The Ramsey Show - Being "Normal" with Money Sucks, Be Weird!

Episode Date: August 15, 2024

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Katie is with us in Los Angeles. Hi, Katie. How are you? Hi. I've been better. How are you, Dave? Better than I deserve. What's up in your world?

Well, I am a stay-at-home mom of two young kids, and my husband is a business owner. I've been living with my head in the sand for the last couple of years as he's managed the money, and I've just recently discovered how poorly he's been doing that. We are in a world of debt right now and trying to find a path out of it. Okay. So what, what caused you to suddenly become aware? Um, he called me one day and said, I'm going to tell you before you get home to see the mail today, but we got a foreclosure notice on our house, which was due to a second mortgage he'm going to cash out one of my 401ks, pay that off, get the house out of foreclosure, and then we're going to move forward and do everything right from here on out. That was very naive. As I started to dig deeper, I realized

the trouble that the business was in. He has a huge overhead and is not making enough to sustain that how old are you guys i'm 39 he's 42 how long you been married six years when was the phone call on the foreclosure notice to you well on the house or on now when did he call you what day how long ago did he call you and say oh this was this was back in may may okay so you've been you've been gathering more information and you all have been having more discussions for a couple of months now correct okay all right so um what is he now saying he is he has a very uh motivated mindset and he feels like he just needs to keep pushing forward with the business and things are going to turn around any day any week and he's going to be able

to fix all of this meanwhile it feels as if things are not getting better. Things seem to be getting worse. Twice this month he's not been able to make payroll for the employees. I've found out about some IRS debts, some property tax that's delinquent. So why are you, once you discovered one thing, why do you not have a conversation when the two of you sit down and he tells you everything? Why are you able to continue to pull the thread on the sweater? Well, eventually he did. Once I found out about the IRA.

So we're all on the same page today. What's the total debt, Katie? Including mortgages? Yeah. Sure. Yeah. About $4.5 million. Okay, and how much is the mortgage on your home?

Our mortgage is, we owe $480 on the house, plus the additional, the second mortgage, which is $400, so about $880. Okay, what's the house worth? Probably $1.1. Okay, what's the mortgage on the warehouse? Is there one? The mortgage on the warehouse, yes, there is. The mortgage on the warehouse, we owe about 3.3 on it.

And the monthly payment on that is about $26,000. And what's it worth? It's worth 4.1, 4.2. Okay. Is it on the It's worth $4.1, $4.2. Okay. Is it on the market for sale? Yes. I sat down with our broker. Good.

Okay. So that's on the market. Is your home on the market for sale? No. Okay. And so what other debt is there other than these two? There's credit card debt, which totals about $120,000. There's a personal loan from my parents which is 115 000 there is the property tax which is about 100 000 there are are ridiculous cars

which are 140 000 are they on the market for sale no they need to be today okay okay now is he the thing about business is this okay you do have to be an optimist to operate a business and operate a business in california you have to be an unbelievable optimist with the taxes and the regulations and the crap you all face okay it's unbelievable so he has to be an optimist or he's dead in the water so we have to have that category we can put him in that's a good thing um but what you need to hear and i don't know the answer to this is you need to hear him articulate a detailed tactical strategy strategy overall but the tactical implementation of the what items are we doing to make this thing profitable? Because all you're describing to me are signs of death

of the business. He has some reason, hopefully logically, that there's a reason for life in the business. I don't know what that is. I can't, I'm not hearing his part of that story. It is possible that he's got four things that if those that if three of the four things levers flip that he can turn the business around okay but the poor management and continue to go further further into debt is a pattern of i think i cannot earn my stupidity and that's what you need to see him stop doing because it's driving you nuts so the two of you need to sit down and you know it's okay for you to quote require of him for your peace of mind as his wife that he show you what

the clear path is and exactly what the steps are to get out not just if i grip my teeth it's going to get better because if i grip my teeth and keep doing the same thing it ain't gonna get grit my teeth and keep doing the same thing, it ain't going to get better. It's going to keep doing the same thing. Yeah, and I think a timeline's appropriate too, Katie, because you guys could sit here in this cycle forever and ever, and you need an end date, or I would. I would be like, hey, I will give you X amount to figure this out. But at some point, you've got to just stop it and go get a job.

Like, we have to clean this up. I mean, it's just. So Henry Cloud says in his book necessary endings that you end something when you lose logical hope that it is going to get any better okay so when do you close a business you close a business when you have no reason logically to believe it's going to turn around and you need to see something other than all the death signs you feel like you're sitting beside the hosp something other than all the death signs you feel like you're sitting beside the hospice patient hearing all the signs of death coming and you've and yet

it's not a hospice patient maybe maybe it's just a patient that's got the flu but that's how you're feeling because you don't know what's going on here i don't know what's going on um selling the warehouse is going to be a big lick that's going to be really helpful getting rid of your cars is really helpful and um you know we got to get back to scorched earth we got to get this thing right sized to where we can make payroll and we get and we see a path a light at the end of the tunnel that's not an oncoming train the two of you need to find that together uh and if you don't see it katie you speak up too because so far the pattern has not been here. IRS stuff, I mean,

it's not looking good. He has poorly managed it, that's for sure. But if there is a clear path, but otherwise we need to talk about how we're going to sell everything off and shut it down. So, you're right on track. And trust your gut. You've got good gut instincts on this.

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She didn't know anything about it because she was not involved until a few months ago, and now she's trying to find her way through that, and giving her a quick answer on that's very difficult. But there's some principles that Rachel gets to talk about, and get to talk about a lot that weave into a situation like that. By the way, the irony of that call is it's almost exactly where we are, where only I wasn't 42, I was 28. I had $4 million worth of debt. Rachel was a brand new baby when we hit bottom. But it took two and a half years of fighting for us to go all the way to the bottom to bankruptcy. So by the time I filed bankruptcy was the year she was born. But Sharon was a full time mom with Rachel's older sister and had absolutely zero knowledge of anything going on,

not because I was deceiving her. I just didn't ask, nor did I tell. And neither did she ask. She's like, she just classic, whatever you want to do, honey. And neither did she ask. She's like, is she just classic? Whatever you want to do, honey. And just assumed I had a clue. I thought I had a clue and I was wrecking a business. And, um, so there's a couple of things that go with this principles for you guys to use out there, uh, that'll keep you from finding yourself in a situation. They may be so far gone, they don't make it out of that. They may be bankrupt. They may lose everything.

We did because we were so far in. So principle number one is men in particular, but ladies too, when you are running a business, it does not give you relational or wisdom permission to keep that all the other side of some kind of wall. Now, you don't need to come home and whine every night to your spouse about everything being hard. Nobody wants to hear that. But your spouse needs to be involved in all major decisions that affect the household and that includes the running of the business period and here's why proverb says who can find a virtuous

wife for her worth is far above rubies the heart of her husband safely trusts her and he will have no lack of gain. And so while my sweet little wife is at home with a little baby and she's a full-time mom with a home ec degree, she is academically not qualified to speak into the operation of my business. But the Bible says that if I listen to the wisdom of my virtuous wife, I will have no lack of gain. The way Sharon says it is, I may not understand, but I have common sense. And she throws that around like, and she does have common sense. She has wisdom. And so after I went broke and I learned that proverb, I no longer make major financial decisions, major decisions of any kind, without Sharon and I talking it through and being in agreement.

Now, sometimes we argue about it. Sometimes she's wrong. Sometimes she's right. And I hear something I never heard before. But I don't, you know, we don't go and buy a $2 million building and then tell her we did it. We can, but we don't. And so we don't, you know, I don't book.

We run our calendars. We run our budgets together. We know everything that's going on in our time, everything that's going on in our money, and therefore we make better decisions. And the added benefit is that it absolutely solidifies your marriage against the storms that will come. Yeah, and being able to, I think, go there with your spouse, too, is what we talk about so often, is having this knowledge and understanding of who they are.

Because usually in those business conversations and or the money conversations, the person and their fears and their anxiety around this subject over here, or the thoughts of this or the excitement of that, like you get to know your spouse in the middle of it too, right? I mean, like there's all this added benefit

to not only having somebody outside the picture looking in with a different perspective, which is so wise and so healthy, but you also, you're doing stuff as a team. And when you're married, that's where a rich marriage comes from is that you're on the same team and you're talking about it and you get to know your spouse in the middle of it even more versus again, feeling like, okay, this whole part of our life is over here and I'm not I'm not going to bring you in so if you're in the situation where that lady's husband is you're the husband or the wife and you're in that situation you're running a business as of today it is now your job to unpack everything that's going on that is of that is of note anything of size we don't have to discuss where we buy copier paper okay but we are going to talk about the big things that are happening in the business. Here's what's

going on. Here's how we run the business. Here's the things. And we're not going to move the big pieces around the chessboard without talking about it further. If you are the person who is at home or is not in the business, so to speak, it is your job as of today to know what the flip is going on in your own life. You are not a little child. You have to plug in. And if they don't want you to, that's a bad sign. If you're just too lazy to, you don't want to put forth the effort. Oh, he's handling. I'll let let him handle it that's just laziness and you're gonna make really stupid but decisions and you're gonna craft a life that you don't like at the end of the story if you don't plug in and make these calls together like two grown-up adults one well we're not alike we don't we look at things differently absolutely to most

of the time opposites attract larry burkett used to say if two people just alike get married one of you is unnecessary of course one of you is a spender of course one of you is a saver of course one of you is an abundance and the other one's a scarcity of course so what that what that means is you're getting good rounded viewpoints on these major decisions and you don't reach a point that oh i borrowed on our home where our children sleep to buy a warehouse can i say that feels deceitful like when you start to muddle the waters which i know happens a lot in business but you you start to reach over to the like putting that in danger that that feels like it's i don't know why it feels different if it's like oh i went and got a warehouse but my own home like my home that feels so personal i don't like it

that felt that felt deceitful to me well it's not um because the the arrangement that they were no the arrangement they were operating on is she don't care. He can do whatever he wants. And so he did whatever he wants. And he had no thought that he was going to lose the home. He thinks it's just going to turn around and he's going to out earn his stupidity. Make all this other money. He didn't sit down and go.

Now, I will tell you this. Having adopted this, we don't do major things without Sharon, it means that I actually have to not only sell myself on the idea of going forward on something, I have to sell her on it. And it makes me critically think through the idea more thoroughly, knowing I've got to get agreement from someone else. I've got to be able to explain it in such a way that it makes sense and get agreement. That's why we always talk about,

don't do your money alone. Even if you're single, have somebody, an account, something that you are accountable to, right? Yep. A spouse,

a friend. Again, if you're single, maybe it's a mentor, like whatever it is, whatever the situation is. It's hilarious that inside of our own little brains, we can talk,

we can make the dumbest thing. We're crazy. We can make the dumbest thing sound smart inside our own little brains but when you have to speak it and set it out on the table in front of someone that loves you and that cares about your future as soon as you set it out on the table sometimes before they say anything you go oh that's dumb oh that's i and when that was in my head it was really smart but when i put it out there in the daylight it looks really stupid and it's almost like that time that you had this problem and you sat down with your friend and

by the time you explained your problem to your friend you knew the answer and all that is is your brain had to process from simple digits floating around in your brain into verbalized when you have to turn something into language it record your brain is required to go through another higher function of critical thinking skills so when you turn something from a thought into language and put it in front of someone else it makes you process the thing you're talking about more thoroughly that's why you already know the answer before your friend ever says anything you go oh thanks for listening i now know what to do and they never said a word they just look at you like a hoot owl. Right? And the same thing's true here.

When you have to do this with your spouse, it opens up everything. It's like right before this show, I was telling Dave about my new prepping conspiracy that I heard last night and he looked at me like a hoot owl and he just shook his head and we just went to air. It's good to say it out loud sometimes.

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slash cruise and rachel it is disturbing that he doesn't make fun of you or he's nice to me you know just an easy you're an easy poke sometimes you know i'm an easy i'm an easy mark that was you're saying I leave I leave a lot out I leave a lot out there that could be my vibe and people like to go after it the boomer vibe oh yeah people people like to go after it's a good thing to go out I mean it's an Instagram thing to go after the boomers so I get that okay we're just mad that y'all bought houses that were you know twenty thousand dollars I bought a house with a bucket of strawberries that's exactly right I traded one bucket of strawberries that's exactly right i traded one

bucket of strawberries from my house now it's worth 42 we're all just mad about it and you could make you know 20 grand and be fine in life you know just the 80s and y'all how were they and y'all never took economics to find out that those numbers are actually not true i was kidding but they're there we're just mad at y'all. Amanda is in Memphis. Hey, Amanda, what's up? Hey, Dave. Thank you for taking my call. Sure.

How can I help? I need guidance. I need to know. We got a loan on our home. And they were not transparent about any of the fees. What do you mean? It's kind of hard to... All the fees that were associated with the loan, the APR,

the only thing we knew was the interest rate. We knew... Well, that is the APR. Why did you sign the documents if you didn't know what you were doing? Well, when it came to closing, I mean, so the lender was telling us all along that he would tell us the fees once we settled on the percentage that we were going to put down. It was pretty cut and dry, Dave. We wanted to walk away from our other home with $75,000 under 6% and have a house note $2,000 or

under. It was that simple. But it wasn't that simple. When you went to the table and it wasn't that, why did you sign it? We didn't know it wasn't that. You didn't sign a mortgage paper that had a blank in it. That's bull. No, no. No, didn't say that. Yeah, you did.

Okay, but the loan is just in my husband's name. It is not in my name. I don't care. Why did he sign it? I'm the one that did all the conversation. Were you at the table when he's there to sign it? I was at the table. And you looked down and the numbers aren't right, and you signed it anyway?

Why did you do that? I wasn't the signer. But besides that, let me go backwards just a little bit, okay? Because the lender said, okay, 6.375. He said, I'll get you under 6% if you sign with us right now. And so we did that. We got on the computer. We signed with us right now. And so we did that. We got on the computer, we signed with them and

everything. And so then it became, you know, they wouldn't tell us any of the fees. The underwriter said, we'll get the paper over to you. So you will know what all your numbers are before you go to the closing table. And if you need someone there to sit with you, We have someone in your city that can sit with you. And we said, no, let's just wait. And we went through the process. And then we go to, we go to the closing and the closing attorney says, you know, here's, here's this, uh, you know, you've already went over this, dah, dah, dah. You know how they go through it. We went with this company cause they said they were going to do everything. So we just assumed that's how it was.

Okay? When we told them what we wanted to go to, we didn't know what our cash out was going to be until after all the papers were signed. After all the papers were signed, the closing attorney came downstairs with a sheet of paper and a breakdown and said, Ann, you're getting $65,000. Like, no. We're supposed to be getting $75,000. So we didn't know anything.

They were not transparent, and they misguided us. We had to pay for points. They never told us we had to pay for points. There were many things. And to the point that I called after the loan to the underwriter okay why did you not turn around look at the attorney and say just tear up the documents i don't want 65 000 anymore we agreed to i'm not we're not doing this closing our house was sold we were we we were in a and a stress we're both 61 i mean we were that doesn't mean you have to accept a deal

no we don't have to accept a deal just look at him and go this isn't what we agreed to tear up the papers we're not doing this and where were we gonna live honey so so what amounts to is is you willingly did this because you felt trapped instead of standing up and saying, no, I'm walking out of here. You're right about the trapped part. I said because you felt trapped. You weren't trapped. Stand up, walk out, go rent an apartment, and give them the middle finger as you walk out the door.

Don't sign stuff and then gripe about what you signed. When you sat down and looked, your husband signed it after you sat there and looked at it. If you say to me, you're going to give me the numbers before I go to closing, then we don't go to closing until you give me the numbers. And we don't go to closing if the numbers aren't what you tell me they're going to be. I look at stuff ahead of time. That was your job. It's not their job.

But it's their job to get it to me. It's your job to not do anything until they do. True. Okay. You let this happen. But like you said, at our age and no family to run to, you're right, we could rent, no doubt. Hey, I'm sorry, darling. I'm older than you and i

ain't feeling trapped and i don't need to run to my family i'm just gonna walk out the door if somebody's trying to screw me it's that simple i'm gonna stand up and walk out the door like is there any sorry you're not a victim you're not a victim of anything except your inability to look at someone and say no just look at them and say no i'm not signing this it's not what we said that's who you're a victim of you're a victim of your own inability to say no you and your husband should have thrown your shoulders back and said no this is not what we agreed to and walk away this lender didn't do anything wrong they were just sloppy at best this is the ramsey show one of the questions i get all the time is,

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how we do it has changed a lot over the 30 years. The advice has not changed hardly at all because it came from the Bible. The Bible didn't change. And it came from common sense, and common sense doesn't change. Now, there was no digital anything when we started. There was no computers. We didn't have a computer.

There was no Internet. There was no podcast, for sure. YouTube hadn't even been thought of. MTV was quite the rage. But, you know, it was a different time. Infomercials were a thing. VHS tapes are what we started with, right? And so we were telling the team this.

I said, the things that I say that are from God and your grandmother are the exact same things I say today. I said back then. It really hasn't even changed. So our producer, James, decided to to take upon himself to prove that and somewhere down in the deep bowels of ramsey has uncovered a video of me on a tv show i guess it is from 1995 30 years almost 30 years so let's see if I say the same things or not. You have very few of these, but a whole lot of these. You're going to like our show today. We're going to talk to a financial expert.

His name is Dave Ramsey. What's the number one question that you get on the air concerning financial problems? What do they want to know? Concerning financial problems, how to get out of debt. How do I get out of debt? And I would say the second thing is communication with spouses. It's the stuff grandma talked about. So save money, live on less than you make. Two concepts Congress can't grasp. And then we talk about getting out of debt, the borrower's servant to the

lender. And so lay down a plan, have a budget, spend every dollar on paper before the month begins. Because it's more behavior than it is math. Don't spend money you don't have. Understand when half your net worth is tied up in something that loses 60% of its value in four years, you're not going to get ahead. I don't meet with people with a million dollars and say, gosh Dave, I got ahead using credit cards and car payments. What solves it is getting mad at it. Some healthy righteous anger and saying, hey that's it. I'm drawing a line. I'm gonna be weird weird i'm gonna get this stuff paid off oh my gosh i have no words i have no words your voice was so you're so you're it's changed how old were you in that how old i was probably about your age

mid-30s yeah oh my gosh well 95 i was 35 yeah how's your age wow wow yeah i'm 36 give me my year i'm sorry that and you still use the same jokes it's a the same exact jokes yeah it's live on less than you make a concept congress can't grasp now i did take um i had a guy come in and train me for a year and a half on half and removed a portion of my accent. So I've got a lot less accent now than I did then. That was pretty country fried there. Yeah, that was some 80s Nashville. Pretty southern.

Pretty southern. Sweet tea there. And the little comb over thing. That little last vestige of hair stuck up there. You got a little bit there. It was still stuck on. It wasn't really a comb-over. Y'all all just look old in those days.

Do what? Like, you look like you're 50 in that video. Isn't that interesting? Back in the day, I just feel like the way the style was, the way it was shot. Well, the style and, you know, a suit and tie and the glasses, the Mr. Magoo glasses. Yeah. I mean, like, it just makes you, it just ages you. What's interesting is if you quit looking at all that stuff. is fun to make fun of i'm okay with that that's good

it's a but the what i what did i say gave every dollar a name do a budget the every dollar and now we have the every dollar app and little did i know there was going to be a an internet communicate with your spouse every dollar give every dollar name and live on less than you make and cars go down in value people don't get rich on credit cards and car payments yeah it's pretty wild yeah and 35 years later i'm still saying the same thing and i have more listeners than we've ever had before at this moment and i've not changed one thing i mean it's nothing new here it's very very new. Even the be weird element. That was there, wasn't it?

Yeah, you said that. Just be weird. Be weird. And now when somebody comes on and does their debt-free scream, we call them a weirdo, right? And that's before it became a political thing in the last few weeks.

But yeah, we've still been doing that. Oh, yeah. Oh, man, they hijacked the word. They stole my word, yeah. Now I have to clarify that it has nothing to do with the Trump campaign. It's weird because you're just not normal. You're not normal.

You know, it's so refreshing, though. Like, it is. There is something about longevity in life, principles in all of life. I think it's probably true within relationships and health, money spiritually all of it that it that it works you know the new flashy way to do something or newest thing it doesn't have the proven track record it doesn't have longevity and the level of trust you can have in a system in a process that truly has been, yeah, for 30 years. Same, same freaking thing. Do you get tired of saying the same thing every day? For 30 years?

I've been doing it for 15. Yeah. I've been half of it. Yeah, there you go. There you go. When we look back on this interview right now, this discussion right now, your voice is going to sound weird.

Oh, yeah. I'm going to say. Look at that haircut. What is she wearing? Where did she get that? Whoops. That's awesome. Well done, James.

The style you used to have back then. That'll be it. But the whole thing is that the truth, something that's the truth, and we're people of the book. We're people of faith. So we believe that the Bible is the truth and we're people of the book we're people of faith so we believe that the bible is the truth the truth does not change and it's not negotiable with your feelings and so that's why we've been able to have the integrity to say the same thing over and over

and over and over again for 35 years through several fashion changes. And not only survive, but continue to prosper you guys to not only survive in the business, but be able to continue to help you guys. And it still helps you to hear those exact same things from that interview all those years ago. So we still say them over and over and over. And that is a type of integrity to stick with something, to finish, to not quit, to not abandon. Every time somebody has the latest, you know, all of a sudden Bitcoin is the new answer. And and so we have to stop. No, no, it's not.

It's not all of a sudden, you know, NTF is the answer. No, it's not. Well, credit card points and miles. That's been that game is has ramped up. That's beenf is the answer no it's not well credit card points and miles that's been that that game is has ramped up that's been majorly yeah it's it's crazy and uh you know when we started there were no credit cards accepted in grocery stores and there were no credit cards accepted in fast food and i remember doing a rant aghast on the air that it was going to ruin the American family, that they could buy their groceries now and go into debt to buy their food.

And I remember going off about that. And, you know, now it's not even that. Now it's just delivered to your door, your door in particular. But yeah, Rachel hasn't seen the inside of a grocery store in years. No, no, no, no. I'll go if I have items. On Mondays, I work, and that's why I do my grocery shopping. Okay.

I'm sorry. Conveniences. Yeah, okay. You've got to give and take, people. Live like no one else. You can live and have your groceries delivered. I'm sorry. One thing I do for myself.

One thing. When's the last time you've been in a grocery store? Why not since that video yeah no but entirely possible no i've been there because your mother sent me but yeah but the um i think the point is is that these principles work and the way that we deliver them whether it's some it's you know tomorrow we may be on a hologram i don't know uh tomorrow we may have some there's going to be another technology in five years or what we end up doing with ai to be able to we're going to use anything

that's available to deliver the exact same message over and over and over again yeah and i would say for people that are newer to listening because YouTube and podcasts has become like one of the major parts of this of this show is just because something feels simple and kind of boring and like, oh, is that it? Really? You live on less than you make kind of that common sense. That's almost that. That's those are the ones to lean into. Right. Like with stuff starts to get complicated and too fancy, and it feels like this, like, ooh, thing. So, to be confident for people that are new to this,

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Daniel is in Oklahoma City. Hi, Daniel, how are you? Hey, Dave, how are you doing today? Better than I deserve. What's up? Hey, got a couple questions for you. So I just recently got married about two weeks ago. Congratulations. I really appreciate it. My wife that I met in college, and we, you know, we talk about finances all the time and everything, you know, preparing for marriage and all that. We talked about that a lot in our premarital counseling through our church,

and it was great. Big question is, so I'm coming out of college with no debt, which is awesome, but my wife has about $130,000 in student loans. We just have been looking at them a lot recently and realized her minimum monthly payment's a lot higher than we expected it to be. It's about $1,800 a month is what that minimum monthly payment is looking like right now. So we make about $5,000 a month after taxes right now. What's her degree in? Marketing. Okay. And what does she make? She makes about $47,000 right now with her job.

A brand new job out of college? So she's actually had the job for about two years. She had been doing some marketing stuff prior to college and had a lot of experience. What do you make? So I still have a little bit of school left i actually make only about twenty five thousand dollars a year right now when will you graduate i have a year left of school okay and what will your degree be in uh my degree will be in business i'm actually taking over my uh my mom's business so i'll probably be making right at six figures um once once I'm out of school. Okay, and that's a year from now? Yes, sir. Yes, sir.

All right. Okay, so your big hope is that you can just keep things afloat, and then when your income kicks in, you'll be able to plow through this pretty quick, right? Absolutely, yes, sir. It's really just the next year. Just what do you think our best options are to do. Side hustles.

And she's underemployed. Why is she not making more than that? You know, it's a big conversation that we have had lately. She's actually in the process of looking for a new job. I would guess she could probably add $20,000 or $30,000 to her income, don't you? That's about what the median is. It's about 20 to $25,000 more here in Oklahoma city. So hoping she can find a better job that can make a little bit more money.

But her job right now is nice. It's very flexible, but that's a big thing. I wouldn't be looking for flexibility at this season, right? Yeah. I'm like, yeah,

I mean, I think, I think you guys just have a couple of months until some stuff is really going to start opening up for you. I mean, big thing yeah I wouldn't be looking for flexibility at this season right yeah I'm like yeah yeah I mean I think I think you guys just have a couple of months until some stuff is really going to start opening up for you I mean I would if I were her I'd be pretty aggressive of finding a new job because that's going to be significant right a $25,000 and then a year from now you'll be working full-time are you able to plug in more to your parents' business, Daniel? For your mom's? Right now, that's what I'm actually doing. I'm working for her on the weekends and then a little bit during the week. Okay.

I'm just traveling for her and stuff. So that's how I'm making about $25,000 a year. See, if she increased her income like we're talking about, it would be about the equivalent of the student loan debt. Yeah, that's about what we were thinking, yeah. $1,800 is like $23,'s you know you'd be right there okay so yeah yeah that's um and i would say daniel and i'm sure people maybe if you've talked to them about this but can i just i just want to say that you're in like the perfect season um relationally wise like with marriage no kids you

guys are starting out. Like if you're going to be working extra hours, this is the time to do it. It gets more complicated, right? The longer you're married and if kids start entering the picture, it just becomes more weighty. And so if you guys can really make a plan and just dream, I would have fun and just say, okay, what if she made $25,000 more? I'm making $100,000.

How fast can we get this paid off if I'm making that in a year? And kind of map it out and you guys are able to see it. So that way, if you guys have to take on extra work for the next two to three months until her income's up, just to keep that, you want to keep that minimum payment for sure because these payment plans on the principal, specifically with student loans, I mean, people pay so much money

and then they look and they owe more than where they started. I mean, it's just, it is so frustrating. I'm not even looking at the monthly. I'm thinking, her income goes up by $25,000. Your income goes up to $100,000. That puts you at $175,000 a year income. You owe $130,000. You should do this in one year.

That went from the time that that happens. I mean, and that's a year from now. And during the year in the interim, just figure out a way to pay the payment, maybe a little more. Any side hustles, get after it, though. Peter is with us in Austin, Texas. Hi, Peter. How are you? I'm great, Dave.

Thanks for taking the call. Sure. What's up? I had a quick question. I have 90% of my wealth. I just turned 62, 90% of my wealth in my Roth IRA. And I've kind of gone down a path where I've been doing it all in private lending, doing private notes, but 150 average. I'm only doing firsts and I'm at 55% or less in loan to

value. And I'm getting 12 and a half percent right now. And I like that, but I'm wondering what risks may be associated with that and if I should diversify that as I keep the money there. You spit that out in such a way that it makes me believe you do actually know what you're doing. Most people don't in that world but I think you probably do so that doesn't bother me so what is the risk on 55% LTV mortgages that you're holding only if the bunch of real estate collapsed and you became the owner of it right yes that would be your only risk that's not a real high risk I think what's the average loan value loan size I'm doing anywhere average be 185 right185 right now. Okay, all right. So

you're not sitting on $2 million ones and that kind of thing. What's the total? The total portfolio? Approximately 2.6. Okay, so you're just doing a self-managed IRA, got it in a Roth, and you're rolling this money over in private lending. Wow. That's pretty cool. That's what I've been doing. That's pretty cool. That's what I've been doing. It's like your job, too, almost. Yeah. It is, but when you have them going, and they go for anywhere from, let's say, three years

at the average with a nice prepay, if they come back in early, it does well. And I'm trying to simplify my life and be simple. And I have a little bit of fear of the stock market and feel that that 2.6 million coming in each year. I don't have any fear of it, but I don't have any fear of what you're doing either. So if you wanted to, I mean, diversification equals, uh, lowered risk always. Okay. I love real estate and I'm heavy in real estate. I'm probably, I don't know, 80%, 90% of my net worth is in real estate. So, but I love it. I'm comfortable with it. I know what I'm doing. It's not a, so I have very little risk associated with that, but I've got a, you know, then I've got a bunch in a lot in the stock market

in mutual funds. And so, but, and I haven't done what you're doing, but because I, the, the amount of effort it would require, I'm not willing to put in. Uh, so yeah, there's nothing wrong with being heavy and something you're good at and no, that's my point. So I'm not, I'm not panicked about where you are. Uh, but always, it's a good question to be asking yourself, should I diversify more? That's a good question to constantly look at and go, all my eggs in one basket. The Bible says, put your portions into seven, yes, to eight, before disaster may come upon the land. Diversification is in Ecclesiastes. This is The Ramsey Show. Hey, when you go against what society thinks is, quote, normal, like avoiding debt, for example,

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disasters last year, a flash flood and a fire to our home. We didn't have flood insurance, but we're able to cash flow the repairs for the flood and are deductible for the fire. We currently only have three deaths, two vehicles, which replaced the ones that we lost in the flood, and our mortgage is $47,000. Even though our children earn four to five times what we make, they say, according to your teachings in parentheses they have no obligation to help us they have told us well dad dave ramsey says to allow you to sink or swam because your debt is your obligation are we wrong to ask them for help or are they interpreting your advice incorrectly? Wow. Okay. It doesn't sound like they're saying, I mean, first thing is it's weird when you pay your grown kids bills of any kind,

including their phone bill. And you know whose fault that is robert yours you should have cut that off when they left home i don't pay rachel's dadgum phone bill i don't pay her netflix bill denise does have netflix password well i didn't give it to her that's the point that's not the point the um so that's thing one thing two robert when you raise children and as part of raising them, um, you buy them a car and pay it for their college. And when they leave college and they become successful adults, that does not obligate them. They're not in debt to you. That was like your job. You're the dad. That's what you're supposed to do. They're, you know, well, I changed your diaper, so you need to send me to France on a vacation.

What? I've heard this crap my whole life. I do not understand it. Okay. Your children are not obligated to any of you because you did your job as a mother or a father. They are not in debt to you because you fed them. Period. So the entitlement that is dripping through this, Robert, you know, my disgust with your entitlement. Yes, that is my teaching. That's a disgusting entitlement that you should think that your children owe you

something because you were just simply a father and did what you were supposed to do. My children are not obligated to me. Now, I have never said, Dave Ramsey says, allow you to sink or swim because your debt isn't our obligation. That is not a phrase. That's not phrasing and verbiage that I would use. So either your children have added drama to what I say or you have, I'm not sure who. What I would say is, is it's not their job to take care of their mom and dad. They're not morally or ethically obligated to do that. Now, if they are able and mom and dad are in a pinch and they want to give mom and dad some money because there's somebody that I love and they're hurting, I've never said not to do that.

But that's way different than being obligated by the fact that you simply did your job as their dad. That's different. Okay. So if you have car debt, it's not because of the flood you had car insurance that would have replaced your car in a flood flood insurance is on the real estate it's not on the cars so you cash flowed the repairs for the flood and the deductible for the fire because you had insurance on the house for the fire and we only only have three debts, two vehicles, which replaced the ones lost in the flood.

No, they didn't. You bought cars that were nicer than you had in the flood, and that's why you're in debt. You upgraded after the flood because you got a check from the car company on your car insurance when you lost the cars in a flood. And oftentimes when people lose a car or get a car company on your car insurance when you lost the cars in a flood and oftentimes when people lose a car get a car total they for some reason use that as an excuse to upgrade and go into debt when they weren't in debt before i do not understand but people do that like you did all the time robert so that's not none of this is your children's fault and none of that is a natural

disaster you actually cash flowed through the two tragedies. Congratulations. And then went and got you a couple car payments to celebrate. So they are not obligated to pay your car. They are not obligated to do this. Because they make six figures and you once gave them some food. They're just not. That is not how life works, buddy. But sink or swim, we're not that harsh about how life works buddy so but sink or swim i wouldn't we're not that harsh about it i just want to draw a line there's charity that is extracted through

guilt is not charity if your children want to be charitable towards you and give you something that's wonderful they've got money they do it done well mom and dad just got a little mortgage a couple car notes we're going to reach over and knock them out just because we love mom and dad but not because mom and dad think they're entitled to their money there's a difference yeah and he sounds a little resentful in some way yeah even though they earn four to five times what we make you know and Dave Ramsey says just tell you sink or swim you know it's like oh brother there's a little bit of yeah Roberts I bought their cars I bought their cars bought their books and sent them to

school this is always this is always a hard line for me the the adult child parent conversation because we get this a lot that the parents are struggling and the adult children are able to help and even vice versa right the the parent has an adult child that needs help right that's always a that's always a hard boundary for me to navigate because it is so situationally specific maturity specific relationally specific I mean there's just so much enabling specific. I mean, there's just so much. Enabling specific. I mean, there's so many elements of it that can go quickly one way or the other.

Agreed. But what is a, in this case, when, okay, so a parent should never expect their child to help them. But there is something honoring

in about, do you know what I'm saying? Like, what's that taking care of? It's the difference. Because it's a cultural thing too. In America, we're very independent though. You go to other cultures and it's a we bring mom and dad home like it's a generation we are in America so that's where we are we are that's where this question took place but I'm not saying we're right either

so I'm curious yeah we are and don't be judgmental be curious here's the thing here's the thing so the proper thing is Robert uh goes and says hey we need some help can y'all help us yeah not your children should give you money because you gave them cars and sent bought them books and sent them to school yes the entitlement versus the request in love yeah those are two different things yeah um but this is dripping in bitterness like they owe him something and that is not that's a non-starter that's not that's a non-starter the second thing is if you're going to help someone particularly someone you love particularly someone you love inside your family you should help them in a way that causes them to reach sustainability on their own

not become dependent upon you and so if you reached over and paid off the house and paid off the cars it would be mom and dad you're getting on a budget you're going through financial peace university so that you can live on your money for the rest of your life and this is just going to give you a little smoothing start yeah it's going to give you a jump start so even when we're helping like your sister runs our family foundation we're helping someone that's in a poverty situation we don't just throw endless money at a poverty situation we throw money in a way in a way that causes the person to step up out of poverty and stay out we're the lift out but we're not the keep them in yeah check i don't want to keep them in the i don't want to be the one writing check allows somebody to stay in it so we're not to keep them in. Yeah. Check. I don't want to keep them in. I don't want to be the one writing check,

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where Chris and Jennifer find themselves. Hey, guys, how are you? Good. How are you doing? Welcome, welcome. Where do y'all live? We're in Raleigh, North Carolina. Love it.

What a great town. And how much debt have you two paid? We have paid off $500,000. Wow. How long did this take? About six years. Good for you. And your range of income during that time? We're in real estate. It varies. We started out in different careers. So it was

around 200 at the time. And then, you know, we're anywhere between 500 and 550. Whoa. Yeah. Doing great. Way to go, you guys. Thank you. All right. So I'm going to guess and say that might be your mortgage and you paid off your house. We on baby step number seven yeah looking at a couple of weirdos a debt-free couple house and everything absolutely how old are you two weirdos i'm 47 uh-huh i'm hanging on to 49 i will be 50 this year and a paid for house that's worth how much? About $1.3 million. I love it. And how much in your nest egg?

We have about 60% in real estate, about 40% in IRAs, 401ks, investments, things like that. So about $3 million. Total net worth. Yeah. Way to go, Baby Steps Millionaires. I'm guessing you didn't inherit any of that. We did not. Not a dollar. You've had a fabulous income and have done a great job with it. Way to go, Baby Steps Millionaires. I'm guessing you didn't inherit any of that. We did not. Not a dollar.

You've had a fabulous income and have done a great job with it. Way to go, you all. Great job, you guys. Way to go, heroes. All right. Now you're 50 years old, $3 million net worth, zero debt in the world, making a half million a year. Dad, come on, man.

Who wouldn't want to be you two? Wow. How does that feel? It's weird. I know. We talked about it. We thought we were going to have this feeling when we accomplished it. And it is a wonderful feeling, but we're just overachievers.

So now we're like, what do we do next? What's our next goal? You're moving on to the next thing. Yeah, you are overachievers. What are you going to do to celebrate big? We're here. Oh, come on. I'm something big. We are going to do to celebrate big? We're here. Oh, come on. I'm something big.

We are going to do, we're going to go on the bourbon tour in Kentucky a little bit later this year. We've never been to Kentucky. We thought it would be something cool to do with our friends. And we're big tennis players. And it's our tennis community. We're going to go do that. And it's going to be kind of a quiet celebration.

So we're great. If you fill the trunk with bourbon and you go across state lines we call that whiskey running so head back over to raleigh with a whole truck full of bourbon yeah you don't know what that is i don't know anything about that i've never known anyone that did anything like that way to go you guys congratulations thank you thank you so fun so six years ago what made you guys i mean because you're you're doing fine you could have just kept the mortgage on you know for 30 years or whatever it was Thank you. That is so fun. So six years ago, what made you guys, I mean, because you're doing fine. You could have just kept the mortgage on, you know, for 30 years or whatever it was.

What made you want to just get rid of it six years ago? Well, ironically, we had talked about achieving this goal. And then I was working from home and Chris came home for lunch and he was like, I think I'm going to get laid off today. And I said, what? You're going to get laid off today? He said, yeah, I think I'm going to get laid off today. I said, that's crazy. He went back to work, came home at four o'clock. He was laid off. So he was a biochemist before, and I was a professional fundraiser. And he had gotten his real estate license,

and it's a passion of ours. And that terrible moment in our life really spurred things forward for us to take that step and trust in ourselves and throw ourselves into real estate. And then once the business got up and going, then I left my career and joined with him and we've never looked back. So that's a different biochemistry straight into real estate. It's not something I sign up for every day. I get that a lot. So yeah, you know, I did the corporate world. I was in big pharma for about 20 years. I did anything from drug development, you know, head of quality control. You know, we, we made vaccines, we made flu vaccine in my last job. And you know, it just, we were kind of talking about it at lunch. You, you feel like you're

held back a little bit and you could just be doing more. And I always wanted to own my own business and just kind of try that but you know you've got a salary you've got benefits you've got that security you're a little scared to go make that jump so they helped you they helped me yeah and it was uh it didn't feel like it at the time um you know but we went ahead and we talked about it we did it uh we made the decision um we work with a smart bester pro in Raleigh, Brent Spessart, and he's been, you know, super, super supportive this entire time. He actually pushed us to kind of get us, get this house paid off. And I called him, he's the first person I called and said, Hey, I'm scared. Can I, can I do

this? You know, I'm leaving everything. Can I, can I do this? And he goes, absolutely. You know, you, I'll put you in touch with the right people. And honestly, the day that, that I went and quit my corporate job, you know we were getting I got laid off but I was doing some contract work until I got the business up and going but until I jumped into full-time I literally uh went in resigned the next day Jen lost her job oh my gosh yeah oh yeah yeah reorg I mean reorg the family yeah it happens but it's one of those things that's probably the best thing that could have ever happened to us. And it launched us to get here.

And it's just one thing after another. And that's why it took six years. You know, we were really comfortable and God made us uncomfortable in the best way. For sure. So part of the motivation of selling the house is just to remove risk as well. Like if it's just this feeling of, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Hang it off. That's what i meant but just the idea of oh my gosh like we it made you that much more motivated to get the risk out

is that right yeah just because you know we're there's so many factors in real estate we can't control interest rates you know the economy people losing their jobs like we did yeah there's just so many unknowns and um you know i expected to pull into the driveway and there'd be fireworks going off and you know hey you're celebrating but the driveway and there'd be fireworks going off and you know hey you're celebrating but it wasn't like that but I actually a couple days after that I had a deal that was going south and I remember it was just this calm and this peace I didn't have I didn't have any concerns it was okay and it was it worked itself out you know I mean nothing really fell apart but in that moment I was like oh this is what he's talking about you know when when you

don't have that stress and you don't have to be you know burdened by debt it's it's just it's unreal and our friends have just been so supportive and family this entire time it's been it's been great yeah it's awesome you guys amazing what do you tell the key people the key to being 100% debt free and having a three million dollar net worth at 50 years old is? I think it's not living like the Joneses. You know, I made the comment to one of my friends and I said, there's no handbag or shoes or anything that's worth the feeling that you get from being debt-free. And I think mine would be surround yourself by friends and family that support you. I can't tell you how many people over the years go, why would you want to pay off your debt, you know, or your mortgage?

Can't you take that? Can't you invest it? And I just knew that we were in the wrong circles, right? So, you know, we surrounded our friends and family, you know, and where we're at in Raleigh. And it was just, it was a great feeling. They all supported us and they understood what we were trying to do. And it's just been a great experience. You know, that's an interesting way of looking at it.

I've done that too and i never thought about it but it's like if you're gonna sit and tear down my plans and tear down my dreams just because you're that person you just opted to the back row of my friend list exactly correct exactly and you know you get to sit on the back row because i'm not putting up with that crap i want the cheerleaders up here on the front. Now, I don't mind somebody telling me the truth if they're concerned. That's different than just negative ninny. But negative ninny can opt to the back row, right? Yeah, we've had so many people tell us that we should use that money.

We should leverage it. We should buy other businesses, do all these things. But that's not our goal. That might be their goal. It's not ours. Hey, not everybody goes from biochemist to real estate agent to whiskey runner that's right i'm just saying that's right not everybody can do that so way to go you guys i'm very proud of you thank you you look like life is great you guys got like a great picture right here it's awesome

very very cool stuff all right it's chris and jennaleigh, North Carolina, 500K, paid off in six years, making $200 to $550, and a $3 million Baby Steps Millionaire net worth in the process. Count it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream. Three, two, one. We're debt-free! Yeah! Woo-hoo!

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and it really sets it up to win. Go to EveryDollar.com or download the EveryDollar app for free in the App Store or Google Play today. Dorothy is with us in Fort Myers, Florida. Hi, Dorothy. How are you? Hi, David. Hi, Rachel. Thank you for taking my call, and I'm in Naples, just so you know. Okay, cool. How can we help today? Well, I unfortunately am a widow. My husband committed suicide last year. Oh, my gosh. Sorry. And I would really appreciate it if you'd let me borrow your Magoo glasses to see my way through my mess.

I'm so sorry. Wow. Me too. Me too. It was certainly something that we weren't expecting and um now I'm you know I have a lot of debt and I want to get rid of it and I have some very specific questions for you um one of them is I have um an IRA that has some money in it um that was of his, you know what the drop is? Have you heard of that term? How much is in the IRA? It's not a lot.

It's about $40,000. About $40,000. And it's not invested in anything that's earning us and earning me anything. How old are you? I'm 57. Okay. And what is your career? I don't have one. My husband wanted me to be his playmate when he retired. And we had a granddaughter who was born with some complications. And so I stopped working to help,

you know, get her through that. And he just didn't want me to go back to work so I didn't and so we played and we accumulated a lot of stuff and I know I can sell that stuff to get into a much better financial situation and it's just taken some time to kind of sort through sorry I'm just sort through everything and I wasn't expecting to get emotional. To sort through everything and get some clarity in all of it, you know. So I know I need to get a job. I do know that. And I want one. And I've already started looking for one.

And it's kind of hard not knowing what to do because I have no technical skills whatsoever because I've been out of work for so long. I'm a personal person. So I know, you know, like customer service and things of that nature, I should do pretty well at. So I'm good. I plan on doing that right away and I plan on selling several assets right

away. It's just taken me some time to get there. I already downloaded your every dollar app. And so I'm, you know, working with that right away. Um, it's just taken me some time to get there. I already downloaded your every dollar app. And so I'm, you know, working with that right now. Um, what is the most pressing thing you have today that we can help you with? Um, well, I, you know, I still have our two trucks that I have payments on. Um, and I have some credit card debt. And that was one of the questions I wanted to ask. Do you have any cash other than this $40,000? No, sir.

Okay. How are you paying light bill and food bill and all that? His pension. Oh. I get it. Yeah. And that's supposed to die out. How much is his pension?

A year or monthly. Monthly, it's just under $5,500, and for annual, it's like $6,500. And how much is your house payment? My house payment is $1,900. I always pay $2,000. And how long does the pension last? The pension is going to end in less than five years. Okay.

Good. So we've got a really good plan here you can survive monthly you can survive and have been monthly on the 55 with the every dollar budget that's very possible we may or may not use the 40 we'll see prefer to wait till after 59 if we can um okay and you're going to get rid of the truck payments by getting rid of the trucks and getting you a car you can afford. And you're going to start the next chapter of your life. You're a wee 57-year-old. You have a lot left, a lot left.

This is your chapter two. This is act two. After the curtain comes back up, we took a bow. It's an encore. Didn't turn out like we thought it was going to. The story takes a twist, a rather tragic turn, and the heroine steps forward with her shield and her sword. Okay. Thank you.

Thank you. That's you. That's where you're going. And so what's going to happen is three years from today, you're going to be booming as the biggest real estate agent in Naples or whatever it is you choose to do. Okay. And you're going to be laughing about this little tiny pension, but it survived you. It sustains you when it should have.

And that was good. But it's certainly not your future. You are your future. Okay. Right. Mathematically, you are. Emotionally, you are. Spiritually, you are.

Yes. Financially,, you are. Emotionally, you are. Spiritually, you are. Yes. Financially, you definitely are. So you're the secret sauce to the equation, and you're up to it. You can do it. I can tell by talking to you. I mean, you're hurting, but any normal human would be hurting with what you've gone through, honey. But I think there's a lot going on inside Dorothy. How much debt, Dorothy, you mentioned that you guys kind of just traveled and bought stuff and racked up some debt.

I'm just curious, what all is the debt? How much credit card debt is it? I have about, it's actually $18,306.38. Okay. And what other debt is there? I have, the house is just a little over $100,000. That'll be under $100,000 after September's payment. I have two trucks totaling $21,000 and an RV that's at $15,000. So the trucks and the RV are gone and get you a reasonable car.

But that's it, right? Okay. And then we're going to plow through the credit cards is there anything else the credit card um no i mean just monthly payments of course yeah yeah all right here's what we're gonna do okay i'm gonna load you up with homework are you ready to go to school yes sir all right can i ask you one more quick question yes ma'am you might now i'll wait till you're done, and then maybe I'll ask. No, go ahead. Go ahead.

Go right now. Well, I had already taken one of the credit cards and put it on a 0% for 18 months, and I'm plugging away at that one. The other one has an interest rate. It's the one that's only at $6,000. Would it behoove me to transfer that to a 0% for 18 months? It doesn't matter. You can if you want, but that's not your problem.

Your problem is getting the income up and having your future lined out. And once you see that, then you can turn up the heat and just get rid of them. And the interest rate doesn't matter when you're paying aggressively on them. So if you want to, it's okay yeah but it's not really the answer to your situation at all so hold on christian's going to pick up we're going to put you into financial peace university we're going to provide you with a financial coach all is our gift okay we're people of the book and the book instructs us to take care of widows and orphans and we will do that today okay so you're going to get that. I'm also going to send

you Ken Coleman's book, the, uh, find the work you're wired to do. It has in it an assessment. I want you to take the assessment and I want you to start the process of, uh, dreaming about what the new future looks like for Dorothy. What is it you want to be when you grow up? You're just a wee 57 year old, just a tiny little one. You can do it. You can do it. And, Dorothy, and I'm so proud of you. Can we just say, too, you haven't messed anything up.

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