go to a friend's house

and they would like all sit down and they'd each have their three plates and their four. Like everything was set up and that was nothing like my house. My house, my mom would, you know, microwave cream on the corn and I'd eat alone. Yeah. You know, we weren't a big eating together as a family. Right. You know, but so, yeah.

But I'm trying to think like what was you know some houses like the cool parents that would party with the kids and let their kids drink like it was normal yeah and then i've told you this before i tried to bring beer home to my dad as a senior god and you were trying to be the cool kid yeah and he's like no you're not gonna fucking bring bud light here that's not gonna happen like you're not bringing beer but there are a lot of the cool dad the cool mom wait can you just give me an uh an impression of you in front of your friends like my dad's will let us like let me just like ask my dad my dad will be cool about it just you know we i drank on a cruise so he lets me drink on a cruise so i'm sure it won't be a big deal we'll just drink up in my room so i'll – let me talk to my dad real quick.

All right. Yeah, Dad. Yeah. So, I mean – I just got a call that you died, so I'm busy eating lunch. Yeah, yeah. Callback. That's a long callback.

So, Dad. Yeah. Yeah, son? Yeah, so – Call me doctor. Call me doctor. Me, Jordan, and Danny, we just – I mean, I know it's not going to be a big deal or anything, but we're thinking about grabbing some beers, you know, like a case or something, just drinking

upstairs. No, you're not. No, but we're just going to stay up here. No, son, I'm leaving your mother. Fuck you. Bye. No, you already left mom, dad. Oh, at this point?

Yeah. Like for a few years now, you're remarried. I just like you being so cool. It's so funny. Dude, it was the worst. It was so embarrassing. Final thought. I once was in a car

with a girl in second grade and we were with her family. I remember we went to Aldi. Her family is kind of like poor and that's fine. And I remember our car got hit by a BB gun, like a gun. Something hit the car.

They didn't have to wear seatbelts, which I was shocked by. And also the parents got into a huge argument on the way back from Aldi and the dad hit the mom. What? I just now remember. Hit her and – In the face? Like I think in the face. And obviously that had never happened in my house my dad would always just like kick my mom yeah so it was just like cleats on yeah i had never seen someone like strike but yeah i remember that

and was just like oh shit this happens and i also remember that i had a really good friend who's uh i remember just being so sad for her because her dad never said I love you. Like her dad was very like cold and like just not like, and she would tell me, I would be like, your dad like doesn't ever hug you

or like say I love you. And she's like, no, he just doesn't really do that. He just, and my dad is like the opposite of that. I mean, he says va va va voom when I walk into a room.

Like my dad's very, he gives you hickeys. He kissed me on the lips until I was 26. And then you got a little too heavy for him. Oh, God. Yeah, he just didn't like – Yeah, when I was 26, I put on five pounds, and my dad refused to kiss me anymore.

He was over it. Yeah. But I just remember being so sad for my friend that her dad didn't say I love you ever and like hug her and kiss her and like love on her. And then I got older and I realized that my mom never did that. I was like so sad. Like how could your dad not love you? And it's just it's not because my mom didn't love me. My mom just wasn how could your dad not love you and it's like and it's just it's

not because my mom didn't love me my mom just wasn't good at saying i love you her love language is ignoring you yeah her love language is putting away dishes angrily and that's what is your love language have we talked about this mine yeah uh either acts of service i like presents that are thoughtful acts of service acts of service you like presents you like thoughtful. Ass of service. Ass of service. You like presents? You like gifts? Yeah. And I like a little bit of physical touch, but not crazy. Not crazy.

What about you, Noah? My number one is physical touch. Okay. And then quality time. But not behind the knee. Not behind the knee. Don't touch. No.

Not that ligament. Go on the tendon behind the knee. Yeah, the tendon. What's yours? Ass of service? No, no, no. Quality time is the second. Okay.

And then, wait, let me just ask you, is Avi, does his match yours, or does he have to kind of, did you guys have to communicate them and be like- He thought his was physical touch, but it's actually, wait, what is it called? It's quality time and then,

I forgot. Well, whatever it is, I hope it's not remembering things that are important to me. That's so funny. No, but it's best in a relationship if your love language doesn't match up. His quality time is rare.

Oh, that's good. Yeah, you guys do a lot of stuff together, and that's always very sweet. Mine is compliments and physical touch. Compliments. Yeah. What is it? Words of affirmation, I guess, is the way they put it.

Yeah, that's nice. That is nice. Because the other day, this guy that I'm kind of seeing was just saying, like, God, that picture of you was stunning like oh my like sending me pictures that he took and was like jesus christ you're so like just always commenting on how beautiful i am and and and i'm always just and i always give it back but it's like i don't want to just give it back because he's like it sometimes feels like i'm just saying it but i do feel that way so sometimes i'm just like thank you and he kind of had a moment where he was like does this does this get like should I not be doing this because he heard

me say that I don't like my girlfriends to comment on my looks and I don't like to be just don't comment on my looks because when you don't comment on my looks and I think I'm ugly and he goes should I not be doing this like I don't want to like trigger you is very sweet to ask that and I was like no no no from you that's all i fucking want i want to hear how desirable i am i just want to like i want to feel like so perfect in your eyes and i loved i go anytime you ever feel compelled to tell me i'm beautiful please let me know and uh so yeah it's definitely that and but but touch though that's a harder thing to get from guys especially ones that don't ones that don't like it themselves.

Again, it comes back to the sucking your own dick. If you don't like physical touch for yourself, is touching someone going to not feel as good? I feel like it would feel less. It's not like I'm asking you to touch me with your stomach. Because Brenna is physical touch. Yeah. And she likes to give me facials which you know and so you like to give her facials too but no but she likes to give me like five step

facials which i i love it and i think she really loves just touching my face yeah and helping and like i don't know just like providing service and almost quality time and a gift all in one. Oh, it's a great. Dude, if you're a girl and you give your guy like a four or five step facial, he might act like all tough. Yeah, I don't need it. Whatever. They love it. I love giving massages.

I'm ups. I love it more than getting massages. I love it. And the guy that I'm seeing kind of now does not like to be massaged. But man, I just want to like rub up. I love like, you know, like pushing on a muscle and like making. I just love it. But do you love it for you or for the feeling that the person's getting?

I want to give the person a feeling that I feel like massages feel good. Yeah. And I like to touch them and like make them feel good and like just feel like I can feel the tension and their like emotions in their back. Most women when they massage me they'll do three minutes and literally they'll start like in the past so I feel bad. I know that's why I don't

like getting them either I always feel bad but that's why when I was dating this one guy and I go you don't have to do this he goes I want to I don't I wouldn't be doing I'll stop when I don't want to you don't have to stop me. And I was like, freedom. Freedom. Ah,

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