The Prof G Pod with Scott Galloway - Women Who Out-Earn Their Partners, Trump’s War on Science, and Managing Depression

Episode Date: September 15, 2025

Scott answers listener questions on what happens when women out-earn their partners, the real-world consequences of declining U.S. science funding, and how to stay motivated while living with depression – including what he does when he’s struggling with his mental health. Want to be featured in a future episode? Send a voice recording to [e-mail], or drop your question in the r/ScottGalloway subreddit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Again, that's Office Hours at Propgumedia.com. Or post your question on the Scott Galloway subreddit, and we just might feature it on our next episode. What a thrill. First question. Our first question comes from Randy from Washington, D.C. They say, Hey, Sat. This is Randy Braun from Washington, D.C.

You talk a lot about what has. happens when men make gobs and gobs of money and how that allows them to be a protector and a provider. But I want to get your perspective. What about women who make gobs and gobs of money? What's your take on that and how they function in their household or in our society? So to give you some contacts, I'm married to a fantastic man. We're both huge fans of the show. He has a great salary, a great job, a wonderful career. And a few years ago, I started my own business, and it's been really successful. To the point where there are some years where I out-earned, him now well into the six figures. It's something that works for us in our marriage. We're a team.

We have three kids. I could literally only do the work that allows me to perform like that financially because he is such a supportive husband and father. But it just strikes me that it's something I haven't heard you talk a lot about. You know, as a boy mom, I love the content that you're putting out there for young men. But I also have a daughter and I'm curious what perspective you would offer her vis-a-vis income, earning, and relationships. Thanks so much and give my left to carry an ad. Randy, a couple things. One, first off, thanks to the question and second. Congratulations. I think we celebrate success, and we should. It sounds like you're doing great. And it sounds like you and your husband are a fantastic team. Everyone's different. That's a beautiful thing about human sexuality.

I've always been really drawn to women who are, for lack of a better term, professional ballers. My first wife was the C.O.O. of several e-commerce companies, CPA, MBA, just a super impressive professional. And my girlfriend in between my marriages was a doctor who was a surgical resident. That just turns me out. I'm just very drawn to women who have their act together and impressive professionally. That works for me. And then my current partner is very comprehensive. But anyways, I don't know where I'm going with this. But it's sort of a must, usually, for women with men. Now, part of the reason that I think a lot of marriages are struggling

or one of the things that's creating, one of the things that's creating a problem in marriages is that, one, while women are ascending professionally and picking up more slack in that part of the relationship, and that is the economic viability of the household, a lot of men haven't picked up the slack domestically, emotionally, or logistically. And that is a lot of women are saying, okay, if I'm now making all the money and I'm still taking care of the kids in the household, then, okay, boss, what the fuck are you bringing into the table? So the women's or women's assent professionally has not been matched by men's assent domestically. It doesn't sound as if that's a problem for you. It sounds as if you have a great partnership and you respect each other's viability.

And it's not like your husband is home playing video games and hasn't worked in three years. and you're off working your ass off and then coming home and getting food on the table. So what's not to love about your partnership and the way you're approaching it, I think when things a bit come off the tracks is when I think a man's self-esteem sometimes is more connected to and on a healthy way his economic viability and when he is not doing well and not only attacks his self-esteem, but also if it's benchmarked against his wife is doing better, which obviously is key because you've got to put food on the table, it can make him feel very insecure.

And this is the crazy one. They become much more likely to get divorced when the woman starts making more money. Now, is that because the woman is not as attracted to her partner or because the partner or the male gets insecure and quite frankly becomes just more difficult to live with? I bet the answer is yes. You know, I think you have to do a few things as a man. And one of the first things is take economic responsibility for your household.

And I realize how sexes that sounds. But I think in a capitalist society, if you want to be successful as a man, and again, this isn't the way things should be. It's the way things are. You need to be economically viable. And sometimes economic viability and taking economic responsibility for your household as a man is getting out of the way and being more supportive of your partner who happens to be better at this whole money thing than you.

And now the more women are graduating from college than men, you're just going to have more and more situations where the woman's background and credentials lend herself to greater economic opportunity. And it is your role as the dude to step up and either fill that gap and be more supportive around the household, root for that person. I think one of the keys to a healthy relationship is really advocating for your partner, really enjoying and appreciating and creating stages that. strangers applaud for them. What can I tell you? There's some basic truths here, and that is the gender roles come out instinctively, and that is men are disproportionately evaluated on their economic well-being, and so you have to at least be aware of that, and the dude has to be aware of that and say, well, if I'm feeling insecure, that's natural, but I need to get over it in this age, and I need to lean into the importance of the partnership and economic viability

in the household. Anyways, congratulations on what sounds like a great partnership. question number two thanks prof g prof kevin here from gainsville florida and over the last 23 years i've worked in a leading department performing cutting-edge research in the public domain and the projects are all competitively funded from nihia nsf usda other government funding agencies and that's every test tube every hour of tuition you name it all funded by public resources and all of our data go into public domain. In that time, I've trained 130 undergraduates, 20 graduate students, many postdocs, and dozens of scientists from 18 different countries all came here because we were the place to go. And over the last 10 years, funding just hasn't grown at the cost of

science. Now NSF, NIH, and other agencies have been cut to the bone. So the question is this. How do we make national leadership understand that by cutting public science, does not just hurt academic science. It destroys our standing in the world and cuts the pipeline of talent to America's technical workforce. Where are our future scientists going to come from? Our priorities are really screwed up. Thanks to the question, Kevin. Like, what do we do about it? We elect new leaders. I just don't think there's any educating the current administration around university funding and the kind of the, what is arguably the most successful private public partnership in the world is the relationship between government university research

and then how that university research spills over into the private sector and creates shareholder value, which creates income and a great deal of prosperity and taxes and tax revenue and then the wheel spends. We're better at that than anyone in the world. Under Trump's budget proposal for the 2026 fiscal year, U.S. federal government funding for basic research would fall by more than a third. We're approximately 34% from $45 billion to $30 billion, according to the American Association for the Advancement of Science. Like, I'm not balanced here.

I think this is, I used to compare oftentimes Trump to Hitler in his first term, and my dad would call me and say, okay, Scott, you're being, you're being alarmist. Hitler had his own private armies. Well, now Trump has his own private army, and that is someone that has been militarized, isn't really, targeting people based on their behavior, but on their identity is wearing mass and is there for theater, you know, whether it's chemotherapy or diabetes drugs or weapons or LED panels or energy efficient technology, the spillover from research funded at universities has been arguably the greatest investment in history. And generally speaking, what I see is a common theme across the

Trump administration, and that is, let's have a sugar high now. Let's party with champagne and cocaine and stop making the requisite long-term investments. I'm beginning to believe the government's job or the key theme that we lack right now on a kind of a basic or a couple basic levels is one, the most effective governing doesn't get headlines. That anything that gets news probably isn't very good governance and it's the hard boring shit that moves the needle. This is yet another example of government refusing to do their job. What is their job to think long-term and prevent a tragedy of the commons and do the boring shit? shitty work that doesn't get some, in some lab somewhere, someone is getting funded to hire

the most talented people in the world who are, by the way, PhD students, and they decide I'm the best and brightest, I come up through the ranks, I'm identified as a fucking genius and hardworking, maybe a little strange. The PhD students are a little strange, but strange in a good way. In some, we're in violent agreement here, boss, and there is no quick fix other than to find or elect leaders who recognize their job is to make long-term boring investments, that don't get press releases, that don't have Fox News and CNN running over here to talk about this to avoid your trips to an island. But think about the hard work that doesn't pay off. What is the job of every elected politician to plant trees the shade of which they will not sit under?

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There we go. I'm going to read the question here. Hello, Professor. You've been open about your struggles with depression, and I thank you for that. Is there any advice you can give people with similar issues about how to not let depression take away your ambition? How did you manage to be a high-performing depressed personal while for many depression sucks away of their ability to bring their ideas and dreams to life? Also, can you share some thoughts as a parent about protecting your children from being negatively impacted when you're going through a phase of darkness? Thank you so much for sharing.

So I don't read these questions. I don't see these questions before I read them. And I'm a bit self-conscious here because I have no domain expertise in psychiatry. So the first thing I would say is it's really important if you're feeling down to try and discern between being depressed or sad and when you're really struggling. And it's getting in the way your life. And the first thing is speak to someone, whether it's someone who has struggled with depression, whether it's a doctor, whether it's a trained mental health professional. But I'm not going to be able to give you a series of things that say,

this is how do you snap out of depression? Because I think what I feel sometimes, I think I'm more prone to anger and depression and sadness than most people, but I'm not sure I would ever be clinically diagnosed as depressed. I have never been on pharmaceuticals. And by the way, I don't in any way disparage or make a judgment on that. I'm not qualified to. I can only tell you what happens with me.

And that is, I have a tendency to see the glass as half empty. I go to the negative. I have trouble forgiving people. I hold grudges. I get angry. I role play. I imagine confrontations with people, not physical confrontations,

but verbal confrontations. And I get angry and upset. And small slights bother me. This is a really unattractive, huge flaw in me. And I recognize it. And more than anything, I have trouble forgiving myself.

I say something stupid. I do something on kind. I make a bad investment. I make a stupid decision. I handle parenting the wrong way, which I do almost every fucking day. And I just get so upset and angry myself. I have a difficult time forgiving myself and that anger, that acid wears out my veins, my arteries, and I just go numb and get depressed for a few days and go very inward, go very introverted, get kind of listless, and see everything very negatively. There's some basic things I do. I do. tell myself. One, if I'm embarrassed or angry as someone else, I just think, okay, my job,

the best revenge I can have on anything that's gone wrong if I'm angry at the world or angry at anybody else is to have a fucking amazing life. Two, to be grateful and recognize that if I look at my life, my worst day is better than most people's best days. And also something I think is a little bit unique about my perspective is I am a rabid atheist and recognizing I'm going to be dead soon and so is everyone else that I care about or care about what they think, that they're going to be dead soon. Why would I not allow myself to be happy? Why wouldn't I forgive myself? Why wouldn't I just enjoy this given that we're all going to be, you know, in the ground sooner than we like? I find that actually quite liberating that why on earth would

I be upset about this? It just doesn't fucking matter. Why would I care what they think? They're going to be dead soon and so am I. Why would I be embarrassed or angry that I'm not more successful when no one's going to remember me anyways in 50 or 70 years? Why wouldn't I just enjoy my relationships, love people as much as I can, forgive myself, and appreciate all of my blessings. I do have, that's kind of my cognitive behavioral therapy, constantly checking my thoughts, saying, okay, stop it, stop it. You're incredibly blessed and fortunate. It's all going to be over soon. Show some empathy. You don't know what's going on with that person. Be kind to yourself. You've done well. You have good kids. You have great relationship. Just try and I try to check that

shit at the door, an actual sort of practical means of trying to say, I can tell when I'm going dark. I start getting very quiet. I start not wanting to work out. I start seeing everything really negatively. I can sense, okay, I'm going dark. And then I have actual, not cognitive behavioral therapy, but behavioral therapy to try and set myself out of it. And I call it Scafa. And it's the acronym for SCAFA. And I'll take you through each of them. The first is I try to sweat. For something, something about jet lag triggers a propensity for depression. I think the last time I had what I would call a scary episode of depression, I was at the top floor of this amazing hotel in Hong Kong called the Upper House.

And I had gone to like Brazil for a client. I think it was the client, the tour of this great beauty company. And then I flew all the way to Hong Kong to meet with, I think it was Lane Crawford, the department store there. And something about all of that jet lag just did something to my, Amman Gala or whatever, my hypothalamus or whatever part of your brain regulates emotion. And I was so fucking depressed. I just remember sitting there looking in the reflection of the window at this amazing hotel,

just so upset thinking, how did I, what series of bad decisions led me to this situation where I'm not anywhere near someone who cares about me. If I died right now, no one would care. And my thoughts just started getting increasingly ugly. and I no joke, cancel my meetings, rushed to the airport, and flew home to see my partner and kids because I was just in such a weird place. I had never felt that down before. But anyways, a long-winded way of saying, when I travel, the first thing I try and do is I try and sweat. I find that resetting, sweating resets my system. So that's the first thing I do.

See for clean. I try and eat clean. I try to make an effort to not have sugary or fast. or really buttery food and just eat, try and if I can, eat at home and really purposely trying. I do think that sugary, shitty food is not good for you. A is for abstinence, not an abstinence from sex, but an abstinence from alcohol and THC. I love alcohol. I love THC. I think I'm good at it. I think the vast majority of the time I'm able to weave those things into my life in an integrative fashion that enhances my life. But when I feel myself going dark, I just cut that shit out because I'm worried that I'm banging my sensors with the wrong thing, and I'll end up going even further, even if it gives me some sort of temporary relief, it'll take me down even further.

So abstinence F is family. I find being around my kids and my partner really helps me. It helps ground me. One, because my kids, generally speaking, or kids can be so awful that it forces you to take yourself out of feeling sorry for yourself and focus on whether or not your kid is going to remember to put on his or her shoes before they go to school. But I find fans. family very grounding. And then the A is for affection. I find human touch and weird things like, I let the dogs on the couch and I'm not feeling well. I'll even say to my kids, I'm not feeling great. Can we watch some TV together? And they know I'm upset and they're sort of used to and they say, sure. And I think my youngest who's more affectionable just sort of naturally flop his legs on

mine. I try to be, you know, I try to be affectionate with my partner. I find that that really helps me, that human touch helps. Nothing is ever as good or as bad as it seems. Apologies for the word salad and thank you for the question. That's all for this episode.

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