The Resilient Mind - You Don’t Have to Suffer to Be Successful - David Ghiyam

Episode Date: October 30, 2025

David Ghiyam is a spiritual teacher and entrepreneur who bridges ancient Kabbalistic wisdom with modern success principles. In this conversation, he reveals how guilt, shame, and perfectionism quietly block our ability to manifest abundance and peace. He shares how to align your energy, raise your vibration, and attract success without suffering. David’s message is a reminder that true power begins when we stop punishing ourselves and start living in alignment with our highest consciousness.Take action and strengthen your mind with The Resilient Mind Journal. Get your free digital copy today: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/Download_JournalSpecial thanks to Lewis Howes, subscribe to his channel here: https://www.youtube.com/c/lewishowesWatch the full interview on Lewis's page: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=402NBfm1exg Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the Resilient Mind podcast. In this episode, you will be listening to, you don't have to suffer to be successful with David Guyam. Get access to the Resilient Mind Journal by clicking the link in the show notes. Enjoy. How does someone start to believe something is possible when they've never created it for themselves? That's a beautiful question. How does somebody believe something is possible when they haven't created it for themselves?

It's possible for me to make a million dollars or possible for me to become financially free. when I've never created it and I've always been broke. There's two ways to do that. Number one, people think that it's very difficult to get there and it's actually much easier. Your body and your mind and your soul very compliant. If you say something over and over again, and it's so simple, like I don't want to over complicate spirituality. If you say something, a mantra over and over again, even if you're faking it in the beginning, your body, your mind, and your soul will comply with that vibration.

and then you will do actions that will be closer to that vibration, and they will reinforce each other. So what I do literally every day is I just ask myself, what is the highest vibration I need to get to? I see the delta of where I'm at now and where I need to get to, and I just keep hitting that point over and over and over again, incessantly until all of me complies with it. And it happens every time.

How do you hit that point when you're feeling depressed or depleted or down? That brings me to the second thing. Every single week, I try to find people who have already achieved what I'm trying to achieve and spend time with them, add value to them, and serve them. Because Kabbal explains it's a universal law. If you add value to someone or serve them in a way that makes their life better, you draw from them their positive qualities, traits, and vibration. So there's something that I want from Lewis, meaning what do I want?

All I want from you is the consciousness you've already created. I want the vibration you've already achieved in your life. I want the real wisdom. Because wisdom and consciousness is the one thing I can take from you that doesn't take away from you but adds to you. That doesn't ask of me and adds to me. It does. Because if I become one more person that learns from you,

the universe then replenishes you with even more wisdom and energy. So as you grow your audience, your wisdom increases because your audience craves more through you. And so the creator bestows upon you much more wisdom and energy. And that's the value of growing your audience. And I'll tell people on social media, people are growing their audience because they think, well, that's how I monetize. Or that's how I become famous. And the ego gets in.

The only intention you should have for growing your audience is you now have all these mini vessels, which are craving your wisdom. So what happens is it forces the creator to give you more wisdom and you become a greater channel. And that should be our intention for growing our audience. Yeah, how do I serve my community a deeper way? Correct. It's all about service. It's all about the customer, all about service. And when you have that mindset, everything opens up and grows.

Yeah, of course. What has been the thing that has blocked you in the last year the most? This is something you've been practicing for 20 plus years, 25 years, roughly, these spiritual laws, but what's the thing that's still hard for you to break through? or sometimes you forget and you have to be reminded with a painful lesson. That's a great question. One of the things I've learned is it doesn't matter how long you've been spiritual or you've been working on something or what your past experience has been.

Every test you go through is sent to you by the universe that is exactly on your level. The challenge of your opponent is exactly equal to where you're at in order to get you to your next level. And the only reason the next level is it comfortable is because it's not your current level. It's a level that you're not familiar with. So of course you don't see it. Of course it's illogical. Of course it's dark. And so what I've realized in this year, this has been probably one of my most transformational years, is that I am such a perfectionist. I'm sure maybe you can really. You look perfect, man. He got perfect hair. You got perfect out and everybody's like put together, man, you're like, good.

I'm such a perfectionist that everything I do I've always felt has to be the best. And this was the year I realized that part of why I'm trying to always be the best is I don't want to let other people down. I have to kind of give off this persona because I'm representing spirituality and I don't want to make spirituality look bad. So I have to have everything put together. I have to... Plus you've got a big business. You want to make sure your employees, your team, your investors, whatever might be. Customers feel like you're credible as well.

Correct. Correct. So you're from sloppy human being walking around. Correct. I can't be sloppy externally or internally. But what I realized was that what that was causing was a lot of guilt and shame every time I fell short of the market I needed to be at. Or the expectations I put on myself.

And then what was happening was the guilt and the shame was creating much. more negativity than all the things I was trying to prefer. So guilt and shame lowers your vibration more than any other mistake you make. People make mistakes like, I don't know, let's say you're in a relationship and you say something to your spouse or to your girlfriend or boyfriend that hurts them or upsets them and you feel bad about it. That was one moment in time where you created a little negative energy. But the guilt and shame that we carry after making a mistake is a million times the negative

energy because it's constant. Every second you hold on to guilt and shame is another moment you're injecting negative energy. So the test isn't the mistake you make. It's the guilt and shame you have afterwards. So how do you remedy that? And this was my biggest lesson. It was taking the pressure off of myself of trying to appear as someone that's perfect and spiritual and allowing myself just to be myself everywhere I went. And I can't tell you, you know, how freeing that was. But at the same time, it created so much instability in other people because everyone's like, wait a minute, this was the David we knew. And now what's this? I said, no, this is today a little bit more of the real me. And now I'm actually building a new foundation in my life that's much more authentic

to I am. How so? There are people whose approval I wanted so badly. I connected with your energy, and I feel like we share so many of similar qualities. I know exactly what somebody needs to hear to feel comfortable. Sure. I know what buttons to stay away from. I know how to talk to them in a way that can just make them feel really good and comfortable. And I learned that many times I'm killing myself or sacrificing myself or I'm being inauthentic to just make them feel comfortable.

So now I'm just learning to be me. It's still be a giver, but to be in the way that maybe makes them uncomfortable in the moment, but I'm being true to myself. And these examples have been happening more more. It happens with my parents, happens with my friends. It happens with business partners and colleagues. I'm just learning to just show up as me versus who I think they want me to be. It's beautiful.

What do you think people are getting wrong about manifestation today? What are people getting wrong about manifestation today? I think there's a prevailing belief system that we need to suffer to be successful. And that's incorrect. I think there's so much grind culture that's being thrown out there. And by the way, you do have to work hard and you do have to work consistently. But 99% of it is your belief system about what it takes to manifest. If you believe you must suffer to be successful, then that is the destiny you are creating.

You will be successful, but you will only do it after you suffer. Elon Musk has the same hours in the day as we do. He thinks it's easy to colonize Mars. He thinks it's as easy to colonize Mars as we do, you know, maybe preparing a cup of coffee. Sure. Because he thinks it's easy to colonize Mars, that consciousness creates a vessel that draws in the right engineers, that draws in the right ideas, that draws in the right lawmakers to change the laws to satisfy him. Of course, there are challenges. But he's loving even the challenges to an extent where it all seems easy.

If I think something is hard or impossible, then I literally call in the entire universe to create a movie for me that makes it hard and impossible. There are people who every relationship they're in is a drama. It's difficult. It's hard. Every city I go to, I ask them, is dating hard in this city? They all say yes. They say, I say, which city is the hardest? They say, oh, my God, I'm in New York.

It's so hard to date here. I'm sure it's easier in Los Angeles. People in Los Angeles say it's a moment. possible to date here, I'm sure it's easier in New York. Everyone always says it's harder wherever they're at. Why is that? Because they haven't been successful yet in their own city. They haven't been successful in their own city. And if I say it's hard to date, then I don't have, it doesn't reflect poorly upon me the fact that I'm single. So I will tell everybody this narrative it's hard to date so that they don't judge me and I don't judge myself that I can't find a man or one.

It's not me, it's everyone else. Everyone else. It's the city. It's the energy here. You know, everyone in L.A. is so superficial. But the truth is, even if everyone in L.A. was superficial, if you earned your soulmate, that one person would appear right at your door. Think about it. There are serial killers in prison who are married. Crazy. They found their soulmate.

If someone in a maximum security prison who has a reputation of a serial killer can find their soulmate, I'm sure you can to the Los Angeles. Yeah, it was millions of men or women here. Exactly. It's funny, you just got to know where to go. You just got to try to do things, and you've got to change, you've got to transform on the inside out.

Exactly what you just said. When your consciousness and belief systems and energy is in the right place, then you will be guided. Your legs will start moving in the right direction. Your profile on a dating app algorithmically will change. People will feel your energy.

People will find. your profile at the right time and feel called to match with you. All of that comes from your vibration. I talk about products on a shelf, right? So one of the things that we talk about in our company is that the energy of the founders, so Mary Ruth and I, our consciousness, down to the executives, down to the directors, to the managers, and to the associates, all of us, our energy needs to be of such a high vibration,

of an unlimited mindset, in order for energy to flow from the creator, through us to the product. And then people feel that product in the shelf, and they don't know why they like it. They just say it's good branding, right? But they feel something in the bottle. And then that's what they should feel when they consume it,

when they take it, and then the energy shifts. And here's the thing, in your company, if you have one person who's toxic, or you have one person who has a limited mindset, they are clogging the pipes of energy flowing down to the product level. So one of the things that I do, I have very little business experience,

but from the spiritual, side, I'm always checking in with the employees. Where's their mindset at? I once went to my head of sales and I said, hey, in my walk this morning, so every morning I walk and I talk out loud to the universe in the form of prayer. Prayer is just a technology to expand your vessel. People think prayer is something you do to bribe God to make you more comfortable, but there's no bribing God. God is a perfect force. Prayer is a technology to transform our vessel to increase the frequency to allow more energy in. So every morning I'll talk out loud to the universe. And what's the best way to pray for miracles or abundance in our life? Any way that makes you comfortable. The way I do it is I walk

and I talk out loud in the morning before everyone's awake. Some people like to be still. Some people like to do it in their head. I like to talk out loud. Something very powerful about it. In the first five minutes of prayer, all these negative forces will attack you to try to distract you not to do it. And you'll think it's not working. You'll want to get to your phone and you'll want to quit. always say you've got to go past the first five minutes, and then you break through kind of a miracle zone. And then when you talk out loud to the universe, your words become a vessel for energy to come in. And so ideas, my best ideas, best product ideas, have come on these walks, and I will talk out loud and these ideas will come. And I had an idea and a vision for a revenue

number from my head of sales. I went to him, this guy's got 40 years experience. I said, hey, I think we can get whatever it was, 100 products into Whole Foods. This was right when we first got into Whole Foods. 100 scuse? Under scoes. Holy cow. How many... We had 100.

Oh, wow. I said, I think we can get all 100. Today we have about 300, but I said we can get all 100 into Whole Foods. And he looked at me and said, he started laughing. He's like, you know, 40 years' experience. I said, we need to aim for two this year to get into Whole Foods. And that's how it works. And we can get to four next year or whatever.

And I said... That's a limiting belief, though. Based on statistics and history, which is what most people use to form their belief systems. Most people aren't going to Mars also based on history. Exactly. The people who are changing. changing this world are people who are not looking at history as a way to force their belief systems. They're looking at something bigger, more divine, which is endless. And they're drawing these belief

systems from a higher place. So I said, look, you have the experience I don't. But as a founder, in the last eight years, we've been doing this together. As a founder, I do get ideas. And thankfully, you know, we do control this company. So I want you to really be open to this idea. And we had this back and forth. So no, it's impossible. I said, I said to him, I said, listen, I want you just to be open to it. He's like, okay, we'll be open to it. Something happened on a call at Whole Foods, and they said, like, one of their brands wasn't doing well, manufacturing started to, like, malfunction, and like a whole shelf became open. Lo and behold, that year, I think we got 75 products. Wow. Never happened before in the history of Whole Foods. We shot up to be, like, one of the number

one brands. And I think today we're at almost like 120 or 130, like somewhere up there. And this all happened in one year. And every year I go back to the team. And I say, guys, and this happens in every department. Remember what we thought could happen. Remember what we saw visually. And if we saw it and we feel it, it means it exists. And we have to be open to it. At the very minimum, I need you to be open to it. Yeah. I love the question I like when I present this to someone is, in a world of possibilities, if this was possible, what would need to happen. Beautiful. In a world possibilities, but it was possible for us to get 100 skews in Whole Foods, what would need to happen. You just opened up their mind to bypass their old limited belief system. That's a great way of

frame you. I love that. I love that. Wow. So you got 75 skews in in one year when you had like a couple before then or something, right? Yep. Yep. And you also said that something you said earlier, you said you were made a million dollars at 15. Is that right? Yeah. But then you were kind of broke for 15 years. So I made all this money in the stock market early on because I had a lot of desire, a lot of energy, I just didn't know where to put it. And so I started to trade and it started to do really well. But that's when my life started to get out of control as a teenager. And I became a gambler. I started to, really?

Oh, yeah. I started playing poker eight hours a day. Oh, man. I did that back in 10 years, too. In college, just like poker until 4 a.m. Until 4 a year. Sometimes I'd go into a casino on like a Sunday and come out on a Tuesday. Oh, man.

And you went in see daylight. I was like playing like $15 hands with my college buddies, not casino life, but yeah. With that, I mean, it's never enough. So casino life was the next thing, right? And so I was doing that and I realized why am I like, I just kept feeling more and more drink, right? You got the highs and then you feel low. And once I started to learn Kabbala, I started to realize that the highs and the lows were I was drawing energy. But I didn't create the vessel to hold this energy.

Gambling, drugs, alcohol, sex, all of these. things draw energy. You're drawing God. You're drawing the universal force of creation. The reason why it ends up causing chaos is there's no vessel to hold this energy. So you short circuit. And what does a short circuit look like? There's a flash of light and then there's darkness. But the flash is very bright. That flash is very addictive. So most people, they draw energy, but there's no vessel to hold it, which we can explain what that means to create a vessel. There's no vessel to hold it.

They feel this flash, and then there's darkness, there's emptiness, there's addiction. Because they may not know spiritual laws, they'll go right back to more flashes to feed the addiction. So it sounds like there's almost a three-step process, is what I'm seeing. Number one, learn to draw the energy you want

to you. Number two, create the vessel within you so that you can hold it. And I'm assuming number three is where to bring that energy, how to be of service with that energy, and then just continue to draw, have a container big enough to hold it and then pour it out into others. Is that a, that's a beautiful way of putting it. So how would we first draw energy to us of the things we want to manifest more? The way we draw energy to us is first to be clear about your belief system of what you deserve to receive and what you're meant to receive. How do you get clear on what you deserve and are meant to receive? Whatever your desires are, it means you are meant to receive them at some point. Don't question that.

So if you actually have to write down all your desires, these desires, the creator gave you these desires. you go out and manifest them. What's the difference between a desire and a temptation? Because you can be like, oh, what a... I don't know. Just like crazy drugs. And I don't know.

Just like stuff that's not a spiritual energy. But what if it's the desire? I feel like it's a desire. I'm supposed to go drink all night and gamble all night and just whatever. Correct. So this is why I tell you, but I say all of these things that are given to us,

drinking, gambling, drugs, sex. These are all, for example, I say if you go to Costco, Costco has samples, and you eat a sample, and you like the sample, but if you like the sample, you need to go buy the full product. Nobody goes to Costco all day long and they just eat samples. You don't just sit by the sample station all day long to fill your belly with the samples that they give you. Well, if you're poor, you've done that when I was broke. So people who just eat samples all that.

So when a person does a drug, what do they feel like? They feel like God. Feel this euphoria. This is a sample to eventually inspire you to buy the full product. The full product is to realize you can feel that if you unlock the power of your soul. Without the drug. Without the drug. Most people think the drug is the power to unlock more.

And so they need to keep doing the plant medicine or the drugs that create the awakening, the awareness, to then feel, heal, see, do. things differently as opposed to creating from within right because they because no one's told them that they have the power inside of them that is nuclear you have this power inside of you that is millions of times greater than any drug you're taking but we've been told that we need to keep taking the drug to feel that way but anyone that I've talked to who's done the plan medicines they're like no nothing is greater than this this is the this unlocks more than anything I

could ever do on my own and it's true it has unlocked more than they ever experienced. So I don't ever tell people don't do this plant, don't do this drug. When people tell me, I love sex, I'm having sex with everybody. Is there a problem with that? I said, that's fine. You can have sex with everybody you want. You can have all the drugs you want. I have, but I do want you to know that you have something greater inside of you that will give you even more pleasure and more euphoria. If you're open to it, we can talk. And also, if you're doing the drugs of the alcohol or the sex or the addiction, things that create this energy feeling, what does that do to your vessel?

See, that's the thing. You actually begin to shrink the vessel. How do we know? Because every time you take the drug, it's never as potent the next time. You need more. You need more frequently. You need it more frequently. So you actually begin to shrink your capacity until you experience death.

And then there's some kind of death or painful scenario that breaks your vessel open again, and then you start that process over. The only way to really expand your vessel spiritually is a concept, as a spiritual law, that is certainty beyond logic. You have to be put in a dark situation and a difficult situation where you do not see any logical way of getting out of it

and then choose to have certainty that you can. Even if you have to fake that certainty, but you have certainty beyond your logical mind, this breaks open the vessel and allows the next level of your soul to come in to hold this energy. Yeah, and what you said about, you've said this about certainty. Certainty is the way to guarantee a positive outcome. As long as you have complete certainty beyond logic,

that everything is good and will be good, you are guaranteed to have the outcome be good. Thank you for tuning in. Continue strengthening your mind by listening to our other episodes.