The Ramsey Show - Face Debt Head-On Before It Destroys Your Family

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Starting point is 00:00:59 We can enjoy this. The world is heavy and we're out here just making light of it all and showing you a path forward, some hope. So Jeremy's going to kick us off across the border in Ottawa, Canada. What's going on, Jeremy? Just trying to keep one foot in front of the other. How about yourself? That's right, my friend.

Starting point is 00:01:15 How can we help? Well, hopefully with some answers to some money problems but in a nutshell I uprooted my family and moved ended up taking about a 65% pay cut and now everything's just starting to pile up and pile up and I want to know if it makes me a deadbeat father if I move back to my old job where I'm making north of 150K versus south of 50K. Just to keep all the bills paid and food in the fridge. What was the reason for you to uproot them and take this pay cut?

Starting point is 00:01:56 It was clearly a big enough reason that you guys decided to do this. Just to keep the family together, be a little bit closer to my partner's family. They're super close, but... Okay, and now you're realizing we can't sustain this financially. With our lifestyle, our bills, and our much lower income, this is stressful for us, even though we're closer to family.

Starting point is 00:02:20 Exactly. Are you in a... when you moved away, how far away are you from where you guys moved? Because when you say to go back to my job, does that mean move again to go back to the old job or you could do something different with where you guys live now? It's 3,000 miles and I was told if I go back, I'm going back by myself. Whoa, like an ultimatum? Yeah. Does she understands what's going on financially at all?

Starting point is 00:02:52 How is she feeling? Is she stressed about it? She knows that it's not well, but she's kind of blind to it. And she just took a different job to work less hours too. Which isn't helping anything. Okay when you say she's blind to it does that mean that she doesn't have all the information or she has all the information but the way she's processing it is not correct in reality? I think she's just ignoring the issue. Okay. How much are you guys in the whole month financially with after everything's paid? How much more do you need?

Starting point is 00:03:32 I don't know. She doesn't tell me what her expenses are. Okay. So you guys don't have any finances combined? No. Are you legally married or just cohabitating? Just, we're common law. We got two little ones.

Starting point is 00:03:50 Okay. And bank accounts are separate. Do you guys Venmo each other for the mortgage? How does this work? I take care of the mortgage in one vehicle and she does the rest. Okay. And she's not feeling the stress of this financially, just you? No she is too because apparently she hasn't been able

Starting point is 00:04:12 to make her minimums either. Okay so it's sounding more like a relationship issue Jeremy. It sounds like you guys just aren't doing well as a couple in general. I don't know if money is the main issue. I think it's become a symptom of it. But you guys, it doesn't sound like you guys communicate well or have the same goals or do this life together very well. It seems very separate, even from an emotional standpoint. Is that right? It's getting there, that's for sure. Well, it sounds like you went along with this to appease her to be closer to family, knowing full well you guys were gonna be

Starting point is 00:04:47 in the hole financially. And I don't know if you didn't make that clear, or if she just was blind to it, as you said, and just going, I don't care, we're making this move. We'll figure it out. Yeah, pretty much. Well, I don't know who your God is, but you need to come to Jesus' conversation,

Starting point is 00:05:02 where you go, listen, you're clearly not doing well financially, I'm not doing well listen, you're clearly not doing well financially. I'm not doing well financially. This family's not doing well financially and life is too short to live with this kind of stress. So if we're going to stay here, we have to make it work. And here's what that's going to take. And that's when we lay out the finances together, get on a budget together and figure out what

Starting point is 00:05:20 the whole is and how we're getting out of it. And that might mean you need to find a higher paying job. She needs to work more hours. We need to combine bank accounts. That might be some of the next steps you take. Okay. And if that doesn't work, so like should I jump back out to my old jobs

Starting point is 00:05:41 just so that I know that my kids are fed? I mean, that's the noble thing to do. I don't think it helps your marriage at all or with this common law situation you have going on. So you're gonna grow further apart while keeping the kids fed. And so I'd rather keep the kids fed. Can you keep the kids fed though,

Starting point is 00:05:58 where you guys are to be able to work on the relationship and get a higher paying job where you are? Or can you sell the car and make other sacrifices to cover your four walls for now? The car's upside down by about 15. Do you know what she makes at all? She's supposed to make 85 a year, but she has a habit of not going to work.

Starting point is 00:06:25 Wouldn't you get fired? And if I don't show up to work enough, Dave says, all right, we're gonna find someone else who can actually do this job. Well, she works in healthcare, so they're begging for people to work there. And what do you do? I'm in the construction.

Starting point is 00:06:45 Okay, what were you doing before when you were making Six Figures? I was working in a mining industry. And that industry obviously doesn't exist where you're at? No. Is there an equivalent or is there a better construction job up the ladder that you can aim toward?

Starting point is 00:07:10 I've progressed up the ladder in my company a little bit already. And the next step would be to become a supervisor, but that's at least a year and a half out. Because I've asked my boss for more hours and if he would be able to give me a wage increase and he just said that I'm not there yet. So Jeremy, I think what it comes down to is you guys aren't paying your bills. I mean, what's happening financially, there's an issue. So the adult thing is that you both sit down together and say, here's what it takes to run our household. And we have to make X amount every month for this to happen.

Starting point is 00:07:46 And we don't get to decide that we don't feel like doing that. That has to happen. So either we're cutting our freaking lifestyle and taking everything off the table and doing nothing in order to feed the kids, or we're going to have to decide different jobs. We're going to have to choose to move back. We don't get to just sit and not make money

Starting point is 00:08:06 and not pay our bills. We can't do that. So that's not an option. We're adults and this is part of life. And so that's one thing. But the other thing I'm very concerned about, Jeremy, is the relationship. I mean, it sounds bizarre to me

Starting point is 00:08:19 that she's so in the clouds, that she wants nothing to do with you financially. Then she's made that very clear that she wants nothing to do with you financially. Then she's made that very clear. My question is why? Because long term, this is not a sustained relationship. You cannot live your life on two separate pages financially because what that is, it's an indicator of how your relationship is in general.

Starting point is 00:08:38 And you guys are going to just keep moving further and further apart. And you guys have two kids together, so it's worth the fight. But you first from a tactical standpoint have to get enough money in to pay the bills and you both have to come to that understanding and if she is so in the clouds and that then she may not be a great partner long term because she's probably in the clouds on everything else so so there has to be some big decisions that are gonna be really difficult but you both have to step up as adults and decide to face it together.

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Starting point is 00:10:36 How can we help today? What's going on? So essentially, my question is, you know, I've been listening to your show for a few days. I've been binging on it quite a bit now. Um, couple of your other podcasts and, uh, you know, I've been contemplating bankruptcy. Uh, it's been something that's in my mind over the course of the last couple of months. Um, and I'm just trying to see if it's a better option to throw in the towel and

Starting point is 00:11:03 do that or to continue attacking the towel and do that, or to continue attacking my debt aggressively based on what I've learned so far on the show. Sorry to hear that. Well, lay this out for us. How much do you make and how much debt do you have? Okay, so I make approximately, I got two sources of income.

Starting point is 00:11:22 One is my job, which gives me what they bought in one thousand year and then the other was disability compensation which is about fifty six thousand so what about a hundred twenty two thousand hundred thirty thousand and then as far as that is concerned uh... i have about eighty thousand in debt three of them are personal onto a tool in personal ones my vehicle my vehicle and the rest is on credit card debt. Okay.

Starting point is 00:11:48 What are the amounts for all those? So the most expensive one is $38,000. That one has about a $616 payment per month and it stretched out over 15 years. What which that is that? That one was a home improvement loan that I took out back in 2022, I was in the middle of a remodel of my house. All right. And so I took that money for a remodel.

Starting point is 00:12:16 Okay. And the second person alone? Second person alone was a debt consolidation loan. It's roughly about $29,000 and Then the third one is the vehicle but my truck which is about $26,000 and then credit card debt It's roughly about another ten or thirteen thousand Okay, how much is the car worth the truck? The truck is worth about 57 K

Starting point is 00:12:44 It's worth $57,000. It's worth $57,000? Yes. Good. And you owe $26,000? Correct. I like where this is going. Do you see where this is going? I do see where your recommendation is going to be.

Starting point is 00:12:58 Explain to me why you need this truck when you're on the verge of bankruptcy. Because I'm in construction and I need the truck to be able to get through the construction. I just checked Google, they make $20,000 trucks. They do, but I work in heavy civil engineering construction, so I need something that can tow the amount of weight that I need to be able to tow. And you're telling me there's no $25,000 truck

Starting point is 00:13:24 that can tow that amount? Probably so. It's probably going to be about 15 years old. I'm okay with that. You're on the verge of bankruptcy. You just told us. You got here because you were unwilling to have delayed gratification, sacrifices weren't made and you made some poor financial

Starting point is 00:13:45 decisions. And this is the one on the list that you can undo if you're willing to drive a 15-year-old truck for a season so that you can avoid bankruptcy. Okay. What's the truck payment? It's $583 a month. So you would have an extra $600 a month to go toward your debt, correct? Yes.

Starting point is 00:14:08 I mean, do you realize that if you're gonna file bankruptcy, they're gonna liquidate and get as much as possible anyway. So, I mean, this could all be on your terms and it's gonna be uncomfortable and it's not going to look the way that you've been handling your money, but something has to change. So of course your life is going to look the way that you've been handling your money but something has to change so of course your life is going to look different if you start making different decisions with money and and it's not going to be easy because I

Starting point is 00:14:33 mean a little bit of the easy route is is the debt route you kind of can get what you want when you want it and you know that's how majority of people live but you're finding that it's causing stress. You're calling us for a reason because you're not happy with where you are financially. So something does have to change. So your mindset around money, regardless of work and construction and weight, I mean, all of that, like if you're in this desperation part, you know,

Starting point is 00:15:01 if you get to this place in your life, you're willing to do anything like Anything and I don't I don't know if you Feel that or want to experience that I've been through a lot of suffering over the last year And it's not necessary the whole truck thing it's just yeah, what's what's been going on? No, what caused me to call it to make all these poor financial decisions I suffered a traumatic event back in November 2022 or my son passed away Sorry, and so that caused me to sell my house and when I sold my house it was in the middle of a remodel

Starting point is 00:15:42 And I ended up being upside down about $18,000. So I had to pay $18,000 to sell a house. Um, and then I moved my daughter and I across the country to bring my, my son to his birthplace, to bury him. Um, and it had to start all over again. So that's what caused me to take out, you know, the debt consolidation loan for 27 or $29,000. Um, and I had a paid off truck. My truck was paid off. I had a 2,500 Ram that was paid off and I traded that in to get this vehicle

Starting point is 00:16:13 because it was a four by four and it had more pulling power. Um, I hear you. I hear you. I had to buy another house, uh, but it wasn't a house. I bought a mobile home. That was another $121,000 there. So, I spent a couple hours on the budget app yesterday that every dollar spent app. And for some reason it's telling me that I have $2,600 worth of margin every month, leftover.

Starting point is 00:16:43 That's with your minimum debt payments, all of your expenses, that's what it should be. Yeah, I mean, I put everything in there, all the payments that I'm making, still says I got $2,600, don't get me wrong, I paid off close to about $3,500 worth of credit cards, four credit cards in the last 30 days. And you know, just trying to do what

Starting point is 00:17:03 the Ramsey Method is telling me to do. Yeah. You know, and I'm putting $40 away every week in savings to try to get to that $1,000 savings to, you know, in my underwear drawer to keep it there for a rainy day. Well, outside of the truck, I added it up. I mean, if you sell the truck,

Starting point is 00:17:21 you'll have $80,000 in consumer debt based on what you told us. Yes. And so, you had said you sell the truck, you'll have $80,000 in consumer debt based on what you told us. Yes. And so you had said 80 at the top, but you got 80 plus the $26,000 truck loan. That puts you at six figures in debt. And I'm trying to help you. What's that?

Starting point is 00:17:35 That's including it. That's including it. The 26,000. What was the first loan you said? The home improvement loan? 38,000. Yeah. 38,000.

Starting point is 00:17:43 29,000. Plus 29. Plus 10. 29,000. Plus 13 in credit cards. 26. Yeah, and then the quarter of the credit card was telling me I got 13 in credit cards, but. And I'm telling you, with a calculator, it's coming up at 80 and that's without your car loan. So I just want you to have a real picture of what your finances are at, and that's why I'm so desperate to get you to get rid of this truck and downgrade

Starting point is 00:18:11 to number one, free you of $26,000 today before your truck goes underwater. Almost every call, people are underwater on their truck. So when you said this truck is worth 57, you owe 26, I was doing backflips because it gave me some hope that you can get out of this faster than you think. And if you do that and then do the debt snowball,

Starting point is 00:18:31 every extra dollar outside of food, utilities, shelter, transportation, insurance, goes toward that 80,000 you have remaining, smallest to largest balance. I think you can get out of this. You make great money. You're a smart guy who works hard. And know that, I mean, from that information that you just gave us about this last year, I didn't even get out of this. You make great money. You're a smart guy who works hard.

Starting point is 00:18:45 And know that, I mean, from that information that you just gave us about this last year, which is just the most horrific thing that I could ever imagine is losing a child. So I can't even imagine what that grief does. There's a fog that is there. And when you make financial decisions, usually in that time, soon after something like that happens, they're sometimes not the best. So that's not to guilt or to shame you. That's to kind of free you to say, hey, yes, as you look back, like, wow, those may not have been the best decisions.

Starting point is 00:19:14 I don't blame you for that because of what you walk through. But I do want to make sure that there's a level of healing that you're getting from this and that the money is that secondary piece. But I do, I pray that for you. Well, I'm so sorry. And yeah, if you stay on the line, Taylor is going to pick up and we'll give you John Deloney's book and Total Money Makeover. Hey you guys, health insurance costs are only moving one way, and that way isn't down. And if higher costs aren't enough, the wait times to see your doctor are longer, and it's harder than ever to get anything approved through the bureaucracy.

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Starting point is 00:21:15 We're taking your calls. Up next we have Shonda in Cleveland. Hey Shonda, welcome to the show. Hi, hi guys. Hello, hello. Hi, can you hear me? Yes, we can, we can. Thanks for calling. Yeah, how can we help? Yes, I have money stress. I have an income of like 22-24 thousand dollars, but I have two collection agencies one is five thousand

Starting point is 00:21:46 which I could pay I only have two thousand more to pay for that one collection agency and the other one is eight thousand and I don't know what to do or begin to pay that that debt I don't even know where to begin I haven't talked to that collection agency at all because I don't know what to do because I don't have the money to pay them. A driveway that needs to be fixed, that's like 20,000, they say. So that's an upcoming expense. That's not debt, right?

Starting point is 00:22:19 Yeah, that's an upcoming expense. Okay. What other debt do you have? I have student loans that's $50,000, a car loan that's $11,000, a home loan that's $75,000, and I was like one month behind, I think I just caught up. Let's see, credit card, that's 200.

Starting point is 00:22:46 $200. Dollars of minimum payment or that's the total? Yeah, no, that's the total. So I was gonna pay them off when I, next time I get paid. Okay. Woo, how old are you? I'm 53. Okay.

Starting point is 00:23:03 What are you doing for work right now? Nursing assistant, but I feel like I'm overwhelmed. I don't know what to do. And I know you all say don't play the lottery, but that's I've been trying to do that. Oh no, Shotta, don't step foot in the convenience store, a gas station. Stay far away. How many hours a week are you working? That's right.

Starting point is 00:23:22 Um, like 40 hours. And then sometimes I pick up on my off days. Okay. So I'm working. I'm working. And you're doing what again? I'm sorry, say it one more time. Nursing assistant. Nursing assistant. But you're only making $24,000 working as a nursing assistant and working 40 hours a week? Yeah. Okay. Okay. Um, yeah, I mean, I think that the first thing to be looking at, cause what's your degree in? Cause you have some student loans. Yeah. Um, well I went to school for different, but I really went to school and didn't really get much of a

Starting point is 00:24:01 degree. I got one degree in. How long you've been paying on these student loans? Years. And I haven't made a dent. And I made no, during COVID, they wasn't taking any payments during COVID. They were sending money right back. Are you single?

Starting point is 00:24:23 Yes. Okay. Well, there's some simple steps you can take that are tactical to help you, but it's gonna take sacrifice, it's gonna take making more, spending less, all of that. So here's the thing, with the collections, you've gotta talk to these people.

Starting point is 00:24:39 We can't bury your head in the sand. And even if you call them and say, listen, I can't pay you. I make $10 an hour and I got a lot of bills and a lot of people who want to get paid and So I need to keep the lights on so your one priority is food utilities shelter transportation. We call that the four walls Oh Nothing else gets paid before those get paid. I

Starting point is 00:25:02 Don't care who the debt is to, what the collectors are saying, you gotta keep the lights on, keep the mortgage paid, so that you don't get foreclosed on. And eat something too. And so beyond that, you gotta make your insurance payments. We need to keep all of that to protect us. And then we can start tackling the debt. But clearly, there's not much to tackle it with

Starting point is 00:25:22 because you have no money left after making minimum payments, right? That's right. So I mean, so what do I tell them or what do I do? Do I write a letter? Do I call them? I call everyone you owe debt to and say listen, I want to pay you but I don't have any money I make $10 an hour. I'm six figures in debt. I'll pay you when I can and what I can, but right now I'm flat broke. Okay. Yeah, and then on the income side, Shonda,

Starting point is 00:25:50 I mean, honestly, I mean, I was, you know, Walmart, Target, like these places are paying up to 20 an hour. Like you could double your hourly rates by working somewhere else. I think you're gonna need a different job. I just don't, this job is not gonna be able to sustain you. And you're working 40 hours. So I'm like, you have a great work ethic,

Starting point is 00:26:10 but that energy is going to something that's not giving you your rate of return of what you need right now. And so, and places like Walmart, Target, some other places, I mean, they have great benefits. Like they really do a great job in helping their employees. So I honestly would be switching jobs. You have to make more.

Starting point is 00:26:29 You can't be living on this. Is there a path for you to make more in the nursing assistant world? Like to CNA where you could be making 40,000 a year? I don't know. Like the hospitals or something like that. I don't know how much they hospitals or something like that. I don't know how much they... I would do some homework and research and talk to people who are in these fields, in

Starting point is 00:26:50 these positions and ask them the path and what it's going to cost and what it's going to take and how long. Yeah. Because long-term, we need a solution. Yeah, agency pays. I mean, I guess the agency. But beyond the agency, you know, as a certified nursing assistant, you should be able to make 30 to 40 versus 22.

Starting point is 00:27:11 And with your experience, I'd imagine this wouldn't be a huge leap. And so I would just at least start to do some homework. I know life has got you down, but this is the time. The next 10 years, we need to be really getting focused, get the income up, get rid of this debt and have no mortgage payments. And Sean, just start binge watching

Starting point is 00:27:27 some of our debt-free screams here on the YouTube channel or even podcasts, but go through and watch some of these stories because I know it feels like you're in such a hopeless situation. And numbers-wise, it does feel hopeless, right? And so we want some of that to change with your income and starting to get a grapple on this debt.

Starting point is 00:27:46 But just know that there is a way out. It's just gonna look different than probably what you've done in the past, and that's okay, but there's people that do it every day. So continue to feed your mind with this stuff. If you hold on the line, Shonda, Austin's gonna pick up. I wanna give you Financial Peace University. It's our nine lesson course on money.

Starting point is 00:28:04 Just to get you the basics. We'll throw in Every Dollar Premium as well, which is our budgeting app, and they have a great tutorial there when you sign up there to really walk through and teach you there. Here's detailed how you do a budget. And Austin, go ahead and throw in Total Money Makeover 2,

Starting point is 00:28:21 and that's Dave Ramsey's best-selling book, and it's The Seven Baby Steps. I just wanna get some knowledge of this plan in you, Shonda, and I want you to just like, soak all this up, because it's gonna kind of be a different world that you'll be navigating with money. It's gonna look different, but I want you to have motivation and people behind you cheering you on,

Starting point is 00:28:42 and even if it's us on YouTube cheering you on and giving you some encouragement through other callers or watching their stories, I want that for you. Cause I want you to know that this can change. It's gonna be different. It's gonna be different from what you've done. And it's gonna be hard. None of this is easy.

Starting point is 00:28:57 None of this is easy, but it is possible. I'm gonna throw even one more thing just because I feel for Shonda. I'm gonna give to you a free coaching session with a trained Ramsey financial coach who can walk through all of this with you, help you with the collection side, navigate this wild journey,

Starting point is 00:29:14 help you make a plan with the debt snowball, just because we can't do that in a radio call. And I really want Shonda to have hope. Because I know a lot of older caller, there's older people out there listening who are in their 50s, Rachel, and they're going, well, I'm in her shoes, there's no hope for me. And it takes, it's harder to do as you get older.

Starting point is 00:29:31 It's just harder. The habits. Yeah, what's deeper habits that you have to break, that you're used to. The mistakes have been compounding for years, the debt's been sitting around for years, is in collections. So hang on the line, we'll get you connected

Starting point is 00:29:39 and give you a free session with a trained Ramsey financial coach who can help. So that's a big part of the problem is feeling hope and getting a game plan. That's right. And we talked to some people, yeah, in their 50s, 60s, sometimes in their 70s, right? And they don't have anything for retirement.

Starting point is 00:29:57 And they're trying to figure this out. And even though it's a hard hill to climb to say, okay, I'm gonna buckle down. I'm gonna learn something new, change what I've been doing, sacrifice, take on that extra job. All of that is hard, but it's also hard to go into retirement with nothing

Starting point is 00:30:14 if you continued on that path, right? So it's one of those things, like you choose your hard. And one hard's actually going to be able to give you money when you start working a plan and get out of debt and be able to have some level of control over your life versus not at all, right? Don't give up Shonda. You got this Shonda.

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Starting point is 00:32:58 I love it. We're talking about Smart Money Happy Hour at the nail salon. We talk about current events, pop culture and money. So it's the best. Rachel's like the cool sister. It's the best. And I'm the cool uncle, I guess.

Starting point is 00:33:09 Uncle George. That's right. All right, Gabriella is up next in McCallan, Texas. Gabriella, what's going on? Hi guys, thank you for taking my call. So my question is, my ex-boyfriend left me with an RV payment and I do not wanna pay it. Oh my gosh, so what happened?

Starting point is 00:33:29 You guys? So he took it to go work and could no longer afford the payment on it and left it to me last weekend and was like, here you go, here's the RV with the payment. What do you mean left it to you? Whose name is on the loan?

Starting point is 00:33:44 It is under my name. We were together for 10 years. Oh no. I got it for him so he had to go work in the oil field and we split up about a year ago and he can't afford it anymore so he brought it back to me and I'm left with it. Oh no. Shoot. Mm-hmm. brought it back to me and I'm left with it. Oh no, shoot. Well, Gabrielle, you'll never do that again, will ya?

Starting point is 00:34:10 I've learned my lesson. Oh no, you know, we talked to somebody earlier in the hour and her boyfriend, well fiance, they don't really have a date, I don't think a wedding date we asked, but yeah, both their houses, their names are on the deed of the house and I just thought, oh no, no, no, no.

Starting point is 00:34:27 So you're a great, I guess, poster child of what can happen when you sign onto debt and buy things with people you're not married to. And I'm so sorry. I mean, on top of the hurt from this long-term relationship being over. And it was a year ago though. So now you're like, well crap, now I gotta-

Starting point is 00:34:43 What's left on the RV loan and what is it worth? It is, the balance left is around 48,000. And looking it up, it's worth around 30,000. So you're $18,000 underwater? Basically, for some reason they took, like the prices in RVs were just expensive when I bought it and have dropped. Well that's been the theme on the show for the last week or month is everyone is underwater

Starting point is 00:35:15 on vehicles and things with wheels because it was really expensive and they had good intentions and then the market turned and now everyone's underwater. So there's only two ways to go about this. Number one is you need to come up with the $18,000 in cash in order to sell it and pay off the loan. Or number two, you go get a personal loan for the difference of that 18,000 to get out from under this. Do you have any money?

Starting point is 00:35:39 Yeah, I have around 10,000 in savings. Good, and any other debt? Well, yes, I have around 10,000 in savings. Good. And any other debt? Well, yes, I have a mortgage. I pay my vehicle, but my vehicle is actually a lease. And I hadn't learned my lesson at the time, but I have a bedroom set under my name that somebody else owes about $3,000 of that. Really no credit card debt. somebody else owes about $3,000 of that. Really no credit card debt.

Starting point is 00:36:06 Somebody else owes? Yes, it's under my name. So technically I owe it, but. And are they paying on it or you're- Yes and no. Oh gosh. Is this family? Is that a friend that you like said, hey, I'll get-

Starting point is 00:36:22 It's family. It's a family member. Oh gosh. I think you need to stop being, I'll get- It is, it's family, it's a family member. Oh gosh. I think you need to stop being generous with money you don't have, Gabriella. That's what's been happening. It's a theme in your life. You sound like such a sweet, wonderful person.

Starting point is 00:36:33 And now how much do you make a year? So this year I made, so I'm actually a nurse and with COVID I made really good money, 2022. Kind of gone down some, so this year I made really good money, 2022, kind of gone down some. So this year I made 133, but it will probably drop again this year because there's no more COVID crisis. So that's just how it works.

Starting point is 00:36:53 Not if I can help it. You're gonna be out there busting your tail over time, doing Uber Eats and Door Dash and Instacart, whatever it takes. I'm going to have to. You're climbing out of this thing. And I think you're not scared of work, which is great. And we got to start with the smallest debt here,

Starting point is 00:37:10 which it sounds like is this bedroom set. Yeah. I think you just pay it off. And if they ever pay you any more for it, great. You can apply that to the next one. Don't expect it. Just don't wait around. Yeah, be done with it.

Starting point is 00:37:21 Okay. Even if it's zero interest, I should pay that one off first? Especially if it's zero interest, all of it. Okay. We're done with payments. We be done with it. Okay, even if it's zero interest, I should pay that one off first. Especially if it's zero interest, all of it. Okay. We're done with payments, we're done with debt. You make too much, you're too successful and you're too smart to ever do this stuff again. Regardless of the interest rate.

Starting point is 00:37:39 Does that track, Gabriella? Are you with us on this? Yes. We are team Gabriella. And so we want you to win. And that's going to mean you have, if you with us on this? Yes. We are team Gabriella. And so we want you to win. And that's going to mean you have, if you count up all your debt and if you wanna get out of the lease,

Starting point is 00:37:50 you can look at the early buyout amount and see if that's gonna be worth it for you to do now. Otherwise you turn the car in and then you need to go get another car. But don't just get another lease. Okay. It's the most expensive way to get a vehicle and dealerships love it because

Starting point is 00:38:06 they make the most money off of these leases. Okay, so no more leasing. No more leasing. Buy your next car with cash, which is going to be tough. When is the lease up? In about two more years. Okay. Yeah, I would look at the early buyout. I would just kind of do some research in that. But then in the meantime, between now and two years, be saving some cash, knowing that you're gonna have to replace this car. But I would take, yeah, this 10 grand, Gabriela, I would pay off the, yep, the bedroom set.

Starting point is 00:38:39 And then be looking at the 18 that you'll probably have to take a loan out for, for the remainder of that RV after you sell it. Okay, so I shouldn't give it back to the bank and then let them sell it and then me pay the difference? You're saying to have the RV repossessed? Yes. I wouldn't do that.

Starting point is 00:39:00 No, I wouldn't do that, because I would go on your credit. I would just find the private sale, list it, sell it yourself, get as much as you can for it, obviously. And then, yeah, you'll have to have a loan for the difference and then you'll be working your way out of that. I wish we had better news. The good news is you make great money.

Starting point is 00:39:23 You make six figures We've seen bigger scarier numbers than this Yeah, but it's the hurt and shame and guilt and baggage and oh my gosh, I'm so stupid You got to just pick yourself up and go listen that doesn't define me. Yeah, I'm gonna make different decisions And Gabriella, is it just you? Are you single kids? Yes. It's just me and my two girls Okay, so you do have two girls. Okay, how old are they? I have a nine-year-old and a three-year-old. Okay, so sweet.

Starting point is 00:39:51 That's so great. Okay, so what you're probably gonna be doing, I mean, where you can work extra, and even if it's at night online or something, like if there's something that you can do to find that extra money. But with this 133 I mean I would act like I would tighten everything up and

Starting point is 00:40:09 I mean give yourself a goal to say I'm gonna act like I make 70,000 a year or whatever it is and then Find a difference to have an end point to say okay I could be completely debt-free be done with all of this and start fresh not owing anyone anything and done with all of this and start fresh, not owing anyone anything and start this whole process. I'm like, you could do this in 18 months, Gabriella. I mean, if you really focused and did this, the car lease, you know, kind of hangs in the balance

Starting point is 00:40:35 of what you decide there, but being able to have no payments and this income going to you and your girls and you guys keeping all of it, that's the goal we want for you. Have you been through Financial Peace University? No. Okay, so if you hold on the line, Scholar's gonna pick up and we're gonna gift that to you

Starting point is 00:40:52 as well as Every Dollar Premium, which is our budgeting app. And so what I want you to do, Gabrielle, is watch these lessons, even binge them. There's gonna be seven lessons, and I want you to go through and watch all of this and really get a game plan to say, okay, here is how I take control of my money. And what that's gonna teach you is everything

Starting point is 00:41:11 from budgeting to getting out of debt, to saving up for an emergency funds, to investing to your kid's college. I mean, it kind of runs the game out of everything and it's all packaged in there. And so to be able to walk through that and apply this stuff, Gabriella, because what you've already witnessed and experienced

Starting point is 00:41:28 is that money, it's personal finance, it's 80% behavior. It's only 20% head knowledge. You're gonna watch these videos and be like, I knew that. I knew I should probably co-sign some furniture for a family member. I know that I probably, okay, now, okay. You know, you're gonna get all that, but actually changing the behavior and doing it is gonna be the key to you winning

Starting point is 00:41:46 and I believe in you I know you can do this Gabriella we're cheering you on so hold on the line Skylar will pick up that's the theme of this hour don't spend money you don't have especially with people you're not married to that puts this hour of the Ramsey show in the books my thanks to my co-host Rachel Cruz all the folks in the booth and you America thank you Thank you so much for listening. We'll be back before you know it. All right, Dave, you have some strong opinions. Possibly, yeah. Yeah, I think so.

Starting point is 00:42:40 Okay, because you really prefer credit unions over big banks. So why is that? Well, credit unions, for one thing, are non-profit, which means that the members, the customers own the credit union. So any profits that the credit union makes goes back into customer pricing. So you get better interest rate on savings, cheaper checking, and so on, that kind of thing. What's more important than that though is the fact that the customer is the owner

Starting point is 00:43:14 changes the spirit on the credit union. So I find very few credit unions that aren't very customer-centric. Yes. Well, and I think we have found one that is incredible, and that's Fairwinds. They are an incredible credit union that is really out with the heart to help the customer. You know, that's why we're partnering with them because they've got a scope to be able to handle the Ramsey audience and they're the right kind of people with the right kind of values and they've done a really, really good job with customer service and the deals that they're offering the Ramsey tribe is incredible. Yeah, absolutely. And you're right, their customer service is unbelievable. Winston and I just signed up and we got an account.

Starting point is 00:43:49 And I'm not kidding, it took less than five minutes. It was so user friendly. The step-by-step approach was unbelievable. And then the next day, my phone rings and it says, fair wins on my phone. So I answered it and talked to someone there and they said, yeah, they give calls to every new customer. And so again, they just really care about your experience

Starting point is 00:44:08 and I so, so appreciate that. So again, you guys, I know it can be a pain to switch banks or to open up new accounts, but Fairwinds, again, they make it so easy. Plus anything that you can do at a traditional branch, you can do with them at fairwinds.org or on their app. And you'll have free access to over 33,000 ATMs. Hey, you guys know how much I hate banks in general.

Starting point is 00:44:31 And so for me to do this is a big deal. Talk to our friends at Fairwinds and check out the combined checking and savings bundle that they created just for the Ramsey tribe. You guys, it's incredible. Yeah, you guys, it's so easy to join Fairwinds no matter where you live. So go to fairwinds.org slash Ramsey to learn more.

Starting point is 00:44:50 That's F-A-I-R-W-I-N-D-S dot org of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create amazing relationships. I'm George Campbell, joined by bestselling author Rachel Cruz. This is your show, America. Give us a call at 888-825-5225. You jump in, we'll talk about your life and your money, and we'll try to help you take the right next step when it comes to your biggest your money, and we'll try to help you take the right next step when it comes to your biggest life decisions,

Starting point is 00:45:47 and maybe smallest. You know, it can be a first world problem. Yeah. We're down to chat about that too. We're here for everything. No problem, too small. Kenneth kicks us off in Houston, Texas. Welcome to the Ramsey Show, Kenneth.

Starting point is 00:45:59 Hello. Hey, how you doing? I'm doing fine for now What's going on? so I'm current currently in a situation where I'm living in my car. I started in November Because I racked up about $14,000 and credit cards And I have 16 on my car as well So 16 16 thousand Oh man. And I have 16 on my car as well. 16,000?

Starting point is 00:46:25 Yes, on my car. Okay. Where were you living before this? I was actually living in an apartment with my cousin and her boyfriend, but they decided to get their own place, so I ended up in a car. And right now you can't afford rent because of the debt? Yes. It's taking about half of my paycheck every two weeks and my car payment is $346.

Starting point is 00:46:57 So I'm left with about $200. So I started this debt snowball and I managed to pay off one credit card, but it's still not enough. It sounds like we need to get your income up. Are you working full time right now? Yes, yes I am. I actually, I submitted applications to places. I still haven't heard back yet.

Starting point is 00:47:27 So what are you doing right now for work? I'm with Sterilization Tech. I clean dental instruments. Okay. What do you make doing that? I make $18 an hour. On my W-2, it said I made $32,000 this year. Okay. And you're working 40 hours a week? It's between that. We work half days on Fridays, sometimes full days, so between 36 and 40.

Starting point is 00:47:53 Can you work extra if you chose to? Yes, I'm currently looking. Okay, I would see if you can work overtime with your sterilization job. On top of that, getting another job on the side, I mean, $18 an hour is not nothing. And so it feels like it's not just a car loan. What's your minimum payment on the credit cards?

Starting point is 00:48:15 All together, it's over 500, 529. I have a spread between seven. And you have any friends or family that you could have to help support you, go live with some friends for now, crash on a couch, anything like that? Friends, no. Family, I do, they have offered,

Starting point is 00:48:38 but the environment for me around them is I do not enjoy. So I rather stay in the car The environment for me around them is I do not enjoy. So I rather stay in the car instead of having my emotional wellbeing. Are you safe living in this car? Where are you actually staying? So I stay around near my job. So far nothing has happened. I believe, I don't know how many months, like four months

Starting point is 00:49:07 now. Are you able to shower and how are you doing all of that? So I actually have a gym membership. So showering, doing whatever I need to do, I can handle that at the gym. Okay. Kenneth, how much is your car worth? Um, it's, I checked on Kelly Blue Book. It's at 12,000 the last time I checked. Okay, worth 12,000.

Starting point is 00:49:36 Okay. You owe 16 some change? Yes. Yes. And no money saved? No. No. And the money saved? No. No.

Starting point is 00:49:46 And the, because my biggest concern right now, Kevin, for you, yeah, is what kind of George was hinting at, but it is your living situation. I mean, one of these, you know, four walls is what we say, food, shelter, utilities, transportation. Like these are things that are necessities, those are needs, and you're lacking, obviously, one of those.

Starting point is 00:50:03 So the family situation, would it be, is there a way to at least have a roof over your head and give yourself a timeframe and say within 90 days, I'm gonna be out of here and looking for my own place, but just for the bare necessity of having a home. That's what I just worry for you when it comes to that, is just having a place to stay. Well, the place, at my family's place,

Starting point is 00:50:39 I would have to pay rent, which is not much, but I wouldn't have any left to put towards my credit cards. So right now, if you're working 40 hours a week at 18 an hour, it's about 2,900 bucks a month before taxes. So how much is getting taken out of these paychecks? Are you actually looking at the paychecks and seeing where it's going? No.

Starting point is 00:51:06 I know that about $180 is being taken out for insurance, but taxes-wise, I have not checked. Okay, I would go look at that. Make sure you're not taking out too much in taxes. Make sure that you're not putting any money away into investments. Right now, every dollar you can get out of those paychecks needs to go to covering your four walls, like Rachel mentioned. Yeah, because besides the,

Starting point is 00:51:29 you have the car payment, the credit cards, but you should have around $2,000 left. Cause you got about 900 in payments? That's what it's looking like. I get each paycheck, it depends. I get about the minimum at least 1,060 each month. I'm at each every two weeks. Okay, so the first thousand covers your debt payments.

Starting point is 00:51:53 Where's the other thousand going? I have no idea. Okay, so I think that's gonna be a, that's a key piece to this, Kenneth, because a thousand dollars, I'm like, that's a significant a, that's a key piece to this, Kenneth, because a thousand dollars, I'm like, that's a significant amount, right? So I would want you to be tracking and knowing, like this is exactly where every single dollar is going,

Starting point is 00:52:14 right, and even just going back to the basic of a budget. And we can, if you hold in the line, we'll give you every dollar premium to be able to figure out so specifically where that is, because I don't want you, yeah, I don't want you behind on payments. In a perfect world, I want you to be able to have enough money to pay rent somewhere.

Starting point is 00:52:33 And you need to be working every weekend. I was gonna say weekends and even nights, Kenneth, it's gonna be exhausting, but you're, I mean, you're gonna have to dig yourself out of this hole. And one of the, I mean, the two ways to do that is income and expenses, right? Those are the two parts of the equation. So upping the income, lowering the expenses,

Starting point is 00:52:51 is gonna help you gain some traction. Do you have insurance bills as well to pay outside of healthcare? No, it's too much for me right now. Like auto insurance? Yeah, for the minimum for me is 400, so. Why is that? I can't.

Starting point is 00:53:11 You have a bad driving record? No, my driving record's good. It's just been like that. The lease I have paid is 300. Maybe it's because I was in an accident, but it wasn't my fault. Kenneth, you need auto insurance, man. Even if it's $300, you're in a very risky position right now. Jump on ramsysolutions.com, connect with one of our insurance pros to help you with that, and hang on the line. We'll send you every dollar premium to help you make

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Starting point is 00:56:02 Jennifer's in New Orleans. Up next, what is going on Jennifer? Hi, how are y'all? Doing well, how are you? Great. How can we help today? So, I have a 17 year old son, almost 18, and we've pretty much raised him on FPU principles since he was about six or seven years old. And he is in a pretty serious, healthy relationship with a young lady that we do really like. And I know it may seem like too early to tell or anything like that.

Starting point is 00:56:33 We're not the kind of parents that's like, oh my God. But you know, you have that feeling. But you're hopeful she might be the one. I'm pretty sure. So, you know, not anytime in the near future, but she is, she is set on being an orthodontist. And expensive. Exactly. That is my question of how to approach this with them.

Starting point is 00:56:57 We have talked to him just briefly. The conversations have just started. He does think it's dumb to take out student loans. Um, she's briefly said that she's totally fine with having $250,000 of student loans that might take the 20 years to pay off because that's what usually what us have. And I kind of briefly said that you guys may not even be afford to eat. And I just don't know how else to approach this. Um, besides maybe getting them to watch

Starting point is 00:57:25 the bar of future, take foundations in finance, but you know, it's just starting. Yeah, well a lot of this stems from how she grew up with money and what her parents believe about money. Right. And so this is a money values conversation that your son will eventually need to grapple with as they head toward maybe a marriage. Right, and that's what we've been talking about with him. Yeah, and I think it's, I mean, he's getting to the age,

Starting point is 00:57:50 he's 17, almost 18. So, and again, I don't have kids that age, but there starts to be that level of letting go, right? That eventually they're gonna be off in college, they're gonna be making their own decisions. Like there is that, that season of life is coming soon. And so it always begs the question, it changes a little bit

Starting point is 00:58:12 because he's still under your roof in my opinion, but it always begs the question of, if no one's asking advice, when do we give it? And what can we control? Because the truth is you can't control what she chooses to do. And it gets to a point too, that eventually soon they're going to just be making their own decisions regardless of what you guys think or not. Right.

Starting point is 00:58:33 So, so if anything, it would be a conversation with him. I, I don't know what y'all's relationship was obviously they've been dating a while, but you're not her parents. Right. So, um, but you are your son's parent. And so I think having that relationship of being able to have the conversation of, hey, this is what life will look like, you know,

Starting point is 00:58:53 if she chooses to go down this path. And then, you know, we get people, you know, in the medical field call us all the time, Jennifer pharmacists and all this, and they have $200,000 in debt, but they're making 160,000, right? And so usually the hope is, is that you have a bigger shovel

Starting point is 00:59:09 if you're choosing to go a path, in this medical type field. It doesn't always happen. They could get married, she gets pregnant and wants to stay home, and then all of her options are gone, right? Because she has to go pay the step back. So there's a lot of life in there,

Starting point is 00:59:22 but as a, for, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know how much you can control it, right? And until they're married, he doesn't really get a vote in her life. He may have influence, but he doesn't have a financial vote as to what she does or doesn't do.

Starting point is 00:59:35 The worrisome part was how flippant she was about it. Well, she's 17 though. I'm just saying like, well, this is normal. I'll just pay off my 300,000 over 20 years. I think we need to give her a dose of reality. And I think you're right. Like sitting them down and saying, hey, would you guys watch this documentary

Starting point is 00:59:50 called Borrowed Future? Yeah, but if it's not her daughter. Well, if she's over the house a lot. But if they're not engaged and stuff, like, I don't know. I mean, I'd probably pop on Borrowed Future because I am that dad. And just to have it on in the background. Just to have it on. Yeah, I mean, I guess if it's in

Starting point is 01:00:03 like a very organic conversation, you know, but I don't know, it would, I don't know. It would feel like overstepping boundaries. Do you feel like that if you brought this up, it would be overstepping your boundaries? Well, I have brought it up to my son and he said that she would watch it with him. He has brought it up to her.

Starting point is 01:00:21 And so we do plan on doing that this summer. Okay. And is her family- Okay, Jennifer, is he about to buy a ring? Like when you say they're serious. Okay, so honestly, honestly too, and you know this Jennifer, at 17, you're 17. I'm like, I knew multiple friends

Starting point is 01:00:37 that were dating in high school. They go to college within nine months or so. They're off on different schools. You change so much in that season. But also Rachel got married in college. I wouldn't, I had a semester left. Thank you, Winston had been graduated a year ago. I had a semester left, thank you George.

Starting point is 01:00:54 So it can happen, but what I'm saying though is I do wonder if you're ringing your, I don't want you to worry about something that's not your problem right now. Do you know what I mean? It's not like they're getting engaged this summer and getting married and then she's choosing to go in at 18 years old, right?

Starting point is 01:01:08 Like, I don't know. We may have different opinions, George. I just think it's one of those things you gotta, you cross the bridge when you get there. And if she ends up in a bunch of debt and they do end up getting married and she's aligned on the values of wanting to get out aggressively, then they'll be okay.

Starting point is 01:01:21 Their life's not over. You can still have a great marriage, but it is gonna add a wrench in whatever their plans are. Yes, that's right. It just adds that weight. It's gonna hold them back, building wealth. But the long-term hope is that she gets on the same page with money and goes, you know what?

Starting point is 01:01:36 I'm not waiting 20 years. If she does end up taking this debt, I wanna be done with this thing in three or four. Yeah, and Jennifer, you do this after school too. And I know people, majority of people change their major, right, like halfway through. So I'm like, she may not even end up doing it anyways, right, so.

Starting point is 01:01:50 That's what I'm hoping. Yeah, yeah. And they may not even be dating. I mean, I don't know. That's a tough one. Yeah, yeah. There's no easy answer here. I don't want you to worry, Jennifer,

Starting point is 01:01:59 because I just don't feel like the reality is happening. It may happen in like four years, but a lot of factors have to play in for this to actually happen. But I really do appreciate you looking out, obviously for your son. That's what I'm thinking. It's for your son.

Starting point is 01:02:17 What she does though is, I don't know. Well, keep us posted. Call us back in a few years. Yeah, okay. So tell me this, let's split the tables a little bit, George. Okay, let's say Mia comes home. Oh my goodness. We need a different, okay, let's go.

Starting point is 01:02:27 First of all, America, Mia is my eight month old daughter. Just for context. Okay. So she comes home, and this is not picking on Jennifer, but it does raise the question. Where was she? If she wasn't at home. She was at her boyfriend's house, okay?

Starting point is 01:02:39 Okay. And her boyfriend's, I was gonna use health. I don't wanna use money as the example, but health, okay? And she comes home and she says, yeah, I mean, Brad's mom set me down. She's dating a Brad? She has to date a Brad in this scenario. She's dating a Brad.

Starting point is 01:02:54 Oh, I already have feelings about this. And she says, oh my gosh, Brad's mom, you know what, you're not the mom, you're the dad, you may feel differently. Brad's mom set me down and told me, the way you've been feeding us gluten-free, all this stuff is actually really harmful. And I actually need gluten and dairy and all of this

Starting point is 01:03:12 that you've deprived me of, Dad. So I, like, because of this Brad's mom, like, I'm choosing to say, would you even be like, Brad's mom, what the heck? Stop teaching me about- I'm trying to put myself in a place where there's a contentious argument about gluten. I'm trying to make it to my world.

Starting point is 01:03:31 I'm trying to put it in your world, yeah. I mean, I think as an adult, I'd have an adult conversation with the other adult and come to a compromise. Okay, so you would reach out to Brad's mom and be like, hey, okay, so that's what I'm saying. Like the blurred line with Jennifer and this girl who's not her daughter, is it overstepping boundaries?

Starting point is 01:03:50 Is it parenting another person's child when the girl isn't asking? You know what I mean? Yeah, and it's not a fiance, it's just a girlfriend. That's right, yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like future mother-in-laws give unsolicited advice all the time. That's just a part of being a potential future mother-in-law.

Starting point is 01:04:03 You know? I guess so, I don't know.-law. You know? I guess so. I don't know. They may never get along. I'm so glad you called Jennifer. That's a really good, it's an interesting scenario to be thinking about for sure. I would love to hear from the girlfriend's parents. But I also, and I'm thinking about little Charles now, my son.

Starting point is 01:04:17 Like if he was, yes, dating a girl and she was going to go, I would be like, y'all don't do, like stop, no, no. Like I would feel that, you know, that tension. Oh, I'd feel the way you do. Of like, you're about to enter into something really hard that you don't have to enter into right now. Like, you know. Because the damage hasn't been done yet.

Starting point is 01:04:33 That's right. So we're going like, we can prevent a lot of this. Yes. Is there another way? Right, right. That's what I don't know. Did the girlfriend and parents save for college at all? Did she just on a whim decide I want to be an orthodontist

Starting point is 01:04:42 one year before going off to college? Yeah. There's a lot of further questioning that we don't have to answer to. 100%. 100%. But yeah. If Mia starts eating gluten and... We have had that discussion in the camel house. We're like, will she eat gluten one day? I don't know. We don't have it in the house. Well, will she get it? If she dates a Brad. It's like alcohol. It's like she's not drinking in our house. I'll tell you that much. Oh, that would have been a better one if you don't, if you're a family that doesn't drink. Save that one for next time. Yeah so I'll tell you that much. Ooh, that would have been a better one if you don't, if you're a family that doesn't drink. And that, oh.

Starting point is 01:05:07 Save that one for next time. Yeah, we'll do that next time. Hey, more of your wonderful calls coming up. Always a great conversation. Triple 8, 825-5225. This is The Ramsey Show. Hey, what's up guys? It's Jade Warsha and look, if there's anybody who knows student loan debt is a problem, it's me. My husband and I had $280,000 of it, but we were able to dig ourselves out

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Starting point is 01:08:00 Mike is in DC up next. Mike, how are you doing today? Hey, I'm doing great. Thanks. How are you doing? Well, how can we help? alright, so around August last year, I finally decided to accept the fact that I found myself about Well, I'll just tell you eleven thousand six hundred and sixty dollars in credit card debt So I decided to put myself on a budget and start paying it off. Good.

Starting point is 01:08:27 I've made about $5,486 in payments toward that debt, which leaves me about- Just about? Was that exact? Wow. Yeah, that was exact. Good. And then it leaves me with exactly $6,173 in remaining debt to pay. Is that all of your debt? Yes.

Starting point is 01:08:49 Okay. And as I'm paying this off, I wanna get more aggressive with it, but I'll be honest, I'm really a little worried about pulling money away from a recurring retirement and savings contributions to do it. I just wonder sort of what's your perspective on should I stop, you know, paying my 401k to get that debt paid down as aggressively as possible or should I just continue on?

Starting point is 01:09:17 How old are you, Mike? I'm 32. Okay. What are you contributing right now to retirement? Okay. What are you contributing right now to retirement? I contribute about $300 a month towards it. What percentage of your income is that? So I make 81,000 a year.

Starting point is 01:09:38 So I guess, I don't know, back of the napkin math, I'd say that's probably like 6%. You're saying 300 bucks a month? 300 bucks a pay period, so 600 bucks a month. Oh, okay, okay, 600 bucks a month. Well, I'll tell you this much, that's not gonna give you a great retirement anyways. And so our plan is to pause contributions to retirement

Starting point is 01:10:03 so that when you get back to investing, you're investing 15% consistently without fail for the next decade or two until you get your house paid off and then you can invest even more. And so that's the purpose of us telling people to pause the 401k is twofold. Number one, it actually frees up the 600 bucks a month that can now go toward the credit card, right?

Starting point is 01:10:25 Right. And number two, it lights a fire under your butt to get out of debt faster because you desperately wanna get back to investing, don't you? Yes. And the problem right now is, you're a little bit comfortable.

Starting point is 01:10:37 Like, yeah, you wanna get out of debt, but you also wanna invest and nothing's on fire. And I like the fire that is created when you pause investing. It tells your own body, this is serious. We need to get out of this debt ASAP because I wanna build wealth and stop paying for the past. What is the debt of the interest rate on these credit cards?

Starting point is 01:10:57 Well, I actually was able to consolidate my debt into a 0% card. So I've had some high interest debt that I've already paid off. And the debt that remains is one single amount on a 0% card and that 0% goes until March, next year. Okay. So how quickly can you pay off if you pause investing,

Starting point is 01:11:26 you've got the extra 600 bucks back, you got six grand left on the credit card, you're making 81, how quickly can you pay this off if you do all of that? Probably seven to eight months. Let's call it six months. Okay. How would you like to be debt-free in six months?

Starting point is 01:11:43 Do you have any money in savings? Yes, I do. I've got about, I've got three grand in a brokerage, 70 in retirement and 1,500 in my emergency fund. Okay. So you've got 4,500 in liquid cash right now. Yes. Well, you could lower this,

Starting point is 01:12:04 I mean, more than half today if you wanted to. If you wanted to keep a thousand dollar emergency fund and then throw the brokerage account and $500 that's in your emergency fund at this debt, then you're down to, you know, 6,000. 2600 bucks? Yeah. And if you pause investing, now you have an extra 600,

Starting point is 01:12:24 this thing's done in like two or three months, dude. It's done like really soon. And then just build your emergency fund back up for a few months and throw some cash in there to get that back up. And then I would, yeah. By the end of the year, you'll be investing 15%. Yeah.

Starting point is 01:12:37 You'll have almost tripled your investing. Do you see the excitement that we have as to why this plan works? Yes, I do. And I think I just needed to hear somebody tell me it was okay because I'm just very wary of liquidating that extra cash, but I totally see what you're saying.

Starting point is 01:12:55 Yeah, and Mike, and the reality is too, people kind of are like, oh, $1,000 emergency fund. These Ramsey people are crazy. But here's the truth. If a larger emergency fund or a larger emergency comes up, usually you don't have to pay for that. Like today, usually you can say, okay, I have two to three weeks. I got to come up with some cash with my emergency fund and figure out how to pay

Starting point is 01:13:15 this. You know, you'll pause the debt snowball and figure it out. But the problem is, is that people try to do kind of what you're doing, Mike, six different things at once, or they try to go and build up this big emergency fund before they get out of debt, and they never even get to getting out of debt, because they spend so much time with just the savings portion to feel comfortable.

Starting point is 01:13:33 And there's really never a number that you're like, okay, now I feel good that I can go pay off debt. It's kind of this idea immediately, when you become debt-free, what we say your largest wealth building tool, it's your income, it all comes back to you. And it's an amazing thing when you say, okay, all these credit cards are gone,

Starting point is 01:13:49 there's no bank in my life left. And now I get to decide what to do with my income. And you're able that much faster than to build up an emergency fund to three to six months of expenses, which is what we want you to do. We don't want you to stay at $1,000 forever. But for you Mike, you're only gonna stay there

Starting point is 01:14:05 for like two months, month and a half, right? I'm like, it'll be so fast that you're gonna be fine. Okay, all right. So I think I know what I need to do. Booyah, another one bites the dust, Rachel. We did it, Mike's on the path. All right, let's see if we can help Jordan out and Boise up next.

Starting point is 01:14:26 Jordan, what's happening? Hi, so my wife and I, we've been married about six months and we're just now starting baby step one. We're working towards getting $1,000 in the savings account. And we just feel really overwhelmed. So we had to move to Boise for my job and the housing market is awful here. And we only have about $6,000 in student loans left. And then probably at about another

Starting point is 01:15:00 4,000 because of a medical emergency that happened with the ER. Okay. So you had 10K in debt? 10K in debt, right. So I separated those because we're not getting interest on the hospital. Okay, so you have 10K in debt? 10K in debt, right. So I separated those because we're not getting interest on the hospital. It's just a payment plan. And so yeah, just this idea of, you know, once we get to that point, by the time we get to, you know, 20% down on a minimum of a $400,000 house, which is not not like that's the lowest I've ever seen it in Boise. It just seems impossible to buy a house. Well you're not gonna buy a house now Jordan you guys are broke. You don't have a thousand dollars in

Starting point is 01:15:34 savings. Yeah so it's not a 20% down payment that's a suggested amount you can go down to five for a first time home buyer, so five percent. And by the time you guys do all of this, how much do you guys make a year? Together, we make about $66,000 before taxes. Okay. So yeah, by the time you guys pay off $10,000 of debts and get a fully funded emergency fund of three to six months of expenses, it's going to be, I mean, 18, 24, three years, you know, till that happens. And honestly, Jordan, it's going be, I mean, 18, 24, three years, you know, till that happens.

Starting point is 01:16:05 And honestly, Jordan, it's gonna be a whole new world. We got an election year, who knows what interest rates are gonna do, like, we don't know what's gonna be going on, but we would still stick with that at least 5% down idea. And I just don't believe that the lowest house you can find is a $400,000 house in Boise. I don't believe that. Well, you know why?

Starting point is 01:16:24 Because I live in Nashville and it's the hottest market right now. And my husband, he just went and, we were doing the investment real estate right now and he got like a great $200,000 house. It's a two bedroom, one bath. They're flipping it in a place outside of Nashville. So I just don't believe the $400,000.

Starting point is 01:16:44 I get that housing is expensive. Well, I debunked it, Rachel. I'm literally on realtor.com right now. What do you got? There's at least 30 houses that are beautiful, three bedrooms, single family homes, under 400. All right, Jordan, let's. So you can do this, man.

Starting point is 01:16:55 You sound a little like us when we get dramatic sometimes. Focus on one thing at a time. It's never gonna happen. It's gonna happen, Jordan. Get your income up and you'll get there. Calm down. You've been married six months. You guys just be patient. And in three years, it's a whole new world

Starting point is 01:17:08 And hopefully there'll still be these wonderful houses and boys see that I'm looking at right now on George's computer It's not in the Constitution that newlywoods have to own a home. So I hope that frees you Jordan. Thanks for the call This is the Ramsey show I talk to people every day who want to know how to do better in two areas, money and relationships. That's why I'm pumped to bring the Money and Relationships Tour to a city near you. Join me and Dr. John Delaney for a night that will challenge the way you think about this stuff and possibly change how you live forever. Starting April 21st we'll be in Louisville, then on to Durham, Atlanta, Phoenix, Fort Worth and Kansas City.

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Starting point is 01:18:47 from my son and daughter who are both under the age of 12. When I showed them to my husband, he responded that he had taken them out in our children's names to help them establish a credit score before they became adults. We have followed your principles for years, so I was shocked that he did this without talking to me about it.

Starting point is 01:19:03 How should I handle this situation? Whoa, this feels like there's a there's a tinge of financial infidelity here. Behind her back opened up credit cards and the kids. Yes, and not and not mention it in the way that you're when you said, you know, we've followed the principles from year for years. I'm assuming that means you guys are on the same page or talking about money. I mean, there's some couples that, you know, they don't know what the other one's doing. But if you are following a level of Ramsey, and that means you are, you know, connected and you're talking about money.

Starting point is 01:19:32 So the fact that he didn't bring it up, that feels that feels very off to me. Very off. Yeah. And the fact he opened up credit cards in your kids' names. Well, I'm guessing he it's in his name and they got cards with their names on it as authorized users Yeah, because if you take out a Yeah, a line of credit for a child, right? I mean you it's a trend because of these tik-tok videos where they go Hey parents, here's a life hack for you

Starting point is 01:19:56 Add your kids as authorized users and they can take your credit score when they're 18 and have great credit So they can go get some more debt. Yep. Well, what we've heard too is people calling the show saying, yeah, my parents took out debt in my name to build up a good credit score. And then they ended up- Destroyed my credit. Yeah, destroyed the credit because they couldn't handle it. And so you're just like, oh, it's, yeah.

Starting point is 01:20:17 And it gets to be a fine line too of identity theft. I'm like, if you're, you know what I mean? Like it's kind of to a point of like- There was no consent here. I mean, yeah. So it's, I don't like it. I don like, if you're, you know what I mean? Like it's kind of to a point of like- There was no consent here. I mean, yeah. So it's, I don't like it. I don't like playing the game. And so, yeah, but a lot of it is a TikTok trend.

Starting point is 01:20:31 Yeah, there's a, we have an article here related to this. Parents are gaming their kids' credit scores and it's around the same idea of stories of people who had their parents add them as authorized users. There's some horror stories in there. There's some explanation, but it says, many are taking advantage of these tools. A 2019 poll commissioned by creditcards.com,

Starting point is 01:20:49 that's perfect, 8% of roughly 1,500 American parents surveyed said that at least one of their minor children had a credit card, presumably through authorized usership because kids under 18 can't get their own card. And TransUnion data showed that nearly 700,000 22 to 24 year olds had authorized user accounts. Oh dang, yeah. So, and here's the thing,

Starting point is 01:21:10 I don't think these are terrible people, they're just well-meaning parents who have fallen for the system. Who go, well, this is the path, they gotta have the credit score, because otherwise, how are they gonna rent an apartment, and how are they gonna travel, and they can't book airlines without,

Starting point is 01:21:23 and I'm going, have you ever tried a different route? You don't need to do all this gyration to live your financial life. Yes, there's so much more freedom, you guys, when you're not chasing the credit score. You can live life without a credit score. You can do everything you just said without a credit score.

Starting point is 01:21:37 It is possible. You can even get a house through manual underwriting without a credit score. And so, yeah, I think, like you said, it's good intentions. I'm going in saying, I'm gonna try to set my kids up, but you're falling right into the system that gets so many people, millions of people stuck

Starting point is 01:21:52 and in that wheel of debt. And it's like, it's not worth it. It's not worth playing the game. And then let alone having any level of risk for another human being of their financial wellbeing, that if you screw this up, it then just hurts you. It's hurting your kids then at that point. I mean, so it's just, it's a mess.

Starting point is 01:22:08 It is absolutely bonkers. And I cover this in my book, Breaking Free from Broke. I have a whole chapter on credit scores, a whole chapter on credit cards, and I unpack how to live life outside of the system. And it's not as complicated or as difficult as people would have you believe. In fact, it's way more peaceful.

Starting point is 01:22:23 It's way more simple. I don't have 16 cards to manage to try to get the rotating cash back rewards. I have a debit card and I use it and it has my money on it. And when that money's gone, it is gone. You know what's funny, George? I feel like when things are less complicated,

Starting point is 01:22:38 they feel less sophisticated, right? Everyone's like, oh, but that's so boring. That can't be the smartest way. Yeah, yeah, there's gotta be so many other hoops to jump through. And you can live your life that way financially, you can, but that's so boring. That can't be the smartest way. Yeah, yeah, there's gotta be so many other hoops to jump through and you can live your life that way financially you can, but you're gonna be exhausted. You're gonna be exhausted again,

Starting point is 01:22:50 with a system that is set up to screw you. Like that's what it is. It's not there to free you and for you to be financially free. They want you in the system because they make so much money off of you. But when you exit out of the system and you're like, you know what?

Starting point is 01:23:02 I'm gonna live with a debit card with cash, we're gonna save up and pay for things. And we're not gonna sit here and try to play the industry's games over and over and over and over and over and over. What is sophisticated is peace. It is, I'm like, there's just that level there that is, it is so much worth it than the mental dance and gymnastics that you have to play.

Starting point is 01:23:20 So here's a wild concept. What if as a parent you taught your kids how to manage money instead of managing debt? That's all a credit score is, is how well you've managed debt. Doesn't reflect how much money you have in the bank, doesn't reflect your income. It just reflects your relationship with the lender.

Starting point is 01:23:34 And so that's how I'm aiming with my kid. I'm going, they're not gonna, they're gonna look at people with credit scores and credit cards going, why are they doing all that work, dad? And I'm like, I don't know, America, it's crazy. Lost our minds. It's crazy out there.

Starting point is 01:23:47 Oh man, yeah, parents don't take credit cards out and don't be an authorized user. And don't say you follow our principles for years while you still clearly have credit cards. You don't get to pick and choose. This isn't a buffet. This isn't a buffet. Get out of here. Get out of here.

Starting point is 01:24:02 All right, let's go to Shane in St. Paul. Hi Shane, Welcome to the show Thanks Rachel for taking my call. How are you today? We are doing great. Glad you called in. How can we help? Thank you. Well, I'm a relatively new listener. We're on baby step number two and my question is we have probably about And my question is we have probably about $17,500 in credit card debt and a couple of other small loans. And we have some money set aside. And I was wondering, is there any way

Starting point is 01:24:37 that you can deviate from that snowball plan? Tell me, yeah, why would you want to? What are the numbers you're seeing, Shang? It usually comes down to numbers. Okay, basically the biggest one we have is we have a credit card with a high interest rate that has a balance of about 10,000. Okay.

Starting point is 01:25:01 What's the interest rate on that? It's like 18.5% I think. And then we have another credit card with a balance of $7,500 and that interest rate is 9.9%. And then we have a kind of like a small home improvement loan with the balance of like $350 that you have to pay off. And then I have a work loan that I got through my work with with Euro present interest and I have a balance of like $800 on that. Okay. And how much do you guys have saved? Well, we just got our taxes back,

Starting point is 01:25:49 and so we have about 14,500. Amazing. Oh my gosh. So the math doesn't matter that much because you've just knocked out all the debts but the last credit card in this scenario. Right, so I guess my question is, would it make sense to pay off the highest one,

Starting point is 01:26:10 the $10,000 first, and then pay the two small loans, and then whatever's left pay on that last credit card? No, I mean, listen, if you're doing the math, I understand what you're saying because of the interest rate. And what we always talk about on this show, Shane, and what you're gonna start to realize is that personal finance and winning with money

Starting point is 01:26:32 is so much more about your behavior than it is about math. And so if we were all chasing math, we wouldn't be in debt in the first place, right? So it's not a math problem. It really is us winning. And so the fact that you do have a bulk of money, which is absolutely amazing, what that does to me, that just, that jump starts.

Starting point is 01:26:52 I mean, tonight you could have that $800 paid off, that 350, I mean, those are just like ankle biters, right? You're just like, you just need to get in there and just get them done with. And then to pay off a $7,500 credit card in full, and it be completely done, like. And knock the next debt down to probably around six grand. All the way, yes, that's right, that's right, the extra.

Starting point is 01:27:12 Do you have an extra, you'd have almost six grand to throw at the 10K debt. So you'd be down to about $4,000 left. So the 18% interest, the way you're gonna attack this thing, it's not gonna amount to much. Because you're not gonna be in debt, Shane, that much longer. I mean, when you're looking gonna be in debt, Shane, that much longer. I mean, when you're looking from a math standpoint,

Starting point is 01:27:27 you guys could take on extra jobs and get that paid off in two months, you know? Yeah, you throw a thousand bucks a month at this thing, it's gone in four months. Yeah, so it's gonna be so quick that the math at that point doesn't matter. But I'm excited for you. You said you're a new caller,

Starting point is 01:27:39 so I'm so glad that you're joining in and- And using that refund for good instead of a vacation because you deserve it. Amen. Well done, Shane. Well done. Well, thanks to all the men and women in the booth making this show happen. George, thank you. Thanks to our great audience here in Nashville, Tennessee. And thank you, America. This is The Ramsey Show. Hey, you're still here? What are you doing? You do know that the rest of today's show is playing right now over on the Ramsey Network app, right? All you gotta do to finish the

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