The Resilient Mind - Change Your Expectations, Change Your Life - Steve Harvey

Episode Date: February 6, 2023

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Welcome to the Resilient Mind Podcast. In this episode, you will be listening to Change Your Expectations, Change Your Life, with Steve Harvey. Get access to the Mental Mastery Program and other exclusive episodes by becoming a subscriber. Enjoy. I was talking to my trainer the other day. We were working out in my backyard and he was wearing my ass out, man. And I sat down on the wall and I said, man, I'm struggling the day. This is hard.

and my trainer is a younger guy he said what do you mean I said man this workout is hard he said no man this is hard he said how you came from a poor kid in the projects to this house you got in this neighborhood and the TV star he said that's hard and I had to catch myself

because working out ain't near as hard is the struggle to get where you want everybody in this room wants two things everybody wants to be successful and everybody want to be happy. I'm going to tell you something about that, that that happiness and success is available for every last one of you.

But I'm going to tell you what you're going to have to do. You've got to change your mindset. If you plan on being successful, you have to change this here. The difference between successful people and non-successful people is right here. It ain't no difference. It ain't none. I ain't got no more than none of y'all got. God gave me the same thing he gave y'all.

God loved me the same as he love all y'all. He don't love me more than he love you. But you have got to change your mindset. You got to get funky if you want to be successful. If you think that they're going to mail this money to your house, you're dead wrong about that. If you think they're going to pave the way for you and make it easy, you're dead wrong about that.

If you want to be successful, you've got to change your mind and you're going to have some faith. I am here to tell you that you can come from nothing and become something. Let me tell you something, a guy told me one time. He said, Steve, I had a job. He said, if you want to see how your life going to be, he said, I want you follow your boss home one day. I didn't think nothing of it.

He said, see what he's driving, see the house he living in, and see who greet him at the door. So it took me about six months and I was going to do. six months and I was thinking about him, I decided to follow my boss home one day. I really did this. So I got out and I just sat in the park, and he worked late, I just waited.

We started driving home. The car he was driving was not the car I dreamed of owning. Then he pulled up in front of the house, and the house he pulled up in front of was not the house that I was dreaming of owning. And then his wife came to, the dough. And when she came to the dough, that damn show wasn't who I was dreaming or opening up the dough for me every day. And he told me, he said, you will never make more money

than your boss makes. So if that's the car he driving, that's the car you're going to be able to get. If that's the house he live in, that's the house you'll be living in. And if that's who greet him at the dough, that's pretty much the chick you're going to get. After, I would, I could have, I could dealt with the car. I could have dealt with the house. But when that chick came to that front door, and I looked at her, I said, I got to quit this job. Because that just wasn't what I had dreamed of.

You have got to make some decisions in your life, but you got to tie it to this gift. Your gift is the thing that you do the absolute best with the least amount of effort. That's your God-given gift. He didn't hide it from you. He didn't put it under the rocks. He didn't hide it in the ocean.

You don't need no map to find it. God put it right here when he made you. All y'all are gifted at something. The Bible says your gift will make room for you and put you in the presence of great men. That's the scripture. That ain't a theory of mine. See, I ain't got but one gift.

I have the ability to take information and transpose it into comedy immediately. I don't even have to think about it. I don't even have to, it's just what I do. I don't practice it. It's just come natural to me. You've seen people who open their mouth and they just sang, they can just sing,

and I don't care how hard you rehearse. Your **** can't sing like that. Listen, getting successful, whatever you consider successful, if it's rich, whatever. It's not a magic trick. It's not not, God picks certain people he'll make rich and certain people he don't. He gives all of us as his children the power of choice.

You have a say-so in that. You can decide to be rich and with God's help is highly doable. But you first have to think it. The difference between successful people and non-successful people is here. I'm no better than not. none of y'all. I'm not a better person than you. I'm not a better Christian than you. God don't love me more than you. None of that. If you want to be successful, you have to change this. This has to change. Listen to me, it's not, what makes it hard is your lack of belief that it can

happen for you. The fact of it is, though, it's very doable. See, but you got to change, though. If you keep doing what you've been doing, you're going to keep getting what you've been getting. So if you're at a place in your life and you ain't happy with it, you have to change some things. But you have to make a conscientious decision that you're going to change. And it's not dependent on anybody else.

It don't matter what your mama think. It don't matter what your coworkers think. It don't matter what your siblings think. It don't matter what your children think. It don't matter. They have nothing to do with it. This decision is yours and yours alone. It's two people born in a hospital every day.

It's a person that's born in a hospital that's going to get a job, and somebody born in a hospital that's going to give them a job. You get to decide which one you're going to be. You get to decide. Let me tell you something. You get to decide if I'm gonna be rich, poor, mediocre, plentiful, happy, sad. You have a decision to make.

Your mind, all right, here we go, this is a teaching moment. You walk in the house, you pick up the remote control. Let me teach you how this works. And you press the power button. When I told you, will be the best year of your life, but you have to claim it.

You have to expect it to be the best year of your life. You have to live your life with the expectation that great things are coming your way. And that's how it works. Now let me teach it to you. You grab your remote, you press the power button. What do you expect to happen?

You expect the TV to come on. Come on. Guess what? It come on. If you want to see Sports Center, Sports Center Channel 46, and you press 4-6 and okay or select, what do you expect to come on your TV?

Sports Center. And guess what? Show up. Sports Center. They got the concept of creating a remote from the Bible. See, God is tied to all of this. You better understand what I'm trying to. to tell you now.

The Bible says a man is as he thinketh. God created us in his image. God thought of this world. He thought of it.

So he created it. So he made you just like him. That your thoughts can create things. He made you just like him. Now you can't go make earth and heaven like he did, but you can make a better world for yourself. There is a scripture, Hebeca 2 and 2.

It says, write the vision and make it plain, so that he who reads it will run to it. And even though it Terry, Terry mean take a long time, wait for it, for surely it will come at an appointed time. That's in the Bible. That ain't in the rich people's copy. That's in everybody's Bible. The problem is everybody don't do it.

But it's right there. But you got to do it. I'm just telling you, if you don't do it, it's too hard. It's almost impossible. That vision board has changed. Everything I put on my vision board I get. Everything.

Now, you have to understand something. It's not going to come when you want it to come. It comes at an appointed time. That's the trick. but the appointed time is what throw people off because most of see when you ask God for something he sends it he ships it immediately soon as you ask him something and you really believe he'll do it he boxes it up and he ships it to you immediately the problem with the package is he never gives you the date that the package is going to arrive he doesn't do that he doesn't do that because if he told

you the date that the package would rely would arrive, it would destroy the requirement he has of all of us, which is faith. Faith is the belief in things that you cannot see. So if you ask God for a million dollars, and he tell you, I'm going to give it to you in March of 2020, you wouldn't need no faith. You'd be talking to people crazy because you know in 2020, I'm going to be a millionaire. But he sent a million as soon as you ask for him. but it's going to come at an appointed time.

The problem is people stop waiting on the package. Then when it get to you, because he delivers only to Faith Street, when he delivers to you on Faith Street, but you didn't step off of Faith Street, you over here on I don't see how circle. He don't ship that. Instead of staying on Faith Street, you just stepped over here to I don't believe it Boulevard.

or it took too long avenue. Then the package come to Faith Street is just like the post office in FedEx. If you ain't there to receive it, it gotta go back. But these books that I told you about, The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peel and The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz, you know what it does?

It just teaches you how this works. Once you get this, y'all, you can change everything. Do you understand negativity? Let me just give you this and I'm gonna walk away. Negativity, you can protect yourself from negativity. And that's what stops most people, negative thoughts. You can coat your mind from negativity. It's a real simple exercise to do.

I do it every morning before I walk out the door. So I walk out as a positive person. You know, I get tired sometimes. That's different from being negative. Because I get mentally drained from my job at time. But to coach your mind, from negativity the way you can put a coating around your mind is with one simple thing gratitude gratitude erases negativity I'm gonna show you how this works

if you wake up in the morning you start having negative thoughts man this ain't my day I woke up on wrong side of bed I'm tripping I just don't feel myself every time you feel in the middle of the day if you feel yourself doing that stop just stop for a second and start going over in your mind everything you have to be grateful for. Not everything you want, everything you already have, because what you have is substantial. You just haven't gone over the list and taken inventory in a long time.

But the fact that you can walk, that's a blessing. The fact that you woke up, that's another blessing. The fact that you can see, think, reason, that's another blessing. The fact that you can go somewhere and get yourself something to eat, that's another blessing. The fact that you can go and turn the key and call someplace home, that's another blessing. The ability to dream is a blessing.

The fact that you have an opportunity to get it right is another blessing. The fact that you're beautiful, that's another blessing. The fact that you have any measure of health, that's another blessing. And I'm just talking to you and I don't even know you. I could give you 50 things you ought to be grateful for right now. I don't even know you.

Start coating your mind with gratitude. It'll change everything for you. Let me show you this. We all live inside a bubble, right? This is our world. We go to church here, we work over here, we go get our coffee over here, we go to this park over here,

we usually go over here to hang out with friends, this is our favorite club, this is our world, this is our favorite spot on the beach. We all live in this bubble. What you gotta do to get the life that God wants you to have, you gotta put more air in your bubble. You got to blow your bubble up. Expand yourself.

Take yourself out your comfort zone. Do not live in your bubble. Put some more air in your bubble. If you stay in your comfort zone, that's where you will fail. You will fail in your comfort zone. Success is not a comfortable procedure. It is a very uncomfortable thing to attempt.

So you gotta go to get to go. get comfortable being uncomfortable if you ever want to be successful. Start putting some pressure on. Put some pressure on yourself. Get out here and get about it. Look, I love to sugarcoat this thing for you. I love to tell you, look, you can go out here and get rich, do a couple of things. That ain't happening.

You got to get real doggish. You got to get downright funky if you want to make it. Now, like I was telling you before, if you want to be ordinary, you ain't even got to listen to me. Just go on about your business. If you think ordinary's cool, ain't no problem. It's some really, really wonderful ordinary people.

But if you are sitting in this room and you have extraordinary aspirations, then you're going to have to do extra. You put extra on top of ordinary and you come up with extraordinary. It's no other way. I'm sorry. But here's the fact.

of you have extraordinary capabilities, all of you. You have to decide if you are willing to do the things to put you in that category. You just listen to, change your expectations, change your life with Steve Harvey. Continue strengthening your mind by checking out our other episodes.