The Ramsey Show - Slow and Steady Wins the Race Every Time

Episode Date: March 17, 2025

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Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey Show where we help people build wealth, do work that they love and create actual amazing relationships. Dr. John Delaney, PhD in counseling, Ramsey personality, best-selling author, host of the Dr. John Delaney show, is my co-host today. I'm Dave Ramsey and we're here to help you like we have been for 35 plus years now. The phone number is 888-825-5225. It is a free call. Some say the advice is worth exactly what you pay for it. Isaac is going to start off this segment in Rochester, New York. Hey Isaac, welcome to the Ramsey Show.

Hey Dave and John, how are you doing? Better than I deserve. What's up? So I'm 24 years old and I currently work as an outside salesman in the electrical industry. I have my associate's degree and I like to go on and finish my bachelor's. And my company has offered to pay for it, but they want me to sign a five-year commitment with them. Should I do that or should I just pay for it myself? Five years from today Yes, or from the last time that they write a check

Five years from when I would start college and for me this fall. Okay, but it's gonna take you How many years working at night? Maybe two and a half years at the most no three years. So that part's not irrelevant So really they're asking you to sign a two and a half years at the most. Yeah. Three years. So that part's not irrelevant. So really they're asking you to sign a two and a half year, two year contract after you finish school. Correct. Because obviously you wouldn't quit while you're in the middle of trying to get them

to pay for school. No. Okay. So what do you make now? 60,000 before bonuses, after bonuses probably like 70 to 75. What are you going to study? Go back to school for business. Why?

Well because in order for me to make more money in this career and move into like a sales manager job, the minimum requirement for any big company in the electrical industry is a bachelor's degree. Bullcrap. So, that's why. Absolutely not true. Not true. Some businesses require a four-year degree. They're not necessarily people you want to work for.

If you're a freaking sales manager and you know how to manage salespeople and you got five years or six years of sales experience busting shoe leather on the street causing stuff to happen, they don't give a crap where you went to school or if you went to school. All they know is can you make sales happen? A four-year degree has got zip to do with it. Not true. Not a prerequisite in your world. If you want to go increase your brain power, I'm okay with that. But saying that's a barrier for you to move ahead in the sales nope sales is the most well-paid profession in America today salesmen people make more money than any other profession as a body as a group because it's all production based it's based on your ability it is not based on your

knowledge it's not based on your resume it's not based on your degrees and God help you your pedigree is your particular company that you work for, is that one of their just HR, like, they just have a line that says we won't even talk to you, it's like their filtering system? Well, my company is a rep firm. We rep the bigger manufacturers, a lot of the big electrical guys you hear of in the industry. And I would like to eventually transition to being a like territory manager for one of those bigger companies. And they have that as a requisite to even get an interview. Nah, not true. The requisite to get an interview is you know somebody there that knows your

reputation of being a stud salesman. That'll get your foot in the door. Listen if you're working for corporate America that is so freaking structured that they absolutely under no circumstances will interview you based on the fact you don't have a four-year degree that is not a place you want to work. These are fools. They're idiots. I'm serious man you don't want work there if that's really happening. I don't believe you. I think you've been fed some information that you believe but I think your information is bad. I promise you, man, I've been in sales my whole life. I love salespeople. Can you tell how I got amped up quick?

I love salespeople, man, and it's the ultimate ability to kick down a door on production and on ability based on nothing else. But once you have a reputation with one of those companies, so this guy gets it done, this is a guy that knows how to leave the cave, kill something and drag it home, he closes the freaking deal, that's going to get you in the door more than any dead-gum third night school business degree. I promise man, don't bet, listen, the ticket to success in America is perseverance, integrity, ability. It is not a degree. Get a degree if it helps you, but don't depend on a degree to get you in the door or open the door. That is not how it works. And I'll send you a book by Ken Coleman to prove it to you. It's called The Proximity Principle. It's the number one

bestselling book. But man, I got to you, the secret sauce for Isaac in Rochester, New York to be successful is in Isaac's mirror. Look in the mirror. You're your secret sauce to success, son. It is not where you went to school or if you went to school. And again, I've got a four-year degree I'm all about education John's got a PhD in higher ed but am I wrong? No I think that I didn't know that was still a thing I knew that was I knew

that that was a way businesses for the last 25-30 years filtered applicants it was just an easy oh yeah but I didn't know they were still doing it. But even then you could bust the filter is my point. You can, yeah. Like a freaking sledgehammer. Well, Isaac, I want you to consider this. Think of it from the other way. The company is saying, Hey, we have a top salesman.

We recognize talent and he's 24 years old. We can lock him up for five years to the tune of 25,000 bucks. If he's going to a state school, we can put 25 grand on the table, which is going to be five grand a year to keep him locked up here for five years. If that degree is going to get you a bonus with your own company quick, that's fantastic. I would take it. I'm always a fan of free education. But if you immediately in two years, you're 26, 27, you want to jump ship and go work for one of these bigger companies that you want to do and you're locked up for another two and a half years with your company, I'd pay the money out of pocket. For the wrong reason.

Yeah, that's right. That's right. They've locked you up. So I'd pay the money on my own and just keep doing what you're doing. You've done an associate's degree and just if you want to get a bachelor's degree, keep going. But I like, Dave, I like it when companies do that, but man, I always want to see what the return is.

Usually it's you graduate, you stay here for five years and here's what your new raise will be or here's what your new job will be. Not, hey, you're locked into this job for the next five years. Yeah. That's the answer to your question. But the reason you're asking the question is based on faulty information. Yeah. Is my-

Maybe there's still some big giant corporations that have that as a filter. There might be, but my point is still stands. I wouldn't work there. Yeah. Is my thing. Maybe there's still some big giant corporations. There might be. My point is still stands. I wouldn't work there. Yeah. You know, if you've got the ability to sell, dude, you got the ability to make 200k doing something somewhere without a degree. Now, if you want to go get a degree, my business degree has served me well. I use accounting, statistics, finance, whatever, almost every day in my job as the CEO of Ramsey. The things I learned in academia were valuable. They were not, however, the actual sheepskin itself, the four-year degree,

is not a prerequisite to me starting or running this $300 million company. And that is true all across America. That's right. If you want to get out of sales and you're selling now and you're tired of sales and you want to get into a leadership role where you're not selling so much as your leading salesman, then you're going to want to learn how to do leadership. But even then, man, sit in a classroom and just taking classes on leadership. That's not how you do it, man. You sit next to leaders. Taking classes on leadership from a professor who's tenured and has never led anything. Hasn't led anything. That's right. Hello.

Yeah. Sit with real leaders and do real leadership. Yeah, yeah, this is very, very doable for you. Your career is fine. I don't mind you going and getting the degree. I don't want you to go get it because you think it's your ticket to success. That's my problem. This is the Ramsey Show. You know, one of the first things I discovered working in the financial world is how absolutely devastating it is when the breadwinner of a family dies and there's too little life insurance or none at all.

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Dr. John Delaney, Ramsey personality is my co-host. Well, let me try again here. Taylor is with us. Taylor is in Roanoke, Virginia. Hi, Taylor. How are you? I still didn't do it, did I? One, two.

There he is. Hey, Taylor. I was messing up. I'm pushing over the wrong buttons like I've never done this before. Hi, you're fine. Hey, man. What's up? Hi, guys. I got a question.

We are in baby step two. We paid off about $30,000 in credit cards in about the last 12 to 14 months. But we separated about eight weeks ago. Why? I think it was a breakdown of communication. Usually is. Why? I of communication. Usually is. Why? I'm sorry? Usually is. Why did you separate?

I think it's just communication. She realized she wasn't happy with some things and wants some time apart to figure some stuff out. We are in agreement with finances. We want to continue paying down everything. We're not hiding money from each other. My question is we're both actually, I'm facing a pretty serious health issue right now and she is too. Right now should we continue down paying everything off or should we just be stockpiling cash in case you know certain things happen with some diagnoses. Well, the first thing is how long is the separation? Are y'all just playing separated?

Uh, a good separation should have a date and a time and location. We're going to be apart for 30 days and then we're going to go have lunch at this place. Have y'all set that up? We've agreed to not make any major decisions for four to six months. Okay. And one of you moved out? Yes. Yeah, I mean, that's a long time.

What are you hoping to accomplish for six months? Probably just maybe reconnecting, working on the communication issues and just deciding what we both want in life, I guess. I think you need to decide, do you all wanna stay married? And if you wanna stay married, sometimes if somebody's out of control or somebody's struggling with an addiction,

like, hey, I'm gonna be out, I'm moving out for 30 days. And at the end of 30 days, at this restaurant, at this time we're meeting, we're bringing a piece of paper and you got to have that six months just hopefully like well you know like kind of just we just want to like kind of think through that's it's just a recipe for this thing ending up in ash the second piece is your health stuff so all I have to say is I would Dave correct me

if I'm wrong I'd pause everything and I would stockpile cash I don't know what you're trying to accomplish with the separation again I want you guys to be very intentional is your did your wife move out because it's not safe to be around you No, there's no there's no abuse. There is okay. She have somebody else. She wants to try dating for six months No, okay. Then what is gonna be accomplished? Honestly, I were we're trying to work that out through therapy. Okay. Right now we're seeing a therapist separately, hopefully eventually to come together. Right now I think she just, it's in a place where she wants to find out what she wants in life. Like I said, the marriage wasn't perfect, but there was no abuse there was no infidelity nothing like that.

I can't really give you a straight answer of exactly what happened, but I can definitely say there's no abuse or infidelity or No marriage is perfect, but you try to figure out what you want in life before you say I do You don't say I do and then get a couple years in and then be like, well, you know, I don't really know what I want. We've been married, we've been married almost 20 years, so I don't know if this is just, and it's, it was always, we've always had a very happy marriage. So I'm just not sure what, obviously I want to stay married. I want to work this out.

That's why desire I just I think she's just in a different place right now but with both of us facing health issues that kind of throws a wrench in because I'm actually facing a cancer diagnosis right now possibly financial far as your financial question yes stop paying down debt pile up cash to survive a cancer diagnosis, whatever her diagnosis is, and to survive the divorce. Because I can't tell what's going on because you don't seem to know in your relationship. The one clue you did give me a minute ago was it's 20 years and it's been a hard marriage the whole time.

I think she just reached the end and the switch flipped. Yeah, she's done. And I don't think that one's coming back. I might be wrong. I've only done this for 35 years, but once the switch flips, it's hard to get it back. And so it's possible that the therapist can help you guys work this out. I hope, I'm hopeful.

I hope that happens. But I would prepare for the worst as far as the marriage goes on the financial side, and that's a big pile of cash, is easier to split than reduced debt. Yeah. Is easier to split, and both of you need some extra cash anyway if you're both facing health problems, so yes, let's pause on the total money makeover. Money is not the problem in your life today. Not even close.

The problem in your life today is relationships and health. And that's what you concentrate on and you let the money flow towards those things rather than towards working the baby steps. And think of that, I mean, for people listening, think about that kind of separation. I know it's easy to think if I just had my own space or if I just had this time,

I'm just gonna take six months to, think about it like this. That's like you going and getting a gym membership Like you're gonna lose weight. I don't know. I just don't know what I want I'm just gonna go walk around the gym and I'll do a couple minutes on this thing and then I'll get a smoothie and then that's not how You're not gonna you're gonna walk out exactly the same person except you're gonna be minus your gym membership fees, right, for six months. Be intentional.

If you need to separate, have a very clear reason, a very clear timeline, and then a very clear set of action steps for what is gonna be accomplished in this time we're apart, and then specifically how we're gonna come back together and decide what we're doing next. But this, yeah, Dave, you're exactly right. This is a, she's practicing

being divorced. She's practicing what life is going to be like by herself on her own. Because she's had it. Yeah, how I can get my feet underneath me and she just doesn't want to cut the ties just in case she needs a little more time. But that's exactly what this is. This isn't a, I want to see if I still want to be married, this is me practicing being divorced. And so I would call it what it was. If I were you, I would sit with your therapist and say, I need to know from her what she needs for this to be healed.

Correct. And have her make that list, because I think you have no idea. And I'm seeing more and more, Dave, the answer to that question will be, well, I just don't know, I need more time, any more time. well I just don't know anymore time anymore time and what's happening is in some states whoever files has less of a of a of a stake in what happens right and the other person can claim well this just he filed on me um or she filed on me and so there's kind of this push like I don't want to be the bad guy here and so I don't know anymore time any the way I'm phrasing it with some of the people I talked to is they're just slowly getting drowned and the other person is just they're out of the marriage but they

don't want to be the they don't want to have the label as I filed so they can always say like he filed for divorce or he divorced me and so it's something there's something about let's call it what it is let's put on the table and let's both be adults moving forward yeah yeah man it's a mess Daniel's in Washington DC hey Daniel welcome to the Ramsey Show. What's up? Hi, can you hear me okay? Yes sir. I just got a quick question. Me and my wife, we just moved into our first apartment

together and just wondering how much, no debt, and just wondering how much we should save for our house and also should we be investing in retirement? You can, if you have your baby step three done, that's what I'm, you're out of debt, you have your emergency fund in place and now you're choosing between whether I'm going to save aggressively for a down payment on a house or whether I'm going to save above putting some money into retirement. We call that baby step three B. Baby step 4 is 15% of your income going into

retirement. Some people in your situation, Daniel, choose to put nothing in retirement for one or two years while they pile up a big old pile of cash for a down payment. And that's nothing wrong with that if you're just now moving into your first apartment, you've just gotten married, that's wonderful. Take two years, See how big a pile of cash you can come up with. Big down payment is good. More down payment, less debt. It's always good. And so how much can you do in two years or maybe three years if you did nothing into retirement and you're young, you're just getting started. If you pause retirement for a little while, it's not going to kill you.

It's not going to keep you from being a millionaire I don't want you pausing it for six years that's not what I'm suggesting but I am saying if you take one two years and you maybe even three and you pile up cash for retirement you'll be ready to roll that's how that works all right open phones here at triple eight eight two five-5225. You guys jump in. This is the Ramsey Show. It's Holy Week in Jerusalem and the city is restless. The people of Israel welcome Jesus as king, his followers ready for revolution. But instead of taking the throne, Jesus turns the tables.

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do so I suggest you get them before you have a problem it's gonna be a blast we're gonna have a lot of fun that evening be John and I in each of the six cities we're really really pumped about this format it's not something we've done before and we like trying new stuff around here all right Travis and Aaron are with us in Houston Texas on the debt-free stage hey guys guys, how are you? Better than we deserve. I love it. Welcome, welcome. And how much debt have you two paid off? $405,000. Whoa! How long did that take? A total of 17 years. Okay, that works. And your range of income during that time? So we started with about $150 right now currently we make

about $135 and in the middle there for a big chunk goes up to about $250. Okay cool what do y'all do for a living? We're both teachers. I'm a teacher and a coach. She's a math coach actually. Academic math coach for the elementary school. Okay so why the income go up and down as teachers? I'm confused. I've only been a teacher for six years. Oh, okay. Yes, I was in retail management for almost 20 years, 18 years. So you chose your love

and went into the classroom and coaching. Absolutely. Gotcha, okay, once you could afford to. Correct, yes. So tell us the story. What happened 17 freaking years ago? Well, we were doing like most people, I guess, and spending every bit of raise

that we got and just you know we could afford the payment so we'd buy it now we had the payment and then we came to realize that we're making you know what felt like a ton of money back then and we didn't have any money left over so one of my friends actually told me about this Dave Ramsey guy I came home and I told her about this Dave Ramsey guy and we went and bought your book and she actually read it first in basically one evening and she said it sounded great. Next day I read it. We both said it sounded great and we just went with it. Whoa total money makeover. Total money makeover yes. Okay all right cool so you

just went you just went hog wild on the baby steps. We did. So cars, he traded in a brand new car that we had just signed up for, for a beater. Wow. And that was one of the pivotal moments for me that was like, okay, he loves cars. He just traded in this awesome car for this little beater car.

Betting on the future, baby. Yeah, very much. I love it. So what took 17 years? Well, we paid aggressively. We paid off all our consumer debt, 92,000 of it, in 18 months to two years. Then we were progressively paying for the house

until my son got into about junior high age and we realized we wanted to spend some money on vacations and some experiences with him. Good. I kind of stopped aggressively paying on the house. We were down to how long do we we had about 70,000 left on the house and we kind of just were cruising on it and actually thanks to my mother-in-law she just actually paid off the last $70,000 for us. Wow! Pretty cool. Absolutely, yes. Okay, just reach over and knock it out. So you were just working a normal baby step for

15% of your income going in, five kids college, and enjoying your budget. That's right. And putting what you could on the house. Absolutely. But it slowed it way down. Correct. But you did a whole bunch of this

in the first five years of the 17. Yes. Is that about right? Absolutely. Okay. So this 405 is your house to your 100% debt-free Every brick we own all of it. How much is in your nest egg? Your retirement nest egg million dollars. Okay, and the house is worth what for 65? Okay, so you're worth a million and a half Good for you and your

Your age holder you two? I'm 47, she's 46. All right, very cool, and you're millionaires. Plus, well done guys. So that stinking book worked. Absolutely. The stinking book worked. We were excited, we read that book.

She read it first, I read it next day. Man, let's get started. We were excited. How do you, I think one of the hardest things people experience is getting to that baby step four, five and six and deciding that balance between living life and paying this house off. And we see people get it just messy on either end.

How'd you guys navigate that? I mean, I just always wanted to look back and say that, with our son, we had experiences with him that we didn't say at a later age we didn't do those things. So that was the balance of figuring out we still are gonna go on this trip but we're still working aggressively to get this house paid off.

Yeah. Dude, I love that. And how much, you guys being on track together, on being super responsible, how much of that did your mother know? She'd do it pretty well. Yeah, I mean, we are constantly talking about Ramsey to anybody that we can.

Anybody that'll listen. So she kinda looked over there and went, these two could be okay to invest in. Yes. She kinda went like, hey, it's almost 20 years I've been hearing about this, how about I just write this check, you'll never bring it up ever again. So we actually couldn't come visit Nashville until the house was paid off.

She's asked us for years, let's go to Nashville and I said I cannot do this until I mean we were paying off the house but we have to have this paid off before we come visit and here we are now. Yeah way to go. I'm so proud of y'all. How's it feel to be, did you think ever I mean when you're 27 you know you start this 17 years ago did you really feel like, okay, before I'm 50, I'm gonna be worth a million and a half with a paid four house, and gonna be 100% debt free.

Did you ever think that? It's hard to believe, isn't it? I mean, I believed it, but I don't know that I saw it. Yeah, that makes sense, yeah. When you look at the numbers, the numbers say yes. But then you go, wow, my emotions. I don't know if I can catch up. How's it feel now that you're there?

Amazing. The freedom and the peace of just being in that place. Thank you very much. Was the sacrifice worth it? Yes. What have you taught your son about going to the dentist? He's about to leave your house. He is actually gone.

We are empty nest now, so we're in a new stage. And so about a year and a half ago, we went on a bunch of recruiting trips for football in the car a lot, and we were listening to podcasts, hours, hours and hours. Eight hours of Dave Ramsey podcast. Oh God. Poor kid, he's like, any college, I'll sign up anywhere.

Just get me out of this car. At one point he turned to me and he said, do you realize that most families in America listen to music when they're on the streets? Mom, can you spell Spotify? Well, wait a minute, we're on Spotify too, yeah. But I said, you know, I mean, the knowledge that you are getting,

the community of people of Ramsey, you know, people that are calling in, this is so much more impactful in your life. Yeah. That's fantastic. Well, I'm proud of you guys, well done. And this is really hard for me. As a guy, as a lifelong Red Raider,

I'm gonna do something I've never done before and that's to tell someone who graduated from Texas A&M University, well done. Thank you. Well done. It's hard to tell an Aggie, well done, but well done. Thank you. I love it.

All right, so what school did he choose? Northwestern Oklahoma State University. All right. So what school did he choose? Northwestern Oklahoma State University. All right. Very cool. That'll do. Is he going to join you for the debt-free scream? He's going to join us. All right.

What's his name? Cody. Oh, Cody. Okay. And Cody is 18 or 17? 19. 19. Okay.

Close enough. All right. Good. Well, welcome guys. Congratulations. We're're very very proud of you guys. Very well done. Alright, it's Travis and Erin and Cody, Houston, Texas. 405,000 paid off in 17 years. Making 150 to 250 down to 135. Working the dream job, living life large, and in the process became worth 1.5 million. Count it down! Let's hear a debt-free scream. Three, two, one. We're debt-free.

Yeah! There's that trip tonight, Phil. Yeah, baby! Whoop, whoop, whoop, whoop, whoop, whoop, whoop, whoop. Yeah! That's how it's done. And that's a long trek. Most people won't do something for 17 minutes, Dave.

And they stuck at it. A minute and 70 seconds. That's right. They can't do anything. Yeah, it's nothing. That's perseverance. 1.7 seconds, yeah. Perseverance, baby, that's awesome.

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The Dr. John Delaney show as of January 1st just a couple months ago passed the huge milestone it is in the top one half of one percent of all shows on YouTube with over 1 million subscribers huge milestone congratulations John that was a big breakthrough we announced that staff meeting this morning with the golden plaque from the YouTube people and that's pretty cool pretty cool man yeah I'm really grateful for the opportunity gave me man yeah we well it's a you're helping a lot of people brother and that's what you're there for. All right, Ashley's in Oklahoma City. Hi Ashley, welcome to the Ramsey Show.

Hello, thanks for taking my call. Sure, what's up? Okay, my husband and I are trying to decide if we should go on an African safari hunt or to keep saving for a house. This is the most Oklahoma call I think I've ever got. decide if we should go on an African safari hunt or to keep saving for a house. This is the most Oklahoma call I think I've ever got. So here's a little situation and background. So we got married this past year and decided for our 10 year anniversary that we are going

to go on an African safari and hunt all the jazz. And then a month ago, we entered a raffle and found out that we won a nine day all-inclusive hunt in South Africa. And it's a $20,000 value. It includes like the hunt, lodging, food, and Lord willing, like two animals per person. Um, but after we did our research, it does not include airfare, transportation, gun rental, but

the kicker is the taxidermy and the shipping of the taxidermy. In total, all of that comes out to $12,000 to $15,000 out of pocket, which doesn't include like extra excursions or spending money. It's a lot of money. What's your household income? $275,000 a year. We're in Baby Step 3B, so in our first year of marriage, we are debt-free with our fully funded emergency fund. We are targeting to purchase a house April of 2026, so in one year, and we're on track for $87,000 for a down payment. And we have a sinking fund for our vacation this year of

$2,600. So we see three potential options if you could help us with our first marital financial hurdle. Well, you're in a much better place than I thought you were going to be when we started this conversation. I was thinking this was going to be a hard no when we started, but you make $275,000, you're out of debt, you have your emergency fund, vacations are on the table. You're choosing between the size of your down payment or the distance of your down payment. You could easily say instead of spring with $87,000, we're going to do summer with $90,000

and an African trip. And that would put you about the same place wouldn't it? I suppose so. So I mean you delay what we're saying here is you delay your home purchase and hit your exact same goals but you delay the home purchase by three months. That's a good point. And you that's really the

only question would I trade an African trip that I get a $20,000 coupon towards which it sounds like it's a dream trip for you. Yes, it is. I mean, the, the, actually the voice tone, let me make sure I'm hearing this right. Cause the voice tone I heard was not your husband's excited. It's you are also excited. Just honestly, but like, so we don't know. So we're thinking we could either take the trip and either pull from our house fund,

or I guess your perspective is we wait to purchase the home. Or he's like, well, you know, we could take the trip, but don't taxidermy or ship anything and just take really nice pictures. And I'm like, well, I would like to have a zebra rug. You know, like that'd be pretty cool. Okay. And you can buy those. Again, this is the most Oklahoma call I've ever taken.

This is so great. So anyway, yeah. If you were me. I would go to Africa and delay my house. I would too, by three months. Really? Go do it right. Do it right. I would too. By three months. Really? Go do it right. Yeah.

Do it right. Oh, I did not expect that. Yeah, but I'm delaying the house. Again, if you were in Baby Step 3 or 2, the answer would be a hard no. Okay. You don't go on vacation in the middle of that crap, okay? And you certainly don't go to freaking Africa in the middle of that. But you guys make $275 a year.

You're out of debt, you're saving for a house, and all we're saying is is we would rather go to Africa and buy a house three months later for the exact same money. And yeah, I think you know that that's not a bad trade, it's a reasonable trade-off. In baby steps four, five, and six, or 3B, four, five, and six, are where you go from intense to intentional, and that's what I would do. Sharon and I didn't shoot anything except with cameras. We spent three weeks in

the incredible glamping or whatever you call it with these are these are fabulous tents and situations out in the and got all the big five within just a few weeks and on camera and that is probably in the top five trips the big five within just a few weeks and on camera and that is probably in the top five trips we've ever taken it's an incredible trip. Wow okay that's so exciting. It's mind-blowing when you are you know sitting under a tree and the cheetah is above the tree you're shooting with an iPhone you know it's mind-blowing so I'll just you know it's

it's a great trip and it's mind blowing. So I'll just, you know, it's a great trip. And it's a wonderful thing. And I will load up the grandkids and take them when they get old enough. But yeah, you gotta do this stuff, folks, if you're listening out there, in order. And so the point is not Africa, John. The point is, do you do a dream thing

when you have the money at the right time. That's where they are. Right. And when I saw this pop up, it says, we want a hunting trip to Africa, should we go? That's what popped up on our screen. I'm already in hard no mode before I picked up the line. Because most of the people calling us that question are going, I'm so broke I can't pay attention,

and I want to go to Africa, because we entered a raffle for something we shouldn't even have done. Well, and I thought it was a scam like hey we'll let you come to the campsite but you have to pay for this and this and this and this and this. It's kind of. You know they're not paying for everything. It's not somebody some wealthy person is furnishing the whole deal for them. Sure. But it was a hunting trip raffle at a charity and

that's the way they're usually structured. And yeah, then you can make the decision about, okay, do we wanna trade taxidermy for another month? Right, yeah. For on the house. And it sounds like her husband needs to- These are values-based decisions you can put in front of you at any moment and go, yeah, I really want a zebra rug, okay.

Yeah, I was gonna say, her husband needs to get her a zebra, man. I'm telling you, there's guys out there that are hunters all over America going, does Ashley have a sister? Oh man, they're like, man, I'm married. Way wrong. She's more excited about it than he is. No, he's like, can we just move? Drew's in Chicago. Hey, Drew, welcome to the Ramsey Show. Hi there. Thanks for having me.

Sure. How can we help? Well about ten years ago, I was sold a whole life policy. I'm sorry And it's only been about recently that I've discovered what a poor investment these things are. Good. I'm glad you figured it out Yeah, in fact, in fact, I should say I was actually sold two of them out. Yeah. In fact, in fact, I should, I actually sold two of them. Um, and I'm looking to get out. However, you know, I'm, I'm doing the math and I, I'm, I'm about three years from breaking even on one of them. No, you're not. Well, according to the cash value, like in about three years, I'll have paid the same amount. Um,

like I could cash out for the same amount that I put into it. Oh, so you can make zero money. Okay. Right exactly. I'm so I'm just wondering should I just get out now take my loss or should I keep paying this thing for a couple years and... If I pedal real hard I can break even. No way man! It's time to quit throwing money at this thing. Yeah. Get the cash value out, put it into something that you don't lose when you die, get your term insurance in place first, and cancel this crap. This is the payday lender of the middle class. Yeah, that's what I'm discovering here.

I wish I'd asked more questions when I signed up. The person you signed up with didn't have the answers. That's the problem. And you bought it a long time ago, and a long time ago people sold more of this stuff very few people in the financial world sell cash value insurance of any kind now the only ones that do are insurance agents everybody in the financial world has figured out that this is an absolute rip and we've been telling people not to do it for you know a couple decades in my case but in your case you just you know about a decade late finding it but that's okay you you can fix it you know you know if what would I do if I woke up in your shoes? I would get term insurance in place

immediately for the proper amount to take care of my family if something happens to me. Would you go to ZanderInsurance.com? You can get a quick easy quote there. They'll shop it among a zillion different companies. They'll get you the best deal and get that in place about 10 to 12 times your income is what you should have most of you to take care of your family. Because if they invested that amount, it would throw off enough income to replace you. That's the idea.

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What's up? Well, I have a question. We are on baby step number two but we're just beginning. We've really just gotten our thousand dollars emergency fund and so my husband and I are in our 50s and just starting on all of this. There's a little bit of a journey that came before this that meant we were just getting started now. Excuse me on what we're learning from you. Um, but, but blessed in many ways. So, so the question though is that now we have our every dollar budget and really what it looks like is we need more income.

And so what I'm wondering is I'm a homeschool mom and I have two, my two youngest are still in school, nine and eleven years old and so getting an outside job is not really something that I would like to do unless I could work it around what I'm doing with them. But I have found a resource where I could possibly get a certification that would allow a significant amount of income that would work around our home life and home school. But it costs $10,000, and I don't have that.

So is there ever a time that it makes sense to try to finance, you know, some kind of education or gaining of a qualification that would give you the opportunity to increase your income, or is that always a hard no? It's a hard no, but I would, that doesn't mean I'm against the idea of doing the certification or against the heart with which you're approaching this, but never would I finance it. So let's talk that through.

What does your husband make? About 75, brings home about 75. Okay, and how much debt do you guys have not counting your house? Not counting the house, we have about 60. Okay, on what? Well, let's see, let me look at this note I made before I called you. 35 on our vehicles, 45 in personal debt, and about 4,000 in medical bills. And so our every dollar budget covers payments on all those things.

So we would eventually, you know, get there, but we just don't, we don't have insurance and we don't, you know, in our fifties, I'm starting to see things that give me concerns for the future. And so just wondering how we could, you know, make some significant progress. How much is your house payment? $1,100. You own a boat, a motorcycle, or a camper? We have one van and one motorcycle. One van? Is

that your daily driver? It is our minivan, yes. Okay, all right.'s the motorcycle worth I do not know it's it's new oh is there dad on it yes oh I think it was yeah I think it was 13 I'm pretty sure we're upside down in that one okay I'm pretty sure that's being sold this week you can't afford toys your broke're a broke homeschool mom. Yes. So would you just stay with the one vehicle? Oh, that's the only car he has? You have one van and one motorcycle. You don't own another car. Right. I thought this was a play toy on the weekends. Okay. No, it was actually when my 18 18-year-old was looking for a vehicle, my husband sold him his car. And then to replace his car, we looked at, you know, some motorcycles are

less expensive than cars. This one didn't happen to be, but that was what started us down that path. Is he riding a motorcycle without insurance? No, no. I mean we have, oh you mean yes, yes. There is auto insurance of course like you know. No, I'm talking about health insurance. Yes. Yes, he has health insurance or yes he's driving around on a death trap with no health insurance? The latter. Okay. Yes, he's driving a motorcycle with no health insurance. He does have life insurance. Oh my. Yeah. There's so many jokes. I know. I know. Yeah. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Okay, I got to clear my head. Can I be honest with you? It doesn't sound like, it sounds like you really, really like the idea of getting out of debt.

I really do. But I'm not hearing the idea that we're completely sold out for it. Or is he? Yeah. Is he? Well, you might, you might, I don't, we're trying a new approach because, well, I say me when I come to you guys, because we, we have heard of Dave Ramsey and known of some of the resources even use them in our our home school and our and our children are doing well but

we have struggled to be on the same page financially for quite some time and now we're making progress in that area so I'm really glad we've got a thousand dollars okay so you're working together with some mixed level of enthusiasm on the together part. Right. Okay. We see things pretty differently, but we're getting there. And so improvement is good, but I'm just not sure about how we go from where we are to

if we need more income. Here's the secret sauce to you all getting out of debt is both of you turn up the heat about three more notches and that includes him taking an extra job, probably trading his motorcycle for like a car because he's like a grown man with children and he needs health insurance and he needs to get like six jobs and get his family help straightened out instead of his wife calling me trying to do a Hail Mary with a ten thousand dollar certification. The secret sauce is for the two of you to get fired up and wired up together willing to do anything and sell anything to get this thing off a dead center. You

can wander into debt, you cannot wander out and you're really trying but I get the sense that you're carrying seventy% 75% of the weight of this discussion emotionally and that's what generated the call because you're the one trying to fix it you're the one trying to get the certification we didn't call with him getting a certification or him doing extra work or him getting rid of his toy that he bought so that your teenager could have a freaking car while you're broke so that's the kind of stuff that I'm hearing all woven into this. And it's not to fuss at you, but the answer to your question is not a simple, hey, oh Mary, if I could just borrow money, if I

could just get this certification, which honestly probably won't work, I didn't even ask what it is, but it's probably some scam, but if it wasn't even that, if it's even if it's legitimate, I don't want this whole thing on you being the only adult or the only adult or the main adult in this discussion pulling this wagon along by yourself. And sometimes, not sometimes, always, you have to lay on a table, here's our values, and here's what we are willing to do to get this thing done. And it may be, I'm going to go to work for one year, and our kids are going to go to

school for one year, and then we'll get back It did this homeschooling thing But with one year of hard work you going to work full-time him taking another job on top of the one He's got y'all can be debt-free and yeah Get a you know, two thousand dollar car and get rid of the third time you can do the other cycle but you're gonna have to say our values are worth it and Driving around on a motorcycle without health insurance I just I can't think of a less responsible thing a father can do for their kids. It's just not wise. It's just not wise. Ask people who work

emergency rooms. That's what you'll find. That's the one request my father gave me after all the years in emergency rooms. It wasn't, don't do something great. It was, please don't ever get a motorcycle. And I said, yes, sir. Like, man. But all I have to say is- This is the police officer father, by the way. Yeah, but you gotta get radical, guys. You gotta get radical. And he's gotta get on board.

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and see how simple tax filing can be. That's ramsysolutions.com slash smart tax. Dr. John Delaney, Ramsey personality is my co-host. Thank you for joining us. Open phones at 888-825-5225. Joel is with us in Cincinnati hi Joel welcome to the Ramsey show thank you long time listener first time caller good how can we help sir so I'm looking to start and a consulting business with a friend of mine we've both been in the industry for over 20 years and we're selling

our businesses and we're looking to form a consulting company. And I know you don't and I don't want it to be a partnership. So wondering how else we could structure it. That could be a win-win for both of us. We have similar views on things and he has some skill sets, you know, that are different than mine. So I think we could make a good team, but I wondered how we could structure without it being a partnership. Okay, if you took on a hundred cases, how many of them would be you only him only and how many would be combined because you would need both skill sets? Probably

Probably I would say Probably 85 to 90 percent would be both of us There would be a few cases where you know his skill set would be The only thing needed and he would be doing it and a few that I could handle on my own but most of them would be a joint effort. Because he has they would need A and B and you have A and he has B? Yes. Okay, I'm trying to make sure I grasp the business model. All right, that lends itself to where most people would go with a partnership and I'm always against partnerships. It's the only sale that won't show the only ship that won't sales a partnership and I'm always against partnerships. It's the only sale that won't show. The only ship that won't

sales a partnership and so coaching 10,000 small businesses the number of them that are still partners 10 years from the start date other than medical and law is almost zero. Right. They just don't make it a decade but for various reasons and life change, life phase, whatever. One works one doesn't all that kind of stuff so

I don't know exactly how to To structure this other than to give you an uncomfortable suggestion But because it's gonna it's gonna make you flinch when I do it But I'll go ahead and say it out loud anyway And that is the more dominant of the two of you own the thing and the other one is the employee. Okay I thought about that.

Yeah and so an example of that in my case is I have a you know I've got 1100 team members a 300 million dollar company. Our senior leadership is called an operating board here, and they're the people that all get paid. They're the top leaders, there's 14 of them out of 1100. They run this company as a group with me and my son, the president, and they get paid off the bottom line of the company. They get paid as if they were a partner and they make very good money and they should, okay? However, they have zero ownership. So the comp structure is they share in the comp as if they

were in the profits of the company as if they were in the in the profits of the company as if they were a partner but they don't know anything I own it so maybe a scenario would be say if I say okay you you know Jen you're you're more dominant you you've got a better vision of what we're where we're going so you start the LLC we work together we still do a 50-50 split on that, but you're going to be the one... Well, or you get paid for your billable hours, it gets paid for his. Okay. So if you jump into a company and you end up putting 100 hours in it, he puts 10 in it, they did need a little bit of the B, but they needed more A, or vice versa,

then you get paid billable hours and a percentage of profits or something like that. You pool your hours, a percentage of your hours, and make that go to the bottom line and split that up if you want. I don't care. But the actual ownership, who actually, anything with two heads is a monster. The actual ownership is one person or the other. Because at the end of the day, I can, I almost never do. Because I run this place on a collaboration basis, like it's a partnership in a sense, but with a large number of people.

Because I trust their insights, and I trust their intelligence, and I trust their business acumen and so forth to run this business with and for me. So I don't really need to go against them all the time. But I do hold the the final card. I can play that trump card, that ownership card on top of the deck and win the hand anytime I choose. I do that probably 2 percent of the time.

I doubt, Deloney, I doubt you've ever seen me do it, have you? I wouldn't say that publicly. Not publicly? You wouldn't say? I would admit it publicly that I've seen you do that a couple times. Oh you have seen me do it a couple times? Okay. I honestly don't know. I honestly don't know. What in the world? Does that answer even mean? He's not one of them by the way. No I'm not on the board. I'm on the operating board. I actually like, no I've never seen Dave say, this is what's going to happen. And if anyone else challenges me, you're out of here. I've never seen that happen ever.

Um, I actually like the billable hours model because the thing that I hear breaks up these, these tiny teams is I'm working harder than you. And so I like you guys building in from day one and incentive structure that is I get paid for the hours I'm putting in. And that way like you guys building in from day one and incentive structure that is I get paid for the hours I'm putting in. And that way you can go to sleep at night knowing I had to work extra because you took a three week vacation instead of a two week vacation and I got comped for it.

Yeah. And there's some skin in the game. If he chooses to take a three week vacation, there's some skin in the game. He's not just gonna ride off into the sunset on the back of you. But you can also say 80% of the billable hour goes to me and 20% goes in the pool.

There you go. And the pool creates profit and we split the profit. And so you can create some mix over like that. And that's just a comp design that's different than an ownership design. And what that changes then is the power flow or structure. And then if you decided or he decided that you didn't need to be together anymore,

you can quit as an employee if you make him the LLC guy or he could say I'm not I'm gonna go different direction I don't need any employees or I don't need this type of employee and I need you to look for something else and that's a lot easier breakup than a partnership breakup because now we're selling the you know we're selling the copier and the desk that the receptionist sits at to try to break this partnership up and split it right down the middle. And it just gets, it's very difficult to break up. And so I always recommend trying your best to figure out some other way to build it.

And usually a comp structure change mentality is a place to do that. And that's what we teach a lot in Entrez Leadership. Dave, is there such thing as a, I don't know another word for it, a prenup for businesses? For people going into businesses, is there some kind of, I guess you'd draw it up in a contract, you can draw it up if you want in a contract, but... Yeah, in this case it would be called a general partnership agreement. And it would include all, what we always call all the Ds. If you fire me...

So what happens in the event of divorce, death, disability, drug use, default, disinterest? I always call them the eight D's. All the bad crap that can happen. So if you're in a wheelchair, what happens to your share? Okay. And you can't do this job. You can't do this job anymore. Okay? From a wheelchair. Maybe you can, maybe you can, but I mean, if you lose the ability due to some kind of disability to do the job, obviously if you die, what happens to your share with your wife? If you start doing cocaine, what are we going to do?

So it's a default drug use disinterest. I just don't want to do this anymore. That's disinterest. Default is I quit coming to work, but I want my half. I had a guy do that on me one time. Yeah. Yeah, we ran a deal together and he just quit coming. And then he wanted his half.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Uh-uh, Bubba, that's not how this works. So, but- I would have liked to have been in that room. No, no you wouldn't. It was not fun. It was still not fun.

It was a long time ago. But I just hate that. That's how I learned all this crap is doing it wrong. And so anyway, that's where we get to. So guys figure out some other way. Two old, two guys. That's two great guys right there. Exactly.

And that's the worst. And they're great friends. And it just seems like it's gonna work. Yeah. And it's not. Yeah. And they're great friends, they're both great employees, they're both good thinkers.

Yeah, and then life happens. Yeah, and two guys having a beer decide they're gonna start a construction company, and here we go. Nope, um, you know, two guys having a beer, decide they're going to start a construction company and here we go. Nope. Don't think so. Um, we're gonna just, we've all got a hammer. Let's, let's do it. You know, Well, it's the thing you talk about. You got a hammer. I got a hammer. Let's do it.

It's the thing you talk about with, um, it's the family, right? It's the wife that says, Hey, don't you own this company? We can go another week. And the, the brother-in-law, Yeah, it's not actually the two guys usually. It's actually some, some, Some weird cousin. Tangential crap. Yeah. exactly. Exactly what it is. Everything was going good until this kid hit somebody head on and he's been in a lawsuit. Yeah, this is 20 years of hearing these stories. This is the Ramsey Show. As an investor and a person of faith, when your mutual funds and ETFs put your money into the dark side, you might feel a disturbance.

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welcome to the Ramsey Show. Hey Dave, how are you guys? Better than we deserve, man. What's up in your world? Just calling in and living the dream, man. I love listening to you guys. I grew up with you guys in my household and super cool to be here. Thanks for having us.

Well, good to have you. I see on my screen you're a Baby Steps millionaire. Tell me about it. What's your net worth? We're right at 1.1 million. Good for you. And's your net worth? We're right at 1.1 million. Good for you. And how long, how old are you? I recently turned 30 and my wife is 27. All right, you're young millionaires. So you grew up, I mean you were like a kid listening

to this stuff. How do you get there at 30 freaking years old? Well, so in our house debt was a common word. So by the time I got older, I hated the word. So didn't want anything to do with it. I honestly thought you were like a long-lost uncle for how long you've been mentioned in our household. So it was awesome. So my parents taught us your principles but also shared their shortcomings and it really just gave my brother and I just a tremendous opportunity to not make the same mistakes they did. So what's your but also shared their shortcomings and it really just gave my brother and I just a tremendous opportunity to not make the same mistakes they did.

So what's your household income? Well so we have a business, it brings in about $400,000 a year. I pay myself right around $100,000, $120,000 and my wife recently left her job as a teacher to come work with us full time so she works with a business now. Wow very good good for you okay and what's what kind of business is it? It's actually a wedding company so we do so funny enough I'm actually a DJ so I started off DJing and we grew a wedding company my wife left being a school teacher to be a coordinator. So now she's able to stay home or actually, um,

expecting our first baby in September. So your, is your home, is your home paid for? So that's, it's not paid for yet. And you know, that's something we're, we're working on liquid cash and that's the only debt we have right now is the home. So what is the net worth made up of that you made a million dollar net worth by 30? Yes sir, yeah, it's savings and checkings. We have about 550 of liquid cash.

And then we have another 6,000 in my wife's savings account. We have about 140,000 in general investment, so like the index funds, mutual funds. Then we have a Roth 401k that we set up for our business. We have about 16 and a half on that. And then my wife, as a school teacher, she had a 403B, 30k on that. And then we have a Roth 401k as well. So the pattern sounds like that you're a ridiculous saver and you've never borrowed money except

the house in your life. That's about right. That's about right. What do you drive? Okay so I drive a 2014 Nissan Versa, a 2008 Mustang that needs a new battery and then I have a business we bought our one new vehicle we have a 2023 Honda Odyssey minivan. And your wife drives that? Yeah well actually funny enough I have adopted the minivan until the Mustang gets the battery fixed but yes he does love it. Okay all right I mean because you know federal law his wife

gets the good car. That's right that's right and if I want a happy life we need to keep it that way. Okay you're doing great man congratulations how's it feel to be a millionaire at 30? You know what it's liberating right it's liberating but it doesn't feel all that different I mean I you know money can go as fast as it comes in so for me it's very freeing we don't have to think about our finances in the same way that you normally would have to in life I'm able to travel and do our thing but it doesn't really feel that different because I know how fast it can go. That $550,000, how much of that would it take

to pay your house off today? About 200. What are you waiting on? What are you doing, man? So that's a good question. So that's kind of like the next thing we're working on. So we actually were just trying to make sure that our life is in order for the new baby coming.

It's in order. You have $300,000. It's in order. You have $300,000 left over. Do it today. You're 30 years old and you're a millionaire and you make $400,000 a year. You're in good shape, man. Just get on hold, do it, and then come back on and do it. That old uncle that was in your old house when you were growing up just said pay off your house. Yeah, exactly. Pay it off, dude. You have 500 grand in cash.

In your checking account. Yeah, dude. Pay it off, man. Today. And then call us back in hour three and you can do your debt-free scream. That'd be cool. We'll put you on, I promise. Hey, congratulations, Chris. Well done. Well done. I was curious what these millionaires, particularly young millionaires, what they're driving.

It's very interesting. You know what the average is? It's a three-year-old Toyota. For just across the board? Yeah. Toyota of some kind. Three years old Land Cruiser, whatever, Tundra, whatever. Yeah.

Taco, whatever, all that stuff. But I mean, they're driving some kind of whatever, taco, whatever, all that stuff. But I mean, they're driving some kind of stinking Toyota, maybe a Honda or maybe a Camry, might be a Ford F-150. But somewhere in that range is what you get, two to three years old, that's the typical millionaire, what they're driving.

And now these are not billionaires, these are millionaires. And a million is, you know, a billionaire is a thousand million. Yeah. These aren't a hundred million. These aren't fifty millionaires, right? No, they're not even ten millionaires. They're one millionaire. That means their net worth, what you own minus what you owe, is a million dollars.

But for you young parents, I think we just found the formula. Put this show on and just play it over and over for the whole time your children are being raised until they hate my name. And get an old frame and just put Dave's picture in it. This is our uncle. This is the uncle. This is our long lost grandpa.

He went away to the gold mines. We never saw him again. Exactly. And he's just hollering about something there in Nashville, Tennessee. He was yelling about something down in a hole somewhere. Exactly. And he's just hollering about something there in Nashville. He was yelling about something down in a hole somewhere. Exactly. And but it's something about debt free or something. I don't know. But I can't wait. One day someone's going to bring their kid on the debt free stage and be like, Uncle Jay! I think that's really him. We found him. It's happened before. Kind of worry about it. But yeah, so that's why we call them financial

peace babies. That's what that is. They were raised on financial peace. We don't call them Dave babies because we don't want people to be confused. I just think that would be amazing. Financial peace babies. We had thousands of Dave babies across the country. There's lots of financial peace babies. No Dave babies, but three. That's it. America, I'm entrusting you guys to get this thing going. People have read it. You all have come after me for a long time. can you can make it up for me right now

Dave babies no no I put on I put at the end on that a long time ago all right open phones here at triple 8 8 2 5 5 2 2 5 in all seriousness the Beauty of taking a babe why we call them baby steps millionaires is they became millionaires by following the baby steps you can become a millionaire a lot of ways you just need a net worth what you own minus what you owe your assets minus your liabilities is a million dollar net worth that is a better measure of your progress with money than your income because you can make a lot of money and have none so your income is irrelevant if you don't do something with it and so you know the growth of your net worth is actually the growth of your wealth.

That's the proper measure of your wealth building. And so watching that number and measuring that, we're actually building out a tool. The Every Dollar Team is working on it now in beta. And we're going to have a net worth measurement tool built into your every dollar budget. So it pops up. And so as you pay off a debt, your debt goes down, your net worth goes up. Hey, that's a number that most people don't know. I remember the first time my buddy who works in finance, I said, hey, calculate my net worth for me.

And he said, all right. And so we pulled up my bank statements and what I owed. It was negative. Oh, it was red. And he still marks that as one of the top three hardest he's ever laughed in his life. I was like, it was negative. It was red. And he still marks that as one of the top three hardest he's ever laughed in his life. I was like, it's negative. And he's like, yeah, dude, you have negative net worth. And I was like, it's going to take five years to get to zero. But it was a hilarious, but I didn't, I had no idea. I just thought, oh, my net worth's

probably about, I just had no idea. That tool will be great. Now I'm just having something there where you look at, these are my investments. These are my debts. These are the things I own that their assets, these are my debts, and of course no debt makes it real easy to calculate right, and so that's how we measure this stuff and how you help you go forward with it. So it's a good thing and a million dollar net worth at age 30 which you know if it's invested say not on a checking account but maybe it something that made 10% it will double every seven years so at 37 it'd be 2 at 44 it'd be 4 at 51 it would be 8 at 59 it would be 16 million at 66 it would be 32 million if he never adds

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yrefy.com slash Ramsey might not be in all states. Right today's question comes from Amber in Maine. Amber writes I'm a 39 year old divorced mother of three with an annual income of about a hundred thousand dollars. I worked hard to maintain the same lifestyle for my kids that they had before the divorce so

my budget is tight. My 35-year-old boyfriend wants to move in with me. I enjoy his company, but he only makes $40,000 a year and he works fewer hours than I do. He thinks he can't earn more money than he currently does. He's happy to help with cleaning and cooking, but can also be resentful when I ask for help. He also can't afford a 50-50 financial split which has me questioning whether I'm being foolish by allowing him to move in, especially when he can't contribute equally. How should we handle finances and household responsibilities or am I making a mistake by bringing him into my home

under these circumstances? Oh geez Dave. Dang man. Yes Amber, you want to break up with him? Just call it. Just call it. Yes, please, please, please, please don't let him move into your home. And not because he can't quote unquote earn 50-50 split. But because the only thing you like about him is his looks. Right he, no, I don't even think of that. She didn't say he's really good looking. She just says, I know I just made that up. I enjoy his company.

I like him sitting next to me on the couch when we're both playing Tik Tok. I don't think you play Tik Tok, but anyway, listen, you don't, um, don't settle and don't have him move in. You don't respect him. You don't love him in that way. You don't want to build a life with him. He's convenient right now and you are very, very much alone. I'd much rather see you get some friends and begin to tackle that part of your life and to stop guilt budgeting. And what I mean by that is when people get divorced, they often think, I've got to keep everything the same because so that way it affects my kids not that much.

Listen, your kids have been fully affected. I'd much rather them have that full effect and a mom that's not stressed every month when it comes to money and not considering letting this knucklehead move in, somebody that you don't respect, even love, move in and play house with. Yeah, don't do that.

Let's reimagine the whole thing. But to answer your question, yes, please don't let this guy move in with you. You've done so much to take care of your kids. Don't signal your daughter that settling is a good idea. Yeah. Don't give her that example. Settling's not a good idea.

It's a long freaking life you settle. Don't do that. And you're definitely doing that here. You're definitely, you know. You know, I was talking to, I was on a leadership podcast earlier this morning. We're talking about hiring people, a bit of a corollary, but not exactly. It's not the same thing, obviously. But sometimes when we desperately need a job done and we own a company, like I've got this slot that's

been open for, you know, four months, we've been trying to find somebody to do this work. We can't find somebody to do this work. Then you get, you tend to get aggravated and you settle. And you go, I gotta put somebody in there for God's sakes and this guy's, this guy could fog up a freaking mirror, let's put him in there. And it never works out. Never. You hire, when you settle when you're hiring people and I understand they're different but they're the same. Yeah. No, it's, it's, it's, you know, your guts, right? You know, your guts.

You're making a mistake, you're gonna screw up the organization. And these are long-term mistakes. Yeah, they don't, not undone quickly or easily. And the unintended consequences, you're signaling the entire rest of the people that this is who you are when you hire this person. When you let this guy in the house,

you're showing your kids that this is all you think you're worth. Or you almost always, in my case, I can think of a couple of hires that, man, golly, I wish I could have them back. And I overrode my team. Or I can guarantee you these three kids don't super love having this guy around

because they can feel that mom doesn't even respect this guy. He's not respectable. And you're going to override the kids, right? So you always go against the people in your life when you do stuff like that. Good point. Just, man, just don't, Amber, just don't. Amber, we love you and you're worthy of better. Yeah, yeah.

For sure. Because you're a rock star. I mean, you're a warrior princess. You're out there making a hundred K, raising three kids, you know, the mama bear fighting your way through the thicket. And you know, don't put some guy riding your coattails oh my god no thank you no you're worth more than that kiddo open phones at triple eight eight two five five two two five you jump in Nico is in Newark New Jersey hi Nico what's

up morning guys how you doing what's up we help? All right, so I know we talk about debt a lot. I'm doing that right now. I did the first baby step, but that's been done for like years. And you talk about debt and getting rid of it, and I fully understand that. But my question was, there's a few like between you, Graham Norton, and a couple other people that talk about like just don't have a credit card in general, how can you not have a credit card but build enough credit to eventually buy a house? I bought a house within the last year with a credit score of zero. I'm assuming that's what it was, or it said something like a credit not,

what is it, credit not? Yeah, not available. Not available, I have no score. And they do a process called manual underwriting. And it's the way they did it up until just a few years ago, where somebody actually looks at, like, dude, you can have $10 million in cash in your checking account and have bad credit. It has no bearing on how much wealth you have. It's just a marker. Basically, it's like a dating site that tracks how well you've dated in the past

and gives you a dating score. It just does that except with debt. That's it. It's your I love debt score. How much have I played kissy face with the bank? Oh man. That's it. And so it's a pain in the butt. You

have to sit down and go through some extra worksheets and they want to know how much money do you actually have? Do you actually pay bills on time? Are you actually employed? Things that actually matter as to whether they're gonna get their money back. So Nikolai, I had one more thing. We did the largest study of millionaires ever done in North America. The Ramsey Research team did. It's about four years ago. And we ended up studying 10,167 of them. It's a huge, massive study.

Detailed airtight research. And we asked these millionaires in detail multiple questions to determine how they became millionaires. Did they inherit their money? Did someone give them their money? Did they win the lotto? Are they professional athletes? Where does money come from? Where does wealth come from in America today? 89% of them did not become millionaires because of inherited money. Okay, that's number one fact. Let me tell you the number out of 10,000 millionaires that we talked to. The number of them that said

the reason I became a millionaire was my credit score is awesome. How many out of 10,000? Precisely zero. So don't buy a lie from broke people that are going well you need to build your credit score Nico because that's what all the broke people do. That way we can borrow money up to our freaking eyeballs and we can't breathe but we have a nice 880 score. We paid $150,000 in interest for this 880 score and no one gives a crap because I have bought a bunch of stuff with money I don't have to impress people I don't really like and I have a score that doesn't mean anything except I have given the bank half of my freaking life and I can't

breathe because some moron told me a few years ago that I need to get a credit card and build my credit score. That's how it works really, Nico. Just wouldn't want you to miss out, buddy. Just, hey listen, Nico, opt out of the system, man. Just don't play. Yeah, don't. Just don't play. Get off the grid. As for me and my house, I'm out. Stay off the grid. Everybody is hurting.

Haven't found anybody this works for except Citibank. I'm out. What's in your wallet? Money! I don't have any of your freaking plastic in my wallet. That's what's in my wallet. That's how this works boys and girls. Oh my gosh. So good question, Eco. Thanks for asking. It's a really good question. Thank you and thank you for letting me get on my little soapbox. Welcome to our gang, man. Good for me. I need to use this caffeine I have for something. But the truth is that I do not find people among the wealthy who have used credit to get there.

How many of you borrowed your way into wealth? Oh, none. That's how this works. So don't need a credit score, buddy. What you need is money stacked andacked. And stacked. And stacked. That'll work. This was the Ramsey Show. So Hey, you're still here? What are you doing? You do know that the rest of today's show is playing right now over on the Ramsey Network

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