The Ramsey Show - Debt Is Never a Blessing, It's Always a Burden

Episode Date: September 6, 2024

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Is that aggressive enough, John? Is that a big enough promise? It's quite the lofty promise. That's right. We'll see if we can accomplish it today. Mason kicks us off in Springfield, Missouri. What is going on, Mason? Hi, guys. Thanks for taking my call. I'm actually calling on behalf of my sister-in-law. She had a stroke three years ago at the age of 23 and has since been trying to get back into the job market. And she just simply can't get herself back to normal and has not changed her spending habits from when she was working two jobs, 80 hours a week. She was a hard worker, and now she's stuck and she's taken on loans, and she doesn't know whether she needs to file bankruptcy or if there's

another route that she can go. There's always another route. The question is, how is she, let's separate the two from financial problems to her health, how is she doing health-wise? She can't speak well. She pretty much mixes her sentences with ums and uhs non-stop and has to have assistance with reminding her of different words and then her physicals about the right side of her body. A portion of it does not work. She can't move her arm well. She can walk, but she is frequently stumbling at times and happens to pull herself up or get assistance to get up. And that's about the extent of it, her health. She's still going through therapy, but it's based on what the doctor has said. He does not have any expectations that she'll recover past that point.

What is she doing for work right now? She's not. She's applied multiple places, and every time she goes to do the interview, it pretty much gets shut down during the interview. I would check out. I don't know the resources there in Springfield, but I would check out and call around

and see. Sometimes there are entry-level programs, maybe through a disability rights program or some sort of state-run program or local program there in Springfield, which here's what we're looking for. We're looking for an on-ramp so that she can, A, get her confidence back, B, figure out the actual limitations in a work setting because those are different than at home sometimes and then from there you can springboard to another job that might pay more that might be in a more established place so that's number one filing bankruptcy while somebody is still spending out of control is like congress forgiving student loans and making them in the same month, right? Like it's not a solution. The solution number one is like, let's stop the bleeding.

Why won't she stop spending? Or where is she getting money to spend? Let me ask that. So her spending habits come from when she was working constantly. She had enough to pay for her lifestyle and then was able to save a lot of money. And she had a boyfriend. Her and her boyfriend would just essentially just buy whatever they wanted to. And when she had the stroke,

she lost both her jobs. And then now she's on disability and she's but she hasn't really she has reduced a lot of her spending but it's still at a specific lifestyle that she she enjoyed before her stroke and I think that's the biggest portion of it and then the money so it'd be her boyfriend who works and then uh her disability that she gets. Have you talked to her? Yes. How'd that go? Are you referring to talk to her about the spending habits? Yes.

Yeah, because here's the hardest part of all this. At the end of the day, she's an adult. Yes. And unless you have financial power of attorney, you've got no say in her finances. She doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to do. And that's hard and it's miserable and it's heartbreaking and all those things, but it just is. Yeah, that's a conversation that we had just after her stroke. My wife and I had sought to try to assist with managing her finances.

We got some pushback from a lot of the family, but they've come to us with assistance and a lot of different things. And then when it came to spending less, I would refer to the government example that you gave. It just was not interested in cutting costs and reducing spending as much as it was. How can I help get out of this hole?

How can I get out of this hole? So it may be that the solution out of this situation for you is to, you and your wife, draw some pretty firm boundaries inside your home and knowing that this ship will run aground at some point. Yeah, and I think the biggest reason is there's some issues with her and her boyfriend, and now she's needing to leave him but she can't really go anywhere because she's tied to an rv that they live in that is under her name and she can't afford on her own yeah and she could sell it she can trade some other things but she's made some choices and refused help from other adults um if you and your wife choose the only way i've seen it be

successful is if somebody steps in and says i need some help and you're able to say okay here is that my conditions for help and i'm not going to enable um here's what help would look like if you want to participate and you and your wife make that decision beforehand um it's very hard to do in the moment because it sometimes includes you're not there for me you hate me i knew i couldn't like all that kind of stuff that just is real personal and attacks. And it's hard to hold boundaries in the moment if you haven't thought through them clearly on the other side.

I mean, on the front end, right? Yes. Yeah, that's the best case scenario. She doesn't have to do anything you say. She hasn't for a long time. And until she says, hey, I need some help and I'm willing to accept the help

that you'll provide, I think what you can do is let her know that you love her and that you'll be there when she decides to call. I don't know another option. You know what I mean? If you give her a book, it's just going to sit on the shelf. And maybe one day she'll pick it up. But we can't force her to go, you're going to learn this, and you're going to do something about it. Yes, and this is actually a lesson we've already learned in this process.

I think it was more of a – and even if we came to her with this advice, which is an advice that we've given before, it has been more of a, that's a really good idea, and that was pretty much the extent of the response from her. How much of that is boyfriend? Say that again, I'm sorry. How much is the lack of action on the back end is boyfriend? Would you say you mean how much does he provide? No, like you guys sit down with her and say, hey, here's reality. Here's the amount of money that you're spending.

We want to help you. And she's like, that sounds amazing. And then she tells him, he's like, that's stupid. Yeah, he's not really involved in the conversation because she's trying to get away from him due to certain circumstances that are nothing violent or anything uh it may have you know i think it goes back to the the thing that you guys mentioned about not putting yourself in financial situation that requires the income of uh people that you you don't have a a you may not have a long-term uh relationship, such as marriage.

And there's no marriage between them. Well, aside from her health issues, she's made a lot of choices, and it's going to be hard to unwind all of this unless she really wants to, on top of fixing the health issues. So I hope she does, and I hope you can help her with some resources. But like John said, I wish I could just wave a wand and change people because I love them. Adults can't change other adults. It's heartbreaking heartbreaking that's one of the hardest truths to learn in life but thanks for the call Mason you're a great brother and I wish you and her well

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I'm George Campbell, joined by Dr. John Bologna. We're taking your calls at 888-825-5225. Danielle joins us up next in Milwaukee. Danielle, welcome to The Ramsey Show. Hi, thanks for having me. Absolutely. How can John and I help? Well, I'm calling about a question regarding paying for my father's phone bill. Basically, my dad lives below the poverty line due to his own life choices.

I've helped him financially throughout the years. And currently, I am just paying his phone bill. And I want to help him. And this has been a way that I've been able to do so. But he has been making some questionable choices and I don't want to parent him. And I just, I'm not sure if this is the right thing for me to be doing. Yeah, I'm happy to give more color to that. It's, you know, family, it's kind of complicated.

Yeah, it always feels so complicated when you're in it. And in Georgia, in my seat, it's usually way less complicated. Can I ask you a hard question? Yes. Are you paying his phone bill for him or for you? For him. I know, but are you paying the bill for him or for you? Well, I guess I want him to be okay, so I guess for me in that regard.

Has he listened to any of the wisdom or advice you've given him over the years? Um, no, not really. If behavior is a language, what has he been telling you for a long, long time? Well, I guess that he doesn't value my input he'll take your money he'll take your phone bill cool

but when it comes to I want to live a different life a healthier life a safer life a more loving life yeah I don't really care about that I'm especially not going to take that crap from you and then with the healthiness of who do care about that. I'm especially not going to take that crap from you. And then with the healthy dose of who do you think you are? I'm your dad. How long have you been chasing him?

Your whole life? No. I would say when my parents were married for 35 years and once they divorced, I kind of, not right away, but as he just continued to make bad choices, I sort of, unbeknownst to me, took the role of my mom. Yeah, there you go. Yeah, I know.

That's a weird position to be in. And while you chose to be there, he had a part in putting you there. And you have a choice also to get out of this and to say, hey, Dad, listen, I can't cover your phone bill anymore. What would happen if that were the case? What would the conversation be like? At this point, it's going to be me probably writing him a letter. I've tried to.

This is the second time I wanted to go out and visit him. He lives out of state. And I don't know if he just doesn't want me to visit him or what, but he always has a way of just, you know, bringing, we don't always agree on, you know, kind of everything, right? And I'm fine to just leave those things out of the conversation, but he has a way of bringing them up and just... Would you call this relationship transactional at this point? No, it's not. I mean, he was a really good dad to me growing up, and he's not a bad person.

He just makes really bad choices and doesn't seem to learn from them. So that's why he's not a bad person he just makes really bad choices and doesn't seem to learn from them so that's why it's you know he's not a bad guy and what's not about his character but i'm saying the relationship right now is i pay the bill he doesn't really want to see me he doesn't want much to do with me but please keep paying my phone bill and thank you it's more nuanced than that, but I mean, yeah, I realize I'm calling you guys asking you for, I mean, is it more nuanced than that? Yeah, I really, I really think it is. I mean, he, you know, expressed that he was excited to see me,

but then he's telling me, you know, he's, I don't want to get into, I don't want to take too much of your time, but you know, he's, he went through, he's not even technically divorced, um, the third time, but he is separated, I guess, legally. Um, and he's started these, like some kind of dating site. I don't know what he's doing. And there's been, you know, people you've been talking to. And, you know, I thought all of that was behind him now, but he just shared with me that he's been talking to like 30 year old women on some weird encrypted app. I just don't understand. And now

I feel like he's putting my own safety, like with my phone account, like linked to his and Jeopardy. And I'm just like yeah your gut instinct is right and there's more to it than this too yeah I think if to circle back to the first question I asked you is are you paying this

phone bill so that you can sleep at night knowing I tried to preserve my relationship with my dad. As I watched him slowly, the man that I love, the good dad that I had, as I watched him slowly implode his life, getting involved with all these people, getting married a bunch of times, now he's just slowly just unwinding.

Often we try to hang on because something inside of us says that if there's just we say the right thing or we can just give the right amount of data or just just do the right nice kind thing that suddenly they'll be like oh amazing hey by the way can you help me with my love life and my money and all right and unfortunately this call is not going to come and so if you want to make If you want to pay his phone bill and just pay his phone bill and make that a part of your life and not hope that that will have a relational ROI on it, great, knock your lights out. George and I just say make sure you're not putting that on a credit card.

If you're just tired of being involved with all this and now you're wondering what he's even doing on on an encrypted app that's that's linked to you and your bank account dude let's just i'm gonna write him a letter and say more reason i'm gonna step away from this yeah and then you're gonna have to spend some time in this scary um uh black hole called grief it's not supposed to be like this. Your parents were married for 34 years. Yeah. Here's the spark notes.

If a cell phone bill is propping up the relationship and this is one Jenga piece that knocks the whole thing down, there was never a relationship there. And that's the hardest, scariest part to face. Is that whatever was, I know he's a good guy, he a great dad but it's changed the relationship's changed and i think that's the hardest part to grieve is the guy he was and the guy he is now and i know you know this but i feel i feel compelled to say it you didn't do anything wrong

daniel you've been a good daughter there's not a thing we tried i know but there's not a thing you could have done you've been a good daughter. There's not a thing. I've certainly tried. I know, but there's not a thing you could have done differently in a conversation you didn't have. He's your dad. He's a grown man. He's way older than you.

He's made adult choices. And like we told the previous caller, there's just nothing harder than watching someone you love flush their life away. Especially when you're standing there on the bank of the river saying, I can help, I can help. And they're like, nah, just stay here. It's heartbreaking. What is his portion of the cell phone bill? I'm just curious. What's the financial amount? Maybe like 70 bucks or something like that. So if it was on him to cover 70 bucks from now on, do you think he could do it? No, I think he'd have to go back to like a flip phone.

That's the best thing he could do. Great idea for him. Honestly, ever since he got this iPhone and he's had more time on his hands, I just don't even understand what's going on over there. Yeah, it might keep him out of jail. I think it's a good idea. Seriously. Something's weird. I'm so sorry, Daniel. That is not a fun

thing to deal with. The theme so far of the show, John, has been you cannot change people. No. No matter what you want to give them or cover for them, it's not going to make the relationship better and it's not going to solve their problems. You can create good boundaries. You can be graceful and merciful and forgiving, and then you can do the next right thing for you and for your relationship. And sometimes that's walking away. Sometimes that's just saying, I'm taking my hands off the wheel.

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Hey, guys. Yeah. How's welcome to the show. We are rocking, Danny. Hey, guys. Yeah. How's it going? Good. How are you? Not too bad. Appreciate you guys taking the time. I had a question. I recently got promoted a couple months ago,

and I've got some extra money coming in, and was just curious to hear your thoughts on how I should split that up and incorporate that into my budget. Fantastic. Congrats. Tell us about the promotion. How much more are you making? So I went from, so there's a 10% bonus attached to the base salary. So I went from about 78 grand to 89. And then with that bonus, it's about 85,000 to 98,000.

Incredible. Okay. So let's talk about how much is actually coming into your budget every month on top of what you were making. So what's the increase in your take-home pay? I don't have... So currently gross pay last paycheck was about $3,600. I get paid bi-monthly. I don't know. I don't have exactly what it uh, what it was prior to that, but around, um, it's like around five grand coming in each month, I think 2,400 after pre-tax deductions and, um, you know, 401k and all that. And what's your financial picture? Do you have any debt? Do you have an emergency fund? Yeah. So that was kind of part of the question too. So right now I've got, um, you know, I max out my Roth contributions every year, max out my HSA company matches a

hundred percent, uh, up to the first 6% of my 401k. So all of that's being contributed. Um, and then I've got about eight grand cash and savings and the only debt I have. So I had 20 around 23,000 of student loans, uh, paid that off during COVID and I've $4,900 left on that. What, you have $8,000 in savings and $4,900 left in student loans? Yeah, yeah. You know what this means, Danny.

Yeah, I know. I've got to pay that off. Why aren't you doing that today? Well, I kind of wanted to call. I mean, I kind of wanted to call him. I mean, I'm, I'm, I've kind of figured y'all would say that, uh, I guess the, the, the situation I'm in now. So I know, I know how, you know, Dave and you all feel about car leases, but, um, you know, I've got a, I've got a lease and, um, I think, you know, following the baby steps that kind of puts me in a weird spot where, you know, I've got my emergency cash saved up, but I also still have this car lease. And I know paying that off early doesn't

really help you. So I guess, you know, with that taken into consideration, you know, if I do pay off that $4,900, you know, once we hang up kind of how to move forward from there. Well, if you want to keep the car, what is this car worth if you did the early buyout on it? So I'm on the portal right now. If I were to do, if I requested a buyout right now, it'd be 38,000. Okay. Now that's your only vehicle, only thing with wheels and motors in it? Yeah, that's it. Do you love this car? Do you want to keep it? Um, I mean, if it makes financial sense to keep it by the time that the, you know, the lease cycle is over, um'd definitely hold on to it.

I didn't really get into a car lease to get a new car every year. Right now, it just kind of made the most sense. Are you renting? Apartment? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, renting. You keep saying that it made the most sense. How?

How does paying a car dealership money for their depreciating assets so that they can fund the gap between the car that's going to lose money? How does that make sense? Yeah, I mean, that's a fair question. I kind of put off getting a car for two and a half years and saved up some cash to use that money to pay off the student loans instead of buying a car. What were you driving during all that time i was just walking and taking a train yeah yeah danny i here's my thing i have like lofty financial goals where i'm like i want to own a house one day i'm going to get married i want to save up for a vacation. And so cars are a depreciating asset and leases just

allow you to prepay all the depreciation is essentially what happens. And so it's not that the car is too much of your world. We say, hey, no more than half of your annual income tied up in all the things with wheels and motors. So you're not above that right now. You're not, you know, breaking that parameter, but it's a lot of car for a guy who has some debt, doesn't have a fully funded emergency fund, probably wants to own a home one day. And so it's not you can keep the car if you want to aggressively paid off. You can pay this thing off in a year or two. Go ahead and keep it if you love it. But I would also reassess what your future looks like, not what tomorrow, Danny, looks like, not what a year from now.

What is five year, Danny? Look, what would you look back on and go that was the right move yeah so I guess kind of with that you know I'm 20 25 right now with that taken into consideration you know as far as addressing the car situation with you know would you request that buyout and just take a loan and try and just pay that thing off as soon as possible I mean is there a way of getting out of that lease you know just kind of ride it until the end of the cycle and, you know, kind of go from there and likely not lease another car, but buy something that, you know, buy it in cash. Yeah, I mean, you could save up the cash and do it. But again, that's a big mountain to climb right there, isn't it?

Yeah, yeah, for sure. Because so far you've saved up $8,000. To save up $38,000, you're like, oh my gosh, is this car worth it? And by the time I buy it, that thing's only going to be worth $25,000. And so that's the problem with these leases. So you can do what you want here. When it comes to the budget, if you're laying out your every dollar budget, income, expenses, I filter it through the baby steps.

And right now you're in baby step two, which means we're pausing all investing. We're actually going to take all savings, but a thousand bucks, throwing it at the debt. And what that will do is catapult you in your financial journey. And within a year, if you get rid of this car, you do all the things I mentioned, you'll be in such a different financial place and you'll be making very different decisions with all this new money. What you don't want to do is allow lifestyle creep to set in where Danny goes, hey, I made an extra 10 grand this year. I'm going to spend an extra 11 grand. That's most Americans. Yeah. So I hope that helps. I would contact the dealer and get the early buyout amount, see what your options are. But I don't know that I'd want to take out a $38,000 loan right now. That's not going to further your financial goals.

All right, John, let's go to the Ramsey Network question app. How do you feel about that? You feel good? Yeah. John's hung up. Well, so my high schooler, I have a high school kid, and of course on day one. He's in high school?

Yeah, he's in high school now. Oh, my gosh. This gets worse. He walks into his econ class and the curriculum is you and me george you and me oh that's right and uh on the ramsey education um high school curriculum and his teacher he said his teacher raised an eyebrow looked at him and said are you and he goes yes and he said only one of the students caught on so far um he did have some choice things to say about our acting i don't think we're that great i thought it was pretty i thought i crushed it i mean it was a little bit grammy i mean not grammy but it

was it was emmy worthy here's my thing are we gonna trust awkward teenagers to judge our acting fair well played just saying uh but he was asking me about car leases. He's like, I don't understand them. And as my 14-year-old laid it out, it makes so no sense. It's so irrational to do a car lease that my 14-year-old can't wrap his head around why people would do that. Well, it's simple. I get the shiny thing forever, even though if I don't own it. But in his head, why would you give? He's like, hey, this new car is going to go down in value.

So if it goes down in value over two years and you lease it, you're just paying the dealership for two years so that they get to keep all that money. And then you have to eat the depreciation. Then they get the car back. And I was like, yep. He's like, why would somebody do that? And was like i don't know man and so i just get stuck on no i had to man it was the right thing it's just not it's just not well people go well john i don't have to deal with the maintenance and it's awesome and i get just keep getting new fancy cars and i love the new car

smell all the while realizing that this is one of the biggest things holding people back is car payments and leases and there's a reason the dealerships love to push you to a lease they love them because they get a red flag they get a gently used car that they control the mileage on back that's been um majority depreciated and then they resell it to somebody else yeah and they win twice it's uh it's a sad conundrum and i i write write about this in my book breaking free from broke Broke, John, to try to steer people away from it. And I walk through all of the reasons it is in existence to screw you. And it moves you backwards financially. And the best thing you can do is just save up and buy a cash car you can afford versus listening to the human brain that says, ooh, shiny, me want honeycomb.

That's right. That's it. You're the me want honeycomb. We come back. We'll go to the Ramsey Network app question, but sorry, my 14-year-old can do better math than some folks out there. Way to humble brag. Hank's an impressive cat. I'll tell you that much. Hashtag just saying. More of the Ramsey show coming up. Don't go anywhere. I've been doing this show for over 30 years, and some of the saddest calls I've taken are from situations that are completely preventable. Yeah. And what's so hard is I feel like one of those, especially the ones that I'm like, oh, it's terrible. People that call in and their spouse

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All right, today's question comes from Alyssa in Pennsylvania. Alyssa writes, I was completely debt-free, but recently had some life situations that put me back in debt. Can we stop real quick here? I want to rephrase this in a more accurate and honest way, okay? Today's question comes from Alyssa in Pennsylvania. I was completely debt free but life happened and i chose to make some purchases on credit cards see what i'm saying

that's more honest because life situations they have no ability they don't put you that's right that's right but i made some choices you respond there you go there we go i opened a store credit card for home remodeling purchases and charged seven thousand dollars over several months each time i made a purchase they would give the option of interest free which i always opted to do in the past five months i paid over five thousand bucks on the credit card bringing my balance to two thousand bucks so proud of myself today my balance had gone back up to five thousand,000, and I freaked out because I knew I'd been hacked. Come to find out, they'd added a $3,000 penalty for not paying the entire balance by a certain date.

I had no clue about this. I told them I wasn't going to pay a red cent and asked them to close my account. I've always paid my bills and have good credit, but it should be illegal to charge a single mom who only makes $25 an hour this exorbitant fee what is your advice on the matter okay so i never ever will have empathy for a credit card company but i'm on the credit card company side they do not care hold up how much you make per hour they do not care if you're a single mom and no it's not illegal you probably

just didn't read the fine print you signed away in a hurry because you were excited to remodel your home and they lured you in with free uh just click make sure you click the button that says interest free and you're like sweet and they were like don't read over here where where it says if you don't pay the balance in full there's this massive penalty oh and by the way there's 25 interest which is like a fourth of the entire debt that's going to get added to it and so what is my advice on this matter? Should it be illegal to charge? I don't think it's, you know, we live in an economy and a capitalistic society.

You can pretty much do what you want. You're an adult. You get to make decisions that can derail your financial life if you want. That's part of American freedoms. And you also have to own up and look in the mirror and go, yeah, that was pretty dumb of me to trust a credit card company to be a blessing in my life yeah and um at the end of the day here's the hard thing you get you owe that money and so choosing to not pay quote-unquote a red

cent and asking them to close your account. It doesn't work like that. It's going to add up and it's going to add up. They'll just sue you if you don't pay. Right. Which is only going to add more financial harm to your life. Yeah, so this $3,000 is going to turn into $10,000. And by the way, these store credit cards are some of the highest interest rates. Yeah, I remember one time Dave called, I think it was Sears back in the day when that place is open that they are just credit cards with stuff out front and i like that like

like store credit cards the stuff is just the vehicle like they're really in the credit card lending the lending business there's the lending and they have stuff they got pants out front that's right yeah and screwdrivers and whatever else they got so um yeah i hate this for you but you gotta pay you gotta pay i i think man if I could give you one piece of advice, it's to be bummed out and take full 100% ownership of what you put your name on. And you don't have $3,000. I don't know anybody that just has a spare three grand laying around. stuff paid off and then we have to commit to not quote-unquote letting life situations put you back in debt that might mean we're going to do without a sink for a while that might mean that we're it's going to be hot or it's going to be cold because we can't afford x y and z that just may be the reality of what you can or can't afford and that harsh, but this is what happens. This is what happens.

And I remember, I remember when Hurricane Alicia came through Houston when I was a really young kid and that we had no power for a week and we ate off a camp stove. I just remember that. I tell you that to say, whatever you're going through,

you'll look back on it in five years, 10 years, 15, 20 years, you'll remember those things. Remember that time we had to do without? Yeah, that was weird and that stunk or whatever. But it keeps this kind of crap from happening. Yeah. And so the better way to do this next time is to give yourself a 0% loan you never have to pay back because it's coming out of your own bank account from money you saved up for through a sinking fund, through an emergency fund, if it's a true emergency. That is the way to do it where you never have to deal with any of this crap ever again and you have freedom and options. So thank you for the question, Alyssa.

I hate this for you, Alyssa. Yeah, we're not pumped about this and trust me, I'm no fan of credit card companies. All right, Jacob is next up in Jonesboro. What's going on? Oh, how are you guys doing today? Oh, I just, I'm 20 years old. I'm active duty military, and I have no debt, so I'm just trying to figure out what exactly to do to better my future. Love it. Thanks for your service, and congrats on living a debt-free life. Thank you, thank you.

How much money do you have in the bank? Right now I have four grand saved up. Awesome. And what does life look like for you in the next year or two? Or do you have a contract deployment or what's the next goal? I have two years left on my contract with the deployment in that two years. Okay. Are you single? I am single. Awesome. So let's say two years goes by, you keep, can you keep saving money? How much money could you save up in that account in the next two years? Um, I make roughly two grand a month. So, I mean, it's, it's kind of hard to say cause I do have like, I guess I have car insurance and stuff like that.

But definitely could probably save $1,000 a month pretty easy. Okay, so think about that. We're talking another $24,000 added to your $4,000. So two years from now, you have $28,000 sitting in an account. That's your emergency fund plus some extra. Maybe we separate them out and start a down payment fund. Because one day you're probably going to want to buy a house, right? Yes. That's great. And I would park it in a high yield savings account. And one I love and use is called Laurel Road. If you want to check them out, laurelroad.com

slash George. And that'll at least help it grow at like 5% over the next two years while you keep being diligent and serving this country. Okay. So you are on the path. As far as setting yourself for the future, beyond your emergency fund, I would begin investing. I imagine you have access to a TSP through the military, a retirement account? Yes. I am putting, as of right now, 20% and then they match 10%. Wow. So we're talking 30%. Yes. And 10% of that is a 100% return on your money. Yes. You are doing it, my man. And if you wanted to ratchet it down to 15% and you wanted to get the emergency fund dialed in first, I would recommend that personally to get you in an even better spot financially. Get you a little

more foundation. And guess what? At 22 and you get a paid for house by 28 or 30, now we can really create some serious wealth. But I think that you need to set a vision for yourself. What does 25-year-old Jacob want to be doing? What does 30-year-old Jacob want to be doing? Is marriage in the future? All of that. That was pretty much it, sir. Just trying to figure it out slowly and surely. I'm kind of new to all the budgeting stuff and all that, but I mean, I've always been pretty decent with money. You've done a bang-up job without us, Jacob, and the Ramsey plan is the way.

And for your service, I want to gift you Financial Peace University to give you even more education. These nine lessons will walk you through the ins and outs of wealth building, insurance, you name it. You're going to be more equipped. And at 20, John, can you imagine getting this stuff at 20 years old? No, I didn't know what day it was when I was 20. I didn't know what day it was when I was 30.

There's still some days you don't know what day it is. Today. This is a weird Tuesday afternoon. Oh my goodness. Well, that's inspiring. I needed a win, Jacob, and you were it. A 20-year-old who's debt-free going, I'm just trying to set myself up for the future instead of pay for the past. That's it. That's the whole goal, my friend. You're doing it. That puts this hour of the

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and one of them was for solar panels, and they really put me in a bad financial spot and I really regret them. And I was even thinking about lowering my 401k contributions, which I don't want to do because truthfully, I should be putting in more, not less. Got a lot going on here. Let's say we focus on one thing at a time. So how much do you have in the car loan and how much is left on the solar? The car loan is $335 a month and the solar is $127 a month. Okay, here's the deal. I want you to stop thinking in terms of payments because that's what got you into this, right? I can afford the payment.

Who can't afford $127 a month? And what you need to look at is the actual loan amount. So what is the total loan amounts on both of those that's left? I, to be 100% honest with you, don't know the exact number. Because when they're selling it to me, that's how they're talking about it, is just the monthly. That should always be a red flag when they're not talking about the total cost of the item. And instead, well, hey, we can do $50 a month. We'll just stretch out the payments, give you a crazy high interest rate, and we'll be out of your hair.

That's pretty much what they're telling you. And that's what happened to me at the car dealership. Because they convinced me to do the 84-month term, which I didn't want to do. But they were like, oh, what did you do? They didn't convince you. You chose to say, okay, that sounds good. Yep, 100%. Did they tie you back in the finance office and go,

you're going to take this 84-month loan, lady? No, they didn't. They didn't do that. Good. I would have reported that to the police. Can we do one thing just for me? It's just for me, and I'll let George get back to the numbers. Will you say out loud,

I'm kind of frustrated with Caitlin for taking out these two loans I shouldn't have taken out. Well, with Taylor. Taylor, sorry. I'm very frustrated with Taylor for taking out these two loans. Okay. This is the first step. In all emotional health challenges, mental health challenges,

relationship challenges, it's ownership of, they didn't make me do this, I did it. I wanted it and they were convincing and yada, I signed it. Is that cool? Yeah, it was me in the end. It was me that did it. I love that because now we can go solve this problem.

Now we can solve it. You can still be mad at them, but you took ownership. Let's go solve it now. I love it. Right. So what is your income, Taylor? I make, take home, probably just under $3,000 a month.

Okay. And are you single? Yes. All right. So the bad news is we can't return the solar. The good news is we might be able to sell the car. So if the car, let's say the car is worth $30,000 and you owe $25,000, basic math would say you'd get a $5,000 check. Right? Yeah, but then I wouldn't have a car.

Well, $5,000 can get you a car, can't it? True. So that's what I would do. That's what I did. It's what John did. And this is the only path to getting out of this cycle that I think you've probably been in your whole adult life. Not really. It's weird.

I spent most of my working life not buying anything but 100% necessity because my goal was to buy a house and so that was all I thought about was saving up for the down payment for the house. But you didn't have a principle in your life that said I don't borrow money. Taylor's going to live her life debt-free. At some point you said I'll take on some debt. It'll be all right. Yeah and basically like after I bought the house and I didn't have that goal anymore to kind of keep me on track, I was like, well, now that I'm not saving up for a down payment, I can just spend money on things. The first solar guy that shows up, I'll hand him $40,000. So here's the key.

I don't think it was, but yeah, basically, yeah. Your income is the key to getting out of this, and you might need to get your income up, and you might need to do about seven other things. So the question is, if I told you Taylor can be debt-free guaranteed in less than two years if she follows these recommendations, would you just do it? I want to say yes. She's not going to do it. Because I feel like that's the right answer.

One of the recommendations is going to be Taylor needs to stop investing because Taylor has a priority to get out of this mess. And trying to do four things at once is only going to slow down all of it. So how much are you investing right now? Just my 401k. I put 15% in my 401k. 15% of your income is probably a hefty number. We're talking hundreds and hundreds of dollars. It's like $480 a month. If I gave you $500 back in your life to tackle debt, you think it'd make a dent? Add six grand a year to your debt snowball? I want to believe that I would put it towards the debt, but my worry is that I would just spend it.

Well, we got to fix that first. You got to have this one singular focus that I want to get out of debt. Because this habit is going to cause you to be back in, you're going to be calling us a year from now. Yeah, why don't you trust Taylor, Taylor? I don't know, I just have um, I don't know, like when I have a goal of something I'm saving

up for, I can be so disciplined. But when I don't have that goal. This is a goal. You're saving up to get rid of debt. Yeah, this is a goal to save your life. It's an even bigger goal. It's more exciting than saving money because you're getting a monkey off your back. Right. That's true.

If you tell us you're just going to go back into debt, then we can't help you get out of debt. 100%. Yeah, and it sucks because if I hadn't taken out, because the car I had before was still completely paid off and then I traded it taken out, because the car I had before was completely paid off, and then I traded it in for this more expensive car,

and I'm just kicking myself over it. The key here is we've got to learn to live on less than we make, and we have to make decisions that will make future Taylor proud. And so that's where the budget comes in handy. And I'm going to gift you every dollar premium, and it's going to help you find these kind of margin activities to where you go, hey, if I pause investing, that's 480 bucks. And what if I got a side job making an extra 500? That's a thousand bucks I can throw with this debt. And then what if I was

getting a tax refund every year of, you know, let's say it's three grand a year. What if instead I put that back in my paycheck and now I got, you know, 250 bucks back in my life on top of that? So you can see all of these ideas as you get creative and resourceful start to add some serious momentum to your debt snowball. That's the only way to get out of this without continuing down the path of just trading one debt for another and going, well, I found a 0% credit card. I can put it on and then I'll do a balance transfer and then I'll give the credit card company more money to try to move the debt around. We got to stop playing the shell game at some point. Yeah. Well, I can put it on, and then I'll do a balance transfer, and then I'll give the credit card company more money to try to move the debt around. We got to stop playing the shell game at some

point. Yeah, well, I don't have any credit card debt, but that's good at least, because I've always been that person who pays the balance off every month. Well, how about you switch to debit card for a month and see if it doesn't change your spending habits? Well, then I wouldn't get the cash back, though. Oh, my goodness. Taylor. You really think this cash back is a blessing in your life? You think you're winning right now? Well, because I don't pay any interest on the card. You were like a rat in the maze, and you got to the cheese, and you thought, oh, my gosh, I made it. And I'm looking above it.

I'm going, oh, my gosh, Taylor's in this experiment from the credit card company. Let's get her out. And she said, no, no, no. I'm going to miss my cheese. I got to have my cheese. And I'm going, do you know what they're doing to you, Taylor's in this experiment from the credit card company. Let's get her out. And she said, no, no, no, I'm going to miss my cheese. I got to have my cheese. And I'm going, do you know what they're doing to you, Taylor? Get out of the maze. I'm going to send you my book, Breaking Free from Broke, along with Every Dollar Premium. Call me back after you read it. And I hope we can have a very different discussion. And I want fired up Taylor that is ready to knock down some doors to get rid of this debt. This is the Ramsey Show.

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our current renting facility. So just looking to see what options I have to meet my goal of being debt-free and also a homeowner where I'm not 45 years old. How old are you now? I'm 28. Okay. 28 years old. You're about to have two kids. What's the childcare cost? Yeah. Um, monthly, um, right now just for one, it's 1500,,500, but in October, it's going to be $3,000. Woo! I saw a comedian recently say that if he had just landed on planet Earth and seen a video with no sound of them storming the Capitol, he would have thought, surely that was about the child care cost. I'd buy it.

That would track. It's so expensive. Well, Caitlin, I hope you have a strong household income. You got two working people here? Yes. My husband and I are both engineers. Wonderful. What's the household income? We take home a little over $12,000. Woo!

That'll knock out some debt. That'll save up a down payment real quick. But here's the thing. I think you want to do it all at once. Yeah. Unfortunately, because we're both engineers, we both got stuck with student loans. Me, mainly because I was 18 years old, just went to college, didn't think anything of it. It was a private school, and those loans were pretty hefty.

How much? What's left? Well, what's left is $100,000. I just went under $100,000. Okay. I'm sitting next to a guy who happened to pay off $100,000 in student loans. Can I tell you, Caitlin? So here's what I hear in your voice.

I hear anger and bitterness, just frustration. Is that true? Yeah. At who? Honestly, I don't even know who I'm angry at because I can't really blame myself for being 18 years old. I wanted that degree. But I just feel frustrated because I've been told, you know, if you do everything in this order, things will work out. And here I am 10 years later and nowhere near being a homeowner.

And so I'm just like angry that I can't get what I want essentially there you go so once you once you take that level of ownership I think I get that I don't want to blame an 18 year old I was the same way I just signed the paper I didn't know but also I don't have to take blame as much as not by my hand but in my lap like I gotta take ownership this I saw my name here we are yeah and what i would tell you is any energy any energy you spend being angry at this amorphous them the the people who told me this the this it's just energy not going to your family and not not going to work it doesn't solve anything it just it's a

decision to make your present miserable the best thing is to get a plan and roll out of it and what i would tell you is having been there i um i sold my truck and i sold my house and i moved my family to a residence hall and i know not everybody can do that but i'm just telling you i had a toddler and a we were trying to work on um a second kid and we sold everything just because we had to get i was sick of it you have to get radical in terms and let this and by the way i was an associate dean i was a professor my wife was a professor we had fancy jobs just like you and your husband everyone around us looked fancy. You have to decide.

I don't care what anybody looks like. I don't care this quote-unquote what I think I deserve, what it's supposed to be. I just in two years, I want this gone. What must be true in our life so this is all gone in two years? Is there a different childcare place? Is there a teenager who can come over here? I don't know what the world looks like where you live, but how radical and obnoxious, borderline insane, can we get so that this goes away? Yeah. So when we were looking for daycares,

we were kind of trying to be financially responsible. And in the Pittsburgh area, it can be as low as $1,200, but as high as $2,000 for childcare. So we went with a cheaper facility and they forgot to feed my daughter. So went into overdrive and like really did digging and we found like a median facility. So like, um, we did, we definitely did try that the first go around. That's cool. But here's what's important though. Can you exhale that you made a choice on behalf of your daughter? It's too expensive. It's so expensive. So expensive. And me and my husband made a choice and it's the right choice.

I'm telling you, I'm applauding your choice as a parent. George is sitting right here too. We're both applauding your choice. You did the right thing, but we made a choice. We want our daughter to eat every day. So the choice is we're going to spend $1,500 a month. Yes. What's your rent?

$1,800. Wow. That's amazing for your income. So what would it take? Let's say you rented a bigger place if you needed it. What's that going to cost? A reasonable place. Nothing crazy.

What would that move your rent to? So in the Pittsburgh area, most places for rent that we're seeing that's bigger than what we're currently living in is probably $2,500-ish. Okay. That's still very reasonable for your take-home pay. Are you guys doing any investing right now? Retirement plans elsewhere? Definitely 401ks. How much? But again, I think I just do whatever my company matches, probably like 5% or 6%.

What if I told you you could be, let's say, debt-free in less than 18 months, have an emergency fund a few months after that, and begin saving up for a house, and probably have that down payment in less than a year at that point? So we're talking three years total, you were in the house of your dreams, completely debt free with an emergency fund. Yeah, that would be great. Now the question is, what are we willing to do to make that a reality in that period of time? And part of that is you guys are a young couple making amazing money and we can pause the investing right now because we're going to get back to it with a vengeance. And instead of 4%, we're going to be investing 15%. And that's just until we get our house paid off, which is going to happen pretty freaking quick when you're making 12, 13, 15 grand a month at that point with no debt, except for the mortgage. So you see how this, the Ramsey baby steps kind of unfurl as

you get momentum. But most people understandably go, well, I want to pay off the debt i want to save up for the house i want to invest in the 401k i want to have xyz lifestyle and it becomes very difficult to accomplish any of it yeah it's so tough to do it all yeah can i tell you this too that was shocking to me how much combined income do you and your husband have uh 12 000 like a little over 12 000 okay on an annual basis oh like um you mean like yearly yeah what's your annual take home both of you just approximate um 250 260 okay yeah you guys make really good money. Didn't we all hear a story that if you made a quarter million dollars a year

that you would never think about money, you wouldn't worry about it? I know. Whenever I got my new salary, I was so proud of how much we make as a couple. And then once we look at everything, we're like, wow, we are nowhere near where we thought we would be with this. Okay, that's the feeling. Yeah. And if you take that feeling and start spraying it all over your neighborhood and in your city it it does it doesn't accomplish anything most i i know people who cross that million dollar line they they cross that first seven figures and they thought it was going to

feel a certain way and it doesn't and it's so frustrating frustrating. I thought I wouldn't have to think about this. And then the school calls and then the car break. Like I just thought and I thought and I thought, let's just traffic in reality and get this thing knocked out. It just is what it is what it is. I'm going to choose optimism and a plan George is going to lay out for you other than just anger and bitterment. And by the way, I know that the people pulling up next to you in the parking lot,

some of them know what you make or have some ballpark. And they're like, why are you driving that? Can you believe she put her kid in that daycare? Exactly. So, Caitlin, hang on the line. I'm going to send you a copy of my book, Breaking Free from Broke. Two specific homework assignments. Number one, read the first chapter.

It's pretty much what you said verbatim. So it's going to let you breathe and go, oh, my gosh, someone gets me. Then read the margin is breathing room chapter. There's like 20 things I've gotten there to make more and spend less that will lay it all out. Do that in the every dollar budget with your husband and go, oh my gosh, we're sitting on five grand a month that we could throw towards this debt. We can do this in two years. This is definitely possible. And you're going to leave with hope and a practical plan if you read that book. So hang in the line. We'll send you a copy of Breaking Free from Broke. We are wishing you the best.

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reaching those money goals. Download every dollar for free on the App Store or Google Play. This is The Ramsey Show. I'm George Campbell, joined by Dr. John Deloney. And we've got a special treat for you because on the debt-free stage, we have Bruce and Corey. Welcome, guys. Thank you. Where are you from? Louisville, Kentucky. All right. And you made the drive down. Welcome, guys. Thank you. Where are you from? Louisville, Kentucky.

All right, and you made the drive down. Yeah, we sure did. I'm glad you said it the right way. One time I said Louisville, and I was attacked in the parking lot. I think it's a hate crime. We forgive you. Yeah, Louisville, Louisville. We are glad you're with us today.

So tell us, how much debt did you pay off? $111,000. Woo! That's a high number. How long did it take? Six years. All right. And what was your income range during that time?

Highest was $100,000, and right now we're at about $70,000. All right. And let's do this. What do you guys do for a living? Was there a job change? Oh, yeah. I am a stay-at-home mom. That is the best job change.

Congratulations. Thank you. Was this during the debt-free journey? Yes. Wow. Yeah, we made the decision. You know, we thought that the Lord wanted us to do it, and we thought if we did it, we'd maybe pay off in another two years or something.

We did it, and we were all finished with debt eight months later. Wow. So you thought it would slow you down more than it actually did. Absolutely. Because it probably lit a different kind of fire. This is what's right for our family, and we're going to keep full steam ahead. For sure. And Bruce, what do you do?

I'm an electrician. Wonderful. God bless the trades. And, as his shirt says, he's the dad of girls. Hashtag outnumbered. How many are we talking? I'm sure I do. And, as his shirt says, he's the dad of girls. Dad of, outnumbered. Hashtag outnumbered. How many are we talking? I'm sure two.

Oh, Lord. Okay. I didn't know if this was one of these, like, we got nine kids, and it's a farm. It's a homestead. We have a five-month hold at home, so. Wow. How are you even here right now? I know. This is a miracle unto itself.

I know. Oh, my goodness. This is our first trip with just the two of us. Did you just make snow angels in the hotel room? Just in the blankets? No one's screaming. No kid. I don't understand. It's awesome.

The phantom screams. I think I heard something. What type of debt was the $111,000? It was our house. Whoa! Hold the phone. Hold on. Hold on.

Guys in the trades and stay-at-home moms cannot pay off homes. Right. That's not real. It's not true. We're so poor, but we're not. Not athome moms cannot pay off homes. Right. That's not real. It's not true. We're so poor, but we're not. Not at all. This was all mortgage. Yeah.

All mortgage. That's amazing. So six years ago, you guys had the mortgage. You were debt-free other than the house. What made you go, hey, what if we just went and knocked this out instead of looking at this amortization schedule for the next 25, 30 years? Yeah. Well, when we were only engaged we went

to financial peace university together and that was fantastic that got us set up to be married and to be on the same page financially and so even when we bought the house we were like this isn't going to be we got the 15-year mortgage like what's suggested and we did the down payment that was suggested but we knew we were going to pay it off fast because we were so here's what i want to ask because people go this is outdated dave doesn't understand you guys decided in the face of all that no what if we just did a mortgage the right way and that set us up to be debt free six years later well i didn't want to listen to my dad anymore oh there we go that's part of what i'm saying uh yeah you know it was just going through your all's class and it was just so convincing you know, it was just going through your all's class,

and it was just so convincing. You know, Dave was so convincing and was like, we got to do this. Wow. And here you are now, a young couple, two little kids, no payments in the world. Yeah, he turns 30 tomorrow. What? Yeah, this is his birthday trip.

Oh, my God. We got to do something more exciting than this. But Nashville is a great destination. They pulled up to the parking lot on a pedal tavern, George. Trust me, they've got the weekend. They figured it out. We pulled up in our hoopty and I was like, we're going to fit in. Yes.

This is good. We'll be just fine in the Ramsey parking lot. Hey, so I'm interested in hearing from both of you. What was money like growing up? Did you all both come from a lot of money or was money a struggle growing up? Well, I didn't particularly come from much money. And it was just my dad raising us. But the thing about my dad is he never did take on debt.

So growing up, I didn't even know about credit cards. And when we got married, she was like, you should get a debit card. And I did, and I remember going to the gas station thinking i hope this works he still carries cash to this he's like only cash he's still to this day you are the youngest living boomer i know that's incredible dude stay strong bruce that's amazing so tell us about the this home payoff because a lot of people have like i've seen like there's this tiktok strategy to pay it off faster you guys actually did it so you are the poster children what did you actually do you just work hard you you make a budget you um yeah so your mortgage payment is how much every

month just if you just paid the normal payment 1400 and you guys said let's put extra on the principal was it once a month and you were consistent? No, it was kind of fun. We're just doing the budget and whatever extra we had, we put towards it. And it almost became like a game. It was every time we got an extra payment, I was like, yeah. Yeah. At one point in time, we lived off only his income to see if we could be stay at home. So we just lived off his income and my income went completely to the mortgage. Wow. So every few months when you could,

you're like, hey, what if we put an extra thousand or 2000? What was the biggest extra payment you applied? Oh, there were some big ones because when we got like our taxes back and sometimes we'd put all of that.

Like a refund, you go, let's throw that on there. Yeah. So a few thousand bucks probably. Yeah. I think it was the COVID checks they were hanging out.

I think we put all those. Oh, yeah. All of them. We were like, well, we don't need that money. Thank you. The COVID checks they were handing out. The government paid off our mortgage. Wow.

Those Biden bucks came in handy for you. Yeah. Wow. That's incredible. What was the hardest part of all this? Because six years is not a short amount of time to sacrifice. Well, you know, we've been doing maintenance on our cars, just keeping them chugging along. Yeah.

So probably keeping those cars going. And we did have a lot of naysayers. Like a lot of people in my family would be like, oh, you need a new car. You need this or just do this. This is the way everybody does it. And we were like, wait, family telling you what you need. Isn't that your job? Yeah.

Oh, my goodness. I can't imagine. So kind of just putting the blinders on and going, this is what's right for our family and I don't care about your opinion because you don't pay our bills. Yeah, that's right. That's powerful.

That's a good, yeah. That's a good way to say it. Corey, what was money like in your house? My dad was the typical, he has credit cards. He still does to this day and I love him to death. And he has the house payments and stuff like that and he's he still will today he'll probably maybe listen to this show and be like well i guess you did okay here's what i think so so amazing and y'all are experiencing this right now in real time your two daughters will never understand

the electricity that's in a home when you're worried about, Hey, I just did a job for this contractor. He didn't pay me or I'm waiting on that check. I'm waiting on the check and they got to, they got to go get X, Y, and Z groceries. They'll never know that. Yeah. I'm so, and I'm so glad like we are, we do do things cheaply. We get secondhand clothes and we get groceries at Aldi. But I am glad to show them that, but I'm also glad to show them that it's not from fear. It's from, we made a choice and we think this is wiser than this. And so we're not afraid of like spending our money, but we're going to not do it stupidly. Be intentional about it. Yeah. You also

aren't afraid to drop the five month old off and pack up and come to Nashville. Right. So I don't know about that. It's amazing. It's amazing. So what do you tell people the key to getting out of debt is? Completely, mortgage and everything. How do you do it? Well, I think the first thing was going through your class and just having the mindset shift that, you know, debt is not good. And after that, the budget is just such a key, key part to it.

I love it. Well, we've got the budget for you. Every dollar, we're going to gift you two subscriptions for a full year. You can use them. You can gift them to someone else to get them on the journey. But that really is the key is paying attention to your money and sticking to a plan. So we're so honored that you decided to join us. Happy 30th birthday tomorrow.

What a way to celebrate. What do you tell to a couple out there who wants to be a stay-at-home mom and married to an electrician? Oh, gosh. Yeah. You know, if you think the Lord is telling you, he's going to, you can do it. It doesn't matter if you make, you know, at one point we were making $50,000 a year. If the Lord wants you to do it, he's not going to be like, now I'm going to smite you.

Like, he's going to lift you up and he's going to do well to you. Y'all got to go make decisions every day. Yeah. Amazing. I'm proud of you guys. That's awesome. I love it. Let's get to the fun part.

It's Bruce and Corey from Louisville, Kentucky. $111,000 paid off. House and everything in six years, making $100,000 down to $70,000 so Corey could stay at home with the kids. What a beautiful picture of the new American dream, debt freedom, baby. Count it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream. Three, two, one.

We're debt-free! Woo! The unity, John, unmatched. They heard it all the way back in Louisville. Incredible. That's inspiring. Making 70 grand, Louisville, Kentucky, two kids, normal couple doing very not normal things. Going, hey, what if we had a different picture for our family's life?

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How can we help today, Eric? Hey, thanks for taking my call. Sure. What's going on? My wife and I are on baby step two with 70K to go, and I receive child support. It's about $400 a month. I was curious if we could use that as income or put that into like a 529 for college or myself. Okay. So 400 bucks a month, we're talking about five grand a year and you're saying, hey, should we use this for college?

Do we use it for living expenses? Should it go toward the debt? Are you just wondering where you should use this money? Yeah, because I don't touch it. You don't need it necessarily to cover the expenses for the month. Yeah, I don't need it. That's an interesting question.

No one's ever asked this question when I've been out here. Eric, great question. What do you think, George? Because part of me says you throw every penny towards this debt, but I can see a scenario where I'm just going to continue to fund this 529. I get both sides of this. How old is he?

Yeah. It's an interesting question. Seven years old. So we're talking 11 years. Do you have any money saved for college yet? No. Okay. And you don't need this money, like you said, to cover his expenses.

Yeah, I haven't used it since I've been receiving it. And you've got $70,000 in debt. How much do you have in savings? We have our $1,000 for Baby Step 1, and then I have a couple thousand that I've got to allocate towards debt. Good. Okay. Yeah, it's an interesting one. There's no

you know, principle around this. I would personally, I would probably put it in college because I'd sleep better at night knowing I was using it toward his future. Yeah. How long is this going to take you to pay off? We used your calculator on your website

and it said February 27th. February 27th? How much money do you guys make a year? I'm not sure per year, but we net $6,400 per month. That seems like the variable you can toggle. Say again? That seems like a variable you guys could adjust it seems to be the only one you could adjust unless you've got really high living expenses um which doesn't sound like you do but

man i really want to see that down into early 26 okay my gut check says well let's not invest while we have debt. And so if you're using $400 of your normal income to cover his expenses, there's no difference in using this new $400 of child support to pay off debt because you're covering all the expenses and more. There's no needs that he has that you're not able to cover. And so I don't see a problem with using that extra $4,800 a year to get out of debt faster. Okay, so put it towards debt. Yeah. I mean, if you're saying that I have $6,400 plus the $400, is that what we're talking about?

Yes. Yeah. And I would even go and try to make more than that. I would try to cut my expenses down because I do think your timeline feels like a long ways away. And I'd rather see you guys in Baby Steps 456 where you're investing for your own future, saving for his college, and by then you might be putting even more away. And you still have time if you got, you know, a nine-year time horizon before he goes to college. Okay. So, I mean, yeah, there's both options there. My heart says just lean into the baby steps and throw it toward the debt. And whether the money's coming from your income or child support,

it's all the money that's being used to cover the family expenses. And part of that is debt. Yeah, I agree with that. It took me a minute to think through it. So thanks for talking that out loud, George. But, yeah, you're spending that much money on a growing young boy and groceries and the room as part of the rent or mortgage. So yeah, I mean, you're working it out that way.

You're spending the 400 bucks a month and more on a kid. And as he gets older, good gosh, I think I spend about six or seven million dollars a month on feeding my 14-year-old. That kid can eat. It just is. It's working, though. He's like twice my size. Yeah, well, that bar is very, very low.

Fair enough. But yeah, Eric, I would get out of debt as quickly as possible. And we do have an article for you, Eric, that we'll send to you. We'll also link it in the description and show notes wherever you guys are watching America. And it's called What Can Child Support Be Used For? And it's on the Ramsey Solutions blog. So we'll be sure to link that and send it out to you. And I hope that will help you make the right decision for your family.

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we do end up selling this house, but it looks like we are going to be getting a little bit more back from insurance as well as a good chunk from when we end up selling the house. So I was curious on if you guys would recommend just continuing the baby steps in order of the debt snowball, or if you think we should clear up one of these big car payments that we have to get rid of the car first to clear up about 800 bucks a month. What's the total consumer debt you have left? Right now we have about 75 to 85. I'm not sure on the exact number. And how much is the insurance check?

The insurance we're going to be getting anywhere between 10 to 20. It just depends on reconstruction. Okay. And you're saying saying should we use this insurance check to just plop into the debt snowball smallest to largest how many debts could you knock out um so i have i have two student loan debts um one is about three thousand um i haven't i don't i haven't started paying on that yet that doesn't i'm not supposed to start until November. But you're allowed to, though. Yeah, yeah, I know. I just got the information to start paying it less than a month ago. What's the next biggest debt? Start this month. Let's get rid of that.

The next biggest is another student loan debt of about $8,000. Okay. So let's say you knock out both of those debts, debt snowball method. How much is that going to free up payment- wise? Do you know? About 500. Okay. And then we have a new $500 to apply to the next debt on top of our income. And what's the timeline? If you do that, if you do it that way, what is the timeline to be completely debt free? Whenever I wrote it down, I wrote it down back right before this whole house fire and everything happened. So I'm pretty sure we estimated around like three, three and a half to four years.

I think we need to reassess and go, what is it going to take? What is the gap to where we can get rid of this debt in two years? Because four years is a long time to pay off 75 grand. So I would try to get your income up, get the expenses down and do not buy a house. Just plow through the debt snowball. That's what I would do if I was in your shoes. Thank you for the call. That puts this hour of the Ramsey Show in the books. Be sure to jump on to the Ramsey Network app if you're on YouTube or podcast to keep listening and watching. Hey, you're still here?

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