The Prepper Broadcasting Network - Matter of Facts: Finding Balance

Episode Date: May 13, 2024

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Welcome back to Matterfacts Podcast on the Prepper Broadcasting Network. We talk prepping guns and politics every week on iTunes, Stitcher, and Spotify. Go check out our content at mofpodcast.com on Facebook or Instagram. You can support us via Patreon or by checking out our affiliate partners. I'm your host, Phil Rabelais, and my co-host Andrew Bobo is on the other side of the mic, and here's your show. Welcome back to MatterFacts Podcast. There are no banners today. This is going to be a nice lighthearted show, hopefully, maybe. We have Jay Ferg from Phoenix Survival joining me and Andrew and the topic of the show is finding

balance because recently Andrew and I had a personal discussion that got me thinking about, you know, like burnout and what happens when adulting gets to the best of us. And when you add, you know, like the focal point of this show has always been preparedness and prepared citizens. And when you add that on top of just regular nine to five adulting and dealing with kids and spouses and PTA meetings and all that crap, kids and spouses and PTA meetings and all that crap, then you get into a situation where like it's really, really easy for a person to get just completely down in a rut, overwhelmed, always thinking about, you know, the next thing to get to on the to-do list. And I have personally felt, and I suspect everybody has personally felt that, wear them down to a nub. So I thought that bore discussing today because, you know, everything that we do here is in the name of being able to care for ourselves and our families. But if it, if it grinds us down into the dust, we're not able

to do that. So I have spoken for two minutes straight. Somebody needs to tell me to shut up and like, you know. No, the softer, kinder side of Phil is kind of cute. My wife and daughter would agree with you. They're usually the only ones that get to see it. But I mean, you know, it bears pointing out, like I've been, Andrew knows, I was, the other, the show we did just a couple of days ago where I was like, oh, I feel like I'm having an allergy attack. No, it was not an allergy attack. It was a sinus infection because the next morning I was like down for the count. I put in about five hours of work and then I was I had to take the rest of the day off.

I took a nap in the middle of the day, which I never do. And I was just I was goofed up like I, you know, Dayquil is a hell of a drug. I don't understand how Dayquil and Nyquil are not controlled substance, but cocaine is because I was high as a kite off of Dayquil and Nyquil. It's not the same chemical component. I can tell you exactly what's in each of those medications. Yeah. Well, all I know is the end effect was I would not have trusted myself to operate heavy machinery at, at, in the state I was in. But you know, it was one of those things where like, I, my wife and I actually, we were discussing it not three minutes before I sat down with y'all. And, uh, this morning I told her, or last night I told her, Hey, before you and Piper

head out the door, wake me up. Cause I want to say goodbye to him for the day. And I woke up at 830 and the house was empty. And I was like, nobody woke me up. What the hell? So we she and I were talking about it. And she was like, well, you were snoring, you retired, you need your sleep. And I'm like, I didn't need my sleep. I was fine. I needed to wake up and say, yeah. But you know, it is it's one of those things where like, I happily admit that there is a large component of my personality. And I couldn't tell you if it if it stems from, like, my time as a combat veteran, if it stems from, like, my personality as a prepper, if it's just like part of being dad and husband. But, like, I don't know how to downshift. I don't know how to.

Oh, I'm going to take it easy or I'm going to I'm not going to work on something today. I don't know how to downshift. I don't know how to, oh, I'm going to take it easy or I'm going to, I'm not going to work on something today. I don't know how to do that. It's constant. Go, go, go, go, go. I'm the same way. I think it comes back to that old saying, you know, the idle hands are the devil's playground. So we grew up in a generation where idleness is laziness. And to feel like you're even being remotely lazy means you're

not getting anything done so for me it's the same way like chris will laugh at me because he's like can't you sit down and watch a movie and i'm like no not very well i i really can't i can't sit still so i'm sewing or crocheting or in the garden or cooking or cleaning or something because I cannot sit still. Cannot. What about you, Andrew? Is this three-way Venn diagram like hitting a center point for you, or are you the rare exception out of the three of us that can like type B personality and just take a personal day? Well, I just woke up.

No, no, because I'm one out of three, one out of three. Oh no. I mean, no, I mean, I get it. I understand. And you know, you're, you're constantly going, I mean, when it comes to work, uh, when it comes to my full-time job, yeah. I mean, I'm constantly going, it's, it's always usually pretty busy. Uh, I mean, picking up overtime, picking up, I mean, just working two, three weeks in a row, uh, just trying to just basically not having any time. I, I work, I come home, I sleep, I wake up. Rinse and repeat. Yeah. And, uh, lately, uh, with the new job, uh, like the job shift that I've had now, I can't pick up overtime.

So I got more downtime. And so it's been it's been a change. But like today, I mean, was it yesterday? I did some running around, mowed the lawn, did a bunch of stuff around the house today. around mowed the lawn did a bunch of stuff around the house today i just woke up and it was one of those things where like i mean i woke up at i don't know nine o'clock or 8 30 or whatever it was and i'm like today is not it's going to be a day where i do nothing and it was just it's been kind of a dreary day out a little bit it's been raining um i mean it's it's spring so it's in michigan here springtime is usually where i mean it freaking rains all the time and so like i was thinking i'm like i'll go camping and uh then tomorrow i actually have to meet up with some family for a memorial and so i'm like well i

could go camping okay i could go i'd have to be i'd have to be up and out of the campsite by like around 8 30 9 o'clock i'm like you know no i'm just gonna relax well i ended up sitting there just kind of chilling and yeah i fell asleep on the couch and i woke up i'm like oh it's 5 45 so uh but no i mean that was like uh single i mean single no kids i guess also working second but for context you work second shift so like yeah So you have to arrange your – I guess what I want to tell the listenership is to understand what he's saying, you have to arrange your workday eight hours later in the day than most of his work to understand how to equate that to normal people. Are you still doing the other on the side? Was it EMS firefighting? What was it?

No, I was doing firefighter on the side a few years ago. But since I quit doing that and then I moved, when I bought my house, I moved. And I haven't picked up the fire side of it anymore. So it's just basically, yeah, working security supervisor now. So, I mean, I did did have some i had some administrative stuff i had to take care of on you know being day off and stuff like that i had to get some stuff in um for the guys and everything but uh i mean so i did it was like 30 minutes of uh of work really but um no it yeah it's interesting i just i i don't mind going hard and taking, not taking time off and doing it.

But at the same time, when it comes down to a day of relaxing, I, I mean, I'm, like I said, I'm single. I have no kids. I really don't have any pressing matters going on. So it's just like, if it's not going to happen, if something's going, if something's that I don't need to do, if it, if it means relaxing, then yeah. I mean, if I, if someone calls and says, Hey, can you come, you know, want to hang out or do whatever, then yeah, by all means, I'm going to do it.

Get out of the house and stuff. But at the same time, it's just like, I'm completely okay with being a homebody and that's, you know, and that's honestly, and that's funny. Cause in my dating profile, I put that. I said, I like being active. I like getting out, but I'm okay being a homebody. So wait, wait, wait. Where can the listeners find you if they're looking for a homebody? Grindr. Oh. I thought you had your girlfriend from the jail place.

Nah. I thought about, I found the website where you can actually write um and nate's times are hard no but all the seriousness i like it sorry i i get i guess what i think about though is like the fact that like yeah you you can you have, you have that mindset where you're able to just like take a day and be lazy and not feel like a complete douche canoe afterwards, which I am still trying to work on. Yeah, same. But at the same time that, that day in, day out, I go to work, I'm a homebody.

That can be dangerous too. Well, yeah. I'm also, okay, so this is, I've said this before, and it always sounds weird saying it on the podcast, but like, I am an extraordinary introvert, which most people find very, very shocking because, you know, Andrew and I have been podcasting for about eight years now. Like, I've been in content. I've had my face on the internet for eight years. So when I talk about how, oh, yeah, I'm a major introvert, like I'm very private. I'm very quiet. I don't like being out in public. I don't like going out around a lot of people. People are shocked because they're like, but you've been showing your face on the internet for eight years.

And I'm like, but I'm only ever talking to, like, one or two people. So as long as I keep that in my headspace, I'm okay with that. But, like, when I go to prepper camp, Gillian knows that when I get – as soon as I get in the truck on my way home, I need that 12 hours to decompress. Because as much as I love meeting people, it drains me. By the time I get done with all that, I am emotionally exhausted. I've been keyed up and had the dial turned to 11 for three days straight.

And I am ready to be by myself for a couple of hours. I think that's where I'm a little opposite of you is I work remote from home now. So I'm not on my feet 24 seven. So as soon as I get off the computer, I don't want to sit down anymore after sitting for as long as I have all day, not included in the overtime. I will go out for a hike. Usually after work, I actually will take the stroller and my son and I will walk almost two miles around the neighborhood and then come back before I start my evening with the cooking and cleaning, whatever. Because I'm going to be honest with you, being trapped in the house from nine to five all week drives me stir crazy that Chris works out of the home. So when he comes home, he wants to sit down and decompress. I need to get out of the house because I'm going stir crazy.

Well, the house has turned the house. I mean, working from home, working from home has helped a lot of people, especially from COVID and stuff like that. But it's, but when your home turns into your office for eight hours of the day, I mean, like you need to get out of the office, you know, I need to get out of the office. I need to get out of the house. I just need to do something. And that's why I'll go for walks. I spend the rest of my evening in the garden or working with the chickens and playing with my son outside just so I do not have, well, cause this bedroom is my office space. So until I have to actually go to sleep and sometimes we don't even sleep in the bedroom just because I'm like, I don't want to go back upstairs.

Not a problem. We've got a huge, comfortable couch. I will fall asleep right there and not give two shits. Yeah. Yeah. No, I mean, but that's the thing is like, you know, talking about ruts and stuff like that and routines really. I mean, a routine isn't a terrible thing to have. But like what Phil and I were talking about yesterday,

texting back and forth is a rut. And so, yeah, I mean, I like relax and I like kind of having a day off where I just don't do a single thing. I might sit on the porch and smoke a few cigars, but that's about it. I mean, you know, but at the same time, though, is that can be dangerous because if it goes into, okay, now instead of work, work, sleep, repeat, it's like, OK, work, sleep, repeat for your days on and then your days off. You just sit around the house and do nothing. That still is not a very good thing.

I mean, that's and that's kind of why I built my truck out with my thought process of building the truck like I did, where I can just throw a, my electric cooler in and maybe a couple of change of clothes and I can just get on the road and go somewhere to interrupt that rut, to get out of that routine, that bad routine of, okay, I'm just going to go home. And then I'm, you know, my day's off. I'm going to sit, I'm going to sit at home and I'm going to do nothing. Like, I mean, try to get out and do something, even if it's going out in the woods. We do the same, but I ended up going down to the beach. There's a few private beaches. I will load up Jericho. I will, Chris will sometimes come with, if he wants to, if he doesn't,

no big deal. I actually carry my go bag. And then my carry carrying harness that Jane, not James, that Rick and Jane gave me. And so I'll wear him and walk down the beach and we'll walk and just get out of the house. We'll go down the trails, whatever. Yeah. Yeah. No, it's, it's a good thing. Cause I mean, it breaks up that routine that, that daily, I mean, you know, I guess whatever you want to call it, routine, it breaks it up. So, so yeah. So, so relaxing, isn't a bad thing going you know balls to the wall i mean all the time it's you're going to burn yourself out but you can also burn yourself out by

laziness too in a way i mean i know a lot of people around the world do it but uh and are pretty good at it um being that they leech off the government but that's a different show um but for those of us on my podcast in the morning if you're not working because I definitely get some horrible stuff I'm covering. For, I mean, for, for those of us that are used to just working a lot and putting in the hours and then not having a day off, I mean, you got to change that. And so you got to be able to kind of relax and sit down and smoke a cigar, have a beer. If you don't, you know, just sit down and just relax, take a breath. I think that's for me.

You say sit down and relax. That is one of my vices is I like to have a cigar every now and then. So I will sit down. I will go outside and I'll sit right next to our little fire pit. I'll smoke a cigar and get to enjoy the evening outside until it cools down. That's probably the only time I'm not as active, but that's fine though. That,

but that's your, that's the time for you. That's what it takes for you to, uh, to kind of just, um, I don't want to say unwind, but it just,

it's that, that, that, that time is like, it might not happen every single day or do it all the time, but it, it's that, that one thing that you do different is just that's what gets you out of that routine, gets you out of that rut. It kind of gets your mind shifted into a different direction, just thinking different and everything.

But sometimes having projects helps too, though. Having something outside of your regular routine like for me i i do have my sewing projects i'm doing i have my drop bags and then i'm working on a messenger bag and it's just things to keep me busy without feeling like i'm being idle and it doesn't take away from the everyday chores i have to do but it gives me something that if i want to lose myself for the next six hours nobody you know chris nobody's going to say anything because they understand. I kind of need that to drown myself into, to break it up, break up the monotony of everything else. Oh, see Kyle. I guess my question though, relax, poor thing. I know. Right.

Toss the phone across the room. I guess my whole thought process though, is that like understanding that like, you know, some people thrive, some people thrive on routine and they need routine to find their center. Some people routine can be toxic to them because they fall into a rut. They get into,

they get into a habit that kind of saps like all the joy out of life some people if they don't get that time to relax that harms them and some people if they're not they don't feel like they've done enough in a day that harms them so where's the where's like in the in the middle of this venn diagram where these two circles come together like how do we help people figure out, I feel like most people can figure out their own personality type. Like, it shouldn't take a ton of introspective thought to look at your habits and say, okay, I'm a type A, I'm a type B. I work a lot. I don't work a lot.

But how do we help people find that middle ground where they, they recognize for themselves, I need, this is what my reset button is, and this is how I know I need to punch it. Like for me, I like killing those, and it drives her nuts, but I do the flight of the bumblebee routine every afternoon. So as I punch out of work, usually 3.30, it's, you know, do laundry, do dishes, cook dinner, you know, hit the reloading bench, work on a project. I'm always doing stuff. So my reset button is pretty easy to figure out every now and then I just need to be

lazy. I need, this is why I enjoy camping so much because when I go camping, it's like a vacation from everything else. But here's the trick. And this drives my wife nuts. My vacation doesn't start until the truck is empty and the campsite is set up. That makes sense. As soon as there's stuff, as long as there's a task, like if I'm getting stuff out of the truck, getting stuff off the roof, we're setting up the tent, we're setting up the cots, we're doing all that stuff, as soon as everything's done and I pop open the lawn chair and I pull out the box of cigars, now my vacation starts. I get that. Everything's done. And I pop open the lawn chair and I pull out the box of cigars.

Now my vacation's started. I get that. Because now there's nothing to do except brew coffee and make dinner and just relax. I think that's how my mind works too is once the tasks get done, then it's break time. I love you, Gillian. She's going to be like, oh, Lord. But that's the thing, though. She knows her husband. Yeah, I felt that eye roll.

Yeah, no, but when you go camping, I mean,, what we do, you don't want to get, get, you don't want to get there, pop the camping chair and then sit your butt down and smoke a cigar. Cause you're not going to get back up and you're going to sit there, you know, and then you're going to have that looming, that looming over you of like, crap. I, now I still, I still have to unpack the truck. I still have to take the tent. I still have to do this and this and this like that. And that's,

and so like getting to the campsite setting stuff up and then finally saying okay now i can relax like that's just something that so you can actually turn your brain off from those tasks but that's also why i um got the tent that i did because my my setup time has is basically going to be cut in half and that's that's what we have I copied Willow when she had the immediate pop-up tent. Now James has one until mine broke, which then we realized we needed a bigger one. Anyways, that was perfect because all I had to do is literally open it out of its little turtle bag,

throw it down and pop, unset the spikes. And that was all. Yeah, I love you, Gillian. There's nothing wrong with that. For those of you who can't see in the chat, she said, I'll pop the chair and sit and watch Phil unload. That is accurate. I have seen that.

But we always show up a day earlier, so we get to also watch you. But see, here's the weird thing, though, is that even the way Andrew just said that, like, oh, there's a task to do before I can unwind. I don't look at the task and say, oh, I have to unload the truck before I can take a break. To me, it's like, no, I want to unload the truck and I want to set all the stuff up. I want to just, but if you sat down, I know you enough to where if you sat down

before you did that, you wouldn't be able to get your mind off it until you did it. I think that's because Phil and I are task-oriented individuals. But there it is. We are task-oriented. Yeah, y'all both just said the same thing. If I sit down and take that 10-minute break, my mind is going to be just churning on,

I need to get the truck unloaded. I need to get the truck unloaded. And I can't stop. I have to just get the task done and then I can take it. But that's not a bad thing either because you have a task so then afterwards is the reward. And so that's the kind of thing that like at Prepper Camp, again, or just camping in general, you get to the site, you unpack,

you do everything, you get all the tasks done, you get ready to go. And now you can sit down and you're like, OK, my reward is a glass of whiskey and a cigar. Now I can relax and do this. But herein comes the problem. What happens when I have tasks I could be doing, but I know deep, deep down inside I need to rest. But I don't want to rest because I have tasks I could be working on, but the task really could wait till later. And it's not like it's going to be the end of the world, but I can't,

I have trouble getting my mind off of it because I think that task still needs to get done right now. That is my version of my personal hell is that I have this personality where I'm constantly like chomping at the bit for the next thing. You're kind of in a battle with yourself over it. I've done the same thing that luckily I, you know, I have a partner who goes just hit it tomorrow and it does eat at me,

but being able to sit down or try to sit down. Yeah. That is a struggle on its own. I get it. Yeah. It's only hours in the day. So it's like you got to pick your battles when it comes to certain things. Okay, so this is what drives me insane. I don't know how y'all are.

Moving from Arkansas and Mississippi to the East Coast has been a slap in the face for how my internal clock works. I'm used to things opening up by seven or eight, being able to get everything done first thing in the morning and go on. So luckily all the grocery stores open around 6.30 to 7 a.m. So I can still get my grocery shopping on the weekends done.

I love you, Gillian. But my issue is, is out on the East Coast, nothing opens till 10 o'clock on Saturdays or throughout the week, 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock. And then on weekends, some things don't open till noon, which for me, if my day isn't already going before 10 o'clock, my whole day is ruined because I'm so task oriented that I like I'm up by 637 every single day. up by 637 every single day. So then I have 30 minutes to an hour before work where I get to sit and scroll for a little bit because I've already done the dishes. I've already got a load of laundry going. I've already let the chickens out and check their water and their feed that

if, if my day starts later than that, it knocks off my entire day. I don't know if you both are like that. Well, I know Andrew's. Well, I mean it I mean no I I get what you're saying because but the thing is though is yeah stores don't open till nine ten o'clock eleven o'clock well doctor's offices don't either I'm that person who I want to get my appointments done like that so the fact I have a doctor's

office who will work with getting my son in at 8 a.m. is a feat in its own because nothing opens till nine o'clock as far as doctor's offices. My day starts at nine. Yeah. But I mean, that's the thing is, I guess if you got enough tasks that, you know,

you do everything in the one day to where, all right, well, the store doesn't open up until not until this time. Okay. I'll hit it this time. And I don't know. That's the way my brain works is I'll sit there and like,

okay, I need to go here. Well, it doesn't open until this time. All right. Well, what can I do then? Okay. I'm already keyed up thinking about how you're saying that. But that's the thing though, is what, what the thing is, is, I mean, that's how that's their hours for the business. They're not going to, I'm, they're not going to change for me and I'm not going to expect them to. And when they open, I'll get there. So, so then, you know, so that what I'm hearing is that Andrew and myself and Jordan are like kind of extreme opposite ends of the spectrum, but I feel like we all fight with the same problem because Andrew, like you've, you've said in the course of this conversation, like what trips you up is sometimes is your proclivity maybe for,

I'm just going to take a day off and be lazy. But then that also caused you to kind of be a shut in. You know what I'm saying? Like instead of, instead of being able to go out, do things, get out and talk to people and have a little bit of social interaction, being a homebody can hurt you in some way. But getting out too much can hurt you too because I've done that where I've gone out. I've enjoyed being out so much that when i got home i still had everything i still needed to do right and i i get my my thing

is always like i'll make plans or i'll sit there i'm like you know what i'm gonna go do this this and this and then the day of i'm like i don't really have to do that like i don't i don't i don't really have to go to the you know this brewery that i've been planning on for like the last month i've been like you know i'm like i don't need to go there because one it's like i look at my finances and i'm like well i'm not hurting but i'm just i don't feel like spending that money or i'm just like i'll spend it somewhere else or i don't really feel like talking or seeing anybody today so i'm just gonna like i don't want to go talk to anybody like i don't want to say a single word to anybody today. So I'll just, you know, I'll, I'll stay shut in.

And yeah, that's not, that's not necessarily the best thing to do. I mean, humans, we kind of are, we're social creatures to a point to where we do need some social interaction. I mean, to a little bit of a point and, but yeah, it's just, yeah, it's just, you got to find that balance. You got to find that. Well, okay. You know what? This, my last couple of days off, yeah, it's just, you got to find that balance. You got to find that. Well, okay. You know what?

This, my last couple of days off, I didn't do a single thing. I got to be motivated my next time, you know? And that's the, that's the biggest thing is like, I'm working on my porch. Well, I did not do a single thing on this last two days off. I didn't do a single thing with my porch. Well, next time I'm like, okay, I need to sit down. I need to start standing. I need to be that annoying friend.

Dude, fix your porch like i mean i have a friend a girlfriend i text her and every day drink water like i'm literally telling her every few hours to drink water i mean i'm that friend if you need me to be on your butt about it i'll send you a text and be like dude fix that porch i going to block your number. Good luck. No, I mean, it's just one of those things where I'm like, all right, I need to stay. Because my next step, and that's the thing, is I'm thinking about my next steps for remodeling the porch.

All right, the next steps is, okay, I got the crappy outdoor carpet pulled up. Now, okay, now I got all the stupid staples pulled up from the board. All right, now what uh the stupid staples pulled up from the the board all right now what's the next step well i'm redoing the the whole porch so i need to start pulling down some siding and everything like that so i'm just you know in my head i'm like okay what can i do with all this so so yeah i mean having tasks is not being task oriented is definitely

not a bad thing but uh but now you have a deadline because nick said he's coming to inspect your work. Well, for the listeners, Nick Emmerichson said, bro, best fix your porch before I get up there. So I have a question for both of y'all. I don't know if I'm the only one who does this, but I end up putting a lot of tasks at hand that I end up. I have these all over the place. I have a whiteboard on my refrigerator and downstairs. Like that is something that I do is I notate. Okay. You know,

I need to put a link. Oh, okay. I need to reach out to Yana with roving blue. Oh, I need to make sure I have my drop bags to show. Like, do you do the same thing?

Yeah. Yeah. No, I do the exact same thing because especially at work, just being in the position that I am now, I found that if I don't write it down, I'm going to forget it. And so I've been writing down so much. I've been making checklists all the time now at work. And honestly, I need to bring that into personal life, too, just because of the fact that it's like yesterday I had some stuff I needed to get done. Uh, and I got everything done. I wanted to, but I'm sitting there and I'm like, all right, I need to do this,

this and this. And then I get done doing one thing. I'm like, oh crap. What was that one? What was the last thing I needed? I wanted to get, um, the store. It's like, Hey, I need to go grocery shopping. And I'm thinking, okay, I need to get this. Don't make a grocery list. No, I do. And that's what I've been starting to do that. That's what I've been it's like, hey, I need to go grocery shopping. I'm thinking, okay, I need to get this. Don't tell me you don't make a grocery list. No, I do. That's what I've been starting to do. That's what I've been doing. If I don't make a grocery list, I'll go in there. I've been trying to... My biggest thing is

make the grocery list and stick to it. Don't divert. No, don't ever go hungry. You're going to find that you are the worst at grocery shopping if you're going while hungry because everything goes to waste. Oh, no, I'm not the worst at grocery shopping. I am. If I'm hungry.

No, I buy a lot. If I'm hungry, I'm in more trouble. Yeah, no, if I go and I'm hungry, it's like, you know what? Tacos tonight. Nope, you know what? Pizza tonight. Right. I'll do tacos tonight.

Oh, you know what? I need chips and dip as well, and then I need this. Nope. No, and that's where, like, if. No, and that's where when I go, I usually do a list just because it's like, all right, I need whatever it is. And I'll think of different meals and stuff like that.

But lately, I've been putting off grocery shopping just because I hate grocery shopping. Why don't you do the click and pick up one? Yeah, I could grocery shopping. Why don't you do the click and pick up one? Yeah, I could do that. I have no excuse of why I haven't. I just don't. But Andrew, there are single females inside the grocery store.

Yeah. So if you go into the store and do grocery shopping. It's not like the old days. It's not like the older days where it was normal for picking up a female or a date at a grocery store. I don't know. I feel like now you might get pepper sprayed. I think it's all on your approach.

Yeah, that's true. Don't be weird. No. I mean, have you met us? I mean, do y'all not know me? Don't try weird lines. Like, man, that's some good corner on the I mean, do y'all not know me? Yeah.

Don't try to whip lines like, man, that's some good corner on the cob. I'm going to use that on my wife. Oh my God. Get the weirdest look. Always hot ladies at Kroger's and Target, depending on what time Kyle Wilson else,, you're getting the grannies. Nah, but I think also what I think about when I talk about finding balance is like I can remember a time in my career where I worked in a very different position. And I was basically like by myself for... Hold on a second. I gotta put this up

because Gillian saying don't walk up to her while she is checking out the melons and tell her she's got some good ones there. Gillian, that might come up in conversation the next time we're in the store together. Yeah. Oh my god. I do not do an answer.

You're a total stranger. This is your challenge, Phil. In the middle of the store, just walk away and give it a few minutes and walk back. You're a total stranger. Ma'am, those are some nice melons you got there. Oh my god. I'm sorry. I'm actually tearing up on this one thinking about Andrew

actually trying to say something. I don't know. Oh, Andrew. If you ever get the balls to do it, You're actually trying to say something. I don't know. Oh, Andrew, if you ever get the balls to do it, you got to tell me. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, man. I don't want to get pepper sprayed. I'd pay to watch.

But like I was saying, I think back to a time in my career where like I used to spend like basically an eight to nine hour day. And I was basically, I mean, I was in a room full of people but i was basically by myself you know i was in i i was in a job where i didn't have to i didn't have to spend a lot of my day like meeting with and communicate with others i was given my work and i was allowed to do it and it was quite frankly it was lots of like really nerdy math and spreadsheet crap you know stuff that for me was not difficult because i'm a spreadsheet math nerd but it was one of the situations where like i could spend a nine hour day with my brain basically at idle and just do my job and it did didn't it didn't tax me

a lot it didn't it didn't push me a lot you know i'm saying like it wasn't stressful it i could literally that was back when i used to listen to like, I don't know, seven or eight different podcasts at a time. Because I would, I'd literally just dial one up, put my earbuds in, and I'd start working. And that was my day. I was left alone to do something that was very easy for me. And at that time, I was constantly looking for things to get into. So that's when I picked up Reloading. That's when I started co-hosting another podcast. That's when I wrote my book. That's when I was doing looking for things to get into. So that's when I picked up Reloading. That's when I started co-hosting another podcast.

That's when I wrote my book. That's when I was doing YouTube content. And I was constantly doing these other things because I was so bored at work. I was so full of energy when I got done. And then I transitioned into a career path that is like part project management. So I'm constantly in meetings. I'm constantly talking to people. We're constantly having very contentious discussions about projects and negotiating things. And I finish off a day and I am exhausted. I don't want to talk to anybody. I don't want to

deal with anybody. Like Gillian knows when she hits the front door, what kind of day I had, because I either look like I've been beat within an inch of my life or I look like I'm, you know, a reasonably well-adjusted human being. But it really is just, it's a job that drains me. I have, it has given me the ability to provide for my family much better, which is why I tolerate it, but it's an emotionally draining job. And as a result, all the extra stuff I used to get into and all the extra hobbies I used to have, I've had to discontinue a lot of them because I just don't have the energy left. So like me finding balance between my work and my personal life, I've really

heavily transitioned away from, oh, I'm involved in all these extra things because I have this extra energy to burn off to, I know I have to spend more time resting. I know I have to spend more time by myself. I have less energy to put into these extra endeavors. I just don't have it anymore. I am notorious for trying to pour from an empty cup. And my wife is notorious for reminding me that I can't, even though I debate that. for reminding me that I can't, even though I debate that. But like, I, my personal version of finding balance has always been whatever work takes away from me is I try to find a way to

replenish, you know? So like if I'm, if I'm working indoors and I'm staring at a laptop for nine hours, when I'm off, I, I want to go outside. I want to get some fresh air. I want to get some sunshine. I don't want to sit in this house all day or all weekend long. But on the flip side of things, my wife works as a teacher. So she's surrounded by like a hundred screeching little, you know, ankle biters all day long. And when it comes time for her weekend, she does not want to be around anybody. She wants to just, she wants peace and quiet and a recliner and a book. I get it. That's the balance. Chris drives all day long cleaning pools.

So when he gets home, he wants to chill. And then on the weekends, he really doesn't want to drive. So he gets to be the passenger princess while I drive. Because I'm trapped at my desk at home all day. And real quick, I have to make a comment on Nicholas. He said it would be a hard no to Kyle Wilson's comment about us creating Andrew a Dayton profile. One, it would be dangerous if Gilly and I created one for Andrew. And two, unfortunately on that last comment, I've always been the aggressor with every guy I've ever been with. So there's no tell on how Andrew's profile would turn out

with both me and Gil. It would be interesting for sure. Oh God. Andrew, I wouldn't wish that on you. I'm not giving you guys my passwords. It's probably the same one you've always used. Password. 1, 2, 3, 4, 7. Bubba. 1, 2, 3, 4, 7.

Bobo, 1, 2, 3, 4. It's not far off. No. Victor in there too, don't forget. He likes to use the dollar sign instead of the star. It makes him feel like a big man. What were you saying, Andrew? I don't remember.

No, yeah, it's just all about balance. I mean, that's the thing. And that's what's nice about, like, I mean, Jordan, like you and Chris, he doesn't want to drive, so on the weekends you do. Yeah, I don't mind. I enjoy driving. And it's bad enough I'm going to have to make a 12.5 hour drive next weekend. Where are you going next weekend?

I've got to get the kids. Oh. 12.5 hours. Actually, it's going to be more than that. It's 11.5 one way. It's going to be a full day's drive there and back. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know how the weather is going to be a full day's drive there and back yeah yeah i mean but yeah you can then you could

i mean i don't know how the weather is down there right now but you could always throw in some camping and stuff like that break up the day the days of it but usually audiobooks that's probably one of my things that i use to unwind i don't know if either of y'all do when i'm cooking or cleaning or i know it's something monotonous that I have to get done and I'm just not feeling it. I will put on an audio book just so I have something to break it up or even listen to some music on the drive or whatever. I listen to audio books all the time and I actually listen to audio books more than I listen to music now. When I drive, it's usually always audio books,

but there's a couple of days, like the last couple of days have been 70, you know, about 70 degrees, like really nice weather when it's not raining. It's been pretty nice. And so, yeah, right now it's perfect, man. But it's no, instead of audio books, I'll roll the windows down and Blair some music just because one, you can't hear the audio book that well. So why listen to it? Um, but I'll play music and stuff like that, but no, it's, but no, having that, having that, uh, that reset is it's important.

I mean, for some people it's just simply just relaxing, having a day off, whatever other people it's, I don't know. I mean, you know, and, and, but again, like, that's why that's kind of why going back to the truck and stuff. That's why I kind of tried to outfit it the way I did was just so I can load up and go. And that's that, that's that, that's my goal this summer is to try to do that more often to break up that routine, break up that rut that, you know, I might fall into. And just break up that and just try to recharge different ways, find something else to do. And the process you might find that, you know, you might make new friends in the process, and you never know what you're going to run into.

So hopefully it's all got a plan. We'll see what happens. Yeah, part of the reason I brought this topic up in the first place was because specific to the preparedness community, so much of what we talk about when we're having a serious moment is things like OODA loop and watching your surroundings and situational awareness and all these, all these things that sound like hell on earth to the average person, because they interpret that as, well, you're always worried about something. You're always keyed up. You're always looking for a threat. And to a degree we kind of are, but I bring this up

in that vein because that constant assessing a threat, working on preps, assess a threat, working on preps, that constant cycle in the preparedness community can burn people out too. And my worry is that I personally have seen people kind of like they've shelved the preparedness lifestyle because it burnt them out and ate at them. It was too much constant work and too much constant – it's not even like the physical work all the time. Sometimes it really is just the emotional, psychological, I'm always worried about stuff. So I've always tried to encourage people like when I talk about being able to do anything long-term and sustainable, like you have to, at a certain point, and this is something that I preach whenever we talk about finances. Years ago, Gillian and I had a discussion about finances and budgeting and all that nerdy crap nobody cares about. But I pointed out to her, I'm like, if you want to get your nails done, then you just put money in the budget every month to get your nails done. And the money's there.

Go spend it. Guilt-free, go do it. It's there. So I always tell people, I'm like, when you, when you look at like in my personal finances and I look at, I have all these things that are prepper related that I'd like to get done eventually, but that it's not like I have to get through the whole list before we can finally have some fun. Interspersed in there someplace is, okay, well, this thing's going to come down the list because I've got to fit in a vacation here. And this thing's got to come down the list because I've got to fit in a vacation here because my wife and daughter will murder me if I don't take them out to the beach this summer. So, like, you have to budget some time to decompress and not have another task to do you have to budget some money to go out and have some fun and live life along the way like we can't we can't go to our grave constantly

chomping at the bit for the next project and chomping at the bit for the next bucket of rice and beans and chomping at the bit for the next case of ammo like we have to have some fun every now and then well and for me part of what helps me find that balance point is the fact that a lot of things that are prepper related, I'm using air quotes around that quite frankly are hobbies to me. Like I, I enjoy going to the gun range. There is no work involved in me reloading ammo and going to the gun range.

I enjoy every moment of it. It shouldn't be stressful though. Every hour I spend in the. It shouldn't. Prepping for us, it shouldn't. It's a good balance. For me, it's no different than the rest of my entire day.

And if prepping is stressful, then there's something off there. Yeah. And I mean, but that's the thing, though, is like if you're the days off, like days that you might just relax and not do much of anything. I mean, there's been times where i've been i've read some articles i've done i've read articles i've watched some youtube videos on on something preparedness related like it you know not burning out it's the stuff i just actually yesterday after i got my truck looked at uh i went to uh i stopped at uh sierra uh tradingpost, I think it is, or something like that, and then REI.

And I was just looking around for, I'm like, you know what, the truck, I'm like, I need to get some utensils. I need to get some stuff for the kitchen. Like I want to build out so I can just, so I can go to cooking and stuff like that. So I went through, bought some stuff, repacked the drawer system and did everything. The nice thing about when you buy, if you buy like camping related items or what even if it's like prepper related items and again i guess prepper and in air quotes uh if you buy some of these items like a new uh just something a new piece of gear if you can take it out in the woods and test it out that can be

wrapped up in your vacation you have all these supplies and you're like all right cool well i have these i have these four new pieces of gear let's uh let's do a camping trip and then i'm going to test these out and like i'm going to get used to do using them and let's and uh and see how well they work uh and so that can and so that's the fun part of it too and get out and using your gear um but yeah i mean that's you know prepping we don't want to the whole thing with people prepping the whole big worry i guess that's where i've been living my life to where it's uh yeah i mean kyle you're exactly right and that's what we uh we for the audio listeners we have to comment i get beat i get beat up every time I don't do that. Yeah, so anyway, Kyle said, I think prepping can be stressful.

If you constantly watch the news, it's easy to get sucked into the fear and drama. And that is 100% accurate. And that's what you're seeing even now. Prepping should not be something of fear and drama. It is to be ready for anything that could be thrown at you. So you don't have to have that level of fear for something that may or may not even possibly happen. That's the point of prepping is to make sure we are able to feed and protect our family. We're able to pick ourselves back up if our house gets knocked down for whatever situation. I don't watch the media more than, I mean, I know what's

going on currently, but I don't sit there and pay attention. I'll real quick chime in, see what's going on. Elsewise, I don't give two additional glances at what's going on just because I don't have the time emotionally, mentally or physically to deal with everything else other than what I'm trying to do and control my own life. I don't need to stress. It's not worth it. Well, stress. It's not worth it. Well, no, it's not worth it. But the other thing, too, is I don't know. It's been a number of years now, but I picked up the three-foot world concept.

And the idea that basically, you know, if it's not within your immediate three-foot world, meaning like how far you're within your reach, what you can actually physically manipulate. And if it doesn't affect me, I've really gotten to the point where I just don't let it bother me. I mean, I know, you know, apparently, according to our, you know, amazing U.S. government that never lies to its people. Russia used chemicals on Ukraine. You know, and I, I've read articles and I've seen some things that people are fricking losing their mind about it. They're losing their mind about China and over Taiwan and they're losing their

mind about all the college campuses who kids are being pro Hamas, not even realizing what they're chanting is for is calling for terrorism itself being and now the federal what was a federal law that passed for anti and no anti-semitic language being allowed whatsoever and then which cuts into a lot of things not trying to be anti-semitic but it cuts into the history of things like even biblical wise that makes it illegal to even mention but on top of that you've got these people who are pro-hamas who are chanting for terrorism now being anti-semitic hitler would be rolling over in his grave with pride with just how bad things have gotten just on us soil alone it's it's absurd absolutely

yeah no you're fine no but but that's but that's where like i've i practice it's like the three foot rule because the three-foot world is because the fact that that crap like yeah the what congress passes like that does have a it does have somewhat of an effect on the american people uh especially if you if i don't know if you get slapped with you with oh miss is that going on huh sorry i didn't mean to call saying alabama not even 20 minutes from old miss so that's why i'm like wait a second i'll have to reach out and find out some stuff from over there. Right. But that's the thing though, is like this stuff really where I live right now, a lot of the stuff has no direct impact to me. So like,

I'm not going to worry about the, you know what the kids that are burning down their college and they're messing their college up and doing all kinds of crap. You know what? Like that. And not, it's not even, and that's the thing that was their agitators,

their paid agitators who they, like they found that a lot of the, a lot of the people that were there, they don't even go to that college. They're busting. Well, no, but they're also running into the fact that a lot of those kids, the reason they don't want media there, social media or any sort of media there is because these kids are getting caught and are being suspended. And so they think, the ones who are the students think that if, as long as no one sees it's them, there are no consequences to their actions. And they're finding out the old adage, there are consequences to everything you do. So if you're going to act like an idiot,

you should be treated like an idiot. Yeah, correct. But I mean, that's a whole different show. But that's the thing though, is what's happening to them. Like, Hey, that's great thing though what's happening to them like hey that's great I'm happy that they're getting unmasked and all that crap like again that's a different show but I'm saying like what's going on there compared to where I live it has nothing I have no control over it

so I'm not letting it bother me it has no direct impact in other words and so what I'm doing is yeah I might be buying some more ammo or I might be packing up some more food or doing something else. But that's my daily thing. My daily thing is, okay, I'm either buying, maybe buying some ammo, buying some more food, reading on something as far as prep room related, buying some gear for my truck, figuring out. I mean, I'm figuring out where i want to go camping here in a few weeks like i'm not changing my routine because of what's going on at these

colleges universities like what that what's going on sucks uh because it there's a lot of a lot more thing happening underneath that people aren't even seeing or they even care about but at the same time it does not affect me my three-foot world does not include that crap like it it doesn't it's so i'm not letting it bother me and that's where i think a lot of people when it comes to preparedness and stuff like that just prepare for just a power outage prepare for something that could physically affect you here and and just move on with it and don't let things bother you. I used to get tied up in the, I used to see news articles constantly and I would fricking worry all the time about it. I would lose sleep over news articles about certain things.

And finally I realized this is like, I came across this at it, you know, that the rule there and I'm like the stress that after not letting things bother me that I have no control over, like the whole thing with uh i mean the what the some of the doomsday crap out there like uh the movies out there like oh man there's gonna be a comment that's gonna hit earth you know what if it does it does like

i'm sorry like it sucks at the end of the day that does suck a lot but i i can't sit there and be like no comment don't don't you dare uh no i'm gonna there's certain things if it does happen there's nothing that we can do in any level of preparedness that's really gonna protect us especially in a situation like that so there's no point in adding something into your bank right no that but that's what i'm saying though is i think there's no reason for it to affect me and control my life when I literally cannot do anything about it and stuff. So, yeah, I guess that's my big thing with trying to talk to people and tell people, stop letting things worry about, you know, stop letting things control your life that you have zero effect on. Like if you have physically,

you physically cannot change all this stuff. So stop worrying about it. Worry about what you can physically change and what you can physically grab. If you have a child that's sick, like that's, you know, as a, as a parent, I mean,

I'm not a parent, but as a child that's sick, like that's within your three foot world, you can take care of your child. You can take care of that. Now the child getting better. Like, yeah, that's depending on medications and what's going on and all that crap. I mean, some of that is out of your control. It's hard not to worry about it, but it's out of your control. You've got to you know, it's hard to not to worry. But yeah, it's just stop fear mongering.

I think for me, and this is like, Andrew and I have, I don't want to say fought over, but he has had to deal with the fact that I am a bit of a type A worrywart. And my personality tends to, I don't want to say obsessed, but I tend to become very concerned about things and I can't let go of it. Well, i have to look at the situation and then like to andrew's point about if you have a sick kid at home you can influence the trajectory of how that kid gets better but there's a certain amount of it you can't influence. Some of it's just going to take as long as it takes. So I've had to develop this personality where I say, these are the strings I can pull on to influence the trajectory of the situation and the way I want it to go. And these are the strings I can't pull. I can't reach them. And I have to make peace with the

fact that these are the things I can do. And after I've done those things, I have to let go. I have to emotionally let go and not obsess over, well, if I could do this and make things better, if I could do this and make things better, because I can't do those things. So like, again, part of finding balance for me has been, I for those things I have some amount of control over and I work my butt off to make sure those things have been dealt with. I, you know, I put I have a life insurance policy. I put money away in the savings, money away in the 401k. I do everything I can to prepare my family for the worst days of our lives. But after I've done all those things, I'm not going

to continue to obsessively worry about it. I'm not going to sit there and worry about, like, I've been watching some of the local news channels and they're anticipating a very spicy hurricane season. I live on the Gulf Coast. So is that concerning to me? Hell yeah, it is. Anybody that's like, it wasn't, it wasn't but a couple couple years ago, hurricane, I had to wipe out five zip codes down here. Like, another bad hurricane season is very alarming to me. But I've done everything I can think of to get my family ready for it. I've got one other project to get done before hurricane season starts, so I'm running out of time. But once I've done all those things, I'm not going to worry about it anymore.

I'm going to assess the situation. I'm going to do what I think is right. I'm going to take care of my family. Part of me finding balance in between this type A worry wart and a healthy amount of attention being paid that I can sustain

without driving myself nuts is I have to say, these are the things I control over. These are the things I don't have control over. I have to let all these things go. To have control over. These are the things I don't have control over. And I have to let all these things go. And to Andrew's point about the three-foot world, these are the things inside of three feet. And I'm going to make damn good sure I nail them down. I get it. It's like hurricane season's hitting for us.

We have a fireplace that has been removed, so we can't use it. Because, you know, landlords want to make sure it's not up to par with insurance or whatever so now we have to look at secondary meat sources for cooking and everything else so we do have a fire pit outside but if we lose power and outside's like crap then how are we supposed to go outside to cook so i'm actually looking at they have a little uh almost like a like the little camping stove we use when we go out to prep camp. But they have it built where you can use a big propane tank for a kitchenette oven set. It's like $200 even.

So I'm trying to sell a few of my dump bags or save up enough so I can go ahead and invest in that and then don't feel like i've used any additional expenditure from our way of living to pay for an emergency setup that we can take with us when we camp or use for any situation here if the tornadoes or hurricanes hit us as hard as they like you said they're saying it's going to be nasty this year yeah and unfortunately you know like we all know when it comes to like tornadoes just the last couple weeks have been really really spicy up in the midwest even though i no longer live in that region i have been watching it because regardless of the fact i don't live there i do have family and loved ones there but anything that hits y'all hits us in a day or two afterwards. So I'm always watching to see how bad you're getting hit because it doesn't always die down by the time it hits us.

Sometimes they'll re pick up back speed once it hits part of South Carolina. So it's, I it's the same for me as I watch it because if you are getting hit that hard now, there's no telling how hard the season's really going to hit once it hits us. Yeah. But like we were talking about a minute ago,

that's the hard part, is that it is so incredibly easy to fall into, I call it fear porn. Oh, that's fair. Because we all know how the mainstream media works. Their whole job is to outrage or scare the hell out of you because the longer you watch, the more you click, the more money they make. So they figured out that OODA loop a long time ago, and that's what they're always throwing up in front of you is what outrages you and what scares you.

And I have to make a conscious effort to not allow myself to fall into that because it's just not healthy. No. So that's what I always tell people is I'm I'm like, you can't, you cannot exist in a state of constant worry. You have to be able to, you have to be able to like flip the channel. I'm going to say that the, the happiest moment of my life is when we got rid of, like we got rid of our satellite to hide TV subscription in this house. There's no news.

There's none of that nonsense. It's all streaming. It's what we choose to expose ourselves to. I intentionally limit my news consumption. It has been so freaking peaceful, by the way. Oh, I agree with you. Like, the only thing, like, that had me a little up was the whole Title IX thing. So I've got to, that just means more awareness on my end for my daughters.

Yeah. I mean, and it's, well, and I guess what I'm saying is that there's a healthy balance of look out on the, look out on the horizon so that you can be aware of things, but not,

but then also realize like, can I stop the way that politics is flowing? Not really. So then be aware of it. Right. And that was my whole thing is I'm not going to sit there and worry about it 24-7. But it doesn't mean now knowing what's going on with Title IX doesn't mean I can't be more vigilant to those situations where I may be out in public. With my daughters trying to use a public restroom and a man walks in.

So it's just, I mean, stay strapped. I mean, it's no different than, okay. I had a situation. I actually thought of you Phil the other day. I knock out my grocery shopping early. I was able to run without having to take my son. And as I'm getting out of the car at the Kroger here, I see a woman loading up her two littles, and I mean little littles, and I'm carrying, and anytime I'm going anywhere, I'm strapped, and I pull out of my vehicle. She's parked right in front of me. I'm right behind her, pulled up behind. I get out, and I sit on the hood of my car or lean on it and said, I'm just going to stand here and watch out for you. Because she had loaded one child into the car, had to leave one baby still

in the cart. I mean, single mom doing this by herself. So I told her I was, I'm standing here. She goes, thank you. I appreciate it. She goes, normally I come to this strapped. And I thought of a situation you had mentioned with your daughter when she was little. And I lifted up my, the corner of my shirt and said, don't worry. I am. I said, she goes, no, I appreciate it. She goes, you wouldn't believe how many people won't look out for each other anymore. So it's the same thing of being vigilant wherever you go. Even if you're not prepared for yourself, you can at least be prepared for somebody else. Yeah. Well, we're right up on about an hour. So in an effort to not allow this to go to two, I mean, is there important that everybody tries to find a balance point

in their life. Like whether we're talking about type A task driven and not knowing how to decompress or a person being very type B and trying to fight against not getting things done because they're spending too much time relaxing or a person that's too introverted or too extroverted or too worried or too laid back like no matter where we take that conversation or no matter who we apply it to i feel like it's just super super important that everybody finds a balance point their life well how about i send you a coloring book and some crayons it works though but here's the thing you you say an outlet and an outlet for a type a personality is what need what's needed but for a type b personality sometimes what they need is a schedule or a checklist or something to keep

keep them moving so that's what i that's what i'm saying like whether no matter who we're applying this to i feel like it's super important that everybody finds their balance point in the life so that they're getting things done but they're not grinding themselves to nothing because like you know the one thing that has worried me about very close friends for years is if you get too isolated that will eat at you if you spend too much time without time yourself it can eat at you like i i worry about the people around me because i know that if I were left to my own devices, I would work myself into an early grave. I have that personality. I'm a workaholic. I hate taking time off, but I have someone in my life who tells me, dummy, sit down and take it easy today.

I have that person who's my reality check, but not everybody does. So that's why I thought this would be a good conversation just to talk about like, if no matter which one of those people you are, you need that person or that thing or that mechanism in your life that brings you back to the center. Hallelujah, amen? Yeah. Okay. Well, Jordan, thanks for joining us as I bore the crap out of everybody no it's fine adult coloring books are oh they have adult coloring books at work i actually had a friend who sent me some coloring books yes i actually had a girlfriend send me one years ago because

she said that i needed to find something that wasn't task-driven so I could decompress. I have some Doctor Who books. I don't know how to react to adult-colored books. I'm going to send you one. They actually have some that have adult words in it, like fuck, shit, all that. It's phenomenal. I'm going to order you one and send it to you. Well, I get to mark this episode explicit now

I had to keep it out earlier so I think that already set you as explicit damn it Jordan is there a way you can beep this out when uh I mean if you can beep it I'm sorry man you should warn me at the beginning

I have a potty mouth you know this I mean, if you can beep it, I'm sorry, man. You should warn me at the beginning. I have a potty mouth. You know this. Don't I ever. All right. Well, if anybody was watching the stream and had kids around, I apologize. Exactly. I'm releasing stress.

Kyle gets it. He's got my back Kyle has to supervise like you know a thousand women a day that's a man who needs to relieve stress for quite a while so you supervise a thousand men a day now I deal with a bunch of angry patients

and I promise you some of their language is worse than mine I bet Now I deal with a bunch of angry patients, and I promise you some of their language is worse than mine. I bet. So everybody knows where to find Andrew. Andrew, we haven't talked about your YouTube channel in a while, so remind everybody about that. Huh?

We don't have to. Oh, you've got your own YouTube now? Uh-oh. Yeah, no, I'll sit. What's that? It's called Bobo Fett's Misadventures. Bobo Fett's? Wait, that's what you changed your Instagram to, right? Yeah. There you go,

ladies. He's out there. Has truck will travel. Has truck will travel. Wait, wait, wait. So does that mean now you're going to drive to the South? I mean, I'm going to North Carolina for proper camp. You're coming to South Carolina? Come on, buddy.

And you're also coming to Tennessee. Yeah, going to Tennessee. Wait, what weekend is that in Tennessee? We'll talk about it off show. There may be some changes on my end. I might be able to make it. It just all depends how this next week goes.

We'll talk about that here. BoboFett's Misadventures on YouTube and Instagram. Hopefully, I can get some more content out here shortly. Where can they find you? Right now, it's Phoenix Survival on Instagram. I actually need to get my YouTube and everything fixed up. I've been just streaming on Insta and TikTok.

And you're also on the Prepper Broadcasting Network. I am on Prepper Broadcasting Network. I'm sorry. I have to show this real quick because Kyle has been begging for pictures for the drop bags for the last week. Do you care if I do a plug on your... Go for it. Oh no, it's blurred.

How do I remove the blur? I don't know. You have to take the blur off of your virtual background. Go to settings. I guess we don't have time. No, I can do it real quick.

Here it is. Okay. I see it. Let's see. Nope. It won't let me do it. Drag. Sorry.

I will make sure I post something I'll do it on my Instagram but I have the drop bags I've been making and I've already sent out a couple and he was asking to see them and I can't take the blurb well Kyle can find them on your Instagram yeah I'll put up a video on there

alright well I'm going to punt this one out the door so I can go eat beans and rice with my wife and daughter but Matterfakes podcast heading out the door with Phoenix Survival check her out on Instagram and Tumblr you said? no

no Instagram just say Instagram just Instagram and Prepper Broadcasting Network and talk to you on another week. Bye, robotic. Bye. Thank you.