The Prof G Pod with Scott Galloway - Raising Young Men, The Case for College in the AI Age, and Relationship Red Flags

Episode Date: February 27, 2026

Scott reflects on raising sons, pushes back on the idea that AI undermines higher education, and breaks down what makes a successful long-term relationship. Want to be featured in a future episode?... Send a voice recording to officehours@profgmedia.com, or drop your question in the r/ScottGalloway subreddit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:06 Welcome to Office Hours of Prop G. This is the part of the show where we answer your questions about business, big tech entrepreneurship, and whatever else is on your mind. If you'd like to submit a question for next time, you can send a voice recording to Office Hours of ProptoMedia.com. Again, that's Office Hours of Propteammedia. Or post your question on the Scott Galloway subreddit, and we just might feature it in our next episode.
Starting point is 00:00:27 Our first question comes from Left Investment-1759 on Reddit. They say, Hello, I'm hosting a book club later this month featuring notes on being a man. We are a group of working married moms with kids living in the illusion of protection from the state in the suburbs of Minnesota. The majority of us have sons in elementary school. I pitched your book as, let's use Scott's Lens to think about how we're raising our boys and what we should be paying attention to as our children eventually choose partners. If you were facilitating this discussion with our group, what would you want to hear from us or what question do you wish more moms asked after reading it? Thanks for all you do.
Starting point is 00:01:04 Oh, thank you. It's funny. It's like the questions you should expect are the hardest ones to answer. What do I want moms to think about? Well, one, so my mind immediately goes to the following. Some of the differences between boys and girls, if you were to reverse engineer when a man or a boy comes off the tracks to one single point of failure, it's when he loses a male role model. So what happens in homes where there's, we have more single-parent homes now than any nation in the world. And depending on which survey you look at, it's either 82 or 88 percent are headed by a woman. And what happens with girls in single-parent households is while there are some, they might be more likely to be depressed. They oftentimes are more promiscuous because they're looking for attention, male attention in the wrong places. they have similar outcomes on educational attainment, on future income, on actual suicide.
Starting point is 00:02:06 So you could argue that they actually do okay. It's an entirely different experience with boys. The moment a boy loses a male role model through death, abandonment, or divorce, at that moment, he becomes more likely to be incarcerated than to graduate from college. He becomes twice as likely to kill himself, twice as likely. twice as likely to be a substance abuser. So it ends up that boys, while being physically stronger, are neurologically and emotionally much weaker and much more susceptible to the absence of a male role model. So in terms of what I, my advice is more for single mothers, and that is make sure that you have
Starting point is 00:02:46 males involved in the boy's life. And even saying that five years ago was, well, what Scott? Women can't rise? Good man? Yeah, of course I was raised by a single immigrant mother, lived and died of secretary. I didn't have My dad wasn't very involved in my life. But it's really important that, one, you have men involved in the young man's life. What else would I suggest? Gosh, a recognition that they just mature later. I try to, I mean, dumb stuff. I try to roughhouse with my boys.
Starting point is 00:03:14 I try early on to set up guardrails. This is more parenting advice. I love what First Lady Obama said. You've got to be an asshole now, such that there are not assholes later. what I have found as a parent, this is probably more advice for the man. I thought that being a dad would be a series of hallmark commercials
Starting point is 00:03:31 where I did something and I got more love back. And what I realize is that being a dad, or I guess just being a parent, I mean, it's quite frankly, just giving a shit ton more than you get back. And it took me a few years to learn that, that this wasn't about me,
Starting point is 00:03:45 about rewarding moments where my kids decide that they love the Los Angeles Rams because I did or send me a nice note. No, no. I mean, there's some of that. But being a parent, the way I try and think of it is that every time my son says something really rude to me or is expectant, that basically what he's saying is, dad, right? That's your role as a parent. You just give more than they get. Also, just, and this is more advice for dads than moms, I think the best thing you can do for sons is to try and be really respectful, kind and affectionate to the mother, even if you're getting divorced. Because I think a lot of my shortcomings in terms of how I approach relationships or the way I acquitted myself with women as a young man was I didn't I don't think I had a great role model in terms of how you treat relationships from my father. So I think it's especially
Starting point is 00:04:35 important that the parents try to be really kind to each other. If you do end up in a situation where you end up splitting with your husband, try and make sure that there are men and do everything you can to make sure that the dad can stay involved in the son's life. I think sports and chores and what a man. I have this practice called what a man does. But more than anything, the thing I would want to say to mothers is forgive yourself and to recognize that a boy's prefrontal cortex is 18 months behind a girls. Sometimes they don't do well in school. Sometimes they rough house. They can be totally self-absorbed, inconsiderate. Your noise, they begin literally drowning out. There's studies showing that their mom's voice starts to sound like that Gary
Starting point is 00:05:21 Larson cartoon, which is blah, blah, blah. So, if you're having a difficult time or you're not don't have the relationship with your son you thought you were going to have, realize that they do come back to you. When I was in 11th and 12th grade, I wasn't mean to my mom, but I wasn't very kind and we weren't getting along. And that's a natural instinct because it's time for them to leave the pack. So quite frankly, they start acting like assholes, which makes it easier for both of you to separate. But within a couple years, I was back, I was at UCLA and I was coming home once, twice a week to have dinner with me. my mom and, you know, I couldn't, nothing, nothing cemented. Nothing good happened to me unless I called my mom and told her about it. Oh, I got a B, which was good for me in biology. Oh, that's great. A B is great. Oh, I got a job interview with Morgan Stanley.
Starting point is 00:06:12 That's fantastic. Tell me about it. You know, am I? And now still, I was saying I'm a middle-aged man that hasn't gotten the death over the death of his mother. good things sort of happen to me, but they don't really because my first inclination is to call my mom and boast and have her cement it. This is all a long-winded way of saying the investment you're making now, the frustration, sometimes the lack or the unrequited affection, effort, and love, trust my on this, it comes back to you. The relationship, I especially think, between a single mother
Starting point is 00:06:47 and her son, I just think it's singular. It's the defining relationship in my life. I'm friends with a lot of men who were raised by single mothers, and there's the rest of the world, and there's our mother. Full stop. That's it. We may not even like each other, but this is what we protect at all costs, is our mother.
Starting point is 00:07:08 So if you're spending a lot of time on effort that you don't feel is rewarded raising your son, if you don't feel like you're getting nearly the love, or regard back that you're investing, just trust me on this. He comes back to you. Question number two comes from Christian Robin on LinkedIn. They ask, in a world where AI makes knowledge and skills basically free,
Starting point is 00:07:31 what's the real value proposition of higher education now? I just think this narrative that AI is going to destroy higher education is such ridiculous bullshit. Effectively what you have is, in Justin Wolfers, the economist, said this, that AI can be a substitute or it can be a complement. So technology was a substitute for secretaries. My mother was a secretary. And now basically there are no more secretary. So there's word processing and manual dictation or whatever it is. But at the same time, the number of bank tellers has actually
Starting point is 00:08:04 gone up because technology has become a complement. And now they, instead of doling out money, because ATMs can do that, they say, would you like a mortgage? Or can we talk to you about single premium variable life? Or should we be talking about your financial? planning, so it ended up being a compliment. So I believe that college, higher education, if it's reasonable and you get into a decent school and you're cut out for it, is still kind of the ultimate compliment to your life. One, you're going to learn a lot, even if it's how to use AI or not use AI or how to write thoughtful prompts. Two, you rise or fall to the level of your peers, and college kind of scoops off the highest level gene pool foam, and that is athletes who manage to
Starting point is 00:08:46 study, who manage to be able to work in groups, who don't have mental illness, who maybe have matured at a decent rate, quite frankly, who come from wealthy families oftentimes, and that's sad to say, but oftentimes they're better prepared for the world, and you'll make, you know, a lot of my friends were wealthy at UCLA, and I benefited from that. It was aspirational, and they had contacts. If that sounds out unfair, yeah, it is. It's called capitalism. At the same time, capitalism reinvests in people who don't have access, so I got Pell Grants, which helped me get through college. It's an incredible, we don't educate kids, we certify them. We say, okay, if you get through four years at the University of North Carolina, you have decent EQ, you can look people in
Starting point is 00:09:28 the eyes, you know how to study, you know how to connect effort with success, you have basic understandings of the key principles of, you know, reading and arithmetic, you can get along with others and you get exposed to different domains. You know, the, you know, the The classics help you understand investment banking. Psychology helps you understand technology and how people behave and investor relations. All these things, you want to damage the muscle in between your ears such that it comes back stronger. And by the way, there's absolutely no evidence that the delta between the life you'll likely lead if you're fortunate enough to get higher education versus the life you'll lead if you don't is still dramatic. College graduates
Starting point is 00:10:12 are in about 66% more per week on Aberton high school graduates. Median weekly earnings are roughly $1,500 for bachelor grads versus $900 for high school workers or high school only workers. Unemployment is also about half as high. It's around 2.2% for bachelor grads versus just over 4% for high school grads. So the tradeoffs are becoming harder. I'll acknowledge for some, and that is people say, should I go to college? It's situational. If you get Arb down to a shitty school with a Mercedes price and you're going to have to take out a ton of debt and maybe you have an opportunity to go work for your uncle and his, you know, vocational company and start at $70,000 or $80,000 a year because you have skills. That's a real question that you need to ask other people about.
Starting point is 00:10:58 You get into Yale, go. You get into a good school, maybe not an amazing school, but you can afford it. Go. But it's no longer a no-brainer. When I got into UCLA, it was a no-brainer. It was free. I could figure out a way. I showed up to UCLA was, I think, $2,200.300. I showed up to Berkeley Graduate School with $60,000 in 1984 a court, which is awesome. And I was able to get through with a minimal amount of student debt because the value proposition was incredible. Unfortunately, it's not that school isn't as valuable now. It's just that it's not the same value because the corrupt cartel known as higher education has raised the cost of tuition, faster than inflation, created artificial scarcity such that young people are forced to take out. debt, which, by the way, is not dischargeable in bankruptcy. So there is a mendacious fuck part of higher ed. But on the whole, this year, you know, oh, you don't need higher education? Apps are up. They're mostly up across the big state schools, see above value, and two in the south, because people don't want to see a Palestinian flag when they show up for orientation.
Starting point is 00:12:03 So the complexion of which schools Vanderbilt and Duke are going to have lower admissions rates this year than Harvard. Schools including UVA, UNC, Tulane are now more difficult to get into than many of the Ivy Leagues. So do you have an opportunity to go into the trades instead of taking out student debt and you just don't enjoy school? Yeah, that's a decision that you should be thoughtful about. But the notion somehow that school has been disrupted by AI, give me a fucking break. someone who tells me that, oh, their kid doesn't need college, that maybe they'll be the next Zuckerberg, or with AI, they don't need college. I'm looking at someone whose son just got a 22 on the ACT, and they're trying to make themselves feel better when they realize their kid may not be cut out for college. Okay, fine.
Starting point is 00:12:49 It's not for everybody. But if you have the opportunity and the economic wherewithal to go to a decent slash good school, few things in life. If we had a pharmaceutical that made you twice as likely to get divorced, half as likely to kill yourself, half as likely. to be obese, 10 times is likely to run for political office someday. Okay, would we hoard that drug? And this is on us in the academic industrial complex. The key isn't making college more valuable to people, it's making it a better value. And that is expanding the aperture, the throttle, in terms of access, and lowering the cost. That's what we should be talking about, not where their AI is going to change education. And just to wrap up here in my rant, the head of Dartmouth,
Starting point is 00:13:31 I was at the Atlantic Festival and the president Dartmouth was talking about AI and education. Fuck that. Here's an idea. You got an $8 billion endowment. You let an 1,100 freshmen. You're in the middle of fucking nowhere. Let in 11,000 and stop all this mental masturbation and distraction around AI. Here's an idea.
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Starting point is 00:17:10 Welcome back onto our final question, which comes from D.H. Norberg on Instagram. What are the early indicators for success in a long-term relationship and red flags? Oh, my friend, if I knew this. Okay. So I'm not sure. I'm a serial monogamist, and that is I'm usually in long-term relationships, but I've been in a bunch of them. And everybody has their thing, right? I think, and by the way, I wasn't drawn to somebody.
Starting point is 00:17:51 I've never been drawn to women because I looked and thought, well, I'd really like lower rates on health insurance or this person would be a good mother. The reason I entered into relationships and approached women is for one reason. I thought I would really like to have sex with this person. Now, what is that attraction? For me, one of the things,
Starting point is 00:18:10 I've always been drawn to women physically and sexually who are really, quote unquote, professionally impressive women. Not all guys are like that. My most serious relationship before my current one was with a surgeon. My current relationship is with someone who went to graduate school, worked at Goldman Sachs or five years. That turns me on. So being just really drawn to somebody is kind of table stakes, right? You just think I would really like to kiss this person and hang out with them. In terms of red flags, the relationships that haven't worked out for me, where I should have seen red flags was I think a person's friend group is really, just a fantastic indicator. The person you're with is a mashup of their friends. And so whether,
Starting point is 00:18:58 you know, are they social? Do they have a lot of friends, right? What is the caliber of their friends in terms of kindness and success? Another thing I would look at if you're dating in terms of, especially with men, do they get along with their mother and their parents? I think the way a man treats his mother is a pretty good indication of how we, he's going to treat you and how he feels about women to begin with. Also, how they speak about their former relationships. It's a real red flag for me when I would date someone and they would immediately start shit posting and saying what a horrible person their boyfriend was. So which is it? You have terrible judgment or you're the terrible person in the relationship? I just don't,
Starting point is 00:19:40 that's a red flag, right? That somebody is not, I don't know, doesn't speak well of their past relationships, doesn't get along with their parents. And then there's the substance stuff. I have been really into women and notice that they constantly disappear and go to the bathroom. And then I found out they were doing drugs. And I just sort of ignored it for a while. So substance abuse. A focus on, I don't know, this is going to sound sexist. I've been out with some women who I think we're very focused on just getting to a place of where they could have a bunch of material items as opposed to thinking about building a life with someone or kids. Is that fair? Yeah, I think it is. So, but at the end of the day, I think it's do you really, and then the ultimate
Starting point is 00:20:34 kind of litmus test is when I was growing up and dating women, I would try and figure out what I thought they wanted and be that person. Like I thought, oh, I don't want to tell them. this person I really like them because then I come across as weak or I'm going to constantly boast and exaggerate my accomplishments because I think they want somebody who's impressive or rich. The ultimate litmus test for someone you want to settle with is someone you can kind of just be yourself around and who just really likes you, you know, who just thinks you're great because of exactly who you are. And that's just spending time with them. And also probably the best litmus test is see if you can travel with someone nonstop for two weeks. And if
Starting point is 00:21:16 If you don't want to kill each other by the time you get home, that's probably someone you should marry. So to just try and break it down, what makes for a good partnership? I distill it down to three things. The first is sex and affection. It says, I choose you. Young people are usually pretty good of figuring that out. Two values. It's important to have conversations around where do you want to live?
Starting point is 00:21:33 Does she want to live in the city, but you want to move back to the farm? What is the role religion is going to play in your life? What you, you know, all that stuff. You don't have to get along politically, but you have to be able to have a conversation around these things. And then the third thing that people don't talk about is money. What's your approach to money, to earning it, to spending it? Do you feel like you have to create an illusion of having more wealth and you're worried that your partner is going to – I have friends in my life where the dude uses money for control and the female – and this sounds sexist and it is sexist, but it's true. And the female feels like it's a game to spend as much money as possible. And they don't partner. They don't align on economics. And the number one source of divorce isn't a lack of shared values or infidelity. It's economic strains. So truing up and getting alignment around economics is really important. Thanks for the question. That is probably the most important question.
Starting point is 00:22:24 Most important signal probably of your long-term success and your happiness is not your income. It's who you decide to partner with. That's all for this episode. If you'd like to submit a question, please email a voice recording to office hours ofproptuMedia.com. Again, that's office hours of proptuemedia.com. Or if you prefer to ask on Reddit, just post your question on the Scott Galloway subreddit. we might feature it in an upcoming episode. This episode was produced by Jennifer Sanchez and Laura Deneer.
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