The Resilient Mind - From Shattered To Unstoppable! - Lisa Nichols

Episode Date: July 11, 2025

Lisa Nichols is one of the world’s most-requested motivational speakers, as well as media personality and corporate CEO, whose global platform has reached and served nearly 80 million people. From a struggling single mom on public assistance to a millionaire entrepreneur, Lisa’s courage and determination has inspired fans worldwide and helped countless audiences break through, to discover their own untapped talents and infinite potential.Take action and strengthen your mind with The Resilient Mind Journal. Get your free digital copy today: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download Now⁠⁠Subscribe to Lisa Nicols's channel: https://www.youtube.com/@LisaNichols Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the Resilient Mind podcast. In this episode, you will be listening to, from Shattered to Unstoppable, with Lisa Nichols. Get access to the Resilient Mind Journal by clicking the link in the show notes. Enjoy. You know, when you feel like you don't know yourself anymore, it's a place of sheer ambiguity. It's a place of uncertainty. I know that personally because I remember right out of a relationship where I was to get married and the relationship had turned emotionally and then physically abusive.

I had never before been in an abusive relationship, not even near one. And all of a sudden, here I was. At the end of that relationship, I sought to discover me again. And I didn't see myself initially. I lost myself in becoming his fiancé and becoming Jelani's mom, the community advocate, and then this abuse survivor. I lost Lisa. So my advice to you won't be clinical advice.

It'll be like self-saving advice. What I did to turn my crawl because I was crawling. I was diagnosed as clinically depressed. I was prescribed Prozac. I remember looking at the paper and seeing Prozac and Lisa Nichols on the same piece of paper.

Never could have told me that I would be considered clinically depressed, suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. And I was a motivational speaker at the time. I had been three years in the business. What I began to do,

I realized that just like this question that you asked, I had lost myself. I lost myself in all the titles. I lost myself in all the labels. I lost myself in all the duties of being me, of serving everyone else. No one took myself from me.

And that was sobering. So I figured if I gave myself away, it's time to go get myself back. so I want to share with you just the things that I did. Now I have a long list of things you can do to on the road to self-discovery, but I want this particular episode to be very intimate, and I want to share with you what I did. And I want to invite you that if you feel like you've lost a little bit of you,

or you want to regain that part of you that you think you might have relinquished for obligation, title, and service to go get you again, to go get you again. The first thing I recommend you do is my favorite, the mirror exercise. Get in the mirror and complete three different sentences. And I want you to complete these three different sentences with seven different endings. So every sentence has seven different endings. Look at yourself in the mirror as if you were your best friend.

No judgment. This is before you're leaving to go out of the house. so no makeup on, no tie on, just the natural you. And I want you to look yourself directly in the eye and say your name. And the first sentence is, I'm proud that you. So you would look at yourself and say, Lisa, I'm proud that you. And I want you to go back 10 years and celebrate some things. And then I want you to come up current and celebrate some things.

I want you to be comfortable to go back to when you were in high school or college, things that you've never celebrated yourself for, but they're worthy of celebration. Now, I'm going to recommend you actually do this for 30 days straight. And so you have time to even spend four, five, six days just celebrating the things that are 10 years or older. Remember the sentence again is, I'm proud that you, your name first, and I'm proud that you. And your tone is as if you were talking to your best friend. The second sentence,

this one might gut punch you a bit. I'm going to be quite honest. This one might knock the wind out of your cells. This one might make you have to sit down for a minute. This one might make you not like me for a quick second or not want to do this anymore. But I promise you the healing on the other side will blow your mind.

The second sentence is, say your name. name first, I forgive you for. Lisa, I forgive you for. And then seven different endings on what you forgive yourself for. This one, I was barely audible because under all the sniffling and crying, Lisa, Lisa, I forgive you, Lisa, I forgive you. That's kind of how I looked. Was Lisa, I forgive you for endangering Jolani. I forgive you. I forgive you. for lowering your bar out of loneliness. Lisa, I forgive you for letting people walk over you, just so you'll be liked.

So in that second sentence, what you're doing is you're cutting the shackles of shame, blame, guilt, regret, and anger with every I forgive you for. It won't happen overnight. It won't happen overnight, which is why you do it every day. You'll feel a little more back into your,

yourself, you'll feel a little more back into your skin, you'll feel a little more back into your power as each day goes past. Maybe not for the first four days. Let me be honest with you. Maybe even not for the first six days. But if you stay with it and you stay consistent, you will feel that strength. You will feel that certainty. You will feel that clarity come back to you. And the third sentence. Again, you say your name first. Lisa, I commit to you that. and you make seven different commitments to yourself, that before you go out of your door and you commit to other people, because, you know, we're more apt to honor our commitment to other people

than we are to honor our commitment to ourselves. We break our commitments to ourselves all the time, and yet when I give you my word, oh, man, you can bet your last dime on that word, and you will end up with 20 cents. But what happens when you begin to commit to yourself? So it's seven different commitment. Lisa, I commit to you that today your yes will be a true yes

and your no will be a needed no when you give it. Lisa, I commit to you that today I'll press pause on the negative self-talk. Now, for me, when I first did this, I was crawling. So it looked like this. Lisa, I'm proud that you got out of bed today. Lisa, I'm proud that you finally mustered up the courage to leave.

Lisa, I'm proud that you sought help to hear a doctor tell you that you're really, really, really sad right now. Lisa, I forgive you. I forgive you for not using your voice. I forgive you for mistaking lonely for love. I forgive you for not,

I forgive you for ignoring the warning signs when they first came on. Lisa, I commit to you that I will be a stand for you from this point forward. Lisa, I commit to you that no one will love you more than I love you.

Lisa, I commit to you that I'll give you a thousand second chances to get it right. And when we get to $9.99, I'll press reset with you and we get a thousand more chances.

When you do that, then slowly and surely you'll begin to one, celebrate you, celebrate the things you've done. Your to-do list is really long, but your to-done list is always much longer. Two, you'll cut the shackles to blame, shame, guilt, regret, and anger

so you're not carrying around baggage. You'll find that on day 25 and day 26, when you say, I forgive you for all the things that come up in that not bawling your throat, they won't be as big. And on the third, I commit to you that. You'll see that making commitments to you not only feel as good as making commitments to other people, but they feel better.

Because when you sure for you, you serve everybody else from your overflow. So I invite you to start the journey back to you. And when you start this journey, you'll find that you won't go back to you, you'll go to a whole new you and turn your crawl into a walk, and your walk into a run.

in your run into a soul. And when you do, I'll be there to fly beside you always. Thank you for tuning in. Continue strengthening your mind by listening to our other episodes.