The Prof G Pod with Scott Galloway - Why Women Still Struggle for Real Power — with Melinda French Gates

Episode Date: April 24, 2025

Melinda French Gates, a philanthropist, businesswoman, and global advocate for women and girls, joins Scott to discuss her new book The Next Day: Transitions, Change, and Moving Forward.  They also get into Melinda’s philanthropic efforts, what she’s learned from raising a son, and why women still face barriers to claiming “real power” today. Follow Melinda French Gates, @melindafrenchgates. Algebra of Happiness: Morning Phase by Beck. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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for women and girls. Probably the wrong joke for that. Anyways, we discussed with Melinda French Gates, a philanthropist, businesswoman, and global advocate for women and girls. Probably the wrong joke for that. Anyways, we discuss with Melinda her new book, The Next Day Transitions Change and Moving Forward. We also get into her philanthropic efforts, what she learned from raising a son, and why women still face barriers to claiming real power today.

So with that, here's our conversation with Melinda French Gates. Melinda, where does this podcast find you? In Seattle. Seattle, that would make sense. Yeah, home for me. Home for you. What percentage of your time do you spend there and what's your second favorite place?

I'm probably half the time in Seattle and my second favorite place is being with my granddaughter somewhere on the East Coast, New York or Florida. Well, that's nice. Where in Florida? They're down in this sort of Palm Beach area, but inland from that. Yeah, I have a home in Delray Beach.

I really enjoy it down there and I miss it. So let's bust right into it. In the opening of your new book, The Next Day, you write that you've organized a book around transitions that were formative in your life. You mentioned leaving home, becoming a parent, losing a friend, ending your marriage, and leaving the Gates Foundation. Walk us through, if a parent, losing a friend, ending your marriage, and leaving the Gates

Foundation. Walk us through, if you can, each of these pivotal moments and highlight some of the key insights. Well, I wrote this book because I think, you know, we all go through transitions in life. And I'm very honest in the book that I've turned 60. And so by now I've gone through lots of transitions. As you said, leaving home, for me, that one was really exciting to go to college. But then I got there and as I described in the book,

I felt like a fish out of water as a woman in computer science. And I had to adjust to that. I talk about joining Microsoft. That was again, a very exciting time in the computer industry. I loved it, but again, I was, there weren't very many technical women.

I leave my career to start raising my children, knowing I would go back, but that was an enormous transition for me to leave the workforce and raise children. And then, you know, we started the Gates Foundation and I chose to leave that last year and strike out on my own in philanthropy. So big, big transitions, some exhilarating, some scary, but I think they're things we learn and we gain resilience by going through lots of transitions. So obviously you're playing at an entirely different

altitude, but my family is blessed with a certain level of economic security and I constantly get questions around how do you maintain your children's grit? And the answer is, I'm not sure we have. You obviously, your kids, I would imagine this is an issue that you face, how do you try and instill a certain level of values and grit and an appreciation for work in your kids given obviously the extraordinary opportunities

and privilege they have? Sure, and my three children are all now adults, ages 22, 25, and 28. But what I would say is I was incredibly purposeful about it from the day they were born. And I knew they were being born into a life of incredible privilege. But I grew up in a middle-class family, and I knew that if I could instill those values and make our life as normal as I could for them and constantly live out my values in the home and through the work we were doing in the world and bring the work home and talk

about it around the dinner table as well as I took them out on age-appropriate field trips. Even when they were very young, we went and visited places around Seattle that they could give their time. And eventually, when they were old enough, I took them to pretty rough places in Africa so they could see that Seattle was one pinprick on the globe and that if you have some level of wealth and privilege, there is something you can do with your life to give back. And I believe that's true for everybody who's born in the United States. No matter what their wealth income, you have time and energy and talents and sometimes even money to give back.

So in addition to taking them and exposing them to people who aren't less fortunate, did you have any more pedestrian tactics like chores or athletics, anything like that? Absolutely. First of all, I felt like my kids should not be homeschooled. They should be in a school environment so that we were working through all the issues that kids work through with their peers and that I needed to work through with other parents.

We absolutely had chores. They had an allowance and we had an agreement about their allowance. They got it weekly. It wasn't for specific chores. It was for – it was an allowance, but they were expected to do their chores. And the agreement I had with them is that became their budget for buying clothing, for buying things they wanted. Anything else went on their Christmas wish list or their birthday wish list from our extended family. And the other agreement I had with them is because of who we were, neither they nor I

were ever allowed to tell how much it was per week because everybody would have an opinion, oh, that's all the Gates kids gets or oh my gosh, that's so much money that they get. But it turned, I think it taught them to budget early and learn the value of money. One of the things, I think one of the reasons or common themes through the accolades or the positive reception of your book is that you are pretty strikingly vulnerable and raw

and out there with pretty sensitive topics. You know, when you read memoirs, quite frankly, you're usually reading kind of the starched version of their life written by someone else. They're the hero in everything and everything's for the better and ends well and there's some life lesson in it and you seem pretty vulnerable in it. You talk a lot about dealing with panic attacks and anxiety. And we are raising a generation of people who are suffering more from anxiety or greater levels of anxiety than any previous generation.

You have kids, you struggled or been open about your struggles with anxiety. What advice can you give to young people who might be struggling with anxiety? Pretty much every human being has anxiety at some level. And I know many business leaders that I have been around, I'll say many of them male or even prime ministers. I was practicing backstage for something

and I saw this prime minister going into Q&A session and he was practicing with his team because he knew there were gonna to be anxiety-provoking questions. And the only reason I even say that is because I think we have to realize all of us deal with it at some level, and the more we can be honest about it and bring it forward and name it and then reach for support and other people and resources the more we can overcome it. And partly you do have to lean forward into it.

I often say to myself in the back of my mind, and I've said this to my three children, both when they were in middle school, high school, and now adults, just when anxiety makes you feel like you want to fall backwards. As soon as you start to feel that falling backwards, you have to push yourself to lean forward and say, what can I do in this moment? Who can I reach out to on text? How do I reach, you know, a trusted friend, a parent, a therapist, a counselor? And that the more you practice going through those anxious times, the more you're gonna get better at it and push through even some of the bigger ones.

Yeah, I love the statement of Dan Harris that action absorbs anxiety and something that gives me anxiety. I don't know if you've ever felt this way as a parent. I have huge fears that I have sons 14 and 17 that they're going through something and don't tell me or anybody. That's my fear, that they're in the room.

And I felt the same way. When I had problems at school, I wasn't gonna talk to my mom about it. I was raised by a single mother. I just wasn't going to come to her. And that's always been my biggest fear is that, well, anybody doesn't reach out, but especially with my kids.

How do I create some level of comfort or fluidity around communication? Because I do worry that, you know, I would bet the majority of the stuff they've dealt with I never knew about. And anyway, more of a statement than a question, but any thoughts on trying to make sure that people close in your life reach out when they're struggling? Well, I would say, you know, Scott, you and I grew up in a different generation, right? And luckily, this generation is talking much more about anxiety, depression, mental health disorders. So that's fantastic. And all I can say is what I tried to do as a parent,

I definitely had times when I worried substantially about two of my three children. The third one, not so much because she was so verbal. I kind of always knew what was on her mind. But the older two. And what I learned over that time was the more I could be vulnerable and name what I was afraid of or what I dealt with at their age, I think the more it caused an opening for a conversation.

I will say I hear from more parents of boys, or I did when my girls and my son were in middle school, high school, that boys tend to not be in general as verbal about naming their emotions, especially because they're maturing a bit later than girls. And so I think in those cases, you have to create more openings and opportunities. So I learned with two of my three that they would talk over a dinner alone with me and we just made a regular routine of dinners alone. Another one talked to me more when we would go out walking. So we made a regular routine of going out walking. And guess what? I still employ those tactics now that they're adults. We'll be right back after a quick break. Support for PropG comes from Vanta.

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so I can't compare and contrast what it's like to raise girls versus boys. But what have been your observations and how have you been able to see that? I mean, I think it's a very interesting question. I think it's a very interesting question. I think it's a very interesting question. I think it's a very interesting question.

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Well, first of all, for me at least, it was more about personality. I mean, kids come into the world with a good chunk of their personality, I think, developed. And we can only, I think, affect what my mom used to say were the two ends of the spectrum. Help them raise up their good sides and try and keep the low sides down. So my kids, all three were quite different personalities. But I will say that my son, and he and I were just recently talking about this, he matured a bit later than the girls did, you know, at those ages. And so I did have to talk with him more about his friends even later than I talked to my

girls. Like, you want to make sure your kids are surrounded by a good community and good friends. And if you see a bad one, you know, in middle school, you get to help them more on that. In high school, you know, it gets trickier, right? And so I did have to have more conversations with my son about what are you noticing about this friend? What do you like about this friend? Or what don't you like about that friend?

So he could compare and contrast good friendships to be able to really see who was true in his life. So you also talk a lot about how difficult it is still for women to get real power. What do you mean by real power and what still gets in the way? I mean, there's a lot of data showing that women are doing quite frankly, just really well.

Right, women under the, more college attendance from women, women under the age of 30 in urban centers are making more money, more single women own homes. The graduate schools are chock full of women now, more women seeking tertiary education than men. But you say that, or that women still have a difficult time seizing real power.

Define real power and what you think are still some of the obstacles facing women. Sure. I think we all have power inside of us. Boys and men, women and girls. You're absolutely right at those statistics you've talked about where women are starting to thrive at those levels.

But when we send them out into society, into their careers, there's a noticeable shift and you are not seeing women at the very top of professions. They're starting to make it in middle management. You're seeing more female CFOs and chief legal officers or head of HR. But you know, how many CEOs in the Fortune 500 are women? How many entrepreneurs are women? How many at the top of the medical profession, how many of those are women?

And so what I'm seeing is that women are stalling at certain levels for all kinds of reasons. And partly though, there are barriers in society that are holding women back and we need to break down those barriers. Because to me, real power is when a woman can use her voice and advocate exactly the way she wants. She has full decision-making authority, authority over her resources, and she's setting direction. So when I look at who creates our public policy, I still don't see enough women at the head of the Senate or the U.S. House of Representatives. I don't see enough women at the head of the Senate or the U.S. House of Representatives.

I don't see enough women in state legislatures. That's where we're making policy. When I look at who are the heads of studios and what movies are being made, those tell our stories. How many female directors do you see? So we're still stalling out in society. And that's why I feel, at least for me, my work is how do we make sure we continue to break down the barriers and lift women

up all the way as we also bring along boys. Because you have great statistics, which I've read and I see and I see it anecdotally, of boys now struggling more at the sort of middle and high school level and college level, right? So we actually need to do both. So there's just no getting around it. The data I've seen is that while young women are thriving, where women really take a hit professionally, quite frankly, is when they have kids.

And that is the corporate world still hasn't figured out a way to maintain a woman's trajectory. And the corporate world is very unforgiving of people who leave for even a year. So I guess moving to, and also, I think it's like 80 or 85 of the Fortune 500. At one point, I think there were more CEOs named John than women, like not that long ago, three or four years ago.

So there's clearly, I mean, there's clearly some nuance here. Clearly there's still really big obstacles for women around, as you put it, seizing real power. I believe that equality of opportunity doesn't always mean equality of outcome. I'm not sure there will ever be 250 women, Fortune 500 CEOs, and that's a longer conversation as to why. But there should definitely be more than 80.

But what can we do because is it laws? Is it a different approach? Is it, it doesn't appear, I mean, is it, is it gonna be a naturally occurring phenomena because there's more women in college and college is a strong predictor of senior leadership. Is it that young women aren't as risk aggressive for whatever reason and they need different upbringing

about risk and entrepreneurship? Like if you had a magic wand, you have a lot of resources, you have a big voice, you've identified the problem. What do you think are the two or three things we can do as a society to try and help women at those senior levels get over the hump? Okay, so one of the biggest barriers for women in the workplace is caregiving.

Even in the private sector, less than 27% of women have access to paid family medical leave. We are the only, the only high income country in the world that doesn't have a federal paid family medical leave policy. And I don't believe it should be maternity leave. I believe it should be paid family medical leave. Because if you look at societies, take the Nordic countries, where they've had paid family medical leave for a long time, say 30 years, what happens? Both the women and the men take it. And what it does is the man participates longer in the rearing of the children, he appreciates his wife's role more, and you break down the norm in society that, oh, the

woman should go take care of the kid. And then there's not also a career penalty for her taking that time off because the man's doing it as well. When we get to that point of really waking up to having a paid family medical leave policy at the federal level, we will change society. And so one of the things I am doing with many, many partners is pushing on this. We got very close in the last administration. We missed it at the federal level by one vote. It was a senator, a male senator, but we have it in 13 states and the District of Columbia now. And so we've got to keep, that's one barrier we have to break down and keep pushing forward. Again, I believe if you have more women in state houses and you

have more women on the Hill in DC, we'll get that policy passed, but we'll get it passed even before that. Because we do have to have like-minded men and boys who believe in these things. In terms of women, just take, I'll take one example, risk, which you brought up. I don't believe women are less risk averse. I really just don't. We talk about that a lot. But when you look at the statistics, if you want to start a new business as a female entrepreneur, four percent, four% of venture capital funding goes to women.

And so when you talk about, when you actually do the surveys of the women who've run the gauntlet, take it on Sand Hill Road in Silicon Valley, they hear they're too risk, they won't take enough risk. They're not taking enough risk. they're taking too much risk. They haven't thought of their business plan. When you put a male next to them, they run the gauntlet and they do much better. So to me, it's a bias we have in society that men and women have. So what do we need to do? We need to make sure more limited partners are looking at women-led businesses and, quite frankly, people of color businesses

because I believe women have a different lens on society than men. It's not good or better. It just is different. And I believe they have good business ideas. And we shouldn't, as an investor, and I am moving money in this direction, I don't believe we should leave money on the table. I think those are good businesses that will help us get through some of these caregiving struggles that we are facing now as a nation,

especially with an aging population. Yeah, I would say the greatest exposure to inequality I registered or witnessed was in the 90s. I came of age at the dawn of the internet. I graduated from business school in 92 and I raised a bunch of money. I lived in San Francisco starting internet companies. And I'm embarrassed to admit this.

I never donned on me that every one of us that was raising tens of millions of dollars in venture capital, we were all white dudes. You weren't even allowed to be gay. I mean, you couldn't be, or outwardly gay. You couldn't, it was all the same person. It was all white men, typically in their 30s, who had great credentials, Stanford or Berkeley,

I went to Berkeley, and all of that risk capital was crowded into, what is that, you know, 11% of the population, you know, it's a fragment. And it just never dawned on me that why aren't, you know, non-whites getting funded, why aren't women getting funded? And things have gotten better. I remember Catherine Dillon,

I mean, granted it started from a terrible place, but Catherine Dillon, who's my business partner here, I remember we raised money from General Catalyst, kind of arguably one of the better venture capitalists east of the Mississippi, and we went in there for the last round, and it was part of the last round of funding. We raised, I think, 17 million bucks or something

in a A round for one of my companies, and we had to meet with all the partners. And all 27 of the partners, granted this was 15, 13 years ago, all 27 of the partners were men. And it didn't even dawn on me. And Catherine and Maureen, basically they said to me, what the fuck?

I'm like, what's wrong? And they're like, they couldn't find one woman, but I do think it's gotten a lot better. But where do you see the friction? We know the problems, where do you see the friction and how do we address it? Yeah, so in addition to my philanthropic dollars, I also have a large investment fund

because I believe it's so important to put my money where my mouth is and to role model what's right. Do I expect to, and so it is, it's going, that funding is going to limited partners who are over indexing on women and people of color businesses. Because I believe if I can prove that I can get a good return from that, then people won't

leave, you'll have men saying, oh, wait a minute, I want to crowd in on that business. I don't want to leave funding on the table, right? There's a great opportunity now with female sports. You're seeing those sports teams finally coming up and doing better. Billie Jean King has been on this forever, but now you're seeing people like Serena Williams has a great investment fund. There's Monarch Collective. So you're seeing the rise of women's NBA, and I believe you're going to start to see

the rise in more other sports for women, that is a fantastic place to put money down. Just as one example, there are many more types of businesses. So I'm funding limited partners who are funding many others. Again, with this thesis that I have, and we'll see if it proves out to be right. So you've, speaking of philanthropy, you've committed a billion dollars towards women's health.

And so just first off, I just wanna say thank you. And that is, I talk a lot about, and I'm very passionate about the struggles that young men face in our society. And the inspiration for me focusing on this area was data I started getting from this brooking scholar named Richard Reeves. He's literally my Yoda on the topic. And he called me and he said, I'm going to start my own institute. And despite the fact that your billion dollars is geared towards women's health,

the American Institute for Boys and Men headed by this, this person that's literally changed my life, Richard Reeves, you gave him or pledged $20 million. So first, thank you. And the second is why did you decide, given that the billion dollars is focused on women's health, to give $20 million to the American Institute for Boys and Men? Okay, so yeah, just to clarify a little bit,

I put down a billion dollars on behalf of lifting up women and others in society. 250 million of that is going to women's health. We have something called the Action for Women's Health. So 250 million, a quarter of the billion. Then I took 12 global leaders and gave each of them 20 million. They can spend a small portion of it on their own organization, but the goal is really for them to find other organizations doing like-minded

work. So Richard Reeves was one of those 12 global leaders because I absolutely believe that boys need to be doing better and men in society. We have to have good role models for them. As he talks about teachers, coaches, men need good places to say, hey, I can fit in society, even though society's changing. And so to me, he's on the forefront of that with his Men and Boys Institute.

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So this is a loaded question, but I'll ask it anyways. I believe that the biggest problems in our society can be somewhat reverse engineered to income inequality. You're one of the wealthiest, I would imagine one of the wealthiest women in America. What are reverse engineered to income inequality. You're one of the wealthiest, I would imagine, one of the wealthiest women in America. What are your thoughts on income inequality and how we address it? I absolutely see the income inequality in the United States and

I do not think it's good for us as a nation. And I think you have too many people, low income people, who are really struggling and struggling in their communities. You know, my dad grew up at a time that his dad ran a small machine shop in New Orleans, got turned over to the war effort. After that, it got turned back into a machine shop. But my dad grew up in a family where there were not a lot of resources.

And yet, because of Georgia Tech, he was able to do a work-study program and still become an engineer. And then he got a scholarship to Stanford, right? But you've pointed out, which I think is true, it is far harder to get into university these days than when I grew up or you grew up or my dad grew up. And it's far harder to find a good living wage to be able to purchase your first house. So I don't have all the policy solutions for that, but I do think there are some policy solutions for that. And I particularly, my heart goes out to black people.

The red lining that we did in our country made homes unaffordable to them, and they couldn't even live in certain neighborhoods. That absolutely, those disparities need to be reversed. When I look at you and your ex-husband's approach, extraordinarily successful, extraordinary beneficiaries of a capitalist economy, unprecedented wealth,

but my sense is, and like a lot of your colleagues of your generation, or I'll say our generation, you do take civic responsibility seriously. You know, trying to advance women's health, trying to cure malaria. I mean, these are, you know, for lack of a better term, these are good things. And I worry, or what I witness

is this new generation of tech leaders who are even aggregating arguably more wealth and in my view have a bigger debt to America and the world. I don't see that same level of like a comity of man. It seems as if what they want is to get tax credits or subsidies from the government or reduce regulation once they're kind of over the hump. They wanna be protected by the law, but not bound by it.

And I get the sense they just don't have the same, even in the Gilded Age, the, you know, the carnages, the Rockefellers, you know, full body contact violence to get to that point of wealth. But once they got to that point of wealth, but once they got to that point of wealth, really took, you wanted to build big, beautiful works and give back and kind of cement their legacy as people who were seen as patriots. And I don't get that sense from this next level of tech leadership.

One, do you agree with that? And two, why do you think that is? I don't think tech leadership is a monolith. I think you're seeing certain ones being held up in society right now. All I can say is that I believe if you are wealthy, this extreme level of wealth, anybody who has, $500 million, my gosh, you have more than enough wealth,

you have a moral obligation to give it back. And you have benefited. If you started a business in this country, you have absolutely benefited from this country. I've traveled the world where people say, my gosh, you know, I couldn't begin to start a business like that in my country. So you have something to give back. And all I can say is that Warren and my ex-husband Bill and I set out with this giving pledge to really try and role model for society that if you have gotten great wealth, you should be giving it back. Has everybody started to give back? Absolutely not.

But do we have a group of them who are? Yes, for sure. And what I can say is that the community of that that are giving back, they're talking to one another, they're learning, they're trying to figure out how to do it well, they're trying to figure out how, even with their kids, we now have a whole next generation of the giving pledge of their

adult children and adult grandchildren who are giving back. So I think we have to role model that this is what's right for society and that hopefully over time will put pressure on those who are not. It even goes beyond that though. I've just been so disappointed. I see these, some of these tech bros or some of those, I don't know what they're called, right wing. I don't even know how to, but they attack someone like Mackenzie Bezos.

I've seen them attack you. I've seen them as if your philanthropy and your efforts are somewhat, that there's something mendacious or malicious there. And it's sort of like, you might be wrong, but your heart's in the right place. I think that's the worst thing you could say. And yet they take it to this,

and some of these people have really big platforms and they wanna create this sort of conspiracy that you're up to harm. And I don't know, it's interesting. They seem to have really centered in on McKinsey for some reason, which it just makes no sense to me at all. Isn't that incredibly upsetting for you? I don't get it.

I ignore it. So I- Can you really, can you really ignore it? Yes, I know who I am and I know what I'm doing and I know what my values are and why I'm giving back. I mean, sure, I'm not sitting on the sidelines. I mean, to me, it's like, it's so easy to sit on the sidelines. And as Roosevelt used to say, you know, criticize from the sidelines. I'm in the arena doing the work. I have visited, my gosh,

probably more low income countries certainly than I ever thought I would in my lifetime. I see the difference that these health tools make in low-income countries. I see the difference when a woman has access to a good paid family medical leave policy. It changes society. So I think when you're not doing the work and you're not in the arena, it's easier to criticize others and to project onto others or make them look bad because you don't wanna go do that work. That's up to them. If that's how they wanna act, fine,

but it doesn't bother me. My work goes ahead. So we're pretty much exactly the same age. And turning 60 was sort of, maybe it's because I'm a man, I'm going through a midlife crisis, but I have, the last few years, especially my 60th was like pretty seminal for me

and has changed a lot of my perspective and the way I think I approach life. You know, we're sort of on the back nine and I don't know if you're religious, I'm not. I think at some point I'm gonna look into my kid's eyes and know our relationship is coming to an end. And that and is barreling faster than I'd like. It's weird, the time is just, I mean,

decades are becoming years, years are becoming months. And I'm curious if you've registered any difference in your approach to life or your perspective now that you have a six handle on your birthday cake. Absolutely. And I actually think I crossed this when I turned 50. I said to myself outright, I'm on the back half of life now at 50.

And I knew it. Hopefully. And I, yeah. And I, so I said to myself at 60, if I'm not living my life the way I wanna live it now, something is wrong. Like I am fortunate enough that I don't have to work, right? That's an enormous privilege.

And that, look, I get to organize my time and somebody once said to me, you have to paint on the canvas of your own life. And I thought, isn't that true? No one else can paint on my canvas. So if I'm not organizing my life in the way I want to see my parents or to see my children or my two now granddaughters and do the work that I believe in in the world, that's on me. And you enter a point where I think you, I hope, I hope I'm in this generative stage of life, right? And really thinking about my adult children,

what have I passed on to them? What would I like to continue to pass on? Are there words I haven't sent to them or things, regrets I have that I'd like to go back and tell them I'm sorry that on that particular day I wasn't my best self with you? But look, if we don't do it now, we could be gone easily tomorrow, so easily.

So you've checked a lot of boxes, right? You're professionally hugely successful. You've aggregated huge wealth. It sounds as if you have nice kids and a good relationship with them. It sounds as if you have good friends. Go five years out. What does success look like for you in five years? And what boxes that aren't checked are you looking to check?

Well, I really set my horizons on a 10-year horizon, because look, we are taking, I'm trying to take big swings at what Warren Buffett would say are the hard problems society has left behind, for better or for worse. And so those will take 10 years to play out, but I certainly in a five-year horizon hope to see far more states with a paid family medical leave policy. We are beginning to turn the crank on that and change the momentum on that. I hope we are doing far more basic science on

women's health so that we can come out with more drugs that help women over time, both in the US and globally. And I do hope that we can see more women in state legislatures in five years, because that will signal that we're on our way to getting more women up on Capitol Hill. If I could accomplish those three big things and see progress on those, I will feel like, wow, we're on the right track. And a superficial question, but I'm curious, so I assume some of my listeners might be curious.

When you have the type of wealth, I've always said that there's people that spending, you can be good at money or you can be bad at spending money. And then I know a lot of people who don't have a ton of money but are better at spending it. And I know a lot of people that have a crazy amount of money and I just don't think they're very good at spending it. Like what do you spend a lot of money on?

What do you spend less money on than people would expect? Ha ha, that's funny question, let me think. I probably spend more money on travel. I learned through travel. I was just in Southeast Asia. Gosh, I learned so much in a place I'd never been. And then I would say I also traveled to see my loved ones because my loved ones are across the country, right? And so it's the experience of being there and the joy of those moments. So I'd say that's something I spend more

money on. What do I spend less money on? I don't know, probably groceries because I'm a terrible, terrible cook. I just got an air fryer and my brothers were like, why you eat out so much? So I probably spend less money on groceries. All right, just as we wrap up here, I wanna do just a quick kind of rapid fire.

So last piece of media you consumed that sort of moved you. So last piece of media you consumed that sort of moved you. A book by Tim Snyder called On Tierney. That's too deep. Last piece of streaming media you really enjoyed. Oh, streaming media. I went back while I'm watching.

You may think this is too deep too. I'm watching Pachinko. I love cultural fiction and it's about the Korean and Japanese and the cultural tension there after World War II. I love it. Biggest fear or phobia? Biggest phobia is claustrophobia.

Biggest fear, and it plays out when I'm scuba diving, put it that way. So that's where it still comes up, but I'm working on it. One place you get vacation the rest of your life, what would it be? Australia. Oh, no kidding. Best piece of advice you've received.

Set your own agenda or someone else will. That's from my mom. Your biggest influence on your life up until, say, the age of 25. My father, he really believed in me. I write about this in the book. And he saw me that I could be good in math and science, and he made sure at every step of the way I knew that.

Three words on your tombstone. What would you want them to be? Loved by family and friends, made a difference in the world, had a big heart. I like that. Melinda French Gates is a philanthropist, businesswoman, and global advocate for women and girls. She's the founder of Pivotal, an organization committed to accelerating

women's power and influence worldwide, and previously co-chaired the Gates Foundation. Melinda is also a bestselling author whose latest book, The Next Day, is out now. She joins us from her home in Seattle. Melinda, thanks so much for your good work, especially your support of the American Institute and Boys and Men.

It makes a huge difference and I've really enjoyed the conversation. Thank you, Scott. Thanks for having me. How's your happiness? What will mark my trip to London? What will be the thing I want to remember? When I'm at the end and I say, all right, let's dial up the heroine,

and I play Apple Memories on large-screen TVs, one of the things I wanna remember? When I'm at the end and I say, all right, let's dial up the heroin and I play Apple memories on large screen TVs, one of the things I wanna remember, I wanna come through my head is what will be the iconic moment for me that happened on, when was it? I think it was Saturday, Sunday night. And that was at the Royal Albert Hall, which is arguably one of the most beautiful venues

in the world. And one of the things I love about it is that you can only play there once. So instead of just rolling through a city and then the lead guitarist has to have a cheat note saying, where the fuck are we now? It's great to be here at the Great Western Forum in Los Angeles, by the way. That was from the 70s. It's been rebranded several times. They say, this is it.

I'm playing one of the most beautiful venues in the world and this is the first and last time I'm ever going to play this venue. They show up and they practice and they're given access to the Royal Albert Hall Orchestra, which is incredible, unbelievable venue, stagehands, and the last thing I saw there was Cirque du Soleil and they just did an amazing job with it.

Anyways, I went and saw one of my favorite artists in an album that changed my life. I just thought it was so beautiful and gives me so much did an amazing job with it. Anyways, I went and saw one of my favorite artists in an album that sort of changed my life. I just thought it was so beautiful and gives me so much peace when I listened to it. I went and saw Beck and the album is Morningface. And when I first moved to Florida, I moved there because I was escaping New York in the sense that it was 2008.

I had lost everything. I was, at that point from all exterior metrics, had had a quote unquote successful career. And yet I woke up because I was so concentrated in tech, specifically in a company called Red Envelope, which went chapter 11 in the great financial recession. I kind of woke up and had very little money and kind of negative net worth.

And it was really humiliating to have taken all this risk and had all this curb success and end up in a financially strained environment. And of course, about that moment, my old son decided to come marching out of my partner at exactly the wrong moment. And then fast forward three years, we're applying to get him into preschool in Manhattan. We applied to seven schools and we got into zero because it was speech delay. Now that fucking I'm out of here.

I've been an entrepreneur and single my most of my life. I'm used to rejection, but I'm not used to it for my three year old. And so we decided to move to Florida. And when we were in Florida, I thought, okay, it's time to buy a house. We got a second kid, just had our second son. And I thought I need a home, need to stop renting and found a great home that we could fix up exactly what we wanted in this lovely little hamlet called Gulfstream

and bought a home on the water, just perfect, brought in a general contractor that we knew and we were gonna make it into our dream home. And Goldman Sachs had this group that would manage the money of small business people hoping that someday our company will get bought for a lot of money and that we'd someday be rich such that they would have a built-in network of wealthy, high net worth people.

Even though I didn't have a lot of money, I was working with Goldman and I said, okay, I have this home, I think it was $2.5 million. And I said, I have the down, which is about half a million and I need a mortgage for 2 million. And they said, no problem. And then we're getting towards closing where I'm supposed to show up with the $2 million,

the $2.5 million two and a half million dollars. And Goldman calls me and says, we can't give you a mortgage. And I said, well, why is that? And they said, well, you own 40% of your company, L2, and L2 last year lost $3 million. So we have to take $1.2 million away from your annual income and you have negative income

and we can't get you a mortgage. I'm like, well, it's great to work with Goldman, who allocates the losses of my company, which you're supposed to do when a venture-backed company to grow. And by the way, we ended up selling the company, I don't know, six years later for 160 million bucks, but I couldn't get a fucking mortgage.

And I couldn't buy this home that my family had, my partner had just fallen in love with. And that made for a really uncomfortable, ugly conversation going home and saying, I'm not only not a provider but I can't get a fucking mortgage for our dream home. And then called the real estate agent and the sellers and say, we lost our financing.

I can't afford this home. And then finally we got another home about a year or two years later built a beautiful home in Delray. What was beautiful for us on a quarter acre small piece of land. But we said, we have boys, we have to have a pool. And we used to get up in the morning

and we would turn on my favorite album, Morning Face. And we had a dog, most beautiful dog in the world, sweetest dog in the world, a Vichla named Zoe. And we would try and throw the tennis ball into the pool to try to get her to go in the pool, because our youngest would only go in the pool if the dog was in the pool. And we kept throwing balls in there and she wouldn't go in and our youngest, Nolan, would see that and then finally he would just jump in the pool to get Zoe to jump in. Anyways, it became this Pavlovian reaction where on weekends when we turn on morning phase, our youngest would come bounding down

the stairs and jump in the pool and then the dog would jump in after him and it was just such a nice moment of joy. Anyways, the world Albert Hall Orchestra opens and then Beck comes out and he's playing the kind of the opening song from morning phase and my partner just starts weeping. And I know why she's weeping.

We go back and music can do this like nothing else. We go back and music can do this like nothing else. We go back to this moment when our our little boy who could barely walk would jump in the pool when hearing that song on weekend mornings and get the dog to jump in behind him. And I believe like what Gloria Vanderbilt said that the happiest moments in your life or the happiest period in your, will be when you look back on when you had little kids. And that's definitely true for me. Those are the moments I really miss. And a lot of it is not just because they were wonderful moments, but because they're gone forever,

because that little boy is no longer around. He's now on TikTok all day and talking about girls, and starting to smell funny, and he's got underarm odor. Jesus Christ, that's a thrill. Anyways, this was such a wonderful moment for us to be at such a beautiful venue and to be thinking about that wonderful time with our boys. Also, or not okay, but wonderful to lean in

to when things move you. What is it about something that inspires you or makes you emotional? Because you need to register these things to inform your life. What's important to you? What has registered? What have you noticed in your life?

What are you gonna miss? What are the things you're gonna think about at the end? And to not really lean into these things is a tragedy. And it's also not a given. You need to learn how to lean into these things. You need to practice. You need to laugh out loud. You need to register sadness. When something moves you, stop and let it move you. Feel it. Lean into those emotions. Woke up this morning, fall a night in the storm Looked up this morning, sunrises full of thorns This episode was produced by Jennifer Sanchez. Our intern is Dan Shalon.

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