The Resilient Mind - The Power of Self - Love - Dr. Joe Dispenza

Episode Date: June 3, 2025

Dr. Joe Dispenza is a renowned author, speaker, and educator in the fields of neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics. He has spent over three decades studying the mind-body connection and the ways in which we can harness our thoughts and emotions to create positive change in our lives.Take action and strengthen your mind with The Resilient Mind Journal. Get your free digital copy today: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/Download_Journal Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the Resilient Mind podcast. In this episode, you will be listening to The Power of Self-Love with Dr. Joe Dispenza. Get access to the Resilient Mind Journal by clicking the link in the show notes. Enjoy. I think it was last year we were at an event, a week-long event, and we do a lot of walking meditations because you've got to be able to stand as it, walk as it, sit as it, lay down, is it. And so we do a lot of walking meditations to embody it. And I was, it was in Cancun, Mexico. There was 2,200 people at that event. We were on the beach at sunrise. The sun was coming up.

It was one of the last meditations, you know, and I just, I looked at all these people and they were looking, facing the sun, they had their hands over their heart, and their eyes were closed. And so many of them, like had tears of joy rolling down their face. They were, so incredibly joyful, so incredibly grateful, so worthy in that moment. And I realized my God, nobody is making them happy in that moment but them. And I think when we hit these points where we finally break free from the chains, you know, of our own limitations, I think when we overcome the emotional addictions that keep us tormented and reliving the past, I think that the overcoming of those emotional addictions, a side effect is joy.

It's a freedom of expression without feeling limited in any way. And I can tell you that, again, this is only my experience, but when I look at an audience of people, you know, at the end of seven days, and I always tell them, nobody's making you happy but you. And all you've done is decided who not to be and who to be. And you've sat with yourself long enough to change that. So when people do that and they get to that point where they're worthy to receive, they showed up enough times when they could have laid in bed or skipped a meditation,

but they didn't. That they kept showing up. I think the universe only gives us what we think we're worthy of receiving, right? And so the person who's feeling that level of happiness, that level of joy because they've made themselves happy, then they're okay with you and they're okay with everybody. And I think that's the important point is that when we overcome ourselves, the side effect of that is true joy. I think love has to be redefined to some degree because I think a lot of people have a different definition about love. but once again I really have seen this numerous times they have to practice feeling love I mean you cannot love unless you practice feeling it and and I think if you practice feeling

love you get better at feeling love and if you get better at feeling love you become less selfish and more selfless in other words you're not when you're executing from your heart when you're feeling love, I think you consider the whole. And so for me, I think when people push themselves past that point where they normally stop, and they truly, truly believe in themselves, I think they're in love with themselves. And when they're in love with themselves, they're pretty much in love with everybody. And when they're angry at themselves, they're angry at others. And when they're resentful with themselves, or judgmental.

of themselves or judgmental of others. I think that's the law. So we've seen it numerous times. We've seen, you know, especially when you see a collective group of people in a state of joy. It's not common that you see that in the world these days. He had MS, I'm pretty sure. He's a professional football player, I think.

And he came to the event. It was kind of funny. And his brother brought him there, and he thought he was coming to a yoga retreat. He didn't know what he was. was getting into. And, you know, the guy came in a wheelchair and he's walking at the end of the event. It never occurred to him to love himself. And we headed someone else with ALS that came in a wheelchair and they brought him backstage. He was walking on that beach. And he said, oh, my God, the more I

practice feeling love, the more I feel like I'm healing. He didn't say, how come I'm not healed all the way? He said, oh, my God, every time I feel deeper and deeper levels of love, somehow my body is changing and healing. So now, now he's feeling love with an intention to heal, right? And I think that's, I think that's, I think that's, I think that you get to a certain point where, you know, well, we've seen this. We've seen oxytocin levels in our community, you know, the love chemical, you know, 200 times normal. And, and when you're feeling that amount of love, it's really hard to hold a grudge. You would never want to stop feeling that way. And so you're okay. You're with everybody. So now it just becomes, you know, contagious. You want to feel more of it. And I think

there's always more love. You know, when we move out of survival, I think we tend to be as a species, very good, very kind, very caring, very loving, very supportive, very informative. And that's people heal each other, people shine for one another. They, I think that's, I think that's who we are. We're wired to be that as well as a species. And I think that's that model of then when you're, like when we see in the coherence healing, you get a group of people that behave all kinds of ways in their life. And you get them and come together and you instruct them and they all behave the same way. When they all behave the same way, it's no different than that flock of birds or school of fish.

There's an emergent consciousness that's taking place. In other words, in the whole, the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. and the intention to heal another person as an example, as the collective puts their attention on these individuals, what they're saying is we're intentionally making the effort to heal this person, because when we do heal this person, we strengthen the whole, right? And so something happens with us where we're wired, I don't know why it's so much easier to clean your neighbor's backyard than your own,

but something in us, innate in us, where we get to give life to another person's life, for to love another person into life. Wow. I was just a Zoom call yesterday with an autistic guy 27 years old that was catatonic. He couldn't move. I mean, horrible depression.

And God, just a different, he was scuba diving in Cancun last year after our event. I mean, a different character. But that's not important. What's important is the people that administered the healing on him. And the mother who was sitting there, are telling the story about how their lives have changed because he just broke out. Like, he's a different guy. He's super poetic. He can talk now. He couldn't talk before. He's practicing. I mean,

this is a new life for him, right? And she's crying. And you want to talk about self-love. The group of people that had ministered the healing are all on the call. And we're all, I'm on the call too, and we're all crying because we're feeling the mother's gratitude. And I think that's one of the greatest ways we can feel gratitude is when we receive it. So some kind of empathy is born that, God, we made a difference in someone's life. We took care of somebody in the tribe. Like, we're strengthened because of this. And this kind of empathy that takes place kind of draws us closer together, you know, when we bond better. So the experience then for that person who administered the healing is creating a level of love that they hadn't had before,

and it wasn't from getting the sports car, and it wasn't from going on the vacation. It was by giving to somebody else. And then opening your heart becomes less of a technique. It's not a technique any longer. It's just a way, right? It's a thing. And so the people that do these coherence healings remotely and great studies on autism, great studies on PTSD, great effects on all kinds of health conditions remotely,

I have sat with them and they say, I would never miss. I would never miss because I could have the worst day in the world. And it's no longer about me as about somebody else. And I can do this and I can make a change in a person's life. They're moving closer to love, right? The experience then from that experience that they've never had before or the repeated experience brings them so much joy, so much love,

that they need less from their outer world. And I think that, you know, we're wired to be. be that way. It's so easy, uh, in a matter of seconds to react to someone or something, to respond to some stray thought and in a matter of seconds, default back to those subconscious and unconscious programs because that emotion is driving you to behave as if you're in the past. It's automatic, right? So it's seamless. The default system causes us to, to, to, lose our connection to the vision of the future, our belief in the future. And it happens so fast that we forget of that future, right? So self-regulation is the ability to regulate your, or control your

internal state of how you're thinking and feeling in a condition in your environment that normally would create another feeling or another emotion, right? So here's one of the things we did in our studies. We don't do it anymore, but we did it for a long time. We saw that our community, we could teach them how to make their heartbeat more coherently. And when the heart does that, it sends out a magnetic field up to three meters wide. It's a big field. And people can get really good at that, and you can do it in a ballroom with a thousand other people or two thousand other people. Close your eyes.

Forget about your outer environment. Breathe and feel. Practice feeling is elevated emotions. Get good at it. And you can manage that. Okay. But what about when you open your eyes now? What happens when you walk out?

to your life, you know. And so we decided that we would take our entire community and we would put them in circumstances and conditions, whether it was repelling off the side of a building or standing on the top of a 50-foot pole and, you know, reaching for, you know, jumping for a trampoline, whatever it was. Bit of dysregulation. Something to disrupt that level of order. And this was not about an adrenaline rush. this was actually about the opposite, that if you put the person in the circumstances that would normally cause an automatic fear response, automatic vigilance, automatic anxiety,

and give them something to do and teach them how to regulate their internal state and get back into heart coherence, and they're wearing monitors, right, when we're doing this, practice that and accomplish, right? If you could self-regulate in that moment and you return back into your life and you just did it there,

it's going to feel like you should be able to do it in your life as well. Not only that, if you put the stakes really high and the threshold is really high, then you face the problems in your life. You're like, eh, that's not so bad relative to what I just did. So self-regulation is to be able to change your emotional state, get back into that heart, relaxed. The formula that we discovered is that the more relaxed you are in your heart,

the more awake you are in your brain. For some reason, if you keep relaxing in your heart, the brain keeps becoming more awake and aware. So instead of stressed out unconscious and living in a program, practicing relax in your heart and awaken your brain can actually become a habit. So being able to regulate your emotional state in the same environment. In other words, think, act, and feel differently in the same conditions in your life. And that's regulation. We discovered that when energy makes it to the heart and moves to the brain, we start seeing this resonance that starts to take place in the brain.

In other words, people get really good at this, their brain actually has a delta wave that's acting as a carrier to a theta wave. And the theta wave is in a resonance or harmonic to an alpha, an alpha to beta, beta to high beta, and high beta right to gamma, right? So we practice doing that with our eyes closed

and we do it over and over again, relaxed and awake, relax and awake. And then, of course, we practice the walking meditation. So if you can do it seated in your chair, let's stand up, let's all go to the beach, let's practice standing up. Why? Because you've got to practice standing up, practice with your eyes closed. Do the same thing you were doing laying down. Now do it standing up. I can do it standing up. I can change my state. Now let's open your eyes. Now practice relaxing in your heart. It's a formula that we use. It's a meditation that we use. And we take people through it. So practice that standing up instead of laying down. Now open your eyes and self-regulate. Practice doing this. that with your eyes open until it becomes a habit, right? So walk in that state with your eyes open, keep practicing that over and over again. Sooner or later, it's going to become easier and easier for you to do it. So when a person has practiced it enough times, they can create the distinction. They can know the difference between when they're there and when they're not. Like they'll know it

immediately. They lose it. Like they fall from grace. They, oh, I lost it. So then they have just one of two choices. Stay in the program the rest of the day and complain, blame, and make excuses and feel sorry for yourself. Or pause for a moment, excuse yourself, get back into that state, relax on your heart and awaken your brain again. And being able to do it when you're out of balance is the reason why we do it. We're doing it to get back into balance. So it takes practice, but gosh, we have so many people that do it really well. To walk as it, practice with your eyes open, just like you do with your eyes closed. I'm always fascinated with neurogenesis or growth in the brain.

I've always been fascinated by it. And so if you look at a musician, you look at athlete, you look at a performer or an actress, you look at a dancer, anybody who's learning a skill, there's a period of time where they have to consciously practice what they're doing. They have to consciously put a lot of their attention, a lot of their awareness, and a lot of their energy on what they're doing. It takes a lot of energy for them to start this whole process. If they keep practicing it after a period of time, the redundancy of the experience then starts to install enough circuitry for them to do it more automatically.

It just gets more natural and easy. And that's kind of the physical rehearsal of whatever they're doing. That's really important. But what separates that person to the mind of the champion is the person who will sit down and rehearse the act of what they're about to do. They'll take the time and they'll mentally rehearse the action. And what the research shows is that when you mentally rehearse doing something, the brain does not know the difference between the outside world event and what you're imagining in your mind to the brain. it's exactly the same. So as you begin to rehearse what you're doing and you put yourself in

the scene and you practice it, if the brain doesn't know the difference between the real life experience that's out there and what you're rehearsing in your mind experience creates circuitry in the brain. So you start laying down hardware in the brain to look like you've done it, to look like you've already experienced it. Now the brain's, as I said, no longer record the past. It's now becoming a map to the future. Okay. Keep practicing it, doing it past that point, keep rehearsing it, then all of a sudden nerve cells that fire together, wire together, it gets more automatic, it gets more like a software program, it becomes easier to do. So studies have been done on this where they took people that never played the piano before and divided them

to two categories. And they did functional scans on both of the groups. And in one group, they had them come and learn one-handed scales and chords for five days. And they had to practice two hours a day. And so they played the scales and chords, and at the end of five days, as you would imagine, they had a whole new set of circuits in the motor cortex of the brain. Well, you learn new information, learning's making new synaptic connections. Get some instruction, get your body involved, and get your body involved. You're going to have an experience, experience enriches the brain. Pay attention to what you're doing. You've got to pay attention and repeat it over and over again. Repetition, firing, and wiring, you assemble new neural architecture, okay? Post scans show that.

Take a group of people and have them close our eyes and mentally rehearse playing. the scales and chords for two hours a day for five days. At the end of those five days, the people that mentally rehearsed playing the scales and chords, their brain looked like they've been playing the piano for five days, but they never lift the finger. Take those people and set them in front of a piano. I never played the piano before, and they'll actually play those scales and chords. So they primed their brain so that they can actually step into that footprint. So if you're going to really want to begin to make measurable changes in your life because you want to heal from your condition or disease, then you can't be resentful around your ex. And so you're going to have

to figure out a way, how you're going to have to act, what would love do, what would greatness look like, how am I going to overcome this, and how am I going to behave in this circumstance? Because the one hour of my good meditation where I felt great in my heart and connected and coherent in my brain, and then the rest of the day I'm frustrated and patient, okay, I've got to figure this out. So I'm feeling better. I'm sleeping better. I have more energy. I have more energy. I have less pain, but my values are still the same. Okay, one hour against 15 hours. I got to get, I got a heart rehearsing so I could actually get in the game so that I'm not going to fall

and return back to the default to that old personality because I'm not going to heal. I thought people came to our work to heal, to create abundance, to get a new job, to have a new relationship, to have a mystical experience. I really thought that. those were the reasons that they thought they came. But really what they're really coming for is wholeness. Because when you're whole, it's really hard to want. You could only want when you're in lack or you're in separation.

And we actually create from lack. We actually create from separation. If you see something that you don't have that someone else has, and you're aware now that it exists and you say, I want that, the lack of not having it actually inspires you to create and get it, right? we create from lack and separation. And so if people are spending their whole time in their life working really hard to get the things that they want, behaving differently so they can get that thing, and then when the novelty wears off from that thing,

here comes that feeling again of lack and separation. And we reach a point in our life for many people where nothing's making that feeling go away. And that's a really important moment in life where you start realizing, oh my God, I got to wake up because there's never going to be something that does it out there. Yeah, I think people confuse pleasure and happiness on one level. And God, I have sat with billionaires and more than one. And they have leaned over and said to me, we are miserable. We are in agony.

We can't even enjoy a sunset. Because money has nothing or success has nothing to do with genuine, authentic joy. And mastering yourself, overcoming yourself. in so many ways, creates so much wholeness in order in the nervous system, so much wholeness that you don't want anything anymore. And that's a great moment when you feel so whole that you no longer want. That's the moment you're free. I think that's the moment you really feel free. So it is deeper than that. Yeah. I think there's an intrinsic innate quality for us to remember something deeper and more profound in us. And I think when people have that full-on sensory internal

that moment of connection, that overcoming, that arousal, you know, that whatever that is, that connection or union. I think they feel these elevated states, they stop looking outside of it, outside of themselves, for it they start looking within. And I think that's a really great moment. And I don't know how deep that rabbit hole goes, but I know that there's always more love to feel when we do that. Because I believe that also.

I really think there's way more than that. There's way more than that because there's so much that we haven't experienced yet that has nothing to do with the material world. Have a full-on mystical experience to the point where you can't go back to being the same person any longer because you're changed as a result of it, that your perception of reality changes from that inward experience. I think that there's a lot of unknown experiences that await us that have nothing to do with the world we know.

I think when people are ready, they're ready. You know, people meet information on their own level, you know. And I think that's great. I think everybody's on the journey back to source, you know. And you got to forget that your source to have the experience of something other than it, you know. And I think it's that now it's a process of awakening. And so, God, I think there's so much more to experience in life besides that. and having those moments of those transcendental moments where you realize that there is something greater,

it's hard to go back to playing the game the same way. Thank you for tuning in. Continue strengthening your mind by listening to our other episodes.