The Ramsey Show - Behavior Matters More Than Math

Starting point is 00:00:02 Brought to you by the Every Dollar app. Start budgeting for free today. Normal is broke and common sense is weird, so we're here to help you transform your life. From the Ramsey Network and the Fairwinds Credit Union Studio, this is The Ramsey Show. I'm Dave Ramsey, your host, Rachel Cruz, Ramsey Personality, number one, best-selling author, co-host of the Smart Money Happy Hour. I'm the Ramsey Networks, and my daughter is my co-host today. Open phones at AAA 825-5-2-2-25. Andy's in Indianapolis.

Starting point is 00:00:45 Hi, Andy, how are you? Good. How are you? Better than I deserve. What's up? Yeah, well, I'm 50 years old, married, with two kids. I'm just getting one off to college here just now, and we're in a situation where leading into last year, had corporate buyouts, cap my pay and really cut my pay. significantly. And in the process of trying to make up that income, my wife became severely ill

Starting point is 00:01:16 and we're heading towards disability. So she's definitely disabled now. We're looking at she basically, she should have been on disability years ago, but we've had trouble getting her there due to various reasons with her sickness and diagnosis and whatnot. So we've kind of made it this far trying to put bandages on everything, two credit cards maxed out, we sort of foolishly took the opportunity to take mortgage forbearance. We were kind of doing it at three months at a time. And through the end of the mortgage forbearance here this year, they will not defer our payments. So they're asking for $13,000 to keep us out of foreclosure.

Starting point is 00:02:00 We weren't aware that after six months, they can't defer payments. But we're in a situation where we're going to file Chapter 13 of Anchorage. and restructure, but I wanted to talk to you first. Andy, I'm so sorry. That's a lot. So you have $13,000 that you're behind on your home today. Correct. And they want it by the end of the year?

Starting point is 00:02:29 They want it by the end of this month. Okay, so that's a, that's a train that's been coming down the track for a while. You've seen it coming for a while, though. Absolutely, yeah. Yeah. Okay. But now it's on. Okay. We thought it was going to be temporary. What is your home worth? Spot 350, $350,000? $350,000. Correct. Okay. And what is the mortgage balance? What's it take to pay it off today? $150,000. Okay. All right. And what do you make now?

Starting point is 00:03:10 So I just started a new job a year and a half ago. I used to be on commission, so that was always another thing, too, with trying to manage cash flow, but I'm on salary now at $90,000 a year. Okay. That's good news. All right. And you have two credit cards. And the balances on those are what?

Starting point is 00:03:31 $18,000. Total. Total. Okay. All right. And how much on your cars? How much do you own your cars? One car is paid off. One car we owe $8,000 on, pay $278 a month for it.

Starting point is 00:03:45 Okay. All right. And what other debts? We have $2,000 in medical bills. Usually that's kind of a standing number, it seems to the road. I have an $8,000 deductible right now. In previous years, we had a $15,000 deductible that we would max out, and then I refied the house twice in the last handful of years. Why? Just to pay off credit cards that we had used for medical expenses, which I know was extremely foolish. Okay. But we keep thinking, you know, we thought it was temporary, you know.

Starting point is 00:04:21 We kept thinking she was going to get better, you know. Okay. Well, the reason I'm asking all these questions is it's the only way I can get to your answer. A Chapter 13 bankruptcy takes the balances that you have and you have to pay the minimum normal payment plus something on the arrearage on the car and on the house for 60 months for five years. Okay. Your unsecured debt can be paid back on a formula that they use when they're calculating it. Some percentage of the 18,000 would be reduced.

Starting point is 00:05:04 So pretend like they gave up half of it. So you had $9,000 that would be in the five-year plan as well. Okay. Okay. So you're going to be in there for five years and you're going to pay every dime that you owe on the house. It just spreads it out. It's all it does. Okay. There's no deal. There's no back of the mortgage. So that 13,000 is going to be spread out over 60 months plus your regular house payment. So in Chapter 7 bankruptcy, you're going to have your regular house payment plus, chapter 13, you have your regular house payment plus something on this 13,000, whatever 13,000 divided by 60. is okay. So here's what happens that 78% of the chapter 13s in America fail. The people don't make it through the 60 months because they can't make the payments. And we already knew that because they couldn't make the payments. And that's what put them here. You follow me? And so it's like when you refinance the house and didn't change anything. And now you, you're,

Starting point is 00:06:12 you got new credit card debt after that. Okay? So because you didn't change anything, you didn't fix what the actual problem was. You just treated the symptom. And that's what the bankruptcy does. So I always try to figure out a way if there's anything we can do to not file chapter 13. Because it is a bankruptcy. And then for the rest of your life, if you're filling out any form anywhere that says,

Starting point is 00:06:34 have you ever filed bankruptcy? Yes, I have. I filed a chapter 7 in 1988. and for the rest of my life, I get to answer, yes, I have filed bankruptcy. So I don't recommend bankruptcy. I try to figure out a way to avoid it where I can, if at all possible. So let's pretend that you paid the car payment. You got on beans and rice, rice, and beans, and you work two jobs or three jobs more.

Starting point is 00:06:58 And you didn't pay a dime on the credit cards and you stacked up cash. I bet you could scrape together the $13,000 before the foreclosure actually occurs. Which would be how long? probably six months. Right. I see. Get current on that and then go work on your credit cards. Your credit is going to be damaged, but not damaged as much as if you file bankruptcy. And, Andy, I'm assuming you have nothing in retirement, right? No 401Ks. We empty that years ago with her diagnosis. What's her diagnosis? Chronic neuroal Lyme disease. Oh, wow. Okay.

Starting point is 00:07:35 It's been controversial in the previous years. You know, insurance didn't cover. We lost a team member to the disability. We didn't lose his life, but he lost him to disability on exactly the same thing a few years back. Oh, man, that's harsh. Well, you remember the stimulus we received way back when, the Biden stimulus. We spent that on a $3,000 test just to confirm whether treatments were working or not. Wow. For example, you know, out of pocket.

Starting point is 00:08:03 So we're hoping that changes. We're hoping insurance gets better. Here's what. She does not have insurance right now either. When I filed, I heard my attorney say something loud and clear, and I always say it to folks, is after you file bankruptcy, you're still in the exact same position you were except for the debt. So all the things that are draining your emotions, all the pull of this medical, all the exhaustion of fighting and fighting and fighting against the system is all still there. Bankruptcy didn't fix any of that. And really, that's kind of what caused you to get here.

Starting point is 00:08:34 So what I would do is find out how long it takes for an attorney to do a foreclosure in your state and see if I can't scrape together the 13 by going all hands on deck before the foreclosure and avoid the bankruptcy. That's what my first goal would be. As your business grows, everything becomes more complex. There was a time when Ramsey Solutions had too many disconnected systems and not enough visibility across the business. We wasted too much time chasing information. instead of making decisions. That's why we got NetSuite.

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Starting point is 00:10:53 I want to put that tax return towards the car and get it done. My husband wants to put it towards a credit card because it's a higher interest rate. What say you? Well, you know what we say. we say pay it off smallest, we say pay it off smallest to largest. You knew that, right? Yes, I knew that. My husband just wants to do that credit card so bad.

Starting point is 00:11:15 Well, I would not do that. I would pay off the card. And can I be smart, I like for a minute? If we used his plan, we'd be where you are. Exactly. Okay, so I don't need his advice. His opinion is invalid based on the pattern of his life. No, thank you.

Starting point is 00:11:36 So now my smart like's done. Okay. Well, the first win, Carrie. You win the argument, Carrie. That's the bottom line. The top win for me is that he wants to pay off debt. We have so many people that call in that can't even get their spouse on board. So arguing about which debt to pay off, it's a good argument to have.

Starting point is 00:11:54 But the umbrella, it's a positive. I'm glad that you guys are on the same page with that. Agreed. Agree. Now that I got my smart aleck out, I completely agree. So anyway, the, um, Yeah, I would pay off the car. And actually, here's the weird thing.

Starting point is 00:12:09 I've done this a bunch of times because his angst is that the interest rate on the credit card is so much higher than the interest rate on the car. Correct? Yep. That's what is, that's the burr in his saddle. And so if you said, do you have any idea what these two interest rates are? Do you happen to know? The car is like five, five point something in the credit card is. 18 something. Okay. So it's a 15 swing or 13 swing. Okay. So if we do round numbers and just to make it

Starting point is 00:12:43 real easy to say let's say it's a 10 swing. It's a little more than that, but not much. It's $700 a year is the difference. 10% on $17,000. Okay. Okay. So it's costing you to do it my way, $1,700 for the year. However, you don't have a car payment anymore, and your car payment is what? About 500, over 500. Okay, and your household income is what? About, well, he brings home about $12,000 a month. Okay, and $50,000 means that if we don't have a car payment, we should pay it, and we make that kind of $12,000 a month, we should pay off $50,000 in about 10 or 11 months.

Starting point is 00:13:33 Oh, okay. Okay. So it won't even be a full year. So it won't even be $1,700 difference. And the other difference is that you cannot calculate the sense that we have traction, the sense that we've done something big with this money. And what that does to the momentum towards paying off the rest of the debt, that's hard to put into simple mathematics.

Starting point is 00:14:02 and all we're doing is simple mathematics. How much is the credit card payment every month? I'm just curious. I'm 50,000. Well, the interests would come up to almost 600 a month if we just paid the minimum. Yeah, so you're going to put, I mean, you need to put $5,000. Yeah, without a car payment, you need to put $5,000 a month on the credit card and be done within about 10 months, give or take. And so it's going to cost you about $1,700.

Starting point is 00:14:32 $1,700 was a round down so we can actually be correct now. And yet, it's also got the highest probability of actually succeeding. And so having taught people this for 30 years, having done it myself, having literally gotten tens of millions of people out of debt, I'm going to encourage you to do it that way. Yeah, Carrie, have you guys started the process? You said that this is going to be a tax refund check of $17,000. How much are you guys throwing a debt right now, the car and the credit card? How much are we what? How much are you throwing at the car right now?

Starting point is 00:15:04 I mean, are you guys paying off debt right now? Are y'all waiting on that check? Well, we're... I wouldn't say we're actively, like, life and beans paying off debt right now. So we're kind of waiting on that check. But this check has gotten me motivated to do the rice and beans, beans, and rice thing.

Starting point is 00:15:23 You know, like, let's get it done because it's the momentum. It's... I see something can happen. Sure. Totally. Totally. Yeah. So 500 plus the 600 that you're already paying is 1100.

Starting point is 00:15:36 So I'm asking you to come up with another 3,900 out of your budget, and you'll be done in 10 lousy months. And of course, you've cut up the credit card or you will tonight. And the two of you are on the same page and everything else. So overall, let's give him an 8 out of 10 because he's under the umbrella of husband that wants to get out of debt. Yay, like Rachel said, that's a big win. That's a huge breakthrough. So at that point, then we're only arguing about concepts, which is a fun thing to argue about, which play to call to win the Super Bowl. These are good arguments, right, that we get to have this question.

Starting point is 00:16:11 And so it's a good thing. But I would, and we would tell you to pay off your smallest largest, smallest to largest. So Rachel, here's the interesting thing. Okay. Let's go ahead and throw out the rest of it because everybody out there, this is all the crap we get on. Tick-Tac and Reddit and all the other stuff. that the debt snowball is not mathematically correct, and that the avalanche method that some people talk about

Starting point is 00:16:36 where you pay off highest interest rate to smallest interest rate is mathematically correct, and you will get out of debt faster. The answer to that is that you're wrong because your math formula is incomplete. If you learn how to do sophisticated mathematics, you have to include probability of completion. the number of people that complete the debt snowball because it gives them a positive feedback loop

Starting point is 00:17:03 is over 10x the number of people that actually complete the avalanche because the avalanche is emotionally, relationally hard to do because you don't get traction. You don't have something saying way to go, way to go, way to go. And every time you pay off that little debt, you get a way to go feedback loop. And that way to go feedback loop keeps you in and increases your chance of actually finishing the freaking program and getting out of debt. instead of having some kind of mathematical theory that you do nothing with and you get paralysis of the analysis. And so when you add in probability of completion, the death snowball is far superior to the avalanche,

Starting point is 00:17:39 mathematically. But now we've actually done some sophisticated mathematics instead of sixth grade math, which is how most people do their math, and that's what gets them broke. So in her case, it actually is more expensive. what I just told her to do is going to cost them more money. It's going to cost them about $1,500 more, maybe $1,700 more somewhere in there to do it the way I just outlined if she does exactly what we just told her to do. And if he does exactly what we just told them to do. That normally is not the case, though. Normally when you run the math out, it's like a month and a half, two months difference on how fast you get out of debt.

Starting point is 00:18:21 if you work the avalanche precisely and you completed it, which almost no one does. Well, people do. They do, but the probability is much lower of completion. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so, and that's why when MIT did a study, they figured out that personal finance, and they came back and said on the front page of Time magazine, Ramsey's right, you know, because that that snowball works because of the behavior aspects of personal finance. You're modifying behavior.

Starting point is 00:18:48 You're not fixing math. Well, and always the joke is if you're 50, $1,000 in credit card debt, you wouldn't be there if you were doing math in the first place with your bank account, you know. Which is kind of what I just did a minute ago when I was abusing it. But, yeah, yeah, if your math was so good, you wouldn't be here. So, you know, that's the thing. So the debt snowball is superior because you understand that personal finance, including

Starting point is 00:19:13 saving, including investing, is more behavior-based than it is actual math-based. Another example of that is in our millionaire study, when we studied 10,000 millionaires, we found they weren't that great at picking mutual funds. Their mutual funds were good to okay. They weren't bad, but they weren't the best. The difference was that they actually freaking put money in them instead of talking about it. That's the difference. So the behavior matters more than the math.

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Starting point is 00:22:43 Matt's in Riverside, California. Hey, Matt, how are you? Dave, I'm doing well, but I got myself in a financial predicament with my father-in-law. I just can't figure out how to get out of. Prior to my wife and I getting married, he purchased us a house for a million dollars cash. and he pulled ahead $200,000 of our inheritance, leaving an $800,000 balance for us to pay off in a mortgage, that he said he would help us out by just only charging us a 3% interest rate until the balance is paid off on a 15-year mortgage. So that's a lot of money, but I have no documented equity or ownership in the house for which I pay a majority of the mortgage, the maintenance, the repairs, the upgrades.

Starting point is 00:23:29 and I find myself just digging myself every month into this deeper hole that I possibly one day if something bad happens, I will just have no equity in. Have you talked to him about it, Matt? I have to which he said to trust him and everything will work out. No, thank you. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Okay.

Starting point is 00:23:54 So let's pretend. How old is he? He's 70. Okay. let's pretend that his heart skips a beat as he's driving down the road, which could easily happen to a 70-year-old, and he loses consciousness and goes across the lane and hits someone head on, and they die. He's going to get sued for millions and millions of dollars,

Starting point is 00:24:19 and it's going to be a lien on the property that he owns. You're screwed. And he has put it in a trust in order. to protect it. It does not protect it from that. Okay. This is absolutely bogus. This is controlling beyond belief. No. No, I'm not going forward with this. Would it be what an LLC that protects it in that case? I've nothing that'll protect it. I mean, the LLC is owned by the guy. You can go after the LLC shares. So the property, if you're going to pay payments on it, needs to be in your name. There's no excuse for it not being. Trust me is not an answer.

Starting point is 00:24:58 And he's worried that I would take the property potentially from his daughter, and I haven't nearly paid my half or a fair share of it. So how can we? How long have you been married? We've been married over one year. Okay. So here's what I'm going to do. I mean, you guys do what you want to do, but this is not tenable for me. Okay?

Starting point is 00:25:22 I'm not going to live like this. So I'm sorry. I shouldn't have done this deal. It's turned out to be a really, really bad idea, and I wished I hadn't done it. And so we're going to undo it. We're going to let you have your house, and we're going to go buy a house. Or we're going to refinance this, and we're going to put the $800,000 mortgage in our name at 6% and 5.5% right now, and we're going to pay you off, and you're going to put the house in our name.

Starting point is 00:25:58 But we are not going to continue forward with that. the house only in your name, period. How will your wife handle that, Matt? She's not going to be too thrilled because that's going to increase the interest rate inadvertently for us that wasn't necessary in her eyes. It's necessary because you don't own a house and you're so freaking vulnerable that it's ridiculous. Your father-in-law says, trust me, but he doesn't trust you.

Starting point is 00:26:32 Yeah, I need to go. both ways. This is not cool. Yeah, and my, and my fear, Matt, is that a three percent interest rate is going to rattle your one-year marriage. You know what you mean? If your wife is already taking his side in a level of logic, right? Of just, just math, just like, oh, I just want to save money and not looking at the relational equity of what this is doing and then the potential risk of your home. Yeah, it's probably going to cause some waves, but I would say it's probably, necessary. I'm going to cause some ways. I'm going to start out, gentle, and I'm going to turn it up. Yeah. Start out kind and honoring and say, I appreciate this. I know you've got good intentions. I love you and I appreciate this, but I simply am not going to go forward with this. It's not going to happen. Okay. And you and your, it's not worth the 3% savings. Your risk that you're taking is astronomical. It's ridiculous. It's a horrible deal for you. And I asked my wife if she was in the opposite role, if my family had purchased us the house and she was paying a majority of it, would she be comfortable in this deal?

Starting point is 00:27:42 And she said she wouldn't be comfortable. Well, then we have to decide, are we going to leave our father and mother and cleave to our husband and cleave to our wife? It's an old-fashioned saying. You leave the father and cleave. It's Old English from the Old English Bible. But, yeah, you know, but we have to set up. Okay, who's running your house now? dad or you guys. And again, to me, I'm like, this is a totally, I don't like the idea of people

Starting point is 00:28:08 using family as a bank, right? People do this with student loans. They do it with mortgages. And it just always, it's always a little icky and weird. It just kind of changes, it changes a relationship. But the thing on top of it for Matt, for me is like, if you guys start having kids and you're building a family, the place that you call home that is supposed to be your home. That's why it doesn't make sense to me of his, his logic. This is your home and her home, daughter's home and why he doesn't give you all the dignity of putting your name on the title of following through with the plan that's already agreed to is odd to me. And his fear, I'm like, I'm a little offended. If you're going to do this deal with me and be my banker and be the

Starting point is 00:28:52 husband to your wife and you can't trust me with a million dollar house. You know what I mean? Like, it's just like, oh, it just adds, adds to the relational dynamic. Yeah. Yes, it does indeed. And that's why I kind of lose sleep over it. And I see as every month goes on, it's harder to bring up this conversation. Yeah. I think the two of you, you and your wife, need to sit down with a good therapist, a good financial counselor.

Starting point is 00:29:16 I mean, a good marriage counselor and maybe your pastor, if you have one. And you guys need to talk it through. And then you need to decide what you're going to do. And then as a unified front, you've got to present it to him. And yeah, together or her. We're either going to refinance this and get it out of your name and put it into our name or we're going to hand you the keys and we're going to move. And so because we're not going forward. And listen, don't accept a mortgage from him either.

Starting point is 00:29:44 If he says, okay, I'll put it in your name and I'll just put a mortgage on it. No, I do not want to owe this man money. This has got a bad vibe on it. the best thing you can do for your wife and your marriage is for this guy not to be between you anymore and i think his intentions are good i don't think his intentions are bad i just think he's emotionally immature i would never look at winston cruz and say i can't put this in your name because i don't trust you after i handed my daughter's hand to him that's what i'm saying it's so it's so odd i I gave him the most precious thing I have on the planet.

Starting point is 00:30:25 I trust you. I don't trust you with a house. But I don't trust you with a stupid house. Oh, it's backwards. No, thank you. It's backwards. That's just, that's just emotionally. Oh, Matt, I'm sorry.

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Starting point is 00:32:14 link in the description. Whether you're a person of faith or not, Proverbs is the book of the Bible that is called the wisdom literature. The vast majority of it was written by Solomon, which those of us that are Christians or Jewish believe Solomon to be one of the wisest men to ever live. And he wrote wisdom in the book of Proverbs. And then we fast forward and it becomes our Bible, or in the case of Jewish person, their Bible, the Talmud, what Christians would call the Talmud, what the Jewish person calls the Bible. And the wisdom literature is most of us in evangelical Christianity or Orthodox Judaism believe it to be literal. And so that gives people trouble in some cases,

Starting point is 00:33:23 but that's okay. The borrower, Proverbs 227 says, the borrower is slave to the lender. Now, everybody that's listening, think about this for a second. How many times have we had payments to some organization, a car company, a credit card, a bank, and we resent that organization. We signed up for it, but by the time we finished paying off the truck, we hate Chevrolet, or at least Chevrolet, or at least Chevrolet, you know, General Motors' finance. By the time we finish paying off the Toyota, we can't stand Toyota Finance. By the time we finish off paying off Citibank, we hate Citibank.

Starting point is 00:34:17 Make fun of the mortgage company name that you pay payments to. That's because slaves seldom love their masters. It's not literal slavery in the sense of you gave up ownership, but it is mathematical and legal slavery, and if you don't believe it is slavery, try not having it. Hmm? Yeah, financial. Well, try not having it. When you pay off your mortgage and you pay off all your cars and you pay off all your student loan and you don't have a single people, they stand differently.

Starting point is 00:34:51 Well, it's a spiritual freedom because money is so tied to so much of our lives. And when you hand that part of your life over to someone else, it is a form of bondage. You've given them ownership. Yeah, that there's not full autonomy over the work that you have created in the paycheck that you, that you have. you've created through your work. So when Sharon and I went broke and we discovered that scripture among others, we decided not that debt is a sin, but that it's really dumb. And so we decided under no circumstances are we borrowing money.

Starting point is 00:35:24 But we also have observed in 30 or almost 40 years of doing this now that there is zero case that I'm going to loan money to one of my children. I'm going to loan money to another relative. I'm going to loan money to a friend because it instantaneously, whether you want it to or not, you don't have a choice in the matter. The law of gravity is the law of gravity, whether you like it or agree with it, it changes your relationship with your friend to two good friends to master servant. And the old joke is if you loan your brother-in-law $100 and he never speaks to you again, was it worth it? Yeah, ha-ha. Okay. So, but, but, you know, because it severes relationships.

Starting point is 00:36:12 It ruins relationships. And some of you try all kinds of ways to twist it up and make it okay and figure out that the math works and all this other bull crap. And it doesn't work. It doesn't work. It doesn't work. So if you have a friend that needs some money and you want to give them some money, give them some money, period.

Starting point is 00:36:35 Don't loan them money. If you want to help your kids get a million dollar house, give them a million dollar house. I got some questions about that, but before you loan them a million dollars, give it to them. See, what that does, it changes your decision then. Or my mom is 69 and she has no money saved and she's paying rent and I'm going to buy a house and let her rent it from me. No. You just changed your relationship. your mother is now your freaking renter.

Starting point is 00:37:14 How dumb is that? That's just dumb. Think about it. That's relationally inept. No. If you have the money to buy a house and pay cash for it and your mother live there until she dies free, fine. Or you pay her rent somewhere else. If you want a write her or some check to give her some money every month to help her with her rent, fine.

Starting point is 00:37:38 But don't make her your renter. Good Lord. When you say that out loud, it just sounds dumb, y'all. And yet some of you have figured out, oh, intellectually, this is the best I can, I'll have the investment and at least I know the tenant. What? Yeah, she changed your diaper, you butt. And now you're charging her rent. Unbelievable.

Starting point is 00:38:01 Yeah, you know your renter. And if you have to have the rent in order to pay the mortgage payment, you shouldn't buy the house. Exactly. You can't afford the house. You're doing crap you can't do. If you have to have the return on investment, you can't afford it. Don't do it. Buy a rental property and put a renter in it if that's what you want to do.

Starting point is 00:38:19 But don't do this to your parents. Don't do this to your kids. Don't do this to your cousin. Don't do this to your friend and expect them to be a friend. The number of families that are split up and never speak to each other again over a couple of thousand dollars that was handed to somebody and no deal was really made, just pay me back when you can. And then four months later, you're like, hey, I need that money back. The borrower is slave to the lender. Stop it.

Starting point is 00:38:49 Stop it. And another version of that's cosigning for them. Proverbs 1718, New King James says, one lacking in sense, cosigns for another. The contemporary English version says, if you co-sign for someone else, you're stupid. That's what the Bible said. So guess what? The bank doesn't want to loan them money because they don't think they're going to pay them. But I'll sign up for it because I think they're going to pay, even though the bank who eats, each lives and breathes debt, more than anything, wants you to be in debt, doesn't want to give this guy money, but you're going to co-sign for him.

Starting point is 00:39:28 How ridiculously stupid is this whole thing? And yet it's very commonplace, and it's why most people are broke. And it's why relational breakdown in the marriage is everywhere. So moms and dads, if you want to help your kids and you have the money, give it to them. If you want to put some stipulations on it. Like, I don't want you to borrow money. I don't want you to borrow money on this house if I give you a free house. That's a reasonable stipulation.

Starting point is 00:39:56 I want you to stay out of debt because that's how we got here. That's a good stipulation. You should do that. But then you don't go over there every week and go, are you about to borrow money? Are you about to borrow money? You don't have a weekly check-in on, no. Stop it. You control freaks.

Starting point is 00:40:13 And boys and girls, when you leave your mommy and daddy's house, leave. Talking about all the adults that move back in. Period. Leave. Leave emotionally. Set up your own household to where you and your husband, you and your wife are a family unit, and these other people are separate from you. You don't keep your mother, you don't stay on your mother's cell phone plan.

Starting point is 00:40:38 What are you? 14? you know, get your own Netflix account. For God's sakes. Hold on. This is one I just ripped our own family on. Hippercritical. I pay my own.

Starting point is 00:40:51 I know. I pay my own Netflix. I just, you know. We have found out other Ramsey children. I just discovered that my wife gave our code to one of the other people in our family and I had a duck fit. I'm like, you're a grown human being. Get your own freaking Netflix account. You don't need to suffer.

Starting point is 00:41:11 off. That's ridiculous. Okay, okay, I know. No, get your own. You pay your own insurance, have a life. The worst, I think, is people sharing Amazon Prime accounts with their parents. I'm like, uh-uh, uh-uh. I don't want to. Well, now I know exactly what all your spending pattern is. I know. Stay out of my life. I don't want to know when you order toilet paper. I got a new moshang's head and I don't want you to know about it. Okay. I wouldn't have known anyway, but your mother might have, yeah. For real, though. There is a separation to happen.

Starting point is 00:41:46 It's very important. And the problem is, well, we're going to pay the grandkids. No, you're broke. Stop it. Be grown-ups. But if you have the money, be generous and give without strings attached. That's wonderful. And be generous.

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Starting point is 00:43:22 and use code date night. That's angel.com slash Ramsey, or click the link in the description. Limited time offer, visit angel.com slash Ramsey for details. Welcome back to the Ramsey show in the Fair Winds Credit Union Studio. I'm Dave Ramsey, Rachel Cruz, Ramsey personality. My daughter is my co-host today. Jason's in Pensacola. Hi, Jason, how are you?

Starting point is 00:43:53 I'm fine. How are you? Better than I deserve. What's up? Well, I have some serious questions based on some serious debt. Basically, I got sick about five years ago, and I've been in remission for quite a few years now. I was released to go back to work. But in that time, it was a month after we bought our house, but I found out I was sick.

Starting point is 00:44:18 So I was a firefighter for 30 years and I was medically retired. Of course, I had to wait on the government to pay me for, you know, workman's cop excepted me for getting cancer on the job. And then once they paid me, of course, I used my credit cards to pay, keep my house afloat that we had just bought and medical bills and other things. And so basically I have zero retirement. I'm 51 years old, married, all my kids are grown, and we own a house and about not counting my truck payment about 40,000 in credit cards. Okay.

Starting point is 00:45:06 And I don't know what to do. I just know that I'm tired of living like this. But you beat cancer. Yes, sir. You beat cancer, right? Yes, sir. Wow. That's the number one victory, Jason.

Starting point is 00:45:20 and you're still here. It's amazing. That's a big deal. It's amazing. Yeah. Congratulations, fighter. It's a hard road. Yeah. Way to go. So what's the truck, what do you owe on the truck? About 40,000. And what's it worth? I'm upside down, underwater about 8,000 to 10,000.

Starting point is 00:45:43 So you looked it up, and you can sell it for 30. Yes, sir. I've been offered 30 from... The dealer. Kelly Blue Book, the dealer called me and offered me that much. That means you probably can get $35 for it. Okay. Because that's a wholesale offer, which is not evil. It's just a low offer because they're trying to turn it and make money on it.

Starting point is 00:46:04 Now, then, and your credit card debt is how much? About 40. So you got 80. Between me and my wife. Yeah, but you have 40 in addition to your, so 80 total. Yes, sir. Okay, gotcha. And you are retired medically from the fire department, and you are paid what a month from that?

Starting point is 00:46:27 I bring home about 900, after all my health insurance and everything comes out. $900 a month. And then $900 a month, and then I went, once I was released to go back to work, I went and got a full-time job. And I make that much I bring home every bi-weekly. and then... I'm sorry, how much do you bring home from that job? About 900 by-weekly. Oh, I said.

Starting point is 00:46:55 So, 1,800. Another 1,800. And then my wife brings home about 14,100-something bi-weekly. And I've never done... I just started... I was past your name via the church. So I started listening to your podcasts about two weeks ago. And I know, well, I said on the first, because I went and got a second, I went and got a third and fourth job.

Starting point is 00:47:23 So I'm side hustling about 1,000 to 1,200 a month. Good. Okay. So we got about $5,000 or $6,000 coming in total then? Yes, sir. We went from making $99,000, basically $99,000 a year. Mm-hmm. And then I'm bringing home about $1,000 a month.

Starting point is 00:47:41 Between me and my wife, we're bringing home about $1,000 a month with side hustle. Yeah. Okay. So about $6,800 with the side hustle. Yeah. Yes, ma'am. It's great, Jason. Great.

Starting point is 00:47:51 Yeah, you're not afraid of work. So it sounds like your health has recovered pretty well. Yes, sir. I just had a section of each kidney cut out. Okay. But you're back and working, and I'm not afraid to work. Your new job is, your new career of the 1800 is what? I deliver nuclear medicine.

Starting point is 00:48:13 Okay. It's a delivery job. Okay. Yes, sir. Delivering nuclear medicine to hospital. So that's the way I figured I could still help. Yeah, sure. Once I was, they helped to me, so now I'm helping them.

Starting point is 00:48:27 I just wonder, Jason, if you're able to sell this truck, take out a small loan of maybe 14, go get a $4,000 car, have the difference of the 10, put all that together and then your credit card. And if you guys can throw $2,000 a month at this debt, you could be out in two years. Okay. And then you'll be in a position to rebuild your retirement. Yeah, yeah. Now, the other piece that goes with this is you made a lot more than this when you worked for the fire department, didn't you? Yes, sir. I worked at, I was a federal firefighter, so I worked on the base.

Starting point is 00:49:04 Oh, wow. Okay. I wasn't, I was a civil service. Yeah, but you were making a lot more than $1,800 a month, yeah. Okay. Oh, yeah, we were making about nine. I was making about 90 before not even counting my life. And then we dropped it.

Starting point is 00:49:17 Now I make about one with my retirement about 27. Okay. So, yes, I would sell the truck and get a $4,000 car and start working on the credit card debt and work eight jobs. That's what you're doing. Every bit of that makes sense to me. I also would tell you that you're in chapter two. Chapter one was a $90,000 firefighter. Chapter 2 is not an $1,800 delivery driver.

Starting point is 00:49:45 That's a temporary stop. Yes, sir. So we've got to figure out what chapter 2 is that's 90 or 120,000 a year because you're only 51. Yes, sir. So you've got lots of time to do lots of things, and you know a lot about, you know, things in and around emergency care, first responder stuff. There's a lot of options and things that you may be able to do there. And I would explore every bit of that and say, okay, what do I want to be when I grow up? I'm starting fresh.

Starting point is 00:50:20 And what you did is you landed on your feet, got anything you could get so you could get back to work. And this enables you to get back to work and help people, which is good, but you're not making any money. And so I want you to go help people and make a lot of money. And because it cleans up your life. And it's the final step of your rebound is to get your income back up to where it was. was not just your debt or your finances back where they were. Yeah, because if you can, Jason. That kind of money, you can get out of this mess fast.

Starting point is 00:50:51 Yeah, absolutely. And then, you know, just think you got you working, you know, 10, let's say 10, 15 years. And if you invested three grand a month, just through a ton at retirement every single month, it'd be about $640,000 to retire. Is what it comes out to be. You can retire a millionaire. Yeah. And that's just that at that, at 10%, so even if there were some great months going on, and if you went a little bit more and worked a little more, me, all of it, like the numbers

Starting point is 00:51:22 really can work in your favor. Yeah. But part of this is you have to emotionally recover from thinking you were going to die and from recovering. You recover mentally. I mean, you have to recover mentally and emotionally and then start to see, you know, the possibilities again in your income. And the frustration of cancer of like what it's taken from your health. And then your money, you know, your retirement, everything. Stole everything. It's so defeating.

Starting point is 00:51:50 So defeating. So maddening. But the fact that you are here, Jason. Amen. And you and your wife on the same page? Amen. You really can make a great second chapter of your life. So we'll send you a copy of Finding the Work You're Wired to Do by Ken Coleman.

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Starting point is 00:54:06 I hear you talk frequently to callers who have high car payments and are living beyond their means. I travel a lot for work and I need a dependable. and I need dependable transportation. Anytime I bought a beater car, I ended up paying for it in repair bills. Where do you recommend finding a $4,000 to $5,000 vehicle that is reliable? It's a good question. Well, I mean, honestly, finding an individual who's selling is going to be your best bet.

Starting point is 00:54:36 And we usually find this is funny, but it's true. Usually an elderly person, a lot of people's grandparents, who have a car that's literally been. sitting in the driveway. It's probably older, but the mileage is so low because they're not using it a ton. Got a lot of life left in it. Yes, yes. And if you go, I mean, honestly, if you look on Craigslist, Facebook Marketplace, you can do some research and find. And again, you're, you're going to be in this car for maybe nine months and then you move again. Like, it's not like you're going to be in it long term. There may be moving up slowly, slowly, slowly, slowly out of it,

Starting point is 00:55:10 out of that price range. But the, I mean, we, we see it a lot that people have it. So you, and you want to make sure you have an inspection, right? You go to a mechanic, make sure they look over it, and there's anything obviously wrong with it that's going to cost you a lot. Then don't do it. Yeah, and part of that is research the type of car. You know, an old Chevy Chevy Chvette is not good because they weren't good when they were new.

Starting point is 00:55:38 So, I mean, an old Dodge Neon is not good because it wasn't good when it was new. So get a car that has some life to it. You know, the Toyota Camry, the Honda Accord, those kinds of things. They're very seldom sexy cars, but they're cars that just are workhorses and they go and they go and they're ever-ready bunnies. They go and they go and they go and they go. Okay. And that is, it's not a forever thing. It's you drive like no one else.

Starting point is 00:56:08 later you can drive like no one else. Now, let's go ahead and parlay this into, he mentioned one thing here that I want to add to this. I travel a lot for work. Now, I don't know what that means in your case, Evan, but I will tell you this. There's a mistake that a lot of people make that are literally on the road every day.

Starting point is 00:56:29 Now, if you travel a lot for work, and it means you drive out of town and you're there all week and you drive back, that's different. But if you're putting 50,000 miles a year on a car, you're destroying whatever you drive. Because you put 50,000 miles on a car, you've destroyed its value. And so the value is going to not only go down normally, it's going to go off a cliff.

Starting point is 00:56:52 You're going to lose value like crazy. And so when you're a road warrior, because you're in sales or you're in whatever, whatever you're driving is an expense. That's all it is. It's not a luxury. I drive 12 minutes to work. That's a luxury. I can drive whatever I want and I'm not destroying it.

Starting point is 00:57:14 Okay. But if you're driving 50,000 miles a year, you're turning, and you drive a $50,000 car, you're turning into a $5,000 car, $10,000 car in one year. And I do wonder for your work, because a lot of, I mean, one of my good friends, I mean, she goes, we're in Nashville, but she goes to Chattanooga, Birmingham, Huntsville. I mean, she's doing day trips. If you're doing that, the $4,000 or $5,000 car is probably not what you want. No, but work furnishes for a lot.

Starting point is 00:57:35 A lot of people. Some people or it gives them money. Money. Yeah. So I'm curious what that reimbursement looks like. If you've got reimbursement. But reimbursement does not require you being debt. Yeah. It just requires in some cases that you have a car of a certain age. So here's the thing. If you're putting that kind of miles on a car, I wouldn't drive more than a $20,000 car. But I wouldn't drive a $5,000 car either because it's not going to be reliable. So you need to drive the least vehicle that will, end quotes, get the job done. And let me tell you what that means. It means it's really. reasonably comfortable because you're in it all the time. So again, we're not putting you in a smart car for 12 hours a day. You'd be in a chiropractor. Okay. So it has to be reasonably comfortable and it has to be reliable. So again, I'm back in a Honda Accord. I'm back in a Toyota Camry. I'm back. I'm back in a, you know, a Chevy pickup, a Ford pickup, you know, any of that. Depending on your gas mileage and what you're doing and what you're hauling and what you're selling, all that kind of stuff. So. But you want something that's dependable and comfortable, but you don't drive an expensive car or truck when you're doing this because you're destroying the freaking thing value-wise.

Starting point is 00:58:48 So quit going and, you know, and, you know, that goes from my friends that are real estate agents. Quit buying $200,000 cars to show houses in. We all know you can't drive. You drive over the edge of a curb, run into a mailbox, to hit something. because you're always paying attention to something else. Oh, look, there's a house for sale. And whipping around and real estate agents, I'm one of them. We're ADD.

Starting point is 00:59:12 And you're just all over the place. So quit buying expensive cars. Buy a reasonably nice car to show houses in. But no one buys a car because you had a house because you have a $200,000 car versus you had a $50,000 car. Nobody does. That's just bull crap. That's in your head and you're justifying buying something you can't afford.

Starting point is 00:59:30 Stop it. So all of that to say, Rachel's right. When you're doing the 4 to 5,000, there's plenty of good ones, but they're usually not cool. They're not cool car. No one's going to stop at the stoplight and go woohoo. One, it might be seven months, and you're going to have to trade out again, which is a pain. But if it's the thing that gets you out of debt the fastest, that's the inconvenience. That's worth it.

Starting point is 00:59:52 We did it. We drove a borrowed car that had 400,000 miles on it. And I drove it for... 400? 400,000 miles. No. It did. It did.

Starting point is 01:00:02 It was an old Cadillac. It had predominant color. was Bondo, the vinyl roof was torn loose. We drove it for three months. I told people we drove it for 10 years and one three month period. It felt like 10 years. But I didn't have a car payment and I saved up $1,000 because I wanted to get rid of this. And I took it back to my friend and gave it back to him. He loaned it to me because he knew how broke I was. And then I got a $1,000 car. And that $1,000 car, believe it or not, got totaled. I left it in a parking lot and some people beat it up. and I actually, for some stupid reason, put insurance on it, and I got $2,000 from the insurance company.

Starting point is 01:00:36 So I put $1,200 with it and bought a $3,200 car. And then we sold that about a year later for $3,200. It didn't go down. It was already, you know, and then we bought a $10,000 car and so on. And so that's how we did it, and you can do it too. And but your friends are not impressed. The brown car. That's the $3,200 one.

Starting point is 01:00:59 Yeah. You remember it. The front wheel. Drive Oldsmobile. It was pretty ugly. Well, and the vinyl roof, the roof was detached. So every time we would stop, it would just bubble up. Yeah, yeah. I do remember that.

Starting point is 01:01:15 Yeah. Poked in the backseat as kids. I'm not spending money to impress you at a stoplight. I don't even know you. I'm just trying to feed my kids. You know, I'm just trying to eat. I'm just trying to get out of this mess. Never come back.

Starting point is 01:01:26 I drove like no one else. So now what I drive is anything I want. and I don't buy cars for what other people think. I buy cars now because I like them. And that's kind of a problem because I like a lot of them. But it's, you know, you can get there. If you live like no one else, later you can live and give like no one else. So road warriors quit wasting your money.

Starting point is 01:01:47 And those of you that are driving hoopties, they're not all bad. And Rachel's point is really valid. You're probably not doing this for even a year. That car only needs to last you a year. Yeah. Some people think the car buying, and I can get in this mindset where it's a permanent. It's, yeah, it feels like I'm going to have to drive this. So the wheels.

Starting point is 01:02:05 Like, I have to drive this forever. Never. And it's like, no, no, no. It's okay. I can just get another one. You're fine. It's not a house. It's not a house.

Starting point is 01:02:10 You could just sell it. You could be about a different one every week. I mean, it's other than the tax problem and the registration, it's, you know. Right. It's not a long-term thing. No, no. Yeah. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:02:21 So you don't feel so permanent. And so here's the thing. If you don't have a car payment for 12 months and your car payment was $1,000, that's $12,000. So then you can sell that $5,000 car. By the way, it'd be about like my $3,200 one. It doesn't go down in value. So you can sell it for $5,000 and put your $12,000 with it and get a $17,000 car. And do that for $12 more months.

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Starting point is 01:05:09 Well, we haven't set a solid date on it yet. We've got a one-year-old, so between taking care of him and I'd like to be a little bit better out of debt before we get married. Why? You already had a baby. Yeah. And what's the point? Might as well get married. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:05:33 Okay. Anyway, side subject. All right. Now, the, hmm. How old are you guys, Alan? I'm 26 and she's 25. Okay, great. And what's the conversation's been like about budgeting together?

Starting point is 01:05:48 You're not married, so you technically should still be on separate budgets with separate incomes and everything until you're legally married just to protect. She needs that protection for her and you need that protection for you. But what's... Well, she won't be entirely honest about how much that she has. I know it's excess of 15,000. Why would she be honest? You know, I don't think she wants to tell me how much, and I know she hasn't been paying a lot of it. She moved away from her hometown to move down with me, and I've been a primary source of income for both of us.

Starting point is 01:06:25 That happened. You think she has $15,000 in debt or savings? Debt. Debt. Okay. And why would she not want to be honest with you? I think she's embarrassed about it. because of the way you've presented it? I mean, that could be some of it.

Starting point is 01:06:46 I think she just, she doesn't like where she's at, and she doesn't want to open up to me about it entirely because it's a vulnerable thing for her. And that's something that she kind of struggles with being vulnerable, especially about stuff like that. Okay. So I think that's probably more of the root issue is that you guys are living together. You have a baby together.

Starting point is 01:07:09 You're engaged to be married. and from a relational IQ stance, you guys don't have the relational equity to hold each other's situations. And does that feel like a red flag to you that you guys can't be fully honest about what's going on? Yeah, it definitely does.

Starting point is 01:07:30 Yeah. So I would work on having that conversation. And the way you presented, Alan, is really, really important. Because if she feels like crap, when it comes to money. If she feels dumb, if she regrets all of this, and you're like, well, you need to be doing this and this and this. And you've got to, you know, sometimes people can come hard on someone that's already down. And so I would say to love her really well in that and to have a lot

Starting point is 01:07:58 of humility, a lot of grace. And your desire is to know her and to know her situation and not to shame her, but for you guys to start working together to have a plan for your future, because your future, I'm hoping, is together, right, and to be a married couple. And so to make some forward, some progress forward, some steps. So last year I made about 96,000. Okay. What do you do? I'm a law enforcement officer. Okay, good. Okay. Um, Well, the way I answer questions and the way we always have on the Ramsey show is what I do if I woke up in your shoes, knowing what I know about the data that's out there and what it takes to win in a marriage and the data that's on that and the data that's what it takes to win to build wealth. And by the way, they're pretty similar, which is interesting.

Starting point is 01:08:59 So the single people that are 30 that are living together have a necessary. net worth is somewhere around 14 times smaller than the married people that are 30 that are living together. And so the data tells us that marriage tends towards a much better financial situation versus being in the same being in a shacked up. Okay. That's what the data tells us. So now that I know that, I'm getting married this weekend.

Starting point is 01:09:30 I already... Not for the money. Not for the money. But I have a child. But you have a quality. Yes. I'm taking this lady. Yes.

Starting point is 01:09:37 I'm already taking care of her. You're basically married, Alan. I mean, you guys are. Not as well be. Yeah. I mean. And so go ahead and get that done. And there's no like, I have to get out of debt first.

Starting point is 01:09:46 I didn't have to get, I didn't have to wait to have a baby. So no. I mean, that's a lot bigger deal than getting out of debt. So let's, you know, that's what I would do. I'd get married this weekend. And then to Rachel's point, I would begin to say, okay, we are going to work on all. we are going to work on all of our prosperity and all of our bright future together, and we together are going to make decisions that cause that to happen.

Starting point is 01:10:16 And so, and I'm going to help and you're going to help, and we're both going to have a vote. And we need to sit down and say, okay, what's blocking that? And so whatever debt you got, hon, we're going to clean it up right quick. That's our first thing. And then we're going to start saving money for retirement. I mean, save money for an emergency fund. Then we're going to save money for a down payment. They're going to save money for a retirement.

Starting point is 01:10:35 They're going to save money for Junior's College Fund. And then we're going to pay off the house. And we're going to become millionaires in the next 12 years. And we are going to sit down together and we're going to look at that. And we're both going to tell each other everything about everything. And I'm going to help and you're going to help. And that's what Rachel's talking about building relational equity. And there's no shaming in that.

Starting point is 01:10:57 It's like, you did what? You know, unless after we. agree to doing something, you go back into something else. But the power dynamic in the situation, I mean, is she home with the baby, Alan? Because she said she's not bringing home an income, right? She is. She works part-time. Because she feels like she needs time out of the house, and I'm not going to be willing to argue with that. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, it's great. It's great. Yeah. So that's what I would do. And you say, we're going to, I want us to be aligned on saving money. I want us to be aligned on getting out of debt.

Starting point is 01:11:31 I want us to be aligned on what we're spending. And both of us talking about it and both of us having a vote in this as a husband and wife team. And let's go see the pastor of the Justice of the Peace this weekend. And then let's go build our life together. Yes. Because you're trying to run around with one foot on the boat and one on the dock and the boat keeps rocking. And you're going to end up in the lake. Mm-hmm.

Starting point is 01:11:56 And so you need to get all in to the boat or back off on the dock. one of the two. And remember, Alan, money is, it's not the end goal, right, of marriage for you guys. It's the working together thing. It's the, exactly. It is, it's what it produces, what the money represents when you guys are on the same page. You both have a voice. You're both being heard. Both of your opinions matter. Like, all of that is a practice to every other part when you're talking about parenting and you're talking about in-law, right? Like all, you're all the same person. And so when you can kind of work on one area of your life like that to get on the same page together, it's huge. And to know her and to serve her well, I mean, honestly, yeah, Alan,

Starting point is 01:12:36 I mean, I would be like, you're a police officer. You know what to do? Step up, you know? Step up and take care of her. Yeah. You see the families every day that things aren't going well with. Yeah. And so, yeah, you can just, you know, all you got is look if it thought that and go, that's my anti-mentor. I'm going to go the other direction of those things. And none of the things Rachel and I've been talking about before you're seeing it. Yeah, the life you can create, Alan, as a husband, as a father, like all of that is incredible. Like, men that step up to serve and protect. And take care of, yes, it is literally part of your DNA in your job.

Starting point is 01:13:09 And when men do that and their wife, again, I'm so big on this, but they have an equal say, they have the ability to have an opinion and they are hurt. Like, all of that together is beautiful. It is. I mean, almost every man I know wants to step up. And it works. You know, it absolutely works. What ends up happening is you have a high quality of marriage and you've got lots of communication.

Starting point is 01:13:35 She feels secure. Yeah. You feel like you are doing your part. Yep. And stepping up. Like all of that is in this conversation. And so I think there's a quality of marriage element there that's so big that you get to step into, Alan. And not to shame her, but you get to walk beside and help.

Starting point is 01:13:53 And it's a really, it's a beautiful thing. And thank God for that for two parents like that with this baby. Good for this kid. Yep, absolutely. Get married this weekend. A lot of banks are happy to hold your money. But Fairwin's credit union helps you make progress. Most people spend years focusing on their financial goals

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Starting point is 01:15:26 Go to fairwins.org slash Ramsey to open your smart bundle and start making progress today. That's fairwinds.org slash Ramsey, insured by the NCUA. Devin is with us in Denver. Hi, Devin. How are you? Good. How are you today? Better than I deserve. What's up? I was a minority owner in electrical business, and I had to sell it.

Starting point is 01:16:07 Well, I sold out, and I'm going to get my payout, and I'm trying to decide if I invested in a mutual fund or pay off my mortgage, which is at 2 and 7.8%. Okay. On a 30-year mortgage with 25 years left. What's the balance on your mortgage? 422,000. Wow. Nice payout.

Starting point is 01:16:35 What's your payout? What's your payout going to be? Well, the $3.35. Oh. So you don't have enough to pay off the mortgage? No, no. You don't have the other hundred. And I do have, I have about 90,000 in savings right now.

Starting point is 01:16:52 Oh. But I was going to use that to start my business back up and keep that aside for our three to six months emergency fund. Okay. All right. Hmm. Well, let's go back to the original premise and then let's figure out what to do with your particular situation. The original premise is I don't want to pay off my. my two and seven, eights, and I'd rather invest it instead.

Starting point is 01:17:21 I would not go with that theory. That theory doesn't hold up when we study the actual data of people who become millionaires. When we studied 10,000 millionaires, the number of them that said I borrowed on my home so that I could invest, and that made me a millionaire was precisely zero. We didn't find a single millionaire that did that. And that's the essence of what you're doing. You're saying, when you don't pay off your house, it's the same as borrowing. borrowing on it, right? And so, no, I'm always going to lead you to getting out of debt completely as

Starting point is 01:17:53 fast as we can, but you've got some competing goals and you don't have enough money to do this whole thing here. So there's something to think about. So how long have you been away from that business? I'm still employed. I have to work here until the end of the year. Oh, okay. All right. And what do you make? Right now I make 150. Good. 150,000. And are you going to do? And are you going to go in, I assume you've got a non-compete, so you're going into a different business? The non-compete is not all of the existing customers, it's some of them. But I had my own business for seven years, and I partnered with a person. But you can go into the same industry again, but just not take the customers.

Starting point is 01:18:36 Yes, I can. Yeah. Okay. Wow, that's unusual. Good, good, okay. And so you're going to go open up a new shop? Yeah, yep. Okay.

Starting point is 01:18:46 I had my own shop. My shop is still alive. I never turned it off. It just, for the past three and a half years, it hasn't done any real business. Okay, so why does it take so much money to turn it back on? Well, I guess I was, you know, saving out of the leftover money. I know, I know, but I'm saying you said you needed 90 grand to turn it back on. Why does it take 90 grand to turn it back on?

Starting point is 01:19:14 It doesn't. Okay, good. $50,000 of it is our six months of emergency time. What is? six months 60,000 50,000 50,000

Starting point is 01:19:25 so you have a $4,000 a month burn rate on your house okay, all right okay so 50,000 is that so we got 40,000 there to start the business and or put towards the house and we're getting 300 and something thousand towards 400 and something

Starting point is 01:19:42 thousand on the mortgage so what I would do in your shoes is I would just take the buyout and the 40,000 and separate, set the 50 aside of your emergency fund. We're not touching that for anything, okay? Do you have any debt other than the house? My wife's car has $9,000 and change. Okay, pay that.

Starting point is 01:20:06 And we're on track to, okay. Pay that off today. Okay. Just try to check and pay it off. Okay. So now we've got $30,000 to start the business and $50,000 in emergency fund, but you don't have any payments but a house payment. Am I right?

Starting point is 01:20:18 Correct. Okay. Now, then what I'm going to do is I'm going to take your 30,000 in park it with your buyout money in just a high yield savings account for six months and let it just sit there while you get your business started. When you get your business started and you're back to making $100,000 a year again, which will be pretty quick, I suspect, because you're going to start working on it between now and the end of the year to kind of get it restarted. It's not going to be a cold start in January. then when you get back to making 100K again, then I'm going to take that money and throw it at the mortgage and be mostly done with the mortgage. And then your mortgage will be paid off in about three years or two years if you do that. Okay. And when you don't have a house payment, it changes the way you do business. Your business will prosper. When you don't have a house payment, it changes everything.

Starting point is 01:21:11 And people do not grasp it until they don't have a house payment. And then you take that huge cash flow that you've got. without a house payment and you go become a multi-millionaire. And really what this buyout has done is it set you free from all this debt. And it took me a minute to kind of wander around through our system to get you to where I would go. That's what I would do. I would not keep the mortgage like it's a pet just because it only eats a little. Mm-hmm.

Starting point is 01:21:37 Just requires a little bit. Yeah. Two and seven-eight. Yeah. A little bowl of dog food. It's exciting, Devin, though. It makes some big headway with some of this. You did great, man.

Starting point is 01:21:47 It's a great deal. Well done. Very good. Stacey's in Boise, Idaho. Hi, Stacey. How are you? Hey, thanks for taking my call. Sure.

Starting point is 01:21:55 What's up? So we have maybe an unusual problem. My husband and I have been on the same page for 27 of our 30-plus years of saving, scrimping, saving, skrimping, not spending money. And we are now at, I think, a very good, safe place. And I am comfortable starting to spend some of that money. Good. What's the same place? What's your not worth?

Starting point is 01:22:25 Almost 12 million. Well, yes. You should be able to enjoy some of your money now, for sure. That's how I feel. And my husband is, you would think we're one month away from losing our house when I talk to him about things. And it's very hard for something. someone who has held so tightly to savings, particularly his nature as he's a saver, to loosen up and enjoy life. But that's why God sent him you.

Starting point is 01:22:59 It's just so, I feel like, you know, even on little things I was telling your screener, or just, we both from home. We have one car. Oh, brother. When I went to college. You need a car. I mean, that's weird, isn't it? Yes, that's weird. You have $11 million, $12 million.

Starting point is 01:23:17 You need to go buy a car, yeah, for sure. It's like the parable of bigger barns. That's a classic to me. You're just building and building and building and building and building and building for what? For what? For what? Just for another barn. Yes.

Starting point is 01:23:33 No, that's not why you do. How do I break through? I don't know. You're not going to be able to change him. It's going to have to be his work. That's deeply ingrained. If you got $12 million sitting there and you don't want to buy a car for your wife. He's got some issues, Stacey.

Starting point is 01:23:49 God love him. Right. Yeah. And that's what I... How did he grow up with money? What's his story? Poor. Yeah, he grew up her, but I'll tell you, I grew up more poor.

Starting point is 01:24:00 I mean, I was the driving force here in our household of like, you know, coupon cooking. This is not a financial thing. It's not even a relational thing. It's a spiritual thing. It is for him, yeah. Godliness with contentment is great gain. and if you gain only from your money the fear of losing it, you didn't gain anything. And that's the parable of the bigger barns that Rachel's talking about in the Bible.

Starting point is 01:24:29 And so enjoy some of it, be generous with some of it, and continue to save with some of it. And you should always be doing all three. I will tell you this, sometimes the way to get someone to loosen up on spending is first get them to loosen up on generosity. helping others with some of this money. We need to allocate $100,000 a year to give away. That's going to blow your... Because you've never given that kind of money away. All you've done is save.

Starting point is 01:25:01 Yeah, to force yourself, Stacey, to give away $8,000 a month. You have to. And it can be in tips, it can be to an... But to do that... An orphanage, the... There's a... You'll hear of something going on, and you'll write that check to help. I mean, there is some amazing things

Starting point is 01:25:19 that happen in the world. And when you start to participate in that... Yeah, your money's making a million dollars a year. It opens that hands and that freedom is what that does. It gives you freedom from money. And then it allows you to... It gives you an excuse to enjoy some of it. When you're trying to hire, you don't have time to dig through stacks of resumes,

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Starting point is 01:26:38 Meet your match on ZipRecruiter. Welcome back to the Ramsey Show in the Fair Wins Credit Union Studio. Stephanie is with us in New Haven, Connecticut. Hi, Stephanie. How are you? Good, and you? Better than I deserve. So my question is I have an issue. I'm currently six months pregnant. Yay.

Starting point is 01:27:10 My husband and I, yes, with my second child, my husband and I are trying to get ready for this maternity leave, but we don't really have a solution. I am the breadwinner. I am an entrepreneur, so I won't be having really any income during my three-month maternity leave. my husband doesn't know what to do. I don't really know what to do. We don't have any savings. We had a blow through most of our savings recently to get a heating and cooling system in our home, which was absolutely required because I just don't want to use space heaters anymore. And we're really trying to figure out what we're going to do.

Starting point is 01:27:47 My husband thinks that he can't handle this. He doesn't want to get a part-time job. He thinks that we should just sell the house. And even though we have a 2.65% interest rate on our mortgage, He thinks we should just sell it and just live off his income and go back into a living room apartment. What do you make? So I bring home about roughly $6,000 a month. Okay.

Starting point is 01:28:10 We're doing what? I'm a consultant. Oh, what kind of consultant? I help businesses with rent writing and strategic plans. Say again, we help businesses. Strategic plans. What does he do, Stephanie? How many?

Starting point is 01:28:27 Paral processing technician. And how much does he bring in? He brings home, and this is net income, so he brings home about $3,500 a month. Okay, and how much do you guys need? How much is your house payment? So we have two, we have one mortgage, which is $800. That's not escrowed. And then we have a second mortgage is $880.

Starting point is 01:28:50 And so that's what you guys are short, you're short $1,600 a month, basically. what you're needing him to bring in for three months? No, we have other expenses. So we have an auto loan. We have student loans. Okay. So how much extra does he need to bring in a month for you guys to keep your situation? I would say comfortably it would be great if he could bring in an extra $3,000 because groceries, household expenses and then upcoming with daycare.

Starting point is 01:29:21 Okay. Okay. And all right. How much is the car payment? Car payment is $350. Okay. All right. Yes, he should pick up a part-time job and you should keep your home.

Starting point is 01:29:44 And you should, you're self-employed. When we're self-employed, we don't get the same benefits as employees. Right. And so there's no reason for you to be off from work for 90 days. Oh, man. You're self-employed. Nope. I'm sorry. You do strategic planning and consulting.

Starting point is 01:30:02 No, I disagree with that. You push a baby out and try to be somewhat normal 60 days later. So nope. This is what y'all, this is what y'all signed up for. Nope. Husband, get to work. Nope. You doesn't want to get a part-time job.

Starting point is 01:30:18 Well, that's the problem. That's the problem. To me. That's the problem. Go get a job, dude. Go get a job. Don't make your wife. after you've been through what you've been through and you're,

Starting point is 01:30:31 I can't, you should have seen me 60 days after a baby. No. Uh-uh. Nope. Yeah, well, it's a difference between whether you have to to keep your house or not. You know.

Starting point is 01:30:42 I guess so. It just sucks. You just decide. You know, you both signed up for this. You're self-employed and you plan to have a child and you have no money. And instead of keeping the space heaters, you decided you had to have heat and air.

Starting point is 01:30:57 Now you're going to sell the, the heat and air with the house, I guess. So, you know, you've made some choices here that it painted yourself in the corner and you're going to get pain on your feet. That's fair. I hear that. I hear that. You're going to get pain on your feet.

Starting point is 01:31:07 So you're going to have to decide. We have to choose our pain. Pain is coming. Okay. And the pain I would choose if I was in your all shoes is he, I'm with Rachel. He needs to go get six jobs and take care of his family and do all that if he can. Yeah. And if you can do something a little bit.

Starting point is 01:31:23 And if you can do a little bit of work from home that you're, you know, gradually. re-entering faster than the 90-day swing because you're not an employee. You took on a running a business. And so, you know, you don't have a choice. You get to go back to work. That's it. If you want to keep the house, really both of you should be willing to do whatever, some of this, some of this. Or make the decision to sell the house. But I don't agree with him that he just gets to bail and do nothing. I'm with Rachel on that. That's, you know, no. That's crazy. No, he needs to step up and. But I also think both of you made this mess.

Starting point is 01:32:02 And so the thing I want to take away from this more than this particular situation is fixing how we got here, which is, you know, no savings, lots of debt. Owning a home. I'd sell a car. I'd sell a car for it. A hundred percent. But it doesn't fix the problem. If you told me $1,200, that car had been gone about a minute and a half ago. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:32:26 But it's not. It's $3.50. So it doesn't fix the problem mathematically to get rid of it. But yeah, I think there's going to be pain. Now, the two of you look at it because of where we are. Now we have to decide what the name of our pain is. Yeah. And gosh, it would be.

Starting point is 01:32:44 So the house conversations always, we're getting more and more of these calls. And the housing market, people are frustrated. They're sometimes frustrated with our advice because we're very conservative on the numbers and what you can buy. But this is why. Like if your house payment and $1,600 bucks. And everything, yeah, it gets true. It's not that bad. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:33:04 It's not. It's just, they just had no money. But when you buy a home and you're a homeowner. You're stuck in this. You're stuck. And to get rid of that. It's expensive. It's expensive.

Starting point is 01:33:16 To have to move out and then go back and reenter into the housing market. Yeah. So what I would say to you and your husband then is we love you and we want you to win. Ten years from today, you'll be glad if he takes extra jobs and you take on work as you are able, reasonably after the baby. Snap. Okay. Got three kids. I was like, mm-mm.

Starting point is 01:33:40 Well, I know. But, you know, again, when you're self-employed, there's a lot of times I hear. I've come to work sick for years. And, you know, I don't have a choice. You know, I mean, I don't have a choice. If I blow out my knee, you know, I put it in a cast. I come to work. have a choice. Do you understand that is very different than growing a human being? I'm not, I'm not,

Starting point is 01:34:02 I'm not debating. I had a, I was sneezing a lot, but I came to work. Such a, such a hero. Such a hero. Oh, brother. Anyway, no, I'm telling you, I, the deal is this, if you have a major medical event, it's not unusual for people that are self-employed to be back at work a lot faster than an employee would be. Okay, that's a fair statement. That's a fair statement. That's all I'm saying. Now, listen. It's not sneezing. That was cute. That was good.

Starting point is 01:34:32 I like that. I had an earache one time. I came to work. One time, my nose was running. I'm an owner. I'm an owner. I came. Well, I have.

Starting point is 01:34:43 Yeah, I'll tell you, you know, it's, the other thing is, okay, let's just, let's, if we're going to continue the fun, you know who comes to work in Tennessee when it's snowing, the people that own the business, not the employees. Not many of them. And that own trucks. Only the hearty of hardy employees show up. That own trucks come in. Well, that's it.

Starting point is 01:35:04 Listen, the Tesla doesn't have four-wheel drive. I ain't going to get on a piece of ice in Tennessee. I wouldn't get on anything with that test. You wouldn't even get in the Tesla. Hey, George Camel here. We often talk about how being normal sucks when it comes to your money. But guess what? Normal isn't so great when it comes to your job either.

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Starting point is 01:36:32 Better than I deserve. What's up? Absolutely. So thank you for watching. what you do. I am a single Christian mother, two teenage boys, love them with all my heart. I have been blessed financially by God. I've been going through my healing journey as a Christian, and money is this step of the sanctification process I'm currently going through. My business, it's in an engineering field. There was a tragedy in Florida, which allowed my business to earn almost a million dollars, but then the state mandate stopped, and now my income is back to around $200 to $250. In my excitement, I paid off everything, paid off a car, student loans, all my credit cards

Starting point is 01:37:20 tied about $50,000 to my church, basically just spent it like it was going out of style. You didn't spend it, you paid off that. I did, and then I incurred more debt than I could imagine. said, you know what, I need a stable home for my kids. So I went from renting to purchasing a home. When I bought the house, I bought an older house because they said, we'll just tie in a construction mortgage or a construction loan with that, which they did not do. So I applied for one, got denied, applied for another, got approved. And I later got approved for the other one. So bought a house for $550, put a percentage down, got two construct.

Starting point is 01:38:05 construction loans and then I bought a truck because my son does motor cross. It's just been a lot. I got to the point where I was physically ill with how much I was spending. And I'm bringing in about 15 to 20,000 a month, but my bills are 11,000 without including gas food and everything else. Okay. So I'm making myself sick with how God has blessed me that I've been brought to tears, humbled. So when it comes to that humbling process, I've done it to myself.

Starting point is 01:38:39 He blessed you with the income. He didn't bless you with the house of the truck. Absolutely. Because the house and the truck don't have, the blessings of the Lord have no sorrow added to them. And so the money didn't bring the sorrow. The income is wonderful, but the purchases did bring sorrow because of the debt. And so, or the lost money or whatever.

Starting point is 01:39:01 So is the truck paid for? I had an escalade that I paid off. It was worth 22, so of course I went and bought a $62,000 pickup truck with my son doing motorcross. I don't care about your son's motorcross anymore. I'm already tired of it. Yeah. Okay.

Starting point is 01:39:20 It's $62,000 to ride a bicycle. Give me a break. All right. So, no, we're going to sell the truck. What do you owe on the truck? I owe about $31,000. Great. Get rid of it.

Starting point is 01:39:32 You hated. And he wasn't doing motorcross with that pickup before. If he was, go back to doing it the way he was doing it before you had the pickup. It didn't bring you joy. It didn't bring you joy. Yeah. Okay. So what about the house?

Starting point is 01:39:50 We're going to sell it? No, I just bought it. I put $70 grand into renovation. So I have the house. I know. How much is your payment? How much is your payment a month? Yeah, I love the house. So my mortgage is $4,068, but when I was bringing in $20, I'm like, well, that's peanuts.

Starting point is 01:40:10 But the construction loans is what got me. So I have one for $1,600 and another one for $2,400. On top of the mortgage? Correct. So another, so it's $9,000 going to this house. Is the house, is the construction completed? Yes. Okay. If you refinance the house and got a new mortgage, that took out your first mortgage and the two construction loans

Starting point is 01:40:35 could you afford the payment? Without a doubt because I bring in about 20 it's just a 11 and 12 thousand dollars then refinance the house okay refinance the house and sell the truck now we've got a mortgage we can afford and we don't have a truck payment

Starting point is 01:40:49 because the other thing about that truck is every time you look at it you feel dumb I bought stuff when I did something dumb and the thing just kept reminding me I did something dumb and you're not dumb you make a lot of money. You're smart. But you did a couple dumb things.

Starting point is 01:41:06 That's okay. We've all done dumb things. I got a Ph.D. in DUMB. It's a lot. I've made 150 to 200 a year. And my lights have always been turned out in my home. Even when my home was $1,500 a month, how? I've told my kids are amazing. I said, guys, we need a change because their dad's a multimillionaire. He's retired at 48. but he he doesn't do anything for the kids or with the kids.

Starting point is 01:41:34 Are you all married? No, she said she's single. Oh, you're single. No, we're divorced. Okay, gotcha, got you, got you. Well, that's him. So I think we're- I love doing things with them because I feel like-

Starting point is 01:41:46 Yeah, but you can't do that. You can't do that and put it in the foolish column. Yeah. Yeah. Because the things you, you know, you outlined for us, the things that you did that you were ashamed of. Mm-hmm. That were bothering you.

Starting point is 01:41:59 that you were regretting, right? And so let's just undo those things or restructure them to where they work in your world and your peace comes back and then we clean up the debt. So would you be debt free if the truck was gone and you refinanced the house except for the house? Yeah, I have no credit card, no student loan. I have nothing else. Because you cleaned all that up in that first blush, yeah. Rebecca, and you need to be, and do a monthly budget.

Starting point is 01:42:23 You need some control. It feels a little bit just from, yes, just talking to you. I do reserve studies for high right. That's literally what I do. I do budgets for other people and it makes me bar that I keep. But with BMX and motorcross, it's so hard because we have stayed. I've spent thousands every month traveling, staying in hotels for racing. So I go, how do I do a budget?

Starting point is 01:42:47 And I don't know what my expenses are. The bike breaks. He needs clip shoes. That's a thousand bucks. Okay. I've made that an excuse because I could still budget without that. I could leave. Well, you need to figure out, on average, here's how much I spend on my son's motorcross, right?

Starting point is 01:43:04 And can I afford it? And is this? What you just described didn't sound like you could afford it. Well, I believe I could if I just stopped getting Chipotle and DoorDash every week. Well, okay. Well, maybe. I don't think that's the thing. I kind of think this motorcross thing's out of control.

Starting point is 01:43:20 It sounds like it's way over the time. Yeah, it's probably no is probably a word he needs to be introduced to. And don't feel guilty about that, Rebecca. By the way, he's not going to make a living. It's 48 years old doing motocross. Yeah, but as, and we hear this with a lot of divorce situations, that there is this overcompensating. Disney mom.

Starting point is 01:43:37 Of it. And I get why. You want your kids to have great experiences and a great, all of it. But you can't go broke doing it. Yeah. And there is a limit. You're not in Congress. So I would figure out how much on average are you spending a month on

Starting point is 01:43:51 motocross, make that a line item. Or set a budget up and say, we're not spending more than that. Yeah, exactly. Well, just in that. But then you got to. you know what you mean like you that's the great thing about a budget is you get to put your money where you value so Rebecca if you really do value this for your son and out to eat it has not much in it in order to make that happen you get to decide that everybody you're an adult that's what the

Starting point is 01:44:09 budget is you get to make that decision on where you want your money to go but it has to be purposeful or you're going to feel out of control constantly and always asking can I do this can I do that the budget is permission to spend it's where your values are and so yeah I think I I think that's going to be a big change for you in a really positive direction once you sell this truck. I'm 100% sure you need to spend less on motorcross, and I'm 100% sure that you need to put a limit on it. Because right now you spend whatever comes up and never ask a question. And then look back later and go, oh, those clip-ons were a thousand bucks. No. No. Couldn't afford it this month. And depending on the age of the kid, maybe he gets a job and pays for half of it, too.

Starting point is 01:44:52 Maybe he needs to win a race and get some prize money. I don't know. I don't know how that world works. I don't know. Hey, folks, changing gears here for a second. George and I will be doing the Investing Essentials virtual event next Tuesday and Wednesday. Anyone can become a millionaire. It's not that complicated. We've shown a whole lot of millions of people how to do it. This is the only place. We've only done this a couple times, I think the third time we've done one of these. It's the only place I unpack my playbook for investing in wealth planning,

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Starting point is 01:47:20 Thank you. We're doing good. Excellent. Where do you guys live? We're from Hillman, Michigan. Which is near what? Alpina, Michigan. Which is near what?

Starting point is 01:47:27 Northern Northeast Michigan. Ah, okay. Thank you. So you got the glove. Thank you. I had to get something going on there. Way to go. Well, thank you for coming all the way to Tennessee.

Starting point is 01:47:37 Where did you guys, how much debt have you paid off? Paid off 140,000. Wow. How long did that take? 22 months. Good for you. And your range of income during that two years? I'm around 150,000 to 170,000.

Starting point is 01:47:50 Wow. What do you guys do for a living? I'm an electrician. And I work in mergers and acquisitions. Ah, very good. And you're killing it. Way to go, y'all. What kind of debt was your $140,000?

Starting point is 01:48:02 It was our mortgage. You paid off your house! You guys were so weird. How old are you two? I'm 24. I'm 23. But you can't buy a house in America today. We have an affordability crisis.

Starting point is 01:48:18 But you two not only bought one at 24 and 22? 23. 23. And you paid off. What's the house worth? About 250. $250,000. Good.

Starting point is 01:48:29 Oh, it's a good looking house, too. I love your planters. Thank you. Love the hanging planters. That's a great starter house. Well done, y'all. So how long y'all been married? About three years.

Starting point is 01:48:40 Okay. Just over three years. So a little bit into the marriage, like a year into the marriage, you went, we buy the house at that point? Yeah. And then you went, we're tearing into this thing. We'll knock it out. Yeah, we were on the same page, basically right when we got married.

Starting point is 01:48:52 Okay. So how did all this Ramsey stuff infect you guys? I actually basically grew up. with it and then kind of infected her once we started to hang out and get married. There's no vaccine. Did you guys have any student loan debt or anything going into the marriage? Like you guys went in debt free? We were actually high school sweetheart.

Starting point is 01:49:12 So we actually started dating when we were 14. And he showed me the Dave Ramsey podcast. We actually worked at a berry farm together in the summers. And so we'd actually listen to the podcast while we're picking strawberries and raspberries. Okay. To get through school? Did you guys do school? So yeah, so we paid our way through school. We had no, we were both on the same page, no student loans. We paid through our wedding. So we didn't want to have any debt going into the marriage. You guys are like unicorns. You're amazing. So what's your degree in? Financial planning. Of course. And I just had a certificate, electrical certificate. Oh, yeah, yeah. Did your apprenticeship and all that. And you're both killing it. Way to go. And what? And what? What did you pay for the house? It was two. 225.

Starting point is 01:50:00 Yeah, 225. Okay. Wow. Amazing, you guys. And within three years, right? Two years. Two years, you said. Two years, yeah, two years.

Starting point is 01:50:08 Okay, so what did life look like? Because you guys are newlyweds. What did you do lifestyle-wise to put, yeah. $140,000 and 22 months. To pay this off. Was it just like we're going to cut everything and go intense? Or do you feel like you kind of did what you wanted still and through extra? Like, how did you do it?

Starting point is 01:50:25 Yeah, we didn't. feel like, I mean, we were still doing what we wanted to do. We still went on multiple vacations. We actually did some house renovations. Mostly what we did is we lived on his income and then anything I made we just threw at the house. So we just basically lived on one income and yeah, through my income at the house. And did it. I just figured it out. So you know these guys on TikTok that say Dave Ramsey bought his first house for a box of strawberries. That's what they did. That's what they did. That's pick berries. That's how they did it. That was the day for a college for a bucket of strawberries.

Starting point is 01:50:59 Oh my gosh, you guys, amazing. Wow. What do your parents say? They got to be dancing. Yeah, I think they're proud. Yeah. They're pretty sure you're not going to be in their basement. No, no. They didn't think we were too crazy, so that was good. Well, they both taught you to work. They taught you to live like this. Both of you, you know, you had, that's hard work. Yeah. I mean, you're, you're, I'm glad we're not doing it now. Yeah. Yeah. You know, you know, you know, yeah.

Starting point is 01:51:21 Yeah, if you do that, you're pretty sure you want to get an education. You're pretty sure you want to get a trade, right? Yeah. So you don't end up there for life. How much was your mortgage every month? It was 1236. Okay. That's amazing.

Starting point is 01:51:33 I mean, what's crazy is if you, if you, if you, not that you have to live in this house forever, right? You guys can upgrade eventually if you want. But if you just invested your house payment at your age of 26 all the way to 67, you'd have $16.5 million, just investing your house payment from here on out. Yep. That's insane, y'all. Is that crazy? I have a financial calculator, so I do a lot of the financial numbers.

Starting point is 01:51:58 She knows. I know we have this fancy studio phone. I was like, well, I'm going to plug in those numbers. Yeah, I'm definitely the nerd. Oh, my gosh. Okay, so does it feel different? I mean, it wasn't, you guys didn't have it for too long, but how does it feel? How it feels good.

Starting point is 01:52:10 It feels awesome. It feels free. Like, we don't have, like, it literally just felt like a deep breath. Like, we can breathe. If anything happens, if I were to lose my job, if he were to lose his job, like, that would be fine. We're okay. We're okay.

Starting point is 01:52:22 And on top of that, you're going to be a really, really, really, really okay. Yeah. That's right. And generous. Yes, and generous.

Starting point is 01:52:29 That's right. Absolutely. So what do you tell the young people listening? We have a lot of younger listeners now. A lot of Gen Z. What would you tell them if they're sitting there at 24, 25, and they want to be you all eventually one day? I would say,

Starting point is 01:52:45 I know a lot of people say to be on the same page before you get married. I mean, that's definitely. just be on the same page as each other. Yeah. And it's possible. I think a lot of times it's like we get so caught up in this victim mentality almost where it's like, yeah, I mean, expenses, there's, I mean, groceries are expensive, gas is expensive.

Starting point is 01:53:03 Like we're feeling it too. But you don't have to let that be everything. Like you can, like, yeah, whatever you want your reality to be, you can go and fight for it 100%. And there's, there's power too. Like when you get married and you guys are on the same page, working for the same goals and you're on the same track, there's a power. that.

Starting point is 01:53:20 Oh, it's a huge power. Yeah, like $170,000 worth of boom. That's pretty stinking incredible. That's amazing. So, I mean, you guys, you were not in debt or not been married long enough to really have felt that just the grotesque weight, it was kind of a brush with it. So instead of that feeling the relief from that, I'm guessing you just really feel accomplished. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:53:47 Like you really realize how sharp you. are and how we really did this. And I'm just going to kind of walk around with my shoulders thrown back a little bit and be proud. You should. I'm proud of you. And I know your parents are proud of you. And you're an example where all we hear is that you can't buy a house. You can't buy a house. And not only did you buy a house, but at 23 freaking years old, you paid it off. So, I mean, shut up. Hold my beer, right? Oh, my gosh. When we've actually bought the house, our goal is to pay it off and hopefully less than five years. And it just kept kind of snowballing.

Starting point is 01:54:23 And then we're like, oh, maybe three years. And then actually, then it was kind of addicting. Yeah, it was addicting to see the number go down. It's gamified. That's what it is. That's exactly what it is. That's hilarious. You guys are great.

Starting point is 01:54:36 You guys are powerful. I'm so proud of it. You're going to have so stinking much money. It's going to be ridiculous. And you're going to be able to be generous and change your family tree. And then send your grandkids to pick strawberries later. Yeah. That's good.

Starting point is 01:54:50 That would be a good thing. Hopefully for fun and not for work. That's right. That's right. That's right. As a hobby. I don't know. It was good money.

Starting point is 01:54:56 It's not the end of the world for three months. You can do a lot of stuff for three months. Yeah. Yeah, you can pull a lot of things together. Man, I'm so proud of y'all. Very cool. Your work ethic, your character, everything. Thank you.

Starting point is 01:55:07 Stellar. Stellar. Wow. Wow. Anytime someone wants to tell me that Gen Z is a bunch of losers, I'll tell them I have seen otherwise. Colton and Alley. I have seen the Colton Alleyes of the world. They come in here and they stand on this stage.

Starting point is 01:55:21 They work on our team and they're absolutely incredible. We love Gen Z. Not all of them, but we love them. We do. We love the good ones. Yeah, their good ones are there. That's amazing. All right, Colton and Allie from Michigan, 23 and 24 years old.

Starting point is 01:55:41 140,000 paid off, mortgage and everything in 22 months, making 150 to 170. Count it down. Let's hear. a debt-free scream. Three, two, one. We're dead free! Okay, moms and dads. I have a goal for you.

Starting point is 01:56:11 Create another Colton and Alley for us. Some of you that are raising these little characters, turn them into Colton and Alley that can pick strawberries and pay off their house by the time they're 23. Well, and all you parents with little kids on the debt-free journey, your kids are going to be that. That's what they're going to be. That's what they're going to be.

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Starting point is 01:58:37 if you're listening on podcast or YouTube. Wesley is with us in Montgomery, Alabama. Hi, Wesley. How are you? I'm doing great, Dave. How are you? Better than I deserve. What's up? All right, so I'm 21 years old. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for some time now, and I am thinking about getting engaged.

Starting point is 01:59:01 She goes to Auburn. She has about five years left in school. she's in pharmacy school and I close on my house next Friday and so I'm just trying to decide if it'd be wiser to wait

Starting point is 01:59:18 and get engaged to her later on in school maybe like the year before she gets done with everything or go ahead and do it next year because next year will be her senior year but anyways she has like four years post grad that she has to do

Starting point is 01:59:33 are you going to the house is near where she's going to do her post-grad work, I assume? So it's about 45 minutes from it. Okay. And so if you were married while she's doing post-grad work, she's going to do a 45-minute commute? Yeah, so that's what she has said that she's totally fine with that. And she said that even if, like, it wasn't, like, if we weren't engaged or if we were

Starting point is 02:00:04 married by then, she would live with her parents and make that drive. And it's also 45 minutes. Okay. So, um, and you're, you've graduated? Okay. So I'm a, I'm a, I never went to college. I'm a real estate agent and a firefighter. Um, so I, I work 2448 and then, uh, I do real estate, uh, full time, I guess. And what do you mind? So this year, I'll do six figures. I'm on track for six figures. That's both of them combined. Is that like 100 grand Wesley?

Starting point is 02:00:41 Or when you say six figures, is that 150? 100 grand. Right out of 100. Okay, perfect. Okay. And what do you make? How much of that's the firefighter? So firefighter salary, I take home without any overtime or anything, around $63,000.

Starting point is 02:01:00 Okay. Who's paying for her college? Who's paying for her postgraduate work? So her grandparents would pay for that. Regardless of if you're married? Correct. Yes, sir. Okay. All right. Well, I wouldn't base a marriage decision on a 45-minute commute. So I would say, if you love her and she's the one and you guys want to get married, do it. I mean, get married. And, you know, so many stories, I still had some school left.

Starting point is 02:01:31 when Winston and I got married, and it was for a short amount of time. But I think there is something, my dad may roll his eyes at this, but there is something kind of, I think, sweet when you start off and you guys are just hustling, you know, like you'll look back on these years and be like, these were the simplest times, you know, she was in school. We're not rolling eyes at that. That's good. I like, okay, okay, okay.

Starting point is 02:01:54 Sometimes it's like, oh, my life is so much better when you're doing well financially. But yeah, so there's, I don't know, something about that that's, I think, great. And again, it's all if you guys feel like you're in a good spot relationally and spiritually and all of it. I mean, I was, I got married super young. So I'm, if she's the one, I'm definitely not against it. And I think she can make that 45 minute commute. And I think that's fine. Yeah.

Starting point is 02:02:22 She's going to be making a 45 commute anyway because she's with, well, their parents is 45. Yeah, but I wouldn't. And I wouldn't, I wouldn't, I wouldn't wait, but I wouldn't wait five years to get married. No. and I wouldn't make you, yeah. That's the thing. That's the thing for me is, you know, I, you know, we encouraged our kids to get out of school before they got married. Rachel obviously chose to do that.

Starting point is 02:02:43 She came in and said, Dad, you always said this, but we really want to get married in December and I'll graduate in May. And we really, really, really, really want to get married. And I'm like, okay, that's cool. So we worked it out. Still can't believe y'all let us get married that young. You still laugh all the time. I mean, it was, we liked Winston a lot. And so it's that simple.

Starting point is 02:03:00 And he's a stud. So, you know, that, that's kind of the thing. And so if you're, if you've, if you, if you two have your act together, as Rachel's point, yes. Then it won't interfere with her completing school. And it won't. And, you know, you're not holding each other back. There's no desperation in this.

Starting point is 02:03:19 And I wouldn't sit around wait five years to get married. No. I mean, I mean, we just had a couple on the stage. She's 23. They've been married two, three years. They got married young and paid off their house and, you know, made. some big adult stride. So just because you're young doesn't mean that it can't be done. Yeah, you just, but you need to do it from a healthy spot. Both of you being in a healthy spot.

Starting point is 02:03:40 Yes. And it sounds like you are. I didn't hear anything in this discussion that's like neediness on her part or your part or something like that. Right, right. Your only question was timing. And it's what I heard. Yeah. Anyway, so if I were in your shoes, I would be engaged and be married as soon as possible within, you know, within reason. And so I would not wait too. years and three years and four years and that kind of stuff. I didn't and I don't I don't tell people to do that. All right. Sarah is in Baton Rouge. Hi Sarah. How are you? Good. Thanks for taking my call. Sure. What's up? I attended Financial Peace University and I try to follow the baby step principles. I'm debt free except for my mortgage and I'll pay that off next year. Way to go. I am

Starting point is 02:04:24 single. Yeah. I'm single. For the first time in my life, I'm self-employed. I'm self-employed. I was contributing 15% to a Roth 401k when I was employed. I want to continue to stay at 15% for retirement, but I don't know if I should deduct the self-employment tax for my gross income first and then figure the 15%? Do I just look at the gross income and take 15% of that? We teach people to save 15% of the gross at baby step 4, and that's where you are. So 15% of your gross. It's same thing on your, if you're a W-2 employee.

Starting point is 02:04:59 before taxes are taken out, we figure 15% of that gross. It's the same thing. Okay. And you've just got, with self-employment tax, you've got, when you're a W-2, you've got half of that. You pay 7.62 plus your 7.62%, and you've got the whole 13, you know, the whole 13%, you know, the whole 13%. So, Medicare. And Medicare and everything. So, yeah.

Starting point is 02:05:23 So it's 50, it ends up being 15% plus your income tax. So that's what the government does. does to us. So there's a lot coming out. But that's, you know, the only difference in you and a W2 is you've got an extra 7% coming out because, I mean, Washington's here to help the small business person, so they double tax them. So that's how that works. But, you know, yeah. So yeah. Good job, Sarah, though. Well done. Yeah, way to go. Way to go. You're killing it, kid. Very well done. Evan is in Corpus Christi. Hi, Evan. How are you? Hey, Dave and Rachel. I'm honored to talk to you all today. You too. A little short of

Starting point is 02:05:59 on time. Go straight to your question. All right. I'm looking for permission to spend some money on a truck. Just sold our house and my wife and I have never been sitting on this much cash before. We've been in a little bit of a mess and so we're crawling out of it

Starting point is 02:06:15 and I think that's kind of How much debt do you have? How much debt do you have? No debt. No debt. What's your net worth? We have 210. in retirement. We're both 29 years old, and we're sitting on about 150,000 in cash. Okay. And how much of a truck are you talking about buying?

Starting point is 02:06:39 I'm just struggling to pull the trigger somewhere $20,000 to $30,000. I make $120,000. Okay. What's the other car worth? She got an expedition. Probably about 22. Okay. All right. Yeah. If you've listened to the show, you know that we tell people not to buy cars and things with motors and wheels, totaling more than half. your annual income. It doesn't sound like it is. And you're paying cash. And so that's the two things we tell people to do. And you're dead free. Obviously, you're using part of your down payment money towards the house when you do that. You're trading it off for a truck. But pay cash for it and make sure it's in that 20, 25 range, and you should be okay. That puts us out of the Ramsey Show in the books.

Starting point is 02:07:21 We'll be back with you before you know it. In the meantime, remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace. And that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace, Christ Jesus. Thank you.

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