The Psychology of your 20s - 103. How to be completely unique

Episode Date: June 30, 2023

The desire to be unique and individual is one that we all feel, especially in our 20s as we begin to establish our 'adult' identity and make efforts to distinguish ourselves. In this weeks episode we discuss seven major tips and strategies for being the most interesting and unique person in any room - from embracing unconventional thinking, rejecting the herd mentality of trends and the desire to be the "it" girl, spending time in nature, and challenging yourself creatively, being different is no longer and bad thing. Listen now to learn the psychology behind how we can be completely unique. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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wherever you are in the world. Thanks for tuning in. Thanks for joining me. What we're talking about today is something that has been on my mind a lot recently. It's really been kind of humming away, not so much bothering me, just like something that I've been quite fascinated by. I went to this concert the other day and when I was there I saw like hundreds, if not thousands of people who literally could have been my clone. were dressed like me. They had the same favorite song as me. They were living in the same city as me. I'm sure some of them even heard the same name. And it really kind of got me questioning, are any of us actually having an original experience? And am I actually unique? Could

you pick someone out of this crowd of like-minded people and kind of replace me? And I guess with that, the question is, who am I if there are like a million others that are like me? So, I thought, this is probably something we are all thinking about. So let's talk about it. A big thing that we face in our 20s is the need to establish our identity, one that is unique from our family, from our friends, from our peers, to not only feel that we kind of stand out or we're different in some way, but that what we have to offer is authentic and also exclusive to us. I think establishing a sense of self-concept and identity is a massive task that we face. And a big part of that is questioning how can we be unique? How can we be the only

versions of ourselves out there? You know, a rare breed. Someone that people look at and think, you know, wow, I've never met someone like that before. I think that's a big part of the allure of individuality and authenticity, you know, nothing is more attractive or compelling than someone who lives as their truest and most vibrant self. And this seems impossible at times on a planet of 9 billion people, but I would like for us to kind of really dive into what actually makes all of us individual when not just a copy and paste version of each other. Each of us is this like wonderfully unique pattern of experiences who see the world entirely differently, but at times we also really struggle with this sense of like, who am I? How can I be completely

unique? And I want to talk about it and provide a bit of a psychological guide into what makes us quote unquote special. And my seven kind of major tips and strategies and theories. as to how we can be completely unique. We're going to explore some very wide-ranging theories from the theory of identity development, self-actualization, the origin of terms like basic, how our society has really transformed in recent decades to embrace uniqueness,

and also things like the power of nature in creating authenticity and self-awareness to ideas of social conformity and how we can unlearn our need to follow, trends and to be kind of the cool girl or the it girl. It's jam-packed. I love discussing this with my friends with random people I meet at parties. The psychology behind this topic is also some of my favorite, the psychology behind identity and behind uniqueness is kind of only recently I think really begun to be explored in depth. And I also think that it's really liberating in our 20s

to really embrace what makes us authentic, an individual and wonderful. It unlocks a whole new outlook on life and a sense of self-confidence that I think we could all do with a lot more of. So without further ado, we're going to discuss how we can be completely unique. So let's get into it. To be unique is to be like no one else, to be like no other, to be one of a kind, and it derives from the Latin word, Eunice, meaning one.

I think as human beings, we often strive for uniqueness and individuality. We naturally want to stand out. We want to express our true selves and leave a lasting impression on the world. I would say in Western cultures, especially because of this drive for individuality versus collectivism,

those of us who have been raised in such societies, we really do take pride and we have this innate desire to be somewhat in the spotlight and an element of that is being unique enough to be recognized in comparison to the status quote. The desire to be unique, it stems from various psychological and social factors, such as self-expression, social differentiation, which is essentially how our society assigns the role and status of various members based on socio-cultural factors. I think as well, there's this element or drive for personal fulfillment. When we express ourselves in unique ways, when we explore our passions and we pursue our interests, we do experience a deeper sense of fulfillment.

Uniqueness really allows us to feel like we are having a unique experience of the world and it allows us to really foster our own personal sense of self and growth and development. But additionally, I think it allows us to feel like our life is meaningful and that it is distinguishable from others. Especially in recent generations, I do think that there has been this rising preoccupation and desire to be unique and to be different, which is somewhat of a change from what we would have seen, I would say, 100, even 50 years ago when individuals and entire groups were really ostracized for diverging from that socially ingrained norm. It was really an era of social

conformity back in the 1940s and 1950s. There was a very inherent idea of what was normal and acceptable, and that left a lot of people constrained and limited in their individuality. When we think about a lot of the major social movements of the last 50, 60 years. A lot of them were about, of course, primarily freedom from discrimination and equality, but as a secondary consequence, the right to be different. And by fighting against that, either for sexual liberation, for equal rights for women, or people of color, I think the world suddenly became accepting of different stories and identities.

and this social trend towards nonconformity has created that desire to now be unique. And as that has naturally evolved, now there is beauty and charm and attractiveness to being different. And we see a lot of people trying to establish their personal brand, as we often call it, on social media, their own aesthetic, their own style and sense of self at times. I would say even going to quite drastic lengths to be exceptional, you know, different in this day and age, in this generation is no longer a bad word. Our 20s are also obviously, I think, a critical time period in which we are trying to establish a unique identity. This period, in particular spanning from around 18 to 29, it's been labeled as emerging adulthood by psychologists

and it's characterized by exploration, by self-discovery, and the integration of various life roles and values. So from a psychological perspective, this process involves navigating what Eric Erickson called identity versus role confusion and also intimacy versus isolation. And in this stage of life, we strive to establish a very clear sense of who we are, what we stand for, but also how we can distinguish ourselves from others and begin to engage in commitments and responsibilities that are independent from our family unit that are very much our own. And I think between our teen years and our 20s, we also experience this very big shift from being in high school and wanting to fit in and wanting to conform and be exactly like our

friends to our 20s when there is a lot more celebration and acceptance of what makes us different. And sometimes in that process, we have to try on different identities to see which one fits. That's part of the self-exploration process. If you never go through that, you end up being quite dissatisfied because you don't have a true sense of self. And often those identities that we try on, they are archetypes or even stereotypes of the types of individuals that we admire, the types of people that we have seen around us that have been most socially influential. So for example, this is such a throwback, but I remember in my late teens, I really fell in with quite a religious group.

And that was my identity for a year or so. And then I tried out being a bit of a party animal. Then I was a creative, a painter or an artist. then I was someone who was very academic and I wanted to be a lecturer or a politician. Every shade of person, I wanted to see if it fit. And I'm not ashamed of those chapters. This person I am now is also probably going to change 100 times over before the end of my time. It's a very constantly changing thing.

But I think what's important to understand is that uniqueness and with that authenticity comes from a strong sense of self and a strong sense of of identity, which we tend to believe is a lot more stable compared to what's trending, or the people that we're around and the people that we're exposed to. And before we think about uniqueness, we obviously have to examine identity. And we need to think about identity as a series of buckets that we each fill with different items. And each of these items will exist on a spectrum. So these buckets, they include things like personal history and life experiences. This is the one that's most stable.

It's the hardest to change, although I would say our interpretation of our life experiences may be altered. Then we have things such as our values and our beliefs such as creativity and honesty and generosity, our social identity. So thinking about gender, ethnicity,

nationality, what religion you follow even, our occupation. We have our interpersonal relationships as the fourth bucket. So that includes your family, your partner, your friends, then personal goals and aspirations, traits and abilities, interests and hobbies. And finally, accessories, which I kind of like to call extras. They are the ways we present or express the other core components of our identity. Things that are quite external. So I would say things like physical appearance, how we dress, what kind of music we like, our favorite season, just those

small added bonuses of things that kind of sprinkle in with the big buckets to make us a fully formed, fully rounded out person. That's a lot of buckets, but no one is going to have the same composition as you. Maybe some of those surface level social identity things will be the same, like gender, occupation, even things like goals and ambitions and accessories, but there are millions, if not trillions of different combinations. And each of these elements creates our identity. That combination is what makes us unique and what makes us individual. And that is essentially the foundation of what we're talking about today. So now that we kind of have our basics down pat, we've explored a little bit about the history around this trend towards individuality and the value of being unique.

How do we apply this understanding? I want to give you seven tips on how you can cultivate your uniqueness and establish your identity in a way that is natural and true to who you are. So the first three are about the current versions of you and the final four are about how to expand that version of you into new terrain. Firstly, if you want to be completely unique, you need to understand the core elements of your identity. Otherwise, you're really not going to get anywhere. I think that any version of you that is not rooted in something organic is essentially a facade that you won't be able to sustain. And further to that, it won't leave you feeling particularly fulfilled. It's very easy, I think, to see versions of people that we want to be on social media and essentially try and press, you know, copy and paste.

But the thing is that person already exists. And let's go back to the definition of being unique, which is to be one, not to be two. We each have an inherent mental image of who we are. And sometimes we need to have a very nice long look when we feel ourselves slipping into someone else's shoes. We really need to get back to that core kind of internal mirror. So there are a number of questions that we can actually use to re-center ourselves. And I think they reveal a lot about our true priorities and what actually makes us different. So four questions. And I want you to answer them truthfully. If someone was to describe you, what five words do you think they'd use? and what five words would you use?

Would they be different? So that's one question. The second question, what part of me am I most afraid to reveal and why? How am I like my parents? How am I different? What would I do if I knew I would not be judged? That last question always gets so many good responses because I think it frees us from a very big question.

core insecurity, which is the opinions of others. I truly believe that that is the biggest factor that stifles our authenticity and our individuality, because when we constantly are seeking others' approval, we are shifting our behavior and our expression to be something that is palatable for them. And I think connection and relationships are a valuable part of our well-being, but not when they really sever our connection with what makes us unique. So what are you doing for others? Why are you changing yourself for others? What part of your existence would no longer be relevant if you weren't seeking the opinions of those around you? I think it's really important to sit on that question for a little while and answer it truthfully. And it really leads into my second

tip, which is to avoid anything or anyone that shames you for your individuality. And in some ways, also my third tip, which is to hold yourself accountable when you are changing for others or adopting a persona. Obviously, in life, there are always going to be people who are cruel and there are going to be people who are rude and that's just part of our existence as social creatures. But the easiest way to combat these individuals is to stand your ground. When we change for someone else, we are only doing ourselves a disservice. We kind of let them. win. There's this theory known as symbolic interactionism and it essentially it explains why we feel this response and want to change for others. It says that we develop our sense of identity and our sense

of self through interactions. Our identities are formed and maintained through the social interactions we have with others. They're very much relational and the meaning that we attribute to symbols, language and social roles. But these same interactions can impact how we express ourselves. Because of that theory, we have a tendency to change how we act and our interpretation of the world based on those around us. And we can create these personas, which are essentially a fictionalized character. And for each persona we adopt, we become further and further removed from

our true self. At work, you're one person. And when you hang out with your family, you're another. And when you're around a group of people you want to impress, you create another persona. And that persona is different from the one you have with your best friend. And which version of you is the real one? Because when you are living based on how you think others see you and their approval, that disconnect with what makes you unique is going to be even greater. Those are my first three tips. They're really around maintaining your current sense of self and aligning your current behaviors with that version of you.

But I do think that there are other things that we can do to kind of expand our identity and to expand how we see ourselves and how the world sees us as well. So these next four tips are going to be around how we can almost cultivate a better version of ourselves that is unique, that is individual, that is authentic. So my fourth tip for being completely unique is to challenge your socially ingrained beliefs and break out of your epistemic bubble. So this idea of an epistemic bubble, it's essentially the theory that we have all been implicitly taught a certain way of thinking and a certain set of beliefs about the world. And that can be incredibly narrow

and sometimes causes us to exclude differing opinions. You become an echo chamber of those around you, particularly those who have a significant social influence, such as your parents and your partners and your friends and people that you admire and your opinions are not your own. They are from those around you. I think there is nothing less unique than someone who just parrots back what they've been taught.

obviously I think it's really hard to break away from that thinking when we think about social pressure and social conformity. But if you are listening to this and you are seriously considering what actually makes me individual, I would say a great way to figure that out is to embrace unconventional thinking. To question your thoughts on things like religion, on beauty, on the meaning of life, on what comes afterwards, what do you think about happiness? What's your perspective on success, on popularity, on politics. Uniqueness comes from creating a tapestry of experiences and beliefs and thoughts that are different. And our 20s are the best time to really actually question these things because the older we get, we all know the harder it is to accept

new ways of thinking and we can become, I would say, quite stagnant in our perspectives because of factors like neuroplasticity and even our environmental exposure to new ideas, it all becomes a lot more limited. So to be unique, expose yourself to new ideas. I want you to listen to new podcasts like this one and read new books and articles and follow different people on social media who create content that is different from what we are normally exposed to. It's really interesting. I follow so many like spirituality accounts, even though I would say I'm quite a scientific person because I think it's, it's firstly super interesting, but it also allows my own beliefs to be more nuanced and adaptive. And it allows me to be able to contribute to different conversations.

On the point of social media, I would also say unfollow anyone. who makes you feel like you need to conform or follow trends, particularly as they relate to self-expression. I would say that trends are not inherently bad or negative, but they do create what we would call a herd mentality and a sense of tribalism or homogenous way of living. It's, I think, a really beautiful thing to take inspiration from others, but I like to think about it in terms of fashion

is the easiest kind of explanation and an example, there is always going to be a trending bag or a trending dress or a trending pair of shoes that we feel like we need to own. There is always an I-go that people are trying to emulate. And this can be attributed to the idea of social conformity, but also the existence of in-groups and of course the power of consumerism. We want to be part of the in-group and we want to be socially accepted because our membership to these groups makes us feel better. So for example, buying, you know, a $2,000 bag or some infamous Zara dress is a way, it's almost like a token that allows us to be part of what is seen as admirable or attractive or stylish. And so we use those items as a way to signify to others.

I belong. But that doesn't allow for social expression or self-expression because a crucial element of any in-group is conformity to the group norm. It can be very easy to observe someone else and decide to be just like them because it provides us with a mental shortcut for social acceptance. If we already know that this person is liked by others, as popular and seen as fashionable and deserving of praise by copying aspects of their image, we are looking to gain the same level of social approval. But I do really believe that trends, they create social hierarchies, and they are based a lot on materialistic possessions rather than what actually makes us authentic and individual. And I think they also blatantly go against that very definition of uniqueness

which is to be one, to be one of a kind. So I would say really try and detach from that kind of fast media and capitalist and consumerist markets of trend making that is inherently going to ask you to be a person that you're not. Also, when you make decisions about what you're wearing and those kind of accessories we talked about of your identity, ask yourself, am I like, am I wearing? this because this makes me feel comfortable. Am I dressing this way? Because I actually like this style.

Is this actually what I would wear? Or is it what I think others want to see me in? Is it because I want someone to see me walking down the street and think that I am fashionable or trendy? I think that's a really easy way to kind of blossom in and kind of move into a space in which you're making decisions for your inner self and for the authentic person at your core. I have two more tips for you, perhaps my favorite, that we are going to explore after this short break. Stick around. 2%. That is the number of people who take the stairs when there is also an escalator available. I'm Michael Easter and on my podcast 2%. I break down the science of mental toughness, fitness, and building resilience in our strange modern world.

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intelligence and to be individual. And I not only find that very true from personal experience, but I think that is a really beautiful summary and explanation as to how nature really cultivates our identity for us. There was this incredible study. It was conducted in 2017, and it essentially showed what I think that we've known for a long time, which is that exposure to nature restores a lot of our cognitive capacities, and it is a very important aspect of maintaining our identity and sense of self. So we're going to do a whole episode on the healing power of nature because ecore psychology is possibly my new favorite thing.

But when we spend time in outdoor environments, what it does is it essentially provides us with different stimuli and experiences that help to rewire our brain. It provides time for contemplation and it exposes us to things that bring us interesting stories and learning experiences and aspects and beautiful things that we bring back to ourselves and that allow us to express ourselves differently and be used. unique. It's definitely not spoken about enough, but just, I think, watch the change that even 90 minutes of outdoors time a week will have on your mindset, on the originality of your thoughts, on your self-confidence and creativity. I think additionally, it's very easy to spend time inside and to do the most convenient thing, but every new thing that you do, every new challenge, every unique experience, it really creates a version of you. that is more true and more authentic. Also, it's just that aspect of doing things that are different, right?

Most people don't prioritize spending time in nature. And I guess part of being unique is finding the right identity that suits you based on your interest and based on kind of your inner calling. So being prepared to try new things such as go outdoors, such as, you know, just see the world around you is a great way to kind of distinguish yourself as well. My final tip for being completely unique is to engage in something creative. Creativity in whatever form you choose, whether that's doodling or making up songs or writing or knitting or painting or ceramics. It really doesn't matter. These activities reveal hidden parts of ourselves.

When we engage in a creative activity, we enter what psychologists call a flow state, which is essentially a place of deep fulfillment and peace where a lot of our internal inhibitions are relaxed and we are going to give ourselves permission to access the parts of ourselves that we have been told to suppress. You don't even need to be good at it. You can be terrible at whatever you're doing. But what this theory and this understanding is going to tell you is that just engaging in something that is new and fresh and novel and activates different parts of your

brain is going to allow you to view information in novel ways and to be playful and to engage in self-discovery and reveal new facets of your identity not just to other people but to yourself I think people who have hobbies as well and who do something other than work and look at their phones they are just generally more interesting it is the easiest thing in the world to do what is convenient to get that lingering and an addictive dopamine hit from social media and technology to doomscroll for hours and hours. And you know, part of it is because these activities are deliberately made to be addictive. But I think that's not going to make you an especially unique or fun person because most people are doing the same. Most people are really living

for their phones and living for technology, rather than living for the things that I think really bring a lot of flavor and color to our lives. I want you to find even just that one thing that you do in your free time that gets you out of your mind and into your imagination and allows you to build these new elements of your identity that are unlike anyone else's, but also to find time to actually reflect and sit with what's actually going on in your life. I think self-awareness and being unique come very much hand in hand. So those are my major tips. But I think regardless of what you think of those,

maybe you're still struggling with what makes you a unique person. So I just want to quickly take a second and I guess it just provide you with some reminders around why we really are different and special and purposeful. Here are just some basic things that I found that no one else in the world has that you do. Your fingerprints, first of all, self-explanatory, but not even identical twins have the same fingerprints. Isn't that so beautiful that each of us has such a unique cell composition that our body and the patterns on our skin are never going to be recreated?

There's one thing. Also your ears, super random, but since like the 1950s, forensic scientists and psychologists, they have been using the measurements of someone's ears to match the prints left behind at crime scenes with almost 100% accuracy. So that is another way that you are not like anyone else. Your body odor as well. Each of us has like a different scent, which I think is like amazing. it's also why sometimes you're really attracted to the smell of someone else and their pheromones. Everyone's smell is made up of a combination of like 44 different compounds. So there you go.

There's one way that you're special. You have your own unique perfume almost. Your unique scars and your moles, even the freckles on your body and the pores on your nose. They are like constellations. There are nothing else. There is nothing else in the universe like it. And you'll laugh. I think that is one of the things that we love the most about others is how they laugh, how they express joy.

And it's interesting to know that that is unique to each of us. It's like our own signature sound. And of course, our thoughts, no matter how much you and another person agree, no matter how much you are similar, your individual thoughts will never be replicated. You are like a walking miracle. There is nothing that will ever exist quite like you or has ever existed quite like you. And I think that is a really beautiful reminder when we're struggling with where we actually sit in the world. I think naturally we hate being seen as basic or as run of the mill. I absolutely hate the use of the term basic.

I think it's always just used to kind of negate shared interests or general, similarities that you share with others. I also think it's just another word used to put down people, especially women, for the aspects of their identity that they value, to imply that they don't contain multitudes, that they are not individual, and that they are not someone with unique thoughts and feelings and worries and in a unique identity. I really hate that term.

Like, I think it's often referred to when we are, like, fans of certain like pop culture icons or certain like fashion brands or TV shows or music. There's a reason that those things are popular. It's because they are good and you do not need to try and distinguish yourself by pretending to hate those things. I think people who refer to like certain bands or certain anything really as basic and really just projecting an insecurity that they themselves are not fierce and strong enough and their own identity to feel like they don't need to tear others down.

So there you go. I think that a reason it can be so powerful and the reason we use that term is because it really does tap into this very human insecurity. We want to think that we are different because otherwise our existence is somewhat irrelevant. If someone could take our place in our relationships, if someone could do our job, if someone could have the thoughts that we're having, create what we're creating, well, that's quite depressing because it essentially makes our influence and place in the world quite inconsequential.

It's one of the big pillars of existential dread or even an existential crisis. In psychology, this refers to that feeling that life is inherently pointless and that we have no reason for being here. Nothing we do has meaning. Nothing about our lives is special. And I think that's a really hard thought to counteract, but by applying those strategies, we can feel more at peace with what we have to offer, that we are individual, that we know ourselves.

And when we tap into our creativity, when we question our surroundings and our beliefs, when we truly examine what we want and who we are and we allow ourselves to express who we are authentically beyond trends, we really bring a sense of meaning to our lives. You do not feel like just another person walking down the street. You do not feel like a bit of a drone. You are yourself. You know, I always think like I am Gemma and isn't that beautiful? Like there is no one else like me. Everyone walking down the street is like this incredible tapestry of every experience and everything that's happened and their lives and their thoughts and their narrative will never be recreated. Remember, being completely unique is not about trying to be something that you're not.

It's about embracing who you are, your authentic self, and expressing it in a way that sets you apart. And that journey towards being unique is a lifelong process. And I don't think it's one that we can do lightly. It's one that requires constant self-reflection and growth and adaptation. But by really taking the time to just, distinguish ourselves from others to live our lives as if we are the only version of ourselves of which we are, we kind of find a new meaning and a new purpose and we feel like who we are on this planet actually matters. So I hope that you have enjoyed this. I hope that you feel completely unique.

I hope that you are able to apply these strategies and these tips to feel more confident. I think that's like the general outcome that I want from today's episode. It's really been something that I've been trying to apply to my own life, but also trying to counteract this weird fear of being deemed or seen as basic or like everyone else. It's such, I think, a conundrum with social media in which we're able to really see a thousand different reflections of ourselves and the people who look like us, but also this like striving for individuality and to have a brand and to have a style and to be unlike anyone else and fame and success. There are just all these themes that are really hard to escape, but in our 20s, we do have this opportunity to be able to figure out

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