The Ramsey Show - The Price of Freedom Is Discomfort

Episode Date: September 1, 2026

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Brought to you by the Every Dollar app. Start budgeting for free today. Normal is broke and common sense is weird, so we're here to help you transform your life. From the Ramsey Network and the Fair Winds Credit Union Studio, this is The Ramsey Show. I'm Dave Ramsey, Jade Washaw, Ramsey Personality, number one, best-selling author, is my co-host today. The phone number here is AAA-825-225. Matthew's in Chicago. What's up, Matthew? Hi, Dave. So I was just, you know, reaching out and keeping an eye on your stuff for years. And I think I'm, you know, looking for some advice because I occurred a lot of debt throughout the years, including my son. You know, he caught RSV when he's very young. So the Nickyville added on my credit card. And over the years, it just kept occurring in debt and interest. You didn't have health insurance?

I did, but my, um, my co-pay and the deductible is extremely high. We don't have great insurance with my employer. Extremely high to fine. Yeah, um, it's just, like 20 grand or something? Or like seven grand. It's about, it's about eight, nine thousand. Okay. Okay.

And how much debt do you have today, Matthew? Um, I, all about, right now I paid down 25% of the, I owe about $70,000 in credit cards. How much debt do you have today, Matthew? $190,000. Okay. And 70 of that currently is on credit cards. What's the rest of it?

One car and my home. What do you owe on the car? I owe about $33,000. Okay, that's $100. What's the other $90? About $80,000 is. on my mortgage. That's all I have left from my house.

Okay, good, good. Okay. So your son's NICU stay did not cause your debt mathematically? Not necessarily. No, not period. It was just one debt. Period. You have $100,000 in debt.

Eight grand was your son. So, you know, that's not what you lead with in your mind anymore. You caused your debt when you bought a freaking car you couldn't afford, not your kid. Fair. That's fair. what the math says. Okay. Cool. I love it. So what do you make, man? I make about $80,000 a year, $90,000. Does your wife work outside the home? Yeah, she does, but she dropped part-time ever since we had a kid. So that made it rough. And how's the baby doing? Is he doing okay?

Pretty good. Yeah, he's doing great. Praise God. That's the important thing, right? For sure. Good, good. Okay, so we got you making 80 and her making part-time money, maybe 20 or something? About 40? Oh, good. Okay. So we got 120 to work with and you owe 100 plus your house? Correct. Okay, cool.

Well, that's not very bad. I actually, I sold my Tesla a few days ago because I had equity in it. So I sold that and now I have some play money to play with. How much play money? About $15,000. Cool, cool. Great. The Tesla, that wasn't the $33,000 car.

That's a separate car. or is the same one? No, that's a separate car. I have a Honda accord now. Okay, can we sell that one, or how far upside down are you? I'm upside down maybe like eight on that. Well, you've got 15, so we could essentially... You could sell that car and buy two cars with what's left, two hoopsies.

True. Why wouldn't you do that? And you'd have no car payments, and you'd be down to attacking the credit cards. Correct. And your wife will hate Dave Ramsey. Pretty heavy. You can blame me instead of her. You can blame me instead of you.

But yeah. Okay, here's the thing. You got two ways to go out this, Matthew. Here's what I know about you. Okay. You already are taking action. You already know where you are. And so you're way ahead of the game.

Most of the time I got to talk people into getting to where you are before they call. Okay? And so you're already there. You already sold a Tesla. I got some money to move around here. I got some things. You got to buy a car out of that money, right? Because you're only down to one car. Correct. Okay. All right. And so you got two ways to go at this. One way, either way, you start with you and your wife, sit down, do a detailed budget on every dollar tonight where every dollar of the $140,000 a year is going each. You and your wife, month and we're going to attack these debts smallest to largest. Number two, we're cutting up every single credit card. No excuses. These things have ruined your life. They're not a blessing.

Okay. Number three, then you decide, are we going to fight this for a little while? Go buy a $5,000, $7,000 car, throw the rest of the 15 at these credit cards, get this debt snowball rolling. Or are we going to use the 15 and sell the other car and get two, $7,000 cars that are paid for or $5,000 cars that are paid for, and have no car payments to attack all of this with. And you can run the math out in about 20 minutes doing either one and say basically keeping the current car is going to cost us five months. I'd even throw a third option in there. My household was a one car household for quite a while just to get ahead on debt. And if that's something that could work with you guys just for a short period of time,

it could really be worth it because then you sell a $33,000 car, pay for what's upside down, and you use the money to get one vehicle that fits everybody, do that for a while and use whatever margin is left to throw it at these credit cards. Yeah. You guys can play with some options. But the bottom line is if you're making $140,000, can you get out of $100,000 of non-mortgage debt? Yes, you can, sir. You can win.

Would you recommend? So I have quite a bit of equity in my home. Would you recommend downsizing? Not unless you hate your house. Do you hate your house? I have low interest. No, I love my house. I pay 2%.

Then don't. You don't need to do that. Don't sell it. I would give up two years of my life on beans and rice to keep a house. Okay. And that's what you're going to do. $50,000 a year and you're debt free in two years. Fair, yes.

That's $4,000 a month. That means no eating out. no vacations, no whining, everything's on a freaking coupon, beans and rice, rice and beans, the cat's on Greg's List, the dog's on eBay. I mean, we're selling everything, and we're getting out of debt so we can keep our house. Because the house is the only thing in this whole equation that's smart. Correct. So let's keep the smart thing and dump the other stuff.

I'd sell the car 62 times before I sold the house. Absolutely. Plus, I think if you keep the house, it's going to help your wife stay on board with this plan. Yeah. So, but you guys need to sit down together and say, if we are willing to pay a price together, if we're both willing to roll up our sleeves and be grownups and say, we're going to clean up this mess that is overspending and that is buying cars we can't afford. You've already started the process. You were willing to sell your Tesla. The other car is hers. I can tell by the conversation. Absolutely. And so. But he did good. He led and he went first and now it's her chance to be an adult and she can go second. That's a stud. Yeah.

Yeah, and that's how you draw people in instead of like, honey, I've been listening to Dave Ramsey, we're going to sell your car. Don't lead with that one, okay? Start with you. That doesn't work real good. So, yeah, so anyway, there's a couple of ways to get at this. You can sell the cars, but the house is not one of them I would do. And a hundred times out of 100, I would live on nothing for two years,

where our friends think we joined a cult, our family thinks we need counseling, and we're getting out of debt for two years. No, is the answer to every. Every question when someone calls you, no, we can't go. We ain't got any money. We're broke people. And it's not based on your son's NICU stay. That's what the math says.

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Hey, John, what's up? Hey, Dave, just want to know. I've been watching a ton of clips on Facebook over the weekend, struggling with finances, and just can't seem to get ahead. So we're just trying to tell my wife, I'm like, we really got to do something. She found out you guys had a nap. And so I just decided I was going to take.

I said, you guys took calls, and I was going to call and see if there's something you can do to help us out because we feel like we're just constantly drowning and trying to get ahead and doesn't seem to work out. That's a frustrating feeling. I'm sorry. I've been there and it's no fun. I feel like a freaking rat in a wheel.

Work myself to death and all I got is bony fingers, right? Yes, sir. So what are you experiencing? Do you feel like it's an income issue? Do you feel like more money's going out the door? Or is it a combination of both? I think it's both. I mean, we have a decent money coming in.

I mean, we're not living high on the hog by any means. What do you make? I make $60,000 to my salary. and then we make about another 20,000 or so with like I Spark doing a second job. And then my wife does it when she can. She's a stay-at-home mom. We have seven kids, five are adopted. And so we just try to juggle everything we can.

But we seem like we have to get a loan to get by and then we try to pay that loan off. And then we have to get another one to get something else done. And it's just frustrating. Yeah. I mean, $80,000, you've got a big family, family of nine. That's got to go an awful long way. Do you guys have a budget? We sort of do.

We write all of our bills down on the paper, and then we check them off as we pay them throughout the month. And then sometimes we get to the end and we're a little short, so then I've got to go. You know, I stay longer out in the evenings or on my day's off. What kind of debt do you have? We have about 10,000 in personal loans and about 11,000 in credit card debt and almost 70 in cars and auto loans. Okay. And break those down for me. What's the two cars?

One is 30,000. One is almost 38,000. Okay, so one of them's the school bus. Yes, one of them is the nine passenger vehicle. And then the other one I just recently bought like three months ago, and that's because it's a hybrid. And so I bought it brand new so that way I could do the extra income in the evening and try to get ahead and get better gas knowledge. What do you do? What's your 60,000 job? What kind of work is it? I'm a manager at a convenience store. Okay.

Okay. Your last purchase was dumb. It killed you. It put a nail in your coffin. It was not a help. It was a hurt. Agree. Okay. You were trying to do something smart, but I didn't say you were dumb. I said your purchase was dumb. And dude, I've done some dumb purchases, so I know what they look like. That falls in the category. So my experience is we have a lot of large families doing the Ramsey system, the Ramsey plan. And so we see a lot of them. They visit. at the office here. We get pictures and videos. They post all these other things. And so we, and my experience is that people that have large families do, one of two things happens. One is they completely lose their minds because of the chaos. But most often that's not the case. Most often people that have large families become highly structured and organized, down to the point that we have people come in here with two kids and they can't seem to figure out how to get a picture taken. People come in here with eight kids and they say get in line for a

picture and 30 seconds later they're already. They're so organized, structure dialed in and they know the whole world doesn't revolve around each one of them. Instead, the unit is what matters. And so as a family, we have to learn to serve each other. We have to learn to not be the source of the drama and so on. And so the large family just does that for emotional regulation. It does that for structure and for systems and processes, because otherwise you lose your mind with that many people coming at you. Does that make any sense? Yes, sir, it does.

I would suggest that you guys are probably that, are you? We are, yeah. We're pretty structured. Until we got to your money. So I want you to take this same mentality where you crack the whip, so to speak, metaphorically, to keep the children in line and all lined up like little ducks, let's start making the dollars stay in line and go where they're supposed to do, go with little ducks. Because you're real structured and systematized until you got to your money and then it's chaotic.

Yeah, the problem is that you're doing it on paper, which you're... But not doing anything. Yeah, and even those, because I'm sure there's a lot of people listening who think, oh, I write my budget down on paper every month, but what happens when you're spending in real time and you're not going in and putting every single time that you go to the grocery store, you're just checking off. Did we buy groceries? Checking off. Did we pay the light bill? Checking off. And you've got to have the same plan for all the detailed spending and all the nuanced spending in between. So we'll gift you every dollar. And on every dollar,

you'll be able to put in all of your main income, but also everything you make from your side hustles. Don't leave that out. And then plan for every single dime. And that's not just the fixed expenses. It's the variable things. And it's all the fun stuff in between that maybe you guys do as a family, make sure you're planning every single dollar. A zero-based budget is what we would teach for you to do because it works. And then from there, you're going to be able to see, okay, where are we bleeding? Is there actually margin at the end of the month? My guess is you're overspending in certain areas and that's what's causing you to go deeper into credit card debt. The chaos is causing overspending because you're chaotic in the money piece versus if you were

dialed in and you said, all right, honey, the two of us sit down together, this is how much we're going to spend on groceries, period. Period. This is how much we're going to, we're not going out to eat. Do we get this debt cleaned up? This is how much we're going to spend on X. This is how much we're going to spend on Y. Nothing else.

That's it. This is what we are, it's a statement of fact. And then you hold to that and you don't go over one of those categories. Because if you lay all the categories out, no one plans to be in debt except Congress. right? You are not going to plan. You're going to lay out a plan where every dollar has a name and then you freaking stick to it and regimen the crap out of it. Well, yeah, then because when you have it in your budget, now you can look at it and say, we only have $1,000 of margin. At that rate, it's going to take us four years to pay this off. I'd sell that car in about 30 seconds. Exactly. But when you know how much. That thing's got to go. When you know how much you need, then suddenly you can get ahead of it and say, at my side hustle, I have to make $2,000. not just picking and being okay with however much the side hustle brings in. That's just what I make. You have to set an amount and go out and get that amount and work until you bring it in.

Yeah. And her job, since she's head housekeeper, head, I mean, she's in charge. She's the head home economist is what I was trying to say. Head home economist. Her job is to make every one of these dollars scream. It has to perform the food money. has to stretch the food that every dollar the clothing money has to stretch everything's got she has to manage it with as much regimentation and discipline and strength as she does seven children so that you don't

lose your freaking mind and you can't justify the purchase of this car with a side hustle you won't make enough by the time you're a hundred to justify this car or the side hustle that was bull crap you bullcraft yourself so i would sell that car in about 20 seconds of our view As your business grows, everything becomes more complex. There was a time when Ramsey Solutions had too many disconnected systems and not enough visibility across the business. We wasted too much time chasing information instead of making decisions. That's why we got NetSuite. NetSuite brings your financials, inventory, CRM, and more together in one place.

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I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I love it. Well, you're in the right place, kiddo. What's up? How can I... I thought to cry. How can I set boundaries with my husband? spending to help our marriage be healthy and strong to protect our kids and our goals. Tell him he cannot serve in Congress any longer. Agreed. Sharon, what's it look like the spending that you're talking about? I mean, it's got you in tears, so it must be... Extreme.

Yeah. What's it look like? We have been trying to do the baby steps for eight years. he keeps not keeping promises. This is our third time trying to get out of debt. We use every dollar. We've tried marriage counseling with church leaders. I haven't signed a contract because I was so desperate.

We've got allowances, wealth planning, therapy sessions, weekly budget meetings. Nothing's working. We're charging through $3,000 of minimum debt pay. It's each month. So the techniques you're attempting are not the problem. No. It's the fact that you're not doing any of them as a family because he keeps breaking the contract, not following through on every dollar, not following through on getting out

of debt. And so what's broken? I mean, have anybody looked at him and said, dude, what is up with you? No, because any time I try to bring something up, I get two answers. the first answer is he just need to be patient and compassionate with him. Or the second answer goes off the other deep end, which is you need to make a secret account and have a lifeboat bank account that's secret from him. But I don't believe in keeping secrets from my husband.

Right. Well, there's a third answer, and that's divorcing. Which I don't think. that we're at that point because I still love him very much. Well, you just told me eight years of misbehavior and you called a show and talking to strangers and the first thing happens you start crying. You're not in a good place. And you said,

because I realize that most of it is my enabling behavior. I don't think it's enabling behavior. I think it's, it's more that you, he doesn't believe that there's any consequences for continuing to destroy his family. Plus, Sharon, there's no way that this behavior is just siloed to money. No, I'm pretty sure it's addiction. Yeah. Because at this point, like, finally I'm calling it what it is.

It's addiction. Now, let's talk about what you said before because you said the advice you're getting is on both ends of the spectrum. I do think in instances where there's some sort of addiction, whether it's gambling, pornography, whatever it is. there does need to be a separation of finance. I'm not saying it has to be done secretly. As a matter of fact, I'm saying it's not done secretly, but there does need to be a hard cut where you're keeping the money safe for you and the family.

You're the one that's having primary control over it because he's not well. Until healing occurs. He's not well, and he's not able to participate today. If that's what's really going on, I don't know if I'm going to call it that or not. I think this guy's just a child. Well, I've been very patient the whole eight years that we've been going through this.

Oh, you've been way too. I mean, I'm eight months and I'm having a problem. But do you know, can you see the purchases or is it he has credit cards somewhere that you don't know of? What does it look like? No, I see everything. I am part of all the accounts very recently. I started squirling away anytime he spends money, then I'll take that exact amount and put it into savings. so then that, because his habit is that if he saves the money, he spends it. It's automatic. He just, he has to burn a hole in his pocket. But what gives you the idea that it's an addiction? If you told me, Jade, he's got 40,000 worth of credit cards. I can't log in. I can't see it, but my name is

attached to it, right? What makes you think it's addiction? What are you seeing that's giving you that sign? Because we will set aside, like I said, this is a our third time going through the steps. We keep bouncing between one and two over and over. He keeps making promises and we keep together. Right, but tell us what the money looks like. Tell us what you're seeing in the purchases. How much?

What type of an expenditure is it? Give us those details. He's spending at least $4,000 a month on just his wants and needs, mostly lifestyle creep. Like what? Snacks and gaming purchases and work for lunch for, work and gives for family members like our two step kids birthdays and money for his friends. So what's giving you addiction? What are you seeing spending-wise that you're going?

You know what? I don't think this is an unknown. Where is it going? That's making you think addiction. I know where it's going because I'm the nerd. I think you're, I think she's saying spending addiction, not side addiction. Got you. Yeah, specifically spending addiction. This is not spending addiction. This is a guy who cares only about himself. This is not spending addiction. This is extreme selfishness and extreme immaturity. How long have you been married?

He's a butt. Ten years. Ten years. So eight of the ten years. Yeah. That's what's going on. And so, you know, you guys need a good marriage counselor that will help you form some adult boundaries that both of you agree to. Both of you agree to stick to.

or that this marriage ends. But that's the thing, Sharon, it takes two to make it happen. So if you're saying it's been eight years, he won't go to counseling, he won't do this, he won't do that. You need to go. And the counselor needs to form the words

and the sentences for you that turn into what we call an ultimatum that says, okay, either we're going to be working on this together and we're going to solve this as two adults or we're going to solve it separately. Now, you need to decide, are you going to come to counseling

and are you going to solve this problem because I'm simply not going to live like this. And that has never been said, apparently. I don't think so. And it's time for it to be said. I don't want you to divorce. But also don't want you live in another 10 years like this. You're a basket case, girl. I mean, you're all to pieces.

And it's not fair to live like this. I wouldn't live like this. I've cried like that, but not days on end. I get up and change something that's causing that, you know. We're just not going to be this way anymore. And so, you know, we get those calls. I feel like we get a lot of these calls. And, you know, it's, it's no indictment on men, but it just happens to a lot of times be women calling. And I feel like they're willing to put up with more of this behavior because, well, they're looking at it. They're looking ahead and they're going, gosh, if I make this move, what does it mean for me? If I've been a stay-at-home mom,

oh gosh, now I'm going to be a single mom. Now I have to go back into the workforce. What can I do? And it's like they're just spinning out all of these hypotheticals that they don't feel ready for. And because of that, they'll stay in a situation with a dude like this who's eight years of just terrible behavior. And it just, I mean, my heart breaks for that because it's sad. But the way you fix it is, is that you go, okay, I'm going to restart my career. I'm going to contact a divorce attorney.

I'm going to find out what the rules are in California about child support and alimony. And, you know, there's a bill. There's a new bill he's going to get to pay every month called taking care of these kids. And, you know, if he can't come to the table, I'm not going to live like this. That's right. And you have to decide, are you willing to live like this? If you're willing to live like this, you don't need to call us. You can just keep living like that.

I can't participate in you living like that because I think it's dumb. I wouldn't do it. But I do think there's a chance he could change, but no one's hit him in the face with a big enough too before yet. And I'm the guy that's perfectly willing, you know. So, you know, you will do this or you don't stay. I mean, it's the same thing like when someone's working here at Ramsey. Okay. These are behaviors you can't continue with.

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That's BetterHelp, H-E-L-P.com slash Ramsey. Aidan is in Asheville, North Carolina. Hi, Aiden. How are you? Hey, Dave. Hey, Jade. How are you guys? than we deserve. What's up in your world? Excellent. I'm so happy to talk to you guys. A good mentor handed me your book four years ago,

and it truly helped my wife and I pay off about 130 grand in debt. Way to come. That's awesome. Good for you. We're very thankful for which y'all do. So my question is a bit of a soul-searching one, and it's when does it make sense to sell our house and buy a new one from a lifestyle and a financial perspective. I mean, I'd want to know what's causing you to want to do that in the first place. Is it the kids are getting older? Is it that they're moving out? Like, what's driving the decision? Yeah, so we're 29, no kids yet. I bought the house in 2023 before we got married. And we're actually in, like, the really nice part of town. You know, we're close to schools and conveniences. But I'm more of a

country guy. And my wife and I are trying to look at houses a little bit further out of town and because we only bought the house so recently we're kind of just I'm a bit of a spreadsheet nerd and she's kind of a follow-your-heart woman and we're trying to just wrestle with when do we do this so okay so you bought the house before you were married and after you were married you discovered that you bought the wrong house yeah that's what it sounds like I bought the house yeah this is like I would never choose this had I been been involved yeah so anyway The, yeah, okay, well, I mean, you're out of debt, you said, right? Except the house.

Or is the house paid off too? Yes, sir. No, sir. We have about 220,000 inequity in it. Okay, and what do you owe on it? About $3.15. Okay, so it's a half million dollar, $550,600,000 house. And the price of the property that you would attempt to move to would be what?

It'd be about hopefully $490 to $500,000. is kind of the highest we're willing to go. Okay. So you're moving down in price? Mm-hmm. Correct. And as long as, and you would take out less of a mortgage than you have now? Correct.

Well, that's kind of a no-brainer mathematically. Are you doing this on a 15-year? We have been kind of, we haven't picked out an actual loan yet because we haven't, we've looked at houses, we haven't actually, like, put in offers or listed ours yet. So, yeah. I mean, if you move down in house and you keep the same size mortgage or less, especially if then you put it on a 15, like we teach, and you read that in the book, you already know that. So then that becomes a no-brainer. Yeah, and it's a house that more suits your needs. Well, that's a no-brainer. But let's say you were living in a half-million dollar house. When do we make the decision to go to an $800,000

house? That's a different discussion, right? When you save up the money to pay the difference or when you take out the new mortgage, is it on a 15-year fixed where the payment's less than a fourth of your take-home pay would be the maximum move up you would do. But you're not talking about moving up. You're talking about moving down. And so do it? I don't see any reason not to do you. Yeah. I mean, as long as the payment suits your, you know, your budget at 25% after taxes. And again, I'm going to push you to move it to a 15 year. You need to get in the business of getting the right follow all the way through on the total money makeover book that you got, which is baby step seven. and let's get the house paid off.

You're young, you're smart. You've already paid off $130,000, and you're making good money, and you guys are making this decision together. So let's take a 15-year fixed, and even if it means we have to cut back on our vacation a little bit or something for the first couple years, I would do that, and lean into that. That's exactly how I would do it.

Great call, man. You're doing good. Congratulations. Bob's in Ocala, Florida. Hi, Bob. What's up? Yeah, hi, hi, Jay. Hi, Jay.

I've been following you guys, and I don't believe I've heard this question or anything close to it, actually. I do have some money, and I live in Florida, and you can't drive 100 yards without seeing a lawyer billboard saying, you know, we sued, or we got our client $5 million and $3 million. knows. And I'm concerned about preserving the money that I do have. And I'm wondering what, what, I don't know, insurances and trusts and what is out there that can help me preserve my money from lawsuits. If I get an offender bender, I'm figuring a lawyer's going to say,

not how much damage was done, but how big is your bank account? And I don't know, What avenues are out there to protect the money that I do have? You know what $10,000 lawyers at the bottom of the ocean is? A start. Okay. Anyway. I agree with that. Yeah, go ahead and send me the emails, people.

I love reading your griping when I do something like that. It just makes me happy. So anyway, so what is your net worth? About $2 million. Good for you. Well, done, Bob. Well, the first thing we would tell people to do is have a minimum, and in your case a larger one, a minimum of a $1 million umbrella policy. The typical person can add a million dollars of liability to their homeowners and their auto for around $3 to $400 a year. For $5 million, which is what I would get if I were you, okay, then that's going to cost you $1,500 a year. And so if you have a wreck and it's your fault or you get blamed for it being your fault, whatever, and someone wants to sue you in your example, then the first five million is going to come out of your insurance company's pocket, which is going to take care of 99.9% of the greedy lawyers and their customers. Okay. Okay.

And so that's the first thing. In my case, I carry an umbrella that's even larger. The second thing you can do is you can move properties and or assets into individual LLCs, and then the thing that happens in the LLCs, the thing that the LLC owns is the only thing that can be sued. So I'll give you an example. I've got one LLC that's got five houses in it. A tenant the other day had a, not the other day, a few years ago, had a guest over who got drunk. off his butt and fell off the porch and broke his arm.

Ooh-oh. And guess whose fault they thought that was? Dave. Someone who is not attending the party, me. Okay? So they decided to sue the landlord because this drunk bozo friend fell off the porch and broke his arm. Well, number one, it didn't get very far. We beat the snot out of them with a lawyer on our side because they deserve to have

the snot beat out of them. But I'm threatened to sue the other lawyer just for malpractice for even taking the thing on. But had they prevailed and, and won a five or a $10 million judgment against us. The only thing they could have taken would have been the things that that LLC owned, which in this case would be five houses, so it would be a lot for one drunk bozo. But still, they wouldn't get all the rest of the real estate I own or anything else I own.

They wouldn't have come over and try to take Ramsey. They wouldn't have done anything like that because they couldn't because Ramsey doesn't it. You know, the other LLCs don't own it. The only thing that owns that property and all of the, business is done in that LLC. So you can put your personal residence in something like that, or you can put it in a trust, you can put your investments in that. At this point, Bob, we've kind of seen it all at our place. And so I don't own anything anymore. There's not a single

thing in my personal name. Even my cars are in LLCs, which is the most stupid thing in the world, but they are. Just because of what you're talking about. Because if I bump, into somebody they're going like are you okay yeah I'm fine what's your name Dave Ramsey oh God you know it's like right so that's messed up that that's what's coming so um I think I'm I think I just died and came back to life yeah so that but that's what you're worried about Bob and that's a real thing out there because we live in a litigious culture how do you decide where to cap the LLC well where we have a piece of property that's a large piece of property it's a singular LLC for the property the old office building the old financial piece

supplies is worth about 13 million. That's its own LLC. Okay. Um, and so on. On houses, we, we just decided randomly five of them, you know, because it gets up to, you know, it gets three, three to five million dollars in there and then they don't get a hundred million dollars worth of other stuff, right? Yeah. So, um, but the problem is now, I've got all these LLCs, so my tax return looks like a phone book. I'm sure it does. So, um, but that's part of the risk. And none of it's for tax purposes, by the way. It's all for risk. management. So trusts and LLCs dividing up properties making the targets smaller by the greedy lawyers and their dysfunctional clients. And then on the other side, big umbrella policies. And those are

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Hi, guys. How are you doing? Thanks for taking my call. Sure. What's up? So I'm a recent newlywed. My husband and I got married in May. Currently, we're debt-free except for the house.

And I'm calling because we want to grow our family and have a baby, but we're trying to figure out how to afford it. My husband's income isn't enough to support us financially. So my main question is how can we prepare to be a single income household when we currently need two incomes to survive? Well, there's no magic wand, kiddo. I know. You're working or he's making more money, right?

Yeah. So which is it? Or it might be in where you live. It might be in your rent or mortgage. What does he make now? So my husband currently makes $38,000 a year. What's he do? Which careers last year.

He's a mail carrier for the USPS. Okay. And what do you make? I make about $3,600 a month, and I work as a server at a restaurant. Okay. So when you guys were dating and talking about marriage and getting engaged and having babies and all that kind of stuff, you probably talked about this. Yeah, we did talk about it.

And he used to make about $75,000 a year working as a bartender, but we didn't have any benefits. So he switched jobs so we could get health insurance. And I still wonder if that was even the right decision in the first place. $40,000 worth of benefits? I don't think so. Yeah. How are you guys living? Are you renters?

Do you own a place? What's it look like? We own our house. We owe $364,000 on it. And the mortgage itself is. $2,200 a month. Yeah. So, I mean, 100% is an income problem.

And the question is, is there something that you can do part-time to close those gaps? And if not, if there's nothing that you can do even part-time to close those gaps, then he's going to have to look in a different career field. Because did he set out my next... How old is he? 38. We're kind of at that

stage where if we need to have a baby soon or we're not going to have one. That's not the point. I mean, it is the point. That's why you call. But the thing is this, if you, if this was not the way the question was framed and a 38 year old guy called me and he said, I make $38,000 a year and my wife wants to stay on with a baby, I would have said pretty simply, you need a different career path. And this is your wake-up call. You probably needed one anyway, honey. He did, right? Calling him, honey. And so, you know, he probably needed to be thinking about this. that anyway, going, okay, I don't want to be a 84-year-old one of these, right? I don't want to be a 64-year-old one of these. I want to be a 64-year-old that makes $140,000 a year. And so I'm got to be thinking about what I want to be in the next chapter of my life and what does that thing I want to be require of me that I don't have now. Do I need to get a certification? Do I need to get a degree? Do I need to get an apprentice program or a mentorship program? But the average household income in America today is about $80,000.

That includes some single earners and some dual earners. Okay. You guys are just below that as a dual household. If we go to him as a single household, then you would be by far in the category of lower income. And lower income doesn't live in a $300,000 house. Right. So all that to say, you know, I'm going to sit down with both of you and say, what career adjustments can you make that over the next 10 years makes this doable? We don't want to wait 10 years to have kids, but we've got to have a light at the end of the tunnel, and you're not going to get a 100% raises as a male carrier carrier.

Right. So you just simply can't do the life you're doing on his income, mathematically. And so, you know, I'm going to figure out what I want to be in the next chapter of my life, and it's not this. Yeah, I mean, I hear three goals that you want. Do you want a baby? You need more income and you want to be a stay-at-home mom. And so you've got to decide which is the highest priority and something's going to be a trade-off. If you want to do this before, like you said, you don't have a lot of time, then you might have to consider having a baby and not staying home for a while. Like you might have to give and take in order to get what you want. building his career track change might take a three-year curve. Exactly. And you may want to have a baby during that time. And so you keep working.

Yeah. People do it all the time. And it's a sacrifice, but sometimes it's like that. People do it all the time. And so, but there's no, have your cake and eat it too mathematically. You've got to mathematically, you have to face the math. Math will not bend to your passions, will, desires. It will cause you to change how you're doing those things.

so that the math changes. Yeah, and we can give her, find the work you're wired to do. She can pass it on to her husband, and hopefully that'll get the juices flowing on a new career path. Yep, that's what needs to happen. Yeah, so that was a fine career path. There's nothing wrong with it until you add these other goals. Yeah, that's true. And then it exposes the fact that it's kind of stuck.

Mike's in Bismarck, North Dakota. Hey, Mike, what's up? Hey, Mike, or hey, Dave and Jade, super, super excited to be on a call with you guys. So I have a quick financial question right before I get to it. I just want to say the impact that you guys have on people goes far beyond finances. The beginning of this year, I made a goal to run a marathon or a half marathon. And every day I went out training, I listen to your guys' show, the day of the race. I ran and finished to your guys' show.

Wow, wow. Thank you. What you guys do. Good for you. Thank you guys. It's what you guys do. It's pushing people to be better in all aspects of life. It doesn't come easy.

Thank you. Good for you. Thank you, guys. So my question is, I have three retirement accounts, one from my current employer, one from a past employer, and then my personal Roth IRA. And it's the one from my past employer that I'm wondering if I need to move it over into my personal retirement account. And here's why. So I used to be a high school teacher in the state, and so I have a state-funded retirement account. That currently has $32,900 in it.

Yes, I would get online and get a smart investor pro and sit down with them and do a direct transfer rollover from that account into an IRA. Immediately. Immediately. No question. Okay. Because the options, there's 8,000 mutual funds to choose from when you do that. You have limited options at your old workplace and probably a state-funded retirement account.

It probably sucks. Most of them do. Right. And that was the two reasons why I haven't done it is because, yes, the return is basically five to six percent at best, at worst, zero percent. Yeah, that's horrible. And it was kind of that security blanket of like, well, if everything goes awry, I'm not going to see that number go down. But again, it's not ever going to climb up. And then the other side of it is if I would happen to go back and teach for one more year without touching anything in that account, then I'll qualify. for a pension. And so that was the other side.

I'm not, I'm not going to, listen, here's the thing. In 23, the market went up 26% and 24, it went up 25% and 25 it went up 18%. And 26, it's up 14% so far. If you had started in 23, the 32,000 would be 64,000. And then you wouldn't care about a stupid pension because your money's growing. So you need to get your money growing, man. I would move it. And it won't be, It won't be the exact same account. You can put it in the same mutual fund, but there's separate account numbers, but it's called a direct transfer rollover. Anytime you leave, people take your 401k and roll it.

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description. John is with us in New York City. Hey John, how are you? Hi Dave. I'm not doing better than what I deserve, to be honest with you guys. Me and my wife, right after COVID, we bought our apartment and things were great and life was good. After a few years, we felt like the condo was too small. The two of us were not enough as a family, so we had our daughter and we moved in a bigger house. Things were fine. I did not really feel like the 30 years' mortgage was that bad, and we kept living our life very humble. So in little time, my job changed, I just start making more money. My income increased, receive a promotion, another promotion.

I work more, more and more. And, you know, I share those promotions with my wife, but she doesn't really know how much money I really make. So I quietly started to use the extra income to change our future. I paid off my car, her car. I made some improvements in the house. Open IRA, RotarIA. I open a 401k with her employer.

At one point, I even increased her weekly contribution to 75. percent. So, you know, I started talking the house, the mortgage. I want to get rid of the mortgage of our primary residence. And a little over two years, I paid down an amount of money that honestly surprises me. And we gone from 30 years of chains almost to the finish line. And if everything goes according to the plan, I could potentially pay off our home by next Christmas. And that brings to me the question I want to ask you today, should I tell her now or should I just wait and do things the way I've been doing them and eventually give to my family the best Christmas they could possibly imagine by just say, guys, we are rich. We made it. And so this is my

question for you guys. What should I do? I just think that you have a good intent. You know, I think you have a good heart. I could tell it by at the end you wanting it to be a surprise for your family. But the question I have is why didn't you want your wife to be a part of it all along. Is that a cultural thing? Are you Indian? No, no, no. It's not a cultural thing.

I would say that this is more of a race that I'm running, you know, with myself, with step one and two intensity, with gazelle intensity. Parole me wants to tell her everything. I want to share the excitement because this is our life, our family. Right. And this is not a goal that I was rich. I was able to reach together. But at the same time, I think that maybe she doesn't need to carry the way.

weight of the race that I decide to run. She's happy. She sacrifices without knowing. She doesn't see the money that are in our account. The widows that I have dealt with when their husband did this and thought he was giving her a gift but left her ill-equipped to handle the real world when he died because she's never actually faced the real world because she was so cared for. The old-fashioned term would be a kept woman. And while I'm with Jade, it's a good intent, but you've robbed her of the adult part of this instead of the child process. It's like you're giving your daughter a gift instead of having a full-grown woman walking

beside you and enjoying carrying the weight and being your partner and those kinds of things. That's been taken from her. and so and she might be okay with it. I mean, John, I remember like when we went broke, my wife, before we went broke, my wife used to say things like, whatever you want to do, honey. And she meant it. She didn't want to fool with it.

And just go do whatever you want to do. Well, I drove the dead gum car off a cliff. In your case, you did the other way. You've been very smart, very wise and have gotten raises and have ever gotten, you've prospered. But whatever you want to do, honey, leaves the other partner. without emotional and without the emotional muscle to carry on if something happens to you. Yeah.

You're not a bad guy. No, you're a wonderful guy. I don't sense that at all. I think you're, I think you guys leaned into what you were most comfortable with, not necessarily what was best for each of you going forward in a partnership. You're more bent towards being a nerd. She's more bent towards whatever you want, honey. But sometimes we have to press ourselves to be what's better for.

the partnership. Yeah, that's a good, that's a good point. So what would I do in this situation? If you've got everything paid off by Christmas, the difference we're sitting in August right now, the difference in August and December's doesn't matter in this discussion. So if you want to unveil and have the big Christmas surprise, that's fine. There's worse things that can happen. But after Christmas in January, each month, I want her to spend 15, 20 minutes with you looking over, where are the money's going and being a grown-up and making the decisions with her husband and being aware of what things cost, what it takes to live, and so on. And again, so that in a worst case scenario where she's left without you,

because of the proverbial milk truck, right? Poor milk guys, they get blamed for everything. But the number of deaths by milk truck, hypothetically, are a lot versus the ones that actual occurs, almost none. But anyway, yeah, you get hit by the milk truck and she's left there. She doesn't have any, she doesn't understand reality. That's right. And we get those calls. Oh, we get them and they're, they feel very helpless. There's no muscle tone in the math and in the, you know, and they're like, you know, they say things like, but I, I really, I want to, no, you really can't. You don't have any money. Or you've got enough money and calm down. Yeah.

And I just want to say because I know there's a lot of couples who operate just like this. It's kind of like whoever's bent towards money and being the nerd, they do that. And whoever has no interest in it, whatever you want, honey. That's what we did. Yeah. And I just think it's worth it to note, you know, the way that we teach, it's okay for someone to take the lead in the area. You know, it's okay for someone to be, hey, I'm the one who kind of gets out the budget. it. I'm the one who says, hey, today, the meeting's coming up, but the other spouse has to attend.

They have to pay attention. They have to have eyeballs on it. They have to make approvals, right? You can have a, you can play a part in the process without being the main lead. And I think that's the thing. Because when you do, at least you know how much money you have, where it's going, where it's being invested. You've agreed, yeah, that's the right amount for groceries. You've agreed, yes, that's the right amount for vacation or what have you. And then each person has a say in it, even if the nerd is the one that, you know, filled in the numbers. Yeah, exactly. And it's just a healthier environment when things come up then.

I mean, and usually it's when there's a problem that this is exposed. In his case, everything's gone good. Yeah, good for him. So there's no, there's the, the system he's using has never been stress tested. Yeah. You know, and when you start stress testing your system, that's when you can tell if something works or not. In my case, we started stress testing whatever you want to do, honey, and we discovered that honey wasn't doing bright stuff, me.

Yeah. And so I went broke because I borrowed too much money, honey. And so, you know, that was what happened. Now, would her objecting to that have kept that from happening? Probably not. We probably would have argued and I would have won the argument. But still, the idea that she had, I remember distinctly walking down the street one night and saying the kids were you know had just gone to bed it was early like eight o'clock at night and uh high

stress in our house and going um well i don't think we're going to make it i think i don't think i'm going to be able to turn this i think these guys i've been fighting them for a year and a half and i think it's going to come unraveled and she said well i had a feeling and i meant yeah you had a feeling but she had no knowledge of exactly the tactical nuanced garbage I was shoveling that I had buried myself under. And so, but I remember having to confess that my plan, uh, what was causing us to be bankrupt. And then she had an opinion.

And, uh, no, honestly. Or was she still like to her. She, she didn't say whatever you were going to do, honey, but, um, she didn't say, well, I told you so, because she didn't. You know, can't really do that if you didn't do that. So. But I mean, she had to have been shocked. It was more of a, like I had adapted to the stress and to the reality that we were going to lose everything.

And then she had to swallow all of that at once. Yeah, that's tough. And that's not fair. Yeah. You know, and that's not John's situation. He's on the other end. You know, like she has adapted to not having to be stressed about anything. And now she's going to get a big Christmas present.

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How are you? Better than I deserve. What's up? I have a daughter who is a young adult, and she's also neurodivergent. If you're not familiar with that term, It means that, you know, she might be impulsive, lack sort of regulatory. Is she on the spectrum? Is that what you mean?

Well, a blend between autism and ADHD. Okay. If you met her. High functioning. Okay. Gotcha. Yeah. She seemed lovely.

The implication is when it comes to finances or financial decisions, she doesn't have the same control, or she might be impulsive and agree with something, and because she can legally sign leases or agreements, she has gotten herself into some situations where she's disadvantaged. And as a parent, I'm happy to see her being dependent. She's moved out of the family home.

She has a job, but it's low pain. So I do help a little so that, you know, she can buy solid food so that she can get therapy, you know, that she can continue to advance in life. How old is she? She is 25. Okay, very cool. What's her attitude about accepting advice from you? Well, accepting advice is limited, and that's part of the, DNA of sometimes people that are neurodivergent.

Well, she's open to persuasion by others, but not by you? Correct. Correct. You know, sometimes social cues, sometimes understanding the big picture, seeing around corners, that's not always the strength. And sometimes there's a little bit of mental health issue. But what I'm asking for, because basically there's no middle ground. ground with this. You either have got to leave her where she is, which is what I would love to see, in that she's stand alone, she makes her own decisions, or she's declared incompetent.

And then you just have to care for her. And I would not want to go there. You've come too far. You've come too far in the right direction. And so things have turned out at the best that you would hope for, I assume. And so I'm happy for her. But what goes with that, though, is I would ask her that as a part of her independence, that it's wise for her to remain humble about asking for help opinions on things to keep her as a safeguard, to keep her from getting taken advantage of. And so I'll give you an example in a different setting. It's not exactly the same, but it's the best I can come up with off the fly. It's when we teach people to start handling money together, one of the things we found is that

if a married couple will agree to not make a decision unless it's A, in the budget, or B, anything over $1,000, we have to do two things. One is we have to talk about it, and two is we have to wait overnight. And so this is an act of humility to submit yourself to that system to keep you from being, to keep a person that's not got the issues your daughter has, but people like me to keep me from overspending at Sam's Club, right? Yes. And so I got to check in with my wife. It's got to be in the budget and I can't come home with a new bass boat. Right? And so, and just because of my emotional immaturity in that case, right? But a little different, but it still has the same effect. So I've submitted myself with humility to a system that protects me from my impulsiveness. And that's called

growing up. Now, I don't know how that applies in this situation, but if we could get her to do that and say, honey, you do whatever you want, you're independent, but for your own sake, please agree to check with dad or check with me or check with your pastor. I don't care whoever it is, someone outside the deal before you do a deal of a certain size, and it'll keep you from getting screwed over, honey. Yes, and that's excellent advice. I think the complexity to this situation is she actually has a decent amount of money. And you might say how did she get a decent amount of money,

but she ran her own business at different stages. It was cash business, and she actually had a decent amount of money, properly invested. But she's entered into life, which is moving out and living on her own. And now, because of the lack of judgment, because of the lack of understanding of financial agreement, she's burning through that money. Yeah, yeah. And I would sit down with her and scare her about that. Honey, this is not working?

Will she be, is she able to follow the advice that Dave is suggesting or will her impulse take over in a moment? That's an excellent question. Thank you for asking. I think because there's a high functioning individual, it's almost like they're rebelling like a teenager would because maybe they're a little bit delayed. That makes sense. So having a parental voice or having the scaring, there's a high desire to be independent.

And on the one side, I think, yes, let her create her own problem. No, I don't want to do that. That's not the purpose of the call. But here's the thing. It's a little bit like when my teenager would say, Dad, treat me like an adult. And I would say, sure, act like one. and that applies to this situation. You want independence, you want to be left alone, then act in such a way that you're not going to lose your independence

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She is an 18-year-old incoming college freshman. We have a 529 for her, and she has scholarships, so college is paid for. She has some money and savings and her checking, and she's not a spender, so she won't need all of that anytime soon. I suggested we help her open a mutual fund account to allow a portion of her funds to grow so that she can use it when she graduates to start her life. He wants to put money in a retirement account because she is so young that a small amount can end up being more.

What is the wiser thing to do? I have a couple of thoughts on this. Assuming it's if it's her money, if it's money that she has, I would just have her put it in a H-YSA, a high-yield savings account. have it there, let it grow. That's her emergency fund. That's money for her to continue to build on later on if she wants to, you know, one day have an apartment as she's ready to move out and start life on her own. If it's money that's coming from you all, you know, Dave, I'm the type if you want to gift kids money, I kind of feel like now is more helpful than later, like them making a retirement

account for her. It's like, that's really nice, but I would be more likely to throw it in a brokerage account, have it build up. You guys still have control over it, but when you're ready to gift it, you can. I'd probably go that route. I like that. I like that. The thing is we don't know how much money we're dealing with here. We don't. In this call and this. There's a lot missing. So if it's $5,000, it's one discussion. If it's 50,000, it's another. It's a different. Okay. It sounds like it's, I'm just, I just have a feel that it's north of 20 or something. Okay. And so it's enough that it doesn't need to be sitting and checking, right? So there's a couple of things this can be used for. If it goes into a simple brokerage account, into a mutual fund, some of it. Let's say,

let's say there's 30,000 bucks there and you move 20 of it that way. Okay. That could be the purchase of her first house when she gets out of college and talks about getting married or just purchase her first house when she gets out of college, whichever, right? That could help move that that way. If it's 50,000, there's another thing. Oh, by the way, there's another thing. We can add some money to this. Yeah. You can pull out of the 529 and you should pull out of the 529 the amount equal to the scholarship with no taxes. That's very good. That's a good loophole. And I would take that money and do her, do a Roth IRA because only 7,000 bucks. Do a Roth IRA and then do the rest of it towards a brokerage account for the house. Now we're talking like it's a lot of money. So if it's all 5,000

bucks, then we're not doing that. Okay. But but if there's 20,000. 30, 40, $50,000, including what you're pulling out, like every semester that she doesn't have to pay tuition, you're allowed to pull the equivalent amount of cash out of that tuition out of the 529 to completely tax-free. And then I would use that maybe to fund the Roth and use her stuff to fund her future house purchase or something with an HSA, I'm sorry, a high-yield savings account and maybe a little mutual fund in there, too. Some of that, some mix of all of that. will be there. The big thing here is not actually the money. It's the teaching moment with her. You've done a great job not being a spender. And this gives you the opportunity to think long term.

I wouldn't only think retirement long term. That's too far out there. But if I got enough, I would throw some that way just because the numbers are real. And then, but I would also. So I kind of think you all win the argument here. Yeah. That's what it sounds like. I would do all of it if you can. And if we add to it that you can pull out of the 529 equal to the scholarship tax-free, that helps the equation even more. So that might be the way to do it. But I agree with you. The biggest thing here is it's kind of like when somebody calls us, hey, my 16-year-old has $5,000,

they've been cutting grass. They want to open a mutual fund. That's okay. Well, we got all this compound interest for the next 492 years. It's going to be a lot of money. Yeah, sort of. It's hard for the teenager to get excited about that, too. But that's the biggest issue.

The only reason you want to open a mutual fund for a 16-year-old is for them to learn how mutual funds work. And learn that their hard work can be put to work in an investment. I want them to get those emotional, philosophical, mathematical, mathematical understandings more than I'm worried about what $5,000 will turn into when he's $65. Yeah. That's, you know, it will turn into a lot of money because that's a long time to compound. But it's still not, you know, it's not $20 million or something. Right. So it's, but teaching a kid how to invest and how to work hard and how to live on less thing he makes and how to have the, the chops and how good it feels to see your mutual fund statement come in and know how to calculate it.

That's cool. A little nerdy, but it's a pretty cool, pretty cool skill. And by the way, that's what rich people teach. They teach their kids how to handle money. And they talk about money because they have some. And that's how, that's what the talk, discussion is around the kitchen table. So make that the discussion. This is a good question by Renee.

Very good question. Tony's in Omaha, Nebraska. Hey, Tony, what's up? How's it going? Thanks for taking my call. Sure. How can we help? So I was calling about a potential career move that I don't know if it's a good idea or not.

Right now I have an interesting job where I'm going to make around 24 bucks an hour. I work for a local municipal. So I work for the part. parks department. How old are you? Rent utility free. I'm a, I'm 35. Okay. You're single? And, uh, uh, uh, yep, I'm newly single. I have two kids. Okay. I've got a, so you make $24 an hour and and you're 35 and you work for parks and rec. Yeah, so I make around 58K a year because I'd get a lot of overtime, um, but that's, I also live rent utility free. And after that's all factored in, it's, it's, It's not too bad.

My main thing is the amount of overtime and working weekends. I have to kind of juggle like my kids. So the other option that you have, what? The other option I have is another job, which would be Monday through Friday, and I'd make anywhere from 60 to 66K a year. I also do, I have additional income coming in. I play gigs around the area, and I, I've, pulling around like why would you not take the job with more money is it because of the rent the

rent allowance the rent the rent around here like when I do the math it's it would actually be less money on paper no it's not I'd be you're doing the math wrong so you're making a you're making a total of 8000 more a year you're not making 54 at 24 dollars there's not that many hours on the calendar I make so I work days a week. And then I work overtime on top of that. Yeah, so what are they paying in, triple time and overtime? Uh, it's sometimes on holidays, it's double time. Uh, like, the highest year I ever made was 60 grand. And you're working like 80 hours or 90 hours to do that. Just dude, $24 is $30,000. What do you bring home a month?

I, so my paychecks, and that's, that's before tax and that's, that's before my pension. I know, I know. I know. Yeah. What do you bring home? What do you bring after tax home every month? So after tax home every month about, let's see. When I'm not working overtime, it's about $2,400 a month.

Which is $30,000 a year, oddly enough. But, yeah, that's not $50. And so you're telling me you're making another $25,000 in overtime. Bull. No, you're not. Mathematically impossible, dude. You're doing your math wrong. You can't do it.

I don't know where I'm screwing up here, but... I don't either. I don't either, but I mean, you'd have to be making $60 an hour and working another 40 hours to get there. You're just not doing it. It's not happening. On a month with overtime, what's your paycheck? So my paychecks, I'm biweekly. It could be, depending on the overtime, between like 16, 1,800.

I've had $2,000 paychecks biweekly. Okay. It's just kind of all, it's just depending on what's going on. I would take the new position, buddy. I don't think you're going to have to work as much if you take the new position as well. I would take the new position. You're going to make more money and work less. And you have to buy your own apartment.

Wow. Yeah. Just go rent your apartment and get your life back. You're starting over after your family falling apart. And you need the margin. You need the time in there. You're working all the time now. Hey, I want to talk to you for a second.

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Chris is in Seattle. Hey, Chris, what's up in your world? Hi, Dave. In my call today, I really appreciate it. Sure. How can we help? Well, I have a real estate question. So my wife and family and I, we are moving out of

Washington State, we're moving away, and there's a lot of people that are leaving Washington State right now, and because of that, the market is really flooded. Our property would be considered luxury real estate at this point, and all luxury real estate specifically is really dumping into value right now. So we could... So all the rich people are leaving. Fire sale it. Exactly.

You are 100% correct. Wow. And family people are leaving. as well. So we basically are at a point where we have, we just built an ADU on the property. I was the general contractor for it. We were able to build that without taking on any debt. And if we have to fire sale this place, we'll be taking, we'll be basically breaking even on what we put in to it over the last several years. But we could sell it and it would give us enough equity where when we move, we could be debt-free, or thanks to our low mortgage rate that we have

here, and we didn't take on debt to build the ADU, we could keep this property, use it as a cash-flowing rental immediately, and we would still be able to afford our new mortgage payment at our new home. And that's just kind of where we're stuck, is we have two good options, and we just don't really know which one's the better one to take. I would not invest in real estate in an area that I believed was going in the wrong direction. That's very true. And keeping this is the same as investing. Yes, yes it is.

Because if you believe it's going in the wrong direction, you're going to continue to see a flooded market and values are going to stagnate or drop if that actually occurs. I don't know. I don't know the market and I don't know what's going on. I'm going on what your observation is. But for the same reason that you're leaving, I would not keep it as a rental. Is that logical? That's very logical.

It's also what you'd say. And I mean, you're right. Unpredictable. Now, the other thing is this. The other thing is this. You could. It sounds like you guys are in good shape, financially. We are. Okay. Which means you could have patience on selling the property.

Patience equals price. Yes. And that's, yes. One thing that we are considering as well is take it off the market, let it be a rental for about 18 months until we get into the spring of 2028. and then attempt to resell it then. It's no skin off our backs. We'll definitely be able to get renters that are going to cover the mortgage. See if the market heals a little during that time? Yeah. You feel there's some indication the market will get better in that 18 months, not worse? No.

Okay. I mean, I'm not being, I really don't know. I think that's a fair thing to think of if, to Dave's point, there's some indicator that it's going to be better. You're not saying, hey, I'm renting with the idea. to be a renter. I'm just renting this to buy time until I can sell it for a fair price. I feel like those are two different, two different things. Yeah. And the second makes sense. I guess it not to be, it does make sense and not to be too

political about it, but there's a key bit of legislation that's that's in contention in the state right now, and that's a millionaire's tax. Yeah. If it gets struck down by the people, which it might, the conditions in Washington state will buoy and they will get better. They won't be as good because the damage has been done. But right now, the potential buyers for a property that we're selling are very limited because they are the type of people that are currently leaving this state. Yeah, because it turns out you can't tax people, they leave. Correct.

That's a basic tenant. I mean, for some reason, people that want to tax millioners don't understand that. can't tax them, they leave. So, um, right. I mean, it's, it happens all the time. We've seen it, we've seen it in mass. Anyway, so the answer to your question is if I'm, what's the price point on this thing? So that's what I was about to bring up the price point. This property should sell for a little over a million or right around a million because of its location, uh, the two buildings, all that jazz. In order for us to sell, we would probably have to get it into the high 800. sell in what period of time.

Any time. Okay. That's just kind of the going rate thing right now. It's no longer worth a million, and now it's worth 900? Yes. Because market value is what people will give you for it. It's not what we wish it would bring. Yeah.

Or what it used to bring. Yes, sir. It's what people will give you for it. What a willing buyer will give a willing seller when neither is in duress. That's the definition of market value in real estate. All right. So, and 18 months from now, you don't think that price is going to change much, unless it went down. It'll depend on that piece of legislation, I guess.

Yeah. Yeah. The other thing is this, you are leaving for what has become for you a very emotional reason, and I don't blame you. And for that reason, everything you do with this house is going to piss you off. I'm getting rid of it just because I want to be free. You've said, I'm going to head up, I'm going to load up the truck and move to Beverly. I'm out of here, hills, that is, swimming pools and movie stars. I'm out of here.

I'm leaving, okay? And every time you've got to go back over there and something doesn't go just right, you're going to be mad again. All over again. All those emotions are going to bubble up in your stomach and in your throat again. And I really like a clean break when it's from something extremely negative and I don't have to continue to deal with it unless there's a serious return on investment for the crap I'm getting ready to shovel. And there's not here. You're not telling me this is going to be worth a million two in 18 months.

You're telling me it might be worth 700. Yeah. And you've got to deal with a renter long distance. Yeah. Yeah. I think I might agree with that. I just didn't see a good enough chance that things would turn around. And even so with the legislation he was talking about, it could still be time. Yeah. It's just it's moronic when, I mean, California did it to themselves too and others have done it. It's moronic when these legislators and in the state of Washington state, the governor is an absolute moron. The, when they pass, when they want to pass something and they think they're going to tax the rich, it's logistically impossible in a free country to tax the rich unless you do it to the entire country. And even then, they'll leave and go to Costa Rica.

Yeah, just pick up and move on. And be an expat, you know, I mean, so they're going to leave. And so, you know, who left California? All those people that were producing money. Who stayed? Some that were producing money and everybody else. I mean, you guys, that's just. Straight up basic economics, stupidity.

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Annie is with us in Dayton, Ohio. Hi, Annie. How are you? Hi, I'm doing well. Thank you. Um, question, because I have two children, and we've always had very open financial discussions. I think we're fairly reasonable people, modest, but like reasonably financially, um, solid. And I'm thinking of doing something that might not be so reasonable and more emotional. So we lot, I lost my husband a number of years ago.

So it's just me and the boys. And at 21 and 24, both of my kids have recently purchased a home. And in our, like, part of the world, you can do that fairly reasonably. So they both have mortgages. And they don't have any other kind of debt, like college debt or anything like that. And I want to start, I don't believe in spilling children. That's why they've got grandparents. But I would like to give my kids something.

And I don't know kind of the best way to do that. I feel like I want to just help them pay their mortgage. because when I paid my house off, like the security, that gave me felt like something. Good for you. I just, you know, as a parent, that's what you want for your kids. How old are you, Annie? I'm at 55 yesterday. Good for you.

Happy birthday. Thank you. And what's your net worth? Like a little under two? Million. Yeah. Good for you. Well done.

Why are you hesitating? Like you're ashamed. didn't do anything wrong. You did everything right. Well, I know, but it's, yeah. It's awesome. I don't know. I'm nervous because I'm thinking about trying to retire. That's okay.

Again, it comes to security. I got you. How much are you talking about giving the boys? Just like little bits. Like instead of like giving them $1,000 for Christmas, like can I just put that on a mortgage? Or we're selling the home that we raised the boys in. And I now have a new house and I'm close to them, which is very, very, very, very, good. And I feel like I want to take some of that money because that was the house that their

dad was in and that I was in and we raised them. I want to get them a little bit, but not, like, they're doing okay. They have jobs. Like, they're doing a right. One of them just got married, and they bought a house and my other son, I'm 21, and he just bought himself a house. He's not married. And you're not remarried? No. No. Okay. All right. Well, you can do what, there's nothing wrong. you're not going to suddenly break their character with a $2,000 gift. Okay? And just if you give them, just write them a check and tell them that your request is that they pay it down on their mortgage. Of course, $2,000 doesn't move the needle much on the mortgage either.

It's not a lot of money. No. No. And I mean, when I die, they're going to get it all anyway. So they're going to get it eventually. So an individual, an individual can leave an individual or give an individual up to $19,000 a year. with no gift tax. I don't know if I can do that and then retire.

I said up to. We're not saying you have to. If you want to, up to. And yes, you can. If you did that for 10 years, you'll still have $2 million. If your $2 million is invested well, you could give away, you know, $20,000 a year and still have lots of money. Okay. But I'm not saying you have to, but I'm saying, you know, that this idea that somehow you're

going to even approach with a small gift like that destroying your nest day, you're not. Now, you start talking about giving them a couple hundred apiece. We're going to have to sit down and do some math. Yeah, no. And it's just the idea because I thought, well, maybe if I open a brokerage account, like, find me. No, no. Just let them run their lives.

Okay. Tell them what you would do if it were you. Hey, I'm going to give you this. You do what you want to with it. If it was me, I'd put it on the mortgage. Okay. Or if it's me, I'd open up a brokerage account. I can do that.

And maybe after I'm retired for a little while, I might feel like I could, because I just kind of give them that security, but I feel very insecure about retiring. Like that kind of scares me. So you say well-invested, I do tend to hoard a little bit, so some of it's invested really well. The other part of it, it's just the security thing. Well, I mean, if you've got a million dollars invested in good mutual funds,

it's producing $100 to $150,000 a year. Oh, wow. Okay. Okay. All right. And so if you don't spend more than that, you're probably not going to run out of money. No. No. Of your two million, if a million is invested in good mutual funds, as an example, I'm just giving you some math, okay?

Because, you know, this year, the stock market to date, and we're only in August, is up about 14%. And so that'd be 140,000 on a million since January. Okay. All right. And I don't have quite a million because I have several properties. I don't have as much of the properties are producing 10% of what they're worth. Yeah. Same thing. Okay. So that the point is I sometimes if I sit, have people sit down and do math, they quit worrying about their retirement like you. And I'm not trying to do that to give them more. I'm just wanting you to quit worrying. There might be something where you can sit down, Annie, because it sounds like you want to give, but you're not exactly.

exactly sure what you want to do and what impact you want it to have. There may be something that you save up for for a while and then you're able to do more of a lump sum to go specifically towards whatever it is that you decide versus a thousand dollars here or a thousand dollars there. Now what's the balance on the boys' mortgages? One has like 127 and the other. I'm not sure that I know exactly what they thought. About. But they're young. About. Yeah, probably 200. Okay, so they're both under 200.

Okay. I mean, you could do something like if you, once you sit down with your smart vester pro and do some calculations about your retirement and if you see you've got room, you could do something like I'm going to match whatever extra you pay on your mortgage up to $19,000 a year. Okay. And you throw that on the mortgage. And so if they pay down $20,000.

and you pay down 20,000, that's 40 on 127. That mortgage is going away in a couple years. Yeah. I like that. When I paid off our house, like, it just opened a whole place. That's what I'm trying to get to. Yeah. Yeah, and then you change your family tree, right?

Yeah. Because these boys, everything you've said about them is positive about the young men. Oh, they're great kids. Yeah. So they're not going to screw this up paying off their mortgage. They're not going to suddenly go off, off. the ranch, right? Right, of course.

No. No, they're good. Yeah, they're smart. We've always kind of walked logically through things. So I would stretch you and say, if you sit down and do the math and you can get calm that you could give away $40,000 a year and not go broke, which by the way you can, then I would probably do something like, I'll match you guys on your debt reduction up until whatever you put extra on the mortgage.

I'll match it up to 19 a year in a calendar year. I can do that without any gift tax. And that's more than you were thinking of. But the math tells me you can do that and not even blink. It's not even going to scratch the surface for you. You're going to be just fine. So assuming you get this stuff well invested, and you're looking at these properties,

they're actually producing good rents. You're doing a good job managing the property and getting good money out of it. Same thing with your mutual funds. And if you take $2 million, you can do all of those. that. And by the way, if you did nothing except make 10% on that $2 million, you're 55, when you're 62, it's $4 million. When you're 69, it's $8 million. If you don't touch it and don't add to it, don't take any out and don't add anything to it, and it makes 10%, that's what it'll do. So that's the thing to kind of keep in your head, and that's what's going

through my head when I'm going $19.000. She's just getting started. It's not even going to be a thing. So, yeah, and we can get their houses paid off early, and then these guys can be millionaires by the time they're 30 because they don't have a mortgage and they have a smart mom that taught them how to live right, live on less than you make. Sounds like she changed her family tree to me. Absolutely. Wow. And hope her boys pay off their houses. There you go. That's it.

I hope they're smart enough to do that match. I think it'll work. I think it'll work good. And that's the kind of work. When you do a match like that, you're rewarding the behavior you want to cause to happen. and you're actually causing the mortgage to get paid off when you put enough on it to cause it. $2,000 is more symbolic than actual. You have only one more day to get your ticket before investing essentials starts.

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How are you? Hey, Stacey. How are you doing? Thank you so much for taking my call. Sure. What's up? I've been a huge fan. First of all, before I start with a question.

I just love watching your show. Thank you. Very quickly, I am worried about paying my kids' college education. My daughter just went to college out of state. So I have to pay $400,000 for my daughter, and that made me think that now I have to pay another $400,000 when my son goes to college in the next three years. How much money do you guys have? I have cash, liquid cash, $900,000. I have non-liqued, 401k, my house, gold, jewelry, all that kind of stuff is about $1.7 million.

We make, me and my husband together, we make about $480,000 annually. Okay. Would you allow me to argue with you for a minute? Yes, sir. I don't think you ought to spend $400,000 on education in your situation. I should not? No. It's too much.

Oh. What is she studying? She is going to study economics. Where? Going, she went to UC Berkeley this year. Okay, and what does an undergrad economics professor or economics student make when they graduate? I would think about 120, 150 to start out with. No, not even close.

You didn't even research. You just made that number up. I think so, Dave. Mm-hmm. Okay. No one is hiring. first year undergrad students for 150 grand out of UC Berkeley. Nobody.

Not with an economics degree. No. Sorry. So, you know, the thing is education, the purpose of blessing our children with an education is to give them the tools to become an adult and stand on their own. Okay. And so what I want to do is I want to teach, I want the kids to get an education that allows them to go pursue the career that they want to pursue as long as it is a reasonable career that can have implications in the marketplace.

And I don't think somebody with a $3 million net worth ought to spend a million dollars on their kids' education because the ROI is not there, return on investment. You can get an economics degree from University of Texas in Austin for half of that and be just as marketable as you are at a UC Berkeley. Now that might not make your little 19-year-old smile, but I'm not real concerned about that. What I want is your 29-year-old to smile because she's a standalone woman on her own. So I would not spend, and I did not. I have three kids that graduated with undergraduate degrees, all three of them.

They went to school for four years, graduated in four years. That in and of itself is a statistical anomaly. and but they did do that and, you know, went to a state school, University of Tennessee, and they're all very successful, all three of them, and are functioning in their degree field, actually, all three of them are. So, and again, we didn't spend the money so that we can say we went to Berkeley. Now, you can if you want. I mean, if you told me you had $20 million and you want to spend a million of it on this,

okay. Yeah. I don't really agree with it, but I might consider that's your choice. But out of $3 million, you should not spend a million dollars on two kids' undergraduate degrees. I just think I wouldn't do that. It's the return on investment for your children is not there. And the purpose of sending them there is not so that they can say they went to a certain school. It's not a prestige move.

It's a gathering of education of knowledge that's usable in the marketplace. That's the purpose of education. It's not a prestige move. It's not a purse. Not that we buy a coach purse. It's will the purse carry the money? That's all we care about when it comes to education. We don't care if it's a coach purse or not.

Because no one hires you based on where you went to school. And if you don't believe me, where's your doctor graduate from? You don't know, do you? Where's your lawyer graduate from? Oh, you don't know, do you? I know where my general counsel graduated from because we just interviewed him and hired him the other day. So I can tell you where one of my lawyers graduated from. I can't tell you where some of the others that do work force out in the marketplace graduate from.

I never even asked them. Wow. I just said, can you lawyer? Can you help me with my pain, doctor? You know, and can you show me a supply demand curve economist? Yeah. I'm just shook she was going to do this times too. So I'm sorry, Stays.

I hate to burst your bubble, but you got caught up in one of my speeches. But I hope you guys would, I'm going to ask you and your husband to reconsider this because I think it's a bad investment. Not your child is a bad investment, not an economics degree is a bad investment. But spending $400,000 on one is kind of ridiculous. And you need to rethink that. That's what I would do if I woke up in your shoes. Now, I don't think she's going to tell her daughter no, though, do you? No, because she's got 900 cash.

And she's sitting there looking at it, and it's spent in her head. And her daughter's dream is to be at Berkeley. And the problem is you're not going to create, probably not going to create a capitalist there. You're probably going to create another socialist. And you spent 400K to do that, which is kind of an irony, if you think about it. Yeah. Man, you think about where your kid's going to school. cool. Oh, man. Yeah. The chances of coming out of Berkeley, UC Berkeley, anything but liberal and left-wing

and socialist leaning from an economics perspective is fairly low, fairly low. If you want to study socialism and if you want to study John Maynard Keynes, Keynesian economics, and Keynes was a socialist, instead of Adam Smith, who was the ultimate capitalist. If you want to, and I've studied all these things, obviously. I've got a degree in finance and economics. So, but if you want to study that, that's, you know, you'll get a good dose of it there. So, oh, man. Yeah. Oh, man. I, I, guys, let me go back aside from her just a second and remind you the movie Borrowed Future, the documentary that we did that's award winning. You can see it for free on YouTube. We've almost got two trillion dollars in student loan debt now. Now, now she's not taking our student loan debt. So it's

Not a indoor, okay? But the biggest cause of student loan debt is the choice of where to go to school, not whether you go to school and not whether you study, but whether you go to school in-state versus out-of-state because if it's 12,000 in-state, it's 22,000 out-of-state, and it's almost exactly the same school. I mean, University of Tennessee is in-state. If you go to the University of Georgia, it's out-of-state. They're both excellent state colleges. You get a business degree from either one of those. We would hire you here in a heartbeat. But you're going to pay twice if you live in Tennessee just because you went across

state line. So don't. Their football team is better than ours usually, but don't go across state line. And you don't pay for a football team. That's either. That's the thing. So don't do it. Don't do it.

You know, think about what you're getting for what you pay. And it's the primary cause of student loan debt. Now, not in Stacey's case. She's got 900,000 waiting. go, Stacey, by the way. Way to go, building up some wealth. Yes. Hey, guys, Dave Ramsey here. Every day on this show, we help people work through real money problems and figure out what to do next. Now, you can get that same kind of help anytime with Ask Ramsey. Ask your money question and get answers built on Ramsey principles we use on the show.

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Ouch. Bryce is in Philadelphia. Hey, Bryce. What's up? Hey, guys. How are you doing? Great, man. How can we help?

Great. So I'm a 31-year-old man. I live in Philadelphia. I'm currently, I'm an assistant principal at a school, and I also invest in real estate out of state. I currently move back in with my parents just to get my finances together and pay off some debt. I own four rental properties in Ohio, and I'm helped managing, well, someone helps manage them out there. I'm a private management company.

All of this, your parents are in Philadelphia, your jobs in Philadelphia. How do you end up owning real estate in Ohio? Well, long story short, I used to live in California in New York City and it was too expensive. So I just invest in the real estate out there. So my portfolio was worth about $545. And how much debt do you have? No, 324. So the equity I have is 220. So my question is, I have about $36,000 in personal loan debt. I took to, like, you know, fix up properties and stuff like that. I don't have any card debt or student loan debt.

So I'm trying to figure out, should I sell my portfolio out of state and just buy a house out here? Yes. Put a decent amount of down payment down. Yes. Yes. Yes and yes. And because you're living with your parents right now, right? I need exactly. I'm kind of like I don't need to. Yeah, what caused you to move in with your parents? Well, so what happened was I was buying property,

fast out of state, and then, you know, the first big expense came up to replace a roof and didn't have the cash to buy it, so to take out a personal loan. So the TikTok course didn't give you the whole picture, huh? No, no. This didn't work out. Yes to everything you said.

It's a crime and shame that you have these properties. They're not producing cash-free. They're causing you to go into debt, and they're causing you to live with your mom and dad. That's a really great indicator that we need to go in a different direction. So I'm glad that you called, and I'm glad that you're even considering going in a different direction, because I would.

I would look at these properties. You said there's four of them. I would sell all four. Yes. What will it bring if you sell all four? 200 grand. So it would be, I have like, 220 equity. Yes.

By the time I sell them, I probably have like 190. And you've got to pay off the $36,000 loan. And then you've got to put a down payment on a house. Yeah, that's perfect. And I'd have a lot of cash reserves. My fear, I guess the fear I have, the only thing hold me back is the properties do generate money. No, they don't. You're broke.

No, they don't. Right. They couldn't even cover their own expenses. You had to take $36,000 out in personal loans and you had to go live with your mom and dad. Yeah, that's how I feel like that right now. Yeah. Okay. So let's stop a second, bro.

I mean, Dustin or Bryce, here's the mistake, the TikTok, get rich, quick, real estate, and morons don't tell you, okay? Rent minus mortgage does not equal cash flow. In the real world, where those of us who know how to do real estate investing professionally, what we know is rent minus mortgage, minus heating and air, minus tenant didn't pay, minus lawyer to get rid of tenant that didn't pay, minus roof that leaks, minus taxes, minus insurance equals cash flow. You don't have any real cash flow. You've got what we call gross cash flow. Your rent minus your mortgage is a positive, but by the time we adjust for reality

for the other things that are hitting you, you end up not having the money when the repair occurs, and that's how you've ended up where you are. And so, Don't let the mythology that you were taught stay as a reality in your head. Learn something from this experience, and that is that properties that have a mortgage of more than 50% of their value never actually cash flow. Residential properties don't cash flow. Okay, if your mortgage payment, if your mortgage balances 250 and that property is worth 500, you're breaking even. If you owe more than 50%, you're losing money in a calendar year, cash flow. And you're not going to get rich in real estate.

You're going to go broke in real estate following some moron on TikTok. And so that's what's going on. And so Jade's exactly right, Bryce. Hey, just visualize what your life would be like if you had no mortgages and no tenants and no debt and had purchased your own home. And you're the principal of a college. I mean, principal of a high school and you're a 36-year-old guy, you're like, and you know, it's a perfect situation. So the only good news is you're going to sell these things and make some money on them. Absolutely.

And do it today. I would call, go to Ramsey Solutions, click on Ramsey trusted for a real estate agent in that area, find one that's high octane, get a sign in the yard by day after tomorrow and get these things gone gone. Yeah. And life will be so much better. There's no reason to keep these. And I love real estate, but I hate what real estate done poorly does to people. And that's what these idiots on these social media things, $3,000 to buy nothing down real estate. Come see me.

That's been going on for like 45 years. And it's never worked. The guy who wrote nothing down was a guy named Robert Allen. In 1982, I read that book. and went and did what he teaches. And Robert Allen went bankrupt, doing what he teaches. And Dave Ramsey went bankrupt, doing what he teaches. He never bounced back.

Had never heard from him again. He disappears. He wrote off into the sunset. Nothing down and creating wealth. And neither one worked. Oh, that's too bad. And, hey, if he's dumb, I'm dumber. I did exactly what he said to do.

And that's what happened to Bryce. Bryce fell into somebody like that and thought, oh, I got to get in the real estate business. I got to get in the real estate. Real estate's where all the money is. No, it's not. Real estate would cause you to go broke if you do it wrong. It's a horrible investment for broke people. And when broke people buy real estate, it makes them broker.

That's why they call them real estate brokers. Man, it's a problem. Oh, Bryce, please, please. Go get your life back, honey. All right. Dustin is in Little Rock, Arkansas. Dustin, I got just a minute. Ask your question fast.

Hello. First off, I'm a pretty big fan. I'm kind of new. I've been watching for six or eight months. Thank you. For about seven, a little bit over seven years, I've been a surveyor. I primarily worked on the road, and I've made, you know, the past few years roughly $13,000 to $15,000 a month. My son will be two in December. My daughter is six, and working on the road was just getting to be, too much time away. What's your question, Dustin? I took a job local

with making about a little bit over $3,600 a month. Doing survey? And after, yes. That's a big cut. Yeah, I'm doing civil survey now and I was surveying on the pipeline.

Yeah, can you not make more than that doing civil? That sounds low. I'm not sure. I reached out to all the companies that were pretty close to where I live. But you need to find out what a surveyor makes. I think they make more than you're getting paid. That may be the case. I've looked around and most of the places right here close pay $20 to $25 an hour.

That's not right. No. I bet they do. For somebody dragging a chain, but not somebody knows how to actually do a survey. That's not a $25 an hour job. It's a valid profession and it pays more than you're getting paid. So you need to do a little work on your career tracking and make more. I agree with you coming off the road, but we're going to have to make a little more money or you're not going to eat, son.

So bad move. Wow. Surveying. I haven't run into that in a while. You know, that's an ancient art, actually. I don't know that I know all that it entails. I mean, you think about George Washington did surveying. You know, interesting.

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