The Resilient Mind - What Do You Actually Want? - Motivational Compilation

Episode Date: August 14, 2026

What do you actually want, and how badly do you want it? In this powerful compilation, some of the most compelling voices in personal development explore the one factor that separates those who chase their dreams from those who let them slip away: desire strong enough to outweigh fear. Through raw, honest insights on motivation, sacrifice, discipline, and the willingness to suffer for what matters, this episode challenges you to get clear on what you're truly after and why. If you've been waiting for a sign to stop drifting and start moving, this is it.This episode is brought to you in partnership with MotiversityTake action and strengthen your mind with The Resilient Mind Journal. Get your free digital copy today: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/Download_JournalExplore tools from past guests of the podcast. Some links below are affiliate links, meaning we may earn a commission at no extra cost to you:💓 HeartMath: https://www.heartmath.com/resilient🧠 Muse: https://choosemuse.com/resilientmind🌿 Brain Ritual: https://www.brainritual.com/THERESILIENTMIND🌍 The Resilient Mind Podcast is a proud member of 1% for the Planet — building resilient minds and a resilient planet. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you actually want to do this or not? Because if you actually want to do it, what's going to stop you? Nothing. And if you don't really want to do it, what's going to stop you? Just about anything that comes up. Just about any obstacle it gets in your way becomes an excuse. It becomes a reason. It comes a rationale for not proceeding down that path.

How bad do you want it? How bad do you want your dream? It's so much easier to forget that vision than to remember it. So if you're going to remember, you've got to keep it alive in your mind. To me, the fundamental part of it is just motivation. Like, you have to want it more than you fear it. You've got to want to succeed more than you fear doing what it takes to get there. What do you actually want?

I believed that I was going to become this massive successful artist. I had already, like, my success was decided by me in my head. The outcome was non-negotiable. it was inevitable. If you actually know yourself, like if you actually know what you want to happen in your life or like how you're hardwired, the second you make that shift to actually reverse engineer that at all costs, including short-term losses, you win. Ask yourself, where do I want to go?

And the easiest way for me to figure out that is who am I jealous of? That usually shows up a lot faster than who am I inspired by. What do you want? And I ask you, what do you want? Listen to me, the only thing that's going to get you up out that bed, the only thing that's going to make you strive past that obstacle, get past that brick wall, and it's common. The only thing that's going to make you get up and do what you're supposed to do is what you see.

You want something in life. You have to want it more than anybody else. But it's like, oh, do you want to do this or not? Which is what I think a lot of it boils down to. Do you actually want to do this or not? some people know they want something more, but they don't know exactly what it is. Yeah.

And so they're in the uncertainty of, well, I'm not sure which direction I should go in. And here's another problem I see is people have too many passions. I've got this idea and this idea and this idea, which one do I choose. And when someone has 10 different passions or different roads that they could go down, how do they know which one they should go down?

That want to factor. That's the X factor. And, you know, people talk about willpower. I want to talk about want power. What does that mean? It's want power is, how much do you want this thing? Again, you know, how much are you in love with this idea? So many great businesses start precisely like this,

that somebody thinks there's this thing I really want and need, or that thrills me and it sounds quite weird to everybody else and the person just sticks with it and just has a hunch about it. Just as many, many business failures

are all about someone going, someone doing something and then if you say to them, do you want this? Would you buy this thing? And then they go, actually, no, I wouldn't. So why are you making it for somebody else

if it's got no resonance with you? You know, careful. You know, the biggest business disasters There's people making stuff that they haven't asked themselves. Would I really want this? Yes. What do you actually want? They cannot answer that question, and they fill it with addictions,

they fill it with hobbies, they fill it with dopamine chase. They fill it with so much stuff, and nobody can answer that question. What do you want? Jealousy is just blocked desire. You can't feel jealous of somebody unless you author. authentically want something for real that you think that they have. And the jealousy happens because you have somewhere in your psyche told yourself you can't have it. And you have to assume that there's no one else to help you.

What are you going to do about it? You're going to wait for your cousin or a big brother. You know what I'm saying? I don't have no big brothers and sisters, right? That means you got to fight your own battles. That means you have to be more calculated. You got to know self-love. You got to understand the words that you tell yourself,

something. The outcome was non-negotiable. It was inevitable. And when something's inevitable, the choices aren't choices. They're just, I was living in the process. It was identity alignment. It was, this is who I'm becoming and this is what that person does, which is why my discipline and consistency and work ethic that a lot of people clap for, it never felt heroic or dramatic. It just felt obvious. That's the fundamental part. So for me, it's creating enough motivation first. foremost, desire, understanding what you're chasing and why you're chasing. If you've got to create it, then, of course, go out and find out how to do it. Your excuses will destroy you and take everything that you ever wanted from you if you let them.

And so for that poor soul, although they might be happy, content, doing fine, really, but they kind of like something to change and be bigger and better. and when your excuses make you feel a little bit better about the fact that you didn't execute on what you needed to execute on, then they can make you feel better, but they're not helping you. They're not helping you at all.

Those dreams are there for a reason. See, I think that they are the beacons out in the future that are directional signals. Just because you have this dream doesn't mean you're going to get it. the dream's purpose in your life is to get your head out of the sand and to look out ahead and to point you in a different direction. So I'm asking you to write it down and I'm asking you, three quick things, three things.

The first one, I'm asking you to write it down and then I ask you to keep writing it. And I'm not asking you to keep writing it because I'm trying to be deep, right? I'm asking you to keep writing it because the more you write it and the more you see it, the more clear it becomes. And so for some of you, the reason why you quit every year around March, where you quit around June, because you can't see it. The nightmare is to reach our 60s, our 70s, our 80s, or even our deathbed, and to talk about everything we should have done. I should have done that.

I should have invested in this. I should have made the relationship work. I shouldn't have got a divorce. We talk about all the things we wanted to do, but never got it done. That's the nightmare. That's the nightmare that we all. must avoid. And it's hard. And I don't want to get into not practical stuff of like you're not being able to pay student loans or rent or upset your parents or your spouse. But, man, you'll only

really get to do this in time. And like playing a game that doesn't map what you actually want it to be is a really big mistake. Is there any better feeling that being locked in? No. You got to want it. You got to work it, then you got to win it. Now, how bad do you won't because if you want it bad enough you go work all right if you do those two you're going wins like i need to lock in i got to got to get good at this shit if you want it it's out there for you you can go ahead and take it but it's like you have to be a workhorse to want to to do this you are aware that how much you need to lock in though i'm locked in right now though there's only one thing i dread not to be worthy of my sufferings it's how you handle your

sufferings but when you're going through something really challenging how do you show up within it do you choose to become a victim of complaining and misery, or do you find meaning in how you show up in the suffering? If you want what you're chasing, then you'll put the effort into that. It's just called discipline, guys. How bad do you want it? Get back to fucking work. It's time to get back to work.

Stop hearing yourself talk. Get off the podcast. Cut out all the fucking noise. Get back to the mental lab. That's on me. I have to own that moment. I got to prove to myself. I can overcome this

because now everybody else is doubting me but I can't doubt myself. It's the unseen work. That is why if people can make up a mission statement and ethos in which they want to live by and every morning you wake up you hold yourself accountable to that mission, that accompanies your own.

Make up your own mission statement. What do you want to be in life? And once you do that now, you can work with somebody to get better. You can work with yourself to get back. But until you know what you want to stand for, you will always just be sitting down. You'll never stand for anything.

But I think the main thing for me is I want to prove myself right. It's important for me that this battle against myself, I win and I do prove myself that I was right about all these things. This God is personal. Every desire you have, it comes from within. And if there's a desire that comes from within, it means you have the ability to do it. And what happens is when you know what you want,

when you understand what you're after, when you know what your outcomes are, when you know what you desire, you wake up every single morning and you go after it. Listen, if you are one of those individuals that's dedicated to their craft, want to do this, there are things that are going to have to take a back seat.

Make sure you're all in. And that was one of Kobe's favorite words when it related to winning. You have to be obsessed. with whatever your win is. There's a choice that we have to make as people as individuals. If you want to be great as something, it's a choice that you have to make. We all can be masters at our craft, but you have to make a choice.

There are inherent sacrifices that come along with that. Family time, hanging out with your friends, being a great friend. There's sacrifices that come along with making that decision. Just as important as what are you going to do is what are you prepared to say? prepared to sacrifice for it because, you know, if you need to stay late in the office three nights a week for the next six months so that your boss sees the work that you're doing or so that you get more sales in or so that you do whatever it is that you need to do, your training's probably going to take a hit.

And when you start to see your condition or your fitness depreciate over time, you can feel uncomfortable and say, oh, well, that shouldn't be happening. And then you take your eye off the ball of the thing that was supposed to be your thing for the next six months and then go I'll only stay late in the office one night a week and I'll get,

I'll fit training, I'll slot training in two more nights and you go well that wasn't the plan. The plan was put everything into this one thing, level myself up and then play catch up

with everything else to bring myself back up to baseline. So yeah, choose in advance what you want to suck at is like a really, really good tactic because it helps you

when other things start to slip. It stops it feeling like an error or a curse of kind and actually is that, oh, this is part of the plan. This was actually part of the plan. Part of the plan was I wouldn't get to see my friends as much, or my sleep would suffer, or my fitness would suffer, or my business would suffer because we've just had a kid or whatever.

Like, I think that's an thing that sucks at the moment. It's not going to suck later on. You can work to get anything you want, but you have to sacrifice the other things you want to keep it. And that's sometimes harder than the work. What makes something hard? Like just in and of itself, like what actually makes something hard? because habituation happens on both sides.

And this is what I think is so fascinating because it's like, okay, well, you know, I wanted this big thing to happen. I wanted the Rolls Royce. I wanted the Ferrari, whatever, saved my whole life and here I am, right? And I was happy for a week and then all of a sudden I got used to it, right?

So I was like, why can't I habituate to the suck? Why can't I habituate to the suck? And the thing is, is that you do. The only thing is that what makes the suck keep sucking is what makes punishment effective, which is increasing intensity and variety. And so if you want to effectively punish someone, you can't just keep punishing them the same way.

You have to increase a, intensity and change how you do it. And the beautiful thing is that life doesn't fight fair. And so life will change the intensity and will give you more variety. How many times have been like, I didn't know life could suck in this way. So in thinking about that, it was like, okay, I think the reason that the hard persists is because the nature of the currency that you pay or that you exchange for the thing that you want changes. Because in the very beginning, you basically have to like, you know, conquer your friends and family who tell you that this might be a bad idea. Okay, fine. You get over that. And then you have to conquer yourself in the most basic level of like, I have to do

something. Okay, so you start taking action, you start learning how to learn stuff, which is learning through failure, and you realize you're not going to die if you fail. It's just that the currency has changed, the currency that I'm paying. And so I'm very happy to pay the long hours currency. I'm very happy to pay the, what am I willing to give up in terms of social life? Like that, to me, I've habituated to that price. That's not hard for me. I don't even consider it a sacrifice anymore. Once you learn how to work, the work itself is self-reinforcing and you enjoy. it. It's everything else that you didn't know you're going to have to sacrifice so that you could get back to working. I knew that I was not going to lose out. So you can't possibly become

better than me because you're not spending the time when it that I do. Even if you want to spend a time when you can't, you have other responsibilities that are taking you away from it. So I already won. You know, greatness is not meant for a few chosen people. It's meant for those who persistently pursue their dreams every day and make that choice when they wake up. I now see anything as possible and that you could train for anything. There's nothing you can't do. You can't be the best in the world at something, but you can be a lot better than you are at anything you want to put the time into learning, whatever it is.

You could do anything. And that's a great feeling. I think, God, what a great time in history to be alive because this is a time in history where it's not enough to know. This is really a time in history to know how. And I've been at this long enough to know that 20 years ago, people didn't hear it like they hear it now. The information is readily available. And people are realizing, God, if I have this dream, if I have this goal, how bad do I want it? And if they really want it, you sit down and you say, what would it would it be like to be super healthy, super wealthy, super wealthy,

super in love, whatever it is. Like you ask that question and your brain gets really creative. It starts getting this vision of the future, this possibility that you actually put yourself in this future reality. So the person comes out of the resting state and they make a decision with such firm intention that the amplitude of that decision carries a level of energy that causes their body to respond to their mind. That their choice that they're making in that moment becomes a moment in time

that they would never forget. They'll say to you, I remember the moment I made up my mind to change. And we could say then they're giving their body a taste of the future emotionally. And somehow they begin to embody whatever that future is. And now they begin to move in a different direction. I'll ask, who wants zero happiness? Nobody raises their hand, all right? I said, who wants zero success that no one raises their hand? All right. And like I said, who wants zero life? No one raises their hand. I said, who wants zero love? No one raises their hand.

I said, what's the number on a perfectly balanced scale? To zero. It's an absolute zero. So I said, if you're trying to balance all those things, all the time, you're going to end up with none of them. You're going to end up with none of them. Now, I never want your scale to be tipped all the way. this way, but then you have to decide where are things going to be.

But if you want to win, it takes more than a pair of legs, all right? You win up here. Something has to happen, though, to kick this into gear and taking the initiative and really jumping on this and taking action, which is going to put you way outside of your comfort zone. The question is, how bad do you want it? Do you want it bad enough to get outside your comfort zone and do things you've never done, become a person you've never been before.

If so, then yeah, there's a lot of potential here. You've talked to the Michael Jorns and Kobe Bryant's of the business world, and every single one of them, no matter how many times they've done things over and over and over again. There's always been a little bit of fear. We've been inspired, we've been motivated, but now is your moment, right?

Now is your time. Now is the time where the talking is done. Now is the moment where you've got to make a decision. And the decision is simply this. Are you ready to take the next step? Are you ready to start the new chapter? Are you ready to go and build a legacy? Are you ready?

Are you ready? And listen to me when I tell you, you got to ask yourself this question. Because what I don't want, I don't want you to leave just being hyped up. I want you leaving here transformed. Listen, no more stressing. That's it.

I'm not about to let you stress anymore. The stress about the new coming year, the stress about going to school, the stress about those grades. We're not, I'm not about to let you stress. That stress is over. Now is the time for you to stand up. Now is the time for you to make your mark. Now it's time for you to get fueled up. Yeah, I want you to get mad.

I want you to get sick and tired of being sick and tired. I want you to get sick and tired of being average. I want you to get sick and tired of failing over and over again. I want you to get mad. Yeah, I want you to get so mad. I need you to get fired up. Are you ready? Are you ready?

Because now is your time. How bad do you want it? Those two options to continue forward. And if you do that dream is given birth, then forever you will live in the reality of it. If you stop, quit, throw the towel. I promise you there's no distance you can travel far enough or find that dream again. How bad do you want it?

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