The Ramsey Show - It’s Never Too Late to Start Building Wealth

Episode Date: January 20, 2025

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Andrea's in Phoenix up next. What's going on, Andrea? Hi, and thank you for taking my call. Absolutely. My name is Andrea and I am 60 years old and I am employed. I make about, I bring home about 24, $2,864 a month. I live with my son and his family. I bring home about 24, $2,864 a month. I live with my son and his family.

The only outgoing bills I have is my car insurance and I pay for gas and any other incidentals. I want to know, is it possible for me to continue or to own a home and still save for my retirement? I have 69,000 in a 401k. And I'll tell you a little bit. I was in Ohio and I relocated to Arizona before the pandemic. And since I've been here, everything has gotten so inflated. So my decision now is to go back to Ohio,

but while I'm here in this kind of situation to save and not have to pay any bills, I have some time before I get go back to Ohio. So ask me anything. All right. So you told me your stated goal was I want to be able to own a home and retire one day. Yes. Okay. That's going to take a sizable nest egg and a pretty solid savings rate. So how much are you able to save right now? You're saying you got almost no bills. So out of that $28.64, how much is left over?

It'll be $2154, like $2,154 minus the car insurance and the gas but I plan on getting a job in my where I work at to work from home which that would save on the gas and I do have like 45,000 saved up okay that's in a savings account and no debt whatsoever well no not if I have that I just paid off every month if I use a credit card but I did get the Every Dollar app. I recently did that, I'm still working with that. And I've just only been listening to you guys for like three weeks, three or four weeks.

Awesome, welcome to the party. Well, we have a pretty controversial stance around here and that is debt robs you from your future. Even if it's temporary, even if I'm paying it off tomorrow. And so John and I do not own a single credit card. We just use our debit cards, we use our own money. And what you're facing here, Andrea, is an income problem. We've got to get your income up

because that's going to create more margin for you to save for that home. And so you're in what we would call baby steps four, five and six, if you're debt free with an emergency fund, which you just told me you have 45,000 liquid? Yes. Great, and so we'll call that your emergency fund plus some down payment fund,

because you don't need 45,000 I imagine to cover your expenses for three to six months. No. Okay, so your A1 goal if it is buying a home is to put money away for a down payment, but before we do that we should be investing 15% of our income into retirement. So how much are you investing right now?

So right now I'm not investing that much. I think I'm at 1%. And I can probably put that up to where I should be. Why is it at 1%? Because my mind is thinking before I listen to you guys, I was gonna get more in my check to save more, but that just hasn't worked out as well as I wanted it to. Well, you can't save your way to wealth.

We have to invest this money. Cause right now you're not even beating the rate of inflation if that money is just sitting in a checking account. Yes. If you invested, the stock market, the US stock market last year, Andrea, in 2024, returned 24%. So you put $100, Andrea, in 2024, returned 24%. So you put $100,000 in that account,

now it has $124,000. Do you see the difference? Okay. Invested in the stock market. And we're not saying a single stock. You're gonna do mutual funds within that retirement account that will grow at a steady pace, probably 10 to 12% over the next 10 years. And that will at least help give you some cushion.

I don't know that we're gonna have a dream retirement at this stage of the game. We might have to do what John Delaney says and choose our reality and grieve what could have been and create a new picture of what's next. Why don't you wanna live with your son? I just don't want to. I think I just don't want to do the job.

You get to do whatever you want. Going all the way back to Ohio, that's a long way. It feels like an intentional move away from family. Well, it'll be away from this family, but then my sisters and brothers are all back east and they're all getting older and they're all like sickly. Okay. And I guess I wanted to be closer to them not that I don't want to be closer here but it's easier for me to get here. Right now it's not easy for me to get there. Gotcha. And be there as a help. Is there a possibility you could move in with one of your brothers and sisters in a garage apartment or something? I'm just trying to like reimagine buying a house right now versus if you're going to be in a caretaker role, moving in with somebody.

I could. That is a possibility. I'm not going to lie. It's a possibility. Possibility I know it might not be ideal but man, I love the idea of you saving some money over the next five or ten Or fifteen years Until somebody can help you right because you'll need that you'll need somebody to love and care on you also If you move to Ohio is your job gonna go with you Yes, if I get the job from home, my job comes with me. Okay, great. What does that job pay? About $40,000 a year.

Okay. What job is it? What kind of role? I work in the medical records department. What would it look like to make $60,000 or $70,000 at your age with your experience in that field? What does the latter look like to make 60 or 70,000 at your age with your experience in that field? What does the latter look like? I'm not understanding the question.

I'm sorry. Like what would your supervisor be doing in the medical records field? Is there another job out there where you could not just settle for whatever job you could get but go, how do I grow in this field so that I can actually put more away for retirement and save up for that house? I do have a certification for medical coding, but it's been just difficult to get a job because I don't have any experience in that particular job. Would an entry medical coder make $40,000?

They could start off at $40,000? They could make, they could start off at 40,000. Yeah. So that's what I would be doing if the trajectory is higher with your certification. Even if it's not the exact role you want, I would just try to get on A ladders. And the truth is, Andrea, you might be working into your 70s to make this dream happen. Yeah. Are you okay with that? Yeah, I realize that. Mm-hmm.

Okay. I am. I just crunched the numbers for you. You know, you okay with that? Yeah, I realize that. Mm-hmm. Okay. I am. I just crunched the numbers for you. You know, you got 69 grand on that retirement account. You keep investing, let's say, a thousand bucks a month. If you can do that to 72, you'll have over half a million in that nest egg. And on the way, get yourself, you know,

a reasonable mortgage, and that way you're not stuck paying whatever market rent is for the next 12 years. Or, yeah, you take the last two bedrooms in one of your brothers or sisters' house when you're caretaking and you're helping out and maybe you let that dream go of I have to buy my own three or four bedroom house but with a great place to live and you get to care and serve like you like to. Thanks for the call Andrea. This is The Ramsey Show.

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You'll get a bonus entry for everyone who signs up. And it happens this Thursday, 7 p.m. Central. Go to ramsysolutions.com slash live stream. Gene is joining us in Fort Lauderdale. What's going on Gene, how can we help? Hello? Hey. What's up dude?

Yeah, yeah, hi, how are you? Fantastic, what's up brother? Yeah, I have an issue that I've been dealing with for the past few months. Okay, I've, I recently got scammed by someone that I thought was a friend and Is a very complex story. It's kind of hard to explain I don't know if I don't know if I have enough time to explain it. Give me the overview. How'd you get scammed?

Okay, well this started in California before I moved back to Florida You know, there's two different parts of this story, but. Give me the super, super, super distilled version. Did you send the money? Just give us the details. Okay, I sent her money to help with her lymphedema surgery that she was supposed to get, but she never did it. I sent her money to help with her lymphedema surgery that she was supposed to get, but she never did it. She kept making excuses on why she can't get the surgery

and all this stuff. And then the other part was co-signing a car for her. Which I co-signed a car for her before I left to come back to Florida. The money part was after I came back to Florida. Okay. So what are you on the hook for now? You sent money via what for the surgery?

How did you send it? I sent it through Cash App and Apple Cash. Okay, and how much did you send? It was somewhere between like, about somewhere between 30 to 35,000. And you had this money in cash? Not cash, not straight up cash. Like I didn't have it like

You went into debt for this? Like straight up cash in my bank account. I went, yeah, I was already in debt, but now I'm in more debt. Like I just, you know, I feel like the dumbest person in the world talking about this to everybody. No, you're good, man. We're not trying to beat up on you.

I'm trying to get to the bottom of this to see what kind of hole you're in and how we can get you out of it. So you, do you owe 35,000 in debt? No, that's how much I lost. Okay. And you co-signed a car loan. I owe way more in debt than that. I owe way more in debt than that.

I have credit card debts, student loan debt. Yeah, you were in a bad situation before this. It just got way worse. Yeah, because I helped the person and they screwed me over. Yeah. So here's the deal. Before we get to like the tactics part, you're going to have to do two things. One, you have to release that. You did it. It's over. Okay? Somebody was hurting and you reached out and said, I can help you out. And they bitch it twice. Bad. Okay? The more you hang on to that, the more you're choosing on a minute by minute basis to be miserable in the present and to not be able to move forward. Right? Yeah. So let's let go.

The second thing is you have to forgive yourself, man. I've been having a hard time doing that. I know you have. We've all done stupid stuff with people that we were romantically interested in. We've all done stupid stuff with money. We've all just done stupid stuff. Now, we haven't all done it to the tune of 20 or 30 or 40

or $50,000 like you have, so congratulations on that one. But like, we've all done stupid stuff. You gotta forgive yourself, because it's keeping you from doing the next right thing. You get what I'm saying? Yeah. You got a good heart, and I'm glad there are people like you out there that are willing to step in and help. And you got bit, man man and so now you got a big old pile of debt you got a big old mess and you're the only person that can clean it up right yeah okay so let's own that let's release the other nonsense and we're gonna we're gonna move on and do the next right thing cool yeah okay say I forgive myself on national radio I

forgive myself on national radio there I forgive myself on national radio. There you go, man. There you go. You didn't have to say the on national radio part, but I'm with it. I'm with it. I'm with it. All right. Here we go, George. All right. So, Jean, what is your total debt load all in? Of what I owe in like everything. Yes. I mean, I mean, it's a lot after I have to add it up. Is it half a million dollars or is it a hundred thousand?

Give me just a ballpark. I mean, if you add everything with what I owe on my card, my credit card debt, to my student loan debt, to what I owe the IRS, it's like probably more than a hundred thousand. Okay. And what is your income? Right now I'm like, if I had to make a guess, like 40,000 a year. And what are you doing for work? I work for taxes.

I work at FedEx. Okay. You can't make your monthly payments every month. Can you? I'm barely hanging on by a thin string. Okay. And you know, I was doing so, I wouldn't say I wasn't doing like really bad, but I had a little something going. Okay. I was investing in crypto for like almost seven years and all that's gone because I sacrificed and helped this person out

and they screwed me over. I was too trusting. I have too much of a heart. That's one of my problems that I have. I have too much of a heart. Hold on, hold on. Remember when we just talked? Open your hand up. Right now I can hear your hands are clenched.

I can feel it on you. Open your hand up. Let it go. Let it go. Because replaying what you had and what you did over and over and over again will keep you from moving forward What what I'd hear somebody who a has done it before so you can do it again and be you got a great heart The world needs more of both of those attributes You've seen a little more wisdom, okay

Now I would never let this happen again, okay Good what was owed on the car loan? Okay. No, I will never let this happen again. Okay. Good. What was owed on the car loan? For my own car or the one I co-signed for? The one you co-signed for. I think it's like $30,000 in value. Are they making on-time payments?

Well, here's the thing. She's still making the payments, even though they're late payments, but she's still making the payments, which is the part that confuses me here. And I get the feeling that she's, I suspect that she's using my money to make the payments on the car. What she does with that is her business now.

That money's gone. I'm just wondering, do you have a way to get in touch with this person or have they cut off all communication? I cut off all communication. I couldn't take it no more. She is a weirdo. She is a narcissist. Okay. I'm guessing it's too late to go, hey, I need to get out of this. Would you refinance the loan into your name? If she were to refi, like, if she were to refinance it, she's not gonna be able to do it until July of this year because I co-signed for the car last year in July. And at CarMax, you have to wait a year

to refinance the car. And I'm guessing this credit was so bad. They work with these shady companies like Exeter. Yeah, she didn't have good credit, which is why I helped co-sign for the car in the first place. And then, and then, you know, and then. I'm guessing the interest on this thing is like,

what, 12%, 15%? It might be 12%, I'm not sure. I have to call about it. We're running out of time, Gene, but I'm gonna send you a copy of my book, Breaking Free from Broke. And in the book, I talk about this one line that will change everything for you.

It's not all your fault, but it's your responsibility. So like John said, we have to let go of the anger and move forward and go, Gene has $100,000 mess to clean up. In your own life, right? In your own life. In your own credit cards, your own student loans, your own cars. If she's making payments, let her make payments and go on about cleaning up your mess, because

you're not cleaning this deal either, man. And so you're going to have to get your income up. That might mean a second full-time job once you get off the first full-time job, but you can get out of this. It's going to take a while and it's going to take stop borrowing money and obviously you're done getting scammed. So sorry you're going through this, man. This is The Ramsey Show.

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for your life, your money, your emotional health, mental health, relationships, whatever is going on. Tanner's up next in Manhattan, Kansas. What's going on, Tanner? Hi, how are you guys doing? Doing great. How can John and I help? Yeah, so I am getting married in May after my fiance and I graduate.

And thankfully, I've had some very generous parents and grandparents, and I'll be graduating debt-free. My fiancee will have some student loans that will need to pay off because I know that I'll be inheriting that debt as well. My question is, should I use a trust fund that my grandparents have set up for me to help pay off those debts, like right after the honeymoon? Okay. Tell us more. How much debt is this? I think it's around 60 or 70 thousand.

But I'm not entirely sure. Okay. And then tell us about the trust fund. What's it made up of? How much is in there? So I don't actually have access to it yet. I'll get access when I'm 25. I've been able to take out money to max out my Roth IRA these last couple of years, but I think it's around $250,000. Wow. Incredible. Okay. And how old are you now? 23. Okay. So you couldn't even do it immediately. You'd still have to wait.

Correct. So I guess I'm wondering if I should even ask about trying to get access to some money to pay off that debt, even though I won't technically have access yet. What will your household income be once you guys are married? Now we both accept jobs, and I think we'll both be making $58,000. Okay. So I guess a total of $120,000. 120? Yeah. Awesome. be making $58,000. So I guess a total of $120,000. Awesome. And this is all the debt that will be to your name is the 60, 70 grand in her

student loans? Yes. We'll probably have to buy a new car. So, we're not a new car, but buy a car. Who's the custodian of the trust? What's that? Who's the custodian of the trust? My grandparents set it up, but I know my parents can like move money around. Are your grandparents still alive? Yes they are. Okay, so are they in charge of it? Like if you had to go ask, how do you take withdrawals? Let me ask you that. Um, I've, it's always just been we get to the end of the year and it's time to

contribute to the Roth IRA so then I ask my mom and she is able to transfer the money. Okay, I would find out who's in charge of the trust. Okay. Sounds like your parents might be trustees on this thing where they can control it. That sounds right. Okay, do you have any savings?

Yeah, I just studied abroad last semester so it's a little low now but around like $4,000. And with your newfound income, I would begin paying it off in the meantime and if you're able to get access to it to knock this out faster, that's great. But there's another piece of this that I wanna make sure you get, and that's I want you to be able to have your own investing savings muscle

and not rely on this trust fund. And it's not because the trust fund's bad, I just want you to have the muscles where you know if I needed to put 5,000 of my own money away every month from my income, you could do that. And that's gonna be a really good habit for both of you to build as you build wealth together. Yeah, that's definitely the plan

as soon as we start the job and have a stable income is to set up, slide aside, about 15%. I guess another part of the puzzle is like, do I take the 15%, whatever do the company 401k and then afterwards I meet that 15%, do I go to my trust in Max.Roth or? Beyond the 15%, you'd go into BabySeph's five and six, which would be Safer Kids College.

I'm assuming you guys don't have kids. And then BabySeph6 is attacking a mortgage. Do you guys have a house or will you? Well, plenty are renting. Okay, good. So here, if I was gonna financially coach you guys as pre-emerital counseling, I'm gonna go, let's get gung ho on this debt.

Let's take all of our savings, future income. If we can dip into the trust fund, let's knock out this debt fast. Let's get a fully funded emergency fund, begin investing 15%. Beyond that, I would begin saving up a down payment for a house. Okay.

And if you need a car in the meantime, let's set up a sinking fund. Is this like an emergency situation or is this a year from now we need a car? It's not a great car that she has now. I think she's just ready to start new and get a new one. So I would tell you that is the one of the top two or three wealth killers for new couples,

especially when they're under the age of 25. Is this quote unquote, I'm just tired of, or this was my college car, or we just feel like we, or you're my new wife and so I wanna buy you, that's when people get themselves they buy depreciating asset. That just is a such a wealth sock Versus if you all shook hands and agreed on the first two years Let's keep driving the same crappy cars and let's just get so far ahead financially that we can get every car We want for the rest of our time together Yep, I can't think of a bigger mistake

I made right when I graduated college then running and trying to buying by after driving a tiny little crummy car That is probably still running somewhere because you can't kill those old Toyota's I went bought the stupidest biggest dumbest truck I could find it was so dumb. That's a rite of passage for every Texan For every idiot not for every Texan, but for every goofball like me. Yeah, dude. And I think an important call out here, George, is your heart is right, brother. Tanner, like, when y'all get married, her student loan debt is y'all's student loan debt. I would want to know what was the main purpose of this trust? Was it set up for all the grandkids

to get everybody through college, and now you're through college and it's still there? What's the purpose of this trust? What is the original, what was its original intent? And what I don't want you guys to do is be married and have your mommy still dangling this account over your head like, well, are we gonna get grant? Like, I don't like that. That makes me feel like, yeah, getting out of college, man,

I want to know if there's a trust with my name on it. I want to know what the rules and regulations are of this thing when it's fully mine, when I'm in control of it, what the original intent was, all that kind of stuff. And that's just about having a grown-up conversation with whoever the trustee in the custodian is. Sounds good. Thank you very much. You got it, what the original intent was, all that kind of stuff. And that's just about having a grown up conversation with whoever the trustee in the custodian is. Sounds good. Thank you guys very much. You got it, brother.

Absolutely. Yeah, the conversation might be grandma and grandpa go, yeah, we'd love for you to use this as a down payment on a house and get your financial future going and knock out her debt and get you guys some, you know, the right financial steps. But I could see a very real world scenario where, oh, well this wasn't for you paying off your wife's student loans, she needs to. And now we're in a- There's strings attached.

That's right. It gets messy. It gets super messy. And that's what I want. If that's the case, then best of luck to you guys. We're gonna take care of our own financial future at our house. Thank you for having this thing.

Get me through college debt free and getting some Roths funded, but I don't wanna be controlled by this imaginary puppet string over off to the side in a new marriage. Yeah. And that's the context we don't have. That'd be an interesting call to get grandma on the line and say, what's going on here? And she'd say, no, absolutely. Use it forever. He wants, we just want to leave a legacy. And, you know, as long as you're not mismanaging the money, which John and I say, paying off debt is not mismanagement of the money. No.

But I could see a family going, no, this is for us to build wealth with. This was actually for you. Not to pay for someone's past mistakes and debts. That's right, that's right. That's not who this family is, you know. You just never know. Right.

Yeah, that part gives me just some pause. You gotta take a tum just thinking about some of those conversations. But the idea of a trust fund, I mean, that's legacy. As much as people make fun of, oh, you're a trust fund baby. And I'm like, go create that same privilege for your family if you're so upset and jealous that someone would have money left over

instead of leaving their children with a pile of financial mess to clean up. Or I think the TV show version is, the trust fund has $80 billion in it and you're just not working and flying around in jets when actually most trusts are. It's like that. I don't say it's small, but it's a chunk of money.

It's got a very designated purpose. Get you through school, get you that first house. It gives you a leg up. Get you married, that's right. That's right. But it's not a sit back, relax, and a hammock for the rest of your life situation. So I think there's a lot of wisdom there, Tanner.

And you're asking some great questions, especially at 23. At 23, John, I was a knucklehead, still making a lot of wisdom there, Tanner, and you're asking some great questions, especially at 23. At 23, John, I was a knucklehead, you know, still making a lot of mistakes. And clearly, this is what happens. It's not just the money side, it's the character, the financial literacy that was built by his parents, his parents' parents, and you know, the Bible's very clear, leaving inheritance to your children's children.

I believe that's not just about money. I mean, that's, you know, inheritance of a lot of things. Character. And that's where it's one of those moments where it's been about money and it's been about asking. Now it's about a transfer of wisdom and trust. Hey, I want to sit down and talk about the guts, the nuts and bolts of this trust. And that's just an adult conversation that's uncomfortable, but you got to have it. Thanks for the call, Tanner. This is The Ramsey Show. Mortgage rates have dropped, so if you're thinking

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my husband took out from the bank without my knowledge? He recently passed away, and it was only then that I learned that he had a $10,000 loan. When I asked the bank what it was for, they told me that information was confidential, and they couldn't tell me why he needed it. They just said that I'm liable for it as his spouse.

What? Should I pay it off or let it go to collections? Sheesh. I would guess that you inherit the entire account, including the notes. But yeah, you're gonna have to talk to somebody in Rhode Island, because I don't know what the particular.

The laws there are. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You may want to contact an attorney to see if there don't know what the particular. The laws there are, yeah. You may want to contact an attorney to see if there's a way out of this. Yeah. Versus, you know, cosigning on a loan. Yeah. But generally, if it was only his name on the debt,

the spouse wouldn't be liable for it. Unless the estate's liable for it. Yeah, who knows, man. I would, you need some more information here. My fear is the bank's coming for you and they're not being fully open. Because whatever is confidential is going to be in that bank file. And if you inherit everything, then you inherit everything. I feel like there's more going on here.

Yeah, there's some stuff going on here. And I don't know what that is. But you need to get an attorney and dig into it, Cathy. That's really the best. Yeah, in some situations your estate. That's really the best. Yeah, in some situations, your estate is liable for the debt and in some places, like student loans, when you die, the loans go with you. That's the only way to get rid of student loans

in most cases. It'd be debt, that's right. That's dark stuff. Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry for your loss, Cathy. Yeah. And if you have the money and you don't wanna burn the brain calories on this, pay it off. That's right.

Yeah, and by the way, don't let it just go to collections. If you are on the hook for it and it's gonna go into collections and you're attached to it, then yeah, you gotta just pay it off. Or if he somehow took it out in both of your names or he took it out under an account y'all share, yes, you're gonna have to pay this thing off.

That's the only thing I can think of is if it was a joint account with the bank and somehow they took out the loan under that same account. Right. If he did just go to a rando bank, open up an account, take a loan out in just his name and that bank got your name is trying to collect on you, then you may have a case to not pay it,

but you need to check with a local attorney there. I'd also pull his credit report and make sure there's no other outstanding- That's a good idea. Debt sitting out there, too Yeah, and this is a yet case number five billion eight hundred and seventy million Don't have secret accounts. Don't keep secrets like this from your spouse because one day you will die and you'll leave them with all of that Nonsense, man. Don't do it. Don't do it

If you're trying to take secret accounts, trying to take secret loans, George and I, we do this all the time. You will be found out. Don't do it. Don't do it for gambling debts, for secret girlfriends, for secret like gifts you want to buy your that just don't do it. Don't do it because this kind of crap happens all the time. And you just leave a grieving spouse wondering, what else do I not know? And it's just, it's bad all the way around. Don't do it. All right, let's go to the phones. Kayla is up next in Eau Claire, Wisconsin.

What's going on? How can we help Kayla? My husband and I recently spent two years paying off $152,000 in student loans. Congratulations. Wow. Thank you. It was a grueling journey. paying off $152,000 in student loans. Congratulations. Thank you. It was a grueling journey. So we want to make sure that we make wise decisions moving forward as we kind

of, you know, restart our financial foundation. Um, so we have a fully funded emergency fund and we're contributing in a five 29 for our son and, uh, currently we've rent. So we're working on a down payment. Um, and I guess one of my big questions it all kind of surrounds around we were able to get a life insurance policy for my health but my husband has a medical condition where he cannot get term life insurance and so as we move forward we're trying to decide like should we be looking at a smaller house so that like like, you know, that kind of stuff is within our means.

We won't have his life insurance. It's something more to happen. When we do buy a house, do we get insurance or the mortgage that would kind of act as like, you know, like life insurance that would pay the mortgage if he were to pass away. Um, or like even like looking at our jobs, like should I get a job that pays more? Just trying to look into the future and how can we best protect ourselves since we can't get life insurance for him.

What is the medical condition he has? He has cystic fibrosis. Okay. All right. Has he given him any sort of timeline here? Or is it just indefinite? No, he is super healthy. So I mean, he doesn't have any kind of a clock or anything.

They're expecting him to have a really long kind of normal life. Okay, great. Can I just applaud you before we get into the nuts and bolts? Can I applaud you for a lack of better terms, just owning reality? Because a lot of folks get so mad and they go to war with reality. And you're already like, okay, well, maybe we'll need to have a different kind of house or I'll need to have a different kind of job or we'll

have to take a different kind of mortgage insurance, whatever. That just shows a level of maturity and wisdom that is just awesome. So I just wanted to high five you for that. Thank you. Yeah, you're asking really good questions. And you're right, this is one of those tough things where if there's no way he's going to get life insurance, we're going to have to look into probably a more expensive option with a worse payout. And so that's something like a guaranteed issue policy.

And then like you mentioned, mortgage life insurance, which would just cover the mortgage balance. And so those are two I would look into. Have you contacted our friends at Zander about this? Or where'd you go through for life insurance? Yeah, that's who we talked to initially of trying to get term life insurance. And then we didn't really like go back to them after.

Okay, I might reach back out and just get their take on what might make the most sense for you guys between the guaranteed life, mortgage life. And then beyond that, if I was you in your shoes, I'd go, how do we become self-insured as quickly as possible? How do we make sure that if something did happen and we needed to replace that income, that we would be okay?

That might mean a bigger emergency fund. That might mean we pay off the house faster and get the smaller house like you mentioned so that we have less liabilities and we can reduce our expenses. Because if you can keep your expenses low and learn to live off your income alone, that's going to reduce the risk in your life.

Yeah, because right now, even with the job that I do have, we do basically live just on my income and then the rest has been going towards our down payment funds so awesome so what if y'all built a world where that might just be your reality forever yeah that is a good idea well and by the way grieve grieve it because that's a bummer too right yeah because maybe you wanted to be a stay-at-home mom one day, or you wanted to do this, or you wanted, he wanted to become X, Y, and Z. Like, it's just a matter of being like, that was our dream and it's not going to happen.

And that doesn't mean everything's bad in our life. That means it's just going to be different. And so what if for the next 20 years while he's super healthy, 30 years, we just socked his income away? Yeah. 30 years, we just socked his income away. Yeah, that just reminded me, like another question that I have kind of related to this is I currently work in the school system and so my retirement is wrapped up in a pension. And so I've been like waffling back and forth of if I should go change jobs to a job that where I can invest in like a 403b or something like that to add even further stability. You can always invest

on your own through a Roth IRA as well. Yeah. That can be a hedge for you. Yeah. So let's have a world where let's say in 10 years you all bought a smaller house you'll have paid it off and you just used his salary and every bit of his salary just goes to paying that house off and you know at Ram's we tell you to take your time paying your house off and do other stuff but y'all know your life situation is a little bit different and so now you've got to pay for house and yeah then you dump his money into Roth IRAs and just general index funds for the rest of your time y'all gonna be and plus your pension y'all gonna be loaded up if y'all learn to live like that.

Okay. Yeah, you do that for 10 or 20 years, you'll be self-insured in no time. And generally, when we say get term life, it's for a 15 to 20 year term, because by the time it's over, you've self-insured. You got the house paid off, because you did a 15 year mortgage,

you've been investing for 15 or 20 years, and that nest egg is several hundred thousand dollars. And so you're doing all the right things, and John and I want to applaud you. We're here to just cheerlead you on and say, keep at it. Yes, and there's going to be days you're driving a used Camry 15 years from now and you're going to see one of your colleagues pull up in a brand new Tahoe, you're going to be annoyed, and that's okay. You have permission to be annoyed.

And then you go do the next right thing. That puts this hour of The Ramsey Show in the books. Thank you to my co-host Dr. John Deloney, all the folks in the booth keeping the show afloat and you America. We'll be back before you know it. Hey what's up guys? It's Jade Warshaw and I'm just going to cut to the chase. If anyone knows about paying off student loans, it's me.

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Amber's gonna kick us off in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. What's going on Amber, how can we help? Hi, so I have, it's kind of like a threefold question. We got ourselves into quite a big mess with our finances. We took out a HELOC on our house a little over five years ago. And when we did it, they did not, all they told us was that it was 1% interest rate. It would be, it would take care of all the debt that we had. We wouldn't have that debt hanging over our head anymore and we would be fine. So we did that.

They did not tell us that the HELOC would balloon or mature, which it did. And now they're saying that we have to refinance the HELOC or pay off the total amount and on top of having to do that we have to include our other debt as well. What's the other debt? I'm sorry what was that? What's the other debt? So we have two credit cards through the bank and then we have six other credit cards that had gone into collections and we were working with them to pay those ones off. The ones through the bank we cut up the cards when we found you guys and stopped using

them but they still have a balance and we're current on it. It just still has the balance. So it's $17,000 for one with the bank, another $4,400 with another one from the bank. And then with the ones that had gone to collections that we were working with them on, that total is about that we were working with them on, that total is about, about 19,000 total. And they're saying that we have to include the two through the bank

and two of the ones that had already gone through like the beginning legal proceedings, um, of the other credit cards, which was one was 7,000 and the another one was like was 2400. When you say you want to include all of that onto the HELOC. Well, they want to do that because they want to they want they don't see you guys as likely to pay all this back. And so they want to have your house on the block. They'll become a secure debt. That's why they're doing that.

Right. And so you might need to go, George, I don't know if you can go get another bank and see if you can get a HELOC with another bank and refinance the whole thing. That's what I'm wondering. Could you get a traditional mortgage with another bank? Yeah, so that was my question. I guess I didn't lead with that. I was wondering, so they're saying this is our only option and this is the trap we fell into every time. I understand it was us that got us into this situation but like as soon as we did that, COVID hit like a year and a half later and then I had a company reach out to us and tell us it was a debt relief company and they said to

yeah I'd call for that. They said to not only- Stop making payments. Let your credit crash. Yeah, to let the credit crash. You give us the payments. And beyond that, they said to, because they would just take care of everything and the payments would just kinda go away, they would be able to settle it all to max out the cards

because the more debt that we had, the more they would be able to settle it all to max out the cards because the more debt that we had the more they would be able to work with them to the more likely they would be able to get rid of it okay you hear yourself telling us that and you can even hear that that sounds insane right I understand how insane that sounds and I feel like an idiot well George and I both done stupid stuff with money you're not you're you're like millions and millions. They wouldn't run this playbook if those plays didn't work on people. They're just sucker born every day.

That's right. And I hate that you got caught up in it. But here's the thing, two different times, somebody told you, if you just do X, all your debt goes away. Yeah, and that's why I was calling you guys, because I don't want to do the same stupid thing over again. So are you...

They're telling us this is our only option, and I've heard you guys say countless times there are other options. Yes. Yeah, the best option is to go to a completely different lender, stop doing business with this bank, get a traditional mortgage that covers all of this. So we do have our mortgage company, our main mortgage company that we work with. And that was going to be my other question was, would it be better to reach out to them and see if we did, if we worked with them and explain to them that we had the HELOC

with the bank and that now it matured and see if we can work with them instead of adding all of this additional debt onto our house. I would tell them, I, we found ourselves five years ago in a scared place during COVID in a predatory HELOC. Okay. Can we, I wouldn't give all the balloon and maturation. I wouldn't do all that stuff. And yes, see if you can roll this up in a traditional mortgage.

My bigger question is, can you guys actually afford to live in this home? So we can afford to live in the home? So we can afford to live in the home. My husband brings in on average $2,000 a week. Our mortgage is, well we had a, we were behind a little bit on the escrow because of our homeowners insurance that had to switch so they added that on to the principal. So it went from $1,300 to $1,700 a month. So I mean, the mortgage payments are not a problem. So if you took on a new mortgage, could you refinance and just do one new mortgage that encapsulates all of your debt?

And move your payments to $2,500 a month? To talk to the mortgage company to do it all in one. Yeah, I would keep the credit card separate and deal with those on their own and debt snowball bucks a month? To talk to the mortgage company to do it all in one. Yeah, I would keep the credit card separate and deal with those on their own and debt snowball those, settle on your own. But with this HELOC, could you absorb the HELOC? Add all of that onto our house. Agreed, and I don't know if the bank would even let you.

Cause they need that tied to their collateral, not tied to your personal debts. What's the balloon payment on the HELOC? The total amount or the payment amount? The total amount. Total amount. 29,000 and they want to add that 17 plus the 45 plus another, plus another 10.

So we're looking at over $60,000 that they want to put onto the HELOC. To get out of this. And so if you, if you refinanced your current home and added 60,000 that they want to put onto the key lock. To get out of this. And so if you refinanced your current home and added $60,000 to the mortgage, that would get you out of it? Well, we would only need to add, they want to add all of that on. The key lock itself is only $29,000, but they're telling us that in order for them to redo the key lock.

No, we're not redoing any of that. No, we're not doing any business with them. No more keyOCs. You're gonna have another balloon at the end of a new HELOC. You just- Yeah, and they're telling us that we won't and I don't believe them.

Do you guys have any other debt, car loans, student loans? We have, all of our current debt that we have is through the bank. We have a van payment through them, we have a camper through them and we have the two credit cards that we already cut up and don't use. Amber, you know all this needs to go, right? All of it.

Yes. The van gets sold tomorrow, the camper gets sold tomorrow, we use all of that to clean up our debts, and we stop playing with this. Stop. You guys have debt all over the place. You got your hiding debt in the couch cushions at this point. How much money? How would I go about? at this point. How much money do you need? You need the difference in cash or go to a local credit union and get the difference. There's no other way out of that. You need to come up with a difference to clear the title. And Amber, you're going to have to get probably one job, two jobs, three jobs. Your husband's going to have to get another job. You'll have a huge mess and you'll have to make a ironclad commitment. We will never borrow money ever ever again

Ever again gotta stop gotta stop. Yeah, the bank sees y'all is a huge liability So they want to roll all this debt into that house so they can take your house You can take your house on any of these small credit cards. They can take your house from you. So don't do that This is the Ramsey Show. Statistics show that half of Americans don't have enough life insurance, or they don't have any at all. I don't understand this, John. Why don't people want to take care of their family? They think they're not going to die or something? Well, I used to be one of those guys, I didn't even think about it. And one of my buddies said, hey, the only reason to not have life insurance is if you

hate your wife and kids. And I immediately went and got term life insurance. That's a gut punch. For decades, Dave, I've sat across people who've lost a spouse, they've lost somebody important to them. Me too. They don't know what to do next. Terrifying.

You're going to have a crisis here. You know, you got two options while you're sitting and talking to a young widow. She's concerned about how she's gonna invest all this money properly and not mess this up, or she's concerned how she's gonna eat tomorrow. That's exactly right. These are the two options. It's saying I love you to your family. Term life insurance.

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You're stuck on our last caller. Stuck on the last caller and how it sounds nutty, but it is America. It's the current state of personal finance in America. Seven credit cards, a mortgage, a HELOC on that mortgage, because somebody said, oh, you got equity. And what Amber said, the last caller said, was so important that somebody called her and said, you won't have to worry about this other debt ever again.

And it just sounds so amazing, right? Well, when you're that desperate, that's right. And someone calls you like, this is the Savior we needed. And people get on to us all the time. They beat us up all over the place because they have all this quote unquote equity and you can just pay off everything. But here's what happens, people don't. Then they go, are like, oh, we got some extra money,

let's go get a camper. And instead of buying a used car for 7,000 because that's all we have, it's so easy to go to the lot and be like, well, we got the new ones over here. And it's like, we took out that HELOC, we have another and you find yourself. And they go, we can make way, what payment. And it's like, we took out that HELOC, we have another, and you find yourself. And they go, we can make way, what payment do you need? We can make that work.

We'll make it work. Yeah, and we'll just, we'll balloon it later. That's a problem for future you. And if people need any, if they're thinking about taking out a loan, man, oh, and then, oh, and then COVID happened, right? If you're thinking about borrowing money, go back and listen, not to the question Amber was asking,

listen to her voice. That haunts me. Because people call and they call and they call, and all they did was what the banker told them to do. All they did was what the lender told them to do, or the guy on the phone called, or their uncle called, and everything, you get so desperate that you begin looking for, as Brene Brown says,

whatever you go looking for, you're gonna find it, a magic wand that will take it all away. And you just dig a deeper and deeper hole till they come and say, hey, you're gonna do what we say now or we're taking your home from you. And that's when you realize, oh gosh, we're about to lose everything, right? It's over $29,000, you might lose your house, right?

It didn't seem like a big deal at the time. It never does. And that extra credit card didn't seem like it would be the thing that sinks us, and here they are in a giant mess. That's right, that's right. Making over $100,000, which we can all agree is a great income, but not when it's propped up

artificially with thousands in payments every month. Thousands and thousands of payments, but more it's when a banker calls you and says, hey, you're ours now, you're gonna do what we say. You're gonna take all this debt, because we don't trust you anymore. And because we've owned you for a long time, and now we're gonna call it out.

We get to decide what you do next. And there's just a panic in somebody's voice, and it haunts me. Please, please, please don't borrow money. Proverbs 22, seven, the borrower is slave to the lender. It was true back in ancient times and it's very true today. Yeah. Man. Let's go out to Grand Rapids. Now we can talk to Leslie. All right, Leslie. Hey, Leslie. What's going on? How can we help? Hi, my question is should I take out a loan to purchase a family veterinary practice?

No way. I hope you weren't listening to the last five minutes of the show. Oh, geez. I was listening, yes. Okay. Tell us why you're the exception. Incredible.

Now tell us more about this business. Yes, so this is a father-daughter business. My father owns the business. I have been working in the business for almost 11 years now as an associate veterinarian. I'm not a partner, I'm not an owner. And I work full-time as a veterinarian. I've got two little girls, beautiful little girls, one and four and a half, and my amazing husband works as a school teacher. Awesome.

And my, I guess my, currently the practice is grossing last year in 24, we grossed 1.3 million and our profits are 80,000 a year. Um, my biggest question and my brother actually said that I should call and ask about this because my gut reaction is absolutely no, I do not want to purchase this practice with a loan. But the reason the question is coming up

is because my husband and I in June finally paid off $250,000 in student loans. Yeah, you did, congrats. Way to go. Thank you, thank you. And we are debt-free except our mortgage for the first time in our lives. Awesome.

And it's amazing. And you're like, why would I want to go back into hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt? Absolutely. Yeah. So is your dad trying to get you to, is he trying to get you to buy this or has he offered it to sell to you? How's that, how'd it come up? Yeah.

So we've been talking about it for years now. I'm pretty vested emotionally in the business. I'm a 120% kind of person, and so I run the day-to-day and I manage our team. And so we have talked in the past, and I've been very undecided if I wanted to move forward with purchasing the practice or at least becoming an owner. And I finally agreed that yes, if we can do this, if we can figure out a way last year about a year and a half ago, I said, we can figure out a way without me having to take a loan to do this. I'm on board. Um, and it came up again recently. Um,

and he said that he didn't actually believe me when I had told him that I didn't want to take out a loan when it came up again. Um, and so that really made me feel very unheard. And my, we, our relationship is very strange because of this business. And I have worked really hard to try to be mentally healthy for my patients and my family and my team, sometimes working against him. Okay, so let me hop in here. So a couple of things here. Number one, please don't go to a bank and take out a loan and buy this from your dad like that, okay? There is some ways that, like for instance, y'all shake hands and he agrees to take 25% of the profits over the

next five years, that kind of thing is okay. So revenue sharing, a gradual buy-in, some sweat equity, something like that, like you're talking about is we're not going to do debt, but I'll give you this much revenue over this many years in order to essentially pay this off. And what I like about the percentages, if suddenly there's a COVID hits, then you're don't like if you take out a loan from the bank and COVID hits, you're still paying the bank what y'all agreed on. If you have a percentage payout over time, and the that $80,000 of your profit goes down to 20 for a couple of years because of, I don't know, there's a dog flu

that hits or I don't know. Then y'all both have skin in the game. And if he looks at his daughter who's been with him for 11 years and says no, then I don't wanna do business with him. Okay. Okay. Here's the other side of it. You're gonna have to take language like, I don't feel heard and I have, I'm mixed me set set this is a business transaction and you're gonna have to get business partners to help you because

When family does business transactions like this with family it gets very emotional So what does that mean? You're gonna have to get a third-party appraiser To come in and say we're going through your books. This is what this thing is worth. It's not how he feels about the business, it's what is it actually worth? Okay. Because dad might say, it's worth $10 million. I want $10 million. And I deserve $10 million,

I put 40 years of my life into this thing, I want $10 million. And now he's put his daughter in a really precarious situation, both financially, but also you're gonna look at your dad and say, dad, it's only worth $3 say dad it's only worth three million dollars It's only worth two million dollars dad right so now we've got a problem We're gonna get a third party appraiser, and if he says well. I'm not doing that then again

If you're running this practice essentially if you're already a veterinarian And you're leading the team and you're on payroll, and you're hiring and firing people anyway, then you can go start your own company. Yeah, I'm questioning if this is the place for you long term whether you own it or not. Because of this strained relationship. It hasn't been going well so far. Owing dad $400,000 or a million dollars is only gonna make it worse.

And by the way, in his generation, you just went and took out a loan, which is why his generation's in the mess that they're in. So don't get mad if he's like, what, I didn't know there's another option. That's fine. I'm not going to get mad at him about that, but I'm not going to go to a bank and mess up every Christmas for the next 15 years because I owe somebody because I didn't have the courage to tell my dad now. Have you gotten one of those texts recently claiming to be the USPS with some sketchy link to update your address?

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Thank you. I'd like some clarity, and I'm looking for your professional guidance. I'm currently with my husband on step four and six. I'm a teacher in Miami. My husband's a firefighter. We purchased the house in 2017. It's now valued at 1.3 million.

We have a 15-year fixed mortgage at 2.35, and we have 160,000 left on our mortgage. Amazing. We always overpay our mortgage when my husband gets overtime, but that comes in waves. So we're anticipating maybe six to seven years left on this mortgage. I'm very concerned with our property insurance. Um, when we bought in 2017, our property insurance was 1,200 when we paid it in 2024, it was 7,700.

We don't escrow and what's happened in Asheville and these horrid fires in California. Um, and these horrid fires in California, I'm anticipating a huge property insurance hike. Now my question is, since we're on step six and we're anticipating this, should we go back to gazelle intense and try as hard as we can to pay off this mortgage and then become self-insured? I would never get rid of property insurance, if that's what you're talking about. You're saying, hey, we'll take on the risk of having to rebuild this million-dollar home? Well, what we're thinking of is just we currently contribute to, we have a six-month emergency fund and we're continuing to put a thousand dollars a month into it. I just don't know if it's better to be self-insured or stay with these high prices

of property insurance that I'm thinking, because we've never seen something like this in California. Sure. This has never happened. Well, I'll tell you two quick things to help. Dave Ramsey has hundreds of millions in real estate. He insures every property. Even though he doesn't, he could afford it,

but he says the risk isn't worth it on my part. I would rather pay this premium to have it covered for me and they shoulder the risk. And I think the same is true for you. So there's a simple solution and I'll hand it to John, but just set up a sinking fund. And even if it goes up to $10,000 and you wanna live in Miami, call it the Miami tax.

You gotta pay, it's like having a high HOA fee cause you live on a beachfront condo. That's the tax you pay. So we're gonna put away $833 a month into the savings account so that when it comes time to pay the property taxes, the money's there. And Cindy, every bit of your language reminds me of a guy I used to know and I'll call him John Delaney 2.0.

So tell me if I'm wrong. You survived COVID as a teacher? Yes. Your husband's in a very high stress first responder job? Yes. You're in a very high stress, I'll call it teacher's first responder job? Correct. Caught up in all the politics, all the nonsense, plus you, I grew up in Houston, your situation is worse than when I grew up in, and I still have in my nervous system

Hurricane Alicia when we had to eat on a camp stove for 10 days because we had no power in the city. And you deal with that every year now in Miami. Yes. And you've probably been scrolling and scrolling and scrolling through your hurricane season, through what happened in Tampa, or almost happened bad, bad in Tampa, and what happened in North Carolina, what happened in the fires. You're an anxious, anxious mess. Yeah, I wouldn't agree with that. All right, and now here's what you're trying to do. You're trying to take what's happening inside your nervous system and create future tragedies what you're trying to do. You're trying to take what's happening inside your nervous system and create future tragedies that you're trying to solve in the present.

You're making yourself nuts. Okay? So here's what I want you to do. Cancel for 30 days, get social media off your phone. Commit to not going to a news source for 30 days. You're a teacher. If something bad happens, your students will let you know. They know about it before you do. Yes. Yeah. Okay. For sure. I want you to detox. Okay. Okay. Now here's the simple thing. Are you all gonna leave Miami?

No. Okay. This is our long-term goal. Okay, so this is where you live. You have a million dollar house, your husband's a firefighter, you're a teacher. You will never be able to accumulate a million dollars in cash to self-insure yourself. So- No, that'd be very difficult.

You're gonna make yourself nuts trying to catch that dream by the tail, because you can't. And so all you're going to do is scroll job listings, you're going to scroll extra jobs, you're going to make yourself bananas. So y'all are living there, this is our home, this is our castle, this is where we planted our flag. And so like George said, okay well, our dream tax or our home tax, they might make it $10,000.

I don't think they're going to, I think they've priced it in the market. They've gone up eight jillion percent over the last five years, but if hurricanes keep happening and they keep getting more intense and happening more frequently, then it's gonna go up.

They have to cover their spreader, they're gonna go bankrupt. Okay, so let's just put 10,000 bucks. If we pay our house off, we'll have a $500 a month plus our property taxes. This is what it will cost. Ta-da! That's problem solved now. You get what I'm saying? And I'm saying it this calm on purpose because I want you to practice this. Because I think Brene Brown calls it dress rehearsing tragedy your you've already

Imagine yourself standing in front of a knockdown house and wondering what we're gonna do don't do that until it comes Yeah, we'll cross that bridge when I'm trying we come that's right. Okay, so yeah I like the idea of getting get that 10,000 now If you're if I'm you and this is gonna kind of break with the Ramsey protocol a little bit if I get to I'll just Tell you what I did with my last house. We got right to the very end, where we owed a hundred, yeah, I went full baby step two. I went bananas. But it was for a very limited sprint. You can't do that for five years. You can do it for two. So you and your husband, y'all could do math. But listen, that's about making a more peaceful less anxious house Then it has anything to do with being able to predict what an insurance company what the weather is gonna do or anything like that

Okay, that's you controlling what y'all can control and a part of making a non anxious house for me and my family was I don't Want us to owe anybody anything? Right that was part of John creating that world. He was running towards something versus just away from the thing that could be. And that's what I would tell you, is when we talk about baby steps one through three, it is gazelle intensity.

Once you're in four, five, six, it's intentionality. And that's a tough move to make when all you know is go, go, go, Dave said. And so I would set an intentional goal with your husband of, hey, what if we could do this in four years? Could we do that? It's 40 grand a year. All right, yeah.

Let's commit to that, spit shake. We're gonna commit to that. Two years, be bananas, right? Two years if you want. Could we do 80 grand? Yeah, we could do that. Whatever that is for you guys. But like John said, do it for the right reasons.

So I love paying off the house regardless of the interest rate because it's gonna set you guys up for freedom. You can invest that payment, but I would keep your property insurance forever, no matter what, and just make a sinking fund and do it, and say, well, we did our good deed for the day. We paid our property taxes.

Hopefully it went to something good. We paid our insurance. It covered us. I can sleep better at night knowing my house is gonna be okay. And one last thing I want you and your husband to do, this is for all teachers and first responders. At night when y'all have shared meals together, open the meal with five things you're grateful for. Look each other in the eye and say them

out loud because I want us to remember when the world feels like it's burning down around us, we do have things we can be grateful for. It's a practice. Thanks for the call. How many times last year did you end up with too much month at the end of the It's a practice. Thanks for the call. How many times last year did you end up with too much month at the end of the money? Even if you're able to stay on top of your bills, there's nothing left over. No margin, no breathing room. You work your butt off, but you still feel broke. And now you're wondering if 2025 will be any different. It can be. You are not powerless over your money.

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slash live stream. ramsysolutions.com slash livestream. Welcome back to the Ramsey show. I'm George Campbell joined by Dr. John Delaney open phones at triple eight eight two five five two two five. Noel joins us up next in Dallas, Texas. How can we help Noel? My question is, am I in the wrong because I don't want to go on a spring break trip with my husband and daughter to visit their sick grandma? Oh wow. Okay what's the heart behind it? Yes, you're wrong! Is there more context here or is that it? The context is we're in baby step two and we had already invested about $800 to get a plane ticket for just my daughter to

go out and visit grandma. Grandma has been battling cancer for years and she's probably on her last year. And so we definitely wanted her to spend time with her. But that's what we had discussed. And then today my husband says, why don't we all go? And I'm just not sure that's the right thing to do. So he's going with or without you to see his mom. It sounds like it.

The other, so it's his grandma. So my daughter's great grandma. And the stipulation I guess that's important is grandma's willing to foot the bill to pay for our tickets. Okay. Can she afford that? My other, she can. She's got a paid off house, she's invested well,

she's ready to spend her money at the end of her life. But my thing is I'm missing out on an opportunity to earn money when it's spring break, I'm a school teacher. And so when I'm on break, that's a great time for me to pick up extra jobs and make more money. And my son can still go to daycare. But I am gonna miss out on the opportunity

to make money and pay off our debt if we go on this trip. How much are you talking? I mean, how much can you earn in a week? 500, $600. How much debt are you talking? I mean, how much can you earn in a week? Five hundred, six hundred dollars. How much debt are you guys in? We've got eleven thousand in a car that should be paid off by March due to cashing out a whole life plan. And then we have my husband's student loans.

How much is that? Sixty thousand. and we have my husband's student loans. How much is that? 60,000. Okay, so the current trajectory, when is all of this debt gonna be paid off? All 71,000 with your household income? If I continue working, then in 18 months. Okay, and if you skip this extra week of work that would have amounted to $500,

it would slow it down to 17.7 months? Yeah. Okay. Well, and Noel, hold on. So I just wanna make sure we, like that's really what we're talking about. No, this has nothing to do with that. You're mad at your husband. Yes.

Because you wanna stay at home and you're having to work to pay off his student loans. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes, because you want to stay at home and you're having to work to pay off his student loans Yes, yes, yes you have to get to the root of this thing Because on its face, let me just say you can feel however you want to feel your feelings are yours and you get to do them and there's lots of spouses that go visit family members that don't want to but they do it and If it's grandma's last year of her life and she's offering to pay to fly everybody to say goodbye one more

time, then if you can do that I would say do that. But you've got to address your anger and maybe it's not wholly at your husband, maybe it's at just life and you love him and you're glad you married him and all this stuff but it just is what it is what it is. You need to address that because you're creating a life that you're resentful of. Does that make sense? That sounds true. Okay, so okay, I was gonna make sure I'm not crazy. Like, so have that conversation with yourself and with him, because right now for him, he thinks he just figured it out. Oh, we can all go and it's gonna be free for us got it i mean and and if you don't want to go and you need to work and you've already committed

spring breaks just a few weeks from now if you've already committed then say i've got to commit my commitment and if this is the last year we're all going to be going back anyway for the funeral you know in the next year so if that's the case that's the case but I'd much rather you deal with what's really going on here which is you're stuck in a situation having to work when you want to be home with your baby and it's real frustrating yeah I mean tell me I'm bananas you Okay. I think you're able to justify it. Even the tension in my body. Yeah, I can hear it through the phone, man.

You've been trying to justify it by going, well, we're in debt, I could make more money, it'll speed it up. And we just proved with math that it's 0.3 months of, you know, it's really not about that. But I do think relationships are not convenient. Family is not convenient. Health relationships are not convenient. Family is not convenient. Health crises are not convenient.

And that's a part of life on the baby steps. And so we would tell you, hey, if this is really important to your family, you might need to just pause and take the trip and let it slow it down by a few weeks and we'll make it up on the backend. But right now I think you might need to be there for your husband.

Or the other side, if being around grandma and her family, aunts and uncles are gonna be there, make you sick to your stomach, they've said ugly things about you, whatever, then have that honest conversation because it's gonna be bewildering to your husband who doesn't know that you are this against going or you're this frustrated with the life that you're leading and

He's not gonna be able to figure out over four hundred dollars that you're or five hundred bucks that you may earn over a spring break Week, you know what I mean? Yes, I know you I think I need to be honest with myself that where the anger is coming from and have that conversation There you go. And if you get to the end and you still don't still don't want to go don't go but just be honest about why you're not going. And if every George, this is kind of epidemic levels of people opting out of family because they're annoying or they're man, sometimes you just go. Sometimes you go and you sit by your husband, you sit by your wife and you hold their hand and make sure they're not alone

when they're going through a really hard moment, right? And again, you and I don't know if this grandma all meant to him, if- If it's hard for her husband to share this, that, hey, here's really what I want you to go. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What I'm guessing is happening is he sees how stressed she gets

and how frustrated she gets when she has to work this extra week and he thinks he just solved it. He's like, oh dude, vacation. All expenses paid trip. Expenses paid trip and I get to see grandma but we get to go to Texas and she's like, I'd hate all of my life and you and not really hate

but you know what I mean. So yeah, sometimes getting to the root of the root of the root of the issue is where we gotta go. Absolutely. Good word. John is in Oklahoma City up next. What's going on John? Hey guys. Hey. What's up dude? Get right to the question. So my question is, I'm in baby step two right now.

So I have a drive up beater, 2004 Chevy 12 laser. Has 295,000 miles on it. Starting having to do a lot of repairs on it and everything. Hey John, a lot of times people call us and say they got a beater and they tell us what they're driving. You actually are, so I applaud your brother. Yeah. Congratulations. You got it for real beater there, dude. Yeah, it's a true beater. It's old enough to drink this year, so there's something to celebrate. Yeah, congratulations, man. So my deal is I'm starting to put some more repairs on this which is taking extra money. I have roughly $80,000 of consumer debt to pay off and then I'll start baby step three.

But my question is, if I can make this vehicle last through the debt pay off, is it okay to save up some cash to buy a better used vehicle before I start the 36 months of expenses? Yeah, I mean, if you need to, like, you know, repair it, drive it until it can't be driven anymore, but also know, it might not have two years left in it. And so I would set up a sinking fund that'll probably slow down your baby steps, but at least it won't be this,

oh my gosh, I gotta go finance a $30,000 car. I had no idea it was gonna explode. Just set aside 400 bucks a month so that a year from now you get five grand. That'll get you another beater to get you through. Probably, I'll just set up a sinking fund to put some cash in. I like to say it will slow down my debt pay off,

but I do work full time and I do a side gig, doing bill of ash on the side to make extra money. You're getting it brother. And hey, it'll slow you down, but if you go borrow it, you're gonna go backwards. And so- That's what really slows you down. That's right.

And George and I like, we'll all tell you, just be cautious because, man, it's tempting when you get on that lot and you see what you get for five grand and you see what you could get for 10. Gosh, it's tempting when you get on that lot and you see what you get for five grand and you see what you could get for 10. Gosh, it's so tempting. Automatic windows and power steering, don't tempt him with a good time.

Air conditioning that works always for 15, I'm in, right? So just make, get that sinking fun and commit to just that being the number. Drive like no one else. So later you can drive like no one else, John. You're doing it right, man. Hey, the rest of the Ramsey show is in the Ramsey Network app. That's where we're going to keep the party going.

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